Daddy Eats Last

This episode we talk about: - Matty turning 40, - grey pubic hair - goals update - what is past your bedtime. - getting a dog back into Australia

Whether you drink a lot or only once in a while, giving up alcohol may lead to changes in your body and mind. We discuss what these are over a short and longer term.   We also touch base on our 2023 goals and how we are tracking.

Before you focus on goal-setting, it helps to pull back and focus on your overarching life priorities first. This ensures that the goals you're setting are in line with both your long-term vision and core values, rather than being short-sighted or an inefficient use of your time and energy. It's easy for goal-setting to become an overwhelming process. Some goals, especially the big ones, can feel especially daunting or impossible to begin. But the truth is you can reach any goal you set—no matter how big or long-term it is—as long as you break it down into small enough steps. With that in mind we all share some of our goals for 2023 in this episode.   +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ REMEMBER: If you have any suggestions for topics please add in the comments and we will be sure to include them. Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

Daddy Eats Last is back for an episode and after 4 months there's a lot to catch up on. Ryan lets us in on his recent wedding. Matty updates us on his 2022 goals, especially his renovation and Kane asks the boys more about spooning. Plus a whole lot more.... +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ REMEMBER: If you have any suggestions for topics please add in the comments and we will be sure to include them. Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

This week Ryan talks to us about his experience studying at Cambridge over the last 18 months.

This week we discuss Matty running a marathon last Sunday and the good and bad about it.   We also discuss how he managed the marathon 3 week school holidays with 3 kids!

Keeping up with the Joneses is the slang term referring to the comparison of yourself with your neighbor as a benchmark for social class or the accumulation of material goods.   To fail to "keep up with the Joneses" is perceived as demonstrating inferiority or being a failure.   So how do you avoid that? Kane and Ryan discuss that this week.

Ryan has changed jobs in the last week so we talking about jobs, changing roles, giving notice and how your work (and especially when you're not happy at work) can affect your personality at home.

This week we discuss the differences between kids birthday parties today with what we experienced back when we were kids in the 1980s and early 1990s.

A recent study has has shown that 88 percent of children participated in organised activities four to five days per week. Crazy? The pressure of too many extracurricular activities can put too much strain on families. We discuss Extra Curricular Activities this week.

Mothers have a significant impact on their sons to the extent that the way they behave in their later years is attributed to their relationship with their mother. No other person understands a child better than a mother. Right from the time he is born till his adult years, a boy nurtures a deep-rooted bond with his mom.   Kane discusses this on Mothers Day 2022.

With Ryan moving house for the 6th time in 2 and a half years we discuss some of our tips for moving house. Main one being avoid moving :-p

In the Queensland school holidays Matty and his kids had an accident in the car.   We discuss what and how this happened and the school holidays in this weeks episode.

Today we to discuss in what ways might we might be a difficult person to work with or for?   This often applies equally at home! We also discuss whether Ryan has the Rona!

Today we to discuss adaptability. Some children are very flexible and are able to progress smoothly and quickly after they encounter a change in schedule or routine. They are also able to accept new items or ideas easily and without much fuss. Other children, however, have a more stressful time transitioning. This is a trait that I'd like to think that I have, in that I can adapt to changes reasonably well…..but is one that I worry might not be a natural trait my son has. We have a few tips for parents in teaching ability to their kids....and themselves.

Live sport can be magical. The atmosphere, the anxiety, the thrills.   This week we discuss our favourite live sporting events that we have been to to.  

Today we are going to discuss confidence. When children feel confident and secure, they're more likely to succeed in school and achieve personal goals. As they get older, they learn to confront problems and resist peer pressure. More important, having a positive self-image helps a child feel happy and capable of maintaining personal relationships. We go through some tips on helping building confidence in your kids.

What does being a successful parent may look like?   Don't get me wrong, I make heaps of mistakes as a parent, but I do actively try to think about trying to be a good parent (in my case a dad) a lot and I do read different opinions (in articles and books) and listen to different opinions (mainly in podcasts). I also stuff things up.....frequently.   My many mistakes aside I know what I want my parenting to lead to. My only goal of being a parent is raise a happy and caring human. Raising a child who turns out to be a happy teenager and adult oh and also one who openly cares for his fellow humans. That is what success actually looks like to me.   Over the next few weeks when Ryan & Matty are not available for an episode I'll be running through some of the many things that I think are really important when raising kids.   By things I mean main character traits that I think are really important to try and teach your kids that will give them the best chance of being happy when they are older.   And don't worry if you don't have those traits yourself.....maybe they can help you as well.   Because to me that's all the matters.  

Matty and Kane remember what it was like being a new dad and how hard it was as well as some of the things that helped us get through the first few months (and how long that hard time was for us).   +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ REMEMBER: If you have any suggestions for topics please add in the comments and we will be sure to include them. Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

This week we discuss Matty having a mohawk and what our plans for 2022 are. Varying from the excellent (Ryan & Matty) to not much (Kane). We also discuss the best way to make a Milo. +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ REMEMBER: If you have any suggestions for topics please add in the comments and we will be sure to include them. Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

One of the most annoy things you can do to me is waste my time. It's always been an issue for me. Why is that?   Physicist Albert-László Barabási once wrote, “Time is our most valuable non-renewable resource, and if we want to treat it with respect, we need to set priorities.”   I cannot put it any better than that.   So how can you reclaim some of your time back, well ‘ve got a few quick tips that may help you do exactly that (so long as you don't go and then waste it on flippant stuff). ++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

A couple of weeks ago Matty went on a Pub Crawl. He then developed COVID symptoms a few days later, took a test and was positive. We chat about how it affected him and his family and what plans he has for when the family can all leave isolation later this week.   +++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

It's the 2nd week of January in a New Year and you may already be over it. Especially with the mushrooming of COVID cases in Australia. It's enough to get anyone disheartened or disinterested or disengaged. When this happens, it's very, very difficult to stay motivated and on track and that usually leads to procrastination. We give you a few tips to keep on track. NOTE: Matty has COVID, is doing well though and we hope to get his full story in next weeks episode.

Most people want to see some kind of change or improvement in their lives from time to time. Setting goals is an effective way to increase motivation and to help you to create the changes you want. We discuss a basic goal setting process for the year ahead.

As the new year is on the horizon, in this weeks short episode I'm going to take a look at some easy New Year's resolutions that literally anyone can stick to. Even me. Stop gossiping and complaining and whinging. Spread positivity. Also avoid people who have those traits as much as you can. Give one compliment a day. It just might make that person feel a whole lot better. Spread positivity remember. Go a whole day without checking your email. Woooooah hold on there. Seriously? Yes seriously nothing that bad is going to happen, it can wait until tomorrow. Turn off your phone one night a week. Woooooah hold on there. Seriously? Yes, you're basically sleeping on that phone anyway looking at drivel. Drivel you don't need it! Read a book a month That's 12 books in the year. Not really that many, but more than average. Reduce your waste. I read in my sons book that each Australian creates about 1,000kg of waste a year. That's disgusting. You can do better. Drink more water. We are mostly made up of water. Call a friend instead of texting them. Bonus points if you video call them! Try to do it weekly with someone. Go to the dentist I hate the dentist, but your oral heath is very important. Go and get your skin checked Skin cancer is a huge issue in Australia. I get my skin checked every 6 months and try and put sunscreen on every day. Take a break from Social Media Or delete it Or look at it less Or at least just be nice on it and not a troll. Hug your loved ones more. Or kiss them Or have more sex. Start with hugging them so they know you care and go from there. Donate clothes you never wear. And if you're parent donate your kids clothes and their furniture and their pram and their toys. The amount of waste I see on nature strips that could be donated to charities is very frustrating. Most of it is just a phone call away which is also easier than dragging it out on your nature strip. Change your hair Most of us have had the same haircut or a similar haircut forever. Change it. It will grow back or you can cut it if you don't like it. Stretch It Out We spend so much time sitting usually staring at our phones. We are all hunched over. Just add five minutes of stretching each day to your life. This is one I really need to do in 2022. So that's a great place to end this weeks episode. All of these ideas are EASY to do and it will give you a sense of achievement.

This weeks episode is short and mostly an exert from Kane's kids favourite Christmas Story: How the Grinch Stole Christmas by Dr. Suess …So he paused. And the Grinch put his hand to his ear. And he did hear a sound rising over the snow. It started in low. Then it started to grow. But the sound wasn't sad! Why, this sound sounded merry! It couldn't be so! But it WAS merry! VERY! He stared down at Whoville! The Grinch popped his eyes! Then he shook! What he saw was a shocking surprise! Every Who down in Whoville, the tall and the small, Was singing! Without any presents at all! He HADN'T stopped Christmas from coming! IT CAME! Somehow or other, it came just the same! And the Grinch, with his grinch-feet ice-cold in the snow, Stood puzzling and puzzling: “How could it be so?” “It came with out ribbons! It came without tags!” “It came without packages, boxes or bags!” And he puzzled three hours, till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before! “Maybe Christmas” he thought, “doesn't come from a store.” “Maybe Christmas...perhaps...means a little bit more!” I suppose some of us still have an idealised vision of the festive season (even the Grinch), but to me the true importance of Christmas is simply to think only of others – how to bring the greatest happiness to others. That is what is important about Christmas. Merry Christmas everyone!

Kane's kid is a close/education contact of a COVID positive case, another kid from his kinder class. We discuss what this means and what happens now. ++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

The difference between wants and needs might seem obvious: a "want" is a thing you want to have. Whereas a "need" is a thing you need to have. People need water, shelter, food, and healthcare. However as with everything in modern life it's often more complicated than that. Kane discusses this in this episode. ++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

If you're feeling stressed, there are healthy ways and unhealthy ways to deal with it. We discuss some of the ways we cope with little things that don't cost money. ++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

We often expect too much from our children (Kane and Matty included) when it pays to remember they are just exactly that children full of excitement and enthusiasm. This week we take a page or two from W Livinigston Larned and his fantastic little speech/reading called FATHER FORGETS which deals with this exact issue. It may be around 100 years old, but the message is still current. You can download a copy of the text at: http://beyondtheordinary.net.au/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/FatherForgets.pdf   +++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

There are around 5 weeks until Christmas and both Matty and Kane's families put the Christmas Trees up this weekend. So we thought we would have a chat to our kids about what Christmas means to them as wel as what we do on Christmas and any presents they may want to ask Santa for. As with all things kids it's a cute, hilarious and some times sheer lunacy. +++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

This week marks 1 year since Kane last had a drink of alcohol. It definitely was not for any superficial reasons nor was it to impress people (he told a handful of people). It was just a personal choice. Ryan, Matty & Kane discuss their relationships with alcohol and about taking a break from it. +++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

The "Great Resignation" has been bandied around in the media recently. Basically on the back of the pandemic workers all over the world are rejecting their pre-COVID work patterns. Many are unwilling to go back to the 9-to-5 office grind after having had a taste of working from home, or simply revolting against the idea that our lives should be defined by never-ending treadmills of career aspirations. We discuss that this week and what it means to us. +++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

Matty has recently playing AFL 9s up in Brisbane so it prompts him and Kane to discuss playing sport as an adult and how the body copes with starting from scratch. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

Kane and his partner discuss the: - Melbourne Lockdown freedom - socialising now things are opening back up - anxiety and excitement around their son going back to kinder - general COVID chat. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

Matty talks about his situation this week with helping one of his kids try something new at Nippers and we then talk about how we go about trying to help or make your kids try new things. Because trying new things is important! ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

Often our expectations don't align with real life. The result is disappointment.   Remember when you were a kid and lined up for an hour to go on a ride at a theme park or when you lined up to meet someone you looked up to or even that restaurant you really wanted to eat at or movie you heard great things about.   It's likely that you will have felt some level of disappointment with the end result as the experience that you had built up in your head was so much better than real life.   Disappointment is a normal part of life and everyone will experience it to some extent in their life.   In 2020 we canceled too many things. Too many birthday celebrations were virtual or drive-by. Too many holidays and other occasions were quiet, or done over zoom.   In other words, 2020 was a year marked by life's disappointments.   2021 hasn't been much better.   Hell August 4th this year was a huge disappointment.   In Victoria we went from having zero new COVID cases and expecting to get back towards COVID normal, to instead barely more than 24 hour later being back in lockdown.   It's now 57 days later and yesterday we had over 1,400 new cases and our only real way out is vaccination. Talk about disappointing.   Personally I'd also sold a business not long before this and was looking forward to the little bit of free time that this would mean.   Yes, I've had plenty of free time rattling around my 5km radius for the allotted time, but it's not really the same.   It's not fun to be disappointed, but equally you should not let it linger.   While it's absolutely OK to take some time in your disappointment, try not to focus on your negative emotions for too long.   Spending too much time and energy on your disappointment will have a detrimental impact on your mood and mental health.   Ask yourself, ‘Will this matter one year from now? A week? One month?' A lot of the time asking this question will bring you back to reality.   Far too many people, when faced with disappointment, tend to attribute negative life events to their personal failings. They resort to obsessional self-blaming, as they feel ashamed or humiliated of not measuring up to the image of themselves they have in their own head.   As a result, they direct their anger inward, to themselves.   It may prompt them to say that they deserved it, that they were not good enough.   Other people, will direct their anger outward toward others, to people who didn't fulfill their expectations. It will contribute to feelings of spite and bitterness.   Unfortunately, both emotional reactions keep the person stuck in a spiral of disappointment and often this disappointment can turn into a lingering sadness — a feeling of loss, of being let down.   So what are the alternatives?   You can also view the disappointment as something you can learn from. You can consider whether there is something you could do differently next time.   When we catch ourselves thinking negatively, we should redirect our energy and focus on positive solutions.   You may need to do a bit of positive self talk or some meditation or some journaling. You may need to kick the negative people around you to the curb for a while and just surround yourself with positive people.   A big one for me is to look after your physical health.   Whenever I have had something stressful happen or a big disappointment I've always tried to prioritise my physical health as it has a big positive effect on my mental wellbeing.   I generally do some level of exercise every day (literally 7 days a week) not because I'm some vain bastard (you should see my hair and facial hair at the moment) but because it honestly it just makes me feel better.   It's a way I cope with life and the inevitable stress and disappointment in it.   It's much healthier than the red wine and dim sim method I probably used 10 years ago.   The point is that experiencing disappointment is often outside your control, but the way you deal with it is not.   You need to find your way.   And if you can learn a way to deal with disappointment and emerge from it you build resilience in its wake.

You should always be grateful for any gift you receive, but let's be honest some gifts are simply awful.   We take a light hearted look at some of the shocking gifts we have received over time and Ryan's strategy to ensure this doesn't happen again.   We also hark back to a few previous Daddy Eats Last episodes including an update on spooning.   ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.    

My sister had been going through her momento box which is basically keepsakes out folks had stored for the first 15 or so years of our life. My sister had been showing her girls some of her things and she sent me through a story she wrote in Grade 3 (back when she would have been around 8 years old and I would have been about 10). It's a story, but it actually happened. It got me thinking about the parenting in the 1980s and today and taking what works from both. If you can mix in some of the vast social and parenting knowledge we have in 2021 with giving your kids the room to try, fail, and try again while you support them 1980's style then you're well on your way to good parenting in my opinion. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

Everyone has been let down at work, by a business partner or in a relationship   Though being screwed over totally sucks, the benefit is that it can help you grow and also show you how to be ensure it doesn't happen in the future, or if it does that it's not as severe.   In this short episode Kane discusses a few safeguards to put in place to stop it happening again to help you get back out there and have a crack at whatever it is you are chasing.   ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

This week we discuss how we came to be in our current careers and some advice on how to get where you want in yours. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

Being a dad means that no 2 days are the same. There are twists and turns every step of the way.  Dads Net has a great list of 30 things that a dad/man should own to help with the twits sand turns : https://www.thedadsnet.com/30-essentials-every-dad-should-own/ In this episode Matty & Kane compare how many of the 30 things they personally own. How many do you own? ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her.  Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

