Podcasts about boodaism

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“I need you.” That's a scary thing to say to someone, especially when it's true. For many of us humans in modern, western civilization — realizing that we need to intimately involve other people in our imperfect, un-photoshopped lives is a frightening thing. So we avoid it. We live alone, we eat alone, we sleep […] The post We Fucking Need Each Other appeared first on Boodaism.

Gather round my digital friends, I'm going to tell you about a time ,  a beautiful and innocent time, when the internet made people happy. Long, long ago, before large corporations started buying up parts of the internet, and before sites like medium.com turned all the bloggers into employees, there was a time when individuals owned […] The post I miss blogs. appeared first on Boodaism.

My name is Dave, and I consider myself a narcissist. I love attention, I constantly overestimate myself, and my favorite topic of conversation is me. Chances are you know people like me, because there are a lot of us — yet almost no one knows how to deal with us effectively. In fact, what most people […] The post You Can’t Be Nice to a Narcissist appeared first on Boodaism.

I took a break this year. For those of you who have been following this site, you’ll notice that sometime around the end of June I took a break from publishing every week. It wasn’t totally intentional, but it felt right. Up until that point I had been consistently posting every week since December 2014 […] The post Back in the Saddle: 2018 Annual Review appeared first on Boodaism.

Write something true. That’s my mantra. When I’m feeling blocked I pause and remind myself of this. Write the truth. Not the ultimate truth — just something that feels true, something authentic. That’s what writing is for me, a chance to admit the truth in a space where no one will judge me, hate me […] The post Tell the Truth appeared first on Boodaism.

I just wanted to shake his hand. Here was a man I learned so much from, that answered so many of my questions about “being a man”, and I just wanted to meet him and say “your book meant a lot to me” — but there were rules. It was 2011, and I was at […] The post Before You Read ‘The Way of the Superior Man’ Read This appeared first on Boodaism.

I’m a systems thinker, which means I spend a lot of time trying to understand the root of a problem, rather than dealing with it’s symptoms. When we attempt to solve problems without first understanding the system that created them, it’s like bailing out a leaking boat. It may provide temporary relief, but the problem […] The post The Surprising Foundation of Every Great Relationship appeared first on Boodaism.

It’s the year 2030, and in the western world, turning to a coach for life’s challenges is as common as 1-hour drone delivery from Amazon. It’s easy, it solves our problem and we don’t mind paying a little extra for the convenience. In fact, in 2030 we have more resources than ever, and nearly everyone […] The post The Day Life Coaches Replaced Best Friends appeared first on Boodaism.

When all the websites have been built, When all the funding has been sought. When all the companies have been sold, When all the Teslas have been bought. When all the charities have been started, When all the employees have been hired. When all the dreams have been fulfilled, When all the people have been […] The post To My Overachieving Friends, Whom I Love Dearly [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism.

I’ve come to know what I call the “millennial applause” and it’s creepy as hell. Aside from being a snarky blogger on the internet, I play music 3-4 nights a week at local bars and clubs and I’ve been doing it since college. Since my job is to engage the audience, I basically stand in […] The post Art Isn’t Dead, We Are appeared first on Boodaism.

Leave the campsite better than you found it. That’s the “campsite” rule, coined by Dan Savage and practiced by responsible lovers everywhere. It’s a pledge to leave people in as good a state (physically and emotionally) as you found them. As someone who sleeps with a lot of people—often people who have less experience—I do […] The post What It Means To “Leave Someone Better Than You Found Them” appeared first on Boodaism.

Last year I watched the moon pass in front of the sun, and the moment when the sky went dark, I became speechless. Like many people who came to watch the solar eclipse, I thought I knew what was going to happen. Pretty simple, right? The moon passes in front of the sun, and the […] The post Everyone Believes in God appeared first on Boodaism.

You don’t have time for art, But art has time for you. She’s like a friend who’s down For whatever you want to do. Art is not a contest There are no judges to be had, And all your feelings are welcome Be them happy, angry or sad. Your job is not perfection, We’re not […] The post You Don’t Have Time for Art [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism.

