Our Secret Spot - The Podcast

In Part 2 of this deep-dive episode, Jess and Lawrence answer real questions from the OSS community about boundaries, consent, rule-breaking, and what really happens when things shift mid-play. We unpack: • What to do when another couple changes the rules during sex• How to handle boundaries being crossed in non-monogamy• Tips for anal and DP (double penetration) done safely• The biggest regrets (if any) about joining the lifestyle• Parenting while owning a sex club• Managing jealousy, reputation and daycare drop-offs• Working with your ex while building a lifestyle business Plus, voice messages and video questions from our extended community — including familiar faces from the lifestyle podcast space. This episode is raw, honest and unfiltered — but always rooted in consent, communication and curiosity. If you’re exploring non-monogamy, swinging, open relationships, or just curious about how real people navigate sex-positive spaces — this one's for you. Sponsors: “Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15)  “Stigma Health” https://www.stigmahealth.com (use promo code: secretspot20) New to the podcast? Don't worry — you can catch up on all 100+ spicy episodes anytime, anywhere. Got a fantasy, story, or sexy prompt you'd love us to read on-air? DM us or drop it in our inbox Instagram (Podcast) Reddit (Podcast) TikTok (Podcast) Facebook (Club) Instagram (Club) X (Club) Our Secret Spot is a multi-award-winning swingers club. Want to join the party IRL? Purchase your tickets here: UPCOMING EVENTS Want to connect with other open-minded folks?Join our Online Member’s Area — where you can share stories, plan meetups, and stay in the loop on all things OSS. Get in touch with us:Email | Phone – 0478 131 769 Love the pod? A 5-star Google review goes a long way. Leave yours [here]. The post Did Swinging Ruin Our Relationship? appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

What happens when curiosity turns into lived experience — and desire reshapes your identity, relationships, and sense of self? In Part 1 of this raw and reflective episode, Jess and Lawrence unpack how sexual desire can both liberate and destabilise. From early curiosity and boundary-blurring moments to the emotional hangovers no one prepares you for, this conversation dives into the grey areas between empowerment, regret, growth, and self-awareness. They explore how desire evolves, the difference between fantasy and reality, and why some experiences leave us feeling more confused than fulfilled — especially when communication, emotional readiness, or self-understanding lag behind sexual exploration. This is an honest, nuanced look at what desire can unlock… and what it can quietly undo. Sponsors: “Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15)  “Stigma Health” https://www.stigmahealth.com (use promo code: secretspot20) New to the podcast? Don't worry — you can catch up on all 100+ spicy episodes anytime, anywhere. Got a fantasy, story, or sexy prompt you'd love us to read on-air? DM us or drop it in our inbox Instagram (Podcast) Reddit (Podcast) TikTok (Podcast) Facebook (Club) Instagram (Club) X (Club) Our Secret Spot is a multi-award-winning swingers club. Want to join the party IRL? Purchase your tickets here: UPCOMING EVENTS Want to connect with other open-minded folks?Join our Online Member’s Area — where you can share stories, plan meetups, and stay in the loop on all things OSS. Get in touch with us:Email | Phone – 0478 131 769 Love the pod? A 5-star Google review goes a long way. Leave yours [here]. The post Did Our Sexual Desires Mess Us Up? appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Midlife used to be framed as the beginning of the sexual slow-down. Less desire. Less energy. Less spark. But what if that story is completely wrong? In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by globally renowned intimacy expert Susan Bratton to unpack what she calls The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance — a powerful phase where confidence deepens, communication sharpens, and pleasure expands in ways younger generations rarely expect. Together, they explore how desire actually evolves with age, why libido isn't meant to be constant, and how understanding arousal as a ladder (not a switch) changes everything. Susan breaks down the science behind expanding orgasmic capacity, the role of blood flow, hormones, and nervous system health, and why many people report the best sex of their lives in their 40s, 50s, and beyond. Susan Bratton Links Website: https://betterlover.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton Sponsors: “Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15)  “Stigma Health” https://www.stigmahealth.com (use promo code: secretspot20) New to the podcast? Don't worry — you can catch up on all 100+ spicy episodes anytime, anywhere. Got a fantasy, story, or sexy prompt you'd love us to read on-air? DM us or drop it in our inbox Instagram (Podcast) Reddit (Podcast) TikTok (Podcast) Facebook (Club) Instagram (Club) X (Club) Our Secret Spot is a multi-award-winning swingers club. Want to join the party IRL? Purchase your tickets here: UPCOMING EVENTS Want to connect with other open-minded folks?Join our Online Member’s Area — where you can share stories, plan meetups, and stay in the loop on all things OSS. Get in touch with us:Email | Phone – 0478 131 769 Love the pod? A 5-star Google review goes a long way. Leave yours [here]. The post The New Midlife Sexual Renaissance – Why Sex Gets Better With Age w/ Susan Bratton (BetterLover) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

In this episode of Swapping Secrets, Jess and Lawrence are joined by Bradford and Angela from the By The By Podcast to unpack the emotional mechanics of jealousy, envy, fear of missing out, and the boundaries that keep open relationships healthy, sexy, and sustainable. Together, they explore why jealousy often has more to do with insecurity than possession, how unmet needs amplify emotional reactions, and why clear boundaries don't restrict freedom — they protect connection. From real-world club experiences to long-term lessons learned across 15 years of ethical non-monogamy, this episode dives into how communication, emotional awareness, and post-play check-ins can transform conflict into growth. The conversation also tackles the crucial difference between rules and boundaries, why boundaries should never be renegotiated mid-moment, and how to communicate limits without shame, control, or killing the vibe. Whether you're new to non-monogamy or deeply experienced, this episode is a masterclass in emotional resilience, consent-driven communication, and why boundaries might just be the sexiest skill you can learn. Bradford & Angela’s links: Website: https://www.bythebi.com Insta: https://www.instagram.com/bythebipodcast FB: https://www.facebook.com/bythebipodcast/ Sponsors: “Flirt” https://flirtadultstore.com.au (use promo code: secret15)  “Stigma Health” https://www.stigmahealth.com (use promo code: secretspot20) New to the podcast? Don't worry — you can catch up on all 100+ spicy episodes anytime, anywhere. Got a fantasy, story, or sexy prompt you'd love us to read on-air? DM us or drop it in our inbox Instagram (Podcast) Reddit (Podcast) TikTok (Podcast) Facebook (Club) Instagram (Club) X (Club) Our Secret Spot is a multi-award-winning swingers club. Want to join the party IRL? Purchase your tickets here: UPCOMING EVENTS Want to connect with other open-minded folks?Join our Online Member’s Area — where you can share stories, plan meetups, and stay in the loop on all things OSS. Get in touch with us:Email | Phone – 0478 131 769 Love the pod? A 5-star Google review goes a long way. Leave yours [here]. The post The Sexiest thing YOU can do is Set a Boundary appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Naughty Christmas Special: Listener Gifts, Wild Stories and OSS Holiday Chaos Naughty Christmas swinger stories are the unofficial love language of the holidays — and OSS has plenty to unwrap.... The post Naughty Christmas Special: Listener Gifts, Wild Stories and OSS Holiday Chaos appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Pleasure Without Permission with Rosie Rees Self-pleasure has quietly shifted from a whispered taboo to a full-blown cultural reclamation — and few people have championed that transformation more powerfully than... The post Pleasure Without Permission with Rosie Rees appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Reading the Signals — When Consent Isn't Clear-Cut Consent is easy when it's a bright, enthusiastic “yes.” But what about the murky moments — the mixed signals, the non-verbal cues,... The post Reading the Signals — When Consent Isn't Clear-Cut appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Swinging Parents: Tackling Stigma and Scheduling Sex Jess and Lawrence pull back the curtain on one of the most real, raw challenges in the lifestyle: how to balance parenting with... The post Swinging Parents: Tackling Stigma and Scheduling Sex appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

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No Rules, Just Love: Redefining Relationships with Lucy Banks (Part 2) Jess and Lawrence are back with Part 2 of the New Relationship Revolution, joined by special guest Lucy Banks... The post No Rules, Just Love: Redefining Relationships with Lucy Banks (Part 2) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

No Rules, Just Love: The New Relationship Revolution (Part 1) Jess and Lawrence return with Part 1 of a two-part special exploring the new relationship revolution. In this episode, they... The post No Rules, Just Love: The New Relationship Revolution (Part 1) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

