Podcasts about before you split

Fixating solely on things you want your spouse to change isn't good for your marriage. Jim Daly speaks with Toni Nieuwhof about the dangers of focusing too much on your spouse's problems. Plus, John and Erin share how owning your faults can help you make it through marital challenges.    Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage   Support This Show!    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Fixating solely on things you want your spouse to change isn't good for your marriage. Jim Daly speaks with Toni Nieuwhof about the dangers of focusing too much on your spouse's problems. Plus, John and Erin share how owning your faults can help you make it through marital challenges.    Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage   Support This Show!    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

How do you forgive your mate, when it seems like your marriage is filled with hurt? Jim Daly speaks with Toni and Carey Nieuwhof, who faced many difficulties in their relationship, about forgiveness and restoration. Plus, John and Greg talk about how restoration comes when you own your mistakes and flaws.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

How do you forgive your mate, when it seems like your marriage is filled with hurt? Jim Daly speaks with Toni and Carey Nieuwhof, who faced many difficulties in their relationship, about forgiveness and restoration. Plus, John and Greg talk about how restoration comes when you own your mistakes and flaws.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

Many struggling couples are asking, "Can our relationship survive?" Carey Nieuwhof joins Jim Daly to share about how he's seen divorce negatively impact people. You'll then hear John ask Greg and Erin Smalley about how they persevered through some challenging times in their own marriage.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Many struggling couples are asking, "Can our relationship survive?" Carey Nieuwhof joins Jim Daly to share about how he's seen divorce negatively impact people. You'll then hear John ask Greg and Erin Smalley about how they persevered through some challenging times in their own marriage.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Contact our Counseling Department    Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

The pain of divorce is regarded as one of the hardest things a person can face. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to share about ways they've seen divorce negatively impact others. Also, John, Greg and Erin offer hope to couples who've been in a desparate season for a long time.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

The pain of divorce is regarded as one of the hardest things a person can face. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to share about ways they've seen divorce negatively impact others. Also, John, Greg and Erin offer hope to couples who've been in a desparate season for a long time.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

Sometimes, when spouses lash out at each other, it's actually rooted in childhood wounds. Toni Nieuwhof nearly lost her marriage with her husband Carey, and she talks with Jim Daly about how wounds from growing up negatively impacted her marriage. Then, John and the Smalley's discuss first steps spouses can take toward wholeness if they have undealt with childhood trauma.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Watch Greg Smalley's Story    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Sometimes, when spouses lash out at each other, it's actually rooted in childhood wounds. Toni Nieuwhof nearly lost her marriage with her husband Carey, and she talks with Jim Daly about how wounds from growing up negatively impacted her marriage. Then, John and the Smalley's discuss first steps spouses can take toward wholeness if they have undealt with childhood trauma.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime    Watch Greg Smalley's Story    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

Have you ever felt like giving up on your marriage? You are not the only one. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof share with Jim Daly about the night they hit rock bottom in their marriage. Also, Erin Smalley talks with John and Greg about why some couples struggle to keep fighting for their marriage.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored Marriage Intensives   Audio Download: "Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Stay"    Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

Have you ever felt like giving up on your marriage? You are not the only one. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof share with Jim Daly about the night they hit rock bottom in their marriage. Also, Erin Smalley talks with John and Greg about why some couples struggle to keep fighting for their marriage.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY.   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored Marriage Intensives   Audio Download: "Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Stay"    Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage    Contact our Counseling Department    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

It may seem to others like you have it all together, but inside, you know your marriage is struggling. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to share how they reached a crisis in their marriage, even though they were leading a growing church. Also, John and the Smalley's will provide a word of hope if you feel like you have nowhere to turn. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Audio Download: "Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Stay"  Contact Our Counseling Department  If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

It may seem to others like you have it all together, but inside, you know your marriage is struggling. Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to share how they reached a crisis in their marriage, even though they were leading a growing church. Also, John and the Smalley's will provide a word of hope if you feel like you have nowhere to turn. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Marriage Intensives Audio Download: "Rejecting Divorce and Choosing to Stay"  Contact Our Counseling Department  If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

If you'd asked me (Toni) about what or who was causing our marital strife during the rough period my husband Carey and I went through, I can assure you I would not have pointed the finger back at me. For a time, I firmly believed Carey was mainly to blame. Only later did I discover how much my own lack of self-awareness and my weaknesses were also at play. In today's episode with my friend and owner of the Covey Wellness Centre, Sarah Covey, we talk about how our journeys in personal growth intersect marriage. We talk about my book, Before You Split, where I chronicle some of the personal challenges Carey and I faced, our learnings, research and perspectives from my work as a divorce attorney. Listen in for practical insights on how to overcome the obstacles that keep you from being more deeply satisfied with your married life.

What can you do when your spouse says, "I want out of this marriage?" Greg tells John the story of how he and Erin reached a difficult time in their marriage. Also Toni and Carey Nieuwhof talk with Jim Daly about how they went to counseling after Toni confessed she wanted to leave.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime   Contact our Counseling Department   Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

What can you do when your spouse says, "I want out of this marriage?" Greg tells John the story of how he and Erin reached a difficult time in their marriage. Also Toni and Carey Nieuwhof talk with Jim Daly about how they went to counseling after Toni confessed she wanted to leave.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime   Contact our Counseling Department   Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

When a couple reaches a desperate place, they start asking questions like, "Can our marriage survive?" Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to tell their love story, and when they later reached a crisis in their relationship. Then, John and Erin discuss how couples can still be restored, even if it seems hopeless now.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime   Contact our Counseling Department   Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback.

When a couple reaches a desperate place, they start asking questions like, "Can our marriage survive?" Carey and Toni Nieuwhof join Jim Daly to tell their love story, and when they later reached a crisis in their relationship. Then, John and Erin discuss how couples can still be restored, even if it seems hopeless now.   Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY   Receive the book Before You Split for your donation of any amount!   Hope Restored   Listen Anytime   Contact our Counseling Department   Is Divorce the Right Answer?    If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29

Has marriage been harder than you thought it would be? We often say there's hope for every marriage, no matter where you are today - and there truly is. But you may be wondering how exactly to hold on and fight for your marriage if you're in a really hard season. Today, we are sharing Dr. Kim's conversation with special guest Toni Nieuwhof.  Toni is an author, speaker and family law mediator, and she brings such hope and wisdom in today's episode. Tune in for hope and help to make the future of your marriage better than today.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The mental shift helped Toni and her husband keep fighting when their marriage was on the brink Practical steps they took to start healing  Common issues Toni sees couples divorce over  How to change your mental narrative about your marriage    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Get more of Toni's wisdom on this topic in her book, “Before You Split”  On her website at https://toninieuwhof.com/  And on the Smart Family Podcast  Are you willing to do what it takes to reset and renew your marriage? Fight for your marriage with the  Marriage 911 online course. Missed the other episodes of our summer Worth Repeating Series? So far we've aired:  Worth Repeating | Be Your Authentic Self in a Superficial World With Special Guest Sam Acho Worth Repeating | Breathe: Don't Be Prickly Worth Repeating: Cultivating Curiosity & Courage with Special Guest Bob Goff

Has marriage been harder than you thought it would be? We often say there's hope for every marriage, no matter where you are today - and there truly is. But you may be wondering how exactly to hold on and fight for your marriage if you're in a really hard season. Today, we are sharing Dr. Kim's conversation with special guest Toni Nieuwhof.  Toni is an author, speaker and family law mediator, and she brings such hope and wisdom in today's episode. Tune in for hope and help to make the future of your marriage better than today.  We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.  Episode highlights include:  The mental shift helped Toni and her husband keep fighting when their marriage was on the brink Practical steps they took to start healing  Common issues Toni sees couples divorce over  How to change your mental narrative about your marriage    Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!    RESOURCES Get more of Toni's wisdom on this topic in her book, “Before You Split”  On her website at https://toninieuwhof.com/  And on the Smart Family Podcast  Are you willing to do what it takes to reset and renew your marriage? Fight for your marriage with the  Marriage 911 online course. Missed the other episodes of our summer Worth Repeating Series? So far we've aired:  Worth Repeating | Be Your Authentic Self in a Superficial World With Special Guest Sam Acho Worth Repeating | Breathe: Don't Be Prickly Worth Repeating: Cultivating Curiosity & Courage with Special Guest Bob Goff

We got so much positive feedback on this episode and so many new listeners since it first aired in February 2021, that we felt it would be great to replay  - either to listen to again or for the first time. Enjoy! Are you feeling stuck, overwhelmed or disconnected in your marriage? Worried about how this is impacting the kids? Do you wonder if maybe splitting up is better than continuing on? Then this is an episode you won't want to miss. Toni and Carey Niewuhof reflect together on how marriage can become empty, and offer practical advice on how to turn it around. As a family law mediator and former divorce attorney Toni shares her insights in her new book "Before You Split". This honest and open conversation will instil hope - no matter where your marriage is at.

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Subscribe: iTUNES | SPOTIFY | YOUTUBE Here's a reality ... your home and marriage health impacts your serving health. In this episode, Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator, former divorce attorney, author, speaker and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast.  In today's podcast, she shares how her professional experience with divorcing couples and personal challenges in her own marriage culminated in her book “Before You Split" - and it's a book for newlyweds too, not just couples in tough times!    Listen and learn how you can face difficulties without letting your emotions rule your expectations.  We are thrilled to announce that we have a copy of Toni's book to give away with this episode! Head over to Youtube and Subscribe, like and comment there for your chance to win "Before You Split"! The GIVEAWAY closes November 1st 2022!   Connect with Toni  WEBSITE | PODCAST | INSTAGRAM  PODCAST LINKS   Toni Nieuwhof website Better conflict cheat sheet 10 ways to stop your next fight Smart Family Podcast ENCOURAGEMENT "Take control of your expectations before your emotions take control of you." - Toni Nieuwhof 1 Peter 5:5 ESV "...clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for  God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." Thanks for listening! We hope this episode has equipped you for greater influence through serving. We don't want you to miss a single episode, so if you haven't done so already, please subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts. Help us reach more people by writing a review on the Apple podcast app and other podcast apps that you use. The FOUR12 Canada podcast is a ministry of Faith Baptist Church in Huntsville, Ontario. Explore everything FOUR12 Canada at four12.ca. Thanks for spending time with us. See you next time! Subscribe: iTUNES | SPOTIFY | YOUTUBE Up Next Episode 0048:  Claire Odogbo on How to Live Fully Surrendered  

We live in a Pinterest-perfect world where we are told we have to “have it all together.” For many of us, feelings of comparison and inadequacy creep in… especially as we try to balance family and professional life. On this week's podcast, my friend and mentor, Toni Nieuwhof is here to help us ditch perfection and embrace vulnerability as we try to balance the various roles in our lives. I look up to Toni immensely; she walks out what she teaches. She has balanced her family and professional roles with grace and a clear reliance on Jesus. Toni is very familiar with what it feels like to wear many hats. She's a family law mediator, former divorce attorney, author, speaker, and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast. She is married to leadership expert, author, speaker, and former pastor, Carey Niewhof. Carey and Toni have two adult sons. To connect with Toni, visit her website www.toninieuwhof.com and check out her book, “Before You Split.”

Today we have THE Toni Nieuwhof on SWE! She has worn many hats in her life as a pharmacist, attorney, speaker, author, podcaster, wife, and mother. Today she talks with us about her book, Before You Split. If you're in a relationship, this episode is for you as Toni provides her unique perspective on whether to stay or split in the midst of a troubled relationship.     Show Notes: Free Audible Trial & Audiobook! Toni's Website Before You Split @toninieuwhof  The Smart Family Podcast @so.what.else   @kaitlingrace20  www.kaitlinelliott.com

Today we have THE Toni Nieuwhof on SWE! She has worn many hats in her life as a pharmacist, attorney, speaker, author, podcaster, wife, and mother. Today she talks with us about her book, Before You Split. If you're in a relationship, this episode is for you as Toni provides her unique perspective on whether to stay or split in the midst of a troubled relationship.     Show Notes: Free Audible Trial & Audiobook! Toni's Website Before You Split @toninieuwhof  The Smart Family Podcast @so.what.else   @kaitlingrace20  www.kaitlinelliott.com

Get the book, Before You Split, HERE (https://www.amazon.com/Before-You-Split-Really-Marriage/dp/0525653368/ref=sr_1_1?crid=AOLTRQXQTV4D&keywords=before+you+split+toni+nieuwhof&qid=1645989743&sprefix=before+you+split%2Caps%2C97&sr=8-1) Download the Fight for "We" Couples Conversation Guide (https://toninieuwhof.com/conversation-starters/) Find great resources at ToniNieuwhof.com (https://toninieuwhof.com) Listen to the Smart Family Podcast (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/smart-family-podcast/id1497316466) with Toni Nieuwhof & Dr. Rob Meeder Faith Promise Marriage Resources (https://faithpromise.org/parents/marriage-resources/) Special Guest: Toni Nieuwhof.

“I didn't sign up for this!” “I can't do this anymore!” “That's it - I'm done!” Have you ever said or thought these things? Are you feeling disconnected in your marriage, not knowing what the next step holds? Toni Nieuwhof is an author, speaker and law mediator, whose powerful voice in Christian leadership is shaping influencers and leaders around the world. She joins me in this episode to discuss the steps for finding what you really want to save the future of your marriage, based on her new book "Before You Split".

Pain and stress, unresolved conflict, and past traumas can lead even the most committed couple to the brink of divorce. Perhaps you and your spouse—or a couple you know—is feeling so hurt and disconnected you wonder how to carry on. In your heart of hearts, you're tempted to give up and walk away from your relationship.   Today's guest, Toni Nieuwhof, knows what it's like to feel wounded and hopeless in her marriage. As a divorce attorney who experienced dramatic healing and joy in her own marriage, she brings a powerful and practical word of hope for couples. In this heartfelt conversation, Toni shares:   How Toni and her husband reached a breaking point in their marriage How as a divorce attorney, she witnessed the pain and regret on the other side of splitting up What it's like to feel stuck in survival mode in your marriage How to make a plan to reconnect and build the bond between you The lies that keep you from a healthy, happy relationship How to finally break the negative cycle of conflict  The power of shared experiences to build intimacy  Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator, former divorce attorney and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast.  She is the wife of Carey Nieuwhof, who is an influential leadership author and podcaster, and international speaker. Toni and Carey have spoken publicly about their marriage of more than three decades. In her downtime, Toni enjoys outdoor sports and spending time with Carey, their two grown sons, and their extended family and friends. Visit her online at www.ToniNieuwhof.com.   For practical help on how to find what you really want for the future of your marriage, take hold of Toni's powerful book, Before You Split. Enter to win your very own copy by leaving the comment “Before You Split” on this post today!   This podcast is produced and edited by Angie Elkins Media, Inc. 

Nobody stands at the altar on their wedding day and vows, "Hey- let's just shoot for typical, ok?" Rather, wedding days are filled with hope and imagination for a beautiful life spent together. But then real life happens. Marriage is certainly not an easy endeavor. And rarely does anyone get taught how to navigate the complexities of marriage, like navigating conflict, financial stress, career struggles, or raising kids together. With all of that, you throw in a global pandemic on top of it, and so many marriages have really struggled recently. So, where can we turn to help us sort it all out? I can think of no one better suited than Carey and Toni Nieuwhof. Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He writes one of today's most influential leadership blogs, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change and personal growth. Carey and his wife, Toni have been married for over 30 years.Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator, former divorce attorney, author, speaker and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast. Toni and Carey have spoken publicly about their marriage and she has just released a book to help struggling marriages, Before You Split. From her attorney work, she gives her readers a clearer view of their future options, while also showing how her marriage with Carey went from that bad to this good.On the episode:Producer : Tatave AbeshyanProducer & Co-host : Scott SchimmelJOIN BOB WEEKLY We've launched a new subscription-based offering with exclusive content from the one and only Bob Goff. In vintage Bob fashion, you can join him on his adventure of living a life of whimsy, love, and action. Each week you'll receive a video message from Bob, plus guided reflection exercises and activities for personal growth and structured conversations with friends. Now more than ever we need to look to voices we can trust. If Bob's message has inspired you in the past, you're not going to want to miss out on Bob Weekly. So sign up today and let Bob guide you as you go through this unpredictable thing called your life. Learn More bobgoff.com/weekly

Nobody stands at the altar on their wedding day and vows, "Hey- let's just shoot for typical, ok?" Rather, wedding days are filled with hope and imagination for a beautiful life spent together. But then real life happens. Marriage is certainly not an easy endeavor. And rarely does anyone get taught how to navigate the complexities of marriage, like navigating conflict, financial stress, career struggles, or raising kids together. With all of that, you throw in a global pandemic on top of it, and so many marriages have really struggled recently. So, where can we turn to help us sort it all out? I can think of no one better suited than Carey and Toni Nieuwhof. Carey Nieuwhof is a best-selling leadership author, speaker, podcaster, former attorney, and church planter. He writes one of today's most influential leadership blogs, and his online content is accessed by leaders over 1.5 million times a month. He speaks to leaders around the world about leadership, change and personal growth. Carey and his wife, Toni have been married for over 30 years.Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator, former divorce attorney, author, speaker and co-host of the Smart Family Podcast. Toni and Carey have spoken publicly about their marriage and she has just released a book to help struggling marriages, Before You Split. From her attorney work, she gives her readers a clearer view of their future options, while also showing how her marriage with Carey went from that bad to this good.On the episode:Producer : Tatave AbeshyanProducer & Co-host : Scott SchimmelJOIN BOB WEEKLY We've launched a new subscription-based offering with exclusive content from the one and only Bob Goff. In vintage Bob fashion, you can join him on his adventure of living a life of whimsy, love, and action. Each week you'll receive a video message from Bob, plus guided reflection exercises and activities for personal growth and structured conversations with friends. Now more than ever we need to look to voices we can trust. If Bob's message has inspired you in the past, you're not going to want to miss out on Bob Weekly. So sign up today and let Bob guide you as you go through this unpredictable thing called your life. Learn More bobgoff.com/weekly

What would it take to leave your unhappiness behind instead of your spouse? In today's episode, author, speaker, and podcast co-host, Toni Nieuwhof shares insights from her new book, Before... The post EP//59: Before You Split, Interview with Toni Nieuwhof first appeared on The Marriage Adventure.

Toni Nieuwhof is author of Before You Split, speaker and family law mediator, and has spent decades of her professional life practicing law. Her most challenging work as a lawyer involved advising and representing people going through the journey of divorce.

Our marriage mini-series continues this week with a question we've all likely asked ourselves at some point in our lives: wouldn't I be better off alone? It's a question that creeps up on us in moments where we feel stuck, overwhelmed and disconnected from the person that matters most.    This week, Toni Nieuwhof joins me on the show to talk about those moments of doubt, guilt and worry that affect our relationships. She has worked with hundreds of families over the years, often as a divorce attorney, and she tells us what she's learned from those difficult experiences along with the important lessons she and her husband, Carey, have learned as they took their own marriage from unhappy to thriving.   In today's episode, Toni shares research-driven data, real-life examples and practical tools to transform struggling relationships into healthy, safe spaces. We also chat about her book, Before You Split: Find What You Really Want for the Future of Your Marriage, and she gives her best advice for fighting for the couple instead of yourself and how the light of Christ can help us identify self-limiting beliefs.    Some of my favorite moments from our conversation include:   1. The 5:1 ratio and its importance in our interactions with our spouse, significant others, and even our children.  2. How kindness and respect are essential pillars of the family space and how we can use them to change our family dynamic. 3. How our reliance on God and those we're in relationship with can help us become fully alive.   Favorite quotes: 1. Sometimes looking inside is scary. Or it feels painful. And yeah, there's some pain to go through, but if you can sit with it and not back away, and just move through that pain, there's just something so beautiful on the other side.2. The victim story you may be telling yourself is probably blurring your vision. 3. We had to come to the point where we could realize that the only emotions we can really try to influence or control are our own.   4. Just sit with your spouse's emotions and validate them, and accept them for what they are.  5. It's really hard when you're in the midst of the struggle to recognize just how much value your spouse has in the eyes of your child. Your child needs both of you.   Great things we discussed:  1. Toni Nieuwhof 2. Before You Split  3. Gratitude 4. Pride & Prejudice 5. Forgiving What You Can't Forget 6. Raw Hemp Seeds 7. Window Bird Feeder  8. Titanic  9. Gladiator  10. Standing Strong   Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)   xo, Alli    www.alliworthington.com/toninieuwhof/

Welcome to the 239th episode of the Joshua Gagnon Leadership Podcast!   If you enjoy listening to this podcast and it has helped you and your team in any way, please leave us a review on Apple Podcast or Stitcher or take the time to share it on social media. Do you have a question for Pastor Josh about leadership, ministry, or any other topic we've covered on the podcast so far? Submit your questions to info@joshuagagnon.com or @joshgagnon on Twitter and Pastor Josh might answer it on a future episode!   Connect with Pastor Josh: Pastor Josh on Instagram: www.instagram.com/joshgagnon Pastor Josh on Twitter: www.twitter.com/joshgagnon Send your leadership questions to info@joshuagagnon.com Calling all couples! In this episode of Outspoken, Pastor Roman sits down with Toni Nieuwhof to talk about the idea that it is possible to leave your unhappiness but not your spouse. Far too often in our marital relationship, we see the exit as the only way out. Listen in to discover some key principles to a happy and fulfilled marriage as Toni shares insight from her new book, “Before You Split.” Connect with Toni Nieuwhof: Website: https://toninieuwhof.com/ Twitter: @ToniNieuwhof Facebook: @Toni Karsikas Nieuwhof Instagram: @toninieuwhof Podcast: https://smartfamilypodcast.com/

In this episode, Caleb talks with Toni Nieuwhof about her book, Before You Split. Toni Nieuwhof ( https://toninieuwhof.com ) Before You Split by Toni Nieuwhof ( https://www.amazon.com/Before-You-Split-Really-Marriage/dp/0525653368/ref=sr_1_3?crid=ZYMF5JB6GQIK&dchild=1&keywords=before+you+split+toni+nieuwhof&qid=1611674310&sprefix=before+you+sp%2Caps%2C182&sr=8-3 )

As leaders, it's often up to us to prioritize objectives for our team, to articulate what matters most and guide those we lead to focus their energy toward it. So, why does it also seem that the relationships that matter most to us don't always receive our focused energy? In this episode, Jenni Catron and author (and former divorce attorney) Toni Nieuwhof discuss ways to prioritize our closest relationships and the benefits of doing so. It's the thematic content of Nieuwhof's new book Before You Split, a valuable resource for leaders who want to pursue healthy relationships.In this episode, you'll learn...the value of emotional health and maturityhow to respond to difficult emotionswhy trying to "fix" your marriage isn't necessarily the best approachways to reconnect and grow with your spouseBefore You Split: Find What You Really Want for the Future of Your Marriagetoninieuwhof.comsmartfamilypodcast.comFollow Toni on Instagram

In Episode 98 Mike sits down with Toni Nieuwhof to talk about her newest book Before You Split.  Toni Nieuwhof is a family law mediator and former divorce attorney. She is the wife of Carey Nieuwhof, who is an influential leadership author, podcast host, and international speaker. Toni and Carey often speak publicly about their marriage of more than three decades. In her downtime, Toni enjoys outdoor sports and spending time with Carey, their two grown sons, and their extended family and friends.In this conversation, Mike and Toni talk about the stresses and strains of marriage but also the hidden benefits of staying together and "working" it out!  Toni brings such a great perspective not only as a family law mediator but also as a church planter's spouse.  No matter where you find yourself, this conversation will be incredibly powerful for you to hear & share!

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