I’m a walking contradiction. On one hand I believe in self-expression and sharing your opinions, even when they make other people uncomfortable. That’s what Boodaism is all about. On the other hand, my heart breaks when something I say makes someone feel bad or limits our ability to feel close to each other. Even if […] The post Loving All The Parts appeared first on Boodaism.

Here’s a statement everyone would agree with — the more time you spend with people that bring you joy, the more joyful your life will be. And yet — I meet people all the time who feel undernourished and frustrated with this area of their life. When I ask, “why don’t you spend more time […] The post Why Nerds Are Happier appeared first on Boodaism.

I am completely repulsed by needy behavior in relationships. I’m the kind of person that needs a lot of space — and when I say “space”, I don’t mean once in a while we go out with friends, I mean a default setting of autonomy, with frequent and wonderful periods of togetherness. That may sound […] The post The Difference Between Having Needs & Being Needy appeared first on Boodaism.

This week's show is with Dave Booda, a writer, teacher and musician. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest, an annual festival in Southern California that celebrates connection, sexual self-expression and community. He writes weekly at Boodaism.com and his work has been featured on ABC, NBC, National Geographic, Elephant Journal, Good Men Project and Thought Catalog. He is the host of three podcasts, Dude Panel Radio, Darken the Page and Boodaism. In this show we explored one of Dave's recent posts about how we rarely go after the medicine we need. When it comes to our personal growth we typically do what's comfortable and what we're already good at. If we can instead lean into discomfort and things that we're not so good at, that's when real transformation can occur. I'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode: We tend to do the same things over and over when it comes to personal growth, this is amplified because we're often surrounded by people with similar beliefs and preferences. It can take some effort to go outside of our normal surroundings to look for the medicine we actually need! Self-awareness can only get us so far if we're only listening to ourselves, real awareness and growth comes from being part of a community and listening to others about what they see in us. We don't necessarily have to completely change how we approach our personal growth, sometimes it's powerful to just lean a bit in the opposite direction.  

“Life is simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” ~ Confucious  When I think about the way I travel, I’m not surprised at how simple my set up is, I’m surprised as how complicated it is for everyone else. In many ways, minimalism has made me an outcast. There’s almost no material possession you […] The post 2018 Ultra-Light Travel Guide: My Gear & Mindset appeared first on Boodaism.

I have a question for you. If you could start a relationship with the hottest man or woman in your city, would you? Let’s say you live in New York and you’re a straight man and you were able to meet the collectively agreed upon most attractive woman in the city. Would you want her […] The post The Reason It’s So Hard To Find Happy Relationships on Dating Apps appeared first on Boodaism.

I’m a liberal — at least that’s what people call me. Truth be told I don’t like labels or political identities, I think the democratic party is fundamentally flawed and I’m socially progressive and fiscally conservative. But for the purposes of this essay, it’s fair to say I’m diggin’ the scene with a liberal lean. […] The post The Problem with Liberalism (From a Liberal Perspective) appeared first on Boodaism.

Being alone is easy, but being lonely takes effort. We’re social animals, which means we like to be in groups. Yes, even that person who loves posting introvert porn on Facebook still has friends and enjoys gatherings of like-minded people from time to time. In the same way that headaches let us know we might […] The post 17 Creative Ways To Be Lonely appeared first on Boodaism.

Have you ever tried bailing out a boat you didn’t know was leaking? You see some water in the bottom of the boat, and you think “hey, I’ll get this water out”, so you grab a bucket and start bailing. Then you notice the water starts to fill up again. So you bail it out, […] The post How Modern Marriage Is Making Us Lonely appeared first on Boodaism.

A true sign of intelligence isn’t how well you can explain your perspective, it’s how well you can articulate the perspective that opposes yours. I don’t care how well you can articulate your argument, show me how the other person is also partially right and I’ll listen. Show me that you’ve actually considered views from other […] The post You’re Not Trying To Debate, You’re Just Being a Dick appeared first on Boodaism.

The other day I got to witness a “classic” conversation among women. It’s a conversation that’s been going on in different forms for hundreds of years. A few married women were counseling their single friend about how she could meet “the one”. They went through the usual topics, they asked her what she was looking for, […] The post Stop Looking for “The One” and Do This Instead appeared first on Boodaism.

So often people come out of retreats, weekends or experiences and proudly declare “I’m transformed” — but I don’t believe them. It’s not that I don’t believe in transformation, I do — but we (especially spiritual people) love to mix up state change and life change. A state change is temporary, and while it may […] The post State Change vs Transformation appeared first on Boodaism.

No one likes throwing up. That feeling you have just before you vomit is one of life’s most unpleasant sensations, yet we all know how good it feels afterward. However awful the experience of purging was, we know that on some level it needed to happen. Welcome to the United States under President Donald J. […] The post The President America Needs, Not the One It Wants appeared first on Boodaism.

When it comes to understanding women — nothing beats primary source research. That’s why when I think about straight men who want to improve their love lives, I’d like to suggest something that may seem radical. I believe men would be better served if they hired a sex worker instead of a dating coach. I’m going […] The post Why Sex Workers Should Replace Dating Coaches appeared first on Boodaism.

I’ve been a singer and musician for most of my life. My biggest influences have always been black singers, and as a white musician who never wanted to sound white, I’ve always struggled with feeling like a phony. This is a poem I imagine myself speaking to a primarily black audience, because as a performer […] The post I Want You To Like Me [Poem] appeared first on Boodaism.

Here’s something that’s been blowing my mind lately. Video chatting. I know—seems like no big deal, but think back just twenty years ago—before cell phones were a thing and we had to share phone lines with our bratty siblings. If someone gave you a device that fit in the palm of your hand, and could video […] The post 5 Simple Ways to Have More Intimacy with your Friends appeared first on Boodaism.

As someone with relatively thick skin, I’d like to speak out about something that really bothers me — personal attacks on people we disagree with. I know it’s part of the deal, “haters gotta hate” and all, but wow — it’s incredible what we will say when protected by the anonymity of the internet. I […] The post On Public Shaming and the Death of Civilized Discourse appeared first on Boodaism.

Consequences create motivation. At the end of my 45-day bicycle trip in September I settled into some new habits that I knew needed to happen, but I never had the motivation for them. For example — my finances have been a mess since I left the Navy in 2010. I’ve always known that doing a […] The post Consequences Create Motivation: 2017 Annual Review appeared first on Boodaism.

Remember what it was like before we could comment on everything? Seriously, just think back twenty years ago. Someone would do something and if you had something to say you either had to say it in front of people (scary!) or not say it at all. How crazy was that?!? Today, we can leave comments […] The post The 10 Kinds of People Who Leave Annoying Comments on Facebook appeared first on Boodaism.

I don’t think I’m going out on a limb if I said that people who identify as spiritual tend to be more narcissistic. This isn’t a jab at spirituality, it makes sense and I’d like to explain why. Modern spirituality (in the way we use the term) has become popular because of a need to […] The post Why Narcissists Love Spiritual Communities appeared first on Boodaism.

I don’t understand how my parents live with the TV constantly on. Like many of my peers, I’ve grown accustomed to living without cable TV running in the background. It’s become so normal for me that when I find myself somewhere with a TV constantly on, it’s distracting and I have trouble focusing.  Maybe you […] The post 7 Ways I Use Minimalism on My iPhone appeared first on Boodaism.

Without the internet, I would have never become a writer. That’s because growing up I thought I was terrible at writing. I got C’s for grades, and I found reading books and writing essays painstaking and tedious. Then along came the internet. Blogging, social media and away messages for AOL instant messenger became my canvas, […] The post 5 Mistakes People Make When Writing On the Internet appeared first on Boodaism.

I’m sick of watching men “otherize” the perpetrators of sexual violence, as if they could never, ever be capable of something like that. In the last few weeks I’ve heard men say things like this. I’m so angry I could kill that guy right now. I can’t believe it, who would do such a thing? […] The post Dear Men in Glass Houses appeared first on Boodaism.

Oh boy. I mean, listen — I wish I cared. In fact, just before I wrote this I was browsing YouTube and I stumbled on Sara Bareilles’ music video for “I Choose You” where she spontaneously shows up and sings for two couples getting engaged. It was super cute, and I even had some feels. I […] The post I Don’t Care You Got Engaged appeared first on Boodaism.

*all commandments are subject to change 1. Don’t follow other people’s commandments. I know, right? What a weird fucking way to start this off. 2. Question Everything Including the statement “question everything”, including me telling you to question the statement questioning the statement “question everything”. Are you confused yet? That’s the point. We need to […] The post The Ten Commandments of Boodaism appeared first on Boodaism.

A few months ago I was part of a beautiful moment at the San Diego Superior Courthouse. Paula and I had gone to fill out paperwork, and in the waiting room we leaned on each other, shared stories and laughed together. I massaged her shoulders and she scratched my back. That all happened while we […] The post The Key to a Peaceful Divorce appeared first on Boodaism.

I meet people all the time that are disappointed. They’re disappointed when people aren’t honest, disappointed when people don’t keep their word, disappointed when people don’t respect each other, disappointed when it’s hard to find great romantic partners, disappointed when they receive bad customer service, blah blah blah… And hey — if that’s you — […] The post Most People Are Stupid — What George Carlin Taught Me About Happiness appeared first on Boodaism.

Many of you have read the article I Promise It’s Not ‘Lame’ To Ask A Woman for Permission, where I tell the story of how six years ago my insensitivity and ignorance left a woman feeling violated and hurt. What I haven’t told you is shortly after writing the article, I made the same mistake […] The post Just Feel the Pain appeared first on Boodaism.

I really wanted to go to Iran this year. I love traveling — and being of Armenian heritage, I have a special place in my heart for middle eastern culture. That’s why next year I had been making plans to visit Iran (along with Armenia and Georgia) with my friend Amir, who is Persian and […] The post The Confronting Reason You Haven’t Been Able to Do That Thing You’ve Been Wanting to Do for a While appeared first on Boodaism.

Sometimes it’s time to move on from a romantic relationship, even when what you have is “good”. Maybe you’re in a relationship that’s happy. In fact, it may be happier than most of the other relationships you see. You’ve surpassed the standards set by your family, culture and your community on what a good relationship […] The post It’s Okay to End a Good Relationship appeared first on Boodaism.

In 2011 I took a trip that definitively changed my life — I rode a bicycle with 3 other friends from London to Greece (through Turkey). Before that I had considered myself a traveler but I really didn’t know what traveling was. I brought a tent, and I heard we were going to be “free camping”, […] The post I’m Cycling from Vancouver to San Diego appeared first on Boodaism.

Some problems aren’t worth fixing. Sometimes the energy you give to something doesn’t equal the energy you receive, and it’s time to quit. Sometimes walking away is the solution, and sometimes the person initiating that has to be you. Some projects aren’t worth finishing. It takes courage to stop something that you’ve invested months, maybe […] The post You Can Always Walk Away appeared first on Boodaism.

I just got off the phone with an old friend of mine who I haven’t talked to in years. He called me to catch up, and share some appreciation for the way I show up online, which meant a lot to me, because he’s someone I really respect and love. Then he made a comment […] The post Relationships Are Really Really Really Really Really Really Fucking Important appeared first on Boodaism.

I’ve always felt uncomfortable with gender expectations. The idea that I should be a certain way because I have a Y chromosome never sat well with me. Do I enjoy doing typical “male” things like fixing problems and opening stuck jars? Sure I do, but there’s a world of difference between being asked to do […] The post Dating Beyond Gender appeared first on Boodaism.

Let’s start off with some radical honesty. I used to be a life coach — and many times I was “that” life coach. Some of you who have been following my blog for a while may even know that, and to you I sincerely apologize. I even had the phrase “you can have it all” […] The post I Wish We Would Stop Saying “You Can Have It All” appeared first on Boodaism.

Today as I was spending time with an article I wrote called 4 Relationship Lessons From 4 Years of Marriage and I had a scary and exciting thought. I would totally do that again. That’s not to say I would fall in love with Paula (my ex-wife) again, but if the circumstances were right, I’d happily […] The post I Would Fall In Love With My Ex-Wife Again In A Heartbeat appeared first on Boodaism.