Podcasts about marriage help

Many Christians mistakenly assume that as they learn to trust and obey God, a perfect marriage will naturally follow. The thinking often sounds like, “Isn't a happy marriage one of the blessings of following Christ?” While the desire reflects a positive ideal, the assumption overlooks the realities of living in a fallen world. In nearly every case, the ideal isn't the starting point; it's a destination that requires a broader, more realistic understanding of what it truly takes to build a strong, Christ-centered marriage. Only when a couple widens their lens can they begin to grasp the effort and grace required for a genuinely fabulous marriage. Read, Watch, Listen: lifeovercoffee.com/mind-mapping-th…oull-ever-find/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here lifeovercoffee.com/donate/.

Send us Fan MailWhen couples begin talking about separation, it can feel terrifying. Many people assume separation means the marriage is over, but what if separation isn't always about ending the relationship? What if it can become a path toward greater clarity and healing?In this episode, I continue the conversation from last week's episode on marital discernment counseling and explore the difference between reactive, protective, and healing separations. I share insights from a recent marriage roundtable and discuss how separation can provide space to slow down, reflect, and examine our own contribution to the relationship rather than focusing solely on changing our spouse.We'll also talk about hard problems versus soft problems, why clarity matters more than rushing decisions, and how healing often begins with curiosity and self-awareness.In this episode, you'll learn:The different types of separation and why they matter.What a healing separation in marriage is designed to accomplish.How discernment counseling helps couples gain clarity.The difference between hard problems and soft problems.Why focusing only on your spouse's change can keep you stuck.Questions to ask yourself when you're in the space between staying and leaving.If you're wrestling with whether to stay, separate, or seek help, this conversation will encourage you to slow down and make decisions from wisdom rather than exhaustion.Ready for support?Schedule a Courageous Love Conversation and discover your next step toward healing and clarity.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDoes communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings....

When a marriage is struggling after betrayal, it's easy to reach for labels. Narcissist. Addict. Abuser. Toxic. But what happens when those labels become the lens through which we see ourselves, or our spouse?In this thought-provoking conversation, Brian sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Tyler Patrick to explore how misdiagnosis and misplaced labels can actually hinder healing. Together, they discuss the difference between understanding behavior and defining a person by it, the role of self-compassion in recovery, and why true healing requires both honesty and empathy.Tyler shares his own personal journey through addiction, secrecy, recovery, and marriage restoration, offering powerful insights into how vulnerability, accountability, and compassion work together to create lasting change. You'll also learn why some of the most commonly used therapeutic terms may be doing more harm than good, and how curiosity can open doors that judgment never will.Whether you're the betrayed spouse, the unfaithful spouse, or simply seeking healthier relationships, this episode will challenge the way you think about healing, labels, forgiveness, and what it really means to see another person with compassion.You can find the Therapy Brothers here: https://therapybrothers.org/beyond-affairsYes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.www.beyondaffairs.com  360.306.3367

Send us Fan MailIt's not challenging for our brains to remember all the times we were hurt. Why? It's a self protection mechanism. But self protection and oneness cannot coexist. So the world says cut off what hurt you and forget about it! That's not biblical. We see time after time examples of God Himself commanding the Israelites to REMEMBER what He did, where He rescued them from, how He provided… Now it's your turn to learn how to remember by the Spirit and how this applies to biblical marriage God's way. It changes everything!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailGod created us as holistic beings: mind, body and spirit. Learn to integrate biblical Truth as anchor and recognize information we receive from our bodies. And how we submit BOTH under the authority of Christ- the FINISHED work of the Cross.Let's dive in! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailHave you ever found yourself wondering, "What else can I do?"In this episode, Christine shares a powerful insight from a recent marriage roundtable that challenged the way she thinks about couples who are struggling. The speaker made a simple but profound statement:"Most people don't want to get divorced. They just don't know what else they can do."Together, we'll explore what happens when one spouse is leaning into the marriage while the other is leaning out, why traditional marriage counseling isn't always the right starting place, and how gaining clarity can sometimes be more important than finding immediate solutions.If you're feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure of what your next step should be, this conversation will offer hope, perspective, and a reminder that there may be more paths forward than you realize.In this episode you'll learn:• Why some couples struggle to engage in marriage counseling• The difference between fixing a marriage and finding clarity• The three paths explored in discernment counseling• How self-reflection can create movement when you feel stuck• Why many people considering divorce are actually searching for hopeIf you'd like support navigating your own marriage crossroads, schedule a Courageous Love Conversation using the link in the show notes.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDoes communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings....

Send us Fan MailYou said you wanted a fun summer.So why does it already feel chaotic?In this follow-up episode, Chelsey shares the 10 rules helping her create a summer built around peace, responsibility, freedom, and connection- not survival.From routines and screens to rhythms and responsibilities, this episode will help you intentionally build an environment where both moms and kids can thrive.Because peaceful summers rarely happen accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailYour kids were never supposed to become the center of your home.Yet summer has a funny way of making marriages revolve around:sports activities screens chauffeuring and survival mode.In this episode, Chelsey shares 10 practical rules to help you protect your marriage, stay connected, and build a family culture where your relationship remains the foundation- not an afterthought.Because one day the kids leave.Your marriage stays. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect. 

Send us Fan MailWhy does life suddenly feel chaotic when routines disappear?Maybe summer isn't creating the problem.Maybe it's revealing it.In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how easily life drifts out of order- especially during busy seasons—and why many women unintentionally place kids, schedules, responsibilities, and work above the things that actually create peace.You'll learn how God's design for right order creates stability, why environment matters more than motivation, and how to intentionally build a home that flourishes instead of simply surviving.Because peace rarely happens accidentally. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailGod gave me this vision of a courtroom. This image should break us of self-righteousness in marriage. Are you standing next to the accuser in agreement over your husband's offenses? Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailYou study business.You study parenting.You study nutrition.But do you intentionally study your husband?In this episode, I'm teaching wives how to become students of their husbands—not to control them or fix them—but to understand, support, and build the kind of marriage where both people flourish.You'll learn practical ways to understand how your husband thinks, what creates safety and connection for men, and how intentional curiosity creates stronger marriages than assumption ever will.Because high level marriages are built by spouses who never stop learning each other. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailYou love your spouse.But do you actually like them? This reel sparked a HUGE reaction!In this episode, Chelsey Holm unpacks why so many marriages slowly drift from friendship, fun, and genuine enjoyment—and why simply staying married is not the same thing as flourishing together.You'll learn why resentment quietly kills friendship, how survival mode changes connection, and what creates the kind of marriage where you genuinely enjoy being together again.Because marriage was never meant to be endured.It was meant to reflect something much deeper. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailIt's not what you say; it's how you say it. Learn how simple it is to go from manger-speak to invitation-language, and watch your husband step in and respond!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

How to Confront a Cheating Spouse Without Pushing Him or Her AwayAnger, fear, and hurt can make confronting a cheating spouse feel impossible. Reacting too quickly, arguing, or offering instant forgiveness can make reconciliation harder, so this episode helps listeners prepare for a confrontation that is calm, clear, loving, and firm.What You'll Learn: How to confront cheating without turning it into a fight or discussion  What to say when you want reconciliation but cannot accept ongoing cheating  How to avoid threats, blame, and emotional overexplaining  Why boundaries matter before forgiveness and reconnection can happen Want to Work With Coach Jack?:For listeners who want help deciding whether to build first, require a choice, or set stronger boundaries after an affair, Coach Jack's Coaching Package for Ending a Spouse's Affair can help them take steadier steps toward either reconciliation or a clear separation path.Key Takeaways: Confrontation should be simple, short, and deliberate.  Love and firmness can work together.  Instant forgiveness can encourage continued cheating.  Boundaries need to be clear and enforceable.  Reconciliation requires the affair to end first. Additional Resources: A Christian Guide to Preventing and Ending Men's Affairs, by Jack Ito PhDOne session consultation with Coach Jack Coaching Package for Ending a Spouse's AffairWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn't the argument… but the way you argue? In this episode of Married AF, we celebrate a huge milestone, 500,000 downloads, and then dive straight into one of the most important relationship communication conversations we've ever had: why so many couples are trying to win arguments instead of understanding each other.We break down the hidden communication habits quietly damaging marriages, emotional intimacy, dating relationships, friendships, and even faith conversations. From shutting down emotionally to mentally preparing your comeback while your spouse is still talking, we unpack why modern conflict resolution feels more exhausting than productive and what healthy communication actually looks like.We also walk through five practical tools for better marriage communication and healthier relationships:How to stop treating conversations like competitionsWhy undistracted presence changes everythingThe power of asking better questionsHow to find common ground even during disagreementWhy grace and truth matter in every hard conversationIf you're struggling with marital issues, emotional disconnect, intimacy challenges, recurring fights, or feeling unheard in your relationship, this episode offers practical marriage advice and support you can actually use. Whether you're newly married, dating, navigating relationship challenges, or simply trying to communicate better with the people you love, this conversation will challenge the way you think about conflict, happiness, love, and connection.This episode is packed with:Marriage adviceRelationship communicationConflict resolution toolsChristian marriage coachingEmotional intimacy insightsCommunication strategiesDating and newlywed adviceBiblical perspectives on relationships and ChristianityPractical support for healthier marriagesBecause sometimes the strongest marriages aren't the ones that never fight… they're the ones that learn how to fight without destroying each other.

Send us Fan MailIf you are feeling like there's just too much hurt and years of frustration in your marriage for it to truly flourish (or even be borderline good at this point), listen to this episode! God can do it! God is working in your marriage! He is working out sprouts...buds...blossoms...and ripe almonds! Because "shoqed"! Jeremiah 1:11 "I am watching over my word to perform it." Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailIt's so easy to let our feelings be the authority, but high level wives learn how to create space for the Spirit to work because they are rooted and grounded in the love of Christ. Come learn how too! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

Send us Fan MailHow often do you feel overwhelmed by the chaos, bad attitudes, and fights that start in your own house, family, and marriage? Learn how to shift the atmosphere and recalibrate the "tudes" like a high level wife! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailOffense is what our flesh does and when we let it take root, it becomes resentment, then bitterness, and finally unforgiveness. Learn how to be unoffendable in your marriage!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYou're out here walking in the masculine because it feels safer. I get it. That was me too. But learning how God uniquely designed you and how He created you to function within marriage is going to feel like a scary but exhilarating superpower to you. Let's gooooo!*this episode cuts off because our wifi went out, lame, but come back for part 2. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailLet's bring it all home with the core foundation of HOW we are enabled to walk in the nature and function of biblical femineity: it's the gospel applied! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailLearn how to make space for and support the mission in your family. You bear your husband's authority, not to mention the power of the newness of life by the Cross. Walk in your authority and identity on SUBmission in your marriage! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat are you focusing on that is showing up as complaint in your life? Dive in with Chelsey on the topic of complaint and how it's a bigger thing than you think. Plus 2 passages that give warnings on the devastation of complaining. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWhat did you expect when you got married? Those unmet expectations are the seed of resentment that drains your marriage of the tender love you once had for your husband.Learn to ditch the expectations and have a right view of God, your spouse, and yourself in marriage. You'll feel so free, you won't even believe it! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailYour eyes and ears are the gateway to your mind- what you fill it with is what then overflows from your heart through your words and actions. So what or who is getting your attention? Is it your husband? Or is it your phone? Let's bring awareness and shift the atmosphere to deeper connection in marriage, sister! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHappy Mother's Day! (a few days later since I recorded this earlier this week- I like to extend the fun, ya know)Update on the 5k with Emma this past weekend and sorrow over remembering a decade ago when I wanted my kids and husband just to leave me alone for Mother's Day. If you've felt this- you're not alone. But also, it's time to actually enjoy your blessings! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailRemember when you saw all the good things in your man? You saw it and then you said it to him. I bet that man felt like he was 10 ft tall and could move mountains for you. Let's bring this back into the atmosphere of your marriage, sis! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailAnyone can serve your husband; only YOU can enjoy him and delight in him. Let's dive in and bring awareness so you can make some powerful shifts in your marriage today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHLH and HLW cut out alcohol and other substances early in the program which is harder for some than others, but it's necessary. Why? Substances take the edge of discomfort off and inhibit oneness, unity, and growing up that is necessary for vulnerability within marriage.Also, if you aren't the one who has or is working on giving up substance reliance, you must put on a heart of flesh that overflows with understanding for your spouse as he/she walks through this process in submission to Holy Spirit. Let's get to it... Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailWe recently had new friends over for dinner and she sent us a text after saying "Thank you so much for having us over tonight!!! We loved hanging with you guys. Your home is so full of love and so healing (which we know is Him!) but it was so beautiful to see. We can't wait to hang again!" What do people experience when they walk into your home? Wife, you have the unique authority and role to be the atmosphere setting and creator in your home! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailI was co-leading a mediation session between a hurting Christian couple last week, and the Spirit kept urging me to see this husband's lonely heart, to see this wife's hurting heart, and to help them see each other for the first time as 2 broken, hurting, but redeemed people. In in this episode, Chelsey challenges you to put off division and to pray the hard prayer that aligns your heart to the Father's: " God, help me see him like You see him." This is a key to having a heart of flesh and God removing your heart of stone in your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailDid you know that 66-75% of young adults raised in the faith, walk away from the faith in their years following leaving the nest? Rather than the allure of being exposed to all new stuff they didn't previously have access to and now they do, might it be a LACK of witnessing the fruits of marriage God's way in their own parents' marriage that led to a disconnect in faith for them? That they saw more hurts, offenses, and lack of intimacy than they saw the fruits of the Spirit on display of 2 people living in the unity of one flesh....Let' dig in... because more is caught than taught. They are learning and it will be passed down to more than just your kids.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow you obey the Father today, informs how you submit within your own marriage. You will not flourish in marriage God's way until you learn obedience from the right heart posture to God first. Chelsey dives into Israel's obedience to the Lord in the book of Numbers and how this overflowed from their fear of the Lord. This same heart posture is the key to submitting within your own marriage.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailVows say "for richer, for poorer" but when 70% of couples argue about finances... and money is consistently ranked as one of the leading sources of conflict in marriage- the reality is radically different from the original intent. Financial disagreements are a very strong predictor of divorce, and when it's "often" it's nearly 3x more!Chelsey dives deep the REAL key issue at work in marriages where finances are a point of contention and how to make this shift. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMost couples spend more time planning their wedding than they do their marriage.And it's not because they don't care…it's because no one really shows them how.In this episode, I'm bringing you into a recent experience I had at a premarital conference—and the unexpected reflection it stirred in me about my own marriage.As I sat with couples just beginning their journey, I found myself thinking…what would have been different if Jeff and I had this kind of preparation?Not just conversations about love…but real, honest guidance around communication, conflict, needs, personality differences, finances, and intimacy.Because the truth is, many of the struggles couples face aren't surprising…they're just unexamined.If you've ever found yourself feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or questioning why things feel harder than you expected—this episode will help you see your marriage through a new lens.Not as something that's gone wrong…but as something that's asking to be built more intentionally.Before you listen, I want to invite you to do one simple thing:Choose one area of your relationship… and start a conversation.Just one.That's where change begins.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDoes communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings....

