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I’m Angela. A writer, teacher, and cult survivor. After decades of being silenced, I’m finally finding my voice.

Angela


    • Apr 21, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    Latest episodes from The Gaslighting Effect

    Predators In Disguise: How image-obsessed people wreak havoc in recovery spaces

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2021 73:46


    In this episode, Jessica, a self-described ExMormon sex worker, shares how she came to be in the crosshairs of an ego-driven man who has no qualms about destroying anyone else, just as long as it benefits him.

    A Beginner's Guide to DARVO: deny, argue, reverse victim and offender

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2021 54:57


    TikTok's Maggie in Babylon joins this podcast episode to discuss how predators turn the tables on their victims and if there's anything that can be done about it.

    5 Red Flags Of Predatory People

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2021 44:46


    This episode is dedicated to the enabling attitudes and behaviors in the ExMormon community that allow predators to continue hurting people.

    Predators in ExMormon Spaces

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2021 18:12


    An introduction to season 5, which will be devoted to talking about predatory behavior in communities recovering from religious trauma.

    One trait abusers share

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2020 15:51


    Why did my ex-husband get so angry? How could my mother gaslight me for a decade, yet believe she had done nothing wrong? In this episode I explore these questions.

    Two Virgins: how shame ruins sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 22, 2020 35:08


    A brief portrait of my sex life as a Mormon wife.

    Culture Wars In Mormonism

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2020 27:16


    In 1980's white suburbia, there was a mold we had to fit. Even the Mormons. Especially the Mormons.

    Children Primed For Sexual Abuse: 4 ways parents set kids up to pick sexually abusive partners

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2020 24:32


    A discussion of how a child can be groomed to accept sexual abuse even when parents never physically touch them.

    The Politics of a Pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 10, 2020 10:40


    A personal episode about the status quo in the United States during the Coronavirus pandemic and how it will change my career trajectory.

    4 More Spiritual Abuse Tactics

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2020 32:38


    What is Spiritual Abuse? The analysis of spiritually abusive tactics continues.

    4 Spiritual Abuse Tactics

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2020 27:08


    What is spiritual abuse? A description of 4 tactics used in spiritually abusive communities.

    13 Emotional Abuse Tactics

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2020 49:30


    13 ways a friend, partner, or family member can manipulate and control you without hitting or raising their voice.

    10 Verbal Abuse Tactics

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2020 28:41


    If your partner uses these ten tactics to keep you in a state of submission, you may be in a verbally abusive relationship.

    Mourning

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2020 12:28


    How I feel about the current unrest and racial injustices in my country.

    The Enmeshment Doctrine: when boundaries are forbidden

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2020 39:46


    Your family might follow the enmeshment doctrine if your future has been planned out for you and healthy boundaries are perceived as a threat.

    10 Things Keeping You In Unhealthy Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2020 33:16


    No one gets a free pass to treat you like cr*p. Not even family. Especially not family.

    Wolf In Sheep's Clothing: 7 signs a parent is manipulating you

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2020 33:48


    My dad is father of the year... until he doesn't gets his way. 7 signs someone you love may be a wolf in sheep's clothing.

    Three Types of Perfectionism: the pitfalls of growing up in a perfect Mormon family

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2020 29:40


    Dedicated to my father, I kick off season 3 by analyzing the home he grew up in and the poisonous effects of choosing perfectionism over people.

    Healing Through Connection

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2020 34:06


    How I went from believing God was outside myself and that my body was the enemy to integrating a soul-body connection that led to greater self-acceptance.

    Healing Through Touch

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2020 32:28


    What exactly is touch deprivation? A list of comforting touch substitutes, the most healing way to be touched, and the importance of having at least one secure attachment in your life.

    Healing Through Reflection

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2020 24:30


    Rumination and trauma. How to reflect on the bad while bringing in the good.

    Healing Through Self-Compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2020 30:32


    12 unwritten narcissistic family rules you must break to develop self-compassion. Plus, three practices to accept and forgive yourself.

    Healing Through Self-Expression

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2020 35:11


    An exploration of writing, art, and music as a means to process and heal from trauma.

    Workplace Mobbing: Resources For The Recovering

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2020 34:54


    A rundown of YouTube videos, blogs, and books to help heal from workplace mobbing. Plus nine ways to know you're relatively safe in your relationships.

    Moving On After Workplace Mobbing

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2020 29:25


    The three degrees of mobbing injury and how I've been personally effected by the experience.

    Mobbing Stage Five: Expulsion

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2020 45:36


    The reactions of my bullies after I formally resigned told me a lot about who they were. It wasn't pretty.

    Mobbing Stage Four: Misdiagnosis

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2020 38:54


    When my mobbers and my administration joined forces, everything turned ugly.

    Mobbing Stage Three: Administrative Involvement

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 39:33


    When my principal and vice principal became aware of the mobbing, they could have stopped it. Instead they joined in. In this episode, I talk about how that felt and the resulting repercussions.

    Mobbing Stage Two: Stigmatization

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2020 38:06


    Being mobbed is like being chased by a pack of wolves. No one will help you because they're too afraid of the wolves. In this episode, I talk about the effects of being stigmatized in the workplace. It happened to me almost overnight and it was terrifying.

    Mobbing Stage One: The Critical Incident

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2020 39:34


    What is a “critical incident” in workplace mobbing? It's the moment power is challenged. When the status quo is threatened, it bites back.

    Prelude To Workplace Mobbing

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2020 36:12


    Before stage one of the mobbing process, the warning signs are there. When it happened to me, I didn't recognize them. Here I detail the behaviors I missed and the personal traits that made me vulnerable.

    Toxic Workplaces

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2020 40:08


    In this episode, I talk about some red flags of an unhealthy work environment, characteristics of bad bosses, and how my first year of teaching went from bad to worse.

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    Don't Dehumanize Me

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2020 43:07


    Content warning for gruesome descriptions of violence. Discussed is how mobbing differs from lynching and how powerless populations have historically been subject to stage 5 of the mobbing process: expulsion or elimination through public execution and/or forced sterilization.

    Mobbing In Childhood

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2020 42:32


    When an entire class gangs up on a student for the duration of an entire school year, it's more than mere bullying. Content warning for discussion of suicidal ideation.

    How Mobbing Stops

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 11, 2020 33:24


    A review of the first two mobbing stages and a detailed example of how the phenomenon can stop. Hint: It can't reach stage four. Also discussed is the ripple effect of gossip culture in schools, the importance of therapy, and how inner child work has helped me.

    Scapegoating vs Mobbing

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2020 50:23


    Being the family scapegoat is isolating, and recovery is a daunting journey. It has many striking similarities to the unsettling dynamics of workplace mobbing.

    The Power Paradox

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 14, 2019 41:58


    Power as influence. This episode is devoted to analyzing “power” through the work of Dacher Keltner, who has written several books and teaches at U.C. Berkley. The dimensions of power are explored here: the good, the bad, and the scary.

    Healthy vs Unhealthy

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2019 35:22


    Healthy relationships are healing. Unhealthy ones are toxic. In this episode I share the enormous and striking contrast between the healthy relationship I have with my current boyfriend and the poisonous one I had with my ex-husband.

    Post Divorce Growing Pains

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 1, 2019 47:52


    From being in poverty to being in love, I explain how writing down my pain led to healing and growth.

    Healing After Trauma

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2019 39:08


    Much of my trauma has occurred in elementary schools. Yet I'm attempting to heal as I work in one. In this episode I talk about why.

    Think Of The Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2019 38:08


    Divorce is hard in the best of circumstances. But it's so much worse when one or both parents seek to manipulate the kids. In this episode Wallace tells his story. Trigger warning for attempted suicide.

    The Effects Of Shame On A Child With A Disability

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2019 42:08


    All about autism and my oldest son. The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown, how we handle crisis, and the effects of shame.

    Mirror Mirror On The Wall

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2019 41:05


    Parents who prioritize image above their children's needs and feelings deserve a special place in mosquito heaven without nets, or pants, or bug spray. Trigger warning for depictions of verbal abuse and medical neglect. This episode is pretty heavy.

    The Crumbling Of My Marriage (part two)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2019 46:51


    In this episode, I talk about gaining more autonomy and support. Also discussed are prayer, forgiveness, and how I lost my faith in God. Content warning for profanity.

    The Crumbling Of My Marriage (part one)

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2019 46:37


    A review of journal entries written right after I left Mormonism that reveal the unraveling of my marriage.

    The Stories We Tell

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2019 38:26


    An analysis of how stories are used in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to increase feelings of persecution and elitism among the membership.

    Cults

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2019 39:38


    How do I know my home was a cult? Let me tell you.

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