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It's our last episode, but we'll meet again. (Promise.) Thanks for listening, friends! Love, Lynda & Lisa Saying Goodbye and Saying it Well (American Psychological Association) 5 Strange Things We Do When We Want To Avoid Saying Goodbye (Elite Daily) To stay in touch with Lisa visit lisadiers.com To stay in touch with Lynda visit lyndacrotty.com  

Have we told you lately that we love you? We do, and we have something else to tell you too.

Someone sucking the life out of you? We bring the guru garlic in this episode on energy vampires. How to spot (and deal with) an energy vampire - NBC News How to Recognize and Respond to Energy Vampires at Home, Work, and More - Healthline Russell Brand Kundalini Exercise - Feel Like LOSING YOUT SH*T? Try THIS First  

Learn from your yearn and integrity will follow. Promise. (Plus, Martha Beck says so.) Get this book! The Way of Integrity - Martha Beck Try this meditation: Are you satisfiable? - Amanda Yates Garcia

Dude! Get some solitude. It does a body (and mind) good. Why Do Introverts Love Being Alone? Here's The Science - Jenn Granneman 7 Science-Backed Reasons You Should Spend More Time Alone - Amy Morin

You've got some nerve. (Your vagas nerve.) And it's the boss of your bod. How to stimulate your vagus nerve for better mental health. By Jordan Fallis - University of Ottowa

Got dragons to slay? We got you. (With a little help from Joseph Campbell.) Joseph Campbell - Wikipedia  The Hero's Journey - Your Dictionary No more moon! - Super old blog post by Lynda Crotty

Stuck in the middle? We'll help you move. 7 Things To Do Immediately When You Feel 'Stuck' In Life - by Kelly Chisholm Living In Limbo - by Alecia Kennedy Staying Stuck or Moving Forward - by Dr. Lani Nelson Zlupko | TEDxWilmington  

There's gravity in letting that apple hit you on the head. Pick it instead, for a more positive mindset. 5 Simple & Scientific Steps to Detox Trauma and Toxic Thinking By Dr. Caroline Leaf

Shed the shackles of playing small and accept your divine assignment.   Why Playing Small Is Just Your Ego - Lissa Rankin Turning Pro Intro - Steven Pressfield How To Turn Pro, From The Warrior Artist, Steven Pressfield - Ryan Holiday- Forbes

Build the plane in mid-air? Kinda. Learn how to "wing it" well. The Science Of Winging It: Why Successful People Just Go With The Flow - BY JOHN HALTIWANGER (for Elite Daily) Afraid To Mess Up? Why You Often Just Need To Wing It! - BY MARGIE WARRELL (for Forbes)  

Hey, people pleasers, we're good. It's time to choose you. Why it doesn't pay to be a people pleaser. Christine Carter - PhD People Pleasing: How it can damage your mental health and how to stop. Caroline Leaf - Pathologist & Neuroscientist 11 experts tips to stop being a people pleaser and start doing you. Vanessa Van Edwards - Author & Speaker  

Shit's goin' down with or without you, so suffer or don't. (You get to pick!) DBT Skills: Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance - Video The Power of Acceptance: Stop Resisting and Find the Lesson Unconditional Self Acceptance - Kris Carr Unconditional Positive Regard  Crashing The Coronation - Bokara Legendre - The Moth

If you want to DO something. Don't think. Or blink. Just jump! Omar Apollo story from "How I Made It" (Latino USA) on NPR https://beta.prx.org/stories/356339 The Action Habit: 7 Proven Ways to Move from Deciding to Doing by Skip Richard https://www.skipprichard.com/the-action-habit-7-proven-ways-to-move-from-deciding-to-doing/ Choice Theory - by Pratibha A. Huff Post https://www.huffpost.com/entry/choice-theory_b_58ac99c6e4b0ead5f0d41ec7    

How do you hold space for someone you hurt? Make like a Care Bear and shut the Funshine up.   https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/your-adult-child-resents-way-you-parented-them-here-s-ncna1042081

Been hanging out on got-nobody-island? We're coming for ya', friend! https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/04/06/the-history-of-loneliness https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2020/04/06/the-history-of-loneliness https://news.uchicago.edu/story/loneliness-can-be-contagious-study-finds https://www.verywellmind.com/loneliness-causes-effects-and-treatments-2795749#:~:text=Loneliness%20is%20defined%20by%20researchers,form%20connections%20with%20other%20people.

Some feelings don't fight fair. Unhook the crooks. How To Stop A Negative Mental Feedback Loop - Kia Roman https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-stop-a-negative-mental-feedback-loop  Unplug Your Inner Critic - Kristen Neff https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayJ2q3bHc8o  Mary Oliver - The Journey http://www.phys.unm.edu/~tw/fas/yits/archive/oliver_thejourney.html Joe Dispenza - The School Of Greatness Podcast https://lewishowes.com/podcast/how-to-overcome-negative-emotions-let-go-of-your-identity-and-truly-love-yourself-with-dr-joe-dispenza-part-2/  

Been "ruthing"? We'll help you do less of that. Here's how. Unfriend Yourself - Blog post by Lynda  https://lyndacrotty.com/unfriend-yourself-2/ Jim Loehr - The Power of Story https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_0NnqkmVM4 Kristin Neff - Stop chasing self-esteem and start being self-compassionate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MEyJ_H1U5SQ Start Again - Instagram post by Lynda https://www.instagram.com/p/BdbWJYrF7vA/

6 ways uncommon sense will make 2021 the year of your come up.   1.) With great responsibility comes great power. (When you take charge, you gift yourself leverage.) 2.) Be unimpressive (do it shitty). Concern yourself with the process instead of the result. 3.) Celebrate the "no." (The more you get a “no”, the better the odds of “yes” are).  4.) Recycle the trash. (Turn what seems bad or unuseful into gold.) 5.) Lie to yourself. (Just like setting your clock ten minutes ahead, tiny fake-outs can produce honest progress.) 6.) Tell those you love how much they suck. (In your head, of course, feel how appalling it is, then realize you do it to yourself all the time.) Poem by Leslie Dwight - What If 2020 Isn't Canceled https://www.today.com/news/what-if-2020-isn-t-canceled-inspiring-poem-message-change-t183397

There's great strength in softness...if you armor up with amóre. Danielle Laporte: "Open, gentle heart. Big fucking fence." The advice I give on Love that took the longest time to learn. https://www.daniellelaporte.com/read/advice-on-love the inspo feather  

Slow your mental roll and achieve all your excellence with ease.   Aldous Huxley from Nitch on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CIdEr-4JptZ/ Émile Coué - The Law of Reversed Effort https://www.ukhypnosis.com/2009/06/17/emile-coues-method-of-%E2%80%9Cconscious-autosuggestion%E2%80%9D/ The Law of Reversed Effort & Burnout https://superyesmore.com/the-law-of-reversed-effort-7393cfbfafbbe206b384ebdf8422c791 The Law of Reversed Effort & Money  https://www.dpegan.com/the-law-of-reversed-effort/

Ever think you might wanna get off the sauce? Here's how a Fix Your Chick did it.

Are the walls closing in? Let's bust you out of this rut.   Psychological Consequences of Social Isolation During COVID-19 Outbreak https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7513674/ 5 Reasons You Feel Trapped In Your Relationship/Marriage (+ How To Get Out) https://amanlitt.medium.com/when-you-feel-trapped-in-your-relationship-856837a0b1af When You Feel Trapped In Your Relationship https://amanlitt.medium.com/when-you-feel-trapped-in-your-relationship-856837a0b1af 5 Reasons You Feel Trapped in Your Job (and How to Overcome Them) https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-reasons-you-feel-trapped-in-your-job-and-how-to-overcome-them    

Don't fake thanks. It could bite you in the butt. Learn how to really feel it and protect those booties, cuties. Similac commercial = teachable moment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JUbGHeZCxe4&feature=youtu.be Thankless Thanksgiving: Why Being Ungrateful Is Important - By Lisa T Schlesinger https://bit.ly/39rgrAZ Ask yourself: What are you grateful for? - By Donna Britt https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2020/07/21/grateful-inspiring-stories/ Thanksgiving 2020: First-Graders share what they are thankful for during a pandemic. - By Molly Guthrey https://www.twincities.com/2020/11/21/thanksgiving-2020-first-graders-share-what-theyre-thankful-for-in-a-pandemic/      

