What Would Love Do?

Why You Should NEVER Date a Dismissive-Avoidant (Unless This One Thing Is True) We're talking about love attachment styles today to unpack why it's tough to have a relationship with a dismissive avoidant and how an anxious person is different from a dismissive avoidant person. If you're new to love attachment styles, listen in to […] The post Why You Should NEVER Date a Dismissive-Avoidant (Unless This One Thing Is True) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Never Date A Man Without This GREEN FLAG So often we focus on the RED FLAGS to avoid when dating but I feel like then we're always focusing on the negative. And when you always look for negative energy or behaviors, all of a sudden that's ALL that you can see, which isn't healthy for […] The post Never Date A Man Without This GREEN FLAG appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Why Men Shut Down After Loss and Love Feels Impossible For Them Dating seems like an endless merry-go-round where we connect with someone for a short time and then it ends. Then we're back on the apps before we really dissect what happened and how can we learn from this experience. Ending a relationship is […] The post Why Men Shut Down After Loss and Love Feels Impossible For Them appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Fall In Love and Bond When… (#1 SECRET) Falling in love is so much deeper than having great chemistry and hormone rushes. When you let lust or limerence set the tone of a relationship, very often you'll forget to have the deeper conversations to determine if you're truly aligned with this person. Lets use […] The post Men Fall In Love and Bond When… (#1 SECRET) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Mid-life Love Drought: Why Men & Women Over 45 Are Like, “Single Is Better Than A Bad Relationship” You've heard me say the dating world is a mess and even though there's not a single cause, let's focus on why we're so quick to blame the other person for a date or relationship not working […] The post Mid-life Love Drought: Why Men & Women Over 45 Think Single Is Better Than A Bad Relationship appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man Who Cares About You Will Always DO THIS Take a moment and think about your closest friend in the world. The friend that you can tell anything and know they will have your back. You can share your deepest desires and know they won't judge you. These are signs of genuine friendship. Now […] The post A Man Who Cares About You Will Always DO THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Ask Men THESE Hard Questions Before Sleeping With Them Guest @LaurelHouse Laurel House is the premier relationship coach at eHarmony and we're diving into why it's so important to be upfront with a new guy from the first date. In these midlife years, who wants to waste time getting to know someone only to find […] The post Ask Men THESE Hard Questions Before Sleeping With Them Guest @LaurelHouse appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

He Gave Me The ICK | Should I KEEP TRYING With Him? When you're exploring a new relationship, it's natural to talk about the similarities you have. A big part of my teaching is about making sure you're aligned in many parts of your lives so you can blend lifestyles easily. But when are the […] The post He Gave Me The ICK | Should I KEEP TRYING With Him? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How To Communicate Your Needs To A Man Without Him Feeling Attacked I'm thrilled to have my friend, Sabrina Rising, as my guest so we can dig into how to communicate with our partners effectively. Communication is so nuanced and can quickly turn into arguments when emotions get the better of us. Sabrina says communication […] The post How To Communicate Your Needs To A Man Without Him Feeling Attacked appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

9 Reasons Why Men Push Good Women Away Wouldn't it be wonderful if relationships developed like they do in the movies, following a predictable formula with a happily ever after ending? In reality, partnership-based relationships are complex and require trust, which can take time to develop. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about how complex emotions […] The post 9 Reasons Why Men Push Good Women Away appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Will Do All of THESE Things If They Really Like You Today's hookup culture has us trained to think that sex is the predominant way a man shows that he likes you. But I disagree and we'll talk about other non-physical ways a man will show that “he's really into you”. I also share […] The post Men Will Do All of THESE Things If They Really Like You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

The Longer a Man Is Without A Relationship, The More He's THIS Being single allows you to figure out what you want in terms of life goals and you also have the independence to schedule your daily life exactly as you want it. You can set up a daily routine or you can be spontaneous. […] The post The Longer a Man Is Without A Relationship, The More He's THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man's Silence Means THIS | Don't Chase, Do THIS Think back to when you were younger, like in your 20s or 30s. Did you find dating easier back then? That's usually the case because younger people generally don't have the same type of complicated lives that midlife people have. And playing dating games and […] The post A Man's Silence Means THIS | Don't Chase, Do THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Can My Casual Relationship Become Serious? Many men don't know how to process their feelings when a treasured relationship ends. As a result, they might be reluctant to “go all in” and they prefer casual relationships because they've been hurt before. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about the 3 levels of commitment and why conversations […] The post Can My Casual Relationship Become Serious? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

5 Feminine Skills That Turn a Man on Instantly Socialization, religion, and cultural upbringing all play a part in how we each bond with others. We DO carry those beliefs with us into adulthood – and sometimes the trauma associated with those beliefs – which impacts our relationships. But when we're intentional and honest about […] The post 5 Feminine Skills That Turn a Man on Instantly appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

3 Non Sex Moves That Turn A Man On | Men Crave THIS Creating intimacy with your partner does not always involve sex. A healthy sex life is certainly important in long term relationships but not everything has to revolve around sex. Emotional connection is where you build trust with each other. This connection also […] The post 3 Non Sex Moves That Turn A Man On | Men Crave THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How Long Should You Wait Until He's Ready For Commitment? As we search for a partner in midlife, we risk wasting a lot of time if we're not intentional about asking the right questions. Midlife is very different from our 20s, when it felt like we could take out time and play the field before […] The post How Long Should You Wait Until He's Ready For Commitment appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Over 40 Fall In Love Through THESE 5 Stages Falling in love takes time, hence the need for dating where we get to know people and figure out if our lives, hopes, and dreams are aligned. But once that threshold is crossed, falling in love ultimately means that your feelings for your partner are […] The post Men Over 40 Fall In Love Through THESE 5 Stages appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Seek Women With THESE Green Flags There ARE good men out in the dating world! And many men often feel the same way, wondering where the good women are. Dating is tricky because by the time we hit midlife, we have many years' worth of trauma and difficult experiences that skew our outlook on […] The post Men Seek Women With THESE Green Flags appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

How To Tell If He's Ready To Commit | Look For THIS! Today I'm having a conversation with fellow relationship coach, Evan Marc Katz about what has changed in the dating world since he began his coaching business 22 years ago. We both agree that dating apps tend to devalue people who rely on swiping […] The post How To Tell If He's Ready To Commit | Look For THIS! appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

If A Man REALLY Likes You He'll Do THESE Things Why is meeting the right person in the dating world so frustrating? That's an age-old question that women and men ask themselves frequently. Dating is nothing like simply making friends as a child, when all you wanted to know is if you could join whatever […] The post If A Man REALLY Likes You He'll Do THESE Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

What Does Great Sex Mean to an Avoidant Man? Attachment theory delves into how we form emotional bonds with other people and I'm thrilled to have Bev Mitelman as my guest today so we can really dive into this topic. We'll discuss the different aspects of an avoidant man and how your attachment style combined […] The post What Does Great Sex Mean To An Avoidant Man? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Open A Man Up Emotionally Using THIS Technique Have you ever thought about what your INTENTION is with dating? Why are you looking for a guy? Do you intend to have a loving, long-term marriage or are you looking for a casual situationship? Neither is wrong but in the dating world we spend so much […] The post Open A Man Up Emotionally Using THIS Technique appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

A Man's Capacity to Love is a Mystery Because of THESE 9 Things Have you ever thought about what love is? We all have our own definition of love and what it means to fall in love, but it's really a mystery because it's intangible. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about how to demystify love […] The post A Man's Capacity To Love Is A Mystery Because of THESE 9 Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Make Mistakes, But Do They Apologize? As we all know, nobody is perfect and there is no perfect relationship. When you put two imperfect people together, it's a balancing act to build a relationship while also finding ways to forgive mistakes. Let's have a DEEPER conversation about the 4 R's to an apology and […] The post Men Make Mistakes, But Do They Apologize? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

The Right Man Does THIS When He's Ready For Commitment No matter what your age or how much inner work you've done over the years, being scared at the start of a new relationship is completely natural. Whether it's fear of the unknown or simply that you don't want to repeat past mistakes, having jitters […] The post The Right Man Does THIS When He's Ready For Commitment appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

One Big Sign You Should KEEP TRYING With Him In today's world, we're constantly faced with the need for immediate gratification. We want our mail order packages NOW, not in 10 days. We grab a candy bar if we have a sugar craving, and the list goes on. Even in the dating world, we reach […] The post One Big Sign You Should KEEP TRYING With Him appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Remove This Love Block and Love Will Chase YOU! “What we think about we bring about.” I absolutely love this quote that my guest, Sabrina Rising, mentioned because so many people who reach out to me complain that there are no good men or they're not attractive enough to get a guy. The list of […] The post Remove This Love Block and Love Will Chase YOU! appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Spot THESE 3 Strong Signs He's Serious About You Have you ever noticed that there are a lot more signs that a person is NOT ready for a relationship than signs that they ARE ready? Instead of focusing on that negativity, we're looking at the positive side of human behavior in this episode so you […] The post Spot THESE 3 Strong Signs He's Serious About You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men (over 50) Who Chase Sex Don't Do THIS You alone are in charge of your relationship destiny. How's that for powerful? This is why it's so important to be aligned with your partner's values and life goals. When you allow only one person to steer the relationship, the other person gives up their power […] The post Men (over 50) Who Chase Sex Don't Do THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Be THIS and A Man Will Want To Give You Everything If you follow me, I'm assuming that you want to find a loving partner who wants to be with you forever. That's the end goal but there's a lot of exploring and personal development between the starting point and this loving end goal. And […] The post Be THIS and A Man Will Want To Give You Everything appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

7 Secret Fears Men Over 50 Have When They Really Like You What is your biggest fear when you enter into a relationship? While many people won't want to have this deep of a conversation on the first date, it's an important question to ask yourself. You will likely discover something new about yourself as […] The post 7 Secret Fears Men Over 50 Have When They Really Like You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

His Silence Means THIS and It's Not What You Think There are 3 types of people in the dating world: Users who are selfish and like to “play the field” with no sense of wanting a commitment. Spenders who seek companionship but don't have any real direction in life. Growers/Builders who are emotionally mature and […] The post His Silence Means THIS and It's Not What You Think appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Love Women Who Shockingly Do THIS When you go on a first date, who does the planning and paying? There's no right or wrong answer but if YOU do the planning and paying, do you get a thank you at the end of the date? Men and women alike need to be seen or […] The post Men Love Women Who Shockingly Do THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

They're Just A Swipe Away: Finding Love After 50 As chaotic as the dating world is these days, I don't like the description of dating apps as “where the leftovers go”. Sure, meeting people in real life can be tricky but this is when we need to do a mindset reset. Instead of finding negative […] The post They're Just A Swipe Away: Finding Love After 50 appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

THIS Might SABOTAGE Your Relationship With a Good Man Yes, there ARE good men in the world looking for a partner and committed relationship! Have all men done the inner work to overcome their insecurities and traumas? No. But let's face it…we ALL have room for personal growth and improvement. The key is being open-minded […] The post THIS Might SABOTAGE Your Relationship With a Good Man appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Psychology Behind Making A Man (over 40) CHASE You The word “chasing” when used in the dating realm sounds like it's referring to dating games, which you know I don't care for. Playing these games makes it seem like you're not serious about finding a man and developing a relationship. I prefer to use the […] The post Psychology Behind Making A Man (over 40) CHASE You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Guys Who Break Your Heart Have THIS In Common Breaking up sucks, no doubt about it. And it can be equally devastating if you've been together 3 months or 3 years. Breaking that bond that develops, especially if the breakup comes as a surprise, brings on a host of feelings and can feel overwhelming. This […] The post Guys Who Break Your Heart Have THIS In Common appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

When A Man Rejects You, THIS Might Be Why We all have inner scripts and lessons from our past that form our image of who is a suitable partner. I also love the idea that people enter our lives for a season to teach us lessons that we need to learn. Not everyone you meet […] The post When A Man Rejects You, THIS Might Be Why appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

#1 Relationship Let Down Happening On First Dates with Men First dates are tough, let's be honest. We put so much pressure on ourselves to look and act a certain way, like this is our ONLY chance to find Mr. Right. First impressions are certainly important but it takes so much more than one in […] The post #1 Relationship Let Down Happening On First Dates with Men appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Love at First Sight | Is It Real or A Fantasy? Love at first sight is romanticized in countless movies and romance novels but can it legitimately happen? Some people swear it does, like those who say they just KNEW on their first date that they'd get married. But excitement about a strong connection is […] The post Love at First Sight | Is It Real or A Fantasy? appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

5 Feminine Ways To Turn A Man On Using THESE Skills I do believe that most men have a good heart and don't purposely hurt the women they're dating. But some men are broken, meaning they are emotionally wounded and are doing very little to heal themselves. Some men simply don't believe they can be […] The post 5 Feminine Ways To Turn A Man On Using THESE Skills appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Don't Make THIS Mistake if He Seems to be Pulling Away Men have been conditioned since childhood that they should be the leaders of relationships and the woman should follow their lead. How many times have we heard that men are the hunters and gatherers while the women are the nurturers? Why is it always […] The post Don't Make THIS Mistake if He Seems to be Pulling Away appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Why He'll Choose You Over Another Woman Why are women so eager to compete for a guy's attention? We saw this in high school but it still carries over into adulthood. Let me be honest here…if you feel like you're in a competition, drop out. This guy is not a prize in the game of […] The post Why He'll Choose You Over Another Woman | He Needs THIS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

If He Really Likes You, Make No Mistake, He'll Do THESE Things Even though men and women alike may WANT a serious relationship, not all are capable of having that relationship. There are a variety of reasons, ranging from lessons learned from childhood, adult trauma (such as divorce) or simply not understanding what it takes […] The post If He Really Likes You, Make No Mistake, He'll Do THESE Things appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

If A Man Pulls Away | Avoid THIS Mistake Sometimes we confuse the word “chasing” with the idea of making effort. Chasing a guy implies that you're texting and contacting him regularly even if he's not showing an interest in you. Whereas making an effort is when you're initiating communication and he's reciprocating. There's a […] The post If A Man Pulls Away | Avoid THIS Mistake appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

If He Does THESE THINGS, He'll Be Loyal To You  ‬ ‪ I'm willing to bet that people who are looking for a long term, loving relationship want their relationships to be successful. These are the people who are focused on deep conversations and willing to put in the personal development work so they can […] The post If He Does THESE THINGS, He'll Be Loyal To You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Get Him To Open Up Emotionally? TRY THESE 7 THINGS  ‬ ‪ Is your guy from the generation where they learned boys don't cry and to be a man means stuffing your emotions? Don't worry, you're not alone. Unlearning these lessons can be time consuming but it's not impossible for your guy to do the […] The post Get Him To Open Up Emotionally? TRY THESE 7 THINGS appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

5 Stages Men Go Through Before They'll Commit To You  ‬ ‪ If you're looking for a guy to go the distance in a long term relationship, embrace every ounce of patience and listen to this episode! As always, every man is different and if he's done any kind of self-improvement work, then he may […] The post 5 Stages Men Go Through Before They'll Commit To You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Men Who Agree To THIS Are More Likely To Commit To You  ‬ ‪ How do you define a successful relationship? Now ask your guy the same question to see if you're anywhere close to having the same definition. If you've never thought about this question, it's time to sit and contemplate your answers and […] The post Men Who Agree To THIS Are More Likely To Commit To You appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.

Do THIS When He Pulls Away  ‬ ‪ Men pulling away from a relationship isn't a new phenomenon. In fact, ‘men pulling away' is a common Google search term simply because it happens so frequently. This is no surprise because men in general don't understand what it means to have a deep, committed relationship. And […] The post Do THIS When He Pulls Away (He'll Never Expect It) appeared first on Understand Men Now With Jonathon Aslay.