Podcast appearances and mentions of Martha Beck

Are you feeling stuck in your work or leadership, wishing for a breakthrough moment that never seems to come?In this reflective and encouraging episode, Jean shares a personal story that begins with a jigsaw puzzle and unfolds into a powerful reminder: meaningful change often doesn't arrive in sweeping transformations. but in slow, steady, sometimes invisible steps forward.Drawing inspiration from her own creative process and insights from James Clear and Martha Beck, Jean invites you to think differently about your journey. Whether you're seeking more fulfillment, navigating challenging relationships, or hoping for career growth, she offers a simple yet profound shift: focus on your inputs, not just the outcomes.This episode is an invitation to:Rethink how real change happens - in your leadership, career, and life.Identify the areas where you're frustrated or feeling stuck.Explore how 1% improvements or "one-degree turns" can get you back on track.Embrace the power of small, sustainable actions each day.Key Takeaway: You don't need a grand plan or a giant leap. Just one piece at a time. That's how transformation begins.We'd love to know: What small shift will you make today? Sign up to my weekly newsletter. Book a free strategy call: https://calendly.com/jean-balfour/30min Learn more about my work: https://jeanbalfour.com/ For more information on the podcast, show notes and journaling prompts visit my substack blog: https://jeanbalfour.substack.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanbalfour/

Martha Beck is a best-selling author, life coach, and speaker and expert in coping with anxiety. Despite decades of sociology research and coaching, Beck says she'd struggled with anxiety her entire life. She says we live in a global anxiety spiral, and turned to neuroscience to understand why, and how to move past it. Through her research, Beck found that anxiety shuts down the brain's curiosity and creativity, and tapping into them can be life-changing. She opened up to Hoda about her book, "Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose", and shares strategies to change the way they think and live.

Nghe trọn nội dung sách nói Con Đường Chính Trực trên ứng dụng Voiz FM: https://voiz.vn/play/6698/Trong một thế giới đầy rẫy áp lực và những tiếng nói hỗn loạn từ bên ngoài, việc giữ được sự chính trực và toàn vẹn của chính mình không hề dễ dàng. Hiểu được thử thách đó, Martha Beck – một nhà xã hội học, diễn giả và là nhà khai vấn có uy tín – đã mang đến cuốn sách “Con đường chính trực” (tựa gốc: The Way of Integrity), như một lời mời gọi sâu sắc và chân thành, khuyến khích mỗi người quay trở về với bản thân.Beck đặt ra một câu hỏi quan trọng: Điều gì đang ngăn bạn sống đúng với bản chất thật sự của mình? Từ đó, bà dẫn dắt độc giả qua các bài tập thực hành, câu chuyện cá nhân và những điều chiêm nghiệm để mỗi cá nhân có thể nhận diện và tháo gỡ những nút thắt cảm xúc cũng như nhận thức bên trong mình. Dù hành trình này không hề dễ dàng, Beck khẳng định việc đối mặt với sự thật về bản thân – cho dù đau đớn – là con đường duy nhất dẫn đến tự do và hạnh phúc thật sự.Tại ứng dụng sách nói Voiz FM, sách nói Con Đường Chính Trực được đầu tư chất lượng âm thanh và thu âm chuyên nghiệp, tốt nhất để mang lại trải nghiệm nghe tuyệt vời cho bạn.---Về Voