Podcast appearances and mentions of joellen notte

JoEllen woke up one day in 2011 and knew she needed to make some changes in her life. Not long after that she divorced her husband and sadly, her father passed away. She took about a year to collect herself while she figured out what was next... Coming out of her marriage, she didn't know what she wanted out of life and relationships but she definitely knew what she didn't want. So! She decided to start learning about sex because it was something she never really knew much about... She started researching and learning as much as she could and early in her research she discovered non-monogamy. Since then, JoEllen has been busy exploring her own style of non-monogamy, figuring out what works best for her, sharing her journey online, and generally being a badass who loves talking about all of the things most people are afraid to. JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken at www.redheadbedhead.com. She is also the author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having and In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family. Please check out and support her incredible work on Patreon! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

In this episode, we dive into the highlights of the 2024 Austin Film Festival with special guests Pete Barry and JoEllen Notte. Together, we unpack the standout films, share insider moments, and explore the festival's vibrant atmosphere that brings creatives together. Pete, a screenwriter and storyteller, and JoEllen, an author and cultural commentator, give unique perspectives on the festival's impact on the film and literary community. Whether you're a film enthusiast or a creative looking for inspiration, this episode captures the essence of Austin Film Festival 2024.Mentioned in this episode:Pete Barry - www.therealpetebarry.comJoEllen Notte - https://www.redheadbedhead.com/books/Austin Film Festival - https://austinfilmfestival.com/ Our theme music is “The Strip” by Mala, used under a Creative Commons Attribution license.

We've reached the end of our Making Magic journey, but the Magic Wand is still going strong and shows no signs of stopping! In this episode, we cover creative ways people have used their Wands, chat with Vibratex about their stewardship of this industry stalwart, and offer some tips for newbies picking up a Magic Wand for the first time.Guests this episode:BDSM educator, former Kink University director, & Two Knotty Boys co-founder Danarama (he/him)Education director for Good Vibrations & Babeland Andy Duran (he/him)Spectrum Boutique CEO/founder, author, & adult content creator Zoë Ligon (she/her)Vibratex owner Shay Martin (she/her)Vibratex general manager Dan Martin (he/him)Writer, sex educator, & retired adult filmmaker Tristan Taormino (she/her)Sex toy reviewer & blogger Epiphora (she/her)Come As You Are worker-owner Jack Lamon (he/him)Illustrator & tattoo artist Addison Finch (he/him)Sexologist, sex educator, & Curvy Girl Sex author Elle Chase (she/her)Sex educator, porn performer/creator, & Dildorks cohost Billy Lore (he/him)Writer, kink educator, & erotica editor Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them)Blogger & sex/dating coach Lorrae Bradbury (she/her)Sex educator & Sex Ed with DB host/creator Danielle Bezalel (she/her)Writer, speaker, & mental health advocate JoEllen Notte (she/her)Crash Pad Series director Ava LaPrima (she/her)Author, speaker, & ageless sexuality advocate Joan Price (she/her)Dominatrix & Kneeling Room founder Lady Pim (she/her)Blogger & pleasure educator Carly S (she/they)Good Vibrations staff sexologist & Antique Vibrator Museum curator Dr. Carol Queen (she/they)Vibratex CEO Ken Herskovitz (he/him)Author, sex therapist, & psychology

Given that the Magic Wand was originally marketed as a body massager, it's no surprise that many people use it in therapeutic ways. This episode discusses the Wand's beneficial effects on physical and mental health, and the ways it can be helpful for people with depression, people dealing with mobility issues or chronic pain, and even people recovering from a traumatic event.Guests this episode:Sex educator & Sex Ed with DB host/creator Danielle Bezalel (she/her)Writer, speaker, & mental health advocate JoEllen Notte (she/her)Dating coach, matchmaker, & burlesque teacher Claire AH (she/they)Author, speaker, & ageless sexuality advocate Joan Price (she/her)Sexologist, sex educator, & Curvy Girl Sex author Elle Chase (she/her)Sex educator & porn creator Alice Lovegood (she/her)Sexual health professor & researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick (she/her)Making Magic is hosted and created by Kate Sloan, edited and co-produced by Jamie Pityinger, and made possible by the generous support of Vibratex. Our podcast art is by Addison Finch.For more information about Magic Wand, please visit TrueMagicWand.com or join Magic Wand on Instagram at @truemagicwand! #TrueMagicWand

EPISODE 234: Interview with JoEllen Notte.  JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate, whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. She is the author of “The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having” (Thorntree Press, 2020) and “In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family” (Thornapple Press, 2023). You can follow her work on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/joellennotte) or via her website (https://www.redheadbedhead.com/) If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy, sex positive relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

Depression can put a strain on relationships, but it doesn't have to! This week we're talking to our friend JoEllen Notte, an author and mental health advocate, about her new book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends & Family. “Are You Mad At Me?!” | How It Came to Be | Interview Process | Pandemic Changes | Check On Your Friends | Choosing Kindness | “Not My Place” | “Just Do It” | Overlap with ADHD | Interview Self-Care | Bringing Food | Postponing Difficult Conversations | Ring Theory | Taking Breaks

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we […] The post Navigating Depression In Intimate Relationships appeared first on Pleasure Mechanics.

Episode 177 - Our first guest of the new year! Author JoEllen Notte joins us to talk about her journey from blogging and social media to becoming a fully published author. She discusses her first book, her battle with depression, and her latest work!Mentioned in this episode:In It Togetherhttps://www.theredheadbedhead.com/booksJoEllen Notte on Twitterhttps://twitter.com/JoEllenNotteJoEllen's websiteshttps://www.theredheadbedhead.comhttps://linktr.ee/joellennotteOur theme music is “The Strip” by Mala, used under a Creative Commons Attribution license.

Relationships are hard. But they can be especially hard when you or a partner are dealing with depression. In this episode, we're going to explore how mental health issues like depression can pose unique relationship challenges, but also consider practical tips and tools for overcoming them, including how to be a supportive partner when you're with someone who is depressed. I am joined once again by JoEllen Notte, a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site, The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen is the author of The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having as well as the upcoming book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family. Some of the topics we discuss include:  How to take care of your mental health while dating. When to disclose a mental health condition to a partner. How depression can impact marriages and other long-term relationships. How to know when being unhappy is a mental health issue vs. a relationship issue. What people can do to be supportive of a partner with depression. Suggestions for navigating a breakup while managing depression or anxiety. Learn more about JoEllen at redheadbedhead.com. Thank you to our sponsors! Give the gift of pleasure with Beducated! They have a whole library of online courses to teach you what you need to know. Treat yourself or a loved one to a subscription this holiday season and get 40% off their yearly pass by using my last name - LEHMILLER - as the coupon code. Sign up now at: https://beducate.me/pd2302-lehmiller  Enhance your pleasure with OMGYES! OMGYES provides super-honest videos, animations, and how-to's based on the largest research study into women's pleasure, done in partnership with the Kinsey Institute. Get 33% by visiting OMGYES.com/justin. Clinicians and therapists can get a free personal membership by visiting OMGYES.com/doctors.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

This episode, Erin chats with writer JoEllen Notte about sex and depression. Brought to you By: The Sonar Network https://thesonarnetwork.com/

It is well known that depression (and certain drug treatments for depression, notably SSRIs) can lower sexual interest, desire, and activity levels. However, it turns out that the story of how depression and sex are connected is more complicated than this. Depression is one of those things that can affect different people in very different ways. In fact, research actually finds that depression has the potential to both increase and decrease sexual desire and behavior. So how do we explain this pattern of results? Let's talk about it.  I am joined by JoEllen Notte, a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site, The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen is the author of The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having as well as the upcoming book In It Together: Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family. Some of the topics we discuss include:  Why depression may lower sexual interest in some people, but increase libido for others. The sexual side effects of various antidepressant treatments. How to take control of your sexuality when you're depressed. How to work with your healthcare provider(s) to minimize side effects of depression medication and treatment. How to communicate with a partner about sex when you're depressed. Learn more about JoEllen at redheadbedhead.com. Thank you to our sponsors! The Modern Sex Therapy Institutes is one of the leading sex therapy certification programs in the world, meets all AASECT certification requirements, has 12 other specialty certifications, and a Ph.D. program in Clinical Sexology. Visit modernsextherapyinstitutes.com to learn more. The Kinsey Institute's (kinseyinstitute.org) 75th anniversary is underway and you are invited to join in the celebration! Follow @kinseyinstitute on social media to learn more about upcoming events. Also, please consider a gift or donation to the Institute to support sex research and education. Click here to donate. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Who is the Redhead Bedhead you ask? JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate who also talks about sex toys. This all started a few years back when she ended a sexless marriage, rebooted her life and decided to learn all about sex. JoEllen is a certified sex educator through the Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series and has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit and the Playground Conference. JoEllen is not a doctor or a therapist. She is a writer and sex educator and is committed to challenging stigma, offering resources, and helping folks feel seen, heard, and supported. Tim & JoEllen talk about her book, the Monster Under the Bed, how sex correlates with mental health, what made her want to get into sex education, why talking about sex is awkward, tips for partners who are depressed and what products she recommends! If you want to submit a question, comment or just have something you want to say. Go to 20TIMinutes.com and click 'Contact Tim' or Text Tim at 781-523-9333 Learn More About JoEllen: RedHeadBedHead.com Twitter Facebook Instagram The Monster Under the Bed Purchase 20TIMinutes Merch:20TIMinutes Gear Follow Tim: YouTube Instagram Twitter Facebook Download the FREE 20TIMinutes AppSupport 20TIMinutes on BuyMeACoffee.com DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only & informs all listeners of the podcast, that the views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in the each episode belong solely to the host of 20TIMinutes, Tim McCarthy, and not necessarily to the podcast hosts employer, organization, committee or other group or individual. Tim is NOT a mental health professional. Tim only speaks about his own personal struggles and what works for him. If you're in need of help mentally or physically, please contact your primary care provider, a mental health professional or in case of an emergency, dial 911.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week in The Labia Lounge I had some very earnest and personal chats with JoEllen Notte about mental health and the intersection between depression, sex and relationships. JoEllen, AKA The Redhead Bedhead, is a writer, speaker, sex educator, and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. We talk about how depression effects our libido, our relationships, and our sex lives, how to navigate this territory with a partner, the common things people do to try to help that really don't help, what they should do instead, how and when to tell a partner about your mental health status, toxic positivity, micro-dicks, monster cocks, and sex injuries! This one is jam packed and full of surprises! Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge! Find JoEllen's award winning site The Redhead Bedhead here for more of her amazingness and writings: https://www.redheadbedhead.com/ Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy! *** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/ Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainings And chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freya_graf_ymt/ AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/ Or support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf  

Welcome to the very first episode of The Peer Project! Stick around and let us know your thoughts.Today's Peer is Sex Writer, and author of the amazing book 'Monster Under the Bed', JoEllen Notte. Jo tells us her mental health journey, and how she discovered a link between depression and sex. Tune in now to hear all about it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Karen interviews sex writer JoEllen Notte on sex and depression: how to talk to your doc about sexual side effects of antidepressants, ways to approach a partner experiencing depression, and new approaches to sexuality.In this episode:Sex & Depression - JoEllen Notte's writingsBuy The Monster Under the BedBooks mentioned on the podcastSupport sex-positive podcasting: Join The Afterglow!Wait, what? Full episode transcripts are available on our websiteWant to learn more about healing energy? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.Loving Wild & Sublime? Leave a lil' tip! Further your sex ed with recommended books on our Bookshop site!Get more Wild & Sublime on Facebook, Instagram, and TwitterLike the show? Leave a rating and review on your podcast app!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/wildandsublime)

JoEllen Notte joins Wendy to talk about the intricacies of being in a relationship and having depression as well as how to show up for a partner with depression. JoEllen Notte is a writer and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Notte recently released The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having.

*CW: Rape fantasy, nonconsensual role play 11:58-13:46*It's book club day! Caitlin is delighted to welcome Kate Sloan to the show to talk all about Kink: Stories edited by R.O. Kwon and Garth Greenwell. Caitlin and Kate talk about Kate's forthcoming book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do, how kink shows up in Kate's life outside of the bedroom, and their favorite stories from Kink (the book!). Slight spoiler for one story in Kink at 23:57. _________________________Show NotesHey Epiphora's sex blogDangerous Lilly's sex blogReal Life by Brandon TaylorBrandon Taylor's forthcoming book Filthy AnimalsCat Person by Kristen RoupenianAngela Chen's BTP episodeKate's blog Girly Juice Kate's podcast The DildorksKate's other podcast Question BoxPre-order Kate's book 101 Kinky ThingsKate's recs: Ace by Angela Chen, The Monster Under The Bed by JoEllen Notte, You Know You Want This: Cat Person and Other Stories by Kristen Roupenian_________________________You can find all book recommendations mentioned on the podcast on Bookshop.org here (and if you shop through the affiliate link,  Caitlin gets a little commission!)Remember to rate, review, and subscribe to help the pod grow!You can follow the podcast @betweenthepagespod on Instagram and Caitlin's bookish content @bookescait on Instagram.

