Podcasts about marriage help

Send a text Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You broke her trust—now what?In The NEW Marriage Ep388, Cass and Kathryn break down the real steps to earn back your wife's trust (and keep it). Forget the fake apologies and “nice guy” bullshit—this is about peace, emotional safety, and actual connection. If you're stuck in the blame game or sexless marriage, it's time for raw truth and real change.DM PODCAST for the next move.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.“Don't have kids, it's not worth it.”That's the brutal advice Cass grew up with—and it's wrecked generations.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep387), Cass and Kathryn rip into family trauma, the “happy wife, happy life” lie, and why sitting in your pain keeps you stuck.This is raw, honest, and the wake-up call you need to start healing and actually move forward.

Send a textShame often hides beneath the surface of intimacy struggles in marriage. Many couples assume they simply need to try harder—communicate more, schedule time together, or change behaviors. But shame doesn't loosen its grip through effort alone.In this episode, Christine Bongiovanni explores how shame quietly shapes intimacy, why behavioral fixes often fail, and how secure love and emotional safety help the nervous system relax so deeper connection can grow.If intimacy has felt guarded or complicated in your marriage, this conversation will help you understand what may be happening beneath the surface—and what actually helps shame lose its power.You'll also hear practical next steps for building emotional safety and creating a new story around intimacy in your relationship.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. ...

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Women's High Tolerance and Fracturing Their Relationship With Their Children!Women put up with more than anyone sees—men snap, and the whole family pays.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep386), Cass and Kathryn get brutally honest about why women's endless patience leads to burnout, how men's short fuse fractures their bond with the kids, and why connection—not control—is the missing piece. Real talk, real solutions.DM PODCAST for real answers.

[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] Sometimes I have been asked if I, as a woman, should be teaching men. When it comes up, I really appreciate that question because it shows a level of maturity and commitment to scripture.  The truth is, I never intended to be coaching or training men. That, in fact, is something I was against, at first. I intended to just follow Titus 2 by inviting women to learn to love their husbands well.  As I wrote the book and started the podcast and coaching women with this end in mind, men started reaching out to me. It was kind of uncomfortable at first.  I didn't know what to do with it. They were asking how they could get their wife to listen to my material. "I have no idea. That's on you." I wasn't cold-hearted, I just didn't think it was prudent.  Well, I was speaking to my husband, and he felt like it would be ok to speak to some of them via email or possibly a phone call, just so I could understand.  And when I did, I could tell "wow, now I see why she is rejecting". And not only that, I could see that she was really suffering too.  So with prayer and wise counsel and the blessing of my husband, I went for it and tried a pilot coaching program for men. Amazingly, every single man got amazing results (even though only 1 went through the course -- and she didn't know he did it!) Glory to God. From there, we've tweaked and updated and, by God's grace, are at a place where God is doing miracle after miracle here.  Would love you to hear Aaron's story of the pursuit of God's way in his marriage. As a pastor, he likely had to grapple with this question -- is it ok to be trained by a woman in this topic? And he decided the answer should be yes. You're welcome to check out our convictions surrounding Women in Leadership, here.  And the Lord worked in his heart and in his marriage -- even though only he did the work. We are so excited to share his story with you! Would love to work with you too! delightyourmarriage.com/cc for next steps. To read an AI generated summary, click here.   Belah  

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Sex When Your Partner Is Sleeping!Nobody wants to talk about it, but sex while your partner is sleeping is more common—and more damaging—than you think.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep385), Cass and Kathryn get brutally honest about consent, boundaries, manipulation, and why “justifying” your actions is pure bullshit.Real stories, raw confessions, and a wake-up call for anyone stuck in denial.DM PODCAST for real answers.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.The Roommate Marriage Nobody Talks About!Nobody wants to admit it, but most couples are living in a roommate marriage—zero intimacy, just business partners.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep384), Cass and Kathryn go raw on trust, erectile dysfunction, sexless marriage, manipulation, boundaries, and why “closure” is a modern myth.Time to break the silence, call out the bullshit, and get your marriage off life support.DM PODCAST for the real fix.

