Figure Out Your Life with Toya T

Sick and tired? Need a break? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss workplace burnout and emotional exhaustion and share 6 ways to deal with this psychological syndrome.    Links mentioned in this episode: Burnout harms workers’ physical health through many pathways  Overloaded | Beyond Burnout  Workplace burnout is real and here’s how to cope Emotional exhaustion: what it is and how to treat it  8 black therapists on their best advice for coping right now 7 Virtual Mental Health Resources Supporting Black People Right Now Filling our Cups: 4 Ways People of Color can Foster Mental Health and Practice Restorative Healing How to Refuel When You’re Feeling Emotionally Drained How I Learned to Stop Glorifying the Hustle and Start Living Intentionally Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Contact with Toya T on social media: Website: www.figureoutyourlifeblog.com Instagram: @figureoutyourlifepod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifepod Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I reflect on my 20s and share 10 lessons I learned from it. So much happened in that decade that has impacted my life now--especially how I think and approach life--and I thought it would be helpful to share what I learned from those experiences in my 20s with others. Hopefully, this will help twentysomethings avoid some of the hard lessons I had to learn, or inspire thirtysomethings and older to reflect back and figure out what they learned from their 20s.    Links mentioned in this episode: Toya T’s 30 Things Before 30 YouTube Playlist  Vela Negra Candles Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Contact with Toya T on social media: Website: www.figureoutyourlifeblog.com Instagram: @figureoutyourlifepod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifepod Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

The term "imposter syndrome" was coined by psychologists Clance and Imes in 1978 to describe the persistent feeling that one’s achievements have come about through some sort of accident, luck, or deception and that at any minute other people might find out you're an “imposter.” People of Color are particularly vulnerable to this phenomenon due to experiences with racial discrimination, racial-gender stereotypes of intellectual inferiority, and underrepresentation in professional spaces. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss imposter syndrome and share five tips on how to fight it before it hinders your success.    Links mentioned in this episode: CCW’s Alumnae Author Series with Mary Pattillo CC'91 and moderator LaToya Tavernier CC'05 Imposter Syndrome Hits Harder When You’re Black Why Imposter Syndrome Is Worse for Women of Color The Effects of Imposter Syndrome How to mitigate the detrimental effects of imposter syndrome in the workplace 9 Ways to Deal With Imposter Syndrome Before It Hinders Your Success Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Contact with Toya T on social media: Website: www.figureoutyourlifeblog.com Instagram: @figureoutyourlifepod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifepod Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

Many black women in America feel pressured to act like or be seen as “strong,” projecting themselves as self-sacrificing, emotionless, and unbreakable in their daily lives. However, the “strong black woman” identity can actually be harmful to black women. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with my friends Claire Gibson, an intellectual property attorney, and Courtenay Barton, a philanthropist, about being black women in America and explore how the “strong black woman” identity can negatively impact black women’s lives and well-being.     Links mentioned in this episode: The Misconception of the Strong Black Woman How the “Strong Black Woman” Identity Both Helps and Hurts Taraji P. Henson On Why She Denies The ‘Strong Black Woman’ Damages Us If You’ve Ever Called A Black Woman “Strong” or “Black Girl Magic,” You Need To Hear Taraji P. Henson’s Thoughts On It  Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Where to find our guests: Claire Gibson Website: www.gibsonlaw.nyc  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gibsonlawnyc/   Courtenay Barton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highheelsnbooks/ Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Contact with Toya T on social media: Website: www.figureoutyourlifeblog.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/latoyat/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifepod Twitter: https://twitter.com/LuvBeing_ToyaT 

Dating can be complicated even during “normal” times. Add in masks, social distancing, and a highly contagious virus for which there is no cure or vaccine, and you get a bunch of people trying to figure out how to safely meet someone during a pandemic. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with the Flirty Savage, a Law of Attraction coach, about dating, relationships, and sex, and she shares tips for manifesting the relationship you’re looking for.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Flirty Savage  How to Date During a Pandemic The Only 8 Flirting Moves You’ll Ever Need Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Where to find the Flirty Savage: https://www.flirtysavage.com  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFlirtySavage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theflirtysavage/  Flirty Savage Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/flirtysavagespirit/     Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Have you been feeling emotionally drained or exhausted in a way that you hadn’t before back when life was “normal”? This type of mental and physical exertion are symptoms of “Zoom Fatigue.” With more and more people working from home, attending meetings, communicating with family and friends, and learning through video conferencing applications like Zoom, Skype, Google Meet, and Microsoft Teams, this fatigue is becoming a growing concern. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss “Zoom Fatigue” and share 5 simple things you can do to prevent it.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: 'Zoom fatigue' is setting in: What it is and how to prevent it How to Combat Zoom Fatigue Here’s Why You’re Feeling Zoom Fatigue ‘Zoom fatigue’ is taxing the brain. Here's why that happens. Jeremy Bentham and the Panopticon Prison Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

In a world where the more you have, the more security you can provide for you and your family, why is being a gold digger not considered a positive attribute? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss why we all need to be gold diggers and share 5 simple ways to begin gold digging.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: In The Hot Seat: The Gold Digger The Art of Gold Digging The Net Worth of America’s 600-Plus Billionaires Has Increased By More Than $400 Billion During The Pandemic Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

What does it mean to be your true authentic self? What happens when you don’t live an authentic life? What are the benefits of being your authentic self? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the importance of being your authentic self and share 7 simple tips to start being your authentic self.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: What it means to be your authentic self Develop Authenticity: 20 Ways to Be a More Authentic Person Black Women Are Not Allowed to Be Introverted Dressing While Black: Self-Censoring to Pass in White Spaces Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Do you ever feel like you failed at life?  Often, when you’re feeling this way, it is a reflection of how you feel inside. Understanding how to love yourself can help you cope with failure, rebuild your confidence, and live a better life. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the importance of loving yourself and share 5 tips for developing a better relationship with yourself.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: 11 Tips to Fall in Love with Yourself and be a Better You 5 Ways That You Can Use Your Love Languages on Yourself Vela Negra candles Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

With the pandemic, racism, and the Great Karen rebellion, what we need now more than ever is black joy. Black joy is resistance to everything that has tried to kill black people and failed.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss black joy and why it is necessary, and share 10 simple ways to cultivate joy in your everyday life.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Black joy is a form of resistance too, and should be expressed The Black Joy Project For Black Women, Joy Is Nonnegotiable Black Joy Parade  Finding Well-Being and Black Joy When the World is on Fire We Need Black Joy More Than Ever--Here’s Why Black girl happiness is revolutionary Kukuwa Fitness Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

My 15-year college reunion was supposed to be this month. But the pandemic happened, and it was canceled/postponed (?), and truthfully, I am a little relieved. Class reunions only happen every five years; yet, somehow, they are easily able to stir up insecurities (both old and new) in many of us. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss class reunions and why they make me feel insecure AF.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: On Reuniting: The Emotional Storm of High School Reunions 8 Things I Learned at My College Reunion  To Go or Not to Go: Is Your School Reunion Worth the Worry?   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Racial trauma, or race-based stress, is the psychological and physiological distress people of color suffer in reaction to experiences of racism, discrimination, and microaggressions. Such experiences include witnessing violence against another person of color (e.g., the video of George Floyd’s murder). Black people are more exposed to racism and discrimination than any other ethnic or racial group. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss racial trauma and share 10 ways to cope with race-based stress.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: 7 Virtual Mental Health Resources Supporting Black People Right Now Racial Trauma: Theory, Research, and Healing: Introduction to the Special Issue How to Cope with Coronavirus Disease (COVID-19) Anxiety & Stress Coping with Racial Trauma   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Pandemic lockdown restrictions are easing across the US and around the world at varying degrees. And, there’s a lot of talk about things getting back to “normal.” And what I say to that is: Sorry, but don't expect life to return to normal. Even as lockdown restrictions loosen, there's still much we can do to slow the spread of the virus and prevent a second wave. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I share 6 things not to do as outside reopens.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: 6 Things Not to Do When Coronavirus Quarantine and Lockdown End Class of 2020 entering worst job market since Great Depression Click Here to Subscribe to the Figure Out Your Life newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

This goes out to all the baby’s mamas, mama’s mama, mama’s mama’s mamas (*cue the Outkast music*). You are appreciated! In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss motherhood and (since I am not a mother yet), I share the insights of 17 remarkable mothers, including my own mother, on what it means to be a mother.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Click Here to Subscribe to the Figure Out Your Life newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

In these strange and uncertain times such as those we are living in, it can feel like our lives are out of our control and nothing makes sense. The global health pandemic has brought so many changes to our lives and it is unclear how everything will turn out. Many of us are unsure about what to do. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the importance of trusting your intuition and listening to your gut, especially in these uncertain times, and share 10 ways you can incorporate listening to your gut into your everyday life.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Click Here to Subscribe to the Figure Out Your Life newsletter May Is Mental Health Awareness Month: What to Know Should You Trust Your Gut? How To Trust Your Intuition And Listen To Your Gut 3 Reasons Why You Have To Trust Your Gut Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

As adults, we all lead such elaborate lives. Often living in different places, with growing commitments and responsibilities, it can be hard to stay connected with our friends. And, now that we are living through a global health pandemic, it adds an extra challenge, especially since we can’t be physically close right now. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with my friends Madison and Aisha about how they are staying connected to friends while social-distancing and what they think about the various virtual activities that have become so popular.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Hey Dr. Cort Gunnar Foshay 15 Black-owned Small Businesses to Support with Your Stimulus Check How to Get in Touch with This Week’s Guests:  Madison Mobley --- madison.mobley@fairmarket.com  Aisha Cort -- drcort@heydrcort.com & @heydrcort (Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook)   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

This week the US government started sending out economic stimulus checks to eligible taxpayers to help relieve the economic burden caused by the coronavirus pandemic. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life, I discuss what you need to know about the stimulus checks, including how much money to expect, how to track your payment, and how it affects your 2020 taxes, and I share 6 suggestions on what to do with your stimulus money.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: How to track your coronavirus stimulus check now: What to do to get your status Don’t Worry: The $1,200 Stimulus Payment Won’t Cut Into Your Tax Refund Next April 6 Things to Do With Your Stimulus Money The Budgetnista   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

It’s another week in quarantine. And, to keep y’all up to date with relevant and fresh information, in this episode of Figure Out Your Life, I remixed the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast for the global pandemic (also known as the ‘rona). This is the Remix!   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Figuring Out Ghosting (and Why You Should Speak Up Instead of Playing with Someone Else’s Emotions) Figuring Out How to Make New Friends as a Grownup Figuring Out How to Overcome Fear of Failure & Move Forward with Your Goals Figuring Out How to Create the Right Mindset for a Job Search Figuring Out Living at Home as an Adult Figuring Out FOMO and How to Overcome It Figuring Out Celibacy Figuring Out How to Start 2020 Off Right and Make It Your Best Year Figuring Out When to Stick with Something and When to Quit Figuring Out Cancel (and Why It Doesn’t Really Work) Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your first outing post QUARANTINE? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject.  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

What will life be like after the quarantine ends? Will there be a baby boom prompted by couples spending more time together? Will companies gain new perspectives on working remotely as opposed to traditional views on the workplace? Will social-distancing become a part of our everyday lives? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss possible outcomes of this pandemic and explain why I think our lives will never be the same.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: Hidden Brain episode about the 1918 flu How the Pandemic Will End Most Brown and Black Americans Are Exposing Themselves to Coronavirus for a Paycheck Join Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Let’s face it, social-distancing may become our new normal. For those who aren’t used to spending tons of time at home (working and/or playing), the first few days may feel like a snow day where you don’t have to shovel. Woohoo! But, after a week or more, social-distancing may trigger cabin fever, which can dampen your mood, energy level, and motivation. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I share my list of 17 fun ways to help you beat cabin fever and stay sane while social distancing.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher Links mentioned in this episode: 21 Ways to Beat Cabin Fever Yes, cabin fever is real---here’s how to prevent it Cabin Fever Symptoms and Coping Skills Join Figure Out Your Life Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

March is Women’s History Month, commemorating and encouraging the study, observance, and celebration of the vital role of women in history. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I share 10 ways we can all take in our daily lives to support, champion, and empower women of color, and especially black women.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How We Can Support Women, Today and Every Day 11 Ways to Support Black Women in 2018 6 Ways to Champion & Empower Other Women Every Day Women of Color in Elective Office 2020 Join the Figure It Out Fridays Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Traveling with friends or your bae can be lots of fun, but there’s something very special about traveling solo. It is a good learning experience and a perfect time for deep introspection. When you travel alone, you can learn as much about yourself as the destinations you visit. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I share 5 things I’ve learned about myself from traveling solo.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Figuring Out How to Travel Solo as a Woman of Color 10 Things You Learn About Yourself When Traveling Solo Things You Learn About Yourself While Travelling Solo 5 Things I Learned About Myself While Traveling Solo Join the Figure It Out Fridays Newsletter   Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Single people are too often stereotyped and stigmatized. They are pitied while married people are celebrated. But, singledom is not a disease or a life sentence. Single life is what you make of it! It can be tremendously meaningful and fulfilling if you embrace it. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I examine how life might look like if we reimagined and redefined our image of single life and share tips on how to live our best lives as a single person.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Session 132: Reimagining Single Life - Therapy for Black Girls 17 Benefits of the Single Life Women live longer without marriage and kids, happiness expert claims How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Job hunting is like dating. You put on your best outfit, practice what you are going to say, and pray they like you and want to see you again. Afterward, you replay everything you said and did in your mind, ask your friends and family for words of encouragement, and then sit by the phone anticipating their call for a second encounter. The lack of communication that often happens after an interview can be frustrating, especially when you thought it went well. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I share 6 tips on how to beat the job interview waiting game. Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Interview Waiting Game: How to Deal with the Silence After a Job Interview How Long Should I Wait To Hear Back After An Interview? 2020 Census Jobs Sign up for the Figure It Out Fridays Newsletter How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Looking for the perfect outfit for your big job interview? Check out Rent The Runway Unlimited. Here’s $100 off your first month to get you started: https://rtr.app.link/e/w1EmVAYaX3 Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Adopting the right mindset is crucial for a successful job search. The process can be time-consuming and frightening at first. But, approaching your job search with a good mindset can help you get your foot in the door. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss the importance of mindset in the job search process and share 5 practical tips on how to focus your time and mental energies on the right things that will help you with a successful job search.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Three key elements of a successful job search mindset 5 Reasons Growth Mindset Candidates Get The Job Creating the Right Mindset for Your Job Search Gradschooled with Fatimah Williams, Ph.D podcast TopResume Sign up for the Figure It Out Fridays Newsletter How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review    Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  I have a feeling that you’ll really like Freshly! They deliver delicious chef-cooked meals right to your door and they’ve made mealtime easier than ever for me. Plus, here’s $40 off your first two weeks to get you started: http://refer.freshly.com/s/latoyat   Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Loss is a natural part of life, but we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, leading to prolonged periods of sadness or depression. Coping with the loss of a loved one may be one of the hardest challenges that many of us face. But, grieving is an important process to overcome these feelings and be at peace with your loss. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss my experience with the death of a loved one and share strategies for dealing with loss and grief and for helping others grieve.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: 7 Steps for Dealing With Loss and Grief Grief: Coping with the loss of your loved one Bereavement and Grief Bereavement Fares: An Airline by Airline 2019 Guide Sign up for the Figure It Out Fridays Newsletter How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  I have a feeling that you’ll really like Freshly! They deliver delicious chef-cooked meals right to your door and they’ve made mealtime easier than ever for me. Plus, here’s $40 off your first two weeks to get you started: http://refer.freshly.com/s/latoyat   Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

For better or worse, reality tv has had an impact on our world. Reality tv can be dramatic, over the top, and (often) stranger than fiction. But every now and then, it can surprise you by actually giving you something to think about and apply in your own life. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss some of my favorite reality tv show moments and share 10 life lessons I have learned from watching reality tv. Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Join the #FigureOutYourLifeTribe How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  I have a feeling that you’ll really like Freshly! They deliver delicious chef-cooked meals right to your door and they’ve made mealtime easier than ever for me. Plus, here’s $40 off your first two weeks to get you started: http://refer.freshly.com/s/latoyat   Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Don’t let 2020 sneak up on you! Now is the perfect time to take charge of what you’re getting out of your life. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I share 4 ways to start the new year (and decade) off right.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: 5 Ways to Start Off the Year Right Level Up! 10 Life-Changing Habits to Adopt in the New Year 10 Ways to Make This Year Your Best Year Ever Passion Planner How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Crush your 2020 goals with Passion Planner! Get a 10% discount using my code: http://rwrd.io/y979lj1  I have a feeling that you’ll really like Freshly! They deliver delicious chef-cooked meals right to your door and they’ve made mealtime easier than ever for me. Plus, here’s $40 off your first two weeks to get you started: http://refer.freshly.com/s/latoyat   Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Fear of Missing Out, or FOMO, is a new mental health syndrome plaguing a growing number of people. Those afflicted with FOMO fear that they are missing out on what other people are doing; specifically, they fear that others are having exciting experiences that they’re not. FOMO is especially strong for those who are addicted to social media because they’re constantly aware of what others are doing. In most cases, people with FOMO respond by either overcommitting and failing to fulfill many of their commitments or choosing to avoid agreements and commitments as much as possible. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss the concept of FOMO and the dangers of being afflicted with this mental health condition, and I share 6 ways to overcome Fear of Missing Out.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: The Fear of Missing Out, Social Media, and How to Leverage It Fear of Missing Out 10 Ways to Overcome Fear of Missing Out  Enter to Win the Giveaway How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review The Pattern App iTunes or Google Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  I have a feeling that you’ll really like Freshly! They deliver delicious chef-cooked meals right to your door and they’ve made mealtime easier than ever for me. Plus, here’s $40 off your first two weeks to get you started: http://refer.freshly.com/s/latoyat   Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

‘Tis the season to practice saying “No.” It’s no secret that the holidays can be incredibly overwhelming and leave us feeling stretched too thin and left with too little time, energy, and money for ourselves — and it’s often our own fault. Many of us frequently say “yes” to invitations, favors, and requests in order to avoid the difficulty and discomfort of saying “No.” But, saying “No” during the holidays can be beneficial to our health, finances, and sanity.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the importance of saying “No” to relieve holiday stress and share 7 strategies to make saying “No” feel less uncomfortable.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Keep Holiday Stress to a Minimum: Learn to Say No How to say no during the holidays How I Found Freedom in Saying No During the Holidays Why the holidays are the perfect time to practice saying “no” 40 Restaurants Open on Thanksgiving This Year That Make Life so Easy How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Do you want $5 to start your savings journey? Get started with Qapital. Since I started using the app, I have easily saved over $7000.  Sign up with my code and get $5 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