In this episode I get a change to talk with JoEllen Notte author of The Monster Under The Bed, Sex Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having. JoEllen's website is redheadbedhead.com where she writes about all sorts of topics covering sex and relationships. Support this podcast

This week on Guys We Fucked, CORINNE FISHER (@PhilanthropyGal) and KRYSTYNA HUTCHINSON (@KrystynaHutch), give advice to a Fucker who experienced a surprise Cereal Killer (?!), help out another Fucker who is trying to make his girlfriend’s first time having sex as good as possible, Corinne is thinking a lot about people who refuse to grow, and Krystyna shares some really intimate shit! Then the duo chats with sex educator, author, & mental health advocate, JOELLEN NOTTE (@joellennotte)! JoEllen reflects on her own experience with sex and depression, her sexless marriage with her ex-husband, realizing after her marriage ended that she would never be monogamous again, and writing her own rules with her new partners to help weather her depression and communicate successfully. JoEllen also dives into the best ways to communicate and experiment with a sexual partner who is depressed, how to coax back sexual pleasure when experiencing the side effects of anti-depressants, the ingenuity of the Hitachi magic wand, and so much more! Check Out JOELLEN NOTTE’s Book “The Monster Under The Bed”: https://bookshop.org/books/the-monster-under-the-bed-sex-depression-and-the-conversations-we-aren-t-having/9781944934934 Follow JOELLEN NOTTE on IG: @joellennotte Follow JOELLEN NOTTE on Twitter: @joellennotte Go to JOELEEN NOTTE’s Website: redheadbedhead.com We’re offering free ads on the podcast for Black woman-owned small businesses! Email us info about your business and what you’d like us to read on air to sorryaboutlastnightshow@gmail.com Tweet Corinne: twitter.com/PhilanthropyGal  Follow Corinne on IG: instagram.com/philanthropygal Tweet Krystyna: twitter.com/KrystynaHutch  Follow Krystyna on IG: Instagram.com/KrystynaHutch Email Us: SorryAboutLastNightShow@gmail.com  Subscribe to the Guys We Fucked YouTube Channel: youtube.com/guyswefcked    LISTEN TO KRYSYTNA’S SOLO PODCAST, The Voices In Our Heads every Wednesday on all podcast platforms! https://luminary.link/yVatxyAKX1 LISTEN TO CORINNE'S PODCAST, WITHOUT A COUNTRY. Comedians and marginally educated correspondents Joe DeRosa and Corinne Fisher discuss/roast the most controversial news stories of the week using both conservative and liberal media sources and try to find a little sanity in the middle. *New episodes Tuesdays on Gas Digital Network and wide release Saturdays including YouTube. https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCjP3oJVS_BEgGXOPcVzlpVw Get Tickets to Stream DID THAT HELP? LIVE with Corinne & Krystyna’s Saturday, February 13th at 6PM PT/9PM ET on RushTix: https://rushtix.com/events/guys-we-fckd/ For live duo touring schedule, please visit www.sorryaboutlastnightcomedy.com/tours   MUSIC FEATURED THIS WEEK: 1. Evan Crommett – “Insomniac” 2. Evan Crommett – “Thin Mints” https://open.spotify.com/artist/21OzUs4uoYF0xoBHHI4f1M?si=u6irZHXpQWSY5yNVsaXgIA Do you think your music should be featured on an episode of GWF?  E-mail a streaming link to Mike Coscarelli: GWFPodcastMusic@gmail.com 

JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead as well as for Glamour, The BBC, Bitch, PsychCentral, and more. You can read her blog at redheadbedhead.com and follow her on Twitter at @JoEllen Notte. JoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having out now Thorntree Press 

In 'Part 2' of this week's episode, we speak with JoEllen Notte about her new book 'The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having', as well as why she wrote it and the void it fills. You can watch the conversation as well, over on YouTube, right HERE! AND, Part 1 of the episode is HERE! *(Music) 'Glass House' (feat. Naomi Wild) by Machine Gun Kelly - 2019 Find more podcasts on Podcaphilia, HERE!

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at .

Ah, the pleasures of getting rimmed! But what if you are alone, during quarantine times? Is there a sex toy out there to help a lass get off? Starting in kindergarten, a woman began masturbating using a very specific and very odd technique. Now she needs to do this, and she's super-embarrassed about it. How can she get over her shame, and possibly move on to more conventional orgasm inducers? On the Magnum version of the show, is Instagram going the way of Tumblr- removing all sexual content? Writer and sex educator JoEllen Notte is on to explain the sitch. A woman had a fun fling with a man 17 years her senior. She ended the sex, but they became good friends. Now, 2 years later, she's changed her mind again, and wants him to be her boyfriend. How can she lure him back? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at . This episode is brought to you by Calm, the #1 app for sleep and relaxation. For a limited time get 40% off a Calm Premium subscription at .

BOOK CLUB EP! Today we chat about The Monster Under The Bed by JoEllen Notte with writer and sex educator Sarah Brynne Holliday. We talk about the origin story of Sarah's blog Formidable Femme, their work with survivors of trauma, and Sarah's foray into writing smutty fiction. Then we get into The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having. This book is the most comprehensive look at the intersection of sex and depression that we've ever read, and we felt so seen and validated by the data and experiences shared. There's also so many tips about how to navigate depression in relationship, how to figure out if/what meds are right for you, and how to live a thrilling and fulfilling life in all aspects, including sex if desired.

Have you ever done it hanging from a cliff in your mountain-climbing harness? This caller has. They named the climb "Quarantine." Meanwhile in Italy, a woman managed to slip a finger in her boyfriend's butt. He didn't stop her, but didn't say anything about it, and they haven't discussed it since. How can she bring it up with him and resume this activity when they are reunited? On the Magnum, Dan chats with JoEllen Notte, author of "The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having" about being an introvert during the pandemic, and how it IS possible to be both horny and depressed. A woman is dating a man who cares about his appearance, is capable of crying and makes her breakfast. IS HE GAY? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to www.thepillclub.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.  

Have you ever done it hanging from a cliff in your mountain-climbing harness? This caller has. They named the climb "Quarantine." Meanwhile in Italy, a woman managed to slip a finger in her boyfriend's butt. He didn't stop her, but didn't say anything about it, and they haven't discussed it since. How can she bring it up with him and resume this activity when they are reunited? On the Magnum, Dan chats with JoEllen Notte, author of "The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having" about being an introvert during the pandemic, and how it IS possible to be both horny and depressed. A woman is dating a man who cares about his appearance, is capable of crying and makes her breakfast. IS HE GAY? 206-302-2064   voicemail@savagelovecast.com This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.com: a website dedicated to getting scientific truths out about women's sexual pleasure. Savage Lovecast listeners can get a discount if they go to OMGYES.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Pill Club: the birth control subscription that is delivered right to your door. Get a special care package with your first delivery. Go to www.thepillclub.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep-the best mattress for your individualized comfort. Right now, get up to $200 off ALL mattress orders at HelixSleep.com/SAVAGE.  

Depressed lately? Anxiety spiking? Is your mental health (or your partner's) fucking with your sex life? JoEllen Notte wrote a book for you, and she's here with Jaclyn to help. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

tl;dr JoEllen Notte is here to help us explore depression, relationships, and how depression and mental health can impact sex and desire, plus connecting during a pandemic. Explore More Summit is happening NOW! Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com and register. We've got Pleasure Mechanics, Rachel Cole, Prentis Hemphill, Andrea Glik, Jennifer Mullan, Kai Cheng Thom, and so many others. Don't miss it! Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a bonus chat between JoEllen and I on this cultural idea that people with depression are essentially asexual, desexualized humans and what JoEllen actually found in all of her research plus looking at sex as an a la carte menu versus a buffet. (And Eeyore masturbating totally gets talked about.) Hear it at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. In this episode, JoEllen and I talk about her new book, "The Monster Under the Bed" which is all about sex, depression, and relationships. We talk about how the entire world is coping and struggling with depression, anxiety, panic, and trying to survive the unknown. How normal it is to be feeling numb and disconnected while also feeling more emotional and tender. We explore how being in close quarters with a partner can lead to a reckoning with our relationships, important questions to ask ourselves during these times when we're wondering if our relationship is the problem or just how terrible things are in general and how to tease out whether it's the person or the relationship. JoEllen and I share some of the catastrophizing stories our brains like to tell us and ways we cope, plus communicating our mental health needs with a partner and why context matters SO much when it comes to our libido and pleasure. JoEllen also cannot stress enough how important it is to read Emily Nagoski's "Come As You Are" if you haven't already. Be sure to send in your questions! I would love to hear from you. Use the contact form at dawnserra.com. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook and Dawn is on Instagram. About JoEllen Notte: JoEllen Notte is a certified sex educator, writer, speaker, sexuality researcher, and mental health advocate. She blogs at The Redhead Bedhead and has been published by the BBC, Glamour, Bitch Media, xoJane, and Kinkly. JoEllen's book The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, and the Conversations We Aren't Having will be released on March 27, 2020. Stay in touch with JoEllen at redheadbedhead.com and get a copy of The Monster Under the Bed at your favorite local bookstore. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Stream it on Spotify Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous) Episode Transcript Visit dawnserra.com/ep301

JoEllen Notte, author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversation We Aren’t Having, joins August to explore her personal journey and research regarding sex and depression, related myths and more. Dr. Megan Fleming weighs in for a listener struggling with orgasms since starting antidepressants.   http://redheadheadbedhead.com/monster https://thepleasurechest.com https://greatlifegreatsex.com/rx  https://augustmclaughlin.com/ 

This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depression, The Monster Under the Bed! Crying | Double Taboo | Introverts at Conferences | Sex Educator BFFs | Research | The Book You Need | Us vs. the Problem | Unqualified | Horny Depression | Kink | Self-Harm? | Caretaking Guilt | Desirability | Waning Libido | Sex-Positivity | Lube | Wand Vibes | The “Normal” Way | Doctors | Medications | Scaring the Public | One Takeaway

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! In this amazing first episode of the year, we delve into Depression and Sex! Meet JoEllen Notte. She runs redheadbedhead.com, and is a writer and sex educator, committed to challenging stigma, offering resources, and helping folks feel seen, heard, and supported. As per usual, we go through how life put her on this path and what led her to just recently signing a publishing deal for her upcoming book: The Monster Under The Bed: Sex, Depression and the Conversations We Aren't Having! As part of the book research, JoEllen surveyed 1,100 people and interviewed close to 200 about their experiences and shares some insights with us. Topics covered: moving across the country to soothe a broken heart, resentment as relationship cancer, "empathy, strategy or distraction", trends in the sex-positive movement, non-monogamy and lastly tools for how to deal with depression within a relationship. We reference Elle Chase, author of Curvy Girl Sex, check her out, and Stephen Biggs @psybiggs on Twitter. We also bring up Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, because obviously. Read it. Thank you Steph Auteri, for introducing me to JoEllen. Please, rate, follow, subscribe and if you wish you can now support the podcast financially to help me get better content out to you! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

What's the relationship between depression and sexuality? It's more complicated (and hopeful! and fun!) than you might think, as sexual and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte explains. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

EPISODE 74: Interview with JoEllen Notte (Part Two). JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. Follow JoEllen’s work at redheadbedhead.com, on all social media @JoEllenNotte, and on Patreon at patreon.com/JoEllenNotte. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcasts, then consider becoming one of our patrons. Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating free content and grow our influence to help more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and learn to have more healthy relationships. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

EPISODE 73: Interview with JoEllen Notte (Part One). JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site The Redhead Bedhead. Follow JoEllen’s work at redheadbedhead.com, on all social media @JoEllenNotte, and on Patreon at patreon.com/JoEllenNotte. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcasts, then consider becoming one of our patrons. Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating free content and grow our influence to help more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and learn to have more healthy relationships. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries

If you're looking for a last minute holiday gift or you want to start your 2018 with a bang, don't forget you can grab my online on-demand workshops now! From porn to anal, from games to relationship charters, you'll find all sorts of fun, inviting goodies to help you level up. Want to hear my mini round-up of things I loved in 2017? Head to Patreon and support the show. You can hear exclusive content, including my own recap of the year when you support at any level. On to this week's show! JoEllen Notte is here to talk about her favorite things of 2017, as well as some of the tips and ideas she explored around sex, depression, and resentment. We talk about her love affair with the Doxy wand vibrator, how she decides what makes her Favorite Things list, why we both hate the phrase "porn for women", and why depression isn't really the relationship killer that so many people think that it is.  We also answer a few listener questions. Is it weird to hate touching your genitals? Is there a wrong way to use a bullet vibe? Tune in to find out! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About JoEllen Notte: JoEllen is a writer, speaker, researcher and mental health advocate whose work explores the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, mental health, and how none of us are broken on her award-winning site >The Redhead Bedhead. JoEllen has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, University of Tennessee, Woodhull's Sexual Freedom Summit, the Guelph Sexuality Conference, and the Playground Conference and is currently writing her first book: “The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression & The Conversations We Aren’t Having”.   Stay in touch with JoEllen on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter @joellennotte. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Here's that funny article I was giggling over called, "20 Things Guys Have Actually Said to Me In Bed." Now, on to your questions. Brittany wrote in seeking sexy kink events near her. The best place to go for kink events is Fetlife.com. You'll want to keep an eye out for munches and conferences. Because Brittany is in Massachusetts, she might also want to check out The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island for workshops. Plus, Joellen Notte lists Oh My! Sensuality Shop and Good Vibrations in Massachusetts on her superhero sex shop map. Basically, any feminist sex shop will have classes and workshops that could be a fun way to meet folks. A listener wrote back with an update. They found a friend to watch them have sex and it's turned into a fun threesome situation. Yay! Jen wrote in because apparently there was a shit-show on another sex podcast where the guest did some major body shaming and had some sexist ideas about getting desire back. I love knowing people can turn to Sex Gets Real and Explore More Summit for more inclusive conversations. Ha. As sex educators and therapists, we have a responsibility to examine our advice and our stories to ensure we aren't hurting people further. Fatphobia is one of those things we must confront and rewrite as experts. Nugget wrote in with some words of love. Nandi is fat and confused and needs help with her changing body. She's getting bariatric surgery and wonders if there's a way to find ease in her body without surgery. I have so many thoughts, including the importance of checking out all the talks at exploremoresummit.com because they're all about this VERY topic. You never have to love your body. You are allowed to do whatever you need to do to survive. If you want to start diving into resources about fat stigma, self acceptance, fatphobia, and fighting diet culture, the resource page I created (which is growing) is a great place to start. Your body is NOT the problem. The problem is our culture, our fatphobic doctors, our media consumption. I highly recommend Hanne Blank's, "Big, Big Love", Elle Chase's, "Curvy Girl Sex", "The Intuitive Eating Workbook, "The Fat Studies Reader", and all the other books on the resource page mentioned above. We have to prioritize our needs. We have to prioritize our body. We will always disappoint someone and people will always feel like they have a right to comment on our body or threaten us with "health" concerns. Finding people who can help support us as we exist in our body, as it is, is crucial. Mastadon is a horny hubby. He and his wife opened their relationship temporarily a few years ago, and even though she doesn't want to do that again, he can't stop thinking about it. He wants adventure and new lovers and he feels like she just isn't adventurous or open to that sort of thing. He doesn't want to be a cheating piece of shit (his words), but he really wants to have new sexual experiences. So often these questions are about avoiding discomfort and awkwardness. But that's just not possible. You have to evaluate what you most value, what you're most curious about, and then make some tough decisions. You are either committed to your relationship, which means uncomfortable conversations and finding ways to feel expressive and creative inside of it. Or, if your pleasure is more important, then transitioning out of the marriage might be the discomfort you need to move into. Our partners may be open to changing things, but we cannot force them or manipulate them into it. Getting a sex coach or a sex therapist can be a good place to start, just to help the conversations to be more open and vulnerable. Honesty and integrity are not about comfort. They take practice and moving into uncomfortable spaces. But the payoff can be tremendous when we do that. Miss Lou is a BBW who has been asked to sit on a partner's face. What should they do? How should they do? How do you get on someone's face without it be awkward? Let's talk about fat face sitting! Sometimes we just have to climb on and wiggle around, try pillows in a variety of positions, and find what works in the moment. Awkward can be fun when you're both excited and open about the fact that it's awkward. It's sex! So, get on, bounce around, and see what works. Then, do more of that. Hoodie sex? Nick wants to know if it's weird that he wants to have sex with his girlfriend while she wears his hoodies. Is that weird?  Nope. Because if it's consensual and you're both having fun, then who cares? Sex itself is weird. Enjoy it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Dawn Serra I am the creator and host of the laughter-filled, no-holds-barred weekly podcast, Sex Gets Real. I lecture at colleges and universities on sex and relationships, too. When I’m not speaking and teaching, I also work one-on-one with clients who need to get unstuck around their pleasure and desire. But it’s not all work! In my downtime, I can often be found watching an episode of Masterchef Australia, cooking up something delicious, or adventuring with my sexy AF husband. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