Send a textIs sexual intimacy in your marriage really about desire… or something deeper?In Episode 255, Christine explores sexual formation in marriage and how early messages about sex shape trust, safety, and desire. What if “low desire” is actually guarded desire? And why don't behavior changes alone create lasting transformation?This episode begins a new journey into marital sexual transformation — one rooted in awareness, emotional safety, and understanding what your body learned long before you chose what you believe.Download The Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication or book a Courageous Love Conversation to continue the work.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. ...

Send a textBefore you start mothering your husband, your nervous system gives you physical indicators of a deeper underlying need for self-protection. In this episode Chelsey teaches you how to move from stress-fueled reaction to Spirit- led response that honors your husband, expresses yourself, and creates space for vulnerability and deeper connection than you've ever experienced yet.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Stop making weak decisions that keep you stuck.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep383), Cass and Kathryn go all-in on why most couples therapy fails, why “happy wife, happy life” is BULLSHIT, and how labeling your partner destroys connection. We break down narcissist triggers, cognitive distortions, and the hard TRUTH about making choices that actually move your life and marriage forward.Want real change?DM PODCAST for next steps.

Send a text Are you healing… or just consuming? In the final episode of this series, Chelsey exposes one of the most dangerous traps Christian wives fall into: collecting “breakthrough moments” without stepping into obedience. You'll learn why hearing truth without doing it is spiritual deception, how self-help can become counterfeit transformation, and the difference between emotional “healing highs” and real fruit. This is your commissioning episode: stop screenshotting your healing — God is inviting you to obey.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textThis episode is a gut punch — in the best way. Chelsey exposes one of the hardest truths for wives to face: your marriage isn't the main problem… your heart posture is. In this episode, you'll learn how pride, offense, fear, and self-protection block God's work in both you and your husband — and how surrender is the key that unlocks restoration, peace, and God's bigger mission for your marriage. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Your words are not neutral. They are either partnering with Heaven… or partnering with hell. In this episode, Chelsey teaches how wives unknowingly speak death over their husband, their kids, their marriage, and themselves — through sarcasm, complaining, fear-based language, and unbelief. You'll learn how Scripture describes the power of the tongue, and how to start speaking life from a renewed heart posture.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Stop doubting your success—start living it.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep382), Cass and Kathryn rip apart the lies that keep you stuck: self-sabotage, mixed signals, emotional manipulation, and the “nice guy” trap. We get brutally honest about financial infidelity, betrayal, and why most couples are terrified of actually winning.Ready to break the cycle?DM PODCAST for real answers.

Send a text Most marriage problems aren't “new.” They're patterns. Cycles. Scripts. And if you don't disrupt them intentionally, you will repeat them — and eventually pass them down. In this episode, Chelsey exposes why wives stay stuck in destructive cycles, how generational patterns show up in conflict, and what it takes to stop reacting and start walking in Spirit-led self-control.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text If you feel like it's all on you — fixing your husband, fixing your marriage, fixing yourself, fixing everything — you're not walking in faith. You're walking in control. In this episode, Chelsey teaches why “fixing” is a counterfeit form of responsibility, how it blocks God from moving, and what it looks like to surrender the burden without becoming passive. This is a freedom episode.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You're letting the WRONG people in your marriage—and it's killing you.This episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep381) exposes how outside voices, toxic friends, and even family sabotage your relationship.Cass and Kathryn go raw on boundaries, emotional safety, the “roommate trap,” and why you must PROTECT your marriage at all costs.Real talk, real stories, and brutal TRUTH from our latest live event—plus how to finally break free from the cycle of unhappiness.Ready to rebuild?DM PODCAST for next steps.

Send a text Offense feels justified. It feels protective. It feels like wisdom. But it's actually spiritual poison. In this episode, Chelsey exposes how wives unknowingly nurture bitterness, rehearse wrongs, and hold onto hurt like a pet — feeding the very thing destroying their marriage. You'll learn what Scripture says about offense, how bitterness blocks intimacy, and how to finally release what's been keeping you stuck.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Many Christian wives say “God is first”… but their daily life reveals a different order: kids first, work first, emotions first, control first. In this episode, Chelsey calls out the hidden idols that quietly take God's place — and how wrong order produces exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection in marriage. If you want peace, intimacy, and true alignment, it starts here.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Knowing Scripture does not equal spiritual maturity. In this episode, Chelsey breaks down one of the biggest reasons wives stay stuck: they're hearing truth but not obeying it. You'll learn why information without obedience creates self-deception, how love is the true marker of discipleship, and what it looks like to stop consuming truth and start living it — especially inside your marriage.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text You can quote submission, attend church, and love Jesus… and still be walking in a spirit of rebellion inside your marriage. In this episode, Chelsey teaches the difference between biblical strength and counterfeit control, and how rebellion disguises itself as independence, “discernment,” or spiritual superiority. This episode will convict, clarify, and call you into the freedom of true surrender.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a text Most wives don't realize they're doing it… but the way you speak to your husband may be slowly killing trust, intimacy, and connection. In this episode, Chelsey exposes how disrespect often hides behind “being honest,” “being the responsible one,” or “just telling the truth.” You'll learn what Scripture says about the power of your words, why honor is not optional, and how to shift your tone without shrinking your voice.  Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Ready for a next step? If this episode stirred something deeper and you're ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender. This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

Send a textMany couples aren't in crisis — they're in a quiet middle space.Not deeply connected. Not fighting constantly. Just… living around the ache.In this episode, Christine explores the subtle pattern where one partner reaches for change while the other avoids it — and how resignation slowly replaces longing.If you've ever told yourself, “We're okay,” while something inside you still feels distant or unfulfilled, this conversation will help you reconnect with your honesty — gently and without pressure.You'll learn:Why couples get stuck in emotional limboThe hidden cost of living in resignationThe subtle lies we tell ourselves about wanting moreReflective questions to help you reconnect with what you missHow to take a next step without forcing an outcomeIf this resonates, consider scheduling a Courageous Love Conversation — a space to gain clarity about where you are and what support might help.And if someone came to mind while listening, share this episode with them. It may be the nudge they need.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship Does communication feel hard in your marriage? Get my Gentle Start Communication Guide, where I share a gentle daily practice that helps you stay present, name what's true for you, and build connection without escalation or problem-solving.Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. ...

Send a textValentine's Day expectations in marriage often go unspoken — and that's where disappointment begins.In this episode, Christine explores how waiting for your spouse to meet expectations without clear communication can create quiet resentment. You'll learn how to examine what you truly want, share your desires with clarity, and use Valentine's Day as an invitation for deeper connection rather than pressure.Christine also discusses how to express love without conditions, take care of your own heart when expectations aren't met, and start honest conversations that build intimacy over time.Resources mentioned:– Gentle Start Guide to Better Communication– Courageous Love Conversation

Send us a textWhy do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage — even when both partners care?In this episode of Awaken You in Your Marriage, Christine explores how personality styles show up during conflict and why understanding these differences can dramatically shift communication and connection.You'll learn how different personality styles respond under stress, what each type needs most in conflict, and why couples often clash not because of the issue itself, but because of how they protect themselves emotionally.This episode offers a compassionate, practical lens for understanding yourself and your spouse — without labeling or blame — and includes tools to help couples stay emotionally connected even during difficult conversations.Christine also shares how listeners can explore their personality style further using the Live the Life app, of which I am NOT a paid sponsor, and invites couples to continue the work together.

7 Steps to Revive Your Marriage Whether You Work On It Alone or as a CoupleWhen your marriage feels disconnected or routine, it's tempting to push for change through constant discussions or waiting for your spouse to get on board. But pressure and passivity both backfire. In this episode, Coach Jack shares seven practical, enjoyable steps to restore interest and connection—whether your spouse is involved or not.What You'll Learn:How to make your spouse more interested by becoming more interestingSimple ways to reintroduce romance, connection, and enjoymentHow to shift from pursuit to attraction to avoid resistanceA step-by-step path to rebuild closeness at your own paceWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start reconnecting, the Re-Connections Coaching Package can help. Whether you're working on your marriage alone or as a couple, Coach Jack offers practical support to rebuild connection without pressure or conflict.Key Takeaways:Reviving a marriage doesn't require mutual effort—it starts with one person making positive changesSmall improvements done consistently can restore attraction and connectionAvoid trying to fix the relationship through talks; build it through action and behaviorTreat your spouse more like a boyfriend or girlfriend, not just a partner in choresExpect imperfections and grow the good instead of pulling all the weedsAdditional Resources:Re-Connections Coaching PackageCouples Coaching PackageSocial Skills QuizFree Lessons for WomenFree E-Book for MenWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Let's cut the bullshit—one boundary will save your marriage faster than any therapy session.We're talking about shutting down those “innocent” private convos with the opposite sex. No more windows where there should be walls.In this episode, Cass and Kathryn drop TRUTH BOMBS on why coed emotional sharing destroys trust, how to set boundaries that actually work, and why your partner's safety matters more than your ego. Get raw, get real, and stop sabotaging your marriage.DM PODCAST for next steps.

Send us a textIn this episode of Awaken You in Your Marriage, Christine explores how understanding personality can bring clarity and compassion to communication struggles in marriage.Rather than focusing only on what couples fight about, this conversation looks at how personality and stress responses shape conflict. Christine introduces a simple, accessible personality framework and explains how different wiring can lead to misunderstanding — even when both partners have good intentions.You'll learn:Why communication breaks down even when couples care deeplyHow personality influences conflict and stress responsesWhy self-compassion is the starting point for healthier connectionHow shared language can reduce blame and increase understandingChristine also invites listeners to explore the free personality assessment inside the Live the Life app, which includes tools, conversation starters, and date ideas for couples.

Send us a textAt the start of a new year, it's easy to feel overwhelmed by everything you should be working on in your marriage. In this episode, Christine offers a gentler and more sustainable approach.Instead of fixing all the things or waiting for the “right time,” you're invited to slow down, listen, and choose one internal shift that could begin changing the dynamic in your relationship. Christine explores why readiness often comes after the noise settles, how accountability supports real change, and why communication is often the place where small shifts make the biggest difference.This episode is a practical and encouraging follow-up to Episodes 247 and 248—helping you move from awareness into meaningful, supported action.In this episode, you'll explore:Why waiting for perfect timing often keeps couples stuckHow choosing one focus can change the tone of your marriageThe role of accountability in creating lasting changeHow to communicate more gently and effectivelyNext steps:Download the Gentle Start Guide to Better CommunicationBook a Courageous Love Conversation for clarity and accountabilityShare this episode with your spouse or a friendYou don't need to work on everything—just the right thing.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipUnlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.Instagram...

 Hope for Your Marriage: When to Hold On, When to Act, and What Actually Helps Intro: When your marriage feels uncertain, fear of wasting time or facing more rejection can keep you stuck and anxious. Common reactions like waiting, pushing for talks, or relying on feelings often make things worse instead of clearer. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how to assess real hope, take the right kind of action, and move forward without losing yourself in the process. What You'll Learn:How to tell the difference between false signals of hopelessness and the real indicators that matterHow matching and mismatch affect attraction, connection, and long-term viabilityWhat actions increase the chances of reconciliation without creating resistance or rejectionHow to decide your next step with more clarity and less fearWant to Work With Coach Jack?: If you want clarity about whether your marriage can improve and what path makes the most sense, a one-on-one Coaching Consultation with Coach Jack can help.  Coach Jack also offers other coaching options designed to support people at different stages of uncertainty and rebuilding.Key Takeaways:Feelings alone are unreliable for deciding whether to keep tryingMatching values, attitudes, and behaviors is central to reconciliationTaking early, low-resistance action improves outcomesOne person's behavior can change the trajectory of a marriageProgress comes from focusing on the next step, not the entire outcomeAdditional Resources: Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want, by Jack Ito PhD - Often the first step to reconciling.Connecting through "Yes!" by Jack Ito PhD - Helps with validating those hard to agree with things a spouse might say.Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Send us a textIf you've found yourself thinking, “We really need to communicate better,”but you also feel a quiet tightening inside when you say that…this one is for you.Most couples don't stop talking because they don't care.They stop because talking started to feel costly.Costly emotionally — it leads to reactions that stir more feelings.Costly energetically — you walk away drained, with nothing resolved.Costly relationally — it feels like every attempt pushes you further apart.So avoidance slowly becomes protection.And over time, that protection turns into distance.This week's podcast episode is an invitation to start again —not by pushing harder or having a big talk —but by making communication simpler and safer.

