What Would Love Do?

High Value Men Are Drawn To Women With THIS Self Worth Many men are “flying blind” in the dating world. Not because they're stupid or clueless but because they were never taught about emotional clarity. But do we really need to settle for guys who keep swiping aimlessly and strike up conversations hoping that something […] The post High Value Men Are Drawn To Women With THIS Self Worth appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

What Makes A Man Suddenly Commit To a Woman Humans seem to value pleasure over substance and loyalty these days. In the early stages of dating, many are not concerned with building trust. They want the instant gratification of good sex through chemistry, thinking that's the ultimate goal. But what happens when you decide you […] The post What Makes A Man Suddenly Commit To a Woman appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Does His Silence Mean It's Over? Maybe or Maybe Not Human pair bonding is complicated, plain and simple. It gets more complicated when you question what men are looking for. Are they chasing a relationship or are they chasing sex? Midlife dating is different than dating in your 20s and 30s. We have divorce, health […] The post Does His Silence Mean It's Over? Maybe or Maybe Not appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Psychology of Modern Dating and Relationships Compatibility has always been complex but in our younger years, it was less complicated to find a partner because there was a clear purpose to the relationship: create a family. The problem we face in midlife is that we come with a vast array of different experiences and the […] The post Psychology of Modern Dating and Relationships appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Why Men Need THIS To Decide If They Love You Many people believe that love is involuntary, that you'll just be attracted and fall in love when the time is right. But I believe that love is a choice to let go of the past hurts, fear, and the fantasy of ‘involuntary love.' Love and […] The post Why Men Need THIS To Decide If They Love You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Make THIS Gigantic Mistake When Dating Women Today's dating world is often based on a short term strategy which focuses on attraction, entertainment, romance, and physical connection all based on pleasure.  Throw in some ambivalence, arrogance, and/or naivete from men and you run the risk of hindering the development of a genuine connection. Those […] The post Men Make THIS Gigantic Mistake When Dating Women appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Who REALLY Care About You Have THIS In Common Emotionally wounded men look to online dating apps to find women who will act like therapists. These men *think* they just need to find the right woman and their wounds will heal but we all know that's unrealistic. Let me remind you that no one […] The post Men Who REALLY Care About You Have THIS In Common appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Man Finds Love of His Life by Doing THIS Isn't it so easy to focus on the negative things in life? I realize that many of my videos sound pessimistic about finding love or how to avoid the wrong person but I really am a hopeful romantic! In fact, I find great inspiration from real […] The post Man Finds Love of His Life by Doing THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Do THIS To A Man If You Want Him To Emotionally Open Up In my experience, it seems as though the most successful couples start off as friends first. So often we're stuck asking, “Is there chemistry between us?” when we really should just focus on getting to know one another. Let's have a DEEPER […] The post Do THIS To A Man If You Want Him To Emotionally Open Up appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

5 Ways Men Need To Step Up When Dating You So often we're meeting people from a place of loneliness and lack. We often want physical intimacy right away instead of determining if this person is right for us. When we don't hold high standards for the guys we date, it's no wonder the duds […] The post 5 Ways Men Need To Step Up When Dating You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Say THIS To a Man To Build Trust and Open His Heart To LOVE Monogamy and exclusivity are often considered the most important levels of commitment but my guest, Sabrina Rising, believes that leading with trust belongs at the top of that list. Sabrina starts our conversation talking about how trust is the foundation of […] The post Say THIS To a Man To Build Trust | Open His Heart To LOVE appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

THIS Question Will Instantly Change Your Love Life Dating hyper-focuses on attraction, entertainment, romance, and physical connection when we really need to just sit back and focus on getting to know the other person. Do they share my values? Do we share the same type of lifestyle? Are we entering into this relationship for the […] The post THIS Question Will Instantly Change Your Love Life appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

This Crucial Factor is Missing When Dating Men The “friend zone” has a bad rep. Normally we think of that as the place where all hope is lost for having a romantic relationship. But what if you consider the friend zone as the place where you start off to build a long lasting and meaningful […] The post This Crucial Factor is Missing When Dating Men appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Secret to Getting Closure When He Ended It (It's Not What You Think) Today we're going to dive deep into the often complex and messy process of getting closure after a breakup, especially when you don't get the clean ending you hoped for. Listen in as I share a recent, meaningful conversation with my ex […] The post Secret to Getting Closure When He Ended It (It's Not What You Think) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

THIS BIG Question Is A Sign You Should Keep Trying With Him A common challenge in dating today is the need for accelerated learning. In midlife, the dating process seems sped up because we've heard so many times not to waste time with guys who aren't aligned with our values, lifestyle, and dreams. While that […] The post THIS BIG Question Is A Sign You Should Keep Trying With Him appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

What's SECRETLY On A Man's Mind When He Likes You So many people are in the dating marketplace because they want superficial needs met. You will find those who are looking for a committed relationship but with the easy hookup culture, it's easier to focus on superficial instead of deep seeded desires. Let's have a […] The post What's SECRETLY On A Man's Mind When He Likes You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

3 Strong Signs He Wants A Commitment With You In today's dating world there are a LOT of signs that a guy isn't ready for a relationship. But I dislike focusing on the negative all the time, so let's turn the tables and talk about the signs that shows he IS ready for a relationship. […] The post 3 Strong Signs He Wants A Commitment With You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

The Longer a Man Is Single, The More He's THIS So many people are in “situation-ships” because they value the freedom and independence. Without a firm commitment, they can continue living their lives while having a friend with benefits to suit their needs. Those who are co-dependent also jump from one relationship to the next […] The post The Longer a Man Is Single, The More He's THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

When A Man Loses Love for You, He'll First Do THESE Two Things Many of us have difficulty expressing our feelings, so it makes sense that we'll notice changes in a partner's behavior before we hear the words, “I don't love you anymore.” Being present in your relationship and making time to connect on a […] The post When A Man Loses Love for You, He'll First Do THESE Two Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Love Women Who Surprisingly Do THIS Should midlife men be expected to pay for everything? It's one thing to talk about courting a woman and paying for the dates but once that period is over and you decide to commit to one another, is this still expected of men? We're talking finances in this […] The post Men Love Women Who Surprisingly Do THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

THIS Is Why Men Make Weak Leaders In A Relationship Men (and women) of a certain age are very set in their ways. Seldom do they want to veer from what's comfortable and they fall into the trap of “my way is the only way.” Staying in that comfort zone, however, prohibits growth and will […] The post THIS Is Why Men Make Weak Leaders In A Relationship appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

He Just Went Silent, How Should I React? Men go silent for numerous reasons – fear, uncertainty, doubt – and when they go silent, they're either avoiding or processing their feelings. You have every right to react when you receive the silent treatment but it's the HOW you react that can make or break a […] The post He Just Went Silent, How Should I React? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