In this episode, I talk with JoEllen Notte; well known researcher, mental health advocate and writer about the linkages between sex, depression and disability. We talk about how she manages her depression, whether or not she believes depression is a disability, and so much more.You can find out more about JoEllen's work at: www.redheadbedhead.com

Sex and depression are two taboo subjects. We need to talk about them, especially where they intersect.Depression affects many of us. And, it could affect our sex lives in a variety of ways. If you have "sexual side effects" due to depression, know that you are not alone.JoEllen Notte joins me to talk about her research into sex and depression. You can read more about her, including her writings about this topic on her award winning website, http://www.redheadbedhead.com/For more information about this topic and JoEllen Notte, please visit http://www.stereo-typed.com/episode17/

JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse - she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if she could come on the show to talk about sex positivity versus sex performativity. Or, as we discuss in this episode, the way sex positive folks often exclude people by their actions and behaviors in a way that makes spaces feel unsafe. Sex positivity has been an incredible response to our sex negative culture, but it's also just that - a response to the existing paradigm. Not everyone wants to have all the orgies or flirt all of the time, and that gets overlooked a lot. So in this episode, JoEllen and I have a really frank discussion about some of the ways sex positive communities are failing us, and then we field two listener questions about using inclusive language and not being a creep at sex toy stores when you have questions about sex. Don't forget: I just revamped my one-on-one coaching packages and spots are filling up. If you need some help around sex, your relationship, and connecting with a loved one, you can check out the new options over on DawnSerra.com. About JoEllen Notte JoEllen Notte is a writer, speaker, and mental health advocate who has spent the last 2 years exploring the impact of depression on sex and relationships. Since 2012 she has written about sex, vibrators, mental health, and how none of us are broken on the award-winning RedheadBedhead.com as well as for xoJane, Bitch Media, Daily Dot, AlterNet and Kinkly. She has travelled North America touring the best sex shops in the US and Canada, led workshops on sexual communication, navigating consent, having casual sex kindly, and online dating, and has spoken at length on sex toys but she is happiest and most effective when writing and speaking on behalf of quiet people who have sex– check out her video series on attending conferences as an introvert and extensive work on sex and depression. JoEllen is certified as a sex educator through Planned Parenthood of Massachusetts Sexuality Education Certification Series and has spoken at Clark College, University of Chicago, Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit and the Playground Conference. You can stay in touch with JoEllen over on Facebook and on Twitter @JoEllenNotte. Hearing from you is the best, so here's how to contact the show: Contact form: Click here

This week on Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza: We're having a frank discussion about Sex and Depression. What are the signs? How can you help yourself or your partner? What are the common pitfalls and misconceptions? Tune in for the answers. You never know when you or a loved one may need them. Sex educator JoEllen Notte and comedian Adam Carl join Lora for a very informative conversation.

CONFESSIONS, LIBIDO & GENITALS! Sandra comes clean with pal Rachael for support. Then, JoEllen Notte, a.k.a. The Redhead Bedhead shares findings about this invisible illness and how it intersects with sex as she prepares to write her upcoming book "Monster Under the Bed." TOPICS: Bipolar II, Hypomania, Lithium, Losing Yourself, Compulsive Behavior, Beds, Autonomy, Treatment, Desexualization, Pinkness' @pinkness' #OrgasmQuest, Losing Libido, Anti-Depressant Conundrum, Just Doing it, Forgetting Sex, Anger, Drowning, Treatment, Sex Drive, Insensitive Doctors, Staying Sex-Positive, Connecting with Pleasure, Advocating for Yourself, Medical Mystery Solved, Genital Numbness, Erectile Dysfunction, Conscious Sex Decisions, Control, Foggy Headed, Giving Up, Mental Illness Taboo, Robin Williams and Superhero Sex Stores. 

We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld! #SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass Crista Anne of Dildology joins us as well as the Redhead Beadhead, JoEllen Notte! Also... the Minnesota Roller Girls have the best sports mascot. Period.             Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out! Comments? Complaints? Comment on this post or join us on Facebook.com/theswingset and let us know what you think.