Same But Different

This is a new kind of episode! Meet Audrey! This warrior (and my friend) has been living with brain cancer for almost a year now and she was gracious enough to come onto the pod to go deep about her experience with it. While this was not intended to be an Enneagram-centric conversation, Audrey has done a lot of incredible inner work around being a Type 4 and pulls that into our talk many times. She goes far beyond "what is cancer like"? TRIGGER WARNING: We talk about death, family dynamics, childhood trauma and much more. She also answers questions that I took in a poll on my IG. My favorite quote from her is when she said, "For me, the grief is a reflection of the love". I hope you enjoy this beautiful conversation and her story. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

FINALLY. Almost 2 years in the making and I got Kristi on the pod as a guest! Now, you might think we are only discussing becoming an enneagram coach but Enneagram University is much more vast than that. Not interested in being a coach? It's still for you. Already a coach and want pre-made templates to help run your business? They've got that. You ARE interested in being a coach? THEY'VE GOT THAT. Already a coach but no one taught you the business side? You guessed it, Kristi has thought of everything. Enjoy this episode of us laughing, talking about our friendship, Kristi as a CP6, and of course, the ever incomparable Enneagram University. An enneagram education program truly unlike any other! Links as promised from the episode: Connect with Kristi and EU on IG here. Shoot her a message with any questions! Use THIS link to check out EU's page and sign up or just browse around! Prefer to email?  Kristi@theenneagramuniversity.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses mental health, suicidal thoughts/ideations, hopelessness, eating disorders, and sexual assault. I invite you to take care of yourself in whatever ways you want to or need to, including pausing for breaks or skipping this episode entirely. Sending you so much love.  If you or someone you care about is struggling, you aren't alone. Dial or text 988 for the national (USA)⁠ ⁠suicide and crisis lifeline⁠⁠. ============== I hope you get whatever you need from this episode. You are a goddamn cheetah. If you feel called to share your story with me like I mention at the end of the episode, email me here: podcastsamebutdifferent@gmail.com As promised, here is my therapist Jenna's contact information: Jenna's Instagram Work with Jenna ============== If we're not connected on Instagram, find me ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. My new Enneagram merch store is ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. All of my freebies can be found ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠⁠. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Do we have the entire Ennegram within us? Yes.Can we relate to all 9 types? Absolutely as it's a scale of our humanity and never intended to put us in any box. But there are 5 types that we are primarily tied to:•Our main type•Wing (L)•Wing (R)•Stress Line (unaware)•Security/Growth Line (aware) These are the main energies we access and utilize.We can also access the higher and lower sides of ALL of these 5 main types. So the high *and* lower side of both wings, the high *and* lower side of both our stress and security lines.... It's so much deeper and nuanced than even I show here but I did wanted to layout a more broad view of each type.How do you use YOUR main 5 types? Let's talk about it! If we're not connected on Instagram, find me ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. My new Enneagram merch store is ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. All of my freebies can be found ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠. Join my free private ⁠⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠⁠. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Just a random episode of me rambling about how each of the 9 types have influenced me and how they show up in my life. The Enneagram has given me such unique and intimate insight in people's lived experiences of their type and I wanted to share that on this episode. If we're not connected on Instagram, find me ⁠⁠here⁠⁠. My new Enneagram merch store is ⁠⁠here⁠⁠. All of my freebies can be found ⁠⁠here⁠⁠. Join my free private ⁠⁠Facebook group⁠⁠. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

How we talk about ourselves matters and I have noticed a pattern of people using the Enneagram wings (and stress lines) to bypass parts of themselves. Blaming parts of ourselves for something or trying to dismiss it actually gives us an opportunity for self-awareness. Let's talk about it! If we're not connected on Instagram, find me ⁠here⁠. My new Enneagram merch store is ⁠here⁠. All of my freebies can be found ⁠here⁠. Join my free private ⁠Facebook group⁠. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

"How do I find out my kid's Enneagram type" is such a common question and for good reason. Parents are looking to know their kids more deeply and to connect on a more personal level and it makes sense they would want to use the Enneagram to do that. Let's talk about it! If we're not connected on Instagram, find me ⁠here⁠. My new Enneagram merch store is ⁠here⁠. All of my freebies can be found ⁠here⁠. Join my free private ⁠Facebook group⁠. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

SOMEONE PLEASE MAKE ME STOP SAYING UM. Long time no pod love! Happy to have this mic in front of me again and for 2023 to be behind us. This episode I talk about going dry in 2023 as well as giving up gift giving. As an Enneagram 2, it was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself! This is the episode I mention about my practice for Type Twos (or anyone really) to avoid manipulating with giving and then you'll select Apple or Spotify to listen from. If we're not connected on Instagram, find me here. My new Enneagram merch store is here. All of my freebies can be found here. Join my free private Facebook group. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

This is THE episode I have been wanting to do from day one! Lyndsey Fraser is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LFMT) and certified Sex Therapist (CST) who has been in private practice since 2011 in Minneapolis. Lyndsey was gracious enough to come on the pod and discuss some common situations she sees with each Enneagram type within her Sex Therapy practice. You don't want to miss this one! You can (and should!) connect with Lyndsey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyndseyfraserlmft/ If you are in the Minneapolis area and are interested in working with Lyndsey as a client, ⁠this⁠ is her therapy website: https://lyndseyfraser.com/ Sam's IG can be found here: https://www.instagram.com/ennea_gasm/ Resources that Lyndsey mentions: ⁠https://www.valeriewanamaker.com/⁠ ⁠http://enneapath.com/⁠ (Frederik Coene, PhD) Books:  Barry McCarthy's book on rekindling desire: ⁠https://a.co/d/64msQUU⁠Hot and Unbothered: ⁠https://a.co/d/j0ySbOj⁠ A little bit kinky (to explore moving into kink-vanilla kink book) ⁠https://a.co/d/j0ySbOj⁠ The joy of Sex: ⁠https://a.co/d/245t4Rr⁠ (This one has some weird wording but I use it because it gives the basic of sex and has pictures to look at track body sensations/emotions/thoughts.) If we're not connected on Instagram, find me: https://www.instagram.com/alignedsoulco/ All of my freebies can be found: https://alignedsoulco.my.canva.site/bio --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Dear Abby....Ask Amy....but make it Enneagram! This is a format I have wanted to try from the beginning. My hope is to extend this information from just content into conversations. I did a story on Instagram asking for questions to be answered on the pod and I got some great responses! Big thanks to those who participated. RESOURCES: You will find the free 30 Day Sex & Intimacy Challenge here. This is the link to the book Sex Talks. Books for people pleasers: The Art of Saying No Boundaries Workbook Not Nice Set Boundaries and Find Peace When looking into your stress line, check out this freebie I created. If we're not connected on Instagram, find me here! All of my freebies can be found here. Join my free private Enneagram community Facebook group here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

What is reparenting? What does it have to do with the Enneagram? I can't wait for you to get answers to both of those questions in this episode. I am excited to finally share this beautiful conversation I recorded with my personal Enneagram coach and friend, Melissa Kircher. Melissa is a Certified Enneagram Teacher and Coach through the Madanes School of Enneagram, and Life Coach with the International Association of Coaching (IAC). She is trauma-informed and specializes in reparenting and somatic healing. Melissa is also a deeply talented fine artist, illustrator, and writer. Connect with Melissa (and check out her beautiful artwork and books) Instagram: @enneagrampaths Website (Coaching, Blog)  Enneagram Art by Melissa Prints and Art Products by Melissa (Society6 store) Published books by Melissa --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses mental health, suicidal thoughts/ideations, hopelessness, and mentions binge eating. I invite you to take care of yourself in whatever ways you want to or need to, including pausing for breaks or skipping this episode entirely. Sending you so much love.  If you or someone you care about is struggling, you aren't alone. Dial or text 988 for the national (USA) suicide and crisis lifeline. In the beginning of this episode, you can hear me playing with the cords (from nerves) and it causes some audio issues. That only lasts about 5 minutes so hang in there. This isn't what the pod is shifting to, me discussing mental health. Back to Enneagram next week. But it's on my heart to share where I'm at right now. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

I am thrilled to have Mandy Capehart join me to talk Grief and the Enneagram. Our conversation touches on death, all things grief, and how we can tap into the high side of our stress line for grief support. *You can get the free Enneagram stress guide I mention in this episode ⁠here⁠. Mandy Capehart is a trauma-informed certified grief coach, author of Restorative Grief: Embracing our losses without losing ourselves, and the host of the podcast Restorative Grief with Mandy Capehart. Her work serves grievers and grief supporters through establishing meaningful conversations about client values, self-awareness, and pathways toward growth. She specializes in working at the intersection of grief and faith, educating faith communities on how to create helpful healing environments to avoid spiritual bypassing and platitudes. ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Newsletter⁠ Podcasts: Uncomfortable Grace & Restorative Grief with Mandy Capehart The Guidebook: Restorative Grief: Embracing Loss Without Losing Ourselves ⁠Patreon⁠ Become a Premium podcast subscriber: https://anchor.fm/mandy-capehart/subscribe --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

How incredible does it feel when someone really sees and gets you? How great of a feeling is it when someone tells you how proud they are of you? How often do you tell your people how proud you are of them and stop to celebrate them? I don't mean by throwing a party. I mean by noticing when they do something hard and celebrate them for it! If you don't already do that, maybe you will after this episode. Follow me on Instagram here. Enneagram stress freebie here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

STRESS. Let's fucking talk about it. Each Enneagram type takes on another type's lower traits when in their moments of true awareness or stress. This episode goes over each type and includes a free guide to start noticing and working with your stress line. Free Enneagram Stress Guide Podcast IG --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Welcoming our first guest to the podcast! Kelsie with Healthy9Club and I talk all things Enneagram 9! From passive aggressiveness to clear communication, tips on how to start doing the work and a resources Kelsie currently has plus a huge future project she is working on...an entire app dedicated to 9s that she is launching this summer! Connect with Kelsie on IG at Healthy9Club! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Let's talk about pleasure and getting what we want in the bedroom. Let's talk about knowing what we want in the bedroom. Let's address the orgasm gap. Let's ask for whatever the hell we want. Let's learn to prioritize our pleasure. And let's throw the Enneagram in there, too. If you enjoy this episode, please share and rate! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

While everyone is talking about resolutions, I want to talk about boundaries. What can you put down that is no longer yours to carry? What have you allowed that is no longer serving you? Let's talk about it! If this episode resonates with you, I would love for you to share and rate the podcast! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

Today's episode is dedicated to all things Enneagram typing and why I think tests are bullshit. I don't go into the narrative way of typing someone, which is done conversationally by someone who has been trained in it. A lot of Enneagram coaches offer some kind of virtual or in-person way of typing. I don't mention these in this episode but there are many ways to get typed outside of what I discuss. I wanted to keep this episode focused but will probably broaden the conversation down the road. The links I mentioned throughout this episode: Free Typing test on Truity here. $10 Typing test from Narrative Enneagram here. Tour the Nine Types here. Type Comparisons here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

In this episode, we dive into a ritual for humans who lead with Type 2 and how we can ask ourselves two questions to check in and make sure we aren't giving to get. This episode is also for anyone who struggles with over-giving in order to get their needs met. Even if you don't lead with Type 2, I hope you will listen and learn a bit more about us. This is where compassion can start to happen. I also added a Q&A for this episode (Spotify only) and would love your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support

FINALLY! After talking about this for almost the entire year, we made it! This is a quick intro to the podcast, to me, and why it took me so damn long to get here. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/samebutdifferentpodcast/support