The Courageous Mumma

The Enneagram Type Six is a wonderful character type, a great friend, a competent, compassionate disciplined achiever, but they can get themselves in an anxious muddle which stops them from progressing with confidence.  Come and hear five ways that you can help them to flourish - to keep those strong, healthy character traits without tipping into overdrive.   Pop here for the book Parenting For Life Pop here for a consultation Pop here for the blog Pop here to email Madeleine: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

I'm back! I hope you've had a fun summer.  I'm launching this term with a fun book, perfect for your friends for Christmas. It's snippets of overheard conversations to make you titter, raise your eyebrows, question yourself and/or the quotee. How would you respond to this one?  "Why does everyone suddenly need a second screen? It's a post-Covid thing...You know, we're not all operating air traffic control from home!" Open to conjecture on that one.  We also chat about the anxious side of early motherhood and how Natasha coped. Snippets of conversation from Emphatic Middle-Class Women, by Natasha May can be found at Waterstones.com, Amazon and for a signed copy, message Natasha.t.may on Instagram.    

Today we talk about pooh and wee and what happens for children emotionally and physically when there are difficulties. Rachel Thomas is the lead specialist nurse for Children's Bladder and Bowel Team for Gloucestershire.  She talks us through the early and late interventions. There are lots of laughs but lots of great info too.   She recommends: https://eric.org.uk to answer all your questions. and the book, Amy Gets Eaten, by Adam Kay Email me if you're thinking about the day or evening course: Madeleinestani@icloud.com For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a parenting chat/consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma    

What should you close before you doze? Do your kids know what to do if there's a fire? What are a credit card and cling film doing in with your Meds? A gripping tour of first aid and how to support your children (or anyone) in common difficulties. Come and learn new things and examine your existing perspectives. To Contact Meg Sawford: sawford@hotmail.co.uk Meg signposts to these two  Choking Jelly babies How to use a Defibrillator For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a consultation, or a chat about a consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma or pop me an email... Madeleinestani@icloud.com    

 Coming to you from my convalescence after an op  - with the Enneagram type 5.   The fives have some great strengths; Firstly, their intellectual capacity and their ability to think deeply and critically are admirable. They are excellent researchers and often good problem solvers. They are naturally curious and have a thirst for knowledge. They can often see connections and patterns that others miss. They're fabulous in a pub quiz, though sometimes their knowledge is specialised, so then they're just fabulous in certain rounds.   See if you recognise yourself, your child or your friends or partner...         Introspective Analytical Curious Independent Thoughtful Reserved Cerebral Detached Perceptive Objective Focused Reclusive

Have you ever felt you're drifting from a child or do you ever worry that you might in the future? Here is a great story from a precious friend and her daughter about how to reconnect when it all feels lost.    For a chat with me, pop here To get your copy of Parenting For Life, Pop here Ig; thecourageousmumma blog: thecourageousmumma me: Madeleinestani@icloud.com  

Happy Birthday to us....a telegram from the King would be appropriate. Thank you to all those who have been with me from the beginning and welcome to those joining today and everyone in between.    Today, I answer your questions:  What's the hardest parenting tool; what do I most regret; What am I most pleased with... Here's the good, the bad and the ugly   For a chat with me, pop here To get your copy of Parenting For Life, Pop here Ig; thecourageousmumma blog: thecourageousmumma me: Madeleinestani@icloud.com    

Do you have a child who has a deep need to be understood? I know all children do, but it discombobulates some more than others. Are they creative, expressive, sensitive to criticism and often feel misunderstood? If so, you might have an enneagram type 4 - come and find out.... here are some great ways to help them to thrive. to contact me; madeleinestani@icloud.com ig: thecourageousmumma blog: thecourageousmumma

May is Mental Health Month. This week I'm introducing you to Louise Williams. She has overcome the ADHD battle. She blogs about it and today she's sharing her journey with us.  ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com   Book on ADHD: Scattered Minds - pop here  Adult guide to diagnosis - pop here  Louise's blog Pink Pear Bear - pop here  Get your copy of Parenting for Life find out about parent coaching/book a chat here Book mentioned: Gifts of Imperfection pop here 

Do you have a child or someone in your life, who finds it hard to let others to see their flaws and is keen to project a winning image? Do they find it hard to let people see when they're failing or appearing to underachieve? Can they be a little competitive at times? They might be an Enneagram type 3 - Sometimes called The Achiever Come and hear about their superpowers and how to parent them well so their strengths shine and they manage their potential pitfalls. For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For a consultation, or a chat about a consultation, pop here Find me on IG @thecourageousmumma or pop me an email... Madeleinestani@icloud.com        

Does your child get anxious? Can they go from 0-100 in a second? Alison Core's full time mission is teaching children why their brains react the way to do and how to manage them. This is a tool for the here and now and for their future too.  Send your children into with a way to manage their emotions. Life is tough, but here are tools to regulate kids in those difficult moments... So one day, they'll be adults that regulate themselves in the tough times. Great tools for them - and for us! Get your copy of Parenting for Life find out about parent coaching/book a chat here ask a question or contact me; Madeleinestani@icloud.com contact Alison here     

Do you have a child who's always supporting everyone around them and making sure everyone else is happy? The HELPER can take their significance from what they can be for others and sometimes get their needs lost in the process. Come and see what motivates the Enneagram Type two and hear five ways to build up their self-esteem.     

Sex and relationship therapist, Emma Waring has popped back on speak insightfully and, candidly about what our children may see and how it will influence their view of sex. But most importantly, to be the voice they listen to on this important topic. Here are some useful links  Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life Find out information on Parent support here  I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy      

Do you have a child who has perfectionist tendencies? High benchmarks? (or does that describe you?) Does your child link their self-worth to their achievement? Competency is a superpower, but when it tips into criticism of themselves or others it can harm their connection to others and their self-worth. Come and find out five great ways to parent the improver and help them to feel worthy and to manage their inner-critic, without losing their fabulous superpowers.    Click here for.... Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching For your discounted copy of the book: The Courageous Mumma Email me with your questions: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

Have you ever had a food battle with your child? Do they struggle with meal times?  - distractions, disinterest, fussy eating, allergies...   This week Emma Shafqat hops on the podcast to share gems and insights around food. See her details below. Click here for.... Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching (on Zoom or in-person) For your discounted copy of the book: The Courageous Mumma Email me with your questions: Madeleinestani@icloud.com   To book a free call with Emma Shafqat, pop here  or email her emma@dietitianwithadifference.co.uk      

Do you have an easy going child who is kind and happy to share, but sometimes gives in to those around them? This week I'm looking at the Enneagram type 9: The Peacemaker. They're kind, non judgemental, happy to please and to step aside for others - a little too much at times.  Peacemakers  and are easy to be around. They go with the flow. They're not argumentative and don't mind yielding to stronger opinions. And whilst that seems ok on the surface - is it really? Or is something else going on?  Come and find out what is motivating the peacemaker and how we, as parents, can make sure we hone and develop their strengths...and their weaknesses.  Click here for.... Finding out more about parent-coaching: Parent Coaching (on Zoom or in-person) For your discounted copy of the book: The Courageous Mumma For a written overview of this week's podcast: Blog

Sex and relationship therapist, Emma Waring has hopped on this week to share many gems on that subject which is easier to 'do' than talk about! Fortunately, she's unabashed and and speaks into the many areas that can interfere with intimacy. Emma also shares some surprising stats and helps to open the curtain on what's really going on out there, compared to what film, tv and other screen options portray.  When you're busy raising a family it's possible that sex and relational needs are given a low priority. But emotionally healthy families are healthy in all aspects - the relationship between parents will suffer if intimacy is put on hold or if issues are avoided.  This podcast will clear up misinformation and hopefully start some good conversations.  Here are some useful links  Pop to the blog for a summary of Last month's Enneagram 8 Pick up a copy of my book, Parenting for Life Find out information on Parent support here  I highly recommend Emma's book , Seasons of Sex and Intimacy Further reading by Esther Perell      

Do you have a child who is strong and assertive, but finds it hard to follow instruction sometimes?   This season I'm exploring the 9 different types on the Enneagram because it gives such insights and clues as to what motivates different character types. We're not boxing, we're being curious - understanding what makes them tick.   This week, I'm focussing on 'The Challenger' They're assertive, straight talking, decisive, resourcesful and upfront. But they're also loyal, honest and can be protective too.   There are ways to respond to this child that will result in clashes, stand-offs and disconnect. But there are also ways that can build bridges, harness their great strengths and help their super-powers not to be over-powering.   Here's the link to parent-coaching Here's the link to the book, Parenting For Life - discounted for listeners  

This week I'm chatting to Helen Calder who is a life coach using the tool of the Enneagram. She walks us through the 9 different ways that people can see the world and how to understand the perspectives of others as well as their motivations, their hurdles and their opportunities for growth. As parents it can be transformative to understand these different characters and their motivations so that we can ensure we're using the right tools to help our children to grow. it's a fascinating tool and I'll be using this podcast as a springboard to go on and do further podcasts on each type so that we can recognise our children (partner/friend/colleague/neighbour) in the different types and use approaches that will help our connection with them and in turn help them. It's priceless! This is Helen's email address: hello@helencaldercoaching.co.uk To get a copy of Parenting For Life (and a free 15 min consultation) Link to book To book a consultation Link to Chat  

When our children resist our well-intentioned boundaries, it can be the beginning of the battles. What if resistance was an opportunity? Could it be a place to grow trust and bond?   Come and find out! It's great to be back and welcoming you to Season II - I have so much in store for you. I love hearing your feedback: Madeleinestani@icloud.com

stomping up stairs? banging doors? chat back? resistant? got louder or gone quieter? What's that all about? Come and find out   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

Wish your kids would listen? This will make a massive difference   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

We all want healthy attachment for our children.  We want them to feel confident to take on challenges and know that there are loving arms waiting for them after their adventures and challenges.  But that can go a little wrong when our needs muscle in front of theirs. Yet, we can go their whole childhood without knowing we've muddled their needs with ours. Here is a really clear and concise way to check that you're meeting their need for healthy attachment.   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

Have you ever had to grieve a season?   Did you see it coming?   Is there a change ahead?   One thing that's for sure is… CHANGE   Sometimes we see it coming, sometimes it's sudden, like it was for us last week.    For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

Here are a few ideas I wish I'd been handed when my children were young, so I'm passing them to you.   They're easy tools for connection...for fun...for trust...   For the blog about Wonderbooks, pop here For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here  

There's always a clue behind the angst - but have we got time to explore it? One little micro-change in how you respond to your kids will take you on a trajectory towards good relationship: Where there is understanding there can be empathy - Where there is empathy there is connection. It's easy when you know how.  The alternative? - missing the vital clues and teaching our kids to keep their feelings to themselves - that causes disconnect!! Nobody wants that.  Come and explore...   And for: The Book, pop here  A consultation, pop here 

I'm not going to tell you to calm down or get more sleep, but I am sharing a little tool that makes all the difference to our children in this busy season.   Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!   Consultations here    Link for the Book here   

A great question from a listener leads us to dig into WHEN to use empathy and when to try another tack.  For your copy of Parenting for Life, pop here  To enquire about a Consultation, pop here If you want to hop back to the podcast on Consequences, pop here See you next week, Mads

Last week we looked at WHY we should keep boundaries in place. This week we look at HOW we can do that without raised volume and harsh tone...and how we can stay empowered and teach our children empowerment - not overpowerment!  It's powerful   For the book, pop here To enquire about consultations, book here          

Our children are defensive and argumentative when they feel they're in the wrong. Why? Because often, being wrong is not acceptable at home. It equals failure, shame, embarrassment; they liken going wrong to being wrong. Parents can then get into an unhealthy loop of backing down and letting the child win - for a quiet life. But what consequences does that have for the child's self esteem later in life? For more on boundaries, come and get your copy of Parenting For Life here  To check out the Blog, pop here To book a session to chat, pop here   

Let's chat about money. Though, it's never really about the money. It's about expectations, needs vs desires, borrowing and lending, saving and giving. Money taps into so many other issues that come from the perspectives they form when they're small. Money is a great tool for growing and influencing our children to have a healthy heart when it comes to generosity and wisdom. For the book, pop here For info on a consultation, pop here For the blog script, pop here See you next week,   Mads

How do we protect our family and ourselves from tricky relatives? How do we model inclusion and leave people out?  What dangers lurk when we exclude people from family gatherings? There are some hidden dangers. Today we make  straightforward sense of an awkward situation.   Pop to the blog for some great reads, here For your copy of The Courageous Mumma, pop here  For more information about a consultation, pop here   See you next week,   Mads        Book   https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/parenting   Pod https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-courageous-mumma/id1503997519   CONsultations https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/pre-order  

Is your word pure gold? Or do you feel it's bouncing off them? Is your influence beginning to fade as they get older? This week, I'm going to share an easy way to help your kids value your words, no matter what age they are. I'll share a simple way to ensure that you're not falling into common parent traps that make your kids ignore your words. I'll also share how some common parent-responses can switch them off and even unsettle them.  Do people tell you it's normal for parents to get ignored?  It doesn't have to be!   For more info or to order Billy, Bone and The Tree Keeper, pop here  For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here To find out more about making time to chat, pop here To find the text of this week's episode, pop here    See you next week, Madeleine

Do you ever wish your kids were more appreciative? I don't mean learning the word 'Thank you', but the actual heart-felt issue of feeling grateful for the little things and the big things? Is it possible to create that heart-sense? Yes, it is! This week we look at three ways to raise the gratitude levels in your home.    For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here   To find out more about making time to chat, pop here See you next week,   Madeleine  

Our children need 9 affirming messages for each negative one - whether that's a negative from you, a peer, a teacher... or anyone.  That's a lot of affirming? How do we get that into a day and how can it be so magical?   For the text for this week's podcast, pop here For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here For information on consultations, pop here

What is success? What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your child? What messages are they picking up at home? If we're not intentional about our metrics for success our children can pick up hidden messages that ultimately impact their confidence and sense of self. Being intentional about success and failure narratives is a small but vital part of parenting.  Come and see how to re-calibrate For the text for this week's podcast, pop here For the book, Parenting For Life, pop here To find out about consultations, pop here  

The first information your child receives about sex with form their life-long perspective. Who is best equipped to do that?   For the book, pop here For the script to this week's podcast, pop here For information about a consultation, pop here

making conversation is an art that isn't just caught, it's taught. Often children don't feel confident, or just aren't taught to take an interest: They'll answer questions that they're asked, but won't necessarily think or know how to go past answering and into connected conversation. Here's how to get past the small talk... The text for this week's podcast is here For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here To find out more about booking an appointment, pop here

We love to love our children and we've become familiar with the word 'attachment', but do we know what it really means? And do sometimes cause our children difficulties and undermine their confidence because we've misunderstood the term? This week come and find out what attachment isn't and where the tipping point is. The text for this week's podcast is here For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here To find out more about booking an appointment, pop here

Is there a magic tool that takes them from cross, frustrated and venting, to calmer? Something that stops flash points from becoming conflicts?  YES!!! It's simple and effective, but It's counter-intuitive too. Are you ready to hard-wire a new response to an angry child? Great, then. come and listen and prepare to be surprised at how your well your children respond to the new you. They may not always remember the things you said, but they'll remember how they felt in your company when they were upset.  And... The link to Parenting For Life is here The link for parent support is here  The link for the script for this week's podcast is here  (Give me a couple of days to pop it up)

A great conversation with Matt Kane. We talk about the important things to learn that you don't get certificates for -  acceptance respect understanding sex social media How teachers can positively influence our children at a critical stage in their formative years.

Do you ever wish parents had a stronger voice in the halls of power? In the national press? Today I meet the woman who takes your parent-voice and your opinions to the places where they can influence. Parent-ping is an App that canvasses the views of parents and shares them. So if you're wondering... Is it just me? Does anyone else think like this? Does anyone else parent like this? ...you can go and find out.  Come and meet a mover and shaker in the world of education - you'll soon see why she was awarded and MBE this year.   Pop here for your copy of Parenting For Life Pop here to find out more about parent coaching

Everybody's walk and experience, love story and parenting journey is different, so I thought it would be fun to ask a few parents to share their stories, especially when they've got an unusual ingredient or two in the mix.    This week I'm going to introduce you to my Iranian friend, Zara.  She's gorgeous, she's creative, she's organic and she's always up to something interesting: She lives in Cheltenham with her husband, Ahmed, a pharmacist, and their two children, Hannah 9 and Ali 7.   Zara is interesting in lots of ways; she ferments, she creates, she's very into gut-health, interior design- I think that's a few interesting ingredients. She also home-educates – come and meet her...   For your copy of Parenting For Life, pop here: https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/parenting For Parenting advice and support, pop here: https://www.thecourageousmumma.com/pre-order

Very small tweaks in the ways we respond to our children have a massive effect.   This week I look at VS - Not Scotland vs England, but... I am VS I did Connect VS Correct Quality VS Quantity   How we can respond to our children without getting their defences up and still be a great influence on their evolving decisions.     For your copy of Parenting For Life, Pop here To contact me I'm TheCourageousMumma everywhere....IG, @gmail, the blog and the pod. For parenting advice, pop here 

Imagine living with a life threatening illness, or any illness that impacts your ability to work, to parent, to do all the things you love to do. This week I chat with my friend Nicola Wall, who lives through the emotional and physical battles of having Cystic Fibrosis. She's open and honest about the challenges and experiences as well as the life changes they have chosen to make. It's emotional, it's insightful and I'm humbled by her honesty.  For a discount on Parenting For Life, Pop here To contact me, Madeleinestani@icloud.com To find out about parenting support, pop here  To sponsor Jess walking the Cotswold Way, pop here

How do we model strength and perseverance to our children? Is this true - "Children are so resilient!" ??? How do we retain our own identity whilst parenting? Can we flourish rather than just survive when the odds are against us? Here's a story of an artist and photographer who thrives in spite of the odds... She's philosophical, funny, pragmatic and connected. She'll inspire and encourage you. That's Natalie!   Visit Natalie's website here Your discounted copy of Parenting For Life here Parenting consultations here

Who's influencing your kids? What do we know about Gen Z? What do they need from us in order to thrive in their cultural norms? What does it mean to give our kids an attractive watering hole for a home so that we don't have to build high fences around them? Come and listen to Alice Bond - she shares great ways to help our children retain their self-worth and connectedness to us. For your discounted copy of Parenting For Life, Pop here To find me: Madeleinestani@icloud.com Info about booking a chat, Pop here  

Would you love to understand what Gen Zed and Millennials are all about? What it means for your child and you? This week I'm doing a lightening tour of the 'Gens'. It'll help you to understand what defines them, what affects them and how they're shaped. Why? So we can better connect and positively influence this generation - our kids.   If you'd like your discount for the book Parenting For Life pop here If you'd like to contact me: thecourageousmumma@gmail.com For info on a parenting consultation pop here  Here are the key research tools I used for this podcast:   The Varkey Foundation Pew Research Centre Jason Dorsey McKinsey Global Institute        

How do we help our children to be themselves in this world full of influences? Does our voice have value among the many voices our children hear on line and around them? This is choc full of sage advice. It will restore your hope.   To find Hils' book pop here To get your listener's discount on Parenting For Life pop here Find me on Instagram @thecourageousmumma or email - madeleinestani@icloud.com   See you next week,   Mads x

Whatever age your children are they'll have tests and exams either now or on the road ahead. Author, Tim Benton coaches students on the stresses, strategies and systems of learning. He's worth it just for the laughs - and for the rendition of his Henry VIII revision piece. He's wise, he's funny and his strategies got one of mine through his GCSEs and now we're using them again for A Levels.   Find Tim's book, Brain Box here Find your discounted copy of Parenting For Life here   Find me on IG: @thecourageousmumma or Madeleinestani@icloud.com For details on a parenting session pop here  See you next week, Mads 

This week I'm chatting to a Mum who has spent the COVID season on the front line in ED (A&E). She reflects on nearly 30 years of parenting - What was good? What she'd change And what's it's been like working as a nurse practitioner through this tough season. Today's chat is full of pearls of wisdom and great stories. Philippa Nash is one of my go-to people and I'm so thrilled to introduce you to her.   Mads   For the book discount, pop here To contact me, pop here: Madeleinestani@icloud.com For a parenting chat, pop here Follow me on Instagram @thecourageousmumma