Send us a textAs the new year approaches, many couples hope their marriage will feel different—but without intention, January often looks a lot like December.In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine invites you to slow down and reflect on who you are becoming and how that inner evolution shapes the way your marriage feels over time. Through a guided visualization, simple habit-setting, and practical tools, you'll learn how to approach the new year with clarity, compassion, and direction.This episode is designed to be one you return to—especially as you begin forming new habits in January and beyond.In this episode, you'll explore:A guided visualization to connect with your future selfHow small daily habits create meaningful change in marriageUsing visual reminders to stay focused on your intentionsThe role of accountability in ongoing growth

Send us a textCan a marriage really change after years of struggle and effort?In this episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage, Christine reflects on more than a decade of inner and relational work and shares what truly shifts when couples stay committed to the long work of healing. This is an honest, hope-filled conversation for anyone who's been doing the work and wondering if it's worth it.Christine explores the seasons most couples move through—from early attempts to fix things, to the lonely middle where growth can feel one-sided, to the quiet transformation that happens over time when inner work reshapes the relationship from the inside out.If you're feeling discouraged, tired, or uncertain about your marriage, this episode offers perspective, encouragement, and a gentle invitation to keep going.Episode Timestamps00:00 – Can your marriage really change?00:35 – Reflecting on over a decade of marriage work07:05 – The early years: when therapy helped us talk, but not heal11:12 – The turning point: when inner work became non-negotiable13:57 – The lonely middle: doing the work before your spouse is ready15:59 – The long view: why inner work still matters17:53 – When both partners begin the work21:59 – A gentle invitation to stay with the work

What to Do When Your Wife Says She's Not in Love With You (Real Steps That Work)When a wife says she's not in love anymore, most men panic—and that panic usually pushes her further away. In this episode, Coach Jack explains why those words do not automatically mean your marriage is over, and why chasing, pleading, or trying to convince her almost always backfires. This episode lays out a clear, step-by-step way to respond that helps your wife relax, reconnect, and regain attraction over time. What You'll LearnHow to respond when your wife says she's not in love—without chasing or arguingThe most common mistakes men make that destroy any chance of reconnectionWhy acceptance works better than reassurance, persuasion, or pursuitThe correct order of steps that allow attraction and connection to rebuildWant to Work With Coach Jack?If your wife has emotionally checked out and you want to know how to reconnect without making things worse, Coach Jack's Re-Connections Coaching Package focuses on helping your spouse relax, reconnect, and gradually feel close again—without pressure or convincing. Learn more at CoachJackIto.com.Key TakeawaysA wife saying she's not in love is not an intervention—it's a reality to acceptPursuit does not create attraction; it destroys itReconnection happens in stages, not all at onceThe goal is to rebuild safety, connection, and attraction—not to convinceAdditional ResourcesSelf-help QuizzesBooks by Coach Jack Ito PhDCoaching PackagesConsultationsWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

In this episode I cover the standoff most couples find themselves in where both partners are unhappy but neither will take the first step to improve the relationship. I discuss who should take the first step, why they should take the first step, and what it looks like to take the first step. If you need marriage help, this is an essential episode to move your marriage forward. 

Send us a textAs the year comes to a close, this episode invites you to pause and reflect on how your marriage has actually felt—not to judge it, but to learn from it. Christine shares a personal story, practical reflection tools, and simple next steps to help you move into the new year with clarity, intention, and hope for deeper connection.Timestamps:00:00 Reflecting on Your Marriage as the Year Ends01:06 Welcome to AwakenYou in Your Marriage03:01 A Long-Awaited Vacation and Choosing Connection06:55 A Simple Year-End Marriage Reflection Exercise09:37 Understanding Patterns in Your Marriage10:45 Recognizing Seasons of Marriage12:20 Self-Examination and Personal Growth13:11 Practical Steps to Improve Your Marriage14:36 Guided Reflection and Planning for the Year Ahead18:37 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

