We’re Shiv and Dave, hosts of the All of You Podcast! A few years and one too many fights ago, our relationship led us on our own personal journeys toward self awareness, healing, and personal growth. The more we healed, the better we started showing up not just in our relationship, but in the workplace, in our friendships, with our family, and most importantly for ourselves. In the wise words of Drake, we have some real “started from the bottom now we here†stories to share with you…except we don’t believe we’re “here†yet. This podcast is rolling back the curtain to the innerwork we are doing and will likely always be doing since we’re really just a couple of works in progress. Our hope is that in sharing our raw and vulnerable truths, others will be inspired, feel seen, and will want to pursue growth and healing in their own lives. We’re driven by the belief that as each person heals, the collective heals and that’s how we make this world a more beautiful and loving place.
In this deeply personal episode, Dave opens up about something 50% of people face but rarely feel safe enough to unpack out loud: rebuilding your life after divorce. Dave gets raw and real as he shares what life looked like nearly six years ago, from the state of his mental health to what he wishes he could tell his past self during that painful season. We explore: What he regrets (and doesn't) from those early months How he knew when he was ready to date again What helped him heal and find clarity How he supported his kids through the transition And the intentional things he now does in our relationship to keep us strong Whether you're navigating divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or just curious about what it really takes to rebuild and love again, this episode is full of insight, tenderness, and hope. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
Relationships aren't defined by how well we avoid conflict—but by how we come back together after it. In this episode, we dive into the art of repair—what it really means to repair after disconnection, conflict, or misunderstanding. We talk about why repair is so essential for trust and intimacy, why so many of us never learned how to do it, and the common mistakes people make when trying to make things right. We also share tools, real-life examples, and reflective questions to help you navigate the messy, vulnerable, and beautiful process of repair—whether it's with a partner, friend, child, or even yourself. If you've ever wondered how to reconnect after a rupture, this one's for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
In this honest and vulnerable episode, we're getting real about something that affects every relationship: expressing your needs without slipping into blame or criticism. We even rated each other (yep!)—Shiv gave Dave a score on how well he expresses his needs, and we unpack what makes this so challenging for both of us. Spoiler: the hardest part isn't always the communication…it's figuring out what you actually need in the first place. When we can't express our needs, they go unmet—and that quiet disconnection builds resentment, shuts down intimacy, and keeps us from showing up as the partners we truly want to be. We also dive into why how we ask matters just as much as what we ask for—because the energy behind our words can make it easier or harder for our partner to hear us without taking it personally. And what's fascinating is that our bodies often give us subtle cues when our needs aren't being met; learning to check in with ourselves, to notice that tightening in the chest or that knot in the stomach, takes practice—and many of us were never taught to do it consciously. In this episode, we share the tools and awareness we've developed to lean into those body cues, get clear on our needs, and speak them with honesty and compassion—so we can finally break the cycle of unmet expectations and create deeper connection. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
In this episode, we talk about a tender kind of grief that often goes unspoken — the grief of a life that didn't happen. The future you imagined, the timeline you were hoping for, the version of your story that never came to be. Whether it's a relationship that ended, a vision for your future that will never come to be, or a season that didn't unfold the way you thought it would, this kind of loss is real — even if it's invisible. And yet, so often, it's not validated by the world around us. We explore what it means to hold space for that grief. To acknowledge the ache of things like not becoming a parent, your retirement plan ending with your relationship ending, or navigating the lonely stretch between what you hoped for and where you are now. Grief isn't just about losing what you had — it's also about mourning what you didn't. And in naming it, we begin to honor it. We begin to heal. If you've ever felt a quiet sadness about the path you didn't take, or the version of your life you thought you'd be living by now, this conversation is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
In this deeply honest and inspiring episode, we sit down with Tanner Orel—viral content creator and author of the thrilling dragon fantasy series Titan's Nest.We dive into what it's like to navigate the pit of despair, live with depression, and how anxiety can quietly become a safety blanket that holds us back. Tanner also opens up about the struggle to celebrate wins and find contentment when you're not yet where you want to be. I f you've ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or quietly beat yourself up for not being “there” yet—this episode is for you. Come for the vulnerability, stay for the metaphors and grounded wisdom. Can't get enough of Tanner? He can be found on Instagram and Tiktok at @t.d.orel_author and his book Titan's nest is available at all major retailers. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Click to Subscribe on Youtube ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
Love isn't always what it seems. In this episode, we dive into the dark side of love — where emotional abuse, retaliation, and control can be mistaken for passion or commitment. If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that felt like love on the surface but left you feeling anxious, unseen, or constantly on edge, you're not alone. We're unpacking how love can become distorted… and what real love actually looks like beneath the surface. Whether you're healing from a toxic dynamic, questioning your relationship, or simply trying to love better — this conversation is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
What's the difference between real love and just being caught up in the romance? In this episode, we dive into the distinction between deep, lasting love and the sparkly thrill of infatuation or lust. We talk about the experience of falling in love, the challenges of modern relationships, and even touch on the “Peter Pan Syndrome” — when emotional immaturity gets in the way of connection. Tune in for an honest, insightful convo that will have you reflecting on your own relationship patterns and what love really means to you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
In today's episode, we're diving into something that we all do at times — the blame game. We're breaking down why we're so quick to blame others, how it can sneakily keep us stuck, and why it's one of the biggest blocks to real growth and connection. Shiv shares why blaming feels easier in the moment but ultimately holds us back from healing, how to spot when you're stuck in a blame cycle, and what to do instead. We also talk about how taking ownership (with compassion) can change your relationships — and your life. If you're ready to stop pointing fingers and start creating the kind of growth and connection you actually want, this episode is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
The way you speak to yourself shapes everything—your confidence, your relationships, your choices, your entire life. In this heartfelt episode, Shiv and Dave dive deep into the lifelong conversation we all have with ourselves. They open up about their own inner dialogues, how self-talk has impacted their journeys, and what they've done to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion. If you've ever struggled with that voice in your head, this one's for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com
In this episode, Shiv and Dave get real about their journeys with emotional intelligence—aka tuning into the feelings in our bodies (not just thinking our way through life). They share how they've each learned to connect more deeply with their emotions, what it's looked like in their relationship, and why it's been a total game-changer. Dave even takes it a step further by nicknaming his tougher emotions (yes, really), and introduces us to the little crew he carries around inside. It's honest, funny, and deeply human. If you've ever wondered how to better understand what you're feeling—or why that even matters—this one's for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: hello@allofyoupodcast.com
It's been a whole year of showing up, learning, growing, and hitting record. In this special anniversary episode, Shiv and Dave share a life update and reflect on everything that's changed over the past year—personally, professionally, and in their relationship. They also open up about the biggest lessons podcasting has taught them and what they never saw coming. Whether you've been here from day one or you're just joining the journey, they're grateful you're here. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Emotional connection is at the heart of every meaningful relationship. In this episode, Shiv and Dave explore what it truly means, when we feel most connected, and how it shapes their own relationship. Tune in for an honest, insightful, and heartfelt conversation! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Stress is inevitable, but how we handle it makes all the difference. In this episode, we open up about some of the most stressful moments in our lives—the ones that pushed us to our limits—and how we navigated them. We share what worked, what didn't, and the mindset shifts that helped us regain control. Plus, we dive into practical ways to manage stress so it doesn't manage you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
As it turns out, Shiv and Dave weren't quite done discussing denial after last week's episode. While last week dove into how to help someone who is in denial, this week they cover denial through the lens of someone that is in it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
How often have you thought, 'Wow, that person is in denial?' Probably more times than you've thought, 'I'm in denial.' It's always easier to see in others than in ourselves. In this week's episode, we explore why denial happens and how to help someone face reality—without pushing them away. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Did Shiv convince Dave to dive into the Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni saga this week? Yes, she did! What started as a lighthearted take on celebrity drama ended with a deep conversation about trust in relationships—plus, Dave's surprising take on Ryan Reynolds. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
This week we are joined by our good friend Naush. He's a men's coach, breathwork facilitator, and lover of all things movement and wellness. Tune in as he shares his healing journey, relationship lessons, and how he got stuck during the covid lockdown with his grandma in India, which turned into an unexpected journey in healing. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
This week, Shiv and Dave are getting back to the basics of healing—the real, deep kind. They're breaking down why true change starts with you, how your triggers are actually pointing you to the wounds that need healing, and why holding onto your power is everything. If you're ready to do the inner work and level up, this one's for you! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
We're all a little weird in our own way, but how comfortable we are showing our weirdness to the world varies. In this episode Shiv and Dave share the ways they are comfortable being weird, the ways they aren't and tips on how to reveal your authentically weird self. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
This week we're joined by BC Serna. He's been a mentor, friend, fellow coach, and one of the most authentic voices in the healing space on social media. We discuss masculine and feminine energy, relationships, embodiment, and what it's like putting yourself out there online. We loved this conversation with BC and hope you do as well! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
