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Join us on our journey of unlearning patterns from the past to the present. We will be sharing our stories as a couple and individuals in this process of unlearning and letting go. We hope this podcast can help support you as you start to unlearn patterns and rediscover yourself.

Charlotte and Thony


    • Aug 5, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
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    EP 45: A Conversation with the Hmong Women Podcast

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2024 80:22


    Episode 45 is a collaboration with Ariel, Douchi and Emily - the hosts of The Hmong Women Podcast. We invited them to join us in a conversation about the roles we play in our families and the patterns that they are unlearning.If you aren't already following the Hmong Women Podcast, make sure you visit our show notes for their links! You don't want to miss out on the insightful conversations that they are creating, especially within the Hmong community. We also recorded an episode on their podcast where we talked about anger and emotional regulation, go check it out! We hope this episode inspires you to reflect on your own journey and the roles you play in your life. Unlearning patterns isn't easy, but we hope our episodes remind you that you aren't alone. 
HMONG WOMEN PODCAST LINKShttps://linktr.ee/thehmongwomenpodcast
UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKShttps://linktr.ee/unlearningpatternspodcast


    EP 44: Healing Through Music with Pagnia Xiong

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2024 98:54


    Today's episode features Pagnia Xiong, a Hmong-American music artist. Tune in to hear Pagnia share her personal journey with music and how music can be used for self-expression and healing. We can all probably recall a few songs that remind us of a challenging or meaningful time. A song that helped us feel deeper or gave us the message we needed. We hope this conversation inspires you to reflect on your journey and the music that carried you through. PAGNIA XIONG'S LINKS https://linktr.ee/pagniaxiong https://www.facebook.com/pagniaxiongofficial https://www.instagram.com/pagniaxiong UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 43: A Conversation about Sexual Assault with Belinda

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2024 69:39


    TRIGGER WARNING - This episode contains discussions of sexual assault. Listeners discretion is advised. In this episode, Belinda joined us in a conversation about sexual assault. Part of this podcast's mission is to create open and honest conversations in hopes that it'll make someone feel less alone on their journey. Belinda's story is just that. She graciously shared the challenges that came from her assault and the resilience she's gained as she started her healing journey. We hope you will tune in with an open mind and heart. Please be kind and take care of yourself. National Sexual Assault Hotline (Confidential 24/7 Support): 1-800-656-4673 https://www.rainn.org/resources CONNECT WITH BELINDA https://www.instagram.com/txheebelindaxiong/ https://kuvthiab.carrd.co/ UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 42: A Conversation with Koua Yang

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 83:40


    Today's episode features a very influential person in Thony's life. His teacher, coach, mentor, friend and like an older brother, Koua Yang. Koua shared his story of becoming an educator and the different barriers he broke out of. You'll hear his passion for working with students and how he cultivates different networks and circles to support his evolving self.

    EP 41: Workshop Reflections

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2024 42:22


    Back in March and April, we spoke with the students at UW-EC and University of St. Thomas about vulnerability; how you can use it as a tool to connect and lead. We reflected on the lessons we learn while creating the workshop and how our presentation went. It was an unforgettable experience! UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 40: Healing Timelines Project with Jouapag Lee

    Play Episode Listen Later May 28, 2024 65:17


    Today's guest is the creator of the Healing Timelines Project, Jouapag Lee! The Healing Timelines Project offers trauma-informed resources to help Hmong descendants overcome multi-generational patterns and thrive. Jouapag helped us understand generational and historical trauma and how it can be passed on. We also talked how you can break the cycle for generations to come. CONNECT WITH JOUAPAG https://www.instagram.com/healingtimelinesproject UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 39: We're engaged!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2024 48:25


    Hi Pattern Breakers! Today we are sharing our proposal story and we answered a few questions received from our listeners. We're excited for this new journey and are looking forward to sharing the lessons and patterns we learn and unlearn through it all. Thank you for all the love and support, we truly appreciate it! UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 38: Anxiety with Pa Chee Lee

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2024 59:41


    May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we are starting it with the topic of anxiety. Pa Chee Lee is the owner of PCL Therapy and we invited her on this episode to help us understand anxiety. Pa Chee shares the different types of anxiety, coping skills, resources and advice for anyone who is supporting someone or personally experiences anxiety. Thank you again to Pa Chee for sharing her knowledge with us and our listeners! Stay tuned for a future episode with Pa Chee where she will be helping us understand depression. If you reside in Wisconsin and are interested in working with Pa Chee, please visit: https://pcltherapy.com CONNECT WITH PA CHEE https://linktr.ee/pcltherapy UNLEARNING PATTERNS LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 37: Therapy 101 with Pam Yang, LMFT

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2024 66:16


    A few months back, we asked you to submit any questions you may have about therapy. Today we are giving you those answers! Pam Yang is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and she sat down with us to give you the basics of therapy. We touched on insurance, the intake process, receiving a diagnosis, what to look for in a therapist, when to go to therapy, and more!! This is only episode one of a three-part series. Stay tuned!

    EP 36: Nurturing the Eldest Daughter Within & Hmong Womxn Thriving with Ariel

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2024 79:46


    This episode is for all the eldest daughters!! We see you and we thank you for your service

    EP 35: Attachment Styles

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2024 49:38


    Learning about our attachment styles has been a helpful tool to have in our relationship. We've been able to understand each other on a deeper level by having open and vulnerable conversations about how our attachment styles are affecting us during conflict or even day to day interactions. If you consider looking into your attachment style, we hope it helps you understand yourself or your loved ones also! As always, thank you to Guerrilla Pastures for sponsoring our podcast. Don't forget to use code "UPP10" for 10% off your order. See their links below! ATTACHMENT STYLE RESOURCES 1 - https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles 2 - https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS  Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures

    EP 34: Sobriety & Self-healing with Tia

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2024 71:40


    In this episode, we had a conversation with Tia about her journey with sobriety and self-healing. We wanted to highlight Tia's story because sobriety is an uncommon lifestyle and self-healing is not an easy task. But you don't have to do it alone! We hope this episode gives you more insight into sobriety and can help you support and navigate interactions with those who are on their sobriety journey. We are also on our own sobriety journey and have hit one year recently! If you have any questions you'd like us to answer in a future episode about our sobriety, please feel free to comment below or send us a DM! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 33: Acting, Modern Shaman & Self-Care with Gregory Yang

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2024 65:22


    Tune in to hear Gregory share his journey of becoming an actor, creating modern shaman, and the importance of self-care. We hope this episode will leave you feeling inspired to chase after your dreams and to reframe self-care to work FOR you rather than against you. Big thanks for Greg for being on this podcast, we are looking forward to seeing you in Hells Canyon and all the amazing things you'll do after. Gregory is in the world premiere of Hells Canyon which kicked off on February 24 and will be shown through March 7 at Jungle Theater in Uptown, Minneapolis. Tickets are pay as you are. See the links below to learn more about Theater Mu and to get your tickets! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GREG'S LINKS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/greggrammars Modern Shaman: https://www.instagram.com/modernshamanpilot THEATER MU Website: https://www.theatermu.org Hells Canyon Tickets: https://www.theatermu.org/hells-canyon#gsc.tab=0

    EP 32: Processing Grief

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2024 48:00


    Tune in to hear Thony share his journey with grief after one year of his dad's passing. He touches on how his perception of grief has evolved, how grief impacted his life/relationships, his coping mechanisms, and his advice for those who are experiencing loss. Grief can be a hard topic to talk about, but we hope this episode shines a light on the importance of grief and seeking for what you need. Whether that's professional help or leaning on your community. You are not alone.

    EP 31: Reflecting on Four Years

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2024 59:06


    **TRIGGER WARNING: conversations about suicidal thoughts** Tune in to hear us reflect on our four years of dating! In this episode, we share the joy, challenges and cringy moments that has brought us to our fourth year. We also touch on the topic of marriage and how we're navigating between two different perspectives. We hope you enjoy this episode! As we continue sharing details of our private life, we truly appreciate the respect and grace you've given us. We never think the way we navigate our relationship is the only way. We simply want to share in hopes that it'll help others feel less alone. Take what resonates and leave the rest! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 30: Intentions for 2024

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2024 40:50


    Happy New Year! Tune in to hear us chat about resolutions vs intentions, our values for 2024, and what experiences we hope to have. We are feeling hopeful in this new year! Wishing you all a year of joy, health & abundance! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS  Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures/  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures/

    EP 29: Get to know Thony

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2024 29:59


    It's Charlotte's turn to interview Thony! In this episode, Thony reflects on his favorite memories, what he wish his parents knew, and what he's most proud of. We hope this episode gave you more insight to who Thony is! Do you have a question for Thony or the Unlearning Patterns couple? Feel free to send them to us, we'd love to hear from you! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS  Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures/  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures/

    EP 28: Get to know Charlotte

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2024 29:05


    In this episode, Thony interviews Charlotte to help you get to know her more. Thony asks Charlotte to reflect on her childhood dream, a significant personal experience, music that resonates with her, and what does this podcast mean to her? We hope this episode gave you more insight to who Charlotte is. Stay tuned for Charlotte's interview with Thony next week! Do you have a question for Charlotte or the Unlearning Patterns couple? Feel free to send them to us, we'd love to hear from you! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS  Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures/  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures/

    Therapy Reflections: leaning into vulnerability, asking for help & taking care of ourselves

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2024 35:11


    This episode was recorded back in July 2023. This will be the last “outdated” episode we share. Tune in to hear us reflect on; Thony's journey of grief, mental health, vulnerability and Charlotte's journey of ending therapy/life coaching, and being honest about her struggles. After listening to this episode, it's so clear how important asking for help and leaning on our community is. Healing on our own is needed but healing in community with others is so powerful. We are so grateful for everyone who has supported us in this last year. If you enjoyed this episode, please share and give us a review. Thank you for being here! ✨

    EP 27: What are we leaving in 2023?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 29, 2023 37:39


    In this episode, we reflect on what we're leaving behind in 2023. A few themes we touched on were limiting beliefs, grief, being away from family, and our overall growth. We also pulled a few cards to answer from the We're Not Really Strangers: self-reflection edition pack. This year has not been easy but it pushed us to question how true our self-talk has been. The journey is not linear but it always makes sense in the end. Cheers to surviving another year - now let's prepare to thrive, see you in 2024! Happy New Year! **Apologies on the sound of this episode, we realized the volume of our voices were inconsistent. We will work on this for our upcoming episodes!** UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    Therapy Reflections: grief, people pleasing & learning how to forgive our past selves

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2023 38:38


    SURPRISE! We are back with new episodes :) This episode was recorded from April 2023. Although it's pretty dated, we felt it was important to share as it shows our journey with therapy during a mentally challenging time. Listening to this episode gives us so much gratitude for all the past versions of us that got us to where we are today. And thank you to those who held us up when the days felt extra hard. You know who you are ❤️ Join us as we try to destigmatize conversations about mental health and normalize therapy. Disclaimer: This new series is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition. UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    Therapy Reflections: intro to therapy, pros & cons, comfortability with crying

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 10, 2023 46:10


    Hello friends! We are starting a new series on our podcast called “Therapy Reflections” and this is the first of many episodes. Our biggest goal is to destigmatize conversations about mental health and that starts with us! Aside from our mental health check-ins on our regular episodes, we'd like to give our listeners an inside scoop of what happens in our therapy sessions. We'll share our learnings and answer any of your questions along the way. UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast

    EP 26: Let's Chat!

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023 64:04


    In this episode, we reflected on 2022, our goals for 2023, and shared some life updates. We also answered a question we received from a listener. We're excited to be back and we hope you enjoyed this episode. UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures/ Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures/ Discount code: UPP10

    EP 25: Making Space for Ourselves as We Evolve with Pheng & Barbara

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2022 65:47


    We are excited to welcome back our first returning guests on the podcast, Pheng and Barbara, from Guerrilla Pastures! In this episode, we had a conversation with Pheng and Barbara about what they've struggled with in their 20s, intentions for their 30s, making time for the different identities they hold, and areas of their lives that they want to focus on more. We also shared an amazing opportunity with Guerilla Pastures at the end of the episode! Head over to this episode to hear more about their passions and how you support their growing business. Use code "UPP10" to get 10% off your lip balm subscription!! GUERILLA PASTURES LINKS  Website: https://www.guerrillapastures.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures/  Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/GuerrillaPastures/ UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 24: Motherhood & Postpartum Depression with Stephanie

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2022 64:34


    In episode 24, Stephanie shared her stories about becoming a mom, postpartum depression, how she is seeking help, her identity outside of being a mom, the advice she has for parents and those who are part of their village. We hope this episode will help spark new conversations for you and your community. Don't be afraid to talk about mental health and the challenges of parenthood, ask for help, offer a helping hand when you have capacity, and check in with your loved ones. We should never have to go through life alone.  STEPHANIE'S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Instagram: https://instagram.com/stephanybydesign Podcast: https://anchor.fm/thedailygloss UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 23: Getaway with Us

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 11:35


    Back in June, we stayed at a Getaway location in MN. It was a much needed break from our routines. As we sat by the campfire, we decided to record a quick episode with a couple questions that Charlotte has been wanting to ask Thony. We hope you enjoyed the sounds of nature in this episode! It's short & sweet. UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 22: Showing up Authentically with Sandy

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2022 63:52


    In this episode, we spoke with Sandy who is a beauty, fashion and lifestyle content creator. Sandy gave us the full scoop on what her journey has been like with content creating, how it impacts her mental health and her tips on how to start on social media. Sandy recently decided to not pursue medical school and shared how she came to that decision. We were inspired with Sandy's vulnerability and how she shows up authentically as herself. You'll hear about all of the amazing things she does aside from content creating. Be sure you follow Sandy on instagram and tiktok for inspiring content! SANDY'S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sandysprosium Instagram: https://instagram.com/sandysprosium UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 21: A Bittersweet Goodbye

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2022 12:34


    We're saying hello as we say goodbye to our first apartment together. This change has been so bittersweet. You may have been here when we started living together (episode 9) and heard how challenging it was to adjust, we didn't think we'd become so attached to it. As we laid on the floor of our apartment after hours of deep cleaning, we started reflecting on the last year here and decided to press record for memories. We've experienced many growing pains here and we're so grateful to have a space of comfort. Change takes time. Allow yourself the time to grieve, reflect, adjust & move forward. There are many more experiences ahead of us! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 20: Father's Day

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2022 39:27


    In this episode, we reflected on our relationship with our fathers. Thony shared his understandings of his father and the similarities his parents share. Charlotte shared her amending relationship with her biological father and her realizations with her father who stepped in when she was only four years old. We reflected on our relationship as a child and how it changed as we became adults. We also shared what we would like to tell our fathers one day. There's still so much we don't know about our parents but we hope we can start creating moments of curiosity and connection with them. To all of the fathers and father figures out there, we see you and we thank you! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 19: Confessions of a Serial Dater - Ila Moua

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2022 66:40


    In this episode, Ila Moua joins us in a conversation about serial dating, dating patterns, learning how to give and accept healthy love, how family impacts our identities, and living a shame free life. We also talked about Love is Blind and who we relate with the most. Reflecting on our past and creating awareness is such a powerful tool to have on our journey. When we know better, we do better! Please be sure to follow Ila's links listed below! ILA'S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Personal Instagram: https://instagram.com/ilaview Eyelah Co. Instagram: https://instagram.com/eyelah.co Podcast Instagram: https://instagram.com/whenthetigerbites Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4BQYkTky2WNMM9TIIk89JZ?si=-f4opFlfSjW-8t_P9VYZqg UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 18: Setting Boundaries

    Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2022 50:47


    In this episode, we explore boundaries and how we're learning to set them. Boundaries are a big part of creating a healthy relationship. We were taught that boundaries are not for your loved ones, which isn't true! It's actually a great way to build a strong foundation of a relationship. Boundaries help us love each other the way we need. It creates connections and understanding of one another. We're unlearning and relearning how to set boundaries in our every day lives; at work, with our families/friends, with each other, and ourselves! The goal isn't to get it perfect, but to keep trying. Book Mentioned: Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 17: Mother's Day

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2022 38:42


    In this episode, we reflected on our relationship with our moms. Charlotte's mom had her young and was a single mother for a period of time. Thony's mom raised him in a traditional household. As we got older, our relationship naturally evolved. We've learned to humanize our moms by listening to their stories and seeing the many roles they play. We are grateful for the sacrifices they've made and for the life they have given us. The relationships we have with our moms aren't perfect but we wouldn't want to go through this process of unlearning without them. Our moms did the best they could with the knowledge they had. To all the mothers and mother figures listening, thank you for all that you do! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 16: The Point of Awareness w/ Gloria Chavvez

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2022 55:24


    On this episode, Gloria Chavvez joins us to chat about all things healing, codependency, and being an introvert. Gloria is a mental health advocate and a Latinx creative that enjoys sharing perspectives that inspire and help others on their healing journey. We appreciate the time, stories, wisdom, and advice Gloria shared with us. This episode is just a glimpse of the amazing content Gloria makes on TikTok for her 39.7K followers. Please be sure to follow Gloria on the links listed below and support her merch! GLORIA CHAVVEZ'S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gloria_chavvez Instagram: https://instagram.com/gloria_chavvez Gloria's Merch: https://www.bonfire.com/grow-as-you-go-gloriachavvezmerch/ UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 15: Healing

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2022 33:32


    In this episode, we shared what we're trying to heal from and how it looks like for us. As a couple who are own their separate healing journey, we are still figuring out how we can support one another. One thing we've learned is to just meet each other where we are and respecting the differences we have when it comes to healing. Whether it's giving each other the space to practice our self-care or creating time/capacity to listen and validate. We hope this episode makes you feel less alone as you're processing your healing. Be proud of yourself and give yourself grace. We're in this together! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 14: Get Ugly with Mailee

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 29, 2022 68:39


    On this episode, Mailee interviews us…. but no really, how did she turn the tables on us? Mailee is many things but what we love most about her is that she is unapologetically herself. Her raw honesty of the “ugly” sides of healing was a reminder to us that we never have it all figured out but it doesn't mean we aren't healing. Creating the awareness of the “ugly” is what helps us bloom. She made us dig deeper, laugh and learn more about each other. This episode is a perfect example of what a conversation with Mailee is like. Don't forget to follow Mailee and listen to her podcast for vulnerable conversations! Mailee's links are listed below.  TW: sexual assault MAILEE'S SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2HuSDP30SJP0rsmeLYX1Jl?si=-baNTPUITlieqGep1jjOUg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100077033616406 UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 13: the time we almost broke up

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2022 38:11


    In this episode we reflected on the time we almost broke up. Sometimes the best way to heal a relationship is by taking the focus off the relationship and to start looking within ourselves. We spent a lot of time reflecting on how we contributed to the challenges and the work we need to do to heal our past in order to move forward. One thing we've learned is there's not a wrong choice when it comes breaking up or staying together. We all have different capacities when it comes to the things we can tolerate and grow from. We can only hope that the relationships you've chosen to continue make you feel safe, respected and loved. And that the relationship you have with yourself is evergrowing! UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 12: Embrace, Expand & Explore w/ Nakita Vang

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2022 76:32


    Our first guest of 2022 is the one and only, Nakita Vang! We think you'll immediately feel the warmth and honesty that she embodies. Nakita shared her experiences and reflections about relationships, self-love, single-hood, how we show up and much more. She also helped us understand each other more, something we didn't expect but it just goes to show how amazing Nakita is. We hope you enjoy all the gems and laughs we shared with Nakita. **We apologize for the echos. You also may want to turn the volume down for this episode, we got a little loud and excited! WHERE TO FIND NAKITA Facebook: https://x.facebook.com/nakitacvang/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nakitavang/ Blog: https://www.nakitavang.com/ Newest Youtube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vx3GcW6oqEw&ab_channel=NakitaVang UNLEARNING PATTERNS PODCAST SOCIAL MEDIA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Music Production: LAZYASSKID time stamp: 03:25 - How would you describe yourself as a partner? 04:12 - From your past relationships, is there anything you sacrificed to make it work? 06:29 - Were there any examples growing up that taught you how to be in a relationship? 12:38 - Did you ever feel like you lost a sense of self? 18:08 - How did you pick up the pieces of your identity after your relationships ended? 23:21 - How did you cultivate love and happiness from within? 30:05 - Discussing being in a relationship vs being single 35:54 - How will you maintain your sense of self in your future relationships? 38:15 - Do you have any past tendencies/behaviors that you fear will carry into future relationships? 41:46 - Charlotte & Thony reflect on their similarities with Nakita 45:56 - How does creating stories of others rob you of the present moment? 53:40 - Nakita reflects on what it's like to have an anxious mind while in a relationship 1:05:00 - What are you unlearning about relationships with romantic partners and yourself? 1:06:55 - What are the qualities you're looking for in a future partner? 1:10:28 - How to keep up with Nakita's work

    EP 11: Friendship

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2022 33:11


    No more seasons, just new episodes every other Monday! In today's episode, we discussed friendship. What kind of friend were we, did we consider ourselves a good friend, how are we redefining friendship, and what kind of friend do we hope to become? We hope you'll give us grace as we're still learning and unlearning what it takes to be a good friend to ourselves and others. Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 10: Relationship, Podcast, & Self-Reflections

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2021 29:13


    In honor of our two year anniversary and season finale, we chose to answer some questions from our listeners! We hope you enjoyed this last episode of the season. Make sure you subscribe/follow so you'll be updated when we come back for season two. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year from us! Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID timestamp: 1:00 - what advice would we give to our past selves? 13:08 - what have we learned about ourselves? 17:50 - what have we taught each other? 21:30 - what do we hope to become in our third year? 23:36 - closing

    EP 9: Life Update

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2021 47:09


    After a long break, we are back with a life update! There has been a few changes and we wanted to share how we've been processing them. Please remember that rest is not earned but something we simply deserve. Take time to rest and find gratitude for yourself. We're all trying our best and that's enough! Unlearning Patterns Podcast Social Media: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID 1:07 - the move in process and grieving period 10:02 - how did we adjust to each other's habits? 14:45 - Thony's journey to his new job 25:42 - Thony bought a new car! 32:00 - Charlotte's journey of self 43:58 - what do we appreciate about living together? 46:29 - closing

    EP 8: Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later May 24, 2021 44:48


    This episode is your mental health check-in point! May is Mental Health Awareness Month and we hope you're doing well. We are discussing our opinions about Mental Health and sharing our personal experiences with anxiety and depression. Mental Health looks different for everyone and it's so important to respect other's needs and boundaries around it. Please continue to educate yourself on Mental Health, check in with your loved ones, and be kind to yourself. Thank you for over 700 downloads! We loving hearing the conversations you're having with loved ones after listening to our episodes. We appreciate your support.

    EP 7: Pheng and Barbara

    Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2021 65:42


    In this episode, we have on our first couple! Pheng and Barbara have been together for 14 years and have a daughter together. We are so honored that they allowed us to share their story with our listeners. Pheng also shared a passion and business he has started called Guerrilla Pastures. Don’t miss out on getting to know these two! Thanks again to Pheng and Barbara for being on our podcast. We admire you both and can’t wait to see where your adventures takes your family! Guerilla Pastures Contact Info Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/guerrillapastures Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guerrillapastures/ Unlearning Patterns Podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID Timestamps: 1:17 - meet Barbara and Pheng 2:40 - the start of their relationship 13:15 - vulnerability, communication, and openness within their relationship 15:50 - growing up together, going to college, hardships 18:14 - outside opinions and influences on your relationship 24:46 - the transition from dating to marriage 28:29 - understanding each other’s love language and keeping the spark alive 33:58 - differences in relationships 37:26 - parenthood: raising Lauryn 52:07 - moving out of the cities 53:55 - compromising and supporting each other 56:32 - Guerrilla Pastures 58:40 - Charlotte and Thony’s Reflections

    EP 6: Pressures of Adulthood

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2021 45:06


    We are back from our short break! In this episode, we are chatting about Adulthood. We have entered our “late 20s” and wanted to reflect on the pressures of marriage, kids, personal growth, the Hmong culture and more. As always, these are our own personal experiences and expectations. We respect that our listeners may not agree or understand. We just hope that by listening to our conversations, you may learn something helpful. Remember that your journey is unique to you and that we’re all on different timelines. How beautiful is it that although our journeys are different, they still cross and we get the opportunity to impact and support one another? You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID Episode Timestamps 00:25 - episode 5 reflections 4:55 - expectations vs reality of adulthood 11:06 - expectations set by others 16:23 - the pressure of marriage 24:06 - the pressure of having kids 27:13 - the pressure from peers and reaching milestones 31:24 - Charlotte’s pressure of being equal to Thony 35:19 - other pressures we feel as we’re adulting 40:55 - where do we see ourselves in 10 years?

    EP 5: The Enneagram Part Two

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2021 36:48


    Welcome back! In Part Two of The Enneagram, we reflected on our partner's enneagram type. We also had conversations about what it's been like to work with Lynda and using the enneagram as a tool in our relationship. See below for links on how to follow/contact Lynda and for free enneagram tests if you want to learn what your enneagram type is. 1:28 - what Lynda’s reflection of a type four 9:26 - Thony and Charlotte’s reflection of Lynda 13:03 - Thony’s reflection of Charlotte as a type four 18:21 - Charlotte’s reflection of Thony as a type nine 23:18 - Thony unlearning as a type nine 25:26 - Charlotte unlearning as a type four 26:16 - Lynda unlearning as a type two 28:28 - Charlotte and Thony’s takeaways from mini sessions with Lynda 30:54 - Enneagram Coaching with Lynda 34:27 - Lynda’s Message 34:55 - Closing Lynda:  https://instagram.com/enneagram_up?igshid=1ll0hf3rl9hl1  https://m.facebook.com/LyndaYG.Enneacoach/  Quick test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test  If you want a more thorough test: https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test  You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast  Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 4: The Enneagram Part One

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 23, 2021 33:57


    In part 1 of the Enneagram, you will be hearing from our first guest! Her name is Lynda YG and she is an enneagram coach. Lynda has helped guide us through our enneagram types and shown us how we can use it to better understand ourselves and our relationship. See below for links on how to follow/contact Lynda and for free enneagram tests if you want to learn what your enneagram type is. 1:14 - Who is Lynda 2:29 - What is the Enneagram? 3:52 - How did we learn about the Enneagram? 5:33 - What is the difference between the Enneagram and other popular personality tests? 12:20 - Snapshot of each Enneagram type 15:25 - Thony as a type nine 25:20 - Lynda as a type two 29:59 - Charlotte as a type four 33:11 - Closing Lynda: https://instagram.com/enneagram_up?igshid=1ll0hf3rl9hl1 https://m.facebook.com/LyndaYG.Enneacoach/ Quick test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test If you want a more thorough test: https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 3: How The Pandemic Affected Us

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2021 47:02


    In this episode, we wanted to take this opportunity to be vulnerable and reflect on how the pandemic affected us. Thony shared how he lost a sense of self when he was unemployed. And Charlotte shared how she reached what felt like her rock bottom.  This pandemic has taught us how to be more empathetic and open minded while everyone is processing all the loss and the unpredictable future. As always, we hope by listening, you start to reflect on your journey. Remember to give yourself grace and also celebrate how far you've gotten during this tough time. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID 00:25 - introduction 01:10 - where were we before the pandemic? 03:47 - Thony’s experience with unemployment 04:14 - the beginning of the pandemic 07:04 - Thony shares his loss of identity 17:21 - Charlotte shares how the pandemic affected her mental health 23:01 - Charlotte’s coping mechanisms 25:57 - The pandemic and our relationship (strengths, weaknesses, challenges) 34:23 - did the pandemic raise our self-awareness? 36:56 - Charlotte shares her appreciation for Thony 38:58 - Thony shares his appreciation for Charlotte 43:55 - reflection of podcast episode 46:07 - preview of episode 4 46:35 - closing

    EP 2: The Start of Something New

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 26, 2021 51:12


    Grab your cup because we are spilling the tea! In episode 2, we’re inviting you all to take a trip down memory lane with us. We shared our initial attraction, platonic friendship, why it took so long for us to date, and some conflicts we experienced as a new couple. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music Production: LAZYASSKID

    EP 1: Get to know us

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2021 18:09


    Welcome to our very first episode! Get to know who we are as individuals and a couple. You'll quickly learn that we have two very different stories, but it's really what has balanced our connection. We also shared our intentions with this podcast, which ultimately is creating a space for all of us to feel supported on this journey of unlearning patterns. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music: Prod. LAZYASSKID

    Unlearning Patterns Trailer

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2021 0:50


    We are so excited to start this podcast journey. You can expect to hear open conversations between us. We are here to be vulnerable and share our experiences that pushed us to unlearning patterns that were not helpful. Also the steps it took for us to star our growth and the growing pains as individuals and a couple. We hope by listening, you feel that you've gained validation and support on your journey of unlearning patterns. You can find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Also on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unlearningpatternspodcast Music: (Prod. LAZYASSKID)

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