Podcasts about Transactional analysis

When a client approaches a new counsellor or therapist, inevitably the client will have questions about what to expect or even what is expected of them. Here, we'll discuss the five most common questions that clients have at the beginning of the psychotherapy process.To listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126 To watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/FyBt-b9Lzvo Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore themind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know themakings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapistworking full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed atpeople who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapyand counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques ofthe various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. Soplease join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy#livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife#dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness#helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence#talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery#mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp#anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare#selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

In a crowded market for therapists and counsellors, we discuss the importance of visibility with several approaches to attracting clients and advertising.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126 To listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7jAHXIY0CNQDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ https://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss assessment and how it informs the place from which we start. We talk about assessment for referral to other therapists and touch on dealing with client self-assessment.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126 To listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/mkuXmyfD1swDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ https://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

Bob and Simon discuss some of the types of Couple work that they have used. While we don't cover all types of Couples Therapy, we are enthusiastic about the ones we have used.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126 To listen on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9iAMHj38FCQDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ https://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss some of the most common mistakes we, as therapists, make in the therapyroom.This is our first episode with Simon Bayley. To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126 To Listen on YouTube:https://youtu.be/zKXLvmWQaUgDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal? Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Simon Bayley about the world of therapy and counselling. Simon Bayley is also a psychotherapist working full time in private practice. These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century. Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Simon Bayley help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session. Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations. https://bobcooke.org/ #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

Hello, lovely listeners! Welcome back to Dial Emma and to the third episode of this mini-series on reframes.This week, our listener is a mum of two in her thirties, who feels as though she is disappearing amidst the demands of modern life, career and motherhood. She has a good husband and two children who she loves, but in private, she fantasises about escaping to a hotel room where she can be alone, not needed by anyone. Why, she asks, can't I cope, when everyone else seems to?Dial Emma is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Lauren Brook.The OK Corral in Transactional Analysis: https://changingminds.org/explanations/behaviors/ok_not-ok.htm---Social media:Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellDial Emma @dialemmapodcastEmail: contact@dial-emma.uk

We say goodbye to co-host Kellie Barratt for her final podcast and discuss the various endings we encounter within the psychotherapy relationship: the ending of a session, of treatment and of relationship.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/CLp-2ZEbg4I⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

When Mel Sims discovered coaching, she was adamant that nobody could understand her life. Her journey into coaching allowed her to put down the mask, harness her strengths, and re-emerge into the world as a neurodivergent emotional coach.Mel trained as a coach while learning about herself through the lens of an ADHD diagnosis. As well as offering her a pathway of personal growth, these experiences helped Mel find her niche through the realisation that neurodivergent people need a particular coaching approach.In this episode of The Coach's Journey Podcast, Mel speaks to host Joey Owen about different styles of emotional communication, and the many ways in which people can be misunderstood. She talks about how being an “unpolished” coach enables her to offer a space where people can let go of their need hide their feelings and be guided by an authentic intuition.Mel offers several brilliant metaphors and visualisation techniques that illuminate this episode, such as the idea of wearing a colander on your head as a way to filter information, and thinking of neurodivergent minds as stars that have become more visible in our world of modern telescopes and greater understanding.The challenges of time management, rest and staying grounded are explored in this episode as Mel describes how she tailors coaching to people who might need alternative approaches to scheduling, flexibility, communication and depth.Mel and Joey also talk about:The intuitive, bordering-on-magical connection that neurodivergent people share having navigated shared challengesHow to make space for emotional outpourings that can have a transformative impact in coaching sessionsA psychological technique that enables a kinder, more compassionate approach to self-coachingHow to own your weak spots and set healthy expectationsMel also explains why she starts some of her inspirational coaching talks wearing a snorkel, a diving mask and a pair of flippers!For more information about Mel, visit: https://melsimslifecoach.co.uk or @theadhdhummingbird on Facebook and InstagramFor more information about host Joey Owen, visit http://www.joeyowencoaching.com/ Read more about The Coach's Journey at www.thecoachsjourney.comMusic by My Good Man William: listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/4KmeQUcTbeE31uFynHQLQgTo support the Coach's Journey, visit www.patreon.com/thecoachsjourney and to join the Coach's Journey Community visit www.thecoachsjourney.com/community. THINGS WE TALKED ABOUT THAT YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN:- Robbie Swale's 12-Minute Method books https://www.robbieswale.com/the-12minute-books - Ruth Kudzi https://www.ruthkudzi.com/- ICF https://coachingfederation.org/- John Demartini https://drdemartini.com/- Calendly https://calendly.com/- Meta Business Suite https://www.facebook.com/business/tools/meta-business-suite- Inside Our Minds with Chris Packham https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0bbnh47- Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR) https://emdrassociation.org.uk/- Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/- Transactional Analysis https://www.simplypsychology.org/transactional-analysis-eric-berne.html- Episode #116 of The Coach's Journey Podcast, on the importance of having your own coach https://www.thecoachsjourney.com/podcast/116-why-hiring-a-coach-is-the-most-important-investment-youll-make-in-your-coaching-business- Patience https://www.channel4.com/programmes/patience LINKS FROM MEL:- My favourite ‘emotions in individuals' viewing https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/p0b8kmch/couples-therapy - Shame and ADHD https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m002c6bb - Being different and anxious as an Autistic person - https://www.channel4.com/programmes/are-you-autistic Free additional training for coaches with Positive Intelligence (do the test first to see what your Sabateurs are) https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/ - Discovering your values quiz (I realised my ad agency days and working with under 5's was all about loving helping people) https://drdemartini.com/pl/play?url=%2Fwhat-are-values%2F - Great book on RSD (hating people being cross with you) https://atlantic-books.co.uk/book/the-courage-to-be-disliked/ - And another one written by a brilliant ADHD podcast host https://www.sheldonpress.co.uk/titles/alex-partridge/why-does-everybody-hate-me/9781399827843/‍ ‍

We discuss the routes to becoming a psychotherapist, the length of different courses, the qualifications required and the significance of SCoPEd.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/oRvTZMX0HPo⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss how and when therapists move towards becoming a clinical supervisor. Is there a good time to become a supervisor? How will we know when we're ready to progress?To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/-XcgLYzxJxMDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

In this conversation, we speak with Rabbi Elimelech Lamdan about the roots of human suffering and the path to inner peace through honest self-reflection. Drawing from Kabbalah, psychology, and lived experience, Elimelech outlines a practical four-step process to uncover hidden emotional patterns, dissolve ego-based identity, and reconnect with a deeper sense of wholeness.The discussion bridges spirituality and modern self-awareness, offering a grounded method for transforming inner conflict into clarity, compassion, and alignment.Key Takeaways:Most emotional distress comes from unconscious beliefs about being “not enough” or “flawed.”External triggers are reflections of internal dialogue—not the true cause of suffering.Self-awareness begins with noticing emotions without judgment.Healing requires accepting inner conflict rather than avoiding it.True peace comes from reconnecting with an inherent sense of wholeness beyond ego.Where to find Elimelech Lamdan:Website: https://mabatemet.comRabbi Elimelech Lamdan Bio:Rabbi Elimelech Lamdan is the creator of Mabbat Emet (“Truthful Self-Scrutiny”), a practical approach to emotional healing that integrates Torah wisdom, psychological insight, and lived experience. Born in Israel and raised in Boston, he served in the Israeli Air Force, including as a military rabbi, where his encounters with soldiers facing fear and uncertainty shaped his understanding of human struggle.After his service, he explored therapeutic modalities such as Gestalt Therapy, Transactional Analysis, and body-mind approaches, ultimately developing his own method to address deeper emotional and spiritual patterns. A father of ten who spent decades teaching and counseling in Netivot, his work is grounded in real-life relationships rather than theory alone. He is the author of Torah Therapy and Mabbat Emet, now available internationally, and continues to guide individuals toward greater honesty, self-awareness, and inner alignment.

