The Dom Sub Living BDSM and Kink Podcast

#091 “I don't make love—I f*ck. Hard.”

#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands?

#089 “I don't play submissive—I live it. Every day.”

#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention?✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/communityWe're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex.➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/088

#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous?

#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it's really like behind the scenes.➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses/

#085 Think BDSM isn't built for ADHD or autism? Think again.

#084 Is it still dominance if it's gentle?

#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way?

#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you'll never forget?

#081 Poly and kinky? It's not as easy as people think.❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guideWe're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships.➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/081

#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub?

#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives?

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#078 If you don't trust your own Dominance, your submissive won't either.

#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes!Want to go deeper with me on BDSM and D/s dynamics? Check out my free resources to enhance your journey: https://domsubliving.com/freeWhether you're new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully, at least one of these tips will be a game changer for you!➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/077Grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Dynamics virtual summit: https://domsubdynamics.com/

#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new.

#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think!✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 different kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist today!We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/lg and the broad world of BDSM. Whether you're new to the scene or a seasoned explorer, there's inspiration and insight for everyone. Get ready to discover your next favorite kink!➡️ Free checklist of over 50 different kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/075

#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques!

#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone!

#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship?

#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology.✅ Get your FREE BDSM checklist with 50+ kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklistWe're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how kink can serve as emotional release and even healing. Join us and discover what makes BDSM exciting beyond the physical!➡️ Access the free BDSM checklist: https://domsubliving.com/checklist➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/071

#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom.

#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before."❤️ Visit https://domsubliving.com/eternity to get $20 off your own collar with code DOMSUBLIVINGIn this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotional significance they hold. Learn about different types of collars, why Alesandra chose her particular one, and tips for creating your own coloring ceremony. Curious about wearing a collar 24/7? Tune in now for insights and tips on embracing this powerful symbol in your D/s relationship!– Alesandra's collar: https://domsubliving.com/eternity– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/069

#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You're not alone—but you can bring it back!

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#067 Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic?

#066 Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic.

#065 There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters?

#064 Is your kinky bucket list feeling a bit uninspired? Let's spice it up together!

#063 Can conflict in a Dom/sub relationship become a tool for deeper connection?

#062 Ever wonder how to truly crawl into your sub's mind or stay proactive as a sub without 'topping from the bottom? This Ask Me Anything episode is packed with your most thought-provoking questions. We're covering:How to deeply understand your submissive's mindHow to navigate BDSM as a person with a disabilityHow to stay proactive as a sub without overstepping boundariesHow to stay connected outside the bedroom to strengthen your relationship inside itAnd, of course, the funniest (and most awkward) moment that's ever happened in my dynamic!Whether you're a Dom, sub, or somewhere in between, this episode will leave you with practical tips, relatable laughs, and a lots of “aha” moments. Join the Dom Sub Living community to submit your own questions for the next AMA and connect with 5,000+ kinksters just like you!– Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/062

#061 Curious about impact play but don't know where to start? Or maybe you're worried about doing it wrong? Don't stress—you're in the right place. In this episode, we'll guide you through 5 easy, beginner-friendly impact play ideas that are safe, fun, and perfect for building your skills. We'll cover everything from hands-only techniques to using everyday tools like wooden spoons and paddles—all while prioritizing safety and connection. Ready to explore? Grab your favorite tool (or hands!) and start experimenting with confidence!– Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/061

#060 What's your role in the world of BDSM? Let's dive in and find out! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of BDSM roles. From Dominants and submissives to fun niche roles like primal play and rope bondage, there's something for everyone. Hear personal stories, get tips on discovering your role, and learn how to make BDSM uniquely yours. Whether you're just starting out or looking to deepen your experience, this episode's got you covered. Don't miss out—tune in now and start your BDSM adventure!– Take the Kink Personality Type Quiz: https://domsubliving.com/quiz– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/060

