Podcasts about better sex

In this episode, we dive into a topic that's often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine.We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensations together and maintain intimacy as needs change over time. Along the way, we also answer some of the most common (and sometimes awkward) questions couples ask: Are intimacy aids only for couples with problems? How do we bring them up without embarrassment? Do they replace closeness, or can they actually bring us closer?A couple of things that shifted our mindset on intimacy aids were setting two simple boundaries: “Does it bring us closer together?” and “Is it only used together?” Framing it this way helped us see these tools not as replacements for intimacy, but as bridges that deepen connection, playfulness, and trust.Whether you're in a brand-new relationship or decades into one, this conversation is all about breaking taboos, normalizing pleasure, and reminding couples that intimacy should be fun, evolving, and deeply connecting.Check out our great vibrating ring and lubricant we discussed on this episode HERE.Check out this great article "Can Using Sex Toys (intimacy aids) Really Make Your Marriage Happier?"If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Your body remembers every touch, every rejection, every moment of connection—even when your mind has forgotten. But most of us are living from the neck up, disconnected from our bodies and the wisdom they hold about our desires, boundaries, and authentic selves.In this episode, I'm demystifying embodiment and somatic (body-based) approaches for intimacy issues. I'll break down what it actually means to be embodied (versus disconnected), why your nervous system holds the key to better sex and relationships, and how somatic approaches differ from traditional talk therapy.You'll learn a wee bit of the history of body-based healing—from Wilhelm Reich's "character armor" to modern trauma research—and discover why bottom-up healing (starting with your body) often works better than top-down approaches for intimacy challenges.I'm sharing the 5 specific benefits of getting more embodied: better emotional regulation, real confidence (not performed), authentic relationships, reduced physical tension, and magnetic presence that makes people actually listen when you speak.Plus, practical examples from my practice showing how embodied approaches help with everything from performance anxiety to not knowing what you want sexually. This isn't woo-woo stuff—it's science-backed work that creates real change.Perfect for anyone who's tired of living disconnected from their body and ready to access their full aliveness. Also perfect for anyone who simply wonders "what's the point of being more embodied? Why bother?" Get my free email newsletter with helpful tips, plus a free guide to Finding Your Deepest Turn-Ons, and learn how to work with me at https://laurajurgens.com.

Better sex isn't about new positions, toys, or tricks—it's about your nervous system. When your body feels stressed, arousal shuts down. When it feels safe, pleasure flows.In this episode of Sacred Sex for Real Women, Jannine MacKinnon shows why your nervous system—not technique—is the foundation for desire. She shares a behind-the-scenes story of losing her libido during bathroom renovations (and how she shifted back into pleasure), along with client examples that reveal how nervous system regulation transforms intimacy.You'll also learn three simple ways to shift your state—so you can move from stressed and shut down into relaxed, open, and ready for pleasure.✨ This is part 1 of a 2-part series. Next week, we'll explore the hidden nervous system responses that get triggered during sex and how to rewire them for deeper openness and connection.

Brad and Lesley break down the interview with Dr. Celeste Holbrook, a sex educator and author who helps people move beyond shame and create healthy intimacy. They explore how harmful cultural narratives impact women, why communication matters more than technique, and how to reclaim your sexual choices as your own.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co .And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:How to make your own Pilates sandbag and what size cord works best.The impact of purity culture on women's sexual experiences.Why sex isn't static and how it evolves as you mature.The people-pleasing responses that block real connection.Dr. Celeste's four-part guide to heal any sexual challenges.The importance of prioritizing oneself and going at one's own pace.Episode References/Links:UK Mullet Tour - https://opc.me/ukP.O.T. Chicago 2025 - https://pilates.com/pilates-on-tour-chicagolandCambodia October 2025 Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comWinter Tour Waitlist - https://opc.me/eventsHow to Make Your Own Pilates Sandbag - https://www.youtube.com/live/tn4yUcEQnnMSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsMissionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture by Dr. Celeste Holbrook - https://a.co/d/3UimUKxI Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris - https://a.co/d/38uINCkI Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye Documentary - https://streamable.com/1ldz9cEpisode 202: Jake Kelfer - https://beitpod.com/jakekelferIf you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. 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So she was like sex is bad, sex is bad, sex is bad, sex is bad. And then she gets married, and all of a sudden, sex is good. Lesley Logan 0:19  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:02  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the freeing convo I had with Dr. Celeste Holbrook in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now and then listen to it, and then come back and join us here. I'm gonna tell you right now. We talked about sex, baby. So you're gonna wanna listen to it. I also have her book. I'm so excited about it. We talked about a lot of stuff it. We went all places. Yeah, we didn't really talk about positions or things like that. We just, like talked about the things that people don't talk about.Brad Crowell 1:36  Actually, you know what you talked about more than anything else, was communication.Lesley Logan 1:39  Yeah, oh, yeah, we did. Oh, and, you know, what's really interesting, her book is so timely at the time we're recording this in my fucking Instagram feed, some stupid man decided to talk about stinky coochies. Oh, yeah. And your coochie needs to be Christian if you don't want your husband to cheat on you. The fucking bullshit that people lie to women about. Lie, just bold face fucking lie. Brad Crowell 2:05  There's no such thing as a Christian coochie Go fuck yourself. That is insane. Lesley Logan 2:09  It also, also, also, I don't care what you believe, it is never your fucking fault if someone cheats on you, it's never your fault. It's always about them. There's something going on there. It's not your fault. Period.Brad Crowell 2:24  Yeah, I was incensed after watching that video. And there's a special place in hell for that pastor.Lesley Logan 2:30  Yeah, there really is. And then I just listened to an interview about some girls who were, like, raised in a purity culture, and I forgot, I had forgotten a lot of the shit that I was, like, told and now and then I read, I've been reading her book, and it's like, holy fuck. It's a wonder, it's a wonder women anywhere are having actual sex that's not painful. So anyways, go read her book. Go listen to that episode. We're gonna talk about some good stuff in a second. I promise. I promise. I do think that the world does get better at some point. I do. I do. I have to believe in that. Lesley Logan 3:00  Today is September 4th 2025 and it is National Wildlife Day. And on National Wildlife Day, hold on, I pulled up, oh. Brad Crowell 3:11  America marks National Wildlife day every year. Lesley Logan 3:14  No, no, no. Don't take this away from me. Brad Crowell 3:16  On September 4th. Lesley Logan 3:17  It's an opportunity for everyone to step back, take a deep breath and think about all that surrounds us. It is inspiring to consider preservation and conservation efforts that work to improve in the natural world, there remains so much to learn, as Henry David Thoreau once wrote, "In wildness is the preservation of the world." Okay, but we couldn't agree more, so let's take a closer look at this day. Yeah, go spend some time out in a preserve near you. We have a preserve near us. Brad Crowell 3:50  We do, it's really close. Lesley Logan 3:51  We actually have the wetlands. And then if we go up two hours, is a really cool preserve we can go camping at, people go fishing at, there's a fucking lake. Brad Crowell 3:58  There's one lake right here, like, a couple blocks from us. Lesley Logan 4:01  Oh, there is another preserve. Brad Crowell 4:02  Yeah, like, literally in the city, this preserve. Yeah.Lesley Logan 4:04  Yeah, yeah, yeah. So go find a preserve near you. You know, I know people like to get mad about the coyotes or the mountain lions that live there. They were there first, so take that in. And second, like it's, there's just something like, it's kind of cool that the way this wildlife that we live and go to a zoo. I mean, make sure it's a good one. But like, take it in, take in the wildlife. Because one, it's going away and. Brad Crowell 4:04  I think the zoo would be the opposite of wildlife.Lesley Logan 4:30  Okay, maybe. But I bet you, I bet you, some of them donate to wildlife. Maybe. Brad Crowell 4:35  I'm, you know. Lesley Logan 4:36  Go camping. Brad Crowell 4:36  They can be well intentioned. Lesley Logan 4:38  So what do you want them to do? Go camping? Brad Crowell 4:40  Yeah, go camping. Lesley Logan 4:41  This wasn't very clear. So I guess take a moment to consider how you're going to preserve the wildlife near you and conserve efforts, like your conservation efforts. You know, can you stop putting plastic straws near you know, water, like the ocean and things like that. The turtles are choking, you guys, so. Brad Crowell 5:02  Yeah, let's not choke any turtles. Lesley Logan 5:04  No, it's so sad, it' so sad. I can't watch those things. So anyway.Brad Crowell 5:07  Our neighbor has a tortoise. Lesley Logan 5:08  Yeah, Tortimer. Brad Crowell 5:09  Tortimer the tortoise, the tortoise, Tortimer the tortoise, and he's like, 15 or something.Lesley Logan 5:15  But he's not even a desert tortoise. He's an African, something tortoise but. Brad Crowell 5:19  Yeah, I can remember the name. Lesley Logan 5:20  Speaking of preservation out here in Vegas, So the desert tortoise is about to go extinct. There's actually we're having some huge problems with them, and have enough space for them, because they actually need flat desert land to crawl on. And then, of course, flat desert land is what everone wants to develop because. Lesley Logan 5:42  Was it extinct, or we're just destroying their habitat here? Lesley Logan 5:42  We're destroying their habitat here. Brad Crowell 5:43  Yeah, I'm not sure if this is their only environment. But, but, yeah, like the the Las Vegas Valley, you know, is expanding. They're expecting something like 400,000 people to move here in the next decade. And so they're, they're slapping together.Lesley Logan 5:53  The lack of rain is not deterring anyone so. Brad Crowell 5:55  Well, they're slapping together all these expansions all around the city in, you know. And basically, they're driving out the they're changing the desert landscape, which is driving away the turtles.Lesley Logan 6:03  And the desert tortoise can't live near the mountains because they don't climb rocks. They just walk on the flat desert. Also, also, I learned this fun fact, you like, they have, they have territories, right? Like, you can't have two male tortoises near each other, and they need to have a burrow during the hot part of the day, and if they don't know the area, you just can't pick up a tortoise and, like, move it to another part of the desert. They got to know where to burrow. So anyways, these are important things to know, and so if you live in an area that's got some wildlife, maybe take it upon yourself to find out what's going on, and your local city council meetings, and who's trying to develop those areas, and yell and scream because it's really cathartic, and you can save a wildlife animal near you. We are we've been recently yelling and screaming to keep Las Vegas loud, so downtown loud. So, you know, it's fun. It's fun to be part of things in the community, to, like, take care of other people. Okay, enough about this day. Lesley Logan 6:04  Coming up. Oh, like now we're actually. Brad Crowell 6:33  Yeah, we're literally en route. Lesley Logan 6:51  So we're in the U.K., by the way. Brad Crowell 6:57  We just we just landed. Lesley Logan 7:03  No, we've been here a day. We're in Scotland today. Yep, we are actually at the very top of Scotland. We're as far up as we can go. And because, that's because we're gonna take a little vacation, we're gonna see some interesting Scottish games, and then we're gonna drive all the way down to Essex, where we're teaching for two days The Movement Base. And there might be a couple spots left in the workshops, and then we're going up to Leeds to teach there on the weekend in September. So this is all happening in September, September 8th, 9th and 10th, and then 13th and 14th. Anyways, it's a Tuesday and Wednesday. Brad Crowell 7:33  I don't actually remember the specific dates, but a. Lesley Logan 7:36  And a Saturday and a Sunday and. Brad Crowell 7:38  Go to opc.me/uk for the specifics. Lesley Logan 7:41  Yeah, and don't miss out, because we're not coming back. Okay.Brad Crowell 7:46  Not anytime soon. Last time was two years ago, so yeah, you know, but yeah, we're never gonna be back. Lesley Logan 7:50  No, we'll come back. Then we're gonna go home for two days, and then we're going to go to Pilates on Tour in Chicagoland. Brad Crowell 7:56  Two days? Lesley Logan 7:57  Two weeks. Brad Crowell 7:58  Two weeks. Lesley Logan 7:59  Two weeks. Brad Crowell 7:59  Yeah, I was gonna say. Lesley Logan 7:59  Two weeks. Brad Crowell 7:59  Two weeks, we're home for two weeks. Lesley Logan 8:02  We're home for two weeks, and then we go to Chicagoland, no, just three weeks. Chicagoland. And the time that we're recording this, we heard it was 75% sold out. It's probably changed, but I think there's, I think the early bird ends next week, if there's any room, and then we'll be in Cambodia. And the time you're hearing this, you've got a month, you can still sign up, you can still buy a plane ticket, like there's still time,Brad Crowell 8:24  There's definitely still time. I'm still having conversations with people, and there's there's room, so.Lesley Logan 8:28  crowsnestretreats.comBrad Crowell 8:30  PS, if you have ever wanted to walk around with elephants, we go to an elephant sanctuary at the after the retreat is over, it's an extra curricular activity after that we love to do, and so we always stay an extra day. And we also go to a waterfall, which is super magical. And maybe that's the thing that you're just like, really that excited, you know, that's what you want to do. So I just want to throw those out there that you can join us for those, in addition to the retreat. Go to crowsnestretreats.com crowsnestretreats.com, and come join us.Lesley Logan 9:05  Yeah, and we're as we're, by the time we're recording this, we're also trying to lock in a day of teaching in Singapore. So my Singaporeans, hello, we are coming your way. And then we're gonna go see the botanical garden. So if you wanna walk around the gardens with us, you can. Then, December is our winter tour, and we're getting a ton of people asking us if we're going to Texas, and things like New York, and things like that. Yes, it's in the winter tour. So go to opc.me/events to get on the waitlist for that because if you're on the waitlist, you hear right away. And let me tell you, when we announce our tours, some cities literally sell out, especially on the winter tour. So because we've been doing the winter tour the longest, and people are really excited about it. So, opc.me/events. Okay.Brad Crowell 9:43  You're not wrong. Lesley Logan 9:44  Before we get into. I know, I know. We went to bed after announcing it. Woke up, two cities were sold out.Brad Crowell 9:50  Two cities were sold out in less than 24 hours last year, yeah. Lesley Logan 9:53  Okay, all right, Brad, we have an audience question to answer. Brad Crowell 9:56  Yes, we do. Lesley Logan 9:57  And actually, this is really for you. Brad Crowell 9:59  Oh would you like to read the question? Lesley Logan 10:06  Yes. Brad Crowell 10:06  Okay. Lesley Logan 10:02  @gp_pilates_studio, that's Greenpoint Pilate studio, hi, Allyn, on YouTube asks about How to Make Your Own Pilates Sandbag video. Hey, Brad, what is the diameter, the diameter of the rope and cord, the paracord that we use? What's the diameter of it? Brad Crowell 10:16  Okay. So this was on a video that we made, Lesley and I made called How to Make Your Own Pilates Sandbag, right? And if you're familiar with the sandbag, it's the bar, and then there's the cord, and then there's the weights, and you can twist it back and forth. And so we actually made one our own, and we showed you how to make your own. So if you're interested in that, it's on YouTube. Great question here, Allyn, gp_pilates_studio on YouTube. So, it doesn't matter really what the diameter is. You don't want, like, you know, an inch thick piece of rope that would be just annoying and bulky. But what I used was just like your typical, like, cheapo bought it at the hardware store, nylon cord, you know, I think it was like 10 bucks for 100 meters of it, or something like that, you know, and they wrap it around that little h looking thing, and you just spin it around it, and it's like, you know, I don't know, like, there was no real diameter. It's just the smallest thing.Lesley Logan 11:13  Okay, I found it. I found it. Three-eights of an inch.Brad Crowell 11:16  Yeah, but, but honestly, if you get a quarter of an inch, it's fine, you know, I wouldn't. I probably, like, at a half an inch or an inch thick rope, it would just be annoying because you're twisting it around this, you know, it would, it would become like a spool, and that's just silly. So smaller is fine. The reality is, it just needs to support, you know, a pound or two pounds of weight, you know, so we're not, we're not trying to lift a house here. We're just.Lesley Logan 11:39  I'm pretty sure it's a three-eights of an inch one that looks like what we got. And also it, because I remember, it fits like, right through, if you just drill a hole we didn't get anything fancy.Brad Crowell 11:40  Yeah and I just, yeah, I just took a, you know, a quarter inch drill bit right through the middle, and then I just threaded that through. So as long as you can get the rope through, it's fine. That's really, you know, that all that matters.Lesley Logan 12:00  Yeah, I love it. So you can all make your own sandbag. We did it for the Accessories Deck, which is now shipping worldwide.Brad Crowell 12:07  Yeah. We actually did. We showed you how to build three different pieces of equipment. One was the push up handles. One was the the two by four, and then finally, was this one, this Pilates sandbag. So, yeah, great question. Thanks for that. If you have a question, you can text us at 310-905-5534, or you can submit your question or your win to beitpod.com/questions beitpod.com/questions and we kind of need you to submit y'all so we have some wins to talk about on our Friday pod so let's go. Let's go right now. Pull out your phone, go to beitpod.com/questions beitpod.com/questions. All right, that's enough of that.Lesley Logan 12:50  You know how easy a win is. This is my new win. So, I have been trying to figure I love my I love my red light mask and neck. And when I got them, I was using them really regularly, and we got really busy and and I've everything else, all my other habits were really good, but that one is has just been hard to fit back in. And I saw the dermatologist, and he's like, yeah, my wife uses hers every night. And I said, oh, when? He was like, before bed, and you know, so she washes her face and she use them. I'm like, oh, I can do that. And so I have done it four nights in a row, right before bed. I just put them on my face and I lay there. And you know, what's crazy is, like, I actually am getting some really good, deep sleep, like I'm sleeping really well. And I think it's that there's a time before I fall asleep that I'm just laying there waiting to go to sleep. So that's a win. Brad Crowell 13:35  Like, it's on for like, 10 minutes. Lesley Logan 13:35  Yeah, it goes off on its own. So even if I fell asleep with them, like, I wouldn't want to do that, but I could fall asleep with them laying on my face, and like, you know, yeah. See how easy that was. I just came up with a win on the spot. Lesley Logan 13:41  That's a win on the spot. Lesley Logan 13:43  You can do it too. Brad Crowell 13:46  Yeah, yeah, I love it. Well, stick around. We'll be right back, because we're going to dig into this juicy conversation that we have with Dr. Celeste Holbrook, and also celebratory. It was really awesome. So we'll be right back. Brad Crowell 14:01  Okay, now let's talk about Dr. Celeste Holbrook. PhD, right? Yeah, she's no joke. Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sex educator with a PhD in health behaviors and a post grad emphasis in sexual behaviors. She helps women and couples overcome challenges, heal from shame, and create better, more fulfilling sex lives. Her new book, Missionary Position: A Slightly Orreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture, tackles the complex interaction of sex, religion and personal freedom. Celeste is known for her practical, down to earth approach that makes conversations about sex accessible and empowering and honestly, not awkward. But she's just really good at making it just, it's just a conversation. It doesn't have to be the silly thing. Some, for some reason it's like, it feels like we revert to sixth grade whenever this this conversation comes out, and it's like everyone like, hee-hee-hees in the corner. It's so weird, and it's and you might not be doing it out loud, but you're kind of cringing a little on the inside. She just takes that whole thing away and, like, you know, I mean, it was, it was, she's very matter of fact, matter of factly talking about having dildos in her social media posts, you know, like, oh, okay, yeah, there's that. But, but yeah. I mean, she's, she's not being like, risque or weird about her the conversation. She's specifically serving people who came from the culture that she did, which was, like, raised in a super, super strict religious home in purity culture. And so when she, when she got married, she for, like, it wasn't like, you can't just flip a switch, right? So she was like, sex is bad, sex is bad, sex is bad, sex is bad. And then she gets married, and all of a sudden, sex is good. Like, that's not how it works in the body. And she had to tackle that. Lesley Logan 15:43  Yeah, definitely listen to her first interview on the show, because it actually goes into that if and, and I think it's really interesting. I think, like, even if you weren't raised in a super like, if you, if I, if I say purity culture, and you don't think automatically. Brad Crowell 15:55  That doesn't mean anything to you, right. Lesley Logan 15:55  And you never had a ring on your finger that was turned one different way, and you were, like, betrothed to your father until, until someone's picked for you. Laugh. Had that ring, guys. Brad Crowell 16:07  Not laugh. It's like a, it's like a sardonic shudder. Lesley Logan 16:11  Oh, I know. Because, like, we thought that was normal. Brad Crowell 16:13  Totally thought it was normal. Lesley Logan 16:15  Did you read the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye? Brad Crowell 16:16  Yeah. Oh yeah. Josh, Josh something, right? Lesley Logan 16:17  Yeah. I think he's come out and said everything I taught was wrong. I'm almost positive one of the guys.Lesley Logan 16:19  He got a follow up book and then I think he got, like, ostracized from the churches. Lesley Logan 16:26  Yeah, one, one of the, one of the purity culture dudes, and I think it's kiss dating guy, goodbye guy has come out and said his book was extremely harmful, and he doesn't believe that anymore. Brad Crowell 16:36  Joshua Harris. Lesley Logan 16:37  Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah. So, so thank you, Josh for doing that. But like, for the women who are listening, if you have friends in your life, if you weren't raised like this, who literally were told that like that is the worst thing they could do is to as to at all make a man lust. If you did anything that can make a man lust, you were causing him to go to hell. So you are, like, doing everything you can to, like, not be, not be attractive, and not be feminine, and then you get married, and you're supposed to just be sexy and have sex and, like, make babies. And, you know, Dr. Celeste and many women, they actually go through this painful experience with sex. And maybe you don't have that, but also you don't actually know, and she talks a lot about communication. How do you want to feel like you were never taught that sex could be something that you could enjoy? A lot of women are taught, not taught that you can enjoy sex. Brad Crowell 17:23  I just went down the rabbit hole. He, 20 years after writing the book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris left the church he was pastoring, divorced his wife and made a document, a documentary about the repercussions of the book. Oh, I want to watch the documentary. It's called, I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Lesley Logan 17:47  Okay, well, we're watching that. That's tonight's show. The it's an eye and it's really interesting, because, like, I had a very interesting childhood where I there was definitely purity culture at the church, at the church camps I went to. My parents tried to do these things, and then also my parents would kick us out of the house so they could have sex. So, like, sex was a conversation that they had. My grandparents would talk about how they had sex a lot. So, like, I It's not like I I lived I knew that married couples had sex, right, so, but it's just the reason that I bring this up is I actually think a lot of women, whoa, you good? Brad Crowell 18:10  Sorry, I found it. Somebody pulled it off of YouTube. He doesn't have the rights to it, and so it was on YouTube for years. I'm still down the rabbit hole, y'all. This is (inaudible) online. I went to his own website, and I found a post, a blog post, from May, so two months ago, saying, I don't know why they pulled it off of YouTube. It used to be here. Here's a link to it. That was on a pirated website. I don't know how long it's going to be available, but you can still watch it. So, very interesting.Lesley Logan 18:54  Love him. Okay, we do need to get back to Dr. Celeste. Brad Crowell 18:54  Sorry, I'm focused. I'm in. Okay. Lesley Logan 18:57  So I, I just, I'm really obsessed with what Dr. Celeste is doing, because I just know too many women who, whether or not you had a ring and you're were married to, like, dating your dad, until you were dating someone else, you were not offered the opportunity to understand that you could feel good during sex. Like, that's just very few people. Some, some people had brilliant mothers who were like hippies and like, told about that that is not, that is not most of my friends' experience. So, so one of the things, so, get her book, okay, you'll get her book. So she said American society tends to view sex in binary extremes, but it's rather a more nuanced middle ground. And we've seen this. You can see this in social media today. Like, people don't think that sex and gender are two different things. They are. Like, so, like what you're what you're attracted to, and like the gender. All these there's there's differences, and it's not so black and white, and everyone wants to make it like this is how it is, where sex is often placed on either end of the spectrum, either don't think about it or don't talk about it until a certain age or a marriage. And then that makes it really difficult. Because you know, most of the things, like, when you're a little kid, everyone asks, like, what do you want to be when you grow up? So you have your whole life to change your mind. You're like, I'm gonna be a judge. I'll be this. And you get to, like, explore and take classes and to do that. And when you're in this country, most people, like, don't do sex, don't have sex, don't get pregnant. And girls are also taught it's your fault if you get pregnant and there's something wrong, like you did something wrong. Yeah, if you get pregnant.Brad Crowell 20:22  Well, your shoulder straps were too skinny, that's why you're pregnant. Lesley Logan 20:26  Yeah. And then all of a sudden, you're married. So now you should know, you should know how to do sex. You should know what, what to do, but no one let you talk about it. No one like, it's just a whole mess. It's a mess. It's a mess. So anyways, I really like, that's why she wrote her book. But she also explained, we are not binary people, as far as what we want to do in our sex life. And she said, like, she advocates living in the glittery middle, like, just like, you know, like, it doesn't have to, like, just because you liked it one way, at some point is like, another way. Brad Crowell 20:54  So, just so that, like, we like, when we say binary, I think what she's what she's saying there is, it's okay for sex to change over time. Because the conversation you were having is like, you know, sex is, is different at different stages of life, right? When you're, you know, in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 70s, like, it changes, right? And so that's I, you know, I think that makes, that makes sense.Lesley Logan 21:21  And she so, she advocates for that glittery middle and, like, also, you know, exploring and, and it's, I think what's interesting is, like, she is so open to, like, helping you figure out what you want. And I have some amazing, interesting friends in this world. I have one friend who, like, has a partner who's a sexual, has a partner that she dates, but they date someone else, and then she prefers to have one other one. And I'm like, like, the 12 year old me is like, oh my god, what the fuck are you doing? Like, that's so weird. And then, like, the person who's like, gone through some work, done a lot of reading, I'm like, that is very fascinating. I don't like looking at my calendar that much, and that sounds like way too many. Brad Crowell 22:03  It's a lot of scheduling. Lesley Logan 22:04  A lot of scheduling. It's also a lot of testing, it's a lot of things. But she looked at me and she's, like, 10 years? Like, are you bored? So like, you know, it's really funny how we all have a different thing and she and Dr. Celeste is just like, advocating for, like, live in your glittery middle, understand that you're what you're gonna want out of your sex life is gonna change, and that's okay, and that's there's nothing wrong with you as it changes. Like, just explore that. And so she basically said you could decide what is best for you, and that right there is like the opposite of what purity culture and dickhead people in this country want you to think. They don't want you to think it's what's best for you. They want you to think it's what's best for the dick headed man they think you should be married to. Anyways.Lesley Logan 22:05  Tell me more about how you feel. Lesley Logan 22:12  Fucking Christian coochie. That's never gonna leave my mind. Lesley Logan 22:36  Yeah. Like, what a woman hater. Gross.Lesley Logan 22:58  That's the interesting thing. Like, I think a lot of, I think a lot of people in that world just don't like women. But it's, anyways.Brad Crowell 23:05  Yeah. Well, I mean, I was gonna say as a comment to that, you know, how do you get to the point, like, the reason I made the comment at the beginning was that it was mostly about communication. Is because, if you have been with someone for a long time, what does it look like to have that conversation of, like, things are changing and shifting in your sex life, you know? How is that? What does that mean? And, like, you know, I'm not talking about like, like, promiscuity. It could be that, you know, but, but, but maybe it's just simple things like, hey, you know what? Like, I want to make it I want to change it up, you know. Like, let's change it up today, you know, whatever, and but the communication is where I think it gets awkward, and hopefully, you know, with your partner, you have the the type of relationship where you can just simply have a conversation about it. Lesley Logan 23:55  Also, I really, am I gonna take away your takeaway talking points? I really loved how she talked about the funny, like the faking the orgasm, is that in your section?Brad Crowell 24:05  My section, no, I was talking about how things changed over time. In fact, I even jumped ahead to it without realizing it myself. Fawning is really interesting, if you're not familiar with the definition. What is fawning?Lesley Logan 24:16  So essentially, like, there's flight, fright, fight, right? And I used to, when I studied biology, it was like, and fuck, like, some people, well, that's like, it's all part of the same part of your brain system. So that's kind of funny, but fawn is like, this, like, people-pleasing, or you've seen it in movies where the guy gets really mad and he hits her, and then she's like, oh, it's okay. Actually, that was my fault. I tripped into you. Like, they do this whole, you know, like, you're okay, everything's like, and acting like, really small and toss out like a little lamb, and then that makes a person, usually a man, like, calm down. Everything's fine. She talked about faking orgasms as a fawning response, as a people-pleasing response, and we talked, oh my, you guys have to listen to this, because she talked about, like, she believes in being honest, but also being kind. And we taught and like. Brad Crowell 25:03  She said there was a difference between honesty and full transparency. She said she doesn't believe in full transparency, but she does believe in honesty, and she said people can use full transparency as honesty and be cutting and hurtful, right? Lesley Logan 25:20  Because, like, because she also has, and this is an interesting thing. If you have been faking orgasms in your entire marriage, it's you can't always just blame your partner, because you never told them what it would take to please you, and so they're just doing what you have responded to in the past, you know? So it's a and I thought was really fascinating. So it's like, yes, be honest, like, hey, I would like to try something different that's no longer working for me. And so then it's not something that you're rejecting the other person or making them feel like shit, and you're also able to then start articulating what you want. And it does take practice. You're right. It's all about communication. It's such you guys have to go listen. If you have, you gotta listen, go, listen. Brad Crowell 26:00  Yeah. And just to wrap that up there, you know, as things change over time, she said, hey, we mature as humans. Why wouldn't our sex life mature too? And it's important to allow our sex life to mature as we mature. It's the most helpful thing that we can do for ourselves. So, you know, I just thought it was really a topic that nobody ever talks about that's really helpful. So, yeah, there's a lot of room to allow ourselves compassion to grow as we grow, right? And then, you know, and that's like.Lesley Logan 26:30  Oh, you guys, I mean, when you get older, when you get older, like, your bones get brittle. So, like, there's going to be some positions that neither person, no matter what your gender is and who you want to have sex with, can do, like, you're gonna have to start doing sideways sex, because, like, you could fucking break your pelvis or a hip. So, like, just start getting.Brad Crowell 26:49  You could break it while fucking is what you meant to say. Lesley Logan 26:52  Yeah, that too. But anyway, so just like, if, if this is a conversation that you are, like, already going, I don't know if I can have this. Read her book, follow her, because the more I do, the more I might able to go, oh, what an interesting thing that I haven't been able to articulate that was really helpful. Thanks so much, you know. So anyways.Brad Crowell 27:13  Yeah, well stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into those Be It Action Items that we have with Dr. Celeste Holbrook. Brad Crowell 27:20  All right. So finally, let's talk about those Be It Action Items. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Dr. Celeste Holbrook? She said, hey, I've got a four-part guide, and you should use it. And she maps it out in detail in her book, but high level, it's the analyst, the assassin, the healer and the explorer. And I thought, this is kind of cool. And she said, she said, it's like the archetypal woman. So the analyst helps you understand, what are we actually carrying around? Is the are these mental bags full of shame, full of neglect, full of fear, right? And then the assassin is taking what the analyst has found. So this is like a progression, right? So it's not just like you're only stuck in one it seems like this is a progression. So the assassin then is taking what the analyst has found and is just slicing through it, like deconstructing, you know, the, in her case, she's specifically talking about purity culture, and, like, all the baggage that we're saddled with from that kind of a thing. And then after the assassin is the healer who facilitates, like, she helping regenerate ideas about sex through, like, education.Lesley Logan 28:34  Yeah, right. Re-education.Brad Crowell 28:36  Yeah, gentle re-education about what is sex and what's okay. And, you know, like, why do we have this guilt around sex and, like, what, like, why does that even like, there's just a lot of history that blows my mind. Finally, we have the explorer, like, you know where you've kind of, after you've gone through some healing, you're now, like, feeling more confident, more willingness to, you know, be like, explore having sex, right? And you know that could be with your partner, with yourself, or whatever, you know. So, yeah, it's an interesting, like, progression out of.Lesley Logan 29:11  I think it's a cool idea of a process, because it it if you think, oh, my god, I have to figure all this out, or you might hear about the explorer part and be like, what the I you can't even wrap your head around that. It's because you got to go through the process. Brad Crowell 29:23  Yeah, and I think it's great, because it really sets her up. Like, you know, she's she, she jokingly said a lot of my conversations are pretty boring, like, what? Because she's got clients, one-on-one, clients and, and it's not, they're not like, crazy, like, it's, it's not, it's not, like, telling, not story time. She's actually, you know, helping people go through the process that she created here. So it depends on what's, you know, part of the flow that you're in, you know, might just simply be analysis for a while, you know, and coming to terms with it. And then it won't be until you've come to terms with that you can move on to the next phase. And but what's great is that she has a process. And I think that's really cool. Lesley Logan 30:01  Yeah, she also has a couple other things for you, which is something you can repeat. She said to, free to repeat, I prioritize myself by allowing myself to go at my own pace. I prioritize myself by allowing myself to go at my own pace. I think that is so important, no matter what the topic is, no matter what you're trying to be it till you see, like, if you got nothing out of this episode but that affirmation, great. And she also, we've talked about her being like a slow reader and like her writing and all that stuff. And she, she really learned to prioritize herself and appreciate being considerate and slow and thoughtful. Like, that's actually her prioritizing herself by her, not quite I'm a slow reader, but instead going, I am a slow reader, so I am going to be considerate and slow and thoughtful. That's how I do things. Brad Crowell 30:47  Yeah and give myself the time and space to do that. Lesley Logan 30:49  I thought that was so cool. Like, what a, what an amazing way to prioritize yourself is to, like, do the things the way you you need to do them. Brad Crowell 31:00  Yeah and that's like, you know, across any element of life, it's not just, you know, around sex, so I think that's great.Lesley Logan 31:06  And then finally, she said, and this is for your sexual life, she said, where the goal for sexual choice is to be your decision, and not one manipulated by society or cultural values or religious values, and I think that is so important, because even if you aren't someone who is religious, but maybe your culture had a different kind of pressure, or a different way of seeing your body, or maybe you feel a different way with society. Your sexual life is your and choices are your decision, and not wanting to be manipulated by anybody else. So I think that's so important. I just fucking love her. I wish she lived closer. I want to have coffee with her all the time. Brad Crowell 31:43  Yeah, she was a lot of fun to listen to. And also her story about how her book came to be, what a roller coaster. That was, how cool that, you know, that you were a part of it. I think that's pretty neat. Lesley Logan 31:53  Honestly, honestly, like, this is like, you know, like, everything happens for a reason, like how we interviewed him two years ago. Jake. And I forget how Jake got to me. I actually. Brad Crowell 32:05  I think he was connected through. Lesley Logan 32:07  Somebody told no, no, no, no, no, no, no. He's a Christian. Lori Harder friend, person, so somebody sent Jake to me. And then. Brad Crowell 32:16  Jake Kelfer. Lesley Logan 32:17  Yeah, and then, and then I watch Celeste stuff, but sometimes she ends up not in my feed because of algorithms. And that day, I just happened to not only watch, but like, actually turn, like, read the whole thing. And I was like, what's going on? I tap through. I watched every story, and I was and I was just like, call me, I got, so but, like, it's just like.Brad Crowell 32:36  Jake. Jake was interviewed on episode 202. Lesley Logan 32:38  But this is how you, you can't this is something for me too, we can't worry, oh my god, what if I missed out on this? Because, like I had I was meant to watch her stories on that day, like I was meant to, because it could have been so easy for me to not pick up my phone that day and not watch them. There was a reason why I opened my phone up and I watched her stories. I do not watch that many people's stories, and it was because I was supposed to see them and introduce her to Jake. That was my whole goal. That was, like, the universe working for her. Universe was like, okay, Celeste, we're going to make sure Lesley sees it, because Lesley knows Jake, and you need to know Jake. Boom, it's done. And, like, she had to write the book. I love it. I love it. I love you, Dr. Celeste Holbrook, I love the book. You guys, go get it. I'm Lesley Logan. Brad Crowell 33:22  And I'm Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 33:23  Thank you so much for being you. Now. Go share this with a friend who needs to hear it, and go get her book. And go leave us a review, because we really appreciate that. And go be it till you see it.Brad Crowell 33:34  Yeah. And just one last time. Her book is called Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture. Lesley Logan 33:41  I love it so much. I love it so much. Brad Crowell 33:44  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 33:46  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. 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Click here to shop Promescent and automatically receive 15% OFF your first Delay Spray purchase.What starts as a conversation about premature ejaculation turns into a lively, no-filter discussion on sex, relationships, and confidence with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent. We cover the real stigma behind PE, why communication beats any technique, the role of toys and tools in great sex, and how to keep passion alive in long-term relationships. Jeff shares personal stories, strong opinions, and surprising truths from years of talking with couples, customers, and even porn stars. If you're ready for an honest, funny, and insightful chat that goes way beyond performance anxiety, this one's for you

If your sex drive has gone missing, your body feels like it's betraying you, or you think that wine is the only thing that can get you through the mood swings, hot flashes, and insomnia of midlife—this episode is for you. I asked Dr. Kelly Casperson—board-certified urologist, hormone and sex expert, and author of You Are Not Broken: Stop Shoulding All Over Your Sex Life—to break down how perimenopause, hormones, alcohol, and aging all affect our desire, sex lives, and emotional well-being in midlife. Spoiler alert: it's not just in your head, and there are things you can do about it. Dr. Kelly is also the host of the You Are Not Broken podcast, and she's a no-BS, wildly smart voice helping women understand what's actually going on with their hormones, desire, and bodies.  In this conversation, we talk honestly about sex in sobriety, hormone replacement therapy (HRT), perimenopause symptoms, and how alcohol is quietly making everything worse. For the full shownotes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/hormones-menopause-better-sex-in-sobriety-what-every-woman-needs-to-know/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I'll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday 

We hear so much about low libido, but what about the women who feel alive with desire, who crave connection and intimacy, and don't always know where to put all that energy? If that's you, I see you. If you love a woman like that, listen closely. In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into what high desire women secretly wish their partners knew. You're not too much. You're not too needy. Your sensuality is sacred and it deserves to be honored, not dimmed. I share five powerful truths that can shift how we understand desire, along with a beautiful, simple 5-minute eye-gazing ritual to help you reconnect without pressure, agenda, or words. Just presence. Just being seen. I talk about: Why desire isn't just physical: it's energetic and emotional How initiating sex is often a bid for closeness, not control The heartbreak of dimming yourself to make others comfortable Why presence matters more than performance in bed How your desire, fully expressed, becomes a gift to the relationship   Whether you're a high-desire woman or you love one, this episode is here to remind you: Your sensual energy isn't something to fix. It's a power to honor. If you're craving tools that blend intimacy, healing, and pleasure, grab Sex Magic, because true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. And don't forget to visit my website to explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a transformational program designed to put you in the driver's seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion you crave and deserve. Because this isn't about fixing yourself… it's about reclaiming your power. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is joined by leading gastroenterologist Dr. Will Bulsiewicz to explore the fundamentals of gut health and the gut microbiome. Together, they unpack the role of fiber, prebiotics, probiotics, toileting habits, and lifestyle choices in optimizing digestive and overall wellness—including connections between gut health, mood, and sexual function. Listeners will gain practical, evidence-based advice on improving gut health, debunking common myths, and making sustainable lifestyle changes for better health. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00:00 Introduction 00:02:38 Gut health basics 00:06:22 Lifestyle and gut microbiome 00:09:10 Stress impact on gut 00:13:33 Morning routine for gut 00:24:57 Fiber intake recommendations 00:26:59 Prebiotics and supplements 00:30:44 Fermented foods and probiotics 00:37:01 Choosing fiber supplements 00:57:47 Gut health and sexual function 01:05:12 Alcohol, drugs, toileting habits Stay connected with Will Bulsiewicz on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! INSTAGRAM - https://www.instagram.com/theguthealthmd/ FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/theguthealthmd/ 38TERA - https://38tera.com/ The Plant Fed Gut - https://theplantfedgut.com/ Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Lori Brotto is internationally recognized as a leader in sexual health research. She has evaluated psychological interventions for sexual dysfunction and genital pain, which collectively impact 1/3 of women. Her work influences practice internationally, with mindfulness now implemented in sexual medicine centres and recommended as front line care in international guidelines. In recognition of her contributions, she holds a Canada Research Chair in women's sexual health, has received recent awards in mentoring junior faculty, excellent public education through media, book awards, and is listed among the top 2% cited scientists by Stanford/Elsevier (SCOPUS citations).We talk about stigma around things sex: sexual anatomy, sexual pleasure, sexual relationships, and the harms from stigma for individuals, relationships, and society. You can find Lori's book 'Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire'  here and you can also find her on Netflix. We also shout out Cliterate and the World Association for Sexual Health!Episode hosted by Dr. Carmen Logie. Supported by funding from the Canada Research Chairs program. Original music and podcast produced by Cozmic Cat, who have various production services available to support your podcast needs.