There's a thrill inside you somewhere. Let's dig in and find it. Ballerina with dementia returns to the stage. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CHdqj2MH8UB/?igshid=csmvoq0otfm8 Bustle 7 Ways To Find A New Hobby https://www.bustle.com/articles/119942-how-to-find-a-hobby-as-an-adult Lifehack.org: 10 Things People Who Live Their Dreams Don’t Do – Tina Williamson https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-things-people-who-live-their-dreams-dont.html#:~:text=They%20don't%20make%20excuses,Does%20it%20serve%20you%3F  

Has your focus muscle gotten flabby? Consider us your personal mind trainers. How to Get Your Brain to Focus | Chris Bailey | TEDxManchester  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hu4Yvq-g7_Y Ways To Improve Your Focus (Fast Company) By Stephanie Vozza https://www.fastcompany.com/3050123/8-ways-to-improve-your-focus Ways To Improve Your Focus When You Work From Home (Fast Company) By Stephanie Vozza https://www.fastcompany.com/40497296/four-ways-to-improve-your-focus-when-you-work-from-home  

Protect your goals from those evil voices in your head and head to episode 73! https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/289160 THE GOAL STANDARD CHALLENGE 15 Ways to Drown Out the Destructive Voices in Your Head Here are strategies to silence your overly critical internal monologue and help you reach your goals. By Lydia Belanger

There's lots of talk about post-trauma but what about before and during? We got you! Tune in to Trauma Toolkit and build some skills.   https://ucc.nd.edu/self-help/disaster-trauma/taking-care-of-yourself/ https://reneeroederer.com/2020/03/19/trauma-life-hacks/ https://resources.soundstrue.com/transcript/elizabeth-stanley-trauma-sensitive-mindfulness/

You're vibrating! Go higher until you're happy. Here's how.   https://blog.mindvalley.com/vibrational-energy/

Quitting might be one of the bravest, kindest things you can do. True! The proof is in the podcast. Check it out. Knowing when to quit | Sarah Weiler | TEDxNewnham https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WWtRied_Tsk Strategic quitting: Paul Rulkens at TEDxMaastricht https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QLuqXctU_IQ "To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man's-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again." -Pema Chodron 

Feeling chitty? Check your chakras. We'll help. https://www.wellandgood.com/what-are-chakras/ https://rebeccacampbell.me/lightisthenewblack/ https://yogananda.org/ https://www.taracindysherman.com/ https://anodeajudith.com/ https://insighttimer.com/  

Learning to self-regulate is sweet, and the rewards are a treat. https://www.newyorker.com/science/maria-konnikova/struggles-psychologist-studying-self-control https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/kids_do_better_on_the_marshmallow_test_when_they_cooperate https://tedxsydney.com/idea/kindness-why-its-more-important-than-ever/ https://www.verywellmind.com/how-you-can-practice-self-regulation-4163536#:~:text=Self%2Dregulation%20involves%20taking%20a,and%20adults%20may%20as%20well.

Is that your heart on the floor? Well, grab it and beat a path to this episode.   Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute https://www.ted.com/talks/debi_silber_do_you_have_post_betrayal_syndrome Roselyn Aker Black - Surviving Betrayal - TED https://www.ted.com/talks/roselyn_aker_black_surviving_betrayal oprah.com - What To Do When You've Been Betrayed http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/deepak-chopra-what-to-do-when-youve-been-betrayed/all

All that effort could be effing you up. Listen in and learn the power of less. Want to be more productive? Try doing less. Kate Northrup https://hbr.org/2020/05/want-to-be-more-productive-try-doing-less Think less, think better. NYT https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/19/opinion/sunday/think-less-think-better.html The Wisdom of Wu Wei: Why Trying Too Hard Can Be Counterproductive https://medium.com/personal-growth/the-wisdom-of-wu-wei-why-trying-too-hard-can-be-counterproductive-49db4a8e319f

A personal funnel cloud is not fun. Learn how to stop the spiral, STAT. Buzzfeed Article https://www.buzzfeed.com/carolinekee/stop-anxiety-spirals Albert Ellis model of ABC therapy  https://positivepsychology.com/albert-ellis-abc-model-rebt-cbt/#:~:text=REBT%20divides%20beliefs%20into%20%E2%80%9Crational,as%20the%20%E2%80%9CABCDE%E2%80%9D%20Model. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind https://www.amazon.com/Power-Your-Subconscious-Mind/dp/1614270198

