The Hey, Girlfriend Podcast

Seeking Closure Within | Reclaim Your Power & Heal on Your Own I'm diving deep into the powerful journey of seeking closure within. If you're waiting on an apology, explanation, or final conversation that may never come—this is for you. I'll be sharing practical steps on how to process your emotions on your own, release what's been weighing you down, and finally move forward.Closure doesn't always come from someone else—it can come from you. And when it does, it can help you reclaim your power, rebuild your peace, and step fully into the next chapter of your life.✨ Let's connect:

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of self-abandonment in dating—what it looks like, where it stems from, and how it sabotages your sense of self and emotional well-being.If you've ever found yourself shrinking, people-pleasing, or compromising your values just to keep someone around, this conversation is for you. We're unpacking the signs of self-abandonment, how to reclaim your power, and what it means to choose yourself without guilt.✨ Let's connect:

Let's be real—he's not confused, he's just not emotionally available. In this video, I'm breaking down exactly why women need to stop entertaining emotionally unavailable men. No more waiting on mixed signals, no more fixing projects, and definitely no more chasing bare minimum energy.It's time to choose peace, not potential.If you needed a sign—this is it.

Sometimes, the most painful part of leaving a toxic relationship isn't the person—it's the fear of what comes next. The unknown can feel paralyzing. What if I don't find better? What if I end up alone? What if I made a mistake?In this video, I'm sharing what it was really like to walk away from someone I thought I couldn't live without, and how fear almost kept me stuck in a cycle I didn't deserve. If you've ever felt torn between staying in the familiar chaos or stepping into the uncertain peace, I see you. I was you.This isn't just a story about leaving—it's about choosing yourself, even when it's scary.Because the unknown isn't something to fear—it's where healing begins.If this hit home, please like, comment, and subscribe. What fear are you facing right now? You're not alone.

Whew—this one's personal. In this video, I'm opening up about how I finally got over a man I really wanted—a man I was trauma bonded to. You know the kind—the one you you really wanted to be with although he was all wrong for you. I'm sharing my real story, the emotional rollercoaster, and exactly what I did to heal and move forward with my peace (and dignity!) intact.From the hard truths to the healing habits, I'm walking you through the steps that helped me let go, reclaim my power, and stop romanticizing someone who wasn't right for me. Whether you're fresh out of a situationship, trying to move on from someone you never even dated, or deep in your feels over someone who didn't choose you—this one's for you.If you've ever struggled to move on from someone you thought you couldn't live without, I hope my story helps you feel less alone—and reminds you of your power.✨ Let's connect:

So… he didn't choose you. Now what? Before you start overthinking or blaming yourself, let's talk about what this really means. In this video, I'm breaking down the hard truths, the hidden blessings, and why being “passed over” might actually be the best thing that ever happened to you.If you've ever felt rejected, overlooked, or like you weren't “enough” for a man—this one's for you. Because trust me, YOU are the prize, and the right one will see it.✨ Let's connect:

As a woman that stayed…I can't tell you when to leave because I couldn't be convinced back then. So here's my nuanced, empathetic view on such a heavy topic.Why do some women stay in toxic relationships when leaving seems like the obvious choice? In this episode, I dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and societal factors that make walking away easier said than done.Through personal stories and raw conversations, I explore the complex reality of toxic love—how manipulation, fear, hope, and even self-blame can create invisible chains. Instead of judgment, I'm offering understanding. Because the truth is, it's never as simple as “just leave.”If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, loved someone who stayed, or just want a deeper perspective on why people hold on to unhealthy love, this episode is for you.

Let's be real—if he's not choosing you, he's simply not for you. No more overthinking, no more excuses, and definitely no more waiting around for him to realize your worth. In this video, I'm breaking down why you should never settle for mixed signals, how to readjust your mindset when a man just isn't stepping up, and why walking away is the most powerful move you can make.If you're tired of chasing, guessing, and feeling like an afterthought, this one's for you. Know your worth and act like it!✨ Let's connect:

Are you an empath who feels everything too deeply? Do you struggle with setting boundaries, managing emotional overwhelm, or navigating relationships without losing yourself?This episode is dedicated to helping empaths break free from toxic cycles, embrace their intuition, and step into their full power.

Want to be the kind of person who naturally attracts others? In this episode, I break down the mindset shifts needed to build confidence & self esteem. I also include multiple confidence building tips to help you become the woman of your own dreams, first, before trying to be the woman of any man's dream.Afterall, desirability starts from within.I help you to feel good about yourself first so that you can exude more confidence naturally.✨ Topics Covered:✔️ Tips for effortless attraction✔️ The power of self-respect and boundaries✔️ The power of desiring yourself, first✔️ How to increase your self respect✔️ Small changes that make a BIG impact

Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 3-You lack confidence in yourself, your intuition & what you feel you deserve.So, you're at any man's will.I will guide you in where you're going wrong & how to build your confidence so that you can have better dating experiences & never settle again.

Why you keep getting blindsided: Reason 2- You are not adjusting your standards & non-negotiables accordingly. You're comparing each new man you date to your ex instead of comparing new men to a new list of your requirements. This episode will help you to recognize this pattern & give you steps on how to change it.

You're trying to see the best in him. Reason 1-you are not a good judgement of character or you refuse to judge him period. You find yourself trying to see the best in him & give him the benefit of the doubt (when you should be doubting him). This episode I dive into how to break out of the habit of “trying to see the best” in a man & see him for who he's really showing you.

You know your worth, you're just taking it personal that he doesn't. Don't. Why want a man who doesn't value all of who you are? ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

It's time to center yourself & de-center men for good. It doesn't mean you hate men or never want a man again, it just means you're not losing yourself in a man or a relationship. Ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

I've recently been in my disciplined, go get it girl era & I feel sooo much better about myself & my life! Being more disciplined works y'all lol.If I had known the other side felt like this, I would've been started.So, I'm sharing how I got unstuck & just got up! A major part was getting out my damn feelings & helpless state. I hope this episode is the mindset shift you need to GET UP

Detached dating doesn't mean you're aloof or cold & not wanting love, it means you're detached until you have the proper information about that man to know it's safe to securely attach.This episodes dives more into what detached dating is & how it can benefit your dating life.ivebeenthatgirltoo.comBONUS EPISODE on how men can fake being emotionally available just to get you attached here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/ep-130-men-being-115610847?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Setting boundaries with family can be the hardest because you love them. and not to mention they sometimes equate you setting boundaries with them as disloyalty or disrespect.Part 2 coming next Thursday! I want to go in depth with boundary setting with PARENTS! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Greenflags he has good intentions and truly wants to get to know you. ivebeenthatgirl.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Prepare to be called out--but in a loving, empathetic way. I've been this girl too--feeling stuck or feeling behind in life. I share some of my "tools" or mindset shifts I've learned to use when these feelings come up. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

You can't always vet that a man is going to betray you... BUT, here are a few covert things that can help you to be on the lookout for when dating. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

You gotta know when to get in and get out. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

A man once loving you and then discarding you like you meant nothing to him hurts to the CORE. Let's talk about it and heal through it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Self trust builds confidence and self esteem. It is just as important as having self love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

If you're trying to love yourself, then you already do. Your self love is there, in you already--its just waiting for you to embrace it and expand into it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

So, you think you can fix him, huh? You need proof that you give good love and you think that will be made evident in loving a man into changing for you? You think love has to be earned? You feel you can heal a man? If any of these things apply to you, this is the episode for you. I use to be this girl. I help you understand why you do this and how you can change it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

No, the answer is not becoming an emotionless savage that hates love (but if you do, that's yo business). If you still want love and want a relationship, the answer is taking the lessons from previous hurts and applying them moving forward. The answer is not losing yourself in a man. I go over 7 points here that could help you to ground yourself so you're not losing yourself in the next relationship. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

a man competing with your alone time and good life that you've made for yourself is better than him competing with a roster of men that aren't even in alignment with what you want anyway. Think about it. It's okay if you prefer to talk to and date one man at a time and it may just be better for you. In this episode I dive into how and why it could better and how to NOT worry so much about getting hurt from putting all your eggs in one basket. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

What's stopping you from being confident? For me, it was the fear of being "fraudulent," meaning I didn't want to be one of those "delusional" people that thought too highly of herself and her capabilities...just for others to think I'm "crazy" for thinking that way about myself. BUT...what if we were more "delusional" about ourselves? Could that build our confidence? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Understand that that can be your LAST toxic, traumatic relationship and last time coming undone and hitting rock bottom over a man. You don't have to be afraid of trying love again. These 5 steps can help with that. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Our voids, codependency and attachment issues can really play min tricks on us like we need inconsistent, unavailable, bread crumbing ass men. Let go, girl. YOU need you. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Comparing yourself to others is literally a thief a joy and not only that, you're simultaneously diminishing who you are and your self worth. On this episode, I talk about how, I, myself got caught up and depressed comparing myself to someone else and what my resolve was to get back to me. I offer mindset shifts and ways to self soothe whenever you catch yourself comparing. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

I don't like how men with mics claim that the reason for their bad behavior and mistreatment of women is because of the woman not requiring more from them. It's like only women are supposed to hold themselves accountable and the men are just supposed to keep being shitty until every woman in the world decides to stop "enabling" them. but I digress because my fight isn't to make them hear me--im not in the business of trying to heal a man and make him change. This is for my ladies. I want y'all to know that there are men that you don't have to do all that with. There are men that are good men for them damn selves, first, and have enough integrity to show up and show out for a woman he wants and values. You can't make a man treat you right, respect you, value you or love you. He either will or he won't and it's on him if he doesn't, not you! end rant. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Take away their potential and what are you left with?? 1:1 coaching, books ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

I get it, you're an empath and "love hard," but girlfriend, you can't be so understanding that you tolerate disrespect and being treated less than you deserve. In this episode I talk about WHY you may be so understanding and how to stop it and how understanding you should be. There are levels to this understanding thing and I tackle all of them. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Stop entertaining less than you deserve. Situation-ships are cool if you're okay with pouring your energy, time and care into something that will never materialize into more. If you're a "lover-girl" and want monogamy, you'll never be happy and fully satisfied with a situation-ship. This episode helps you to change your mindset around situation-ships and why you just can't leave them alone. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

I've been THROUGH it, to help you through it. Bonus ep: "Loving Again After the WORST Heartbreak of My Life" here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/95832296?pr=true --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Yes, that's right...BE MORE SELFISH! This episode is all about how I learned to stop people pleasing, over-extending myself and feeling guilty for preserving my energy to take care of myself. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

I made this podcast to help you become more confident when it comes to setting and standing on your standards and what you want. You're really the only one that can determine if your standards are too low. Don't let anyone tell you want you want isn't enough--maybe its enough FOR YOU. You make the call when it's time to raise or change your standards. I created mine as I dated and even changed some. What was good for me may have not been good enough for someone else but it's up to us to always remain true to us and what feels right for us. Just ensure your standards for yourself and your life align with what you want. Adjust accordingly and stand on that. ivebeenthatgirl.net for coaching, books and other --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

On this episode, I implore you to really think about what accountability is and what it isn't. I feel like so many times we tend to fall deep into shame and despair around our mistakes or we are extra hard on ourselves--none of this is accountability. I help you so see that accountability can be healing and shouldn't hurt you or make you feel bad about yourself. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

My journey from first, realizing I might be emotionally unavailable to becoming more emotionally available.

A relationship being toxic is not the only reason for you to leave a relationship. I wasn't gonna say much about this or discuss Lori (because I don't know her or her life lol) but a follower dm-ed me with concerns about walking away and detaching. So, I wanted to expound on leaving situations even if they aren't toxic. ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

A mindset shift around why you say you want better but yet still find yourself settling. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Standards not only save you from low quality experiences but they also save you from traumatic breakups and endings. topic and idea credit: Shera Seven --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

What if you were a good woman to yourself, first? ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

Abandonment is not your fault nor is it a reflection of who you are. "You're not being abandoned, you're being set FREE." ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

The reel that sparked the podcast idea: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CxgKD3MOoYA/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

When the "with you" is silent when he says, "I don't want a relationship" OR You're waiting around hoping the situation-ship becomes more. Bonus episode on MORE about being the placeholder here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/ep-125-dont-be-89290901?utm_medium=sharesheet&utm_source=sharesheet&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

"I love myself too much to tolerate____" ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support

This isn't your ordinary type of love or relationship. So this isn't your typical break up. . . . .

Some things you just gotta accept in order to have true inner peace. books, coaching, social media pages: ivebeenthatgirl.net --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/ivebeenthatgirltoo/support