She Thought She Married the Wrong Man—What Coaching ChangedMany people reach a painful conclusion in marriage: either endure a bad relationship or get divorced. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack shares a representative client story that reflects the experience of many people he works with—those who believe they married the wrong person and feel trapped between two bad options.Using this real-world coaching example, Coach Jack explains how changing the relationship pattern—without forcing a spouse to change—can open up options most people don't realize they have.What you'll learnWhy “Did I marry the wrong person?” is usually the wrong questionHow one spouse can change the relationship dynamic without joint therapyWhy waiting for a spouse to change rarely worksHow boundaries and small shifts can reduce criticism and rebuild connectionWant to work with Coach Jack?If your spouse is disengaged, critical, or unwilling to work on the marriage, one-on-one coaching may help you move forward instead of feeling stuck. Coach Jack specializes in working with individuals who want to improve their marriage—even when their spouse is not on board. Learn more about the Re-Connections Coaching Package Key takeawaysFeeling stuck between divorce and unhappiness is a false dilemmaOne person can change the relationship patternReducing friction often comes before setting strong boundariesCoaching focuses on forward movement, not rehashing the pastAdditional resourcesConnecting Through “Yes!” by Coach JackWhat's Your Conflict Style (Quiz)Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Send us a textWhen did the internet become safer than honest conversation with your spouse?In this eye-opening episode of Marriage Mondays with The Kings, we unpack a growing trend that is quietly reshaping marriages. A 2025 survey reveals that 64% of married Americans search online for marriage help before speaking to their spouse, often out of fear of conflict, misunderstanding, or making things worse.Couples are turning to AI, Google, forums, and social media for answers — while real conversations at home go untouched.In this episode, we discuss: • Why couples trust AI more than their partner • The emotional fears behind silent searching • The Top 10 most-searched marriage questions people ask online • How avoiding hard conversations damages trust and intimacy • What Scripture teaches us about communication • Practical, faith-based tools to help couples reconnect and healFocal Scripture: James 1:19If you feel disconnected, unheard, or unsure how to start the hard conversations in your marriage, this episode will challenge you, encourage you, and give you tools to begin doing the root work that leads to real healing.This is a conversation every couple needs to hear.Support the show

Send us a textI've been thinking a lot lately about how many couples quietly stop having fun together—not because they don't care, but because life gets heavy and serious and… well, slowly you start feeling more like you're running a household than living inside a relationship.You're managing schedules.Paying bills.Getting through the week.And one day you look up and realize…the lightness is gone.You can't remember the last time you laughed together.Or were silly on purpose.Or even felt playful inside your own body.And if I'm honest, I know this feeling well.Jeff and I lived there for a season—two reserved people doing life side by side, with that quiet spark buried somewhere under responsibility and exhaustion.So this week on the podcast, I'm talking about something that feels tender and hopeful:How to bring fun back into your marriage—even if it's been years,even if it feels awkward,even if your spouse is more stoic than spontaneous.We explore why fun disappears, why it feels vulnerable to bring it back, and the tiniest little ways to reintroduce lightness without it feeling forced or fake.(And yes… I share what my own awkward journey into playfulness has looked like.)If your marriage has felt serious for far too long…or if you've been craving just a little more joy…this one's for you.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipUnlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings. Subscribe to the podcast here! Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.Instagram...

12 Actions That Push Your Spouse Away (Stop These Now)When a husband or wife is pulling away, even small mistakes can make things worse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains twelve behaviors that quietly damage connection, increase distance, and make reconciliation harder. Listeners will learn what to stop doing immediately and what to do instead to rebuild stability and trust.What You'll LearnWhy certain reactions and habits reduce your spouse's desire to reconnectHow small changes in behavior can increase warmth and lower resistanceWhich actions create distance even when your intentions are goodPractical steps to become calmer, more attractive, and easier to reconnect withWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you want your spouse to feel more comfortable, open, and willing to stay, Coach Jack's Re-Connections Coaching Package provides a clear, step-by-step plan to reduce conflict, improve interactions, and rebuild desire. Key TakeawaysOverreacting or appearing fearful pushes a spouse further awayGood boundaries matter even when separation feels imminentExpectations must match who your spouse actually isPositive connection grows when you stop doing the behaviors that create emotional pressureAdditional ResourcesOvercome Neediness and Get the Love You Want – Coach Jack's book for rebuilding confidence and reducing relationship-damaging habitsQuiz: How Effective Are Your Boundaries (self assessment)Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

How to Show Your Spouse You've Really Changed and Get a Second ChanceYour spouse may be done giving you chances, but that doesn't mean change is impossible. In this episode, Coach Jack explains what actually rebuilds trust, why words don't work, and how consistent behavior can make your spouse want to stay rather than leave.What You'll LearnHow trust is actually broken (and why honesty alone won't fix it)The behaviors that quietly destroy connectionWhy consistent change—not convincing—restores desireHow to rebuild trust even if you're separatedWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you need help applying these steps and rebuilding connection without pushing your spouse further away, Coach Jack's Re-Connections Coaching Package gives you clear guidance and support.Key TakeawaysYour spouse won't trust words; only consistent behavior mattersSmall, positive interactions rebuild attractionEmpathy opens connection; convincing shuts it downTrust requires at least three months of consistent changeAdditional ResourcesCoaching packages - https://coachjackito.com/relationship-coaching-services/Self-help Quizzes - https://coachjackito.com/quizzes/Books for Reconciling - https://coachjackito.com/books-by-coach-jack/Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

 No Contact or Low Contact? Get it Right for Reconciling with Your Spouse When a husband or wife becomes rejecting, distant, or checked out, most people respond by increasing contact, reassurance, and attention. But that often makes things worse. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how the right amount of contact can create desire, rebuild connection, and help a spouse become willing to work on the marriage again.What You'll LearnWhy too much contact pushes a rejecting spouse even further awayHow “low contact” creates desire without triggering resistanceWhen to initiate, how long to interact, and when to end the interactionHow to become someone your spouse doesn't want to loseWant to Work With Coach Jack?If you're trying hard but your spouse is pulling away, Coach Jack can help you rebuild connection using the same process he teaches in this episode. Learn how to use low contact, enjoyable interactions, and attraction-building to restore your marriage with Coach Jack's  Re-Connections Coaching Package. Additional Resources:Recommended Book: Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want, by Jack Ito PhD Recommended Podcast: Does Giving Space or Going No-Contact Help to Reconcile?Recommended Quiz: Social Skills Quiz (Needed Skills for Marriage Improvement)Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Send us a textHave you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter?You're not doing it wrong. You're doing it right.When couples begin opening up about what doesn't feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like things are getting worse, but really… they're just getting real.That's what I explore in this week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage:“Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage.”We'll talk about:Why awareness often feels painful at firstWhat's really happening under the surface when old patterns are being challengedHow to tell if you're actually making progress (even when it feels like you're not)Why discomfort is the most reliable sign that transformation is underwayMarriage growth isn't supposed to feel easy. It's supposed to feel true.And truth — when faced with courage and compassion — is what makes intimacy possible again.If you're in that messy middle right now, take a deep breath. You're not breaking down; you're breaking open.

How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict)Your spouse won't talk about the marriage, won't go to counseling, and won't try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You'll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance.What you'll learnWhy logical arguments fail when a spouse is checked outHow unwanted pursuit and begging push a spouse farther awayHow to use the relationship continuum to understand motivationSteps that increase desire and connection without discussions or pressureWant to work with Coach Jack?If you want one-on-one help applying these steps to your situation, the Re-Connections Coaching Package gives you a structured plan to rebuild desire, attraction, and connection with a spouse who is distant or rejecting.Key takeawaysDirect pressure makes an unmotivated spouse pull back even moreAttraction and connection must improve before problem-solving worksConversations fail when your spouse wants a different outcomeDesire grows when you eliminate needy behavior and increase positive interactionAdditional resourcesConnecting through "Yes!" (book) - Learn to connect and resolve problems rather than fight about themSelf-help quizzes - great for identifying areas where you can make self-improvement that will build your marriage.Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we're diving into a topic we honestly never expected to cover, but It's one of the most vulnerable, painful, and confusing issues couples face, yet it's far more common than most people realize.Over the past year, we've received countless messages from both husbands and wives who feel distressed, ashamed, or completely lost because their attraction toward their spouse has changed, or they say they aren't attracted to them anymore and don't know what to do.Because so many of you have reached out and asked for guidance, we knew we needed to approach it carefully, compassionately, and with an expert. So we invited back one of our favorite guests and experts, LMFT Kevin Johnson, who specializes in relationships, emotional connection, and marital dynamics.If you or your spouse have ever felt this way, or if you simply want to understand why this happens in marriage, then this podcast episode is for you.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Send us a textLearn how to stay in love in marriage through daily intentionality, self-growth, and simple habits that keep connection alive.In this final episode of the Falling Back in Love series, Christine Bongiovanni-Stiff shares what it really takes to stay in love in marriage once the spark returns.Drawing from her own story and five seasons of facilitating Re|Engage, Christine explores how daily intentionality, emotional safety, and self-awareness help couples build lasting connection. You'll learn simple daily rituals, how to navigate disconnection with grace, and how to become each other's safe place over time.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: The Power of Falling Back in Love00:26 – The Challenge of Staying in Love01:02 – Series Conclusion and Episode Overview01:47 – Welcome to Awaken You Podcast03:20 – Re|Engage Marriage Ministry Experience06:20 – Building Lasting Habits for Love07:55 – The Importance of Self-Examination12:00 – Daily Rituals to Nurture Love15:39 – Handling Disconnection with Grace17:23 – Creating Safety and Trust in Marriage19:48 – Commitment to Growth and LoveListen now, follow the show, and share this episode with someone who needs hope that lasting love is possible.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipUnlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now! Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFac...

In this eye-opening episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy have an amazing interview with an expert discussing perimenopause and menopause—a stage that will affect over 1 billion women worldwide in the coming years. Did you know that around 47 million women enter menopause every year, yet many feel unprepared for the changes in their bodies, hormones, and intimate relationships?Nick and Amy and their guest Jesse dive into the physical, emotional, and relational shifts that come with this life stage, sharing expert insights, experiences, and practical tips for maintaining connection, desire, and confidence. Whether you're experiencing the transition yourself or supporting a spouse going through this period in life, this episode will be vital to help you both navigate this stage in life and offer guidance to help you embrace this next chapter with empowerment and intimacy. This episode will benefit anyone as this is something almost all relationship will go through.Tune in for a candid, compassionate, and enlightening conversation about love, desire, and thriving through midlife changes.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.WANT AMAZING PRODUCTS TO SPICE THINGS UP? YES PLEASE... CLICK HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and please leave us a review.Enjoy the podcast or have some feedback for us? Shoot us a message!

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.I've Tried Everything and Nothing Works!You've apologized, compromised, done the work — and somehow, nothing changes. In this episode, Cass and Kathryn unpack why “trying harder” can actually make things worse in a marriage that's emotionally stuck. If you feel like you've hit your limit, this conversation will show you how to break the cycle and start changing the dynamic — even when your partner won't meet you halfway.

Nancy and I are back together to discuss a topic that frequently shows up in our inbox: one-sided marriages. These are spouses who reach out because, even in the midst of disconnect and hurt, they still desire a healthy, God-honoring marriage, but feel like they're the only one who cares or the only one willing to put in the work. How do you reconcile and reconnect? That's the focus of our conversation today. I'm praying this episode encourages those who feel alone and offers hope and next steps for fighting for your marriage.   Episode Highlights: Love like Christ without enabling. Communicate with curiosity, not accusation. Persevere in prayer and faithful action. Seek God's glory above all else   Quotes from Today's Episode: Fighting for your marriage as a Christian means pursuing Christ-like love even when it's not reciprocated This isn't about becoming a doormat or enabling destructive behavior, but rather embodying the gospel in your relationship. Approach with curiosity rather than accusation: "I've noticed you seem really tired lately. How can I support you?"  Continue showing love through actions without demanding emotional reciprocation. Don't take the bait to defend yourself constantly or prove your spouse wrong—this keeps you stuck in an unhealthy cycle. But remember, you can't force insight or repentance—that's between them and God. Humility doesn't mean accepting mistreatment or pretending everything is fine. Your humble confidence in who God created you to be can actually challenge your spouse to rise up rather than settle. Standing in the gap means interceding in prayer, maintaining hope when your spouse has lost it, and continuing to live out your marriage vows even when they're not. The goal is always God's glory and following His heart, which deeply desires reconciliation.  Couples' Conversation Guide: How connected do you feel to your spouse on a scale of 1-10? Do you feel like you are trying to shoulder the burden of your marriage alone? Are there unhealthy patterns in your marriage that need to be addressed?  Are there areas of your marriage that you've settled for mediocrity or disconnect?    Mentioned in this Episode: Find Awesome Marriage on Instagram! Money issues don't have to be an issue for your marriage. Check out this free course from Centsei. 4 Budgeting Mistakes Couples Make + How To Fix Them FREE Class