LetGo Hello: Fulfillment | Courage | Human Behavior | Mindfulness | Connection | Becoming more Influential

This episode is part of a three part series exploring growing your potential.  This one is about the power of community.   LetGo Hello: Homeostasis for Your Life.   Learn the things they should have taught you in school.  It’s not more cogs the world needs, but rather more people who will choose to lives in an intentional, meaningful and collaborative way.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, provocative, and noteworthy people to get their perspective on a life well lived.  Catch weekly episodes on your favorite podcast app.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   Join us at:  www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey.   

This episode is part of a three part series exploring growing your potential.  This one is about the magic piece that results are made of.   LetGo Hello: Homeostasis for Your Life.   Learn the things they should have taught you in school.  It’s not more cogs the world needs, but rather more people who will choose to lives in an intentional, meaningful and collaborative way.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, provocative, and noteworthy people to get their perspective on a life well lived.  Catch weekly episodes on your favorite podcast app.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   Join us at:  www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

This episode is part of a three part series exploring growing your potential.  This one is about comfort and pushing beyond.   LetGo Hello: Homeostasis for Your Life.   Learn the things they should have taught you in school.  It’s not more cogs the world needs, but rather more people who will choose to lives in an intentional, meaningful and collaborative way.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, provocative, and noteworthy people to get their perspective on a life well lived.  Catch weekly episodes on your favorite podcast app.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   Join us at:  www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

Christy Largent is back with a brief episode on building speaking skills.    Christy is the opportunity expert and corporate keynote speaker.  You can find her online here:   christylargent.com   …and you can visit her speaking page here:    http://christylargent.com/speaking   On the show, the following resources are mentioned:   Grant Baldwin’s Speaker Lab Ken Davis’s material Toastmasters National Speakers Association   \\////   LetGo Hello: Homeostasis for Your Life.   Learn the things they should have taught you in school.  It’s not more cogs the world needs, but rather more people who will choose to live in an intentional, meaningful and collaborative way.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, provocative, and noteworthy people for their perspective on a life well lived.    Catch weekly episodes on your favorite podcast app.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   Join us at:  www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

On this episode, we’ll explore homeostasis for your life.  I join forces with my better half and up and coming podcast personality Krysten Stilwell.  This was a fun one full of knowledge nuggets and just some plain old good advice.    LetGo Hello: Homeostasis for Your Life.   Learn the things they should have taught you in school.  It’s not more cogs the world needs, but rather more people who will choose to lives in an intentional, meaningful and collaborative way.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, provocative, and noteworthy people to get their perspective on a life well lived.  Catch weekly episodes on your favorite podcast app.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   Join us at:  www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

020 Build an Opportunity Mindset with Christy Largent   “Don’t compare your starting point with someone else’s end point.”   Christy Largent is a Corporate Keynote Speaker who’s passion is to help people Create Positive Connections and Cultivate Purposeful Living.  She has created a program around a concept she calls “The Opportunity Mindset”.   This is a loose conversation, but it’s packed with value.  To learn more about Christy, or for information on booking her to speak, visit:   http://www.christylargent.com/   \\\\//////// LetGo Hello This is YOUR journey. ////////\\\\   LetGo Hello is here to support your journey.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big-picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   We delve into topics including, courage, purpose, personal finance, human behavior, connection, communication, and influence.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

D. Edward is with us today.  On the show, we cover a variety of topics.  He talks about his latest album “Love Is”, he shares his 70/30 rule for building and engaging with your fanbase on social media, and he shares strategies for maximizing your time at events and conferences.   D.Edward started his career as a percussionist and traveled with the likes of Con Funk Shun and others.  He’s stepped out into the spotlight as a frontman with his solo career and is currently working on his third album.  His music has a deep laid-back soulful sound.  Check it out!   You can find him on the web at http://dedwardmusic.com/.   \\\\//////// LetGo Hello This is YOUR journey. ////////\\\\   What if your curiosity could connect you with your deepest desires?  What if you had the courage to be the person your dreams require you to be. LetGo Hello is here to support your journey.   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big-picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   The LetGo Hello blog is a repository of information to support your journey toward a more free and well-lived life.   We delve into topics including, courage, purpose, personal finance, human behavior, connection, communication, and influence.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

Storytelling is a tool that is innately human.  Story telling has been part of the human experience as far back as recorded history goes, and most likely continues back through the dawn of man.    The intriguing thing is that the themes within the stories we tell tend to be very common and.  The mythology of today is similar to the mythology of yesterday, just updated.    Here we explore storytelling.   \\\\//////// LetGo Hello is here to support your journey. ////////\\\\   On the LetGo Hello podcast, your host Mark Stilwell, interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.  Links to new episodes will be provided as they're released.   The LetGo Hello blog is a repository of information to support your journey toward a more free and well-lived life.   We delve into topics including, courage, purpose, personal finance, human behavior, connection, communication, and influence.   Pick up your FREE guide “3 Ways to Build a Happier Life” and check us out on the web at:   www.letgohello.com       Facebook and Twitter:   /LetGoHello   @LetGoHello       Let go of what’s been holding you back…this is YOUR journey. 

Nick’s mission is to teach part-time entrepreneurs 1: strategies for building a business 2: and also to highlight opportunities to make extra money in their spare time.    He’s also recently released a book called: “Buy Buttons: the fast track strategy to make extra money and start a business in your spare time.”   Nick answers the number one question Entrepreneurs ask, as well as the question they SHOULD be asking…   We cover time management, thoughts on money, and how to generate ideas.    He suggests that the best place to start, is just to start.  So many people are waiting for the perfect idea and the perfect plan.  Spoiler alert, it does not exist.  Just begin.   We also discus different side hustles, and how people are making money online these days.  Tune in for some of the best from Nick Loper!   Check him out at Side Hustle Nation:   www.sidehustlenation.com   ……   LetGo Hello is here to support your journey.    Your host Mark Stilwell interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   We delve into topics including, courage, purpose, personal finance, human behavior, mindfulness, connection, communication, and becoming more influential.   Check us out on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter: /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…because this is YOUR journey.

This is a shorty to get you through till next week when I interview Nick Loper of Side Hustle Nation.  If you have any interest in earning income on the side, or starting something outside of your nine to five that you’re passionate about, you won’t want to miss that show.  It’s going up Tuesday, November, 29th. This episode is about the dream stealer that stops many of potential greats before they even get the ball rolling.  Called up in this episode are Jeff Olson for some of his wit, and Les Brown for an example of how our beliefs about ourselves can keep us from even trying. Remember, you don’t need to be responsible for other people’s opinions of you.   ……   LetGo Hello is here to support your journey.    Your host Mark Stilwell interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   Check us out on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter: /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…because this is YOUR journey.

James Rapson is back on the show to do a deep dive on a chapter from his book.      This time we focus our discussion on the practices of the warrior.  We’re NOT talking about violence.  Instead, we talk about the courage that comes from restraint, following your heart and your ethic, and holding empathy for yourself as you begin walking the warrior path.   Check out his book, that he wrote with his longtime friend Craig English: “Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice”   …then visit his site to get more information on his 1:1 coaching.  You can find him here: http://www.jamesrapson.com   ……   LetGo Hello is here to support your journey.    Your host Mark Stilwell interviews thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people, across disciplines to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   Check us out on the web at: http://www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter: /LetGoHello @LetGoHello   Let go of what’s been holding you back…because this is YOUR journey.  

014 Imagine your Passion as your Playground with David Lew   David Lew is an insightful and hilarious comedian.  Lew blends life events into funny and inspiring material.  Prepare yourself for this one because it is a bit out of the norm and intended for a mature audience only.    Hang on while we take a trip through his wires We explore some of his inspirations from boy bands, RnB, Wrestling, his wife and daughter; and how he’s adjusting to fatherhood and life as a cancer survivor.    Reach out to him and find out where he’ll be next here: http://www.facebook.com/iheartdavidlew/   ||||||||||||||   Have you paused your grinding long enough to find an ache that something is missing.  Does it feel like the more you chase what you think you want, the more it tends to elude you.  You don’t need to accept that feeling as just another part of life.   Join the journey as we interview thought leaders, across domains to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a fulfilling life.   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative, and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment.   Join us, and remember…your journey begins with your joy.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Facebook and Twitter: @LetgoHello   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

This short episode is a take on blending reach-goals and shorter milestones.  A story about running a half marathon weaves the two together.  There’s a twist at the end.   |||||||   At LetGo Hello, we’re interested in building courage and community.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

Rob Adams is the Assistant Superintendent for one of the largest school districts in the North State area.  Join us as we discuss grit and mindset in the school system, Common Core, and leadership.  You can find Rob’s blog at: http://reddingschools.net/curriculum/    His latest blog on Grit can be found here:   http://reddingschools.net/2016/10/05/why-good-ideas-have-a-hard-time-spreading-and-a-little-bit-of-basketball/   |||||||   At LetGo Hello, we’re interested in building courage and community.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

All of the things that you believe you need in order to get started are probably not as necessary as you think.   You’ll learn as you go   Many people will focus on researching and researching with the thought that they will build when they have all the data/knowledge/skill etc.  the truth is that that time never comes.    It’s a form of stalling.   My lovely and talented wife (who by the way I’ve found is awesome with voiceovers!  She’s the voice on the LetGo Hello intro and outdo)…she is always reminding me of this.  I can easily analyze till I’m paralyzed.  I can easily busy myself on things that make little or no difference to the outcome.  Jim Rohn always talked about people who major in minors.  We spend our time on things that make little difference.  Do we really need to check our email 20 times in a day?  Why not just twice…and definitely  after you’ve knocked out a big agenda item.   Austin’s Kleon’s short read “Show Your Work”  Not mentioned, but check it out…   Have Faith We grow in the process as we put our work out there.  We learn by doing…   Before I started my blog, my thoughts circled around a couple nebulous ideas.  I could begin to articulate them but the ideas felt half stuck.  It wasn’t until I actually wrote them down…and then uploaded them onto the blog (opening them up to an actual audience, that they began to make more sense…and more importantly…free up my thoughts and energy to not only further develop those ideas, but also make room for more ideas.  It seems the more I shared, the more room I had.  In addition, that’s where things started coming my way.  Most of the guests   On this podcast, with every episode that I release, I’m further refining my voice and my focus.  I get so nervous before every interview, and sometimes during…  I am embarrassed by my past releases, and I’m working to get better with every one.  That’s part of the process, I’m finding and developing my voice as I go.  My focus tightens up with everything I share.  I really appreciate all of the feedback that I’ve received from the listeners out there as the podcast evolves.    Reid Hoffman Linkedin “If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you’ve launched too late.”   2. the resources will appear when you need them   Field of dreams… If you build it they will come.  This is a cry for action.  If there is something in you to create, then do something about it TODAY as a step toward it.  Do it today…a small step.  just get the ball rolling.  no more imaging.  Don't let today be like the other todays that have passed, and then you find yourself at 40 wondering where all the time went.  Just Begin.   Just begin.  Just begin.   I believe the concept can be turned around into an enlightened self interest, the more we give, the more comes back.  That’s not what it’s about though.  It’s all about the community that we develop as we embark on our journey.  James Rapson (who I’ve interviewed on this show) said something that’s stuck with me.  He said:  The people who you are looking for…are also looking for you.  Many of the people I’ve come into contact with that a have been helpful in someway are a result of action I’d taken.   Remember, just begin, and the resources you need will come along the way.  Also, you’ll grow in the process.    |||||||||||   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

This episode is about the relativity of money. This thought came from a recent conversation I had with Leisa Peterson of WealthClinic.com, but we were talking about scarcity mindset.  We were talking about how often, there never seems to be enough money no matter how much we make.  Following that conversation, I thought some more about it.  No matter how much money I’ve earned, I’ve always been able to live relatively comfortably within my means.  I haven’t always been able to buy all the things I’ve wanted, or travel wherever or whenever, but I feel like I’ve been pretty lucky.  Whenever I’ve come into extra money though, it seems that my lifestyle would quickly absorb that extra income. The other side is also true.  When I’ve earned less, my lifestyle seemed to automatically adjust to compensate for having less money coming in.  Three examples come to mind immediately. First, When I took a job as a teacher, I took roughly a $10,000 pay cut from what I was earning in the corporate sector.  Oddly, I needed more education to become a teacher too.  Go figure.  That’s how we currently value education in our country.  Maybe that will change.  I became a teacher because I wanted to help students see different ways of solving problems.  I wanted to teach them to become better consumers of information, and I wanted to help to instill a lifelong love of learning.  As justified, the pay-cut was worth it.  Well, I hardly noticed the cut, oddly enough.  Everything I needed was still taken care of.  Caution:  don’t set your lifestyle standards so high that you can’t afford breathing room in your budget… The second example came later when I went through my divorce.  My ex wife made about $15k more than me per year, and we were living with two incomes.  Every month, we spent what we earned (we hadn’t mastered saving quite yet.  We always had enough, but we cut it close every month.  Toward the end of our relationship, I ran an experiment and began funneling $500 every month into a savings account.  I assured my ex that it would be there if we ever needed to tap into it.  Oddly enough, once it was pulled out of the account every month, we never needed it.  It was a classic situation of out of sight outa' mind… A third example:  Well, things eventually didn’t work out for us and I ended up moving out.  I was now living with my kids on less than half of our income as compared to when I was married.  The expenses when I was the sole earner (on less than half of what we were pulling in before were’t all too different.  The biggest difference was that I was saving $250 in rent because I didn’t need as big of a place.  Anyway, although I was very cautious about spending at first, I didn’t notice much of a difference in the amount of money at the end of every month.  I was even able to start putting aside 10% of my income without much of a hit.  The point is that, within reason, our income vs expenditures is relative.  We all have wants, and those wants will always stretch beyond what we can afford.  If we are making more money, we tend to spend more and if we make less money, we tend to spend less.    Maybe mindset has something to do with it as well.  No matter what, I’ve always had the view that I’d have enough and that I’d be OK.  The universe will provide…    The trick is to recognize this tendency and then to always pay yourself first.  Jim Rohn, my unofficial mentor talked about the book “The Richest Man in Babylon.  When I first heard him talk about it, I went out and got that book.  It’s so simple, yet so profound.  George S. Clason talks about paying yourself first from all of your earnings and using that money to work for you in providing for your future. Remember that we truly do live in abundance if we are willing to see things from that perspective.  Pay yourself first and you probably won’t even notice you’re living on less.  —————— At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care. On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life. Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life. Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness. Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

Leisa Peterson is a business and money coach and also the founder of WealthClinic.   Her mission at WealthClinic includes detailing the value of having greater mindfulness in money relationships.   Her work is a complimentary blend between spirituality and finance.   On this episode, we talk about relationships with money, and her work in supporting her clients while they break their relationship patterns surrounding money.    We talk about awareness, her 7 stages of Scarcity and 7 stages of abundance, why you need 3 budgets, and how to begin to shift your mindset around our money troubles.   You can find more information at www.wealthclinic.com   You can reach her at lpeterson@wealthclinic.com   ——————   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

Bernie Kelly is a modern day Leonardo Da Vinci.  He’s a science teacher, writer, seeker, Karate instructor/dojo founder, one-time high-ranking California State Militia officer, wildcraft and wild foods/medicinal plant dabbler, family man, and all around great guy.  Listen and see why I consider him to be in the realm of   Listen in as we explore topics ranging from the quest of finding identity, the practice of self reliance, directions in education   This interview is a philosophic freediving experience, covering a few different areas that could all vary well be episodes in themselves.   Shoot me an email and Let me know if there is any interest in having him back on the show to dive deeper into any of the areas discussed.   ——————   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we think we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   Find us on the web at: www.letgohello.com   Reach out to Mark at: mark@letgohello.com

This is episode 7 with Dean Bokhari…the man behind the Meaningful Movement.   Dean Bokhari is highly steeped in personal development, so I was eager to pick his brain.  Dean is a masterful storyteller, so I think you’ll find his delivery and the concepts discussed both engaging and easy to relate to.  On this episode we talk about his top 5 books that he’d recommend for someone starting out.  We also talk about the power of thought, Discipline, Action, and kids soccer!  He talks about his own personal journey as he discovered a new way to live that revolutionized every aspect of his life.   Dean Bokhari is passionate about personal development, in fact, he’s created a company around personal development called GetFlashNotes.com where he condenses down personal development books in the areas of business, finance and life into bite sized chunks.  He releases the content in both audio and written formats.  The bonus is that you can consume a large breadth of work in a short span of time.  It’s really a great way for the busy person who in interested in building their skills.    Dean also has a podcast related to personal growth and a blog dedicated to the same topic at Meaningful HQ.   -----------------   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   More information can be found at:   www.letgohello.com

The first thing we need to do to find success is to stop looking for it.  The expression that “Success is a Journey, not a destination” has become so overly used and cliche that I hesitate to suggest it’s importance.  I was inspired the first time I heard it, but being as slow as I am to pick up on the subtleties, it’s taken over twenty years to really begin to understand what it means.  Yes, we should enjoy the journey on the way to our destination…yes, we’re often disappointed shortly after we get something we’ve been wanting, so we should enjoy the journey.  That is true, but it’s occurred to me more recently, as I’ve been starting to look at my habits and examine their consequences, that these explanations fall short.   I’m learning that the quotation above is really hinting at mindfulness.   Mindfulness is a state of being, not a state of becoming.  Mindfulness, to me, most simply means that we let go of the the trappings of regret and anxiety.  Our regrets come from the way we think about the past.  I’m not suggesting that consequences (contrived or natural) are bad or to be ignored.  What I am suggesting is that our past doesn’t have to define us.   Anxieties often come from self doubt regarding how we will perform in the future.  Anxiety sits on the shoulders of that little voice that tells us we’re not smart enough, sexy enough, talented enough strong enough, etc.  This is a voice that I continue to struggle with today.  It’s one of the reasons I’ve created this website.   Relating these ideas to the quotation “Success is a journey, not a destination”, suggests that we need to change our definition of success.  We need to be very careful with the assumption that happiness will come once we reach our goal.  The goal in fact is secondary in our development.  Goals are targets.  As a middle school Resource teacher I’ve written and worked toward goals for a living.  It’s so easy to get hung up on last year and next year.  One of the most common things I hear parents say in this regard is:  “I’m worried that [she’s] not going to be ready for high school.”  This fear keeps us pinned to a limited now.  It’s easy to doubt our potential and let our worries dictate how far we reach.   The truth is, we have every thing we need right here and right now, to be happy in this moment.  We don’t need to let our regrets from the past or the worries about the future hold our dreams hostage anymore.  The “magic’ comes when we let go and embrace the moment.  We can live fulfilled right now.  The paradox is that it won’t come later until we find it now.   Success is really a state of being that can begin any time we choose.  When I was in high school, there was an Army slogan that ran constantly on TV.  It said: “Be, all that you can be…”  Hidden in that message is mindfulness.  It didn’t say: Become all that you can become.  Some marketing genius nailed it.  There was a time when I considered joining the Army.  I chose college instead…and then traveled on my own rather than through the armed forces.   Success is not about becoming.  Success is about being.  We must look at the person we want to become and be that now, to scale.  We must be disciplined when the amounts are small.  The only way to become, is to start being.  We can only have the skills and abilities of “success” by practicing the skills and abilities of success now, in this moment.  We can only become fulfilled (arguably another way to look at success) if we find fulfillment in the moment.  Now is really all the time we have.   -----------------   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   More information can be found at:   www.letgohello.com

Brian is the baddest assed person I’ve ever met.  He is a movement instructor who specializes in natural primitive movement technique and is a proponent of the paleo diet.  He works with his clients on their health goals while engaging in natural movements within a natural environment.   I had the honor of going through an introductory exploration of some of his techniques and processes.  The woods near my house served as our gym, and the fallen trees, grassy pastures and boulders filled in for our equipment.  After my punishment in the 110 degree Redding heat, we sat down in the wilds for a slightly winded, but informative interview about his philosophies on incorporating movement into everything we do.   Thrival Life considers the health of the whole person and how to maintain a fully alive lifestyle. Whether you’re at home, work or on the go, their goal is to help you create and optimize your best life with nutrition, movement, restoration, and community.  The goal is to help you to be ready, capable, and resilient so that you are thriving in your life. Start the adventure of living your life on purpose, today!  Check them out:   www.thrivallife.com   -----------------   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   More information can be found at:   www.letgohello.com

This episode is about the act of engaging in simple disciplines every day in an effort to improve your tolerance and increase your threshold for managing challenges that naturally come to us all.    -----------------   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   More information can be found at:   www.letgohello.com

  In this episode, we dig deep into the difference between niceness and kindness, and we delve into the many pitfalls that people with chronic niceness (like I’ve personally been working through) fall into.  We also discuss several of the 7 practices that James Rapson M.S., LMF (along with his co-author and long-time-friend Craig English) discusses.   James is a veteran therapist and teacher whose writing combines hard-won personal insight with clinical experience and scholarship. He is the co-author of “Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice,” released nationally in April of 2006 (second printing November 2006).   James is the founder of Group of Dads, which offers classes, workshops and groups for fathers.  For more information on the book, or his groups, you may follow the link below.   http://www.anxioustoplease.com/index.html   -----------------   At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care.   On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life.   Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing.  We search for meaning.  We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us.  We can often be left feeing empty   LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment.  Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life.   Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness.   More information can be found at:   www.letgohello.com

This episode is a bit of a departure from the typical interview format, as the shows will sometimes go.  This episode is all about the anxiety that comes from keeping your mind focused on future outcomes, rather than in focusing on what's in front of us.  My own struggles with chronic niceness are discussed as well as how my awareness began to grow around my own insecurities.  As we shine a light on our own insecurities and allow them to inhabit the same space as us (without attempting to push them away or shrink away from them) their power over us weakens.   I talk about how I've recently invited some of my own insecurities in to examine them for what they were.  I get into what I learned in the process.   Awareness, is a key element of growth, and a the surest way to break down personal boundaries.  Join me on the journey.  You can learn more at www.letgohello.com At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care. On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life. Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing. We search for meaning. We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us. We can often be left feeing empty LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment. Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life. Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness. More information can be found at www.letgohello.com

Laura Yates is your relationship and breakup coach, helping you heal from heartbreak.  Visit her Website here: www.laurayates.org Her podcast can be found on iTunes at: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/lets-talk-heartbreak/id1090813996?mt=2 Breakups can be devastating experiences.  On this show Laura talks about her coaching of people who are fresh out of a breakup on reclaiming their own individuality as well as coaching them as they begin dating again.  We discuss perspective shifts required as people go through the grieving process and find their identity, and how to know when a relationship is over.  She talks about common mistakes people make in the process that slow the healing process as well as strategies that can support people as they move on.  We also get into what makes a healthy relationship.  We also delve into business relationships as well. On a personal side, she talks about her thoughts on finding balance...or rather her philosophy on stepping out of balance to accomplish big things in life.  We get into ways she structures her time to work toward personal goals as well as well as her thoughts on following passion and finding your calling. At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care. On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life. Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing. We search for meaning. We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us. We can often be left feeing empty LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment. Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life. Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness. More information can be found at www.letgohello.com

On Monday, September 5th, the LetGo Hello Podcast will go live! The weekly show will DROP on i-Tunes and other audio outlets on Sept. 5th.  On the show, I interview opinion leaders in this space across a variety of disciplines.  We'll be discussing the building blocks that promote a life well lived from the angles of personal development, finance, relationships, communication, health, psychology, behavior, and many more.  We'll be piecing together strategies and philosophies that define a life well lived.  We'll work out ways to attract more abundance, and to live a more fulfilling life.  There will also be shorter intermittent episodes where I share insights that I'm currently discovering or working on. LetGoHello.com has more information, and there you can also subscribe to get more content as it’s released.  There’s also a link to a free guide to help you map out your own transformative journey.  Remember, “Life is either a transformative journey of fulfillment, or a sedentary destination of comfort” Let’s do this!  Let’s work together to become what we need to become so that we can attract what we want to attract.  See you September 5th! At LetGo Hello, we bring value to people who care. On the show, writer, speaker and educator Mark Stilwell, interviews thought leaders, in a variety of areas including psychology, philosophy, health, business, personal finance, relationships, and spirituality, to get a big picture perspective of what it means to live a more fulfilling life. Life tends to keep us busy grinding away until one day we awaken with the ache that something is missing. We search for meaning. We try to fill the holes, but the more we chase what we want, the more it tends to elude us. We can often be left feeing empty LetGo Hello is all about perspective shifts on the transformative journey of fulfillment. Our goal is to connect you with thoughtful, clever, provocative and noteworthy people and ideas in an exploration of fulfillment and how to attract more abundance in life. Join us as we discus ways to find lasting meaning and happiness. More information can be found at www.letgohello.com