What Men Consider AMAZING Sex | The Truth We're going to have a spicier conversation today about sex and the emotional connection we have with our body. A lot of men who approach sex from an ego perspective think they want hot and kinky sex but the reality is, many men simply don't know what […] The post What Men Consider AMAZING Sex | The Truth appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Strong Signs He's Serious About You And Is Committed To You Commitment looks different when you're in your midlife years and it's very different from your 2os and 30s when most people are looking for a spouse and to raise a family. By the time you reach your 40s, 50s and beyond, you have a […] The post Strong Signs He's Serious About You And Is Committed To You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Why You Should NEVER Date a Dismissive-Avoidant (Unless This One Thing Is True) We're talking about love attachment styles today to unpack why it's tough to have a relationship with a dismissive avoidant and how an anxious person is different from a dismissive avoidant person. If you're new to love attachment styles, listen in to […] The post Why You Should NEVER Date a Dismissive-Avoidant (Unless This One Thing Is True) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Never Date A Man Without This GREEN FLAG So often we focus on the RED FLAGS to avoid when dating but I feel like then we're always focusing on the negative. And when you always look for negative energy or behaviors, all of a sudden that's ALL that you can see, which isn't healthy for […] The post Never Date A Man Without This GREEN FLAG appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Why Men Shut Down After Loss and Love Feels Impossible For Them Dating seems like an endless merry-go-round where we connect with someone for a short time and then it ends. Then we're back on the apps before we really dissect what happened and how can we learn from this experience. Ending a relationship is […] The post Why Men Shut Down After Loss and Love Feels Impossible For Them appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Fall In Love and Bond When… (#1 SECRET) Falling in love is so much deeper than having great chemistry and hormone rushes. When you let lust or limerence set the tone of a relationship, very often you'll forget to have the deeper conversations to determine if you're truly aligned with this person. Lets use […] The post Men Fall In Love and Bond When… (#1 SECRET) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Mid-life Love Drought: Why Men & Women Over 45 Are Like, “Single Is Better Than A Bad Relationship” You've heard me say the dating world is a mess and even though there's not a single cause, let's focus on why we're so quick to blame the other person for a date or relationship not working […] The post Mid-life Love Drought: Why Men & Women Over 45 Think Single Is Better Than A Bad Relationship appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man Who Cares About You Will Always DO THIS Take a moment and think about your closest friend in the world. The friend that you can tell anything and know they will have your back. You can share your deepest desires and know they won't judge you. These are signs of genuine friendship. Now […] The post A Man Who Cares About You Will Always DO THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Ask Men THESE Hard Questions Before Sleeping With Them Guest @LaurelHouse Laurel House is the premier relationship coach at eHarmony and we're diving into why it's so important to be upfront with a new guy from the first date. In these midlife years, who wants to waste time getting to know someone only to find […] The post Ask Men THESE Hard Questions Before Sleeping With Them Guest @LaurelHouse appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

He Gave Me The ICK | Should I KEEP TRYING With Him? When you're exploring a new relationship, it's natural to talk about the similarities you have. A big part of my teaching is about making sure you're aligned in many parts of your lives so you can blend lifestyles easily. But when are the […] The post He Gave Me The ICK | Should I KEEP TRYING With Him? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How To Communicate Your Needs To A Man Without Him Feeling Attacked I'm thrilled to have my friend, Sabrina Rising, as my guest so we can dig into how to communicate with our partners effectively. Communication is so nuanced and can quickly turn into arguments when emotions get the better of us. Sabrina says communication […] The post How To Communicate Your Needs To A Man Without Him Feeling Attacked appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

9 Reasons Why Men Push Good Women Away Wouldn't it be wonderful if relationships developed like they do in the movies, following a predictable formula with a happily ever after ending? In reality, partnership-based relationships are complex and require trust, which can take time to develop. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about how complex emotions […] The post 9 Reasons Why Men Push Good Women Away appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Will Do All of THESE Things If They Really Like You Today's hookup culture has us trained to think that sex is the predominant way a man shows that he likes you. But I disagree and we'll talk about other non-physical ways a man will show that “he's really into you”. I also share […] The post Men Will Do All of THESE Things If They Really Like You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

The Longer a Man Is Without A Relationship, The More He's THIS Being single allows you to figure out what you want in terms of life goals and you also have the independence to schedule your daily life exactly as you want it. You can set up a daily routine or you can be spontaneous. […] The post The Longer a Man Is Without A Relationship, The More He's THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man's Silence Means THIS | Don't Chase, Do THIS Think back to when you were younger, like in your 20s or 30s. Did you find dating easier back then? That's usually the case because younger people generally don't have the same type of complicated lives that midlife people have. And playing dating games and […] The post A Man's Silence Means THIS | Don't Chase, Do THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Can My Casual Relationship Become Serious? Many men don't know how to process their feelings when a treasured relationship ends. As a result, they might be reluctant to “go all in” and they prefer casual relationships because they've been hurt before. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about the 3 levels of commitment and why conversations […] The post Can My Casual Relationship Become Serious? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

5 Feminine Skills That Turn a Man on Instantly Socialization, religion, and cultural upbringing all play a part in how we each bond with others. We DO carry those beliefs with us into adulthood – and sometimes the trauma associated with those beliefs – which impacts our relationships. But when we're intentional and honest about […] The post 5 Feminine Skills That Turn a Man on Instantly appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

3 Non Sex Moves That Turn A Man On | Men Crave THIS Creating intimacy with your partner does not always involve sex. A healthy sex life is certainly important in long term relationships but not everything has to revolve around sex. Emotional connection is where you build trust with each other. This connection also […] The post 3 Non Sex Moves That Turn A Man On | Men Crave THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How Long Should You Wait Until He's Ready For Commitment? As we search for a partner in midlife, we risk wasting a lot of time if we're not intentional about asking the right questions. Midlife is very different from our 20s, when it felt like we could take out time and play the field before […] The post How Long Should You Wait Until He's Ready For Commitment appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Over 40 Fall In Love Through THESE 5 Stages Falling in love takes time, hence the need for dating where we get to know people and figure out if our lives, hopes, and dreams are aligned. But once that threshold is crossed, falling in love ultimately means that your feelings for your partner are […] The post Men Over 40 Fall In Love Through THESE 5 Stages appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Seek Women With THESE Green Flags There ARE good men out in the dating world! And many men often feel the same way, wondering where the good women are. Dating is tricky because by the time we hit midlife, we have many years' worth of trauma and difficult experiences that skew our outlook on […] The post Men Seek Women With THESE Green Flags appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How To Tell If He's Ready To Commit | Look For THIS! Today I'm having a conversation with fellow relationship coach, Evan Marc Katz about what has changed in the dating world since he began his coaching business 22 years ago. We both agree that dating apps tend to devalue people who rely on swiping […] The post How To Tell If He's Ready To Commit | Look For THIS! appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

If A Man REALLY Likes You He'll Do THESE Things Why is meeting the right person in the dating world so frustrating? That's an age-old question that women and men ask themselves frequently. Dating is nothing like simply making friends as a child, when all you wanted to know is if you could join whatever […] The post If A Man REALLY Likes You He'll Do THESE Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

What Does Great Sex Mean to an Avoidant Man? Attachment theory delves into how we form emotional bonds with other people and I'm thrilled to have Bev Mitelman as my guest today so we can really dive into this topic. We'll discuss the different aspects of an avoidant man and how your attachment style combined […] The post What Does Great Sex Mean To An Avoidant Man? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Open A Man Up Emotionally Using THIS Technique Have you ever thought about what your INTENTION is with dating? Why are you looking for a guy? Do you intend to have a loving, long-term marriage or are you looking for a casual situationship? Neither is wrong but in the dating world we spend so much […] The post Open A Man Up Emotionally Using THIS Technique appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man's Capacity to Love is a Mystery Because of THESE 9 Things Have you ever thought about what love is? We all have our own definition of love and what it means to fall in love, but it's really a mystery because it's intangible. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about how to demystify love […] The post A Man's Capacity To Love Is A Mystery Because of THESE 9 Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Make Mistakes, But Do They Apologize? As we all know, nobody is perfect and there is no perfect relationship. When you put two imperfect people together, it's a balancing act to build a relationship while also finding ways to forgive mistakes. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about the 4 R's to an apology and […] The post Men Make Mistakes, But Do They Apologize? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

The Right Man Does THIS When He's Ready For Commitment No matter what your age or how much inner work you've done over the years, being scared at the start of a new relationship is completely natural. Whether it's fear of the unknown or simply that you don't want to repeat past mistakes, having jitters […] The post The Right Man Does THIS When He's Ready For Commitment appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

One Big Sign You Should KEEP TRYING With Him In today's world, we're constantly faced with the need for immediate gratification. We want our mail order packages NOW, not in 10 days. We grab a candy bar if we have a sugar craving, and the list goes on. Even in the dating world, we reach […] The post One Big Sign You Should KEEP TRYING With Him appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.