First-Time Stories, Sexy Starters and Club Newbie Tips Welcome to the brand-new Swapping Secrets podcast — the revamped show from inside Our Secret Spot. Jess and Lawrence are back with... The post First-Time Stories, Sexy Starters and Club Newbie Tips appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

OSS Presents: Our Wildest Secrets and Stories (so far) It's not Episode 101 just yet, but we couldn't resist bringing you a mid-season treat — the juiciest, funniest, and most... The post OSS Presents: Our Wildest Secrets and Stories (so far) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

OSS Presents: Seductive Stories & Erotic Novels — With Natasha Rose It's not Episode 101 (yet), but we're keeping your earbuds warm with a juicy mid-season treat.

OSS 100th Episode: Listener Stories, Spicy Secrets & Voicemails from the Community We've officially hit the big 1-0-0! The OSS 100th episode is a celebration of you – our amazing... The post 100. 100th Episode Celebration! appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

99.5 Some Exciting News! We're coming up on 100 episodes—and we want you to be part of the celebration! In this episode, Jess and Lawrence share some exciting news about... The post 99.5 Some Exciting News! appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

Juiciest June Swingers Club Stories: Fingered at the F*ing Bar Juiciest June swingers club stories don't get much wilder than this. In this episode, Jess and Lawrence share everything that... The post 99. Fingered at the F***ing Bar (Juiciest June Unleashed) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

98: Threesomes, Orgies & First-Timer Feels (feat. Ben & Paige) In episode 98: Threesomes, Orgies & First-Timer Feels (feat. Ben & Paige), Jess and Lawrence chat with OSS newbies Ben and... The post 98: Threesomes, Orgies & First-Timer Feels (feat. Ben & Paige) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

97: Open Legs, Open Invitation: A Newbie Night Sex Story (Moaning May 2025) In Episode 97: Open Legs, Open Invitation: A Newbie Night Tale (Moaning May 2025), Jess and Lawrence...

96. From Curious to Climax: John & Jane Get Dirty In From Curious to Climax: John & Jane Get Dirty, we read a listener-submitted story from a couple's very first...

95. Do You Love Threesomes (March Madness & A** Licking April 2025) In this episode, Jess and Lawrence dive headfirst into the deliciously chaotic world of threesomes. From spontaneous trios... The post 95. Do You Love Threesomes (March Madness & A** Licking April 2025) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

94. Lessons on Love and Life from a Non-Monagamist (feat. Lauren Hayes) In this episode of Our Secret Spot – The Podcast, Lawrence catches up with Lauren Hayes, author of... The post 94. Lessons on Love and Life from a Non-Monagamist (feat. Lauren Hayes) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

93. Get Your Ass to Detention (Frisky February 2025) Jess and Lawrence are back to chat about all the fun of Frisky February! They share the highlights from the school-themed... The post 93. Get Your Ass to Detention (Frisky February 2025) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

92. Hot Nerds – Something a little different. This week, Lawrence and Jess are featured guests on a new and upcoming podcast called Hot Nerds. Tune in while we pull... The post 92. Hot Nerds – Something a little different. appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

91. Prepare To Be Doubled Stuff (Juicy January 2025) In this sizzling episode of Our Secret Spot – The Podcast, Jess and Lawrence dive into the juiciest moments from January... The post 91. Prepare To Be Doubled Stuff (Juicy January 2025) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

90. Debauchery – Sydney's Newest Kink Event (feat. Mistress Anastasia & The Kink Carpenter) Welcome back to Our Secret Spot – The Podcast. Episode 90: Debauchery – Sydney's Newest Kink... The post 90. Debauchery – Sydney's Newest Kink Event (feat. Mistress Anastasia & The Kink Carpenter) appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

89. Thank You for an Amazing 2024 & Delicious December Welcome back to Our Secret Spot – The Podcast. Episode 89: ‘Thank You for an Amazing 2024 & Delicious December'... The post 89. Thank You for an Amazing 2024 & Delicious December appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

88. Conversations to Have Before the Club Welcome back to Our Secret Spot – The Podcast. Episode 88: ‘Conversation to Have Before the Club'   Join Jess and Lawrence as... The post 88. Conversations to Have Before the Club appeared first on Our Secret Spot.

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