Send us Fan MailWhile implementing these rules for communication won't address the root issues of your marriage, it WILL help you move faster in the SAME direction towards healing and oneness. In this episode, Chelsey shares 3 rules she and Zach implemented and still use today! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailGalatians 1:6-9 reveals the highly likely reason for where you are in marriage today: Anything that is Jesus+this or Jesus-that is a false gospel that keeps you stuck, frustrated, in conflict and not walking free. Dive into the one, true gospel and be free! You have received mercy; now walk free in it! Marriage is ground zero for this sanctification process to be magnified so you can be multiplied together pulling in the same direction, the very essence of God's mercy for the whole world to see. Not of either of you that you could boast but the power of God working in and through you both! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailA passive husband doesn't look weak; he actually looks like this...  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailListen to the recap of 7 ways God ministered to Chelsey's heart during a recent time of feeling a little downtrodden and be encouraged too! God is SO good!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHas your marriage become too serious? And that has overflowed to the bedroom? It's time to bring back the fun, laughter, excitement, and intimacy God's way! Chelsey shares some ways to keep it light and fun as you delight in one another, tasting and seeing God's goodness! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow often do you run back to the Lors in times of trouble, but quickly grow complacent in times of ease? That used to be me too! Our marriage breaking was what made me go running back to the Lord and to stay rooted in Him ALWAYS from that point onward. Over the years, the Lord has taught me the power of the weapons I have in Him. Weapons that ACTUALLY destroy strongholds and is DIVINE power. It's time to grab your weapons of warfare that are not of the flesh! It's the ONLY way to take back territory in your marriage and life. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailTake a peek into my morning car ride convo with my youngest, Bo, about the goodness of God, how He is the Giver of good and perfect gifts, and how we can ask Him for things.If you think God is a genie or a distant dad- you need this episode! Short, sweet and so powerful! Child-like faith, let's go! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailA simple anniversary gift…a quiet moment…and a reaction I didn't expect.In this episode, I share how one small moment with Jeff uncovered a deeper belief I didn't realize I was still carrying—and how emotional triggers in marriage often have less to do with what's happening now… and more to do with what we've been carrying for a long time.If you've ever felt hurt, disappointed, or reactive in a way that didn't quite make sense… this episode will help you slow it down, understand what's underneath, and begin creating connection from a more grounded place.✨ Inside this episode:Why small moments can feel so bigThe hidden beliefs shaping your reactionsHow to identify what you're really longing forA simple way to share this with your spouse

Send us Fan MailIf you love biblical study from the perspective of God's unchanging character, specifically how we see that thread from OT to NT, you'll love this deep-dive on "minister" and "ministering". THEN we bring it all home in how this functions within covenant marriage, and specifically physical intimacy. *we're digging into original Hebrew and Greek, people! Woo!Let's go!!!!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailMy dad told me for years that leadership can be really lonely when you're pouring into others. It reminds me of Moses leading the Israelites. You know me- always sharing the messy middle, showing my cards, and challenging you with an invite to learn right along with me. God didn't make us for isolation- that's where the enemy wants us.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailIf you're honest, what patterns have emerged around initiation and follow through? For Chelsey, there were decades of opening the door only to close it, creating a pattern of rejection and denial. This isn't God's design for intimacy!Let's dig deeper into the importance of follow through from a right heart posture and understanding of intimacy and desire God's way. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailHow we approach intimacy MUST flow from the RIGHT order! This allows us to be filled from the vertical to then overflow to the horizontal. If we approach from the WRONG order, we get stuck in low level "fixes", box checking, and wrong heart posture.Learn how to stop filtering physical intimacy through your flesh, and start learning sex within covenant marriage in the Spirit!  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailFear, hurts, hang ups, and old patterns block us from the depth of intimacy in marriage God's way. Self protection is learned behavior and it hinders desire and expression of physical oneness. Listen as Chelsey dives into how we navigate the challenges of self protection, what to do about it, and how God is using it to reveal areas He wants to heal and exposing areas He wants to prune in us.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan Mail"Lord, wreck me over my husband's heart and desire for intimacy in marriage!" Chelsey prayed this prayer and God answered. Dive into intimacy, desire, and tasting God's goodness within marriage His way through physical intimacy! Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send us Fan MailDo you ever feel like no matter what you try…you and your spouse keep ending up in the same place?The same arguments.The same disconnect.The same frustration.Maybe you've had the conversations… tried new approaches… even gotten help…and still—nothing really changes.In this episode, we explore why that happens.Because it's not just about what you're doing…it's about what's driving the pattern underneath it.You'll learn why “starting over” often doesn't work, what's really going on beneath the surface (especially in intimacy), and how to begin shifting the cycle in a way that actually creates change.In This Episode:Why you keep repeating the same patterns in your marriageWhat's really happening underneath those patternsHow these dynamics show up in your intimacyWhat “starting fresh” actually meansA simple practice to interrupt the cycle in real timeWhat to do when your spouse isn't meeting you thereNext Step:If you're realizing communication might be part of what's been missing…Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication and begin opening conversations without conflict or shutdown.If this episode resonated with you, follow the show and share it with someone who might need this too.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDoes communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings....