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Boundaries are the guide to fulfilling relationships!Part 2! In the South Asian community, it's not common for us to have set boundaries and standards. We are taught to respect other family members no matter how they treat us. If they do something that is offensive or disrespectful, we are conditioned to tolerate it and let it go.➡️In this episode, I talk about how to build boundaries for your relationships. Once you do that, you will:✅Have less resentment and anger ✅Be treated with more respect✅Understand the relationship dynamics so you do not have to have your guard up✅Be more at peace

Without boundaries and standards, they will choose how they treat you.In the South Asian community, it's not common for us to have set boundaries and standards. We are taught to respect other family members no matter how they treat us. If they do something that is offensive or disrespectful, we are conditioned to tolerate it and let it go.➡️In this episode, I talk about how to build boundaries for your relationships. Once you do that, you will:✅Have less resentment and anger ✅Be treated with more respect✅Understand the relationship dynamics so you do not have to have your guard up✅Be more at peaceThis is a two parter. Part 2 will drop next week!

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I cover:1. Won't setting boundaries ruin/change my relationship? 2. My older cousin disrespected me. But I am close with his brother. How can I fix this? Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I cover:1. I have been called stupid all my life. How do I overcome this?2. Sometimes people tell me I'm heartless. How do I be more understanding (empathetic)? Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I cover:1. Everyone says I am nice because I never say no. But it is very draining. What can I do? 2. Do you ever feel awkward after tough conversations or when you stand up yourself? How do you deal with it? 3. I don't talk about my feelings because everyone in my household makes fun of me. What can I do? Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to the coaching advice episode! In this episode, I answer questions and provide insight from a coaching perspective.In this episode, the questions I cover are:1. If I change for the better will I lose people?2. How do you remain confident at all times? 3. I don't talk to my cousins anymore because they make fun of me. But I miss hanging out with them. What should I do? Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I answer questions and provide insight from a coaching perspective.In this episode, the questions I cover are:1. What if I stand up for myself and the person no longer wants to talk to me? 2. I still feel like a kid around my cousins and family members. What can I do to fix this?Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I answer questions and provide insight from a coaching perspective.I cover:1. How do I feel happy all the time?2. I don't know what I want to do in my life. Money is not an issue because I work at my parent's business.3. I need someone to talk to. I don't want to go to my family or friends. What should I do? Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Welcome to this coaching advice episode! In this episode, I answer questions and provide insight from a coaching perspective.The questions I cover are:1. How do you feel comfortable being you and not worry about what others think?2. How do you develop your beliefs and values?3. What can I do to open up more to my partner?Listen now to this exclusive content!Please note: This is not a replacement for a coaching session. If after listening to this, you have more questions and want to make a change, send me a DM on Instagram to help you get the support you need. The Instagram name is Sunny_Success1.

Topics we need to discuss more in the south Asian community! Part 2!Here are some of the topics I cover:How to talk to family members of different generations.Who we can go to for help without being judged? How to stick to our boundaries within relationships.Listen now! I gave answers and shared insights I only do with my paid clients.

Topics we need to discuss more in the south Asian community!I recently did an IG live Q and A on this. Thank you to those who sent questions!Here are some of the questions I cover in this episode:Why is there a stigma around getting professional help?How to have tough conversations with parents.What's one thing we should change about our community? Listen now! I gave answers and shared insights I only do with my paid clients.Part 2 will be released next week.

Have you talked to your inner child?We grow older but that does not mean we leave our childhood behind.Especially, the wounds, the insecurities, the sadness, the fear.They tend to show up in adult situations. Such as tough conversations, in our relationships, in our career, when we are making decisions, and when we are going through something tough.These will continue to show up unless we listen and help that inner child.In this episode, I talk about how we can start doing inner child work. Once we do that, the inner child will begin to trust us, and the things from childhood will start to show up less.* Please note: I am not a psychotherapist or trained inner child professional. I am simply sharing my experience of doing inner child work. My hope with this podcast is to help introduce you to to inner child work.Listen now! Your inner child will thank you!