Lockdown fatigue is real....especially in Melbourne where we have now ticked over more than 200 days in lockdown across 6 seperate lockdowns! This week Kane and his partner discuss how Lockdown 6.0 in Melbourne feels and their plan to try and get through it with their kid at home and major surgery booked in. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

With the pandemic still causing lockdowns through Australia Kane & Matty talk about the imaginary games that their kids play. What imaginary games do they play and how involved do you get as a parent? We also discuss taking kids shopping (Matty took all 3 kids this weekend) and how it can go well or bad! ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

COVID has made living life difficult for the last 18 months so this week we ask each other:   If COVID never happened what would you have been doing right now?   ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

Guts, resilience, grit these words are all in a similar wheelhouse with interwoven meanings.   To me each represent a form of perseverance and passion to achieve something. Maybe a long term goal.   We all have times where we seem to be lacking these characteristics.   We give up easily. We shy away from challenge. We are easily distracted,  We are disheartened when things go wrong and sometimes we have little sense of purpose or goals.    Grit or guts means you can make it through these tough situations, ideally with a smile on your face.    You have the confidence and perseverance to pick yourself up when you're down.    With Matty and Ryan on the beers Kane works through some steps to being more resilience and building resilience in children. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.  

Money is important for the essentials in life.   Do not misunderstand me. Money is not the goal of life nor the measurement of a happy life. An unhappy person who gets rich will still be an unhappy person with money and sure I'd prefer to be Rich and Miserable than Poor and Miserable, but I'd take happy every day of the week. People who have money but are unhappy sometimes seem ungrateful….but really they just have other issues that they haven't resolved that keeps them unhappy. Money is important for the essentials in life, but at a certain point more money won't neccessarily make you any happier. So what's the magic number? Kane discusses this and some tips to be financially happier in this episode. We all have different definitions of happy and different things that make us happy. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

Due to border closures and COVID restrictions, there have been many a fail in terms of holidays going to plan. If you're in the position where your holiday has been cancelled due to COVID it's perfectly normal to feel a whole range of emotions — including disappointment, sadness, frustration, even anger, particularly if it has happened more than once. We discuss this topic in light of Matty organising a road trip to Sydney in the next school holidays. ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

We all go through periods of stress those times where you need to reassure yourself that everything is going to be okay. Lockdown is a big trigger for some people.   Kane has been through some extremely stressful situations….we all have!   Stress is unavoidable, especially in the modern world where we are so busy being busy and trying to do everything we all possibly can rather than subjecting ourselves to idle times.   The only universal thing about stress is, like I said before, that it is generally unavoidable.   Stress comes in all different shapes and sizes for every one of us.   It may be work stress It may be business stress It may be relationship stress It may be financial stress. It may be stress of a COVID lockdown or anxiety about getting the vaccine.   There are lots of different triggers for stress out there.   Over time the adrenalin released by stress hormones creates a continued state of vigilance with damaging physiological consequences.   Stress can actually kill you indirectly as it is known to lead to increased heart rate, cardiovascular problems, breathing difficulties and high blood pressure.   All key contributing factors to death.   So how can you counter stress?   Kane goes through some strategies he has used when he has encountered stress.   ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

Addiction is fueled by impulse and compulsion. In turn, these two are the foundation of the addiction cycle.  The addiction cycle broadly consists of three stages: Addiction Withdrawal Relapse We discuss our addictions over the years and how we have dealt with them.  ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.

Ryan has moved from London to Manchester we discuss the differences as well as the COVID situations unfolding in Australia and the UK. We also discuss whether The Sun still has nudes on Page 3....madness! ++++ Is the modern man a hunter or a gentleman? A manual labourer or a technophile? In today's culture the modern man usually is a mix of many things. The modern man must be adaptable. Gender roles are changing and blending together and the stay-at-home dad or part time dad population is growing. More fathers than ever are participating in their children's nurturing and upbringing. The thing is that fathers and mothers come into the parenting process differently though. For the mother, the connection is biological. It's a part of her. Fathering, on the other hand, is less so. Therefore, it's important for men to learn the skills they need to be a good dad. For some guys it's more intuitive, like kicking a football, but most guys need a coach or some direction. DADDY EATS LAST discusses what it means to be a man and a father in modern society and all the issues that comes with both.