More than one in five millennial Americans, ages 23 to 37, are living at home with their parents. Experts say the unaffordable housing market, rising student loan debt, and stagnating wages, rather than a failure to adult (i.e., not being able to hold jobs or launch careers), are pushing more and more millennials to move back home. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the growing trend of millennials living at home, including my own experience, and share simple tips for making the most of living with your parents as an adult.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How to Make the Most of Living at Home as an Adult Rules for living with your parents at 30 Living at home: States where young people still stay with parents Top 25 US cities where millennials still live with their parents More millennials are living at home than at any other point this century How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Do you want $20 to start your savings journey? Get started with Qapital. Since I started using the app, I have easily saved over $7000.  Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Are you afraid of failing? Fear of failure is a significant obstacle that can stand between you and your goals. But, fear and failure are both parts of life that we can’t avoid, and that we shouldn’t try to avoid. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss my experiences with fear of failure and share five strategies for conquering the fear and moving forward with your goals.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How To Conquer The Fear Of Failure - 5 Proven Strategies How to Conquer Fear of Failure: Five simple ways to remove fear of failure from your path to success BLK + GRN website My Skydiving Experience How to Leave an Apple Podcast Review Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Do you want $20 to start your savings journey? Get started with Qapital. Since I started using the app, I have easily saved over $7000.  Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Halloween is here. And, if you are not sure what to wear, I created a special episode to help you celebrate the holiday without being culturally offensive (or straight-up racist). In this bonus episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss cultural appropriation and Halloween, and explain why dressing up as “another culture” is racist and an act of privilege that everyone, including people of color, must recognize and consciously avoid perpetuating. I also share my list of  “commonly-worn, yet culturally offensive” Halloween costumes to avoid and a checklist to help determine whether or not your costume is racist.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: History of Halloween Chola style--the latest cultural appropriation fashion crime? What is Cultural Appropriation Exactly, and How Do I Avoid It?  This Hampshire Halloween checklist: Is Your Costume Racist? Don’t Mess Up When You Dress Up: Cultural Appropriation and Costumes But Why Can't I wear a Hipster Headdress? http://nativeappropriations.com/2010/... Seven Racist costumes to avoid this Halloween Why Blackface Isn’t OK to Wear on Halloween (Or Ever) Cultural Appropriation at Halloween: My Culture Is Not a Costume Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Do you want $20 to start your savings journey? Get started with Qapital. Since I started using the app, I have easily saved over $7000.  Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Cancel culture is a modern internet phenomenon where a person is ejected from influence or fame due to their problematic tendencies and/or past actions. For example, R. Kelly was instantly canceled after the release of the docuseries Surviving R. Kelly, which documented the lenthy history of sexual abuse allegations against the singer. As a result, he was dropped by his record label, and most importantly, he was arrested on federal charges alleging sex crimes and obstruction of justice. Here the “cancellation” has worked as intended. But, then you have someone like a MAGA hat-wearing Kanye West who infamously said slavery was a choice (and did so with little remorse), he gets “canceled” and then starts performing “gospel music” at his “Sunday Services” and now has the #1 album on iTunes. What happened to him being #canceled? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss cancel culture, and explore why it doesn’t really work for everyone and should be canceled.    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Cancel Culture Cancel Culture is #Canceled Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Do you want $20 to start your savings journey? Get started with Qapital. Since I started using the app, I have easily saved over $7000.  Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Have you ever been ghosted by a friend or someone you are dating? Or, have you ghosted someone? Chances are the answer is yes---to both questions! In today’s dating culture approximately 50 percent of men and women have been ghosted or have done the ghosting; and whether it be by a friend or someone you are dating, being ghosted sucks and can actually leave psychological bruises and scars. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the phenomenon of ghosting, particularly why people do it and why it hurts so much, and share how to move forward after being ghosted.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: This is Why Ghosting Hurts So Much  I Was Ghosted: Why People Should Speak Up Instead of Playing With Others’ Emotions Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Saving up for your dream vacation? Get started with Qapital. Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

Do you know someone who thinks they are always right and won’t ever admit when they’re wrong? Yes, of course, you do! We all do. And, sometimes that person is ourselves. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss how to know when you’re wrong and share 5 ways you can do something about it to decrease your likelihood of constant arguments, “Kanye rants,” pulsating forehead veins, and threats of being canceled.   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How to Know When You’re Wrong (and What You Can Do About It) Viva La Lengua Travel Small Doses with Amanda Seales Podcast - Side Effects of Professionalism Part 1 Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Saving up for your dream vacation? Get started with Qapital. Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

This month marks two years since I last had sex!! And, no, I did not make a purity pledge, or become a born-again virgin.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss celibacy and share some of the benefits and drawbacks of celibacy, tips for abstaining from sex (without wearing a chastity belt), and the importance of self-pleasure.     Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Celibacy and The Spirituality of Masturbation Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Saving up for your dream house? Get started with Qapital. Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

There are lots of things in my life that I think SHOULD be a certain way---I should have a higher paying job, I should be in a loving romantic relationship, and I should be 50lbs lighter.  However, focusing on the “shoulds” has rarely helped me accomplish my life goals. More times than not it has led to toxic self-talk, a distorted self-image, and debilitating depression.  In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss “shouldology,” which (if it were a real behavioral science) would be the study of a desirable or expected state, and share tips for moving past your “shoulds” towards embracing your reality and accomplishing your goals. Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by: Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: The Science of Shouldology: How I Moved Past My Expectations to Accomplish My Goals Passion Planner Hey Dr. Cort! Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Saving up for your dream house? Get started with Qapital. Sign up with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

I believe there are three major events that can make or break any relationship---weddings, funerals, and ROAD TRIPS. The unpredictability of road travel can bring out our best and worst qualities. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss some of my road trip adventures with friends and share tips for planning and taking a road trip with friends (without ruining your friendship).  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How to plan a road trip with your friends Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Saving up for your next road trip? Sign up for Qapital with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter  

Making new friends as an adult can be awkward, and sometimes very hard when you are new to a city, workplace, or group. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss the beneficial effects of friendship and share 7 tips for making new friends as a grownup.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: The Importance of Female Friendships Among Women Making New Friends as a Grown-Up Meetup.com LiteWorks Events The Collier Connection Boston Young Black Professionals I Don’t Do Clubs Bumble App Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Want $20? Sign up for Qapital with my code and get $20 towards your savings goals: https://get.qapital.com/f3uBtGuxdX Social Media Info:  Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using hashtag #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email figureoutyourlifeblog@gmail.com with thoughts and questions!  Follow Toya T everywhere on social media---Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, and Twitter

You’ve been invited to a wedding...now what? Before you do anything, let me give you the 411 on wedding guest etiquette. There’s more to attending a wedding than getting dressed up, trying to catch the bouquet, and dancing all night long---as a guest, you have some responsibilities. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss my most recent experience attending a friend’s wedding and share my Dos and Don’ts of being a great wedding guest.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: How to Be a Great Wedding Guest Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  Got invited to a wedding and don’t know what to wear? Rent The Runway is perfect for you. Use my code and get $30 off your first order: https://rtr.app.link/e/bUrVNsuKQZ  Social Media Info:  Toya T:  @latoyat (Instagram) Figure Out Your Life podcast:  @figureoutyourlifepod (Instagram)  #FigureOutYourLifePod

I quit my teaching job two weeks before the school year started, despite not having another job lined up. And, it is the best decision I could have made for myself professionally and personally. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss why I decided to quit my job and explore the question many of us ask ourselves: How long should I stick with something---and when should I call it quits?   Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: When To Stick With Something---And When To Quit How To Write A Resignation Letter (The Correct Way) Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  I'm saving money faster with Qapital. Sign up and use my code a837y8mu or my link and we'll both get $10! If you are looking for a community of other folks who are trying to figure out their lives, join us here: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifeblog/  Social Media Info:  Toya T:  @latoyat (Instagram) Figure Out Your Life podcast:  @figureoutyourlifepod (Instagram)  #FigureOutYourLifePod  

Today, speaking more than one language has become increasingly important for education, work, and travel. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life, I discuss learning a new language with Dr. Aisha Z. Cort, and she shares with us tips and strategies on getting started on your own language learning journey from her experiences as a multilingual speaker and language coach.  Dr. Cort is a Cuban-Guyanese-American Spanish speaker from Boston, MA. She received her undergraduate degree from Yale University in Spanish (2005) and earned her Master’s and Doctorate degrees from Emory University in Spanish Literature (2009, 2010). She lives in  Washington, DC and is currently a full-time lecturer of Spanish at Howard University. Her company Hey Dr. Cort! offers a number of services that allow you to take control of your language learning journey on your own time, including a Viva La Lengua: 4 Weeks to Conversationally Fluent Spanish course and cultural immersion trips to Havana, Tulum, and Barcelona.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Washington Times article Hey Dr. Cort  Audacity Fest (use promo code AISHA for 25% off) Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  If you are looking for a community of other folks who are trying to figure out their lives, join us here: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifeblog/  Social Media Info:  Hey Dr. Cort! - @heydrcort (Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook) Figure Out Your Life - @figureoutyourlifepod (Instagram)  #FigureOutYourLifePod

Have you ever wanted to start a business, but didn’t know how to start? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life with Toya T, I speak to Dr. Aisha Z. Cort about her business Hey Dr. Cort! and she shares with us what she has figured out about starting a business, from idea to launch.  Dr. Cort is a Cuban-Guyanese-American Spanish speaker from Boston, MA. She received her undergraduate degree from Yale University in Spanish (2005) and earned her Master’s and Doctorate degrees from Emory University in Spanish Literature (2009, 2010). She lives in  Washington, DC and is currently a full-time lecturer of Spanish at Howard University.  Hey Dr. Cort! offers a number of services that allow you to take control of your language learning journey on your own time, including a Viva La Lengua: 4 Weeks to Conversationally Fluent Spanish course and cultural immersion trips to Havana, Tulum, and Barcelona.  Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher This episode is brought to by:  Audible Audible is offering Figure Out Your Life with Toya T listeners a free audiobook download with a free 30-day trial to give you the opportunity to check out their service. To get your free audiobook, go to: http://www.audibletrack.com/click.track?CID=102175&AFID=431633  Links mentioned in this episode: Hey Dr. Cort  Zoom Teachable  Mailchimp  Leadpages Canva Word Swag Wordpress Feminessay  Passion Planner Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  If you are looking for a community of other folks who are trying to figure out their lives, join us here: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifeblog/  Social Media Info:  Hey Dr. Cort! - @heydrcort (Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook) Figure Out Your Life - @figureoutyourlifeblog (Instagram)  #FigureOutYourLifePod  

According to Urban Dictionary, to shoot your shot is "to let go of your pride and pursue someone you are interested in"; "to take a  chance no matter if you fail or not." For some women, shooting their shot at a guy they are interested in can be hard because of the fear of being rejected or of being seen as "thirsty." In this episode of Figure Out Your Life with Toya T, I discuss why women should shoot their shots, and share what I have figured out from my own experiences approaching potential baes, including tips on how to shoot your shot the right way. 

Looking for love? Have you tried online dating? In recent years, online dating has quickly become a normal way for singles to meet and connect with other single people. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life With Toya T, I discuss online dating and share what I have figured out from my own experience of meeting people online, including a list of some of the best online dating apps and simple tips for attracting the right people to your profile. Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, Stitcher   This episode is brought to by:  Audible Links mentioned in this episode: The Best Dating Apps for 2019 Online Dating Apps, Rated for Your Black Ass Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed):  http://figureoutyourlife.libsyn.com/rss  Announcements:  If you are looking for a community of other folks who are trying figure out their lives, join us here: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifeblog/  Social media info:  Figure Out Your Life - @figureoutyourlifeblog  #FigureOutYourLifePod

Toya T turned 36 this year! On this episode of Figure Out Your Life, she discusses getting older, societal perceptions of age and aging, and the double standards of aging for men and women.