Need your back had? We got you. And so do lots of others. Simon Sinek TED https://www.ted.com/talks/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action?language=en Simon Sinek IGTV https://www.instagram.com/tv/CEHjvn-H7_O/?igshid=cjsbsvmffqxg Sean Stevenson TED https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaRO5-V1uK0 Ric Elias Hudson River Crash Survivor TED https://www.ted.com/talks/ric_elias_3_things_i_learned_while_my_plane_crashed?referrer=playlist-talks_to_remind_you_that_your#t-267575  

Like all creepy vampires, shame hates the light, so learn how to blast it with your high beams, baby! Pia Melody Shame CD 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OnQ5zLCKSJs Shame CD 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paDFRNI5NqI Shame neither encourages nor motivates positive behavior change. Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201401/guilt-good-shame-bad Brené Brown The Daring Way: https://brenebrown.com/thedaringway/  

There's a rumor goin' round that you can't have it all. Don't believe the hype. Abundance awaits! The abundantly incredible Twila Tharp: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJ4JHKs60E Sara Blakely on the importance of asking "Why" https://www.instagram.com/p/CDtXewGA8WA/?igshid=11j9di1tp8lnu The Science of Getting Rich - Wallace Wattles https://www.amazon.com/Science-Getting-Rich-Wallace-Wattles/dp/1585426016 Lollapalooza Effects https://www.safalniveshak.com/latticework-mental-models-lollapalooza-effect/

Sometimes it's better to take the hit than fight back. (Also COVID comes to Lynda's house.)

Take stock when you slip or you just might tip. Learn how to spot if you're heading for a fall. https://www.ted.com/talks/thomas_bury_the_mathematics_of_tipping_points https://psychcentral.com/blog/overwhelmed-these-6-strategies-may-help/ https://smarthustle.com/recovering-from-overwhelm/

We used the new moon to get intentional about setting intentions. Wanna learn how? https://chopra.com/articles/5-steps-to-setting-powerful-intentions

You don't like it when others lie to you, so why lie to yourself? Believe us, we'll tell you. https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/9954/lying-to-yourself/ https://elementalwellnesscoaching.wordpress.com/2013/06/14/10-benefits-of-being-honest/

Each day you wake in the middle of a lake. Do you row your boat forward or backward? Let's chat waves of possibilities. Alan Deutschman - Author of Change Or Die https://www.fastcompany.com/75905/three-keys-change Lori Gottlieb - TED, How changing your story can change your life https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_MQr4lHm0c&feature=youtu.be Lidia Yuknavitch - TED, The beauty of being a misfit https://www.ted.com/talks/lidia_yuknavitch_the_beauty_of_being_a_misfit    

Pay attention to your thoughts or they'll think you. Learn how to hijack the hijackers here. Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny. Lao Tzu (c. 500 BCE) Reticular Activating System https://medium.com/desk-of-van-schneider/if-you-want-it-you-might-get-it-the-reticular-activating-system-explained-761b6ac14e53 Gnarly Thought Triggers https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-minute-therapist/201809/what-are-your-thought-triggers Catch Those B's and Tell Them Who's Boss https://www.futurelearn.com/courses/depression-young-people/0/steps/36865

There's power in the pause, the quiet, the calm. Become a master of mellow.

Rehearsing the worst-case scenario preps you to power through it IF you keep your eye on the prize.

Pack a little peace in your back pocket when you re-engage with the world. Consider this episode your starter kit. https://www.instagram.com/tv/CA6hntLg0Wd/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link https://kidsplaysmarter.com/10-ways-to-calm-down-without-anyone-knowing/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/7-quick-ways-to-calm-down/

How do you turn tragedy into purpose? It's an inside job.

A Fix Your Chick got COVID and she's gonna tell you all about it.

Uncertainty can certainly suck. But why, tho? Even when things are every which way, it will be okay.   The Tiny Buddah article we reference: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/trust-youll-okay-no-matter/

Feeling like sh*t? Have a sit! Meditation cures pretty much anything that ails you. Learn how here.