What was intended as an episode on the importance of authenticity turned into Shiv and Dave being really authentic about where they are at and how they are doing, because sometimes we need someone to just go first. This episode is a window into their current struggles and an invitation for you to join them in becoming your most authentic self. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
When it comes to responsibilities managing a household we want it to be 50/50 all the time, but the reality is it's challenging to measure and the constant keeping score can add to the stress and lead to conflict. In this episode Shiv and Dave share their struggles with this and Dave expounds on his belief that this is all a trap! Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
The journey of self growth and healing is filled with daunting obstacles, challenges, some highs and a lot of lows. It takes courage and strength to be in the pursuit of the best version of yourself. With growth it is often two steps forward and one step back, but when we are taking that step back it's hard to not be critical of ourselves. This is where the importance of self compassion comes in. In this episode we discuss how giving ourselves compassion is essential on the journey to healing and how it can have a powerful impact when we extend it to others. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Resentment, it's the ultimate connection killer. In this week's episode Shiv and Dave share times they have harbored resentment in their relationship and how easy it is to let little bricks of resentment turn into a massive wall where they can no longer see each other. Tune in as they explain how through curiosity and commitment to seeing each other they have learned how to break the resentment wall down. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Tune in for another episode that Shiv swore she would never do, talk about faith and religion. While Shiv and Dave were both raised in the Christian church, their faith journeys are far from simple and they have both deeply wrestled with what they believe. From religious trauma to deconstruction to how they listen to God, this episode shares a new side of Shiv and Dave. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Allofyoupodcast@gmail.com
Get a little philosophical with us this week as we discuss what we believe red flags are. Whether you are newly dating or have been with your partner for 20 years and are just starting to see the red flags in your relationship, this episode dives into ways to talk to your partner as well as keep yourself safe.
Yep, we went there. In this week's episode we dive into a topic that's often taboo to talk about, but is so central to connection: sex and intimacy. Dave shares his journey of unlearning the scripts he was handed growing up about sex and gets candid about how he healed and shifted his mindset in order to create a foundation of trust in their relationship that ultimately led to a better sex life or as Dave would call it meal sex instead of ice cream sex. Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner, unsatisfied in your sex life, or simply curious about how healing can elevate your connection, this episode is for you.
Changing can feel like a death of your ego and is often so uncomfortable that it feels like it's wrong. In this episode Shiv details the ways she has changed over the last year and how she was able to tell if she was changing into a more authentic version of herself or not. When we grow it is not always accepted by those around us, tune in to hear how to overcome others perceptions of you.
This week, Shiv and Dave open up about their personal experiences battling depression and share their perspective on what they believe depression is. Dave shares his holistic point of view on healing from depression and goes into detail on how he healed.
Getting married a second time can bring up a flood of emotions, fears, and doubts. In this episode, Dave opens up about the personal blocks and anxieties he faced as he prepared to take this step again. Shiv shares her own vulnerable journey, navigating the complexities of marrying someone with children and the inner work it took to build trust and feel ready to say "I do." Together, they explore the challenges of blending their lives and families, offering hope and inspiration for others on a similar path.
It goes without question that our parents and caregivers make a lasting impact in shaping who we become. This episode explores the impact of fathers who choose to not be present in their child's life physically or who might be physically present, but emotionally absent. Dave gets personal about the wounds that he has had to heal and the journey to healing them.
Politics is a highly triggering topic—one that can divide families and prevent friends from showing up as their authentic selves with one another. In this episode, we draw parallels between managing triggers in relationship conflicts and handling political triggers, with the aim of maintaining healthy relationships even with those who see things differently. In light of the recent election, if you're feeling sensitive, please take care of yourself and feel free to turn this episode off if it becomes too triggering at any point.
We're officially married and ready to let you in on all the learnings and lessons from this wild season! In this episode, we discuss the most important thing we wanted to bring to our wedding day which was the right energy. Tune in to hear the ways we did this well, not so well, and why we think energy is soooo unbelievably important!
Anxiety is an emotion we all feel from time to time. Some of us experience it more often than others, but I think it's safe to say none of us enjoy it. In this episode Shiv and Dave talk about their experience with anxiety and how they choose to move through it.
Arguing with someone who is defensive is exhausting and oftentimes pointless. Being someone who is defensive is harmful to yourself and everyone close to you. This week's episode Shiv and Dave share the ways that defensiveness has hurt their relationship and Shiv details the work that she has done to become less defensive. If you or someone you love struggles with being defensive (wink-wink that's almost all of us) you won't want to miss this one!
If you're anything like me (Shiv here), sometimes you crave your comfort zone like a kid craving their baby blanket. Growth can be incredibly uncomfortable and in this episode we share how we sit with the discomfort…sometimes very well and sometimes not so well. Along with facing discomfort we also share how we handled some recent setbacks and let you in on Dave's most recent breakdown!
