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Half advice show, half cultural critique, and one wild ride through the world of wellness. Join podcast besties Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg as they dissect the inner workings of the betterment industry - and offer up some advice along the way. Their goal? To help get you a little closer to fine. Kristen and Jolenta's first show By the Book is on this feed. To hear back episodes of By the Book, just scroll down!

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    • May 29, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 33m AVG DURATION
    • 385 EPISODES

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    By The Book is a podcast that I absolutely love. Hosted by Kristen and Jolenta, it takes a unique approach to self-help books by actually living by the books for two weeks at a time and documenting their experiences. I find this concept to be incredibly interesting and refreshing, as it provides real-life insight into the effectiveness of these self-help methods. The hosts have great chemistry and their banter is always entertaining, making each episode a joy to listen to.

    One of the best aspects of By The Book is the humor and wit that Kristen and Jolenta bring to each episode. They have a way of poking fun at themselves and the ridiculousness of some of the self-help advice they encounter, which keeps the show lighthearted and enjoyable. Additionally, their honesty about their experiences and willingness to share both the positive and negative aspects of living by these books adds depth and authenticity to the podcast.

    Another aspect that I appreciate about By The Book is its ability to provide valuable insights into the self-help industry. It goes beyond just summarizing books or giving recommendations, but instead dives deep into the practicality and potential pitfalls of these self-help methods. The hosts are not afraid to question or critique certain aspects of the books they live by, which allows for a more well-rounded analysis.

    While I have mostly positive things to say about By The Book, there are some minor downsides worth mentioning. Occasionally, I feel that certain episodes can drag on or become repetitive, especially when discussing books with similar themes or concepts. Additionally, there are times when I wish there was more diversity in terms of book choices, as it seems like they often gravitate towards popular or trendy titles.

    In conclusion, By The Book is an incredibly enjoyable podcast that offers a fresh take on self-help books. With its humor, honesty, and insightful analysis, it has become one of my favorite podcasts to listen to. Kristen and Jolenta have created a wonderful show that not only entertains, but also provides valuable perspectives on the self-help industry. I highly recommend giving it a listen if you're looking for something both informative and entertaining.



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    BTB Authors Tell All: Celeste Headlee

    Play Episode Listen Later May 29, 2025 39:23


    While they're between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It's called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Dean & Kristen Look Back: Past Lives, Future Healing

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2025 9:51


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on Past Lives, Future Healing, by Sylvia Brown. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    BTB Authors Tell All: Steve and Annette Economides

    Play Episode Listen Later May 22, 2025 34:24


    While they're between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It's called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    BTB Authors Tell All: Gretchen Rubin

    Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2025 37:03


    While they're between seasons, Jolenta and Kristen are thrilled to share a very special series that - up until now - was only available behind a paywall. It's called By The Book Authors Tell All, and features authors whose books they lived by, as well as some authors they just happen to love.  And for more great By The Book content, listen to Dean & Kristen Look Back, exclusively on Patreon! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Dean & Kristen Look Back: The Memory Book

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2025 9:40


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on The Memory Book, by Harry Lorayne and Jerry Lucas. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    Your Stories: Friend Jealousy, Friend Burnout, and Making Friends as an Adult

    Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2025 40:50


    Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you've shared about the topics we've recently covered on the show - including being jealous of friends, dealing with friend burnout, and making friends post college. They also announce By The Book: Authors Tell All - a newly available series that will land right in this feed starting next week. Reminder: There's lots more of us on Patreon - including our biweekly podcast series Dean & Kristen Look Back, where we do just that: Look back at our time on By The Book, episode by episode, sharing updates and behind the scenes secrets along the way. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: ⁠patreon.com/listentobythebook⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Grapple with Friend Jealousy

    Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2025 39:47


    Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from David Klein, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Dean & Kristen Look Back: French Women Don't Get Fat

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2025 9:31


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on French Women Don't Get Fat, by Mireille Guiliano. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    Can This Friendship Survive Success?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2025 30:04


    Sometimes - as much as we hate to admit it - we feel insecure around certain friends - or even jealous of them. What's the best way to cope with these feelings? David Klein, close friend and cousin of Winona Ryder, and author of “The Plus One,” shares his thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Make Friends Post College

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 17, 2025 42:35


    Jolenta and Kristen try on Hope Kelaher's tips for making friends post-college. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Dean & Kristen Look Back: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2025 9:23


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book. Today, they give behind-the-scenes stories and updates on The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, by Marie Kondo. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    How to Make Friends Post College

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2025 37:50


    Why does it seem so much easier to make friends when we're younger? And how can we make friends more easily as we become adults? Hope Kelaher, author of Here to Make Friends: How To Make Friends as an Adult, shares her wisdom. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Tackle Friend Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2025 46:17


    Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from Amy Wilson, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Dean & Kristen Look Back: The Secret

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2025 8:59


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Dean and Kristen are looking back - episode by episode - at their time on By The Book, beginning with The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. To hear the full episode, get biweekly episodes of Dean & Kristen Look Back, listen to our complete Patreon-only bonus season of By The Book, read our weekly advice column, access the written rules of every book we've lived by, and more, visit Patreon.com/ListenToByTheBook. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Friend Burnout

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2025 36:51


    Friends are great. But they can also be exhausting. What's the best way to strike the balance between being there and burning out? Amy Wilson, author of Happy To Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser, and cohost of What Fresh Hell, shares her thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Your Stories: Chatbots, Platonic Partners, and Friends with Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2025 31:08


    Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you've shared about the topics we've recently covered on the show - AI friends, friends with kids, and platonic significant others.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get biweekly episodes of our new show: Dean & Kristen Look Back! In each episode, Dean and Kristen revisit their time on By The Book, share behind-the-scenes secrets, and give updates on their lives. Patreon is also the home of our weekly advice column, our Patreon-only season of By The Book, nearly 200 minisodes, the written rules of every self-help book we've lived by, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Is This ADHD?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2025 50:01


    By popular demand, Kristen is sharing an episode of one of her other shows: Mayo Clinic's Health Matters. This episode is about ADHD and features one of the most knowledgable and compassionate voices in the ADHD world, Dr. Robert Wilfahrt. To hear more episodes of Health Matters, subscribe here: https://mcpress.mayoclinic.org/podcasts/health-matters/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Hold Onto Friends With Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2025 38:47


    Jolenta and Kristen try on a tip from Ophira Eisenberg, record audio diaries, report back.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: The 5 Second Rule

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 15:32


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage'' by Mel Robbins. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Friends with Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2025 33:15


    Is it possible to hold onto friendship after one of you has kids and the other doesn't? Ophira Eisenberg, host of the podcasts Parenting is a Joke and Ask Me Another, shares her thoughts.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Love Their Platonic Partners

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 27, 2025 43:39


    Jolenta and Kristen try on Rhaina Cohen's tips for nurturing their other significant others.   We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Platonic Friends as Life Partners

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2025 36:34


    For some of us, our greatest life partner isn't a spouse, it's a friend. How can we make the most of these kinds of partnerships? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Rhaina Cohen, author of The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Befriend Chatbots

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2025 46:18


    Jolenta and Kristen try on Lindsay Goldwart's tips for befriending chatbots.  What do they have to offer? And do they really help, or make things worse? We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: The Courage to Be Disliked

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 11:58


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life, and Achieve Real Happiness, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Combating Loneliness with Chatbots

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2025 35:55


    For some people, chatbots have become a source of comfort in the fight against loneliness. What do they have to offer? And do they really help, or make things worse? Jolenta and Kristen get tips for Lindsay Goldwert, journalist and chatbot friend.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Your Stories: Parties, Money, Friendships with Exes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2025 32:23


    Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you've shared about the topics we've recently covered on the show. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Get Friendly with Exes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 23, 2025 51:21


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Ellie Schnitt and Michaela Okland's tips for navigating friendship with exes. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Friends with Exes

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2025 37:30


    What are the benefits and drawbacks of staying friends with exes? And what's the best way to set up this kind of friendship for success? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Ellie Schnitt and Michaela Okland, hosts of the Late Night Drive podcast. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Introducing: Mantra with Jemma Sbeg

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 13:20


    Ready to take a fresh path to self-discovery? Every Monday, Jemma brings you a new mantra, breaking it down to show you how you can apply it to your own life. Whether you're facing a major transition or looking to evolve your everyday routine, Mantra is the podcast for you. Join Jemma every week for reflections, practical tips, and personal insights that'll inspire you to live with intention and unlock your true potential. Follow “Mantra with Jemma Sbeg” wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: What Color is Your Parachute?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 16:26


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by What Color is Your Parachute? Your Guide to a Lifetime of Meaningful Work and Career Success, 2022 updated version by Richard N. Bolles with Katharine Brooks. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Navigate Friends and Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2025 44:51


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Maya Lau's tips for navigating friendship and money. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Friends and Money

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2025 36:06


    What's the best way to navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of friends and money? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Maya Lau, host of the podcast Other People's Pockets.   We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Become Party Animals

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2024 41:04


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Jon Levy's tips for making the most of parties. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    How To Make The Most of Parties

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2024 42:26


    Parties can be a lot of fun, but they can also be anxiety inducing. How can we have the most fun at parties? And how can we host parties where people feel encouraged to socialize and maybe even make friends? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Jon Levy, Founder of the Influencers Dinner, and author of the book “You're Invited: The Art and Science of Connection, Trust, and Belonging.” We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Your Stories: Astrology, Politics, Friendship Ups and Downs

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2024 35:18


    Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you've shared about the topics we've recently covered on the show We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 56:18


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There, by Tara Schuster. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Mix Astrology and Friendship

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2024 39:47


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Aliza Kelly's tips for making the most of astrology in friendship. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    The Astrology of Friendship

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2024 38:40


    What's your sign? Is it compatible with mine? Is our friendship written in the stars? Jolenta and Kristen talk astrology and friendship with Aliza Kelly, astrologer and author of several books, including “Starring You: A Guided Journey Through Astrology.”    We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Survive Friendship Ups and Downs

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2024 34:32


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Eric Zimmer's tips for navigating friendship ups and downs.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Surviving Friendship Ups and Downs

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2024 39:52


    Friendships are comforting and fun in the best of times. But what about during the worst of times? How do we keep our friends close when things aren't going our way? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Eric Zimmer, host of The One You Feed podcast.   We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: The Beginner's Guide to Stoicism

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2024 11:32


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The Beginner's Guide to Stoicism, by Matthew Van Natta. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Mix Friendship and Politics

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2024 44:39


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Celeste Headlee's tips for navigating friendship and politics. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com     And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Friendship Across the Political Divide

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 45:03


    How do I make or maintain friendships across political divides? Should I even try? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Celeste Headlee, author of “We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter” and “Speaking of Race: Why We Need to Talk About Race-and How to Do It Effectively.” We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Your Stories: Social Media, Intergenerational Friendships, and more

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2024 34:54


    Jolenta and Kristen read some of the many stories you've shared about the topics we've recently covered on the show. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Turn Acquaintances into Friends

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2024 45:56


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Kat Vellos's tips for turning acquaintances into friends.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: The Total Money Makeover

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2024 14:11


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The Total Money Makeover, by Dave Ramsey. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Turning Acquaintances Into Friends

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2024 36:49


    How can we turn that person we barely know - but like - into a real friend? And how can we deepen the friendships we already have? Jolenta and Kristen get tips from Kat Vellos, author of “We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships."  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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    K&J Make The Most of Social Media

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2024 45:14


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Dr. Jeffrey Hall's tips for using social media to feel less alone. We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Putting The Social Back in Social Media

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2024 34:20


    Media - particularly social media - is often pointed to as a culprit in our loneliness. Why is this? And are there ways to better harness the power of social media to feel less alone? We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private Facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    K&J Nurture Their Friend Councils

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2024 41:10


    Jolenta and Kristen try on some of Laura Tremaine's tips for building and nurturing their friend councils.  We want to hear from you! Share your own experiences with friendship and loneliness on our private facebook community: facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta or write to us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com    And join our Patreon Community to get access to live monthly book clubs with Kristen and Jolenta, ad-free exclusive episodes of By The Book, minisodes of us talking about what we're reading, the written rules of every self-help book we've ever lived by, tips from our experts, advice, and more: patreon.com/listentobythebook    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    By The Book: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2024 12:04


    *Patreon-only Bonus Episode Teaser* Kristen and Jolenta live by The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey. To hear the entire episode and get lots of other great bonus content, including a live monthly book club with Kristen and Jolenta, join patreon.com/listentobythebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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