Send us a textToday's episode is a short book summary, on a book called Why Women Have Better Sex Under Socialism: And Other Arguments for Economic Independence by Kristen Ghodsee. This book was written for young Americans who were pissed off and energized by the election of Trump.The author, Dr. Kristen Ghodsee is a professor of Russian and Eastern European Studies at the University of Pennsylvania. She studies countries that went from socialism to capitalism. Her big thesis in this book is that capitalism isn't all it is cracked up to be. That it turns out we, as a society can't really have it all, and she zeroes in on women in particular. Based on her research, she believes that women will have more economic freedom and work life balance under socialism, whereas capitalism has reinforced gendered stereotypes and roles, a gender wage gap and a situation where women work second shifts as caretakers. Tune in to the episode to learn more!https://www.pbs.org/newshour/economy/making-sense/read-an-excerpt-from-why-women-have-better-sex-under-socialismSupport the show

Heather discusses the importance of emotional intimacy and vulnerability in relationships, particularly in the context of sexual connections. She shares personal experiences and insights on how being vulnerable can enhance relationships, both romantic and platonic. The discussion also covers the connection between emotional and physical intimacy, the significance of communication, and practical steps to foster vulnerability in relationships.This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

Renowned relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman share valuable and actionable insights on building stronger emotional connections and enhancing intimacy. With decades of research in the field of relationships, the Gottmans explain how to foster trust, improve communication, and deepen your bond with your partner. Listen to the full episode here - Spotify: https://g2ul0.app.link/rbGkCfGhTUb Apple: https://g2ul0.app.link/K40py7KhTUb⁠ Watch the Episodes On YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos The Gottmans: https://www.gottman.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your partner feel more like a roommate than a lover lately? You're definitely not alone—and you're not wrong for wanting more. In this Language of Love Session, I help Shauna, who's been with her partner for three years. She misses the early days—the surprise love notes, spontaneous date nights, the simple act of hand-holding. Now? It feels like they're stuck in a routine, more like roommates navigating a to-do list than lovers sharing a life. She's tried dropping hints, even having honest conversations, but nothing seems to shift. Her question: How do I ask for more romance without making him feel like he's failing? Together, we dig into why passion so often fades in long-term relationships—and how to revive that spark with intention, not pressure. You'll learn: Why the “infatuation phase” ends—and what comes next in a healthy love story The sex-romance stalemate: what it is and how it silently sabotages connection How to give your partner a roadmap to romance (without it feeling like a chore) Why men and women often feel loved in very different ways—and how to bridge the gap How emotional and physical intimacy feed each other in a lasting relationship What role sexual availability plays in inspiring affection—and how to talk about it The subtle ways your own behavior might be discouraging romance (and how to shift it) When to seek couples therapy—and why it's not just for marriages in crisis Plus, I share a simple, powerful communication strategy that invites your partner into deeper connection—without shame, blame, or ultimatums. If you feel stuck in a routine that no longer feels like love, this episode is your invitation to begin again. Have a question about your own love life? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com to be featured in a future episode—or even join me live on the show. Looking for tools to deepen your connection and reignite your passion? Head over to my website for expert-backed resources designed to help you heal, grow, and thrive in your relationships. Explore my 7 Days to Better Sex program and take my free quiz to discover what you truly want in love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this grounding episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how to transform your dating experience by focusing on emotional awareness, body intelligence, and clear intentions. Whether you're navigating apps or meeting people in person, this episode offers a heart-centered approach to modern dating that prioritizes authentic connection over performance. We dive into why your dating "type" might be blocking true connection and how to get out of your head and into your body before dates. Emily shares the power of pre-date rituals and intention setting, explaining why chasing chemistry often leads us astray and how to spot green flags instead of just red ones. This conversation includes practical tips for identifying emotional safety and alignment early on, plus guidance on when to stay curious and when to walk away. Emily offers tools for cultivating real confidence that comes from within, not from external validation, and shares how to maintain your sense of self while remaining open to connection. From setting boundaries to trusting your intuition, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone who wants to date with more intention, less anxiety, and greater self-trust Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction 2:43 The Roommate Problem 4:47 Why Date Nights Matter 6:02 The 5 Arousal Types Explained 9:21 Conversation-Based Dates 12:00 Sensory Dates 17:04 Playful Dates 22:36 Physical Adventure Dates 24:53 How to Introduce Massage Into Your Relationship 29:25 Rebuilding Intimacy After Having a Baby

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is joined by fitness expert Mike Israetel to explore the challenges many people face when trying to start an exercise routine. Together, they dispel common myths about fitness, emphasizing that effective workouts don't require early mornings or hours in the gym—instead, just two thirty-minute sessions per week can bring real results. Dr. Malik and Dr. Israetel also discuss the psychological barriers to getting started, the welcoming nature of most gyms, and practical tips for building confidence, especially for women entering the weight room for the first time. Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Getting Started with Fitness 00:28 Relieving Pressure and Fear of Failure 02:15 Gym Environment and Judgment 04:24 Women in the Weights Area 07:17 Effective, Efficient Workouts 11:05 Scaling for Beginners 12:25 Fitness and Sex Parallels Sign up for my newsletter FREE: https://renamalikmd.beehiiv.com Download my top 10 guide to maximizing pleasure - Better Sex,Better Life: https://renamalikmd.com/morepleasure Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content: https://renamalik.supercast.com Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready for one of the JUICIEST conversations yet on Let's Get Weird! Sam is joined in Austin by the vibrant and brilliant naturopathic doctor and sex & intimacy coach, Dr. Jenny Buchner. They dive straight into the deep end, exploring Dr. Jenny's core philosophy: PLEASURE is your compass. This episode is a permission slip to reclaim your birthright to feel good, and to use that feeling as your guiding light for a more successful, aligned, and delicious life. From twerking as a sacred act to the power of "big p*ssy energy," this conversation is all about reconnecting to your body and your power.Sam and Dr. Jenny get vulnerable about their shared experiences with Catholic guilt, people-pleasing, and the journey of healing sexual shame. They unpack how this disconnection shows up physically (hello, hormonal issues, autoimmune disease, low libido) and how the path back to wholeness involves somatic work, breathwork, dance, and a whole lot of self-compassion. They also explore the powerful link between your sacral energy and your entrepreneurial creativity, the secrets hidden in your menstrual cycle, and why understanding your worthiness is the key to unlocking your ability to receive... in the bedroom, your bank account, and every other area of your life. If you're ready to stop living from the neck up and start living a life that feels amazing, this episode is a non-negotiable.

You know her, you love her, and chances are you've underlined half of her books: Alisa Vitti is in the house! Founder of the Cycle Syncing Method and bestselling author of WomanCode and In the Flo, she's the OG of hormone empowerment—and she's here to break down the real science and natural patterns behind your libido (hint: you're not lazy, broken, or just “not in the mood”).This episode is for every woman who's ever wondered..."Why don't I want sex anymore? Is this just what getting older feels like? Can I actually fix this?" Spoiler: Yes, yes you can...and it starts with cupcakes, cortisol, and clitoral edging (not a typo).Whether you're postpartum, perimenopausal, or just trying to get your spark back, this one's a must-listen. You'll walk away with tangible tools to reconnect to your body, your pleasure, and your power...and probably order In the Flo if you haven't already. This is your permission slip to stop outsourcing your pleasure, tune into your body, and treat oxytocin like the hormone holy grail it is. You're not broken. You're just in a phase. And we've got you.TOPICS COVERED➡ Why libido is the frosting on your hormone cupcake➡ How to work with your cycle phases for better sex➡ What your body's trying to tell you when your desire disappears➡ Oxytocin: the most underused biohack in your toolbox➡ Edging 101 (you're going to want to take notes)➡ Libido-safe strength training, hormone-happy food, and supplements that help➡ Why you should never, ever restrict food postpartum (your future sex life and peri-menopause experience depends on it)➡ The surprising magic of spicy romance novels RESOURCES➡ WomanCode + In the Flo by Alisa Vitti https://floliving.com/in-the-flo-book ➡ Flo Living: Alisa's hormone wellness platform https://floliving.com/ and Cycle Syncing Membership https://floliving.com/product/the-cycle-syncing-membership ➡ Femenessence Maca (Alisa's go-to for libido support)SPONSORS➡ Go to kalediagnostics.com and use code JUSTAPHASE for up to $325 off their packages!➡ Head to oseamalibu.com and use code JUSTAPHASE for 10% off your first order. One use per customer,ABOUT USWe're Carly, Alaina and Julie Beyar, three silly sisters helping you thrive through every phase of womanhood—cycle health, fertility, pregnancy, and motherhood—with real talk, hormone education, zero shame...and with a healthy dose of humor. From fertility to postpartum, and everything in between, join us every Wednesday for candid conversations, empowering insights, and the occasional dose of laughter.SUBSCRIBE NOW for a journey through the phases, where we keep it real, relatable, and always entertaining...and don't forget to RATE US & REVIEW ⭐ We appreciate YOU!LET'S CONNECT➡ Shop page ⁠https://shopmy.us/balancedbeyars⁠➡ Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/balancedbeyars/⁠➡ Join our weekly newsletter ⁠https://balancedbeyarssisters.substack.com/⁠➡ Website ⁠https://www.balancedbeyars.com/

Have you ever looked across the room at your partner and thought, “When did we become roommates instead of lovers?” Maybe you're still affectionate, still loving—but the sexual connection? Practically nonexistent. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. In fact, nearly 1 in 5 marriages are considered “sexless,” but that doesn't mean your spark is gone for good. In this Language of Love Bite, we're diving deep into the real reasons couples stop being intimate—and exactly how to rebuild your sex life step-by-step, even if it's been months (or years). By the end of this episode, you'll know exactly what to say to your partner—and how to start feeling sexy together again. In this episode, we're breaking down: The top 3 culprits behind sexless relationships (it's not just stress!) Why emotional safety is the real aphrodisiac The exact words to use when you want to bring up the lack of sex—without it getting awkward The sensual (not sexual) ritual that jumpstarts physical intimacy without pressure A proven sex therapy technique called sensate focus that helps you reawaken desire The gentle roadmap from no sex… to next-level pleasure If conversations feel too loaded, find a certified sex therapist via AASECT. Don't miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my  Free  quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest  book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level.  You can also check my video  on Rebuilding Connection in Relationships Have a love language success story or a challenge you're facing? I'd love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Purchase the Relationship Renovation at Home Online CourseHow do your early childhood attachment experiences shape your physical and emotional intimacy as an adult?What common challenges do couples face when trying to communicate about sex and intimacy?Which actionable steps can partners take to break free from old patterns and foster a more secure, fulfilling connection?In this powerful episode of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, hosts EJ and Tarah Kerwin unpack the fascinating connection between attachment styles developed in childhood and the complexities of adult intimacy. Drawing on real-life examples—as well as their own personal journeys—they demystify the challenges so many couples face in the bedroom and beyond. From anxious and avoidant dynamics to the lasting impact of family messages around sex, pleasure, and boundaries, EJ and Tarah provide valuable insight, practical guidance, and hope that lasting change is possible.Whether you're struggling to express your needs, longing for deeper emotional connection, or simply curious how your past might be affecting your relationship today, this episode is packed with psychoeducation, self-reflection questions, and encouragement. Don't miss the expert tips, relatable stories, and actionable strategies to help you and your partner create more freedom, safety, and satisfaction in your intimacy. Tune in now and take your next step toward a healthier, more connected partnership!Visit relationshiprenovation.com for more tips and resources to elevate your partnership and emotional well-being!Relationship Renovation YoutubeContact UsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

In this episode, Dr. Rena Malik, MD is joined by strength training and fitness expert Mike Isratel to explore the surprising connections between physical fitness and sexual performance. Together, they discuss how exercises like deep squats, deadlifts, hip thrusts, and abdominal workouts not only enhance endurance and strength but can also expand sexual confidence and variety in the bedroom. Dr. Malik and Dr. Isratel also touch on the complex interplay between physical attraction, confidence, and the emotional aspects of intimacy, offering practical tips for listeners looking to boost both their fitness and their sexual well-being. Schedule an appointment with me: https://www.renamalikmd.com/appointments ▶️Chapters: 00:00 Improving Sexual Performance Exercises00:54 Exercises for Thrusting Power05:06 Core & Abdominal Training06:39 Importance of Whole Body Fitness07:41 Personal Experience: Physicality & Sex14:45 Confidence and Sexual Attractiveness24:15 Physical Attraction vs. Long-Term Relationships Stay connected with Dr. Mike Israetel on social media for daily insights and updates. Don't miss out—follow him now and check out these links! Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drmikeisraetel/?hl=en and https://www.instagram.com/drmikeclips/?hl=en Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/michael.israetel/ RP Strength's IG - https://www.instagram.com/rpstrength/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@renaissanceperiodization X - https://x.com/RPstrength Website - https://rpstrength.com To learn more about Dr. Mike and access free guides from RP Strength, click here: http://rpstrength.com/mike Let's Connect!: WEBSITE: http://www.renamalikmd.com YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RenaMalikMD INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/RenaMalikMD TWITTER: http://twitter.com/RenaMalikMD FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/RenaMalikMD/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/renadmalik PINTEREST: https://www.pinterest.com/renamalikmd/ TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/RenaMalikMD ------------------------------------------------------ DISCLAIMER: This podcast is purely educational and does not constitute medical advice. The content of this podcast is my personal opinion, and not that of my employer(s). Use of this information is at your own risk. Rena Malik, M.D. will not assume any liability for any direct or indirect losses or damages that may result from the use of information contained in this podcast including but not limited to economic loss, injury, illness or death. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know mindfulness can dramatically improve your sex life?Whether you're struggling with low desire, checking out during intimacy, or just know there's more available to you — this episode breaks down how mindfulness helps you reclaim your turn-on, expand your capacity for pleasure, and experience more fulfilling sex.

In today's episode, we discuss the importance of caretaking in intimate relationships. Things can go awry when one partner is looking for affection, nurture or attunement and it's read as blame. We all need to be cared for by one another and this is an important system to tend to. Join our experts, Laurie and George to learn more about the caretaking system in your relationship, your needs that you need responded to and how you can provide everyday care to your partner. So what does this have to do with sex? Laurie challenges listeners to a 30 minute emotional debrief a day. If the partner that needs this debrief is met with care and attentiveness chances to better and more sex skyrocket! Don't believe her? Give it a try and make sure to write in your results of the challenge to our listener mailbag on our website www.foreplayrst.com. Check out this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): Uberlube.com -- Laurie's long-time favorite personal lubricant. It will help keep it hot! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So… your partner watches porn. Does that mean they're cheating? Or is it just harmless fantasy? If you've ever asked yourself this—or felt a pit in your stomach after finding out—this episode is for you. In this Language of Love session, I answer a powerful question from a listener named Karen. She just found out her boyfriend watches porn regularly, and she's not sure how to feel. Hurt? Angry? Insecure? Betrayed? Here's the thing—this isn't just about porn. It's about trust. Boundaries. Feeling seen and safe in your relationship. And we're going there. In this episode, we get into: Why watching porn doesn't automatically mean someone is cheating When fantasy crosses the line into a problem What porn does to the brain—and why so many people got hooked during the pandemic How too much porn can mess with intimacy (like, seriously mess with it) Why it's totally normal to feel triggered or rejected—and how to talk about it with your partner The difference between emotional safety and sexual shame—and how to move through both Real tips for navigating conversations around porn, self-pleasure, and trust Remember to visit my website to take a free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex. It's not about right or wrong—it's about discovering what's true for you. I'm here to help you gain clarity on what you want, what feels right, and how to bring more honesty and connection into your relationships. And if you've ever felt alone in your struggles, know this: you're not. So many of us are navigating the same questions. Got something on your mind? A story or question you'd like to share? I'd love to hear from you. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Austin Cresap is therapist specialising in sex therapy and sex education in Seattle, Washington, and Hawaii.In this conversation, she shared some fantastic ideas and practical tips for making intimacy easier, more playful and that takes the pressure out of who initiates sex. She talked about using a secret signal, like a coffee cup, to indicate interest in intimacy. Austin also introduced the "No, but…" approach, as a way of overcoming the challenge of mismatched libidos - a more thoughtful way to reject an act without rejecting your partner, keeping the connection intact.For me, preparation is a big part of intimacy. Whether it's putting on something that makes me feel attractive, doing my hair, or just mentally getting into the mood, it's all part of the process. I also made the case for scheduling intimacy and we discussed why it's not unromantic. As we discussed, we schedule everything else in life, so why not prioritise time for connection? What really resonated with me was how creativity can transform intimacy. Whether it's playful signals like the coffee cup, role-playing, or simply planning ahead, it's all about keeping things fresh and fun. As Austin pointed out, these approaches help couples navigate busy lives and different arousal styles, making intimacy less about spontaneity and more about meaningful connection. You can find Austin at:http://www.icameheretotalktherapy.com00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors01:54 Exploring Intimacy and Nonverbal Cues12:20 Understanding Female Hormones and Sexuality19:33 Cultural Perspectives on Aging and Sexuality26:00 The Pressure of Performance in Sexual Relationships30:10 Creative Approaches to IntimacyIf you enjoyed our conversation, let me know! I love to hear from my listeners (and it doesn't happen often enough). If you've found any of the tips on this or any of my shows helpful, a review on iTunes would go a very long way.If you'd like access to exclusive features like personal posts, my new 32 page booklet, Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, my private chat room, direct messaging for your burning questions, and Substack Live sessions with expert guests, consider becoming a paid subscriber! Your sex life will thank you for it. :)Thousands of people are finally talking about intimacy, desire and pleasure without shame. Join them - subscribe now and you'll receive my freebie - Top 10 Overlooked Secrets to Better Sex.Annual membership is just £49.99 (a better deal than £6.99/month) and supports the work behind creating weekly podcasts, managing social media, collaborating with health professionals, and producing valuable resources. This isn't just a hobby—it's my passion and profession.Your subscription helps empower older individuals to feel sexually confident and access tools for pain-free, pleasurable intimacy.What others are saying:"I just finished listening to your podcast! I felt like I was sitting around the dinner table with friends, finally able to talk about what no one else does."“First of all, let me tell you how awesome I think you are and how valuable I think your Substack is.”“Your work is one of my new found joys. Thank you.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Ever wonder why talking about relationship problems sometimes makes things worse? In this  episode, Todd Creager therapist and relationship expert shares why "just talking about it" isn't always the solution – and what you can do instead. He's seen countless couples struggle with communication, only to end up more frustrated than when they started. But there's hope, and he's here to show you a better way.In this episode, you'll discover:- The crucial difference between "venting" and "sharing," and why one builds connection while the other creates distance- How to move past surface-level "secondary emotions" like anger and frustration to reach the vulnerable, primary emotions that lead to real understanding- Simple techniques to create a safe space for authentic communication, including non-verbal cues that can transform your conversationsWhether you're struggling with constant arguments or just want to enhance your relationship's communication, this episode offers practical insights to help you and your partner truly connect. Join Todd Creager as he explains how to make your conversations count and create the deep, meaningful connection you've been seeking. Because when we communicate with the right intent, amazing things happen. As always, I'm here to make the world safe for love.Want to go deeper? Check out my comprehensive program "From Bickering & Escalating to Connecting & Loving" where I share even more tools for lasting relationship transformation right here: https://www.toddcreagertraining.com/loving-connecting-masterclassTAKE ACTION:Todd Creager, LCSW, LMFTTodd is a relationship expert and therapist in Huntington Beach.  He provides relationship coaching to couples throughout the world and in Orange County including Irvine, Newport Beach, Corona del Mar, Laguna Beach, Seal Beach and Long Beach.  (714) 848-2288.You can find more tips and resources from Todd Creager at:  https://toddcreager.com✅   Secrets to a Sexy Marriage:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/sexy-marriage-secrets✅  10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/infidelity-checklist✅  7 Ways to Divorce Proof Your Marriage: https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/optin-DPYM✅ 7 Signs You Came From a Dysfunctional Family:  https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/7signs✅ Better Sex in Midlife and beyond https://toddcreager.kartra.com/page/bettersexinmidlifeJOIN TODD ON SOCIAL:✅  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipBreakthrough✅  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/todd_creager/✅  Twitter - https://twitter.com/toddcreager✅  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddcreager✅  Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/toddcreager/

They say love is enough—but is it really? What if one simple question could reveal whether your relationship is built for long-term growth… or destined to quietly fall apart? In this Language of Love Bite, we explore the subtle but powerful force that separates short-lived connection from lasting partnership: mutual inspiration. This isn't about how often you laugh together or whether you share a Spotify playlist. It's about whether you feel proud of who you're becoming with this person—and if your future selves are being shaped by love, not stifled by it. You'll also learn a 2-minute reflection exercise (called “The Mirror Test”) that just might change the way you look at your relationship forever. Let's dive in! What You'll Learn: The one question that can predict whether your relationship is built to last Why growth—not just chemistry—is the real glue in long-term love Key signs your partner supports your evolution (and red flags they might not) How admiration and inspiration fuel deeper connection Simple ways to check in on growth—monthly rituals, vision sharing, and more How to use journaling to reinforce love, even in small everyday moments “The Mirror Test”: A quick exercise to assess who you've become in this relationship—and who you're becoming Because true love doesn't just feel good. It helps you grow. Want to see how your relationship is really doing? Start with my free quiz and explore 7 Days to Better Sex, a gentle path toward more connection, honesty, and intimacy. Got a question or a story to share? I'd love to hear from you at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure Sexual confidence and embracing your desires The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text 

What I often see from those who listen to this podcast, or even from my clients, is that they want a quick fix to their problems in the bedroom. They think that if they learn the right position, or the perfect rhythm, or how to last longer, that it will magically fix all the issues they're having. So let me say again….Better sex is not about technique. Technique won't spark your desire again. Technique won't make you feel wanted again. But it does feel like the easy answer. So if technique won't do those things, what will? Let's talk about what the harder work actually looks like, why we avoid it, and what's possible when we stop skimming the surface and go deeper.

Better sex does not require fancy toys, lingerie, or a new partner! In this episode, I'm sharing the 5 most foundational tools for better, deeper, more connected sex—whether you're flying solo or diving in with a lover.These are the same tools I use in my own sex life and with my coaching clients to create mind-blowing intimacy, unleash full-body orgasms, and turn up the dial on pleasure in a grounded, embodied way.We cover:What safety actually means—and how to feel it in your bodyThe #1 most underrated orgasmic tool (hint: you're doing it right now)How sounding like a wild animal is a portal to better sexWhat “sexual energy” is and how to move it through your bodyWhy setting an intention (yes, even solo) changes everythingThese 5 practices are simple, powerful, and available to you right now.This episode is perfect for you if you're ready to drop deeper into your body, wake up your pleasure, and experience sex as sacred, playful, powerful, and healing.Listen now and start transforming your sex life—one breath, sound, and swirl of the hips at a time!Like this episode? Leave a review and share it with someone who needs to hear this.—Practice all these tools with your free 15 minute pleasure breathwork audio guide! https://www.krishall.ca/the-pleasure-portal Join our newsletter:www.krishall.ca  Instagram:@illhavewhatsheshaving_podcast Work with Kris 1:1 to uplevel your sex life! https://www.krishall.ca/coaching Join our intimate sacred sexuality retreat: Wild Women Rising! https://www.krishall.ca/wild-women-rising-bowen Create the relationship of your dreams - join our couples course Love That Lasts!https://www.krishall.ca/love-that-lasts Use code KRIS10 for 10% your next pleasure toy! https://waands.com/?ref=illhavewhatsheshaving 

DEEPEN YOUR INTIMACY & WELL-BEINGApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather's Pathway to Passion coaching method: https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/Unveiling the Secrets of Vaginal Microbiome Health with Wendy StrgarIn this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' I welcome Wendy Strgar, founder of Good Clean Love and Womankind Care. Wendy dives deep into her journey of creating products to improve vaginal health, emphasizing the crucial importance of a balanced vaginal microbiome. We discuss key topics like the role of osmolality, the surprising impact of many conventional products on your vaginal health, and her groundbreaking Bio-Match technology. Wendy also shares insights on the broader connections between vaginal issues and overall well-being, offering practical tips for maintaining a healthy microbiome. You won't want to miss this one!About our guest:Wendy Strgar is an award-winning, serial entrepreneur and the Founder of Good Clean Love, Vaginal Biome Science, and Womankind Care. Strgar's commitment to vaginal health led to the development of patented BioMatched technology, an innovative scientific approach applying biomimicry to the formulation of women's health products. As CIO at Good Clean Love and CEO at Vaginal Biome Science and Womankind Care, she has developed a quantitative microbiota panel and the most advanced and effective product technologies to stabilize vaginal microbiome health and has effected change in both osmolality and animal testing requirements at the FDA. Exclusive Offer: Get 20% off Good Clean Love products with code (askasextherapist20) Book A Quickie (micro coaching package) - Get Unstuck In Your Sex Life!Website - https://HeatherShannon.co RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapistThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

In this unapologetically real episode of Enlighten Me, Julian dives deep into the heart of intimacy—beyond performance, beyond pressure, and beyond surface-level connection. "Intimacy Unlocked" explores what it truly takes to build a better sex life with your partner: emotional safety, honest communication, vulnerability, and trust. If you've ever struggled to feel seen, desired, or understood in the bedroom, this conversation will challenge you, heal you, and empower you. It's time to unlearn shame, rewrite the script, and unlock deeper pleasure—together.

Love after trauma isn't just about passion—it's about patience. The quiet moments between kisses, the hesitation in a held hand, the unspoken fear that lingers in intimacy… These are the places where love is tested—and where it can be rebuilt. In this Language of Love Session, we return to Brian and Stacey's raw, unfolding story. If you've been with us, you know: this isn't just about sex. It's about two hearts trying to find safety in each other—while wrestling with the ghosts of their pasts. (If you're new here, make sure to listen to my past sessions with Brian and Stacy to learn about the heartache, the fights, the small victories that brought them here.) So what happens when healing almost feels within reach? When the arguments soften, the warmth returns… and then—out of nowhere—the old pain rushes back in? Here's What You'll Take Away: “I want to, but I can't”—why this conflict is more common than we admit (and how to move through it) How childhood wounds whisper in adult intimacy—and how to quiet them When even loving touch feels like pressure—and how to rewrite that story Why watching porn together became a bridge, not a wall The moment a simple kiss became the bravest act of all How couples accidentally retraumatize each other—and how to stop The shift that helped Stacey reclaim her body—and her voice Why Brian is learning that patience isn't passive—it's love in action Want to feel safe in your own skin—and in your partner's arms? Start with my free quiz and then delve into 7 Days to Better Sex. If you're navigating deeper wounds, explore EMDR therapy or dive into the Drama Triangle—because real love shouldn't reopen old scars. Your story isn't over. In fact, the most healing chapters may be just ahead. Questions or thoughts? I'd love to hear from you: languageoflovepod@gmail.com And if this episode moved you, share it. Healing is contagious when we do it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/

In today's episode we are joined again by Dr. Ryan Rana, director of the Joshua Center in Arkansas and partners with George in the online EFT school for therapists, 'Success in Vulnerability.' Ryan joins our hosts in an in depth conversation discussing how to be more vulnerable in your sexual relationship. A relationship that centers on logistics and mechanics functions but doesn't access the power of attachment energy. To risk being seen, heard and understood deepens connection and harnesses a powerful energy. This 'soul connection' is the benefit from taking risks to be vulnerable with your partner by expressing feelings and needs. Come along with us today to learn more about what it looks like to be more vulnerable, how vulnerability can take your sex life from drab to fab and why deep connection with your partner is one of life's greatest stress reducers. Vulnerability can feel scary but on the flipside of feeling scared is feeling excited! Vulnerability is a major turn on! Check out this episode's sponsor (and help the pod!): OneSkin - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every guy's heard it: “I gotta run it by my wife first.” It's the punchline of every guy's night—but is it actually the secret to a happy marriage and better sex? In this Mission Brief, Goose shares a personal story about how buying a gun taught him a powerful lesson about emotional connection, communication, and why smart husbands always check with their wives first. Forget the jokes. This is what mature men really understand.✅ How emotional connection boosts your marriage✅ Why guys who don't ask… usually aren't having great sexSubscribe for more real talk about marriage, masculinity, and how not to sleep on the couch.Follow Men's AllianceInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/mensalliancetribe/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mensalliancetribeTiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@mensalliancetribeWebsite - https://www.mensalliancetribe.com/Order the Book - Answer With Truth: The Ambassador's Field Manual for Leading Your Family Spiritually - https://amzn.to/3BmnuKV

Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop? The same fights, the same frustrations, the same silent distance—even though you both want things to be better. Here's the truth: Your partner's baggage fits yours perfectly. The work isn't to change them—it's to unpack your own while holding space for theirs. In this raw and revealing Language of Love session, Brian and Stacey lay bare their struggle—blame, withdrawal, and the aching fear of not being enough. Stacey is fighting to reclaim her voice after trauma, wondering if her needs even matter.Brian admits he's been avoiding effort, hiding behind the excuse of being “too busy.” Their story is your story. The tiny misunderstandings that explode into disconnection. The love that's there but buried under frustration. The desperate hope that things could be different—if only they knew how. If you've ever felt invisible in your relationship, used "busyness" as an excuse to avoid hard conversations, wondered why affection feels like a battleground, or found yourself trapped in the blame-defend-withdraw cycle, this episode will leave you breathless—and give you the tools to break free. Here's what you'll learn in this episode:  Why “I don't have time” is often code for avoidance—and how to fix it  The silent killer of relationships: unspoken expectations around affection  How just 10 minutes of intentional time can rebuild connection  The Drama Triangle (Victim, Villain, Hero)—and how to step off it  How to ask for love without triggering defensiveness  Why childhood wounds keep replaying in your relationship—and how to stop them  Non-sexual touch: The secret to rebuilding emotional safety  How to hold space for both love and frustration (yes, it's possible!) Ready to Heal? Take my free quiz and start 7 Days to Better Sex to transform intimacy today. For deeper trauma work, explore EMDR and the Drama Triangle—because love shouldn't hurt this much. Your story isn't over yet. Let's rewrite it together. Got questions? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Share this episode—love grows when we heal together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt like the spark between you and your partner has… well, fizzled out? Like, maybe you're sitting on opposite ends of the couch scrolling through your phones instead of actually talking ? Or worse, you've started avoiding conversations because they feel too heavy or awkward? Trust me, you're not alone. What if I told you that fixing this disconnect doesn't require hours of deep talks, expensive date nights, or some grand romantic gesture? What if all it takes is just five minutes a day? In this Language of Love Bite, we're diving into why disconnection happens—and more importantly, how you can fix it faster than you think. By the end of this episode, you'll have an easy-to-follow ritual that will reignite intimacy and bring you closer than ever before.  Here's what we dive into: The 3 most common stealth disconnection culprits A powerful 60 second technique that will maximize your connection  How to turn mundane moments into micro-connections  The "gratitude hug" that doubles as relationship armor against stress Active listening tricks that make your partner feel truly heard The heart-to-heart hold ritual that synchronizes your emotional wavelengths Don't miss out on 7 Days to Better Sex —a game-changing guide designed to bring more passion and connection into your relationship. Plus, take my  Free  quiz to discover new ways to strengthen your bond and take your relationship to the next level. And be sure to check out my newest  book, Sex Magic, to take your sex life to an entirely new level.  Your love life deserves this! Have a love language success story or a challenge you're facing? I'd love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com —your story might just inspire others in a future episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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EPISODE LINKS: START YOUR HEALING JOURNEY TODAY: Click Here to Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Relationship ProgramGO FIND THE SHOW ON YOUTUBE: Dr. Morgan TVLOVE MAGNET DR MORGAN'S BOOK: GRAB YOUR COPY TODAY! FIND OUT YOUR UNIQUE ATTACHMENT STYLE: Click Here to Take The Free QuizI'm so excited to welcome Shaun Galanos, love coach and sex educator, to the podcast! We talk about vulnerability, communication, pleasure, and the real stuff that no one teaches us—like how to talk about sex, how to explore emotional intimacy (especially for men), and why self-worth and pleasure are deeply connected.This is an honest, unfiltered conversation that'll leave you feeling more empowered to express your desires, navigate the tough conversations, and show up more fully in your relationships.Inside this episode we discuss: Why vulnerability and communication are essential for emotional and sexual intimacyHow gender roles and societal expectations shape the way we show up in sex and relationshipsThe power of curiosity, boundaries, and self-worth in building a fulfilling love lifeConnect with Shaun: Website: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/Podcast: The Love Drive with Shaun GalanosInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thelovedriveReady to do the work to show up securely attached? Join us inside the 8-Week Empowered.Secure.Loved. Relationship Program. This proven framework rooted in the science of attachment theory is everything you need to rewire your brain for healthy emotionally available love that lasts. Click Here to Apply to the Empowered.Secure.Loved. Relationship Program

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What's a common stereotype you've heard about sex? Maybe it's that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential.  So on today's show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they're long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want.  Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let's text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you. Here to deliver the most important sex advice you need to hear is renowned sex therapist and bestselling author, Vanessa Marin.  Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist and a sex therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience helping people have healthier, more satisfying sex lives. She is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. This conversation tackles everything you weren't taught—and probably aren't talking about—when it comes to sex. Mel also shares openly about her own sex life, difficulties with intimacy, and speaks openly in a way you've never heard before.Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, this conversation is going to make you think differently about sex and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender. You'll learn:-The real reason you feel disconnected in your sex life-The two different types of sex drives and why it matters -What to do if you're on your way to a dry bedroom-What exactly to say if you're not in the mood when your partner initiates sexIf you feel like you can't talk about sex, if you can't ask for what you want, don't know how to bring it up, are going through a dry spell, or want to have more sex but you're exhausted, this episode is for you. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you enjoyed this personal and practical episode, listen to this one next: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of MarriageConnect with Mel:  Get Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer

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Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander, her husband, is a self proclaimed “regular dude who's been married to a sex therapist for over a decade.” Together, they help people stop feeling so embarrassed about sex, start having more fun in the bedroom and communicate better. They join the show to talk how to *actually* keep the spark alive in long term relationships, being child-free by choice, how to discern between true incompatibility and just poor communication, the two types of desire and sex drives, relationship and sex myths and how to talk to your partner about sex.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Go to clearstem.com/WELL and use code WELL at checkout for 20% off. Save 15% off my favorite red light face mask at boncharge.com and use code BLONDE.Go to www.YNAB.com/well for an exclusive three-month free trial with no credit card required.Visit hungryroot.com/blonde to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice.Visit opositiv.com/blonde for 25% off your first order.Visit nutrafol.com and use code BLONDE to get $10 off your first month's subscription & free shipping.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.