#059 How do small, intentional acts of service transform a relationship? Join us as we dive into balancing parenthood, health, and wellness, all while serving from a place of strength. We've got tips on setting up intimate scenes, starting small with acts of service, and creating meaningful rituals. From helping with morning routines to mindful tasks like making coffee, you'll see how intentional service can really deepen your bond. Want to try it out? Grab our free list of 20 service protocols!– Free list of 20 protocol ideas: https://domsubliving.com/protocols– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/059

#058 Worried about keeping your Dom/sub dynamic alive in public without drawing attention We've got you covered! Join us as we dive into 10 subtle and kinky ideas for maintaining your D/s connection in everyday settings. Learn creative tips from secret hand signals to special dress codes, ensuring your dynamic stays strong and thrilling, even at family gatherings! And stick around for our favorite sneaky trick at the end!– Free list of 20+ protocol ideas: https://domsubliving.com/protocols– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/058

#057 Even Dominants need a break sometimes. In this eye-opening episode of the Dom Sub Living Podcast, we're breaking down the concept of "Dom drop" and its impact on the dynamic. Learn how to recognize the signs, offer tailored aftercare, and support your Dominant through emotional crashes. Discover tips to encourage rest, conduct meaningful check-ins, and rebuild your dynamic with small, achievable goals.Feeling connected? Share your experiences and support techniques, and don't forget to subscribe for more insights on BDSM relationships.– Free "How to Be a Good Dom" master list: https://domsubliving.com/dom– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/057

#056 How do you know if a spanking is all fun and games or a real punishment? Mixing them up can lead to confusion and hurt feelings, even if everything's consensual! In this episode, we're breaking down the key differences between punishments and funishments. We're talking about setting clear intentions, avoiding mixed signals, and keeping your kinky dynamics fun and trust-filled. Get tips on how to identify and navigate emotional impacts in your scenes. Don't forget to grab our free list of 30 different punishments for some awesome inspo!– 30+ punishment ideas: https://domsubliving.com/punish– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/056Don't miss out on exclusive Black Friday deals! Join the VIP waitlist now: https://domsubliving.com/blackfriday

#055 Have you ever had a fantasy that scares you? Maybe it feels too intense, or you're worried it says something bad about you. Darker desires are more common than you think, and they can be safely explored with the right tools and communication. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology behind frightening fantasies like consensual non-consent, degradation play, and edge play. You'll learn how to navigate these desires without guilt or judgment, set boundaries, and create trust through aftercare. Curious about exploring your own frightening fantasies? Tune in now!– Download your free checklist of over 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/055

#054: Is kink political? Tune in as we get real about the challenges facing the kink community today. From censorship on social media to how obscenity laws mess with our lives, we're covering it all. Learn about the fight for inclusive spaces, the valuable work of kink advocacy groups, and why your vote really matters. We also dive into the intersection of kink with issues like consent, power dynamics, and how politics shape our kink spaces - especially for marginalized folks. Get involved and subscribe now (and don't forget to vote)!– Subscribe to our free newsletter: https://domsubliving.com/signup– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/054

#053 What drives a submissive to grow and reach their fullest potential? It's all in the training. Join us in this episode as we break down how to create personalized training plans that fit your unique dynamic. We'll talk about why protocols need purpose, how patience and consistency are your best friends, and the quirky yet helpful "car analogy" for ongoing improvement. Get real strategies to improve your emotional and mental connection. Grab your free "How to Be a Good Sub Cheat Sheet" and step up your D/s game!– Free "How to Be a Good Sub" Cheat Sheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/053

#052 Can serving coffee really make your Dom/sub dynamic stronger? You bet it can! Join us as we break down the ins and outs of using protocols to add depth to your relationship. Find out how small steps like kneeling and wearing a day collar can make a big difference without becoming overwhelming. We also share practical tips like doing morning check-ins and nightly rituals to keep that connection strong. Plus, hear some fun, real-life stories about how these little routines can totally transform your daily life. Want more protocol inspiration? Grab our free list of 20 different protocols! – Free list of 20 protocol ideas: https://domsubliving.com/protocols– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/052

#051 Can you be a devoted Christian and still enjoy BDSM? In this eye-opening episode, we're uncovering how Christian teachings on love, respect, and mutual authority can blend seamlessly with BDSM practices. We open up about our own journey of mixing faith and kink, bust common myths, and talk about the importance of exploring your desires. Tune in to see the surprising ways consensual power dynamics can align with biblical values.– Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/051

#050 Want to make your wildest fantasies come true? In this episode, we're diving deep into the intricacies of creating compelling BDSM scenes. Learn how to blend pleasure, restraint, and pain, set the perfect mood, maintain communication, and ensure smooth improvisation. Discover essential aftercare routines and tales of personal experiences that highlight the importance of emotional and physical recovery. With practical tips and negotiation strategies, this episode is a must-listen for both beginners and seasoned practitioners.– Free sample scene: https://domsubliving.com/scene– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/050

#049 Ever feel lost in your kink journey, like everyone else has it all figured out but you? We're diving into the complexities of navigating the kink lifestyle. Discover how to build confidence through self-exploration, find a supportive community, and safely explore your kinks. We'll also share personal stories, tips for mastering communication, and resources to help you on your journey.– Grab the Kink Bundle™: http://kinkbundle.com– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/049Don't miss your chance to grab The Kink Bundle — 30+ BDSM resources until September 18th!

#048 Is your potential sub truly compatible, or a red flag waiting to happen? We're diving into the crucial process of vetting a submissive, shedding light on the often overlooked but vital steps. Discover five key red flags like inconsistency and disrespect for boundaries, and why proactive sub behavior and core values alignment are paramount. Learn from personal experiences and get essential tips for fostering a healthy D/s dynamic built on trust, respect, and communication.– Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' Cheatsheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/048

#047 Are you unknowingly wrecking your D/s dynamic? We're diving deep into the concept of topping from the bottom and how this subtle power shift can sabotage your BDSM relationship. Learn what it is, why it happens, and practical solutions to prevent it. From open communication to setting clear boundaries, join us as we uncover how to maintain a healthy power exchange and rebuild trust.– Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/047

#046 Worried about finding a Dominant who really respects your boundaries? Let's make sure you're in good hands. In this episode, we're breaking down the essentials of vetting a Dom. We're talking key questions to ask, red flags to watch out for, and practical safety hacks to keep you protected. Plus, we're sharing some real-life stories and even a cool quiz to help you spot those fake doms from a mile away. Check out the fun Fake Dom Quiz and step up your vetting game!– Take the Fake Dom Quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/046

#045 Brats are having a moment right now, but have you ever wondered why some people love bratting in BDSM while others find it frustrating? In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of brats in the kink lifestyle. Discover the playful psychology behind bratty behavior, key distinctions between playful and disrespectful bratting, and practical tips for both Doms and subs to enhance their dynamic. Learn how to set boundaries, incorporate fun and discipline, and turn bratting into a positive force in your BDSM journey.– Free 'How to Be a Good Sub' cheatsheet: https://domsubliving.com/sub– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/045

#044 Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in a Dom/Sub relationship and keep bratty behavior at bay? Let's talk about maintenance spankings! In this episode, we're delving into the world of maintenance spankings. We discuss their purpose, benefits, and how they differ from punishment spankings. Learn why consistency and routine are crucial, and get tips on tracking your sessions. Tune in to find out how these prearranged, consensual acts can reinforce roles and sharpen focus, providing physical and emotional rewards for both parties.– Free checklist of 50+ kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/044

#043 Ever wondered what it would be like to compete in a BDSM Olympics? Join us as we dive into the thrilling concept of a BDSM Olympics, exploring impact play, sensory deprivation, and the importance of safety and communication in Doom/sub dynamics. Learn about top kinky skills, like wax play, medical play, and electro play, and discover how to take your scenes to the next level. This episode covers it all with personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a unique take on the BDSM community. Tune in, subscribe, and share your thoughts on our kinky event!– Free list of kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist– Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/043