When Shiv lost her brother it was traumatic in a very obvious way. However, the lack of compassion and understanding by her teachers after her loss was also traumatic, in an entirely different way. Tune in to learn about how our experiences imprint onto us and how bottling emotions can affect you. This episode is both an invitation and a warning for you to reflect back on your own school experience and how it may have affected you.
Everyone has a different definition of success, in this episode Shiv and Dave define what it means to them and the lengths they will go to achieve their vision of success.
We all have insecurities because we have all been wounded. In this week's episode Shiv and Dave talk about how to heal from insecurities and how to navigate insecurities in a relationship. Is it your job to heal your insecurity or your partner's job to cater to it? Tune in to find out our hot take on this!
This week's episode shines a light on how shifting your mindset to one of abundance versus scarcity will actually bring you more. Shiv and Dave share how having an abundance mindset was not something they always have had, but how this change has radically impacted their lives and they feel more blessed because of it. Oh and there is also a wild tangent on how this affects the dating scene, buckle up!
When we don't forgive, resentment builds. In this week's episode Dave takes us on a deeply insightful and personal journey into how and why he has learned to forgive. We dive into how resentment is created in relationships, how it keeps us from connecting and how forgiveness can release our mental tension in order to feel lighter.
Shiv found herself level 10 triggered after reading an instagram comment and this episode is peeling back the curtain on how she used her trigger as an opportunity to heal and set boundaries to keep her peace. While others' feedback can be incredibly helpful in order to mirror our blindspots to us, it's only helpful when we deeply trust the person providing the feedback. Dave shares how he discerns which mirrors he trusts and the importance of those mirrors in his life.
In this episode, Shiv and Dave are joined by Camille Cook, host of the (Un)Fulfilled Podcast for an important conversation on how to find fulfillment. We each share parts of our stories that we regret, how we started doing innerwork to begin living a more aligned life, the importance of listening to your intuition and how to move beyond discomfort to get the life you want. (Un)Fulfilled Podcast can be found here: https://open.spotify.com/show/7pTkb9QoFa5H8Jdl2x5Scj?si=3c1b115840c84b4b
We all struggle with trying to be perfect at times, but for some of us it can feel much more debilitating. Especially for Shiv, who opens up about the ways that her perfectionism has held her back. This episode highlights the struggles of being a perfectionist and how to approach yourself with compassion when stuck in a cycle of perfectionism in order to overcome it.
This week Shiv and Dave dive into how learning to regulate their nervous system has helped them make better decisions, feel better in their lives, and has improved how they parent. They share the tools that they use that are simple to integrate into everyday life along with sharing their thoughts on attachment styles!
Things get personal in this episode, Dave and Shiv share updates on recent life decisions and how they make decisions in alignment with their values. Even when we think we know what our values are, it's still easy to become double minded and make decisions that are out of alignment. Shiv opens up about past decisions she made that she wouldn't make now.
Warning: If you have high expectations for others this episode could be triggering, but with an open heart and mind it could also be just what you need. Tune in as Shiv and Dave discuss how to achieve mental peace by having low expectations and watch out for the unexpected twist as Dave throws the 5 love languages under the bus!
I talk to myself and no I'm not crazy, you do it too. We all talk to ourselves and in this episode we dive into the impact our self talk has on our reality. We share thoughts that have hurt us in the past, thoughts that kept us stuck, and how we have changed our thoughts in order to have more peace and live in alignment. In order to change your thoughts, you have to become the watcher of your thoughts and in this episode we teach how to start practicing this!
If I could heal the world of just one thing, it would be shame. Most roads of pain lead back to shame and we go down many of those roads in this episode along with sharing stories of ways we have experienced and passed on shame to others. We mention a book called Healing the Shame that Binds you by John Bradshaw in this episode. I highly recommend reading it!
Inspired by a trip to Shiv's parents house, this episode takes you through the twists and turns of how to come back to the person you are deep within before things outside of you, shaped you. Shiv shares the blocks that she has had to work through on her journey that kept her from beginning to heal and how she has changed her perspective on views that were once deeply held within her. Healing isn't linear and everyone's journey will look different, but our hope is that this episode resonates with you wherever you're currently at.
We live and breathe all things mental health and healing so when it comes to finding and fixing our patterns, we are always on the hunt. With that said, it's humbling to fall back into past patterns and in this episode we open up about how that happened this week. The pattern we fell into was one of major codependence and we dive into what that looks like. If you have ever felt like you aren't okay if someone else isn't okay then this is the episode for you!
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