Podcasts about Smalley

Kids are a blessing, but they also require you to be more intentional to spend time with your spouse. John and the Smalley's open up about times they felt disconnected in their marriages when raising children. Plus, Jim Daly talks to Dave and Ashley Willis about making time for dates with your spouse, even if you have little kids. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Focus on Marriage Assessment How To Avoid Bad Influences On Your Marriage Practice Makes Parent Podcast Hope Restored Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

For the last two Sundays, we investigated the ditches of comfort and striving. This week, we turn to what's between them, what some describe as effortless effort. Joko Beck describes this as pure activity: Pure activity is very rare. There's nearly always a shadow, a film over it. We may not be aware of that; we may just be aware of some tension. There's no tension in pure activity, beyond the physical contraction required to do the activity itself. This activity is something altogether different from our comfort-seeking and striving. It arises and unfolds. This Sunday, we explore it together.

Kids are a blessing, but they also require you to be more intentional to spend time with your spouse. John and the Smalley's open up about times they felt disconnected in their marriages when raising children. Plus, Jim Daly talks to Dave and Ashley Willis about making time for dates with your spouse, even if you have little kids. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Focus on Marriage Assessment How To Avoid Bad Influences On Your Marriage Practice Makes Parent Podcast Hope Restored Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

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Last week we sat with the cost of comfort. Today, we turn to comfort's restless cousin: striving. Most of us have a complicated relationship with achievement — driven by it, exhausted by it, quietly convinced that enough effort will finally get us somewhere. Dogen had thoughts. He opens the fascicle Bendowa with a puzzle: "This Dharma is abundantly present in each human being, but if we do not practice it, it does not manifest itself, and if we do not experience it, it cannot be realized." Not a permission slip for striving, nor a dismissal of it either, Dogen points to something stranger: the Dharma is already fully here — and yet it requires us. What kind of effort is that? And what does it mean for those of us who arrive on the cushion with an internal scoreboard already running? We explore together today.

How comfortable have you gotten? Is the room the perfect temperature? Does Alexa/Siri/Gemini answer all of your questions instantly? Is that difficult conversation still scheduled for someday later? Dogen's teacher, Tendō Nyojō, carried his cushion in his sleeve. He sat until he ached. At sixty-five he still didn't claim to understand zazen, yet still hadn't missed a day in decades. Nate offers a dharma talk on what comfort costs us. Dōgen called the alternative gyoji. We explore it together.

Leitura Bíblica Do Dia: SALMO 19:1-9 Plano De Leitura Anual:  1 CRÔNICAS 19–21; JOÃO 8:1-27  Já fez seu devocional hoje? Aproveite e marque um amigo para fazer junto com você! Confira:  O pesquisador Alex Smalley sugere que acordemos mais cedo ou façamos uma pausa ao fim do dia. Por quê? Para contemplar o nascer e o pôr do sol. Eles são os momentos mais belos e inspiradores do dia, diz Smalley, que estuda os efeitos de admirar fenômenos climáticos. Mais do que céus azuis ou noites estreladas cintilantes, um lindo nascer ou pôr do sol pode melhorar o humor, aumentar as emoções positivas e diminuir o estresse. Segundo ele, “Quando vemos algo vasto, avassalador ou que produza admiração, problemas pessoais podem parecer menores e não nos preocupamos tanto com eles”. Suas descobertas repercutem as do profeta Jeremias: “Ó Soberano Senhor! Tu fizeste os céus e a terra com tua mão forte e teu braço poderoso. Nada é difícil demais para ti!” (JEREMIAS 32:17). O rei Davi também contemplou a criação de Deus: “Os céus proclamam a glória de Deus; o firmamento demonstra a habilidade de suas mãos” (SALMO 19:1). Quanto ao Sol, “nasce numa extremidade do céu e realiza seu trajeto até a outra extremidade; nada pode se esconder de seu calor” (v.6). Por isso, o rei escreveu: “A lei do Senhor é perfeita e refrigera a alma” (v.7). A gloriosa criação divina reflete o Criador Todo-poderoso. Reserve um momento hoje para olhar para o céu e se maravilhar com o Criador!  Por: PATRICIA RAYBON 

De week van de competitiedip, we hebben nog wel een klein beetje (gedacht) aan golf. Martijn precies 1 hole, Paul zag dat al aankomen, voordat de hemel open ging en de greens blank stonden en nog een potje matchplay, Rogier ook nog een rondje en Peter ging een weekendje weg en het weer hielp hem om niet nog wat holes in Zeeland te spelen. We nemen nog wat open toernooien door die op de agenda staan voor de komende maanden.De USPGA Championship had een verrassende, want wij kenners hadden hem helemaal niet genoemd in onze voorbeschouwing. Een plastic castle tee, 2 regenhandschoenen, ironcovers en een driver uit 2019 was het recept voor de winst van Aron Rai op een baan waar de pins heel moeilijk stonden. Rahm, Rory, Smalley, Schauffele, Aberg, JT waren lang in de hunt. Veel spelers bij elkaar in de buurt, maar op de laatste holes maakte Rai duidelijk het verschil. Op de LET won Harm en op de LPGA was Lottie Woad na een dipje weer op tik.Korte ronde: Droombaan, Pro V1x double dot, Min Woo Lee, Hoor s van Joris, Veekay en Verstappen, Vacatures in golf en de US Open qualifyer.0:00 - 19:00 Eigen golf19:00 - 50:07 Professioneel golf50:07 - 1:17:56 Korte ronde

Big Alex Smalley holds a two-shot lead over five others going into Sunday at the 2026 PGA Championship at Aronimink Golf Club. Rahm, Ludvig, Rory, Xander, P, Mav.....I mean, everyone is still in the mix. Max Homa joins us to break it all down: Lingering vs Loitering, HFBITFB, news, notes, and a bunch more. Presented by Titleist. Titleist - #1 Ball in Golf High Noon - Sun's Up! Travelers Championship Looking to travel this year, check out East Sands Golf Co.: https://www.eastsandsgolf.co/nlu Join us in our support of the Evans Scholars Foundation: https://nolayingup.com/esf The NLU email newsletter: bi-monthly updates on all things NLU: https://newsletter.nolayingup.com/subscribe Join The No Laying Up Nest: https://nolayingup.com/join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alex Smalley (-4) and Mav McNealy (-4) have a one-stroke lead over six others after 36 holes at the 2026 PGA Championship. Notable chasers include T9 Cam Young (-2) and T9 Scottie Scheffler. Is it an interesting setup to blame for the bunched leaderboard? Join us as we break it all down, discuss some disappointing missed cuts (Blockie, Tommy, Vik Hovland, Bryson, Max), run down news and notes, and a bunch more. Presented by Titleist. Titleist - #1 Ball in Golf High Noon - Sun's Up! Arccos - NLU15 for 15% off at https://www.arccosgolf.com/ Looking to travel this year, check out East Sands Golf Co.: https://www.eastsandsgolf.co/nlu Join us in our support of the Evans Scholars Foundation: https://nolayingup.com/esf The NLU email newsletter: bi-monthly updates on all things NLU: https://newsletter.nolayingup.com/subscribe Join The No Laying Up Nest: https://nolayingup.com/join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do we have proper major setup or a total sham on our hands at the Aronimink for the PGA Championship? The golf course setup debates are raging in Philadelphia, as the PGA pushes pins to the corners and a leaderboard has condensed going to the weekend. Andy and Brendan get into some of the setup quibbles, what the data is saying, and just how enjoyable it has been to watch over the first two rounds despite some online chatter. Then they get into the stars like Scottie, Rory, Blockie, and the leaders like Smalley, Potty, McNealy, and Gotterup. Some missed cut disappointments like Bryson DeChambeau are called out before KVV joins late to discuss his impressions at the 36-hole mark in Philly, including some reaction to late Rory comments on the setup not being great. Learn more about Fried Egg Golf Club and join at thefriedegg.com/membership.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In a culture that blurs truth and deception, marriages can easily absorb beliefs that slowly damage connection and trust. In this episode, Dr. Greg Smalley joins us to uncover the lies that are hitting marriages the hardest—and the truths that can set couples free. We talk about why marriages are so vulnerable to these lies, how stress and unmet expectations make them worse, and how emotional distance and internal narratives shape the way we see our spouse. Dr. Smalley also shares practical ways to recognize and replace these lies with truth, plus insight from his own marriage. If you've ever felt stuck in negative patterns or discouraged in your relationship, this episode will help you reset your perspective and refocus on what's true. Episode Highlights: Why marriages are especially vulnerable to believing harmful lies—and when that risk is highest How stress, unmet expectations, and emotional distance distort the way we see our spouse Practical ways to recognize lies, replace them with truth, and rebuild connection Quotes from this Episode: Quotes from Dr. Kim "Marriage is an adventure full of highs and lows, good and bad." "We live in a culture that tells us we should be happy above all." "The greatest marriage advice is to ask how can I be a better husband." "I think if you do the things that we, if couples do the things we're talking about today, you are laying the foundation for those empty nest years to be something very, very special."   Quotes from Greg Smalley: "Differences are never the problem. The truth is differences are beautiful." "What creates true connection, what creates intimacy, is safety." "I want to be the one to love her in that way by affirming her." "The key is for you to become that perfect person to marry." "I want my wife's heart rendered open to me." "It changes our marriages when we start caring about how our spouse felt."  "I want to create a campfire with my wife that we just want to linger around and just enjoy each other." "Instead of thinking about resolving conflict, think about how do we repair conflict." Time to Talk About it:  What's a negative thought or assumption I've been believing about you or our marriage lately—and is it actually true? When we're stressed or things aren't going how we expected, what stories do we tend to tell ourselves about each other? What's one simple thing we could do this week to feel more safe, connected, and quick to repair things when they go sideways?   Mentioned in This Episode: Check out Greg Smalley and Focus with the Family Get a copy of 9 Lies that will Destroy Your Marriage Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Dr. Kim takes everyday 'traffic signs' that we all encounter and applies them to growing your marriage relationship in this plan: Traffic Signs and Your Marriage - Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!

The fear of missing out (FOMO) is the engine of missing out. The reaching is the leaving. Building on the intensive teachings of Peg, Joel, and Flint, Nate offers a dharma talk on encounter — what it is, why we keep missing it, and what the craving mind is actually building while it's busy looking elsewhere. There is a poem by Mary Oliver (below). There is a koan or two. There is a story about a youth soccer game that went poorly for a vocal subset of parents, the dharma teacher in attendance, and every available adult on the sideline— though notably not for the seven-year-olds. Except from Mary Oliver's poem, "At the River Clarion": 1. I don't know who God is exactly. But I'll tell you this. I was sitting in the river named Clarion, on a water splashed stone and all afternoon I listened to the voices of the river talking. Whenever the water struck a stone it had something to say, and the water itself, and even the mosses trailing under the water. And slowly, very slowly, it became clear to me what they were saying. Said the river I am part of holiness. And I too, said the stone. And I too, whispered the moss beneath the water. I'd been to the river before, a few times. Don't blame the river that nothing happened quickly. You don't hear such voices in an hour or a day. You don't hear them at all if selfhood has stuffed your ears. And it's difficult to hear anything anyway, through all the traffic, the ambition.

In a culture that blurs truth and deception, marriages can easily absorb beliefs that slowly damage connection and trust. In this episode, Dr. Greg Smalley joins us to uncover the lies that are hitting marriages the hardest—and the truths that can set couples free. We talk about why marriages are so vulnerable to these lies, how stress and unmet expectations make them worse, and how emotional distance and internal narratives shape the way we see our spouse. Dr. Smalley also shares practical ways to recognize and replace these lies with truth, plus insight from his own marriage. If you've ever felt stuck in negative patterns or discouraged in your relationship, this episode will help you reset your perspective and refocus on what's true. Episode Highlights: Why marriages are especially vulnerable to believing harmful lies—and when that risk is highest How stress, unmet expectations, and emotional distance distort the way we see our spouse Practical ways to recognize lies, replace them with truth, and rebuild connection Quotes from this Episode: Quotes from Dr. Kim "Marriage is an adventure full of highs and lows, good and bad." "We live in a culture that tells us we should be happy above all." "The greatest marriage advice is to ask how can I be a better husband." "I think if you do the things that we, if couples do the things we're talking about today, you are laying the foundation for those empty nest years to be something very, very special."   Quotes from Greg Smalley: "Differences are never the problem. The truth is differences are beautiful." "What creates true connection, what creates intimacy, is safety." "I want to be the one to love her in that way by affirming her." "The key is for you to become that perfect person to marry." "I want my wife's heart rendered open to me." "It changes our marriages when we start caring about how our spouse felt."  "I want to create a campfire with my wife that we just want to linger around and just enjoy each other." "Instead of thinking about resolving conflict, think about how do we repair conflict." Time to Talk About it:  What's a negative thought or assumption I've been believing about you or our marriage lately—and is it actually true? When we're stressed or things aren't going how we expected, what stories do we tend to tell ourselves about each other? What's one simple thing we could do this week to feel more safe, connected, and quick to repair things when they go sideways?   Mentioned in This Episode: Check out Greg Smalley and Focus with the Family Get a copy of 9 Lies that will Destroy Your Marriage Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide! Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Dr. Kim takes everyday 'traffic signs' that we all encounter and applies them to growing your marriage relationship in this plan: Traffic Signs and Your Marriage - Part 1 If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!

In this episode of Serious Circus, David C. Smalley and Jeff Horst revisit a classic Dogma Debate episode featuring Greg Locke—and it escalates quickly.We pull some of the most intense, controversial, and unbelievable soundbites from the original episode and react in real time. What starts as a throwback turns into a full-on breakdown, with sharp commentary, unexpected turns, and plenty of roasting along the way.From bold claims to chaotic moments, nothing is off limits. If you're into debates, commentary, or watching wild moments get dissected with humor and honesty, this episode is for you.Follow the ComicsJeff HorsteInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeffhorsteTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jeffhorsteDavid C. SmalleyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidcsmalleyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@davidcsmalley

What does life enrichment in senior living actually look like today—and where is it headed next?   In this episode of Foresight Radio, we sit down with Dr. Ashlea Smalley, a senior living leader and gerontology expert with over 20 years of experience in the field. Together, we explore how senior living communities are evolving beyond outdated stereotypes of bingo and busywork toward purpose-driven experiences, deeper human connection, and personalized resident engagement.   Dr. Smalley shares how life enrichment programs are shifting from simply "keeping residents busy" to creating meaningful experiences rooted in purpose, social connection, and individual identity. She also discusses how technology and AI tools are helping communities better understand residents and personalize their experiences.   We also explore: Why senior living should feel like home—not just "homelike" How purposeful living and social connection impact resident well-being The role of AI and technology in enhancing resident engagement Why the future of senior living may look more like a college campus How communities can break stereotypes and attract the next generation of caregivers and leaders One powerful reminder from the conversation: our desire for connection, fun, and meaning doesn't disappear with age. If you care about the future of senior living—or want to better understand how the industry is evolving—this is a conversation you won't want to miss. Key Takeaways From the Episode Life enrichment is evolving beyond activities: Senior living is shifting from "keeping residents busy" to creating purposeful experiences and meaningful connections. Residents want the same things we all want: Connection, curiosity, learning, fun, and community don't disappear with age. The future of senior living may look like a college campus: Dr. Smalley envisions communities filled with clubs, activities, social spaces, and lifelong learning opportunities. Technology should enable human connection—not replace it: AI and platforms like LifeLoop can help teams better understand resident interests and free up staff time for meaningful interaction. Senior living should be integrated with the broader community: Opening communities to younger generations and local communities helps break down stereotypes and creates richer social environments.

Register for the ITSM Summit 2026 at https://www.happysignals.com/itxm-summit/--In this episode, Mark Smalley discusses Sakari the latest version of ITIL® (Version 5), emphasizing the importance of experience as a core component. The conversation explores how human experience impacts IT service management, trust, and organizational success.Key TopicsLatest ITIL® (Version 5) and its new focus on experienceThe role of trust and human experience in IT Service ManagementChallenges and strategies for adopting experience-centric practices in ITILMark Smalley: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marksmalley/

Oliver plays up and coming alt-country artist Brennan Wedl, including a great new cover also featuring Waxahatchee. Then, a track from Courtney Barnett's new album and the next single from Canadian post-punkers Cola. Closing off is Drive-By Truckers with one of the great rock 'n' roll tribute songs, 30-years after the death of its subject matter, musician Gregory 'Dean' Smalley. Follow @asonicyouthpodcast on Insta and Facebook. This show is part of the Free FM 89.0 YOUTH ZONE. Made with support of NZ on Air.

Today's readings are from the Platform Sutra, by Huineng, including "The Gatha of Truth and Falsehood and Movement and Stillness": Nothing that exists is true don't think what you see is true if you think you see the true what you see is surely false if you want to find the true the mind free of the false is true unless your mind forsakes the false nothing is true where true can't be. Living things know how to move lifeless things stay still those who practice staying still resemble motionless lifeless things to see what truly doesn't move in movement find what doesn't move what doesn't move is what doesn't move lifeless things have no buddha seeds. If you can perceive its attributes the ultimate truth doesn't move if you can realize this you will see how reality worksall you students of the Way be relentless and concentrate don't stand at the entrance of the Mahayana clinging to views about birth and death. If those before you are ready tell them the Buddha's teaching and if they aren't truly ready bow and tell them to be good there's nothing to argue about in this teaching those who argue lose sight of the Way clinging to blindness arguing about teachings they lead their nature into birth and death.

What does it mean to live a “good life”? This dharma talk starts there. We'll spend some time with Hui-Neng's teaching on one practice samadhi, which, it turns out, offers a surprising and slightly subversive take on living well. Prompts for discussion: 1. What makes a good life? 2. How well are you living this good life? Nate's reading is from the Platform Sutra, by Huineng.

One of the best lessons in marriage is that you don't have to solve everything this very moment. Sometimes, it's best to take a deep breath. Jim Daly and his wife Jean talk to the Smalley's about why slowing down can help bring the tension down when you're upset at your mate. Also, Erin will give you some pointers for how to make things right if you haven't been treating your spouse well. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Hope Restored Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

One of the best lessons in marriage is that you don't have to solve everything this very moment. Sometimes, it's best to take a deep breath. Jim Daly and his wife Jean talk to the Smalley's about why slowing down can help bring the tension down when you're upset at your mate. Also, Erin will give you some pointers for how to make things right if you haven't been treating your spouse well. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Hope Restored Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

Have you ever misunderstood something your spouse said? We've all done it at some point. Jim Daly chats with Greg and Erin about a time they worked through a misunderstanding while moving. Plus, John asks the Smalley's on how working through a miscommunication can build trust with your spouse. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Hope Restored Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Have you ever misunderstood something your spouse said? We've all done it at some point. Jim Daly chats with Greg and Erin about a time they worked through a misunderstanding while moving. Plus, John asks the Smalley's on how working through a miscommunication can build trust with your spouse. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Hope Restored Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

Our practice is a relational one, which means sooner or later we're bound to experience some friction between us. Friction is not a failure. It's an edge, an opportunity, and a Dharma gate. What do we do when someone unsettles us? How do we respond when tension lingers in the room? What do we say when something needs to be said, and we're unsure how to say it? This Sunday we continue our exploration of living in sangha by leaning into these edges together. Discussion scenarios: Scenario 1: You are sitting in the zendo at Appamada during a well-attended Sunday service. Before kinhin, Michael,the head student, quietly leans toward Sarah and whispers, “Sit upright. You're collapsing.” There is no physical contact, but several people near you hear it. You see Sarah stiffen. Her breathing changes. After service, she leaves quickly without lingering. Later that week, in a small group you're part of, someone mentions she hasn't returned. Michael says calmly, “We're a Zen center. Posture matters. If we don't uphold the form, what are we doing?” As he speaks, you feel something move in the room. You also notice something in yourself—agreement, discomfort, uncertainty. Scenario 2: You are on a sangha working group tasked with improving communication. You are discussing plans to update the website. Aisha again speaks first, synthesizes the discussion, and proposes next steps. The meeting is efficient. When you begin to share an idea, she reframes it into clearer language and moves the group forward. Everyone nods. Afterward, you notice a heaviness in your body. Maybe irritation. Maybe something subtler—like being unnecessary. You also know Aisha carries a great deal and seems tired. She later mentions she feels responsible for keeping things from drifting. Nothing explicit has occurred. Yet something in you is contracting. Scenario 6: In practice discussion, you share something vulnerable about doubt. The teacher responds, “That is just your ego trying to be special.” You bow and leave. On the walk home you feel both gratitude and a sharpness in your chest. Was it strong medicine, or something misaligned? A few days later, you hesitate before signing up for another meeting. Something in you feels unsettled.

Some people help us cultivate patience without trying. This Sunday we explore Dealing with Difficult People—a surprisingly nourishing practice, if we let it be so. Join us as we continue considering how to live in sangha.

Does it feel like you're making progress as a couple, only to take a few steps back? Krista and David Dunham talk to Jim Daly on how they faced this very scenario with her eating disorder. Plus, the Smalley's share how to evaluate if you're getting better at persevering through challenges as a couple. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Table for Two for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Healing My Life and marriage After an Eating Disorder Contact our Counseling Team Take the Reactive Cycle Assessment Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Does it feel like you're making progress as a couple, only to take a few steps back? Krista and David Dunham talk to Jim Daly on how they faced this very scenario with her eating disorder. Plus, the Smalley's share how to evaluate if you're getting better at persevering through challenges as a couple. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Table for Two for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Healing My Life and marriage After an Eating Disorder Contact our Counseling Team Take the Reactive Cycle Assessment Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

This Sunday, Nate opens our practice period theme, "Living in Sangha". In the first of a three-part series of dharma talks, we explore sangha not as comfort or belonging alone, but as the ground that reshapes how we show up in the world. Grounding in Dogen's teachings in Tenzo Kyōkun (Instructions to the Cook), we remind ourselves how practicing fierce, attentive care together becomes both a refuge and an act of resistance.

In this episode of Off the Mats Podcast, I'm joined by Tom Smalley, MS, CMPC, CSCS, for a grounded conversation about mental performance, anxiety in athletes, and identity beyond competition. Tom's work sits at the intersection of strength culture and mental health, and we talk openly about what that actually looks like in practice, especially in environments like jiu-jitsu, wrestling, and strength sports where toughness is often valued over honesty. We discuss Tom's athletic background, his experience living with OCD, and how anxiety shows up for athletes who appear “put together” on the outside. From there, we unpack the difference between mental performance and mental health, the risks of pushing through everything, and how coaches can respond when athletes open up instead of shutting down. We also explore strength culture's complicated relationship with vulnerability, what healthy toughness really means, and how athletes can begin separating self-worth from performance. This episode is for grapplers, coaches, parents, and athletes navigating pressure, on the mats and off them, who want practical tools, clearer language, and a more sustainable approach to resilience.

Have you or your spouse ever had an unexpected outburst? It might be that there are unrealistic expectations underneath the surface. Greg and Erin talk to Jim and Jean Daly about how they've worked through expectations and misunderstandings. Plus, John asks the Smalley's how you can practice genuine honesty for the sake of your marriage. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Contact our Counseling Team Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Have you or your spouse ever had an unexpected outburst? It might be that there are unrealistic expectations underneath the surface. Greg and Erin talk to Jim and Jean Daly about how they've worked through expectations and misunderstandings. Plus, John asks the Smalley's how you can practice genuine honesty for the sake of your marriage. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Contact our Counseling Team Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1196/29?v=20251111

Flirting might seem harmless. But, it's dangerous to flirt with someone who isn't your spouse. Jerry Jenkins tells Jim Daly a poignant story of how flirting led to an affair with a couple he knew at church. He'll also discuss importance of keeping your wedding vows. Then, John and the Smalley's encourage you to remember and think about your wedding vows, even if you've been married for a long time. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Hedges for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored How to Guard Your Marriage From Temptation 5 Traditional Marriage Vows: What They Mean and Why They're Still Important The Hedges Challenge Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

One of the beauties and challenges of marriage is that your spouse is always changing. Greg and Erin join Jim Daly and his wife Jean to explain how you can learn to love your spouse more with time. Also, John asks the Smalley's about how Greg's introversion has had a positive impact on Erin. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Reconnect Through Meaningful Conversation Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Have you told your spouse how much you appreciate him or her recently? It can be easy to get caught up in the to-do lists of life, and miss telling them "thank you." Jim Daly and his wife Jean, along with the Smalley's, encourage you to make your mate feel valued through very simple gestures. Plus, John Fuller asks Erin Smalley why focusing on the best aspects of your spouse is good for your relationship. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Reconnect Through Meaningful Conversation Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

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Brian From talks with Dr. Greg Smalley, Focus on the Family’s Vice President of Marriage, about the nuanced and often sensitive question of opposite-sex friendships within marriage. Smalley distinguishes healthy, casual friendships from emotionally intimate ones, offering practical guidance, guardrails, and real-life examples for maintaining trust and protecting the marital bond. The conversation emphasizes communication, transparency, and teamwork as the essential tools for navigating modern workplaces and relationships with wisdom.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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How do you like to bless your mate and ask him or her, "how are you doing?" It's good to make that a regular part of your relationship. The Smalley's joined Jim and Jean Daly to discuss the importance of making your marriage a high priority above other human relationships. Plus, John Fuller asks Greg and Erin about why having fun is good for your marriage. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Healthy Marriage Devotional for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Five Ways to Grow Closer as a Couple Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Nurturing the Heart of Your Spouse Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Part 4 in the series on the book  The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships. Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict They wished their parents had listened more They wished they could have talked about feelings more. They wished they had talked to their parents more Begin by listening - James 1:19 Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle Allow their emotion to touch you Take time to feel their pain Take time to feel their sadness Four destructive ways to argue Continually withdrawing from an argument Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose. Drive-thru talking!   Chapter 7 Democracy can bring responsibility to your home This is the chapter where they talk about making a contract  See p. 118 for the why have one And p. 118 on how to develop one p. 125 They give advice on Dating

Part 3 in the series on the book  The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships. Chapter 6 Finding the Best solution to any conflict Making Wise decisions is having the ability through discretion and extensive knowledge to sensibly discern and judge something before receiving and acting upon it.  Power struggles cause the most issues with teens The key is to find a solution that both can feel good about Keys: Establish rules about discussing conflicts 10 rules for fair fighting The calmer the argument, the better the chance of an honoring outcome. With teens agree ahead of time on what the consequences of poor choices will be. Chapter 7 Democracy can bring responsibility to your home Real freedom is having the inner power to do what is best for all concerned. Immaturity is lacking the power to do what we know is right and not being able to delay gratification This is the chapter where they talk about making a contract  See p. 118 for the why have one A written and signed document has tremendous power to keep peoplein harmony with agreed-upon, loving rules And p. 119 on how to develop one You have to read the book for all the details, but here are a few thoughts:   Younger kids need less contract Teens need more Use precise wording that makes expectations clear We have recommended this in blended families especially The more involved in the agreement the greater the outcome There is a section here with some very practical advice: On asking questions - important to teach our teens We taught ours the Daniel method based on Daniel 1 On Cleanliness is good too Their rooms had to be clean before leaving for school or no TV for 24 hours

Dave and Bethlie continue their series on the book  The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships.   Chapter 5. How to Argue with Teenagers and Come Out as Closer Friends 5,000 adults asked what they wished their parents had done differently during times of conflict They wished their parents had listened more They wished they could have talked about feelings more. They wished they had talked to their parents more Begin by listening - James 1:19 Sometimes we men don't know what to say to connect to our children's emotions - listening is a huge part of the battle Allow their emotion to touch you Take time to feel their pain Take time to feel their sadness Four destructive ways to argue Continually withdrawing from an argument Letting them escalate into hurtful name calling fights Belittling or invalidating each other during an argument Believing that a family member is tryin to hurt, frustrate, or cause fear on purpose. Drive-thru talking!

#637 Ever wonder how a side hustle born in a guest bedroom can grow into a nationwide licensed apparel brand? In this episode, host Kirsten Tyrrel sits down with entrepreneur Megan Smalley, founder of Scarlet & Gold, to explore her 13-year journey building a thriving apparel company that creates products people actually want to wear. Megan shares how she evolved from running a small side hustle out of her guest bedroom to managing a licensed apparel brand serving universities nationwide. She opens up about the twists and turns of entrepreneurship — from shutting down her business during motherhood, to relaunching with a print-on-demand model, to scaling into wholesale and overseas manufacturing. Megan also offers valuable insight into leadership, building team culture, managing growth, and breaking into the wholesale market. Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur or a seasoned business owner, this episode is packed with real-world lessons on pivoting, perseverance, and creating meaningful products! What we discuss with Megan: + From guest bedroom to national brand + Building licensed collegiate apparel + Transitioning from retail to print-on-demand + Overcoming challenges during motherhood + Scaling through wholesale and manufacturing + Breaking into the NCAA licensing space + Managing a growing in-person team + Creating strong company culture and values + Wholesale tips for boutique partnerships + Lessons on leadership and business pivots Thank you, Megan! Check out Scarlet & Gold at ScarletandGoldShop.com. Follow Megan on Instagram. Watch the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠video podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ of this episode! To get access to our FREE Business Training course go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MillionaireUniversity.com/training⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. And follow us on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To get exclusive offers mentioned in this episode and to support the show, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠millionaireuniversity.com/sponsors⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Want to hear from more incredible entrepreneurs? Check out all of our interviews ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're focused too much on your spouse's issues, that might be a sign of codependency. Jim Daly talks with Dr. Bob Paul and Tara Lalonde, on how you need to deal with your own problems first before trying to fix your spouse. Also, John and the Smalley's bring up how to discern if you're not focusing on your own maturity enough. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book "Loving the Spouse God Gave You" for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Empowered to Love: Discovering Your God-Given Power to Create a Marriage You Both Love Take the Reactive Cycle Assessment Contact our Counseling Team Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Dave and Bethlie begin a new series on the book  The DNA of Parent-Teen Relationships.   This is a great book about navigating the teen years. I love the quotes that are at the beginning of each chapter: Any adult who behaves the way that teenagers behave would be judged as certifiably insane.  Ana Freud In no order of things is adolescence the simple time of life.  -Jean Erskine Stewart   Fifty years from now it will not matter what kind of car you drove, what kind of house you lived in, how much you had in your bank account, or what your clothes looked like. But the world may be a little better because you were important in the life of a child.  -anonymous   Many of the others are verses. Here are some of the subjects he tackles: How to make the teen years the best years How to keep anger levels low How to argue with a teen and come out as closer friends Finding the best solution in any conflict How democracy can bring responsibility to your home Strengthening your relationship with your teenager Helping teens make lemonade out of life's “lemons” Helping teens maintain and regain their virginity When teenagers walk away from the light Leaving home in honor   Chapter Three  - Keeping Anger Levels Low Unresolved anger is the number one enemy of our teen's healthy development and spiritual growth. Three faces of unresolved anger Hurt feelings Frustration Fear/Feeling unsafe What does it look like? Relationally - We distance from others Spiritually - We walk in the dark  Emotionally - we close our heart What provokes anger? Sarcastic jokes and comments Refusing to let them think on their own That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard You are too young to understand Who asked you?  Four steps in opening a teen closed spirit Reflect tenderness Lower your voice Become gentle in heart Speak slowly Get down on one knee Relax your facial expressions Increase your own understanding Empathy is identifying and understanding the other person's situation, feeling, and motives Admit the offense Write a note of apology And so forth Seek Forgiveness

The statistics on how many Christian men are viewing porn regularly are very sad. Jim Daly talks with Sherri Mueller and Erin Smalley on how sexual sin is having negative consequences on young people. Also, John and the Smalley's offer hope to people who are feeling shame over past sexual sin. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Disconnected Man for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Pursuing Intimacy with a Reluctant Husband Contact our Counseling Team How Important is Sex in a Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

Allowing your spouse to share their feelings is one of the best ways to make your marriage safe. Jim Turner and Jim Daly talk about how men tend to compartmentalize their emotions. Also, John and the Smalley's will give some ideas on how to make sure you and your spouse are connecting frequently. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book The Disconnected Man for your donation of any amount! Hope Restored Dealing with Emotional Disconnection in Marriage Contact our Counseling Team Humility In Marital Conflict Makes A Difference Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

What if a small change in your marriage made the biggest difference? Jay and Laura Laffoon talk about how 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversation has helped couples they've worked with. Then, the Smalley's talk about simple ways you can make your spouse feel appreciated. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book Celebrate Your Marriage for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Practical Ways to Celebrate Your Marriage 6 Tools for Healthy Communication in Marriage Crazy Little Thing Called Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.

There are times where physical intimacy is a regular part of your marriage. But how do you navigate the seasons where it's not? Jim Daly speaks to Erin Smalley and Sherri Mueller on when wives have a husband who's not able to engage in sex. Plus, John and the Smalley's address healthy perspectives for husbands whose wives can't be physically intimate. Find us online at focusonthefamily.com/marriagepodcast or call 1-800-A-FAMILY. Receive the book I Want Him to Want Me for your donation of any amount! Focus on Marriage Assessment Pursuing Intimacy with a Reluctant Husband Contact our Counseling Team The Best Way to Deal with Mismatched Libidos in Your Marriage Support This Show! If you enjoyed listening to the Focus on Marriage Podcast, please give us your feedback.