Your parents think it's a good idea but do you? In the brown community, it's very common to receive a lot of input from our parents on life decisions. While it's good for the most part, it can also have its limitations.It can cloud your judgment. It can make it hard for you to filter what you actually want.As a result, we may end up making choices that we eventually are not happy with.To avoid this, filter out the opinions and dig deeper to find out if you want to go through with it.In this episode I talk about:1. What is required to decide what you want.2. How to communicate it to your parents.3. The negative consequences of not going with what you want.Imagine if you had enough conviction to stick by what you want!Imagine if you could communicate what you want to your parents.It can be made possible even if you have no experience with tough conversations.Listen now to discover how!

What would your life be like if :You could be vulnerableYou could express yourselfYou could talk about pain and sadnessAll without being embarrassed or ashamed?It can be made possible.➡️Continuing on last week's episode, in this one I talk about 5 straightforward ways you can shed shame and embarrassment so you can be vulnerable and express yourself.➡️Anyone can do it! No matter how old you are and no matter how much experience you have with opening up.✅Listen to it now so you do not need to live in the shadow of that shame and embarrassment.✅Once you overcome that, you can get the help you need! Message me on Instagram:@sunny_success1

You want to be vulnerable.You want to express yourself.You want to open up about your pain and sadness.But you are too embarrassed and ashamed to do so.This is far too common in the brown community.This prevents us from getting the help we need.We hide how we feel. Unfortunately, it's not truly hidden because it comes out in other ways.WE cope with it by turning to drugs, alcohol, rage, or aggression.WE damage our relationships, ruin our careers and destroy our energy and motivation.SO WHY is there so much shame around this?Listen to this episode to discover the why.

We know the right thing to do but we don't do it!When you get knocked down, get back up!When you have conflict, talk it out!When you fail, learn from it!When you feel down, be grateful!These are great ways to handle tough situations.However, if you move on too fast, you will miss the true experience of that tough situation.Instead, just sit with the situation and feel how you feel especially if it's negative (yes negative!).So why experience the toughness of the situation?Why experience the pain?Why experience the negative emotions?Listen now to discover why!

Is breaking old school thinking easy?How do I make a tough conversation easier?I get made fun of when I talk about my feelings. What do I do?This episode covers the 10 most common questions I get asked on IG and my workshops.The topics range from how to express yourself, how to live life on your own terms, how to talk to your parents, and how to stop generational trauma.Listen now!

Need someone to talk to but you fear you will be judged!? Even if we decide to open up, it's usually with friends and family.However, they are not always the best people to speak to especially about our feelings and emotions.In this podcast, I talk about a few ways of how you can express your feelings. There are so many people and ways you can talk about them in a safe way! In a way, you won't be judged, rejected, disowned, or made fun of!Once you listen, please consider one or all of these methods!If you fail to have these tough conversations, your emotions will become suppressed.This can result in stress, low energy, low motivation, a decrease in confidence anxiety, violence, and damaged relationships.Don't avoid talking about your feelings because I can tell you, it's possible to do it without being judged!

I have been in your shoes and you'll be fine. This is something we hear too often within the brown community. Yes to some extent we have gone through similar experiences that others have. This is an advantage that allows us to help others. But there is a big part we miss. The part of actually understanding what the person is feeling and experiencing.We can never truly go through the exact same experience as someone else. Think of the pandemic for example. It is fair to say it affected all of us differently. Saying we have been in their shoes is the starting point, but more work is required!In this episode, I talk about if we just tell people we have been in their shoes that it is actually doing more harm than good.I will touch on how to better understand the person's situation so you can help them properly. When you do that, they will feel that:•Their feelings and experience is valid (they are not weak) •They are not overreacting •They can go to you for help because you'll listen and not make assumptionsListen to it now!

Do you have Resentment towards someone?Sometimes resentment is built without us even knowing. It starts small and usually does not show until things get worse.At that point, there is a good chance the resentment has already:•Drained your energy•Caused you stress •Damaged your relationship.•Made you stop talking to the personIn this episode, I talk about the 5 progress stages of resentment.After listening to it, you will have more awareness of resentment.When you have more awareness, you can detect it when it's small and address it.When you do that you will not damage your relationship, cause stress, and your relationship might end up becoming more fulfilling.Listen now!

We know the right thing to do but we don't do it!When you get knocked down, get back up!When you have conflict, talk it out! When you fail, learn from it!When you feel down, be grateful!These are great ways to handle tough situations.However, if you move on too fast, you will miss the true experience of that tough situation.Instead, just sit with the situation and feel how you feel especially if it's negative (yes negative!). So why experience the toughness of the situation?Why experience the pain?Why experience the negative emotions?Listen now to discover why!

Has your confidence suddenly dropped in a tough situation?For example, think of talking to your parents about something tough such as a career change, standing up for yourself, or choosing a partner.You approach the conversation, and suddenly you feel like a kid talking to your parents.As a result, you are not able to get your point across. You also fail to make the change you wanted that would have lead you to happiness, fulfillment, and alignment with the real you.In this episode, I talk about how to be more aware of your confidence going into the situation. I also talk about how to avoid being in the kid mode when it matters most.The more confident you are, the easier it will be to make crucial, hard decisions. Listen to it now!

31 quick life lessons!Last Friday was my 31st birthday.I have reflected on what I have learned to this point. In this podcast, I cover 31 quick life lessons.I would love to hear what some of your life lessons are. Also are there any of mine you disagree with?Listen now!

Why is saying no so hard?In the brown community, it's very rare and unpopular for us to say no.No to a hangout, no to helping someone out, no to a vacation, or overall no to certain family members.If we say no we are seen as selfish. We feel others will reject us and disown us.We feel they will not love us anymore.It's easy for me to say the way to say no is just saying that two-letter word.What you need is driving forces that make it easier to stick by this no.Listen to this episode now to discover them!You don't have to feel obligated to say no! Listen now!

Do you actually want to go through with it? In the brown community, it's very common to receive a lot of opinions.Opinions from our parents, siblings, aunt, uncles, or grandparents.While it's good for the most part, it can also have its limitations.When you receive too many opinions, welcomed or not, it clouds your judgment.As a result, we end up making choices only because they are popular.We end up making them because we feel if we don't, we will be rejected.

Are you going to let one thing ruin the whole day?Something happens. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Someone says something bad about you. You don't get the job or close the business deal.Things happen. But sometimes we let things occupy our day longer than they need to be. This is commonly done because we do not actually evaluate what has happened or realize it has automatically put us in an angry, sad, or negative state.In this episode, I talk about how to slow down and evaluate the situation.✅If you do this, you will increase your awareness of the situation and compare it to the bigger picture.✅When you do that, the situation will not have much importance or an impact on you and your day.✅At that point, it's easier to let go of the situation and learn from it!Listen to the episode now to increase your awareness to prevent situations from ruining your whole day!

I talk about common situational responses within the brown community.The examples I cover are :1. Getting made fun of2. Wanting to pursue a career change3. Stressful situations4. Assumptions5. Getting asked to hang out6. Fighting with a partner7. Dealing with emotionsI talk about how to change our automatic responses so we do not need to experience the negative effects.The negative effects include resentment, anger, sadness, lack of fulfillment and damage to self-confidence and self-worth.

Assumptions are so common in the brown community.They cause so much unnecessary damage in our relationships. They certainly used to for me. Here is a common example I often experienced. They don't return your call or are not there for you.Based on that you feel they no longer care about you. Sometimes it's true unfortunately, but most of the time it's probably not. We never know what is going on in someone else's life.You may think they tell you everything, but they may have their reasons to hold back. Could be nothing to do with you.When we make an assumptions based on an action or lack thereof we end up getting upset, resentful and hurt.We fail to look at the full picture and just sit on our assumption.This causes damage to the relationship that could have been easily prevented. More importantly, it causes emotional damage to ourselves. Making an assumption is natural and sometimes automatic. You also have may have a legit reason to make an assumption based on past behavior.But until we get the full picture, we will not only continue to damage our relationships but ourselves as well.What if instead of jumping to an assumption, you could get the full picture? In this episode I talk about how to get a better picture of what is going on with the person and the situation. Getting the full picture, it not always easy and can be nerve racking but overtime you can develop this skill and turn it into a habit.Don't sit on the assumption! Get the full picture! In this episode, I talk about how you can better get the full picture. Once you do this, you're relationships will be more fulfilling and you will understand people intentions more cleary. Don't let your most important relationships get damaged!

Have you held yourself back from crying?In the Brown Community, crying is considering weak. Also, when we see others cry, we are taught to hug them, tell them not to cry and that everything will be okay. Crying is like any other emotion. Either you can express it or supress it. If it is suppressed, it has so many negative side effects. For example, resentment, pain, anger, sadness and inability to control our emotions. Crying is not common I know. I still struggle to do it more often. But it has so many benefits. YOU will not carry suppressed pain, anger, sadness and resentment. YOU will be better able to handle your emotions. YOUR emotional capacity will be stronger in difficult and stressful situations. You do not need to cry everytime you are down. But if you find yourself holding it and feel it in your throat, let it out. If not in front of a loved one, do it alone. Let it out and don't let it become supressed. Also if others cry around you, let them cry it out! Don't let your belief of crying is weak damage your emotional state and relationships. Don't feel embarrassed or guilty because it's a human emotion! I'm still working on this. Let's work together on this so we no longer have to suffer from suppressing this emotion.

There is not a one size fits all when having tough conversations with family members. Telling a cousin versus a grandparent how you feel will be totally different.One will probably be harder than the other.Just because it's hard, does not mean it's not possible.You can establish and communicate your standards and boundaries to any family member no matter what their belief or thinking is.In this podcast I will provide a few tips on how to ensure you communicate your message across. The message could be telling someone if they upset, hurt or angered you.It could also include telling them you no longer wanted to be treated a certain way as well as setting boundaries and standards going forward. You cannot just use one approach for tough conversations. It won't be easy, but it can be made possible! IF you are willing to have these tough conversations, most of your relationships will be more fulfilling and you will be more respected and appreciated. If you fail to have these conversations, it will create more stress, resentment, bitterness and pain. You may also struggle to find peace. Listen to this episode now if you are ready to have tough conversations with any family member!

What are your angry standards?Have you ever find yourself, get to the boiling point?Someone says something to you and out of nowhere, you stand yelling at them.You had enough and could not take it anymore.After you cool down, you feel embarrassed.The person is also upset that you yelled and/or swore at them.You have a standard in place on how you want to be treated.But you only stick to it when angry.In this episode, I will talk about:How to be aware and build those standardsHow to stay true to them no matter whatIf you do this, you will have set boundaries and standards that align with the real you.Listen to the episode now!

Do you sit with your emotions? What do you do when you feel:Sad, angry, hurt or pain?Do you turn to drugs or alcohol?Do you say you do not care about the person?Do you become resentful and bitter?Within the brown community, there is such a stigma around brown guys expressing themselves.But we do not focus on the negative impacts it has.For example, health issues, damaged relationships, loss of motivation, or drug and alcohol abuse.In this episode, I talk about how to sit with your emotions.If you do this, you will not need to turn to toxic or negative solutions.Let's break that old-school thinking around brown guys not expressing their emotions!Listen to the episode now! I mentioned November 2022 but it's actually November 2020 Haha.

Is expressing your emotions weak?Why can't it be seen as a sign of strength?In the brown community, we brown men struggle to express how we feel.Or we believe that it's seen as weakness.This belief has been around for a long time.But it has never really been explored.We are told and taught to “tough it up”.But, look at the negative impact it is having. ➡️We turn to drugs & alcohol➡️We build resentment➡️We damage or mental & emotional wellbeing➡️We add extra stress to our lifeHow is this weaknesses?

Stop caring what others think!You may do this without evening knowing .Every decision, choice, and action you take likely factors what others will think.However, we do not realize how much we hold ourselves back because of this.Holding ourselves back from pursuing the career that aligns with us.Holding ourselves back from choosing a partner that suits us.Holding ourselves back from being the real us and not a character who conforms. This old-school belief has been there for many generations. But it is not serving us.We need to make this change and not be concerned with what other think.In this episode, I talk about how to break that old-school thinking. It's not easy, but it can be done! Once you are past caring what others think, you will be more happier, successful, fulfilled, and reach a higher level of potential!Listen to the episode now!

Is your career making you happy?Answer that question without worrying about other's opinions or disapproval.Ask yourself, is it making YOU happy.It's very common for us to choose a career for reasons other than happiness.It could be because our parents want us to follow a traditional or certain path.It could be because we are concerned about what others will think and say.This way of thinking has robbed so many people in the brown community.It has robbed them of pursuing something that truly allows with them, their purpose and passion.In this episode, I talk about the negative impacts of not pursuing a career that makes you happy.I also share ways on how you can make the mind shift and choose something that suits you!Choose something that makes you feel happy and fulfilled without being concerned about what others deem the “proper” career for you.Listen to this episode now!

Where do these brown beliefs come from?Do they actually serve us?Our parents give us some very good beliefs. But there also some beliefs that do not serve us.Not to say their beliefs are bad, but they just may not work for us.It's a different time, generation, environment, and our lives are different from theirs. So why follow them?Without actually acknowledge these beliefs, you will follow them without giving them much thought.Some of these beliefs will hold you back and prevent you from living the life you want. It will impact your mental health, relationships, & career aspirations.In this podcast, I will talk about the most common brown beliefs that do not make sense for our generation.As you listen, ask yourself:Will this belief help me become the person I want to?Will this belief negatively impact my relationships?Will this belief make my mental health suffer?Subscribe to the brown beliefs that serve you and throw the rest away!

Can you be happy within the brown community!I know it is possible! In this podcast, I talk about 5 ways you can truly be happy.This can include any family member or situation. Try these 5 out for yourself!It has worked for me and several of my clients.If you follow these, your stress will be reduced, your relationships will be more fulfilling, and you'll have more energy and motivation to be the person you truly are! Overall, these tips will allow you to have better mental health.Download the episode now! If there any other ways you feel we can happy, please send me a DM and share!

Is Your Value System Holding You Back?Are you living by your values?What are your values?A lot of our values are automatic.These values could come from our family, friends, or social influence.Sometimes that is okay because they align with us.Other times they do not align with us and cause unhappiness & lack of fulfillment.Unhappiness & lack of fulfillment with our job, our circle of friends, or our partner.Until you find out what your value system is, it will be hard to feel aligned.Hard to feel aligned within your personal life, relationships, and career.In this episode, I talk about how to build a value system that aligns with the real, actual you!Once you start living based on this, you will reach a higher level of success, confidence and your relationships will be more fulfilling. Listen to the episode now!

Do you know generational trauma can date back over 100 years? As kids, we pick up things from our families and in particular our parents.We get great qualities and we get limiting qualities from them. We also form our belief system based on what they taught us.What if some of these limiting ones are holding you back? What if your anger, pain, or sadness is because of the generations before you and not even you're in?In this podcast, I explain how generational trauma occurs and how YOU can be the pioneer to make a change for you and the generations after YOU!This podcast was originally released in September 2020 and inspired by an IG live session I had with Bean Gill.But I am bringing attention to it this week because it falls in line with brown family beliefs and values.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sunny_success1/Bean's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/branzoid/?hl=enWebsite: https://sunnysuccess.com/coaching/

Are you being your true self? How often do you find yourself holding back YOU?What I mean is how often do you withhold your beliefs, values, boundaries, or aspirations.It's easy to share these with the people close to us and who believe in and respect us.But with others, not so much. It could be because a fear of being judged, being made fun of, imposter syndrome, or a lack of confidence in our abilities.When you hold yourself back in any way, it will drain your energy and you will be unaligned with the real you. I used to experience this when I first started university. Prior to that, I had not achieved anything. I was told I was stupid, would never amount to much and always got made fun of. This caused me to have low self-worth.People used to ask me what I was taking in school and I was always so nervous to answer. I would say, just a few courses! Yet I was going to school for a degree. I felt so drained, embarrassed, upset, and did not feel proud of myself.In this episode, I talk about how to be your true self in all situations! It's not about showing off or bragging, but it's about being comfortable being the real you no matter where or who's around. When you do this you will appreciate the person you are. You will also feel happier, fulfilled, and proud of yourself!Listen now!

What would you tell the younger version of yourself?If I had the chance, I would talk to the younger version of myself about bullying. My earliest memories of being bullied occurred when I was 6 years old. It destroyed my self-confidence, my self-worth, and I started to think it was just a part of my life. This was despite the fact I was scared of going to school almost every day thinking " Who will be bullying me today".I got bullied for the majority of my life. However, once I started doing a few things, I have since overcome this obstacle and became stronger from it. Now I want to share that with you!I did a speech on this topic in 2020 and it got me to round 3 of the Toastmaster's contest. I finished in the Top 3.Nonetheless, the message in that speech is worth sharing beyond Toastmasters. I wouldn't be doing the right thing if I didn't. That's because I know me or you or someone we know has been bullied one time or another and there is hope. Anyone can be bullied. But Bullying doesn't have to define us!Listen to this episode now!

Are You Actually Successful and Happy?What is your definition of happiness and success? In this episode, I talk about how real happiness and success come from the inside.The internal stuff such as relationships, physical health, mental health, & ability to deal with emotions.The external stuff such as money, cars, big houses, jewelry is great and all. But you will struggle to find true, continuous happiness and success if you only rely on the external. As you listen to this episode, ask yourself.What do I define as happiness and success?Is it internal or external stuff?Will the stuff result in success and happiness in the long run?What can I do to be more happy and successful?Listen now!

You cannot get rid of sadness or anger!We are humans. We are going to experience emotions no matter what. It would not be realistic to think you will never experience sadness or anger. It may even result in suppression which causes stress and drains your energy.At the end of the day, it is a natural human function to feel these emotions.In this podcast, I talk about how to reduce the sadness and anger you experience.The key thing to do this is to increase your awareness of when these emotions occur. I talk about how to raise your awareness.The goal is not to get rid of the emotions. But to experience them less frequently and stop them from occurring when they are not required.Listen to this episode now!

Don't let a learning disability hold you back!In this podcast, I talk about my experience with being in a learning disability class.I always was ashamed of it and hid from it because it made me feel less worthy.I never questioned if I had a learning disability and just accepted it. For that reason, I did not even try in school and thought I was stupid. It was like a self-fulling prophecy. Had I actually tried, I don't even know if I would need to be in those classes.Nonetheless, I have reflected on that experience and want to share my insight with you.Now I have realized that a learning disability or disadvantage does not have to get in the way of the life you want to have.In doing this I no longer feel ashamed, my confidence is not impacted nor do I feel unworthy. I feel appreciative and love the person I am.Do not let a disability or disadvantage define you or make you feel ashamed!In this episode, I talk about how I did all that.

Imagine talking about issues without blame! Do you even win if you blame others? When you blame others, they will feel embarrassed, called out, and feel like the bad guy. If they end up apologizing to you, they may begin to resent you shortly after. Is that all worth it? What if you could find the balance where the person acknowledges their wrongdoing but without anyone feeling blamed? Listen to this podcast now and I share how you can achieve this powerful conversation with the other person. It involves focusing not on blame but on contribution. I will explain what that is and how to evaluate each situation. This approach will allow you and the other person to have more ownership and acknowledgment of the wrongdoing without blaming, embarrassing, or having to “win” the discussion. Once you do that, you will be able to open up more in your relationships, be more accepting, and understand each other's boundaries.

What is resentment costing you?How is being resentful helping you?Is it draining your energy? Is it making you angry?Is it making you sad?Sometimes when we feel resentment it involves making a person “pay” because they have wronged us.This could come in the form of ignoring/avoiding them, having surface-level conversations, or blowing up on them easily. When we use this “pay” mindset, the only person we are making pay is ourselves.We make things worse because we cause ourselves extra stress, anger, pain, and worry.In this podcast I talk about how you can deal with resentment so:1.You do not condone the other's behavior and actions2.You do not have to make them “pay” & most importantly make yourself “pay”3.You can start the process of moving on from the resentment Listen to the episode now if you do not want resentment to make things worse for you!

Has someone helped you through a tough situation?Don't forget this!Once we have gone through something tough, it's natural to forget the depth of the situation. Life goes on, we get busy and it seems like a distant memory that does not evoke any emotions.As a result, we also forget how someone has helped us through it.In this podcast, I talk about a conversation I had with my mom. She reminded me of a particular financial difficulty situation we faced when I was 12 years old.I had totally forgotten that had even happened to us because it seems so far away.This conversation reminded me that no matter where you are today or how good things are, do not forget the people who helped you out during the tough times.Show them appreciation in any way you can! Pay it forward. Help someone else out!Download the episode now!

Will your circumstances or decisions define you?We can go through so many tough situations in life. Sometimes these situations break us or they unleash the potential in us.Sometimes the situations happen as a result of an external source or sometimes internal. However, despite the situation, despite how difficult, we always have the power to make the decision of what we want to do in that situation.In this podcast, I share three personal life examples. The three situations are growing up in a single-parent household, being bullied, and being told I would not amount to much.All three were external (the situations were chosen for me).Despite the tough situations, I made key, positive decisions to better my life.In this podcast, I will share exactly what I did so you can apply it to any life situation you have gone through before or are currently going through.Make key decisions so the circumstances do not shape your life!!

Are you a multitasker like me?Do try to squeeze in work anytime you can?Thanks to becoming more self-aware of reflection & energy usage I have started to notice multitasking is not always effective.Sometimes when you try completing one thing at a time, you will complete the task faster, be more focused, and be more energized.I have been multitasking for a long time but this new way can allow you to be more creative, reflective, focused, and effective.In this podcast, I talk about a couple of examples of where multitasking can work and others where it will drain you, be less effective, and take a longer time to complete your set task.I will also give you a tip on how you can become more focused before working on a task!Listen to this episode now!

Do you feel happy and successful in your environments?With a new year, now is the time to evaluate your environments.These environments include:•Your relationship with your partner•Workplace•Family•Friends•MentorsIn this podcast, I will go over each of these environments. I will talk about how you can make these environments more positive and more supportive to help you succeed and be happier. In terms of what success and happiness are, I will not define that for you. That is something you should and need to do. But I will discuss the key thing you need to do to establish what happiness and success will look like for you. This is very important before you evaluate your current environments. Kick-off 2021 right with positive environments that bring out the best in you!

Discover how to master these 8 aspects to live a more successful and fulfilling life! In this podcast, I talk about 8 things that if you do not master them, they will master you. Here is the list: 1. Anger 2. Negativity 3. Feedback 4. Stress 5. Fear 6. Discipline 7. Criticism 8. FailureWhen I say master, it doesn't mean being perfect. What it means is that you will have that one key thing that will allow you to thrive in all these areas.I discuss this key thing in detail. I am not going to define these terms for you. You could probably find so many definitions and meanings for each of these. Rather, I talk about my definition based on my life experience and how I master each of them. As you listen, see if my definitions resonate with you. Here is the link to the YouTube version of this. This was shot about a year ago and is briefer. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59bAfNSsf_4&t=18s