Podcast appearances and mentions of sinclair sexsmith

Send us a textSeason 5, Ep 555: Writing the Queer Experience: Mx Sinclair Sexsmith on Kink Storytelling, Erotica, and D/s Relationships.Meet the author!SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer butch writer focusing on sexualities, genders, kink, and relationships. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the editor of 5 editions of Best Lesbian Erotica. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net. Books: Best Lesbian Erotica (affiliate links, podcast may receive commissions on sales through this link. Thank you!) https://amzn.to/3PurEo0"Your Year in Kink" Workbook https://amzn.to/3WdrOUH"The Harder She Comes: Butch Femme Erotica" https://amzn.to/424GWYbLinks: https://theoreads.com/https://dsplayground.com/http://writingspicy.com/Quotes from Sinclair Sexsmith: "I can't stop writing. Like, I need to write to understand myself and understand the world.""I think writer's block is a myth.""I love the inner world stuff and I think writing is one of the best places to express that.""I want to encourage more queers and trans folks, and like kinky folks, to write down their stories."In this episode, Ruan and Sinclair discuss their shared passion for writing, the challenges of titling works, and the complexities of self-publishing in the erotica genre. They explore the nuances of writing about sex and intimacy, the importance of queer representation in literature, and the creative process behind crafting compelling narratives.Sinclair shares their thoughts on the intersection of writing and sex work, the drive to create authentic queer stories and queer fiction, the writing process, publishing, and the transformative power of literature. They also discuss the upcoming platform Theo Reads, which promises to be a haven for erotica and romance writers and readers alike. Timeline:02:41 Do you like writing, teaching or creating08:14 I feel pretty strongly that writing about sex is non sex work10:09 There's still a lack of representation of queer sex in mainstream erotica16:38 How are you with titles? 18:53 Pretty much everything I write has D/s28:48 What are other are your favorite kinks to write 29:57 So when you're writing, do you start with your idea or do you40:22 What is too personal to share, what is too vulnerable to share43:39 Like separating the writing and publishing process is important49:12 reading out loud is probably his number one editing tool53:48 all about like your courses56:54 This workbook is about reflecting on someone's kink life01:01:42 What are you working on right now that you can share01:02:59 When my dad died I was like, why am I not writing more01:07:24 lgtbq and writing Coming out to your family can be tricky and painfulheadliner appSupport the showSubscribe for exclusive episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1599808/subscribeSign up for Ruan's newsletters: https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillowhttps://linktr.ee/RuanWillowI Dare You book https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/idareyouthesaturdaysexchallenge

We've reached the end of our Making Magic journey, but the Magic Wand is still going strong and shows no signs of stopping! In this episode, we cover creative ways people have used their Wands, chat with Vibratex about their stewardship of this industry stalwart, and offer some tips for newbies picking up a Magic Wand for the first time.Guests this episode:BDSM educator, former Kink University director, & Two Knotty Boys co-founder Danarama (he/him)Education director for Good Vibrations & Babeland Andy Duran (he/him)Spectrum Boutique CEO/founder, author, & adult content creator Zoë Ligon (she/her)Vibratex owner Shay Martin (she/her)Vibratex general manager Dan Martin (he/him)Writer, sex educator, & retired adult filmmaker Tristan Taormino (she/her)Sex toy reviewer & blogger Epiphora (she/her)Come As You Are worker-owner Jack Lamon (he/him)Illustrator & tattoo artist Addison Finch (he/him)Sexologist, sex educator, & Curvy Girl Sex author Elle Chase (she/her)Sex educator, porn performer/creator, & Dildorks cohost Billy Lore (he/him)Writer, kink educator, & erotica editor Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them)Blogger & sex/dating coach Lorrae Bradbury (she/her)Sex educator & Sex Ed with DB host/creator Danielle Bezalel (she/her)Writer, speaker, & mental health advocate JoEllen Notte (she/her)Crash Pad Series director Ava LaPrima (she/her)Author, speaker, & ageless sexuality advocate Joan Price (she/her)Dominatrix & Kneeling Room founder Lady Pim (she/her)Blogger & pleasure educator Carly S (she/they)Good Vibrations staff sexologist & Antique Vibrator Museum curator Dr. Carol Queen (she/they)Vibratex CEO Ken Herskovitz (he/him)Author, sex therapist, & psychology

Many kinksters, fetishists, pro dommes and kinky porn creators love the Magic Wand, and in this episode we aim to figure out why. Kink experts explain how they pair the Wand with orgasm control, bondage, humiliation play, and more, giving tips on safety and technique for anyone interested in expanding their horizons.Guests this episode:Dominatrix & Kneeling Room founder Lady Pim (she/her)Sex educator, porn performer/creator, & Dildorks cohost Billy Lore (he/him)BDSM educator, former Kink University director, & Two Knotty Boys co-founder Danarama (he/him)Crash Pad Series director Ava LaPrima (she/her)Writer, kink educator, & erotica editor Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them)Writer, educatrix, pornographer & podcaster Tina Horn (she/her)Making Magic is hosted and created by Kate Sloan, edited and co-produced by Jamie Pityinger, and made possible by the generous support of Vibratex. Our podcast art is by Addison Finch.For more information about Magic Wand, please visit TrueMagicWand.com or join Magic Wand on Instagram at @truemagicwand! #TrueMagicWand

Yoni - Episode 45 of the All The Filthy Details Podcast Join us here for more exclusive quality content. www.patreon.com/Literallylovesick Includes 'Shhh... Extra Filth' Podcast, several erotic audiobooks and more. It features our special star recommendation, winning author Thomas Carver. https://www.amazon.com/stores/Thomas-Carver/author/B00QEG25TS Free Audiobooks Here - Enchantress Gift Edition cutt.ly/0wRt7BaR Literally Lovesick Mixtape - https://on.soundcloud.com/FbSb25bWCTSotnEL9 Hot Erotica to check out now... The Witch of Rosemary Lane by Elena Nix https://a.co/d/6xk6xVd The Stage Manager by Christian Pan https://a.co/d/632RhpF Filth the Erotic Book Review Features The Consultant: Neighborhood Wives by Anton J Pierce https://a.co/d/381Xx9Z Underground Deceit by Alexandra Dominique https://amzn.eu/d/h52nGw5 Wife Swapping with the MILF Next Door by Lazlo Lust https://amzn.eu/d/2MdVVnH Pulse Sessions; Christian Pan interviews erotica writer Sinclair Sexsmith. http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair/ Christian pan, https://linktr.ee/christianpan The Belching Cow Podcast linktr.ee/thebelchingcow Featured stories arcs you can find on Patreon.. Fiizz by Tiny Sparks. Rising Tiger, Crouching Monkey by Melanie Russell

Created and hosted by Kate Sloan, Making Magic: How Magic Wand Became the World's Most Famous Vibrator is a limited series featuring interviews with over 30 sex experts, sex educators, shop owners as well as fans of the brand, including Dr. Carol Queen, Zoe Ligon, Hallie Lieberman, Dr. Laurie Mintz, Lynn Comella, Danielle Bezalel, Lorrae Bradbury, Sinclair Sexsmith, Danarama, Stoya, and more. The series tells the unique story of a brand that has over the course of 55+ years, quietly challenged the stigma and shame that society has assigned to female pleasure and connects listeners to the stories of people whose lives have been changed by Magic Wand. Throughout the series, Sloan explores numerous themes with guests including why Magic Wand is so beloved, Betty Dodson's impact on the popularity of the wand, the sex-positive feminist movement, Magic Wand inspired art, the wand's importance to the LGBTQ+ community, and what's next for wand vibrators, among other topics. Tune in May 30th for Episode 1 of Making Magic.

It's super important to discuss kink and BDSM in the context of events, safety, and boundaries. Are you interested in exploring this exciting world, but don't know where to start?On today's episode, we're going to be talking about red flags in the context of kink and BDSM. My list?

If you're a regular listener, you know that I've been absent for quite a while—with good reason! Today's episode gives you a sneak peek in where I've been, I discuss "The Woman King", and much, much more.Not set photos, but a trailer for Sycorax: https://youtu.be/dmOZqCGq1wMAnd a link with photos AND a bunch more information: https://buehnenbern.ch/spielplan/programm/sycorax/***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Guest: Sinclair Sexsmith, (author, editor, kink educator)   Sinclair Sexsmith joins Fat Chicks on Top to chat about erotic writing, nonbinary identity, ethics, and teaching. They discuss the ethics and guidelines they use when engaging in erotic writing. We have an extended conversation about the "Daddy" role in kink, what that means for erotic writing, and what goes into exploring darker, less obviously consensual relationships. If you are looking for a deep dive into what it takes to be a great erotic writer, this episode is for you!   Socials and Websites Sugarbutch.net AutoStraddle DS Playground Spicy Writing Seminar @MrSexsmith on Twitter and IG ----more----   OMG! How High show  10/15  8 PM at Gold Vibe Kombuchary, Grass Valley, CA Head liner: Ngaio Bealum Featuring: Becky Lynn, Michael Calvin, Jr., Javon Whitlock Tix through Eventbrite

Something I haven't talked about before on this podcast is how I've got quite a long-term, on again/off again relationship with phones. Some people would certainly disagree with this, but I actually really enjoyed my time in phone-centered jobs. I've worked everywhere from a sex line (with a deskmate getting busy under her desk) to working at a bank and experiencing blatant racism. Join me on this one-sided party line and hear about my history on the ol' chat box.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Mollena and opera aren't exactly BFFs—we're more like casual acquaintences at this point. But when you get an opportunity to actually take part in an opera, you don't exactly say no!Join me in a conversation with my lovely spouse and owner about art (and the fear of putting something out there), theater vs. opera, and perfect pitch (and why I don't really understand it). ***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Whoops. Here I am. ***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Very little gets under my skin like someone assuming they know everything about you—even though they are, in fact, not YOU. How some people think they can get in your head and tell you "no no, your feelings are wrong" will never fail to amaze me. Today I'm going to talk about social anxiety. Specifically, MY social anxiety, which may not look like the social anxiety you expect to see, but I can assure you it's real. I'll get into how I cope, why I think it's important to talk about, and why I don't my social anxiety doesn't look like a shy person in a corner.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How long should you be in control of your art? Should you have "final cut" on each performance, or is the performance itself a separate piece of art?Today, I discuss that and more with my lovely Spousemeister, Georg Friedrich Haas, composer extraordinaire. This came up as we were swept off to Germany—a trip which was not an instant "yes" from my dear husband (which we will get into).***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In a quick mini-sode (a concept I lovingly ripped off from a YouTuber I watch) I discuss some tumultuous times my husband and I are enduring together, the impact of neurodivergence on a relationship, and how they might actually be your superpower.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible.***If you've always wanted to start a podcast and haven't quite gotten yourself to do it yet (and you need some help), I've got you covered. Sign up for podcast production services through my excellent, handsome, intelligent producer (who wrote this sentence) and I'll cover the costs for one of your first three episodes!Contact him by clicking here: http://calendly.com/codycrabb. Or visit his website: codycrabb.com. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week has felt particularly dark for some of us. How can it not? But through that, I want to give you a reminder that you (yes. YOU.) reading this? You are important. Not just important, you are significant. I really, truly mean that—and I hope if you don't believe that, you will someday.Also, find out about my strange week, which includes a lost passport, as well a previous story about a stranger who had seen my TikToks.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible.***If you've always wanted to start a podcast and haven't quite gotten yourself to do it yet (and you need some help), I've got you covered. Sign up for podcast production services through my excellent, handsome, intelligent producer (who wrote this sentence) and I'll cover the costs for one of your first three episodes!Contact him by clicking here: http://calendly.com/codycrabb. Or visit his website: codycrabb.com. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Saying I was a child star already gets me some looks and side-eyed glances. In all reality, my experiences weren't all bad—I had some absolutely insane opportunities, like meeting the likes of Diana Ross and Patti LaBelle. However, as you may expect, there's a bit of a tragic, darker side (and it may not be the one you're expecting. As a little bonus, here's my stellar, groundbreaking performance in an Orbit gum commercial circa 1977

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn't always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including: The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control Building healthy dynamics “Subs hold all the power” Balancing fantasy & reality “Giving up” safe words D/s as an “intimacy fetish” Deconstructing power Guest Bio – Sinclair Sexsmith SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is an award-winning queer trans masc writer focusing on queer culture, trauma, dominance, submission, spiritual kink, and transgender and nonbinary issues. Sinclair's creative nonfiction and queer erotica writings are widely published online and in more than thirty anthologies, including eight volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica series. They are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4, Volume 5, Volume 6, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics, and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2015 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair writes at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the top sex blogs. They have been teaching about erotic writing, the power of queer narratives, somatic arts, and many sex and kink techniques since 2002. Sinclair is an international leather titleholder, a pretty good cook, and an avid creative journaler. Follow all their work at patreon.com/mrsexsmith. 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We have been trying to play Sinclair Sexsmith's Protocol Game for years now, and have just started to really make it work for us lately. In this episode, we talk about some of the experiments that went well, others that went... less well, and what it all means to us! If you are interested in learning more about this awesome activity, you can read all about it here and you can buy your own set of Protocol Game cards here. (No incentive for us to link to this stuff, other than wanting to see lots of people have as much fun with it as we have been!)

It's that time of year again! The latest instalment of The Best Lesbian Erotica series is here, and Kris and Tara are thrilled to be joined by the collection's editor, Sinclair Sexsmith. Together, they discuss why writing queer erotica is a radical and political act, the healing potential of reading erotica that reflects your identity and desires, and the case for expanding the definition of the word "lesbian." Buckle up, friends. It's an important and enlightening conversation. If you enjoy this episode, please consider buying Kris & Tara a Ko-fi! Works Discussed The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V. E. Schwab Cunt: A Declaration of Independence by Inga Muscio Steven Universe (Cartoon Network) The Raven Cycle by Maggie Stiefvater Hurts so Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose by Leigh Cowart Transcript coming soon! About Sinclair Sexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) is “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” (AfterEllen), who “is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places” (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net. Listen to the episode

Book Editor Sinclair Sexsmith discusses their new release, Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 6. As a long time writer and editor of erotica, Sinclair shared their knowledge of kink, BDSM and all things erotic. See some of the links below for informational resources highlighted in the episode. Get your copy at: https://sugarbutch.net/ Resources for someone new to kink: https://sugarbutch.net/2021/05/kink-resources/ Writing Spicy Workshop: https://sugarbutch.net/writing-spicy/ Additional Informational links: http://sugarbutch.net/ble6/ Amazon List (try these in your home): https://www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-6864e5fc Pump Pals: https://topgripgear.com/?rfsn=6172592.f349c6Support the show

This is part 2 of our two-parter. Be sure to listen to episode 3 first! We'll be chatting about dark sides, deities, and deep humiliation!Relevant Linkage: Rami's Sit & Groove Workout!https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLR1H7pQuK71gfQiyUzxkEwWxCpAPLOantMonsters Of Talk Podcast Episode Feat Me! https://soundcloud.com/margaretcho/motmowiCurtsey to Stacey R, Andrea Z. and Samantha S, thank you for your past support and making this possible!And BIG UPS to my current PatriPosse! Marty W., Meg B., JP, Lisa C., D. Potts, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, Becky B., Alan G., Sara L., Esther, Mac,The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M., Andrea, DK Green, Stephanie S., Michelle D., Michael O. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This is part one of a 2-parter feat my amazing homie Rami Margron! We go on about hyenas, breathing, theater, kinky stuff and weird spirituality.Come thru on Patreon and become my Sub(scriber) and my DOM (Donator Of Money) and earn all the clout! https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaasCurtsey to Stacey R, Andrea Z. and Samantha S, thank you for your past support and making this possible!And BIG UPS to my current PatriPosse! Marty W., Meg B., JP, Lisa C., D. Potts, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, Becky B., Alan G., Sara L., Esther, Mac,The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M., Andrea, DK Green, Stephanie S., Michelle D., Michael O.Relevant Linkage: Urban Tantra from Barbara Carellas https://barbaracarrellas.com/Rami! https://www.ramimargron.com/about.html Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Read more on my website: http://mollena.com.If you wish to support this work, please join us on Patreon!Shout out to my PatriPeeps!Stacey R, Mac, Andrea Z. and Samantha S, thank you for your past support and making this possible!And BIG UPS to my current PatriPosse! Meg B., JP, Lisa C., D. Potts, aeric meredith-goujon,Sinclair Sexsmith, Becky B., Alan G., Sara L., Esther, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M., Andrea, DK Green, Stephanie S., Michelle D., Michael O. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

I am absolutely THRILLED to bring you the first of what I hope to be many opportunities for me to share with you! Today I am talking about one of the foundational aspects of my BDSM / Kink life: and that is The Prime Directive. Not that one, Trekkies. Another one that fundamentally altered the way I live my life. Not just my kink life either—ALL dat shite.Read more about it here: http://www.mollena.com/2013/06/prime-directive/If you wish to support this work, please join us on Patreon!Shout out to my PatriPeeps!Stacey R, Mac, Andrea Z. and Samantha S, thank you for your past support and making this possible!And BIG UPS to my current PatriPosse! Meg B., JP, Lisa C., D. Potts, aeric meredith-goujon,Sinclair Sexsmith, Becky B., Alan G., Sara L., Esther, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M., Andrea, DK Green, Stephanie S., Michelle D., Michael O. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ping! Did you type ‘I’m cummming’ with 17 0’s and 1’s? Queer butch writer Sinclair Sexsmith tells a nostalgic tale of growing up horny and isolated in Alaska - until they discover sex and kink (and one-handed typing) on the internet. A telnet chatroom and a long distance flight lead Sinclair to the IRL sexual experience they’ve been craving for so long … but is this handsome stranger who they appear to be? #DialUp #Nerdgasm #Mixtape   SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer butch writer focusing on sexualities, genders, kink, and relationships. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the current editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net.    And Sinclair’s D/s Playground is four units of sexy experiments to take your dominance or submission to the next level. D/s Playground doesn’t teach you how to be a dominant or a submissive, but rather offers tools, resources, texts, and experiments to explore your own relationship to dominance, submission, and authority exchange, so you can articulate your interests and explore your edges. After these explorations you will be better able to communicate what you’re looking for and desire — which greatly increases your chances of having it! https://dsplayground.com/come-play/ Hosted by Sexual Folklorist Dixie De La Tour Opening Music: 8 Miles Wide by Storm Large Song: ‘Right here Waiting’ (Richard Marx)   Episode Links Our next Bawdy Livestream will be on Saturday, April 17th at 7 PM PST. if you missed our last livestream with Margaret Cho, you missed an incredible show! 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We're back with more goodness from the folks involved with Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 5. In this episode, you'll hear highlights from our conversation with some of the contributors and editor of the anthology. We cover whether kink is the norm in queer and lesbian relationships, why lesbian erotica matters, and whether erotica equals sex or something greater. - Rain Degrey, a writer, advice columnist, podcaster and educator whose work has taken her from Kink.com to Harvard University. - Mary P. Burns whose first novel, Forging a Desire Line, was published by Bold Strokes Books in May 2020. - June Amelia Rose, an anarchist leatherdyke fiction writer and submissive transsexual femme living in Brooklyn. - Sinclair Sexsmith, “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” according to AfterEllen.com. Follow Feminist Erotica on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and email us with questions/comments/concerns at feministerotica@rebelliousmagazine.com. This episode is sponsored by Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast.

Hear excerpts from three stories found in the Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5, as well as a bonus excerpt from the anthology editor, Sinclair Sexsmith. You'll hear from: - Rain Degrey, a writer, advice columnist, podcaster and educator whose work has taken her from Kink.com to Harvard University. - Mary P. Burns whose first novel, Forging a Desire Line, was published by Bold Strokes Books in May 2020. - June Amelia Rose, an anarchist leatherdyke fiction writer and submissive transsexual femme living in Brooklyn. - Sinclair Sexsmith, “the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women” according to AfterEllen.com. Stay tuned next Friday for highlights from our interview with these writers.

Santa left a special gift for you under the Christmas tree - a sexy snippet read by Sinclair Sexsmith! Listen as Sinclair reads from their story, 'Whatever I Want, Whatever I Say.' This story is also printed in Best Lesbian Erotica Vol. 5, out now! Be sure to check out Sinclair's website, sugarbutch.net. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays from Feminist Erotica! Follow Feminist Erotica on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and email us with questions/comments/concerns at feministerotica@rebelliousmagazine.com. This episode is sponsored by Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

You asked for them, and today our episode features Sinclair Sexsmith! Jera, Princess and Karen hosted the butch erotica writer on a lively Facebook Live where they talked about writing to be a better dom and how Sinclair's writing has transformed their idea of consent. Plus, we announce our next pick for Lit Lap, our bi-monthly book club! Be sure to stay tuned: there's much more of Sinclair coming (heh) in later episodes. For even more Sinclair, check out their website sugarbutch.net and follow them on Twitter at @MrSexsmith (help them hit 10k followers!). Follow Feminist Erotica on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, and email us at feministerotica@rebelliousmagazine.com.

If it wasn't already obvious, we love good erotica. Like, we really love it. So, when Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) of the blog Sugarbutch Chronicles reached out for us to read and review Cleis Press' upcoming collection — that they are editor of — we couldn't say “no.” Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 was amazing. The anthology “explores and expands on the very definition of eroticism with a diverse mix of queer, non-binary, trans, and polyamorous #ownvoices that will have you quivering with delight and wondering what more you can explore — no matter how you identify.” Today, we're talking to Sinclair about the erotica collection, which on December 8th, 2020. We also delve into the inspiration behind their personal website (Sugarbutch Chronicles) and the world of kink and BDSM. Follow Sinclair: www.sugarbutch.net @MrSexsmith

This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith, writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5! We touch on consent in erotica, the evolving definition of “lesbian,” disability representation in erotic media, and more. Alaska | Editing an Anthology | Fantasy vs. Reality | What is “Lesbian”? | Trans Representation | Mind Expansion | Pushback | Erotic But Not Sexual | Marketing & Messaging | Old Erotica Books | Underrepresented People | Disability & Chronic Pain | Generating Ideas

tl;dr STIs and how to protect ourselves, men who want masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies, plus Kobe Bryant's death.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast tomorrow.   To kick off this week's episode, we are exploring some of the complicated feelings around Kobe Bryant's death, especially for survivors. We're also unpacking a new paper released by the CDC about STIs being on the rise. Check out the article at dawnserra.com/ep291   Sinclair Sexsmith recently pulled together a bunch of people, blogs, and helpful tidbits on chronic pain and sex. Grab the link at dawnserra.com/ep291.   Then it's on to your questions.   First up, Jose wants to know if it's healthy to have a sexual relationship with himself when he's in a relationship with someone else. And is it weird to want a masturbation buddy? Especially when he's a straight man and wants to masturbate with other men?   Next, Busy Cat is ready to leave the big city and get a job in a smaller city, but her boyfriend isn't ready to make the move. How can she convince him that this move will be good for them?   Finally, Ashamed is in recovery for an eating disorder and has complicated feelings about her fat body. She doesn't have much experience with masturbation or sex, and she wants to start but she doesn't know how.   What if you can't reach your genitals? What if you don't know where to start? We go all the places and focus in on pleasure - because that's what it's all about, right?   A huge thanks to the Vocal Few for their song in the opening and closing of the episode and to Hemlock for their awesome song "Firelight" which was used in this episode between questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous) Episode Transcript Check it out at dawnserra.com/ep291

  Today's episode features author, Angora Shade with her story Refined Tastes. In this story a lonely female vampire wanders the earth, hundreds of years after humans become extinct (or so she thinks) she stumbles upon a small group of the last surviving humans, and after watching over them, she falls in love, and lust with one of the women. This is a dark erotic special for Halloween, so please read the content warning. Strictly 18+     CW: Death of a pregnant woman and her baby.         About the author:     Angora Shade is an American author living in what she lovingly refers to as "Sheep Shit Nowhere" Europe. In an attempt to add some spice to her small town life, Ms Shade began writing explicit erotica as a form of entertainment. Exploring the boundaries of acceptable sexual literature, she often seeks to create stories that not only entertain others but also expose and push against the negative stigma surrounding sex in modern day society. She believes that sex, in literature, art, personal thought, and physical nature, should be celebrated and expressed freely and as easily as any God given freedom. Her favorite themes in writing include revenge, self discovery, alternative materials for love play/bdsm, as well as anything that produces a good tingle, sizzle, or laugh. When not writing, Ms Shade enjoys red wine, travel, dancing, classic cartoons, baking, and creating fine art."   A note from Angora:   I was recently part of Oleander Plume's and the Sister's In Smut second edition of "Chemical Sex" which is a chocolate aphrodisiac anthology called "Chemical Sex: Just One More" The idea behind the anthology is this wonderful chocolate company whose chocolates help people crawl out of their sexual shell and truly embrace their sexuality. All the stories are self positive, range all over the straight and LGBTQ+ spectrum, and vary in themes from contemporary to mythic. My story contribution called "Beast" blends contemporary and paranormal to bring the reader out of the typical erotic reading experience, and into something that bends rules and norms. It's also really fun. I don't want to give too much away, but basically, a young woman encounters someone she doesn't expect to meet while camping... Readers can find out more about this anthology, my story, and about all the wonderful contributors on my blog angorashade.blogspot.com, from the Sisters In Smut (sistersinsmut.com) , or can go grab the book right from Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/dp/1733842616) It's even on Kindle Unlimited.   I'm also excited to announce I'm part of Best Women's Erotica Volume 5 from Cleis Press and edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, releasing December 10th. You can find it for preorder on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Best-Womens-Erotica-Year/dp/1627782907). The theme of this year's collection is "outrageous." My contribution is a story called "Vintage Treasures" about a straight married couple whose sex life has become a bit more routine than they'd like to admit. After purchasing a new home and organizing the mishmash left in the cellar by the previous owners, the couple finds varies treasures, including a box of unexpected vintages goodies...    And finally, I'm in a second publication from Cleis: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4 edited by Sinclair Sexsmith, and also releasing December 10th. You can find it for preorder on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Best-Lesbian-Erotica-Year/dp/1627782958  My contribution is a story called "Love Remembers" about an elderly woman with late-stage cancer who attends her first Gay Pride parade with her daughter and grandchildren. The reader learns about the woman's past through a series of flashbacks that journey through the themes of race and sexuality in the deep south of the 1970s. It's a story that's really important to me, which I cried while writing, and still cry anytime I read it. All happy tears of course!   I'm not sure what's next from Angora Shade. Curious folk can stop by my blog, twitter, or facebook. I love hearing about the book and publishing worlds, love talking shop, and wouldn't mind hearing what erotica (and non-erotica) readers are looking for.   Social media links: Twitter: www.twitter.com/AngoraShade Facebook author page: https://www.facebook.com/AngoraShadeAuthor/ Facebook page: www.facebook.com/AngoraShade Blog: angorashade.blogspot.com  

LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final week to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and learn more at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Sinclair Sexsmith and rife are here to talk 24/7 power exchange First up, you can hear me on two podcasts this week talking all about pleasure, bodies, and sex. I chatted with Chris Maxwell Rose of The Pleasure Mechanics all about pleasure, hunger, and the relationship between sex and food. I was also on Rebecca Scritchfield's podcast Body Kindness talking about sex as a social skill. Check them out! This conversation with Sinclair and rife is beautiful. They pull back the curtain on their relationship and let us take a peek at the ways they've grown into their dynamic of 24/7 Master/slave. We explore the ways that bringing conscious, deliberate negotiation to the ways we do relationship can create beautiful conditions for love, support and growth.  Sinclair shares how they want to show more vulnerability as a Dominant, allowing room for growth, mistakes, and not knowing - the antithesis of how so many people see Domination. rife talks about their ultimate goal of creating a trust so deep and so strong that they can surrender all their boundaries and the long, slow process of how they're working in that direction. They also share some of the things they're holding around the language  Master/slave and the legacy of those words within the white supremacy of the United States. I can't wait for you to hear this. Patreon supporters - head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to hear my bonus chat with Sinclair and rife all about using kink to experience embodiment and how kink can be a part of healing trauma. If you aren't a supporter, I'd love your financial support to help keep the show going. If you pledge $3 per month, you get access to exclusive weekly bonus content and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me field listener questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Sinclair Sexsmith and rife: Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them pronouns) is a writer, teacher, and performer studying sexualities, genders, relationships, and kink. Since 2006 they have produced the award-winning site Sugarbutch Chronicles at sugarbutch.net, detailing their personal adventures and in depth studies of how to be their best self. Their full-length collection of short stories, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica is a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award in the erotica category (and they have copies of here at Bawdy, including an extra bonus story, “The Houseboy’s Rebellion”, on the USB ebook version). In addition, they were just awarded the National Leather Association John Preston short story award for their piece, “Awakening: Mistress Elise Winter & morgan.” Sinclair leads college workshops around the country, and teach puberty and sex ed to 4th through 8th graders around the Bay Area. They live in Oakland with their boy. rife is the property of Sinclair Sexsmith, and a genderqueer leather boy from Texas. He is the illustrator and co-creator of The GENDER Book, a fun, colorful, community-based resource. When not serving Master, he serves many other folks in the community through his graphic and web design small business rowdyferretdesign.com. Stay in touch with them and learn more about their courses and writing at the following links: dsplayground.com thegenderbook.com kinkopoly.com sugarbutch.net twitter.com/mrsexsmith Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous) Podcast Transcript Can be found at sexgetsreal.com/ep269

Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My chat with Sinclair Sexsmith and rife got postposed, so this week's episode is just me and you. First up, I share about three new articles/resources that came across my feed this week. Head to sexgetsreal.com/ep266 for all of the links mentioned in the episode. Then, we dive into two important questions from listeners just like you. Peter is a cis man who is a virgin. He has been listening to older episodes of the show and was confused by a conversation I had with a Dirty Lola in response to a cis woman who was a virgin asking about boundaries. Peter feels he shouldn't have boundaries if he ever meets someone who is willing to have sex with him in order to actually, well, have sex. Should he have boundaries or not? I offer feedback all about the importance of boundaries not only for our own pleasure but as a way to build trust with potential partners and because consent requires us to openly communicate our needs so that others can choose for themselves based on as much information as possible. Then, Allison is thinking about becoming a sex educator and wants to know what programs I recommend. Gosh, do I have thoughts! Because I get this question all the time, I share my thoughts about how most programs won't really meet anyone's needs if they want to become a sex educator and what I do see as the future of this field and what I think it will take to be a part of where we're going rather than where we've been. Patreon supporters, this week you get exclusive access to my hour long and very intimate conversation with Isabel Abbott from Explore More Summit 2019. It's MAGICAL. If you don't yet support the show, even $1 means so much. If you support at $3 per month and above, you get access to weekly exclusive content (and there's a huge backlog at this point!). Support at $5 per month and above and help me field listener questions. Details and bonuses are at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. That's it for this week's episode. Have questions of your own you'd like featured on the show? Send me a note! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About Host Dawn Serra: What if everything you’ve been taught about relationships, about your body, about sex is wrong? My name is Dawn Serra and I dare to ask scary questions that might lead us all towards a deeper, more connected experience of our lives. In addition to being the host of the weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real, the creator of the online conference Explore More, I also work one-on-one with clients who are feeling stuck, confused, or disappointed with the ways they experience desire, love, and confidence. It’s not all work, though. In my spare time, you can find me adventuring with my husband, cuddling my cats as I read a YA novel, or obsessing over MasterChef Australia. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator Sinclair Sexsmith! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so much more. Power | Protocol | Check-Ins | Punishment | Submissive Playground | Consequences | Fears | Debriefing | Palette of Permission | Confidence | Receiving | Learning | Wheel of Consent

SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 is happening now. It ends May 2nd, so grab your all-access pass for free before it's too late. exploremoresummit.com. What is changing in the wake of the #MeToo movement? How do we talk about sex and power? Amy Jo Goddard is joining me this week to talk about BIG things. Amy Jo is a powerhouse of change, fierce and uncompromising in her commitment to sexual liberation and social change. I've been working with her on her Sex, Power, and Leadership Conference - which is a free online conference all about liberation, social change, pleasure, and the world in a post #MeToo movement. It. Is. So. Fucking. Good. So, this episode is us geeking out about sexual liberation, tolerating touch in relationships, the importance of pleasure activism if we want to experience real change, the Bill Cosby verdict, what transformative and patient-centered gynecology can look like, and holy shit - so much more. If you want to sign-up for the conference, it's all happening April 30th - May 7th. It features Jaclyn Friedman, Carol Queen, Betty Martin, Dr. Willie Parker, adrienne maree brown, Dr. Chris Donaghue from LoveLine, Andre Shakti, Tina Horn, Dalychia Saah from Afrosexology, and many more. This is actually orgasmic for me - these conversations are speaking my love language. I hope you're join us. Patreon supporters - If you support the show at the $3 level and above, you can listen to this week's bonus which is me chatting with Sinclair Sexsmith all about strap-on sex. SO MUCH STRAP-ON STUFF. You do not want to miss it. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Amy Jo Goddard: Hailing from Military Dad and Recovering-Catholic-Proudly-Sandra-Dee-Mom, Amy Jo Goddard had no other choice but to become a sex educator just to sail the shaky waters of human experience and help her family survive. Actually they don’t really take sex advice from her.   But thousands of others have—Amy Jo is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men, recently published in second edition. She earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education at New York University and has been teaching and speaking about feminism and sexuality for over two decades. She facilitates sexual empowerment programs for women, queer folks and couples, and works with companies to create workplace cultures that honor consent, equality, stellar communication and collaborative leadership. Join the conversation and sign-up for the Sex, Power, and Leadership Conference - it is free and online, happening April 30 - May 7, 2018. See you there. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

BULLY by Sinclair Sexsmith  Featured in The Sexy Librarian's Dirty 30 vol. 1 ~also check out~  D.L. King's Slave Girls  Try some great reading  Sweet and Rough by Sinclair Sexsmith Paperback & Kindle  Enjoy more Sexy Audio Stories with Rose Caraway- HERE Rose Caraway Phone (202) 810-5477 Web- thekissmequicks.com Email- thekissmequicks@gmail.com Twitter- @theKMQ @RoseCaraway @BigDaddyDayv @StupidFishPro -The KMQ gratefully thank the Following Musical Artists- Creo Fleslit Kai Engel KMQ Introduction Music by Vyvch 

The creator of "The Submissive Playground" talks about how to start a new protocol, how to use it for personal improvement, and also creating domestic protocols for power-exchange relationships.  Aside from being sexy, protocols can be a part of making you and your partner better in many ways. Sinclair talks about using a D/s relationship as motivation to exercise, to learn, to improve in various ways whether you are with someone or just by yourself. All of it is within the context of making your overall sex life hotter, with a nice bit of personal development on the side. What’s the best way to implement a new ritual or task into a D/s relationship? Sinclair Sexsmith breaks it down for you in this clip. The process involves a trial period, a check-in, and then more evaluation to make sure that the new protocol is nurturing the power exchange dynamic and also can be sustained. Sinclair Sexsmith explains several of the domestic protocols that can make everyday tasks a hot part of your dominant/submissive relationship. By combining sexual clothing, toys, or even actions with the chores around the house your domestic environment can become a foundational part of your D/s play. Hear more about a wide variety of kink and sexuality topics at www.KinkAcademy.com

One of two episodes about sex, our episode today is a reactionary one. Reactionary against the dogma that John and his guest, Leanna Ramsey, respectively grew up struggling against. What does it mean to be sex-positive? Our premise today is that a stance of curiosity is the only way to therapeutically address differing sexualities, and yet the field continually fails to approach the topic with such a stance. John speaks to sexuality and gender expert Sinclair Sexsmith about such a case. Season Two of Between Us is sponsored by MetaFi, a free download on iOS and Android. Contact: betweenuspodcast@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/betweenuspodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BetweenUsPod Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/betweenuspod/

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Sinclair Sexsmith (you might know them as Sugarbutch) is here this week and we are talking ALL about kink, BDSM, and power dynamics. We take a look at Sinclair's journey from submissive to Top to Dominant to Daddy and Master. What is it like to live in a 24/7 Master slave dynamic? How can people learn more? We also discuss using BDSM to heal trauma and depression - it's a fine line, but it can be a powerful practice. Plus, what is Submissive Playground? Sinclair shares the details. I am so excited to share this chat with you, so settle in and let's do this. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday "Slavecraft" by a grateful slave and Guy Baldwin "Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers about Master/Slave Relationships" by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera About Sinclair Sexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith is "the best-known butch erotica writer whose kinky, groundbreaking stories have turned on countless queer women" (AfterEllen), who "is in all the books, wins all the awards, speaks at all the panels and readings, knows all the stuff, and writes for all the places" (Autostraddle). ​Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for the Lambda Literary Award.Sinclair leads the 8-week online ecourse Submissive Playground (submissiveplayground.com) annually, where there is no wrong way to be submissive They identify as a white genderqueer butch dominant, a survivor and an introvert, and use the pronouns they, them, theirs, themself. Follow all their writings at > patreon.com/mrsexsmith. You can also follow Sinclair on Twitter @mrsexsmith, Facebook, Fetlife, and Instagram. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

A hot and sweaty cuckolding story taken from The Sexy Librarian's Dirty Thirty Vol.1 anthology titled, This Is What It's Like written by Kass Goldsworthy.Get the Sexy Librarian's Dirty 30 Audiobook!http://bitly.com/Dirty30Audiobook  Check out my Bawdy Story telling video where tell you my true sex story! Catch the interview I had with Sinclair Sexsmith here: http://sexylibrarian.libsyn.com/sinclair-sexsmith-inside-the-erotica-authors-studio   The Sexy Librarian's Dirty 30 Ebook is out and it's only 2.99 for a very limited time!   Get it here- http://bit.ly/SexyLibrarianDirty30 Contact Rose Phone- (202) 810-5477Web- thekissmequicks.comEmail- thekissmequicks@gmail.comFacecbook- https://www.facebook.com/rose.caraway.7Twitter- @RoseCaraway @theKMQ Get The Sexy Librarian's Dirty 30 Audiobook!http://bitly.com/Dirty30Audiobook

International Ms Bootblack 2011 kd diamond is an accomplished artist: and she’s also a card-carrying leather fetishist. In this episode, kd opens up her boot care kit and lets us peek inside. We learn how integral bootblacks are to the Leather Scene, and how taking care of leather clothes can represent service, worship, or simply hot kinky sex. Discussed: How To Always Smell The Glove; The Smokiest Batch of Huberd’s Grease; Commodity Fetishism; NYC’s Submit Play Party; How Is A Bootblack Like A Hairdresser or Bartender or Grillmaster or Massuese: Learning About The World With Your Mouth; Leather for Vegans; Always Tip Your Bootblack This episode also includes a sneak peak at Sinclair Sexsmith’s Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut! That entire interview is on our Soundcloud page!

This week, Dan & dawn talk to Sinclair Sexsmith about the Submissive Playground (http://www.submissiveplayground.com/)! Plus, dawn springs a question on Dan about who is responsible for the lack of communication in an M/s relationship. 

In the first episode, old friends Tina & Sinclair Sexsmith snuggle up in bed to talk about POWER: why it gets them hot, how to play with it, and how to be a good feminist while doing so. LISTEN: Sinclair Sexsmith is an educator, coach, and writer specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They produce the award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sinclair Sexsmith returns to the podcast. This time we talk about becoming poly, the new book “Say Please:Lesbian BDSM Erotica”, qualities of good erotica, gagging on sex toys and a whole bunch more. Plus I’ve decided to take a break […]