We discuss the increasing popularity of fortnightly psychotherapy? Is it purely for the economical reasons of the client or does a deeper psychological process lie beneath it? How do therapists tackle the issue of money with their clients but also with themselves?To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/dO0cMbt9-q8Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss how therapists decide to enter the world of psychotherapy: is it a vocation or a business decision? What lies beneath our decisions, and are we aware of them?To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/gp52zLaCduYDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the reasons why therapists might avoid taking difficult cases to supervision, which clients get missed, the supervisor - supervisee dynamic and how we all might avoid being challenged.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/mAvm9BoxB5cDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the complex issue of timing within the therapy session and therapy relationship. We look at how we can mistime and overwhelm our clients and move onto the various practicalities to consider.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/2-K5HdjLxrMDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss if it's acceptable for therapists to reveal their own vulnerabilities to clients, if we do, what can we share and what would be the clinical purpose? To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/FXL9GNGFSfQDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We explore what therapists should consider as they plan for their retirement from clinical practice: for their clients, their business and for themselves.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/97Jo-e9xYT4Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

Send a textOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreIn the 1950's Eric Berne began to develop his theories of Transactional Analysis (TA). He said that verbal communication is at the centre of human social relationships and is a transaction. He called it Transactional Analysis. This is our ingrained voice of authority, absorbed conditioning, learning and attitudes from when we were young. We were conditioned by our real parents, teachers, older people, next door neighbours, aunts and uncles and those in authority.It is a model about people and relationships - based on two notions. The first -  that we have three parts or 'ego-states' to our 'personality; secondly, that these converse with one another in 'transactions'. We each have internal models of Parents, Children and Adults within us. Those roles are played out with one another in our relationships. Many of our problems come from transactions which are unsuccessful.When you are trying to identify ego states, words are only part of the story. To analyse a transaction you need to see and feel what is being said as well, since only 7% of meaning is in the words spoken. 38% of meaning is from the way that the words are spoken and 55% is from facial expression. Beware of cultural differences in body-language or emphases that appear 'Parental'.Parent: There are two forms of Parent we can play. The Nurturing Parent is caring and concerned; often appearing as a mother-figure (men also play out that role). They seek to keep the Child contented, offering a safe haven and unconditional love to calm the Child's troubles.The Controlling (or Critical) Parent, tries to make the Child do as the parent wants them to do. They may also have negative intent,Adult: The Adult in us is the 'grown up' rational person who talks reasonably and assertively, neither trying to control nor reacting aggressively towards others. The Adult is comfortable with themself.Child: There are three types of Child we can play. The Natural Child is mostly not self-aware and is characterized by the non-speech noises they make (yahoo, whee). They like playing and are open and vulnerable. They are the curious and exploring; always trying out new stuff (often much to their Controlling Parent's annoyance). Along with the Natural Child they make up the Free Child. The Adaptive Child reacts to the world around them, either changing themselves to fit in or rebelling against the forces they feel.Conflict: Problems usually occur in crossed transactions, where each is talking to a different level of ego state. Watch out for crossed wires, as this is where conflict arises. When it happens, try to go to the state that the other person is in, to talk at the same level. For rational conversation, move yourself and the other person to the Adult level. The parent is either nurturing or controlling. Often speaks to the child in their adaptive or ‘natural' response. When both people talk as a Parent to the other's Child, their wires get crossed and conflict results. The ideal line of communication is the mature and rational Adult-Adult relationship. At the core of Berne's theory is the rule that effective transactions (ie successful communications) must be complementary. The problem: Being a Controlling Parent invites the other person into a Child state where they may conform with demands. There is also a risk that they will be an Adaptive 'naughty child' and rebel. They may also take opposing Parent or Adult states. Be a Nurturing Parent, talking at thSupport the show

We discuss the therapeutic relationship with our clients and how a therapeutic alliance begins within the attachment process. We discuss how to attune to our clients so they can build the trust to allow themselves to be all that they can be.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠https://youtu.be/nbe8UW-9uLsDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the importance of safeguarding, contracts and boundaries in this client work. We explain the Transactional Analysis concept of the Lifescript and how this, plus the identification of the client's unmet relational needs, provides vital information for the work. We also explore when to refer a client onto an alternate therapist.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠https://youtu.be/p58rcCC21WIDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss whether clients ever truly forget events from their past and the reasons why this might happen. We explain how to work therapeutically with this issue and explore the traps for therapists to avoid.To listen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠https://youtu.be/wO5ZAhIxWEgDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the ethical responsibility of therapists and the requirement to create a clinical will. We explore the intricate details of a clinical will, the role of the executor of the will, the tasks involved and how to avoid possible problems.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/gr5jcFPdp3YDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

How to cope when a colleague shouts at you and becomes parental!  In this episode I talk to Mary Gregory who shares her experience from the past.  The lesson is that timing matters, but also that you need to respond with intention, not emotionally.  The patience to allow them to vent and to allow them to exhaust the emotion is a great start. It is important to let them feel heard, but not to allow them to win.  We discuss the mechanism of Transactional Analysis and how power can affect culture, with some very interesting currency!  Mary talks about how meeting rooms can be used as a power lever. Mary Gregory is an award winning Executive Coach and author of the book Ego:Get Over Yourself & Lead.  She works with senior leaders who want to lead with authenticity, navigate complexity with clarity, and grow real, grounded confidence. Much of her work focuses on supporting women and those navigating systemic barriers, but she also coaches male leaders committed to conscious, inclusive leadership. Follow Mary Gregory on LinkedIn Chris Webber - Founder Foxleigh Commercial Performance Follow Chris on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Buy my book - Get the Elephant Out of the Room. Outsmart Difficult People at Work www.gettheelephantout.com I share my experiences and insights into various profiles of difficult people at work. Through stories and my personal experiences, I explain how you can achieve success despite them.  Receive my Newsletter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We discuss how dependency within the therapeutic relationship can remove the client's agency and autonomy.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/OZbquTvaEX4Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the ethical issue of touch in the therapy session: when it can be useful but also how boundaries can be crossed leaving therapists vulnerable to possible complaints.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/CpCh1-R0w18⁠⁠⁠Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss seating plans for different client groups, the clinical reasons for how different modalities furnish their therapy space and some possible transference issues.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/XG96Mu-3GA8⁠Do you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss what clients might expect from a therapist and how rigidity in treatment planning can hinder the therapeutic relationship.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube:https://youtu.be/HKg4BXjtp9cDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss what usually brings clients into therapy, and the human need to understand ourselvesTo listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: https://youtu.be/RsbOp_vBYaMDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

"We all have three different ego states. We have a parent ego state, we have an adult ego state, and we have a child ego state and we toggle between these three ego states all day every day."Ever wondered why you sometimes react to a minor business hurdle or a comment from your partner as if it's a life-or-death situation? In this episode, I'm sitting down with my long-time friend, Dr. Robyn McKay, to explore the psychological machinery behind our reactions. We're talking about Transactional Analysis, a modality that perfectly bridges the gap between clinical psychology and the deep work we do in spaces like The Metamorphosis.We explore the three ego states: the Parent, the Adult, and the Child, and how they dictate how you communicate with yourself and the world. For many of you, childhood wounds or ancestral healing needs may show up as a "critical parent" internal voice or a "wounded child" reaction to expansion. When you're stuck in these states, you're not leading; you're reacting. Robyn and I discuss how to shift from being "Velcro" to triggers, where every criticism sticks and drains your energy, to being "Teflon." By bringing awareness to these patterns, you can finally move into your adult power, where choice and personal creativity live.TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTSUnderstanding the psychological history behind modern healing practicesRobyn's personal pivot - what sparked her own inner child healingThe history of transactional analysisDecoding the three ego statesWhat neural networks are activated when you are in different ego statesThe parent script – responding to situations exactly the way our caregivers didRecognizing maternal patterns and the "freeze" responseHow to regulate your system so external triggers stop sticking to your energyAwareness as the ultimate tool**WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**  When you leave a review of the podcast, send us a screenshot and we'll send you a $250 credit, you can apply to anything else in my world.The Metamorphosis starts January 20th. This is my groundbreaking program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from experiencing the wealth and freedom that you desire.The Metamorphosis Method is the only Certification Program that closes the gap between spirituality and therapy to create predictable and permanent results with your clients. We start in February!Questions? Let's jump on a call CONTACT ROBYNdrrobynmckay.com Follow on InstagramListen to She{ology}CONTACT ALYSEalysebreathes.comIG @alyse_breathesinfo@alysebreathes.com

We discuss how the inner critic is the enemy of poor mental health and we provide a 7-point guide for therapists to help the client to cultivate their own self-compassion. We also highlight the importance of therapist's own self-compassion.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/zmzrDPVbWOgDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

Many people find themselves in roles that look great on paper but feel misaligned or unfulfilling in reality. In this week's episode I'm joined by Angela Rixon, founder of The Centre for Meaningful Work and author of Meaning Over Purpose to explore what meaningful work really is, why so many of us lack it, and how both individuals and leaders can create more meaning at work day-to-day. Angela shares the five pillars of meaningful work—from autonomy to impact—and we dive into simple, practical steps you can take if you've fallen out of love with your role. We also look at the powerful role managers play in helping others find meaning, and how meaning can protect us from burnout when it's balanced in a healthy way. We talk about: • What meaning is and how it differs from purpose • The five pillars of meaningful work • Practical ways to create more meaning in your current role • How leaders can build meaning within their teams • Why meaning boosts engagement—and how it can sometimes lead to burnout • A powerful real-life example of how autonomy transformed performance This is Influence & Impact for Leaders, the podcast that helps leaders like you increase your impact and build a happy and high performing team. Each episode delivers focused, actionable insights you can implement immediately, to be better at your job without working harder. Work with Carla: 1:1 Leadership Coaching with Carla – get support to help you get your voice heard at work and develop your career. Book a discovery call About Angela Rixon Angela Rixon is an award-winning leadership strategist, executive coach, and culture-transformation specialist with over 25 years' experience spanning technology, professional services, and financial sectors. A former Partner at EY and Director at CGI and Mercer, she is recognised internationally for pioneering research and frameworks that close the Purpose-to-Meaning Gap™ enabling organisations to embed meaning into leadership, culture, and performance. As Founder and CEO of The Centre for Meaningful Work Ltd, Angela helps CEOs and executive teams design human-centred cultures that perform. Her Amazon-bestselling book Meaning Over Purpose: The CEO's Strategic Blueprint for Growth and Lasting Engagement (2025) combines behavioural science and applied positive psychology to redefine how leaders drive growth through meaning. Angela's work blends corporate rigour with psychological depth. An accredited executive coach (MSc, Distinction) and Fellow of the CIPD, she integrates Transactional Analysis, Adaptive Leadership, and Systems Thinking to help leaders achieve measurable business results while fostering inclusion, wellbeing, and authenticity. Clients describe her approach as “supportive, challenging, and transformative.” A regular keynote speaker on meaningful work, inclusion, and the future of leadership, Angela is the creator of the Lead with Meaning™, Own Your Meaning™, and Meaning Metrics™ frameworks. She lives in London with her partner Tony and believes that when work works for people, people work better, and organisations thrive. Email: angela@angelarixon.com Website: thecentreformeaningfulwork.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/angelarixon

We discuss the different types of therapeutic groups, the power of group psychotherapy in the service of healing and important aspects to ensure the group runs smoothly.To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube:https://youtu.be/rqPErdj16kADo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

We discuss the different definitions of Integrative psychotherapy: 1) the amalgamation of different psychotherpeutic schools and 2) the relational approach developed by Richard Erskine based on Transactional Analysis theory. To listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-therapy-show/id1570789126To listen on You Tube: ⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/Td0ymAhBr_QDo you want to know what actually happens behind closed doors of the therapy session? Do you want to explore the mind of a master psychotherapist and demystify the therapeutic process? Do you want to know about the various models of psychotherapy and counselling and how they are implemented within the therapeutic hour? Do you want to know the makings of a professional psychotherapist and how to achieve that goal?Bob Cooke, an international Psychotherapist , Trainer and Supervisor, talks with Kellie Barratt about the world of therapy and counselling. Kellie Barratt is also a therapist working full time in private practice.These podcasts are for anyone interested in the questions above and psychotherapy in general. The podcasts are aimed at people who are curious about psychotherapy and counselling, how therapy works, and how it helps us move towards a more healthy sense of self, both mentally and spiritually. The podcasts will also be of interest to students of therapy and counselling and what it takes to be a psychotherapist and counsellor in the 21st century.Bob Cooke, who is the Founder of the Manchester Institute of Psychotherapy - UK - will through the conversations with Kellie Barratt help “demystify” the therapeutic hour and therapy session.Finally, the podcasts will also be aimed at people who might be interested in the variety of methods and techniques of the various different therapeutic models such as Transactional Analysis, Person Centred Counselling, Gestalt Psychotherapy and Integrative Psychotherapy. So please join us on this voyage of discovery and co-creative conversations.https://bobcooke.orghttps://www.kelliebarratt.co.uk#borderlinepersonalitydisorder #BPD #bpd #therapy #psychotherapy #livinglifebeinghuman #positivethoughts #positivemind #positivelife #dailymotivation #keepmovingforward #personalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness #helpothers #innerstrength #believeinyou #endthestigma #breakthesilence #talkaboutit #stopthestigma #mentalillnessawareness #anxietyrecovery #mentalhealthrecovery #anxietysupport #createyourownhappiness #selfhelp #anxiety #anxietyawareness #recoveryispossible #healing #gratitude #selfcare #selflove #endthestigma #mindfulness

Ever found yourself pleading “Pleeease, come on!” or threatening consequences? In this episode, we're diving into a simple, eye-opening framework that reveals why we slip into those moments, and how tiny shifts in our tone and presence can completely transform everyday conversations into parenting battles. From school-run stand-offs to bedtime drama, you'll start to see these patterns everywhere and laugh at how human we all are. Join me as we explore the three ego states of transactional analysis (Parent, Child, and Adult) and learn how to stay in that grounded, calm, connected space - even when your child is doing everything they can to pull you into the pit. If you want clearer communication, fewer power struggles, and a home where boundaries and kindness co-exist, this episode hands you the tools to get there - starting today.  

In this unapologetically raw and transformative episode, we dive straight into the psychology of desire, power, and the hidden emotional contracts that shape how we love, lead, and express who we truly are.Drawing from Transactional Analysis, Re-decision work, and a deep, grounded understanding of human behavior through his background in public health and business, Matthew brings over a decade of guiding people out of the unconscious scripts they inherited in childhood — the scripts that quietly dictate their relationships, their leadership, their sexuality, and their sense of worth.This episode invites you to meet your desires with clarity, courage, and compassion.Together, we dive into:What is an emotional contractHow childhood patterns shape your adult desiresHealthy vs. performative vs. suppressed desireWhat kink, consent, and power reveal about everyday relationships Breaking old scripts and living the life that truly fits youEpisode Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠Matthew ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Matthew ⁠Instagram⁠

Hey, Survivor! Have you ever been told you're too much?  It's easy to get caught up in drama and what has happened to you in your narcissistic and toxic relationships; however, it's important to explore other aspects of what's going on:  the state you're in; the state they're in; what's happening holistically.  In this episode, I'm sharing an exercise, based on psychiatrist Eric Berne's “Transactional Analysis,” from a trauma healing group session that I recently attended.  And I've included 5 benefits for survivors.  You're not too much.  You are enough! If you, or someone you know, need help reclaiming your power, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are.

Two men sit behind bars. One sees mud, the other sees stars. What we remember matters! We are called to NOT keep a ‘record of wrong’, a ‘pound of flesh’. This is important information to understand as a leader, since what we hold onto tends to come back around. Transactional Analysis is the study of PsychologyCommunication. Transactional Analysis reminds us that communication is essentially a “stimulus” and then a “response”, that in essence is communication. There is Interpersonal Communication- communication between 2 or more people. There is also Intrapersonal which is the way we talk to ourselves. Today’s show is based on how we talk to ourselves. This self-talk is what causes depression, suicide and most of the angsts of the world that many of us struggle with. The senseless loss of so much in Kerrville, Texas, the pain of other losses and the unfairness of life- causes many people to stuff, stuff, stuff…then snap! Leaders remember the right things. Tune into Like It Matters radio for an hour of power as Mr. Black helps listeners unpack their thoughts and feelings. 2 men sit behind bars. One see mud, the other sees stars. Be sure to Like and Follow us on our facebook page!www.facebook.com/limradio Instagram @likeitmattersradioTwitter @likeitmatters Get daily inspiration from our blog www.wayofwarrior.blog Learn about our non profit work at www.givelikeitmatters.com Check out our training website www.LikeItMatters.Net Always available online at www.likeitmattersradio.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We conclude our conversation with Peter Seal, the author of ‘The Self-Help Delusion: A Manifesto For Genuine Change', a self-development book that seeks to help the reader evolve their way of thinking and inspire real and long-lasting life changes.   Once again, Antony and Peter discuss a range of topics, this time including anger/fear, hypnosis, NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), narratives, roles, beliefs, love and happiness.   Are us humans really just making it all up as we go along? Listen on…   We hope you enjoy the show! If so, please subscribe, like, share etc...   Feedback to lifeandlifeonlypod@gmail.com   Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lifeandlife75   Twitter https://twitter.com/lifeonly75   Support the show at: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/antonyrotunno OR https://www.buymeacoffee.com/antonyrotunno   Antony's website (blog, music, podcasts, life coaching)  https://www.antonyrotunno.com   Antony's John Lennon podcast https://glassoniononjohnlennon.com   If you are interested in very affordable Life Coaching, or know someone who might be, you can contact Antony on lifeandlifeonlypod@gmail.com   episode links Peter's book https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25593619-the-self-help-delusion   What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming? https://practicalpie.com/neuro-linguistic-programming/   An introduction to Transactional Analysis and recommended book https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByUZI-DCiSM https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/49176.Games_People_Play   The Art of Happiness https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38210.The_Art_of_Happiness   Derren Brown on hypnosis and happiness (Joe Rogan podcast) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFeL7XGwJTs https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3DigsvZCXo   Marlon Brando on life and acting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slU3ATbH1Vg   The true scale of the universe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iy7NzjCmUf0

Have you ever felt like your business success defines your worth? That every low-engagement post, failed launch, or quiet inbox is proof that you're not good enough? You're not alone. Many entrepreneurs unknowingly fall into a psychological trap known as stamp collecting—accumulating emotional “proof” that they're failing.In this episode, I break down how this subconscious pattern keeps business owners stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, burnout, and self-sabotage. Drawing from Transactional Analysis, I'll show you how to recognize these hidden beliefs, break free from them, and finally start creating from a place of confidence rather than fear. If you're tired of feeling like your business is a never-ending test of your worth, this conversation is for you.Learn more about:Stamp collection - https://deniseglee.com/when-business-becomes-personal-the-self-worth-trap/Being able to give and receive love - https://deniseglee.com/emotional-generosity-how-to-give-freely-without-burning-out/Enjoyed this episode?Subscribe to never miss an updateShare with others who might benefitLeave a review to help others find usStay Connected with Me!Visit DeniseGLee.com to:

182 How to Coach Conflict How do you support clients when they're experiencing conflict? In this episode, we explore one of the most common yet complex topics in coaching, conflict. Whether it's workplace disputes, family tensions, or internal struggles, conflict is something that touches all of us. But here's the thing: conflict isn't necessarily bad. In fact, it can be an opportunity for learning, boundary-setting, and growth. We discuss how conflict often mirrors internal struggles, meaning that coaching is less about "fixing" external conflicts and more about helping clients understand their reactions, needs, and values. We also unpack common coaching challenges, like when clients become stuck in storytelling loops, unable to move past a conflict, or when their deep need to be liked makes them avoid difficult conversations altogether. We introduce practical coaching approaches, including values exploration, emotional regulation, and Transactional Analysis models to help clients process conflict in a productive way. We also highlight the importance of systemic influences, acknowledging that some conflicts aren't easily "resolved" due to power imbalances, cultural biases, or workplace hierarchies. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of how to coach conflict effectively, helping clients shift from frustration to clarity, from avoidance to confidence, and from emotional distress to empowerment.   Step-by-Step Guide: How to Coach Conflict Recognise the Signs of Conflict Ask the client how the conflict is showing up in their life—physically, mentally, and emotionally. Look for storytelling loops or repeated frustrations that suggest unresolved conflict. Help Clients Name Their Emotions Use an emotions wheel to go beyond surface-level feelings. Ask, What emotions are present in this conflict? Explore Underlying Values & Needs Conflict often arises when core values clash—help clients identify what's really at stake for them. Ask, What value of yours is being challenged here? Introduce Perspective Shifts Encourage the client to see the conflict from another person's viewpoint. Ask, If you were in their shoes, what might they be feeling? Use Transactional Analysis (TA) to Identify Conflict Patterns Is the client reacting from a Parent, Adult, or Child ego state? Help them shift to an Adult-Adult communication style. Help the Client Explore Possible Outcomes Instead of focusing only on “winning” or “losing,” explore multiple ways forward. Ask, What are the possible outcomes, and which one aligns best with your values? Support Emotional Regulation If emotions are heightened, introduce breathing techniques or grounding exercises to bring the client back to a calm state. Remind them that conflict resolution is easier when approached with a regulated nervous system. Encourage Clear and Assertive Communication Guide the client to express their needs without blame. Role-play difficult conversations if needed. Recognise When Walking Away is the Best Option Some conflicts can't be resolved—help clients assess whether letting go is the healthiest choice. Ask, What would happen if you chose to step away from this conflict? Check for Closure Ensure the client has clarity on their next steps, whether it's having a conversation, setting a boundary, or shifting their perspective.   Five Coaching Questions to Help Clients with Conflict: What is it about this conflict that feels most challenging for you? If you had full permission to express yourself, what would you say? What values of yours are being challenged in this situation? What part of this conflict is within your control? If this conflict was an opportunity for growth, what might it be teaching you?   Key Lessons Learned: Conflict is often about unmet needs or clashing values – Helping clients identify these creates clarity. Not all conflict is about resolution – Some clients just need to process emotions and learn to tolerate discomfort. Storytelling loops can keep clients stuck – Repeating the same conflict story may reinforce limiting beliefs. Transactional Analysis (TA) is a useful framework – Ego states (Parent, Adult, Child) help clients understand conflict dynamics. Coaching is about empowerment, not fixing – The goal is to help clients navigate conflict in a way that aligns with their values. Systemic factors can influence conflict – Coaches need to be mindful of biases, hierarchies, and cultural barriers. Walking away is sometimes the best resolution – Helping clients explore different outcomes empowers them to make choices.   Key Takeaways Normalise conflict—it's a natural part of life and can be a learning opportunity. Focus on self-awareness—help clients explore their emotions, triggers, and beliefs around conflict. Use coaching models like Transactional Analysis (TA) to uncover deeper relational patterns. Encourage clients to name their values—often, conflict arises when a value feels compromised. Support clients in making empowered decisions—whether it's resolving the issue or choosing to walk away.   Timestamps 00:13 – 00:46: Introduction—why coaching conflict is such an important skill 00:47 – 02:07: How conflict shows up in coaching conversations 02:34 – 03:55: Conflict as a reflection of internal struggles 04:21 – 05:44: The importance of normalising conflict in coaching 06:13 – 07:39: How values drive conflict and why understanding them is key 08:09 – 09:34: How storytelling loops can keep clients stuck in conflict 10:03 – 11:46: The role of Transactional Analysis (TA) in conflict coaching 12:16 – 13:59: Recognising when a conflict can't be resolved and what to do next 14:39 – 15:59: The impact of systemic influences on workplace and social conflicts 16:27 – 17:55: Exploring whether walking away is a valid resolution 18:50 – 19:49: Final reflections and key takeaways   Keywords: How to coach conflict, Coaching techniques for conflict resolution, Transactional Analysis and conflict coaching, Helping clients manage conflict, Coaching difficult conversations, How to support clients with conflict, Understanding values in conflict, Managing workplace conflict through coaching, Emotional intelligence in conflict coaching, Coaching clients stuck in conflict, Links: Coaching Business Lounge (Pricing Strategy Resources): www.igcompany.co.uk/businesslounge Take the Coaching Course Quiz: www.mycoachingcourse.com Emotions Coaching Practitioner Training: www.igcompany.co.uk/emotionscoaching COACHING TRAINING LEVEL 5 https://www.igcompany.co.uk/l5-diploma COACHING TRAINING LEVEL 7 https://www.igcompany.co.uk/l7-diploma   Purchase our bestselling book ”Deciding to Coach”: https://amzn.to/3UvUe9r Neurodivergent inclusive coaching programme: http://www.igcompany.co.uk/nd Resources: Take our FREE Quiz 'Which Coaching Course is Right for Me?' https://www.mycoachingcourse.com/ Join The Coaching Crowd Community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheCoachingCrowd/ In Good Company (UK) https://www.igcompany.co.uk/ Check out our YouTube Channel https://bit.ly/378rY9a Check out our Instagram https://www.Instagram.com/the_coaching_crowd Work with Jo Wheatley as your Emotions Coach https://www.jowheatley.com Connect with Jo Wheatley on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jo_wheatley_coaching/  Connect with Jo Wheatley on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/joannewheatley Work with Zoe Hawkins as your Courageous Leadership Coach https://www.zoe-hawkins.com  Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Facebook https://facebook.com/zoehawkinscoach/ Connect with Zoe Hawkins on LinkedIn https://uk.linkedin.com/in/zoehawkinscoach Connect with Zoe Hawkins on Instagram www.instagram.com/zoehawkinscoach

Shannon and Dr. Pat discuss how Shannon was awakened to the healing path and how it led to her helping people uncover the mystery of their own birth trauma imprint and how it affects their lives. Watch Shannon and Dr. Pat Livestream Here!

This week's show is with Rod Boothroyd. Rod brings more than two decades' experience of working with men and women to his current work as a Healing The Shadow practitioner. Rod's career in the area of human potential started with his training in Transactional Analysis psychotherapy at the Manchester Institute for Psychotherapy in 1999. Since then he has taken further training in Integrative Psychotherapy, worked with the ManKind Project UK and Ireland (where he was a Primary Integration Training leader), and researched in depth the art of working with, and reintegrating, the human shadow. He is now working as a one-to-one coach and therapist, and is also a supervisor with Healing The Shadow, an organisation devoted to emotional healing and the development of human potential. In this episode, Lian and Rod delve into the concept of the 'sovereign within' and its transformative implications for leadership, personal growth, and soul awakening. They explore the essence of heart-centred leadership - including the importance of compassion and self-love, they share insights into the archetypes of inflated and deflated sovereigns - highlighting their manifestations in everyday life and the deeper insecurities they conceal, reflect on the pivotal role of purpose in anchoring a strong sense of self, and talk about the dynamics of childhood experiences and how these early influences sculpt our ability to and our path of embodying sovereignty. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment wherever you are listening or in any of our other spaces to engage. What you'll learn from this episode: Heart-centred leadership begins with awareness and self-compassion - We need to see and nurture the inner child and the growing sovereign within. Recognising shadow archetypes deepens self-awareness - Inflated sovereigns, driven by insecurities, and deflated sovereigns, hindered by self-worth struggles, offer powerful insights into our behaviours and relationships. Purpose and self-love are the cornerstones of sovereignty - by embracing self-acceptance and aligning with purpose, we create a foundation for self-discovery and leadership that can transform not only our own lives but those around us. Resources and stuff spoken about: Rod's websites: https://www.htsorganisation.co.uk https://www.strongfreemen.co.uk Rod's Books: Finding the King Within: How to Access and Embody the Power of Your Inner King Archetype King Warrior Magician Lover: A Guide to the Male Archetypes Updated for the 21st Century The book Rod mentioned on relationships: Us by Terrence Real Join UNIO, the Academy of Sacred Union. This is for the old souls in this new world… Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth. Be Mythical Join our mailing list for soul stirring goodness: https://www.bemythical.com/moonly Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth: https://www.bemythical.com/unio Go Deeper: https://www.bemythical.com/godeeper Follow us: Facebook Instagram TikTok YouTube Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode released each week here and on most podcast platforms - and video too on YouTube. If you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your device every week automagically. (that way you'll never miss a show).  

— To all men who resonate with the Father Wound, remember that you are enough, and you are not responsible for your father's behavior or choices. Acknowledging the impact of the Father Wound is the first step toward healing. It's important to confront your experiences and actively pursue growth and change. Seek out coaching, engage in self-reflection, and build supportive relationships with others who understand your journey. Embrace the healing process as a vital journey toward emotional freedom and well- being. Each step you take, no matter how small, brings you closer to a healthier future. You have the strength within you to overcome these challenges and cultivate the life and relationships you deserve. Valeria interviews Adam Majrouh — He is a dedicated Father Wound Coach who is passionate about helping men heal their Father Wound and achieve personal transformation.  As a father, grandfather, and father-in-law, he brings a wealth of experience to his coaching practice. With over 30 years of coaching and mentoring experience, including 16 years specifically focused on Father Wound Coaching, he offers a unique perspective, having personally experienced and healed from his own Father Wound. His firsthand experience allows him to provide personalized guidance and support, helping clients find peace, unlock their purpose, transform their finances, and attract meaningful relationships. Through one-to-one coaching sessions, Adam creates a safe and non-judgmental space for growth, exploration, and change. Adam equips his clients with practical tools and strategies to navigate their healing journey, empowering them to take control of their lives. His coaching has a profound impact on clients' relationships, careers, and overall well-being, enabling them to discover a sense of peace and fulfillment. Driven by his personal journey of overcoming obstacles and achieving success, Adam has dedicated himself to studying a diverse array of modalities and techniques related to personal growth, including Transactional Analysis, Gestalt, NLP, and Applied Psychology. He also has a deep interest in spirituality, which plays a significant role in shaping his coaching approach. In 2014, Adam earned three coaching certifications—Practitioner of Excellence, Strategic Intervention Coach, and Marriage Education Coach—through the esteemed Tony Robbins and Cloe Madanes Centre for Strategic Intervention's Coach Training Programmes. His life has transformed remarkably through his roles as a father, grandfather, and father-in-law, igniting a commitment to assist other men who may be experiencing similar pain. This purpose led him to specialize in Father Wound Coaching, providing support to men seeking healing and inner peace. For those ready to tap into his expertise, Adam invites you to book a FREE Discovery Session now! He looks forward to connecting with you! To learn more about Adam Majrouh and his work, please visit: https://adammajrouh.com/

“The greatest story out there is the story that we tell ourselves every day on how we'd like to live our life.” This is a discovery Dr. Aman Bhonsle has made after many years of connecting with others in meaningful and profound ways. As a Psychosocial Analyst, Youth Mentor, Relationship Counsellor, and Trainer in Applied Transactional Analysis, he continues to hone his comprehensive approach to therapy… Dr. Bhonsle is on a mission to help people take mindful charge of their unique stories using culture-sensitive, logical, practical, and evidence-based methods. His approach is not just theoretical, but practical and applicable to everyday life. Currently, he heads the Mindset & Human Technology Project and Workshop Developments at the Heart to Heart Counselling Centre in Mumbai, India. He is also a widely published author, recently releasing a Transactional Analysis handbook titled Essential TA: A Common Sense Psychology.  What can we do to be more aware of our actions towards ourselves and others? What does it mean to truly dismantle our pain and trauma? Join the podcast now to hear Dr. Bhonsle's intriguing insights! In this discussion, we cover:  Factors that influence human relationships and how to identify them. The benefits of recognizing your role in various situations.  What Transactional Analysis says about the human condition. The power of taking ownership of your pain.  How to name and detach from “ego states.” To stay connected with Dr. Bhonsle and his innovative work, follow along here! Episode also available on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/38oMlMr

In this episode of the Just Schools Podcast, Jon Eckert interviews Rachel Johnson, the CEO of PiXL in the UK. They discuss PiXL's mission to improve student outcomes by supporting leaders in schools and highlight key challenges faced by school leaders today. Johnson shares insights into overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, setting boundaries, and creating ownership. The conversation covers practical tools for healthy communication and empowering leaders to think deeply and make transformative changes in their schools. The Just Schools Podcast is brought to you by the Baylor Center for School Leadership. Each week, we'll talk to catalytic educators who are doing amazing work. Be encouraged. Join us for Just Leadership on February 3rd at Baylor University, a one-day professional learning event for school administrators – from instructional coaches to superintendents – that focuses on catalyzing change as a leadership team. Register Now! Connect with us: Baylor MA in School Leadership EdD in K-12 Educational Leadership Jon Eckert LinkedIn Twitter: @eckertjon Center for School Leadership at Baylor University: @baylorcsl   Jon Eckert: Today we are here with Rachel Johnson, a friend that we've made through mutual friends in the UK who's doing amazing work. And I just want to jump right in to what you're learning and then we'll back into more of what you do. So what are you learning through PiXL? So you can give us a quick introduction to what PiXL is and then what you're learning from the leaders that you're supporting. Rachel Johnson: Yeah. So PiXL stands for Partners in Excellence. We work with two and a half thousand schools across the UK. And what we're learning is how important leadership is in the conversation in school improvement. So we believe in improving life chances and outcomes for every young person irrespective of background or status or finance. But behind all of that is the ability for brilliant people in schools to lead well. And that's the conversation people want to have now more and more than perhaps they ever have because people are fascinated with how they can be better, how they can thrive, what's stopping them thrive. And that is the attention that I've been giving a lot of my work recently around that issue. Jon Eckert: So love that mission. We always push at the center for moving from some students to all students and now to each student, what does it mean to do that for each student so that thriving for each student is powerful. In order to have those thriving students, you have to have thriving leaders. So what are some of the things, I think you mentioned you have 3,200 people in leadership courses, what are some of those takeaways that are keeping people from thriving that you're finding? Rachel Johnson: Yeah, we're finding a lot of very common things. And actually it doesn't matter what level they are in school leadership, it's the same issues. So things like people pleasing, which is getting in the way of leadership and decision-making, not being able to hold a boundary, sometimes not having a boundary. So there is no difference between work and life. There is no stopping. We just carry on going. I think that's a real issue. We're finding people not really knowing are structured to have difficult conversations or as I like to call them, crucial conversations. They shouldn't be difficult, but the lack of confidence in having those conversations. And then I think other things like how to create buy-in, how to get momentum, how to have that very delicate balance as Jim Collins calls it, between the brutal facts and the unwavering hope. So what does that actually look like on the ground? How can I do both at the same time without going for hopium where you're drugging people on things that can't actually happen or being so honest and brutal that nobody wants to follow you because it sounds so depressing? So what does the reality of that look like in school leadership? And what we are finding is across nearly three and a half thousand people on our leadership courses, they're all struggling with those kind of issues. Jon Eckert: No, that's powerful. I think one of the questions that I'm always asking leaders because it's a hard one is, and I think it comes from Patrick Lencioni, but I'm not sure. It could be from another theorist, they all start to run together a bit. I don't think it's John Maxwell, I don't think it's Jim Collins, but is for who are you willing to make enemies? What ideas are you willing to make enemies over? So what are those things that like, "Hey, this is a non-negotiable for me." And I think a lot of educators don't think about that because we have a people pleasing sense of what we want to do. And so that's a really hard conversation to have because I agree, we tend to lean toward hopium. I think that's a great term for what we do. And so how do you get people into those crucial conversations? I like that reframe as well. But how do you get them into that when you know that there's kind of a natural resistance among a lot of educators to those kinds of conversations? Rachel Johnson: It is really difficult, but not having the conversation doesn't make the issue go away. And I think as soon as people realize, "It's actually making me miserable. My department is underperforming, therefore young people are underperforming all because I'm not courageous enough to have the conversation." And what we find using Susan Scott's model of fierce conversations is when you give them that seven-part model of how to have the conversation in one minute where you say your peace but you stay in adult, as Transactional Analysis would call it. So you're not giving it a kind of sly interpretation. You're not giving a mean tone to your voice. You're being absolutely clear and absolutely kind, but absolutely straight, then people respond usually really well. But I think one of the things that is most disconcerting for leaders and educators is you have to listen to what the other person says. It isn't just about us delivering our truth and how we perceive things. It's about being quiet long enough to hear what they're saying and maybe more importantly what they're not saying. And so it's fascinating to me that what is stopping us sometimes is the courage. But this is really affecting our schools. And certainly in the UK, in a recent survey that one of our big agencies did called Teacher Tapp, 64% of teachers said they had worked or did work in a toxic environment in school. That's a lot of people calling their environment where we should be seeing young people thrive, and our leaders and our teachers are saying it's toxic. So something's going wrong somewhere. And what stops us dealing with this I think is the lack of courage and the lack of tools to be able to know how to approach it, which is why that's where we put our weight in the practical tools that can help people unlock this. And people say things like, "We feel liberated, transformed. It's like a weight off and we feel like we can do it." And that is the kind of feedback we get regularly. And I think that is really very, very important that people are helped to do these difficult things. Jon Eckert: Really, really good stuff there. It reminded me of two things in what you said because you've shared a lot. And I love how much we've into right here off the bat. The book High Conflict by Amanda Ripley. I don't know if you've seen that book. It came out in 2021, so it's been out for a while. She introduces this concept, which I think is what you're getting at in that one minute conversation a little bit in the way we listen. So it's not her idea again, but this is where I came to the idea. It's the idea of looping, that when you're in conflict with someone, the key is when you're receiving the feedback from the person where they're telling you how they feel, where they're upset, where they're disagreeing with you, you have to listen, then you have to distill what's being said. Then you have to check for understanding and then question, "Did I get it right?" So that you're repeating back. Because I think sometimes, at least in the United States, some of the conflict is due to poor communication, and that looping provides an opportunity to correct that communication error and it's a form of empathy because it's taking on that perspective, did I hear you right? Now, just active listening, you can really alienate people with active listening skills without being genuinely curious. So that's one of the things when you're doing that, you can't do it in a formulaic way that feels like you're just jumping through hoops because that's really alienating to the person doing it. Does that square with what you found or am I thinking about something differently than you are? Rachel Johnson: I think what's fascinating is that, and this is what I do really for my job now, is I take lots of different things like that from High Conflict from Chris Voss and his hostage negotiation techniques, crisis communication that we have over here with a fierce conversation and I kind of mush it all together in one model. And so what all of these people are saying, including Nancy Kline who's written brilliant work on listening and thinking is we mustn't overdo it when we talk to people. We mustn't kind of interpret what they're saying and then tell them what they're thinking. We have to ask great questions. We have to be comfortable with silence and let the silence do the heavy lifting. Most of us are not comfortable with that. We have to summarize like you've said and say at the end, "Is that right?" And if the person says, "No, that's not right," that's the opening of the conversation, not the end of it. That's when we say, "Okay, great. What did I not summarize well? What have I not understood? Tell me?" We've got to be more curious and less judgmental. But because I think educators are so used to making judgments, because that's literally our job a lot of the time is making judgments on grades, on behavior, on progress, to not make judgments on fellow adults, it's sometimes really hard. Jon Eckert: I always say educators are way more gracious with students than they are with each other. And- Rachel Johnson: Or themselves. Jon Eckert: Yeah. Oh. And typically that lack of graciousness to others is because of the lack of graciousness to self. I think one of the key points you said, and you mentioned earlier in tone when you asked that question, "What did I not get right?" You can say, "What did I not get right?" In a very curious way. Or, "What did I not get right?" With the eye roll. And then you've either closed off the conversation or you've opened it. And I think the tone and the facial expression goes a long way to that, which is why I think we have to have this interpersonal connection. If you're doing this over text or you're doing it over email, it's pretty doomed to fail. I don't know. Would you agree with that, that this has to be kind of face-to-face as much as possible? Rachel Johnson: Yeah. I think a lot happens on Zoom these days or on Teams, which is difficult. And I think that is manageable if you get your tone right, if you get your eye contact right. I think one of the most damaging things in communication with anybody is the not listening, as you've mentioned, and the tone. So making it sound like a judgment. But the other thing I think is really difficult is when we speak in ulterior transactions. So the conversation we're having is not the conversation we're thinking. And people can smell it a mile off, can't they? I think of all kinds of situations at home where I say to my children like, "Oh, did you not have time to tidy your bedroom?" And what I'm actually saying is, "You're absolute slobs. You round here making a mess of my house." And they can hear the criticism and then they say, "Are you having a go at me mum?" And then I go, "No, I don't know what you're talking about." And that's dishonest. And I think we fall into that a few times when we are not courageous enough to have the real conversation. So I think that's another trap we can fall into. Jon Eckert: Right. I think I had a couple of those conversations with a daughter and a wife this weekend potentially, so that I need to go back and do some correcting. So thank you for that. One other thing you mentioned earlier was, and I think it's a chapter in, I think it's in your first book, about getting buy-in. One of the things that I've been pushing on here, and I'm curious to hear if there's a cultural difference here potentially. I found Gen Zs and millennials in the US, they do not want to buy-in to things because it sounds like an idea is being sold that they're just supposed to get on board with. And they don't do that. And I almost say that to their credit because they want to co-own what they're doing. And so buy-in is not something that they're interested in. They want to own it with you sometimes in ways that make it way better if we do that. Do you find that in the UK that there's less interest in buying in and more of an interest in kind of co-owning the work? Or is that still something that works relatively well in the UK, trying to get buy-in? Rachel Johnson: I think you're absolutely right, and I think this new generation are very different and I think they don't want to do it the way we did it. We wore tiredness and exhaustion like a trophy, like a medal. "Look how knackered I am, look how late I was up doing all my work." They look at that and go, "I don't want that. I want to have a sabbatical. I want to have a life. I want to go to the gym. I want to do what I want to do." So I think the way we are talking about buy-in needs to change. But I also think the way we get buy-in needs to change. We, I think have thought buy-in means, "Here's my idea, here's what we are doing, join me in what I'm doing." And that isn't really genuine buy-in. Buy-in is saying, "What is the problem we're trying to solve? Let's get people around the table, listen to really healthy conflict within a boundary where we feel safe to be able to disagree." All that psychological safety stuff by Amy Edmondson, it's crucial. It's not easy, but it's crucial. And then I think people do buy-in when they're heard. I think all these things we're talking about are linked. If I'm ignored, I'm not going to buy-in whether it's a great idea or not, because you're not hearing me. So I think we have to create more time to be heard and to hear. But I think one of the issues we have in leadership, particularly in education is we're always in such a rush. That hurry-up driver like, "Let's get everything done yesterday driver," can stop us really engaging and listening. And so where we can go fast, we sometimes do, and I think we lose a lot in that, especially this new generation who want to be heard, want to think things through, want to be well-researched. Great, that can really benefit us, but we have to give it time. Jon Eckert: Well, and again, leadership's always going to be messy and it can either be messy on the front end where you all own, where you're going together or it's going to be messy on the back end. So I'd much rather have it be messy on the front end. That just takes some patience and some ability to avoid falling victim to the tyranny of the urgent where we constantly throw one change after another at people in a way that doesn't actually produce what we want because we're too impatient to see it happen. So I'm curious how you got to this work. So this amazing work that you're doing through PiXL, which we can get more into PiXL in a little bit, but you personally, how did you end up writing these books, doing the podcasts, building out being a catalyst at PiXL to do this kind of work with leaders, but where did that come from? Rachel Johnson: So I think it started fairly young really when I was, my dad led a church and he was a leader in schools and so was my mom. So I watched all of that all of my life. But I was kind of old before my age really, and I always wanted to lead something. So I did Sunday school when I was 10, teaching three-year olds. I always took on more responsibility. And so what I wanted when I was 13 and 14 was to work out what does leadership look like? How can I be a better version of me? How can I make change happen? And apart from reading people that you've mentioned, like John Maxwell, there wasn't an awful lot for people my age. And so I never had anything age appropriate. So I read all the adult stuff. And I was looking back at my old journals actually yesterday. I was clearing out the loft and I look in my journals at me at 13 and go, "There she is, there's the person I am now. There, I can see her so clearly when I look." But it wasn't usual back then. And so I was a bit different and did different things, but I was absolutely committed to leadership. And so from that point on really, wherever I was I wanted to lead. And it wasn't that I was bothered about promotion or position or title or money. I'm not bothered about any of those things. I want to go where I can be to make the biggest difference. And so for me, leadership is where you make the biggest difference, where you could have the agency to make the difference. And for me, that has become the driving force really to try and do good in the world, to try and help people create their own change. So yes, that's where it started, very young. Jon Eckert: Love that. And so now at PiXL, what do you try to do organizationally? You gave us a little bit of what PiXL stands for, but how are you doing that and what different avenues in different countries? I know you have a number of ways you're trying to serve leaders who want to become the kind of leaders you wanted to become as a young person. Rachel Johnson: Yeah. So we do conferences, we did big conferences in the UK and those are hugely attended. We work with different types of leaders. We have two podcasts, PiXL Pearls, which are just 10 minutes leadership reflection. So not heavy, but just a moment of reflection to think about our own leadership. And then we have the PiXL leadership book club where we take non-educational school books because that's another really important thing of mine, to look outside of education, not always within. And so I interviewed two school leaders about a non-educational leadership book and how they've applied those messages into their context. And that's the kind of thing I'm interested in. I'm interested in looking at what other people in the world are doing and how we can take that from marketing or that from branding or that from hostage negotiation and how we can turn our schools around based on the lessons that've been learned elsewhere. So that's become a really big thing. Now I write all kinds of things on that. The books which I wrote that two have come out already, the chapters in those are all of the things that I asked our leaders, "What do you struggle with?" And that's what they said. And so I wrote the chapters for them really to try and help us all get a little bit more unstuck. Because we all get stuck and sometimes it's too difficult to find a great big book and read all the way through it when you haven't got time. So it's really short, bite-sized chunks to help get us unstuck. And so with that and working and with how we have resources and strategies, a whole range of things to help school leaders get the support they need. But I think one of the most important things we've just started doing is named after the book, we have something called Time to Think where leaders are able to book time with my team to just think a few ideas. We're not going to talk, they're going to book 15 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 minutes. And that time is for them to talk through their ideas, for us to ask questions to help them get clarity, but for them to leave more empowered than they came in. And what school leaders are telling us is they don't have enough time to think. It happens on holidays, in the mornings, in the middle of the night. And it shouldn't happen then, it should happen in working hours too. But sometimes people need a bit of a helping hand to get there. So that's one of the most exciting things we're doing at the minute, creating that time to think and walking with people as they do that. Jon Eckert: I love that. I tell people when they start masters or doctoral programs at Baylor that the biggest gift we're giving you is time to think through what you're doing with the kinds of books that you're talking about. I totally agree, we need to look at education, but we need to look beyond education. So I love that conversation you're having with school leaders about books. Everything you described from the PiXL Pearls to everything else is trying to give people this catalyzing force to spend more time thinking and just carving out that space is a huge gift. So I think you mentioned that you primarily work in the UK, but that you have some connection into 46 different countries. Are there things you're seeing that feel like they work cross-culturally, like, "Hey, everyone is dealing with this." Because I know most of our listeners are in the United States and we can spend way too much time navel-gazing at our challenges and opportunities here. I'm wondering those conversations that you've had where they identify challenges that leaders have, are there any things there that you're like, "Hey, this feels like a common challenge. It does not matter where it is. This is..." Maybe it's the Time to Think, but if it's something other than that as well. What are some of those challenges you're seeing that cut across contexts? Rachel Johnson: Well, how I would kind of evidence that really is it's the podcasts that have gone all over the world in different countries. And we haven't really pushed those out. We've had them in the UK and they've gone everywhere through Apple or Spotify. But the ones that are most listened to, that's what's really fascinating. The biggest episodes are Dare to Lead with Brené Brown. So clearly if that's our leading episode, it's because people don't have courage like we've touched upon. The other one that is massive is the People Pleasing one, which is based on a book by Emma Reid Terrell called Please Yourself and is around the real problems of people pleasing. That's been another massive hitter. And then the third one, which has been a really big hitter, is based on Cal Newport's work on Deep Work and Time To Think. So if that's the three places where people are going across all of the people who listen to our podcasts. And I think in total there's about 195,000 downloads now maybe. I think that says something about where people's attention is, that's what they're craving. And I think we should listen to that because I think these things are quite deep-rooted and I think people don't find solutions to how to handle those three things either. Jon Eckert: Well, I love Brené Brown, I love Cal Newport. I need to read the people pleasing book, so. Rachel Johnson: Wonderful. Jon Eckert: I'm getting good recommendations. Yeah. The Slow Productivity by Cal Newport that just came out is kind of the latest manifestation. I still think Deep Work is his best book, but Slow Productivity I've worked into some of my classes because I do think this idea and his premise there is that we do less things, work at a natural pace and obsess over quality. That's how we provide the human value that is going to become increasingly value as AI and other things automate other pieces. It's what are we uniquely suited to build and do? And that's really to me, the extension of deep work. That's the critical component. And you have to have time to think because- Rachel Johnson: Yeah, you have to have time to think. And then you kind of think, why are we not doing deep work? Why are we overstretched? And I think it comes down to what I would call now toxic productivity. I think when you have a profession full of people who love to be efficient and love to-do lists and tick things off and feel great about themselves, the danger is we become addicted to productivity. We can't rest, we can't stop, we can't switch off. We have to be doing something productive. We even monetize our hobbies for goodness's sake because we can't do them for free, because that's a waste of time. It is quite astonishing. And we are obsessed with adding things, not taking things away. So I don't speak to many leaders who say, "We're reducing our efforts by half because we don't think it's working. So these five things are going and these five things will replace them." They should add more things. No wonder we're all frazzled, so. Jon Eckert: Well, and social media has turned us into the product. So our attention is what is demanded and that is what is being sold. And that's new and I think devastating for especially adolescents who are coming into leadership, those 13-year-olds that dreamed about leading the way you do. "Oh, I can do that through my followership on this as I sell products for someone else." And so you become a conduit for other corporations to grab other people through you. It's not real leadership. And so I worry about, I do not want this to happen, but my email box, I worry that I will be getting AI-generated emails into the box. I will then have AI-generating responses, and I'll just be a spectator watching AI talk to AI which by definition, Darren Speaksma says this all the time. AI is consensus because all it is scraping from large language models. It is not wisdom. To get wisdom, you need the human. And that's the point of deep work. How do we pursue joy through truth and love? How do we do this and this? And AI just, that's not what AI is designed to do. It can summarize, it can collect, it can scrape. But that's the part that I'm like, "Oh." And that's the life-giving work. And so Greg McCown, UK guy, Essentialism, that was the book. And then it became how do I? I've reduced all the small rocks out of the jar and I've just got big rocks and now the rocks are too much. And I feel like that's where we're at. So I love his work as well. So based on all that, those common challenges that we see, where do you see hope? Where are you most hopeful? Rachel Johnson: I'm hopeful that people want the conversation. I'm hopeful that in a room of thousands of leaders, I can say, "Put your hand up if you're a people pleaser." I've been a recovering people pleaser since 2020. I often say to people, I went into recovery in March 2020 when I read that book, Please Yourself by Emma Reid Terrell. And thought, "Oh my goodness, I don't want to be that." She says, you can either be an authentic person or a people pleaser. You cannot be both. And I was really convicted by it because I thought, I want to be the best kind of leader, but if I'm people pleasing, I can't be. This has got to change. And I am with roomfuls of people now virtually and in person who are embracing this, who say, "I want to go in recovery too. Enough. I realize it's holding me back." And wherever there are people who are willing to change and are up for the work and up for the debate about it all, I think there's always hope. And when we face our own brutal facts and we believe we can change, then I think there's always hope. And that is the kind of message we want to talk about in education in the UK and further afield, that we are not stuck. We don't have to be stuck. Human connection, human understanding, human wisdom, as you mentioned, these things that we can learn to be better and overcome our stuckness can change our lives first and foremost before we change anybody else's, but then help other people to change. And I think there is a great deal of hope. I think sometimes we have to look hard for it because social media and the news don't talk hope, they talk despair. And so we have to be very open and vocal about the hope. But that's one of the things that I hope to always be, the voice of hope. Not ignoring the brutal facts. We mustn't do that, but always saying, "We'll find a way if we think about this. If we invest, we will find a way." Because I believe we will. Jon Eckert: Love that. The next book I'm working on right now is "Gritty Optimism: Catalyzing Joy in Just Schools." How do we build on what we know can change in schools and what they can be? Because there's so many great stories out there and there's so many ways to do it. So this conversation has been super encouraging that way. So I'm just going to end us with a quick lightning round here. You've already given me at least one book recommendation I need to read. I'm just curious, in the last year, what's a book that you've read from any field? It doesn't have to be from education, that you would recommend to me and to us? Rachel Johnson: I'll give you two, Ruthlessly Caring by Amy Walters Cohen about the paradoxes in leadership and the Friction Project by Robert I. Sutton and Huggy Rao. Jon Eckert: Yes. So I have been reading pieces of the Friction Project, remarkable. Have not read Ruthlessly Caring, so I've got to get on that. Thank you. All right. What is the worst advice you've received or given as a leader? And then follow that up with the best advice you've either given or received. Rachel Johnson: The worst advice I've ever been given is that humility is putting yourself last. Because it's not true. Jon Eckert: That's good. Rachel Johnson: That's a very blunt and terrible definition. The worst advice that I've probably given would be in my early years of leadership when I was first new and basically said to people, "Maybe don't cause a fuss about that." Because I was a people pleaser, I didn't want to make a fuss. And so sometimes I told other people not to make a fuss and that was a mistake. Jon Eckert: That's good. So if you were, oh, so I had a quick break on the connection. So our connection broke there a minute. So don't make a fuss, that's also bad advice. Correct? Yeah. Rachel Johnson: Yeah. Jon Eckert: So what's the good advice that you've received or given, what's the best advice you've either given or received? Rachel Johnson: The best advice I think I would give is make sure when you have any interaction that you are okay and you're seeing the other person as okay. And what I mean by that is that we're not coming with an attitude of judgment or superiority or anything that someone can sniff, which is going to put their back against the wall immediately. So be an adult, be in control of yourself. And if you're not in control of yourself, be vulnerable, but don't do it and create a mess in front of somebody else when it's going to damage them. I think that is unfair. Jon Eckert: That's great advice. Love that. What is one word, if you had to describe the schools you work with right now, what would be one word you'd use to describe the schools or the leaders of the schools that you serve? Rachel Johnson: Resilient. Jon Eckert: Love that. Love that. No, that's right. If we're still in education right now, we're resilient people, so good word. And then what would be one word you would hope would describe the next year in the schools that you serve? Rachel Johnson: I'd hope, it's a dramatic word, but I'd say transformational. Because I think if people can grasp this stuff, if they can make the time to think, if they can put themselves on their thinking tank first, I honestly believe we'll overcome challenges that we didn't think were possible. And I hope that in turn doesn't transform PiXL. It's not about that. It's about transforming them first and then transforming the way that they lead because that, I believe, unlocks everything else. Jon Eckert: That's a great word to end on. Well, Rachel, this conversation has been great for me. Huge encouragement. Thank you for the work you're doing and thanks for spending the time with us. Rachel Johnson: Thank you so much. I have loved speaking to you.  

This week's show is with Rod Boothroyd. Rod brings more than two decades' experience of working with men and women to his current work as a Healing The Shadow practitioner. Rod's career in the area of human potential started with his training in Transactional Analysis psychotherapy at the Manchester Institute for Psychotherapy in 1999. Since then he has taken further training in Integrative Psychotherapy, worked with the ManKind Project UK and Ireland (where he was a Primary Integration Training leader), and researched in depth the art of working with, and reintegrating, the human shadow. He is now working as a one-to-one coach and therapist, and is also a supervisor with Healing The Shadow, an organisation devoted to emotional healing and the development of human potential. In this show, Rod and Lian explore the profound themes of archetypes and leadership. Rod shares his own journey into archetypal work began after a midlife crisis, the impact of the Mankind Project, and the significance of the four archetypes: the King or heart-centered leader, the Warrior or action taker, the Magician, and the Lover. They discuss the universal nature of these archetypes, their relevance to both men and women, and how to harness their power on the journey of healing and embodying one's true self. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment wherever you are listening or in any of our other spaces to engage. What you'll learn from this episode: These four archetypes are universal, and go beyond gender or culture, you don't have to use the tradition names if different names resonate more deeply for you These archetypes can be intuitively felt and understood when we are ready and open to them. The four archetypes provide a framework for self-illumination, healing, and growth, in a way that goes beyond a theoretical understanding of them - it could even be described as magical! Resources and stuff spoken about: Rod's websites: https://www.htsorganisation.co.uk https://www.strongfreemen.co.uk/ Rod's Books: Finding the King Within: How to Access and Embody the Power of Your Inner King Archetype King Warrior Magician Lover: A Guide to the Male Archetypes Updated for the 21st Century   Join UNIO, the Academy of Sacred Union. This is for the old souls in this new world… Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth.   Be Mythical Join our mailing list for soul stirring goodness: https://www.bemythical.com/moonly Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth: https://www.bemythical.com/unio Go Deeper: https://www.bemythical.com/godeeper Follow us: Facebook Instagram TikTok YouTube Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode released each week here and on most podcast platforms - and video too on YouTube - if you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your device every week automagically (that way you'll never miss an episode).  

Welcome back to Friendship Therapy, the podcast in which we look at friendships through a therapeutic lens.This week, Emma is joined by Holly to talk about friendship heartbreak and how it feels to be dumped by a friend.When Holly's two closest friends got engaged, she found herself waiting for an invitation to be a part of the bridal party that never came. What happened next was a slow and painful reevaluation of the terms of a friendship that had formed such a significant and meaningful part of her life for more than a decade.In this conversation, Emma and Holly discover how a text message about wedding planning would unravel a whole decade's worth of friendship and, ultimately, reveal a much more conditional connection built on conflict avoidance and adaptation.Through the Transactional Analysis theory of games, we look back to the beginning of Holly's friendship game to help her understand what went wrong and learn how to avoid the same heartbreak in future.To learn more about transactional analysis and the games people play, visit: https://www.mindtools.com/ayjtd4p/transactional-analysisIf you'd like to apply to appear on the podcast, please click the link below to fill out the form: https://forms.gle/9yZAVgF9BbyKhwsV7---Friendship Therapy is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp and Lauren Brook.--- Social media: Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellFriendship Therapy @friendshiptherapypodEmail: contact@friendshiptherapypod.co.uk

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Erika Guest about Transactional Analysis Theory and how to identify past/future forms of coercive control with a toxic narcissist. By analyzing real text conversations using Transactional Analysis, Brandon and Erika give you a new set of tools in your healing process and fight against domestic violence. A fun and informative episode. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Erika Guest about Transactional Analysis Theory and how to identify past/future forms of coercive control with a toxic narcissist. By analyzing real text conversations using Transactional Analysis, Brandon and Erika give you a new set of tools in your healing process and fight against domestic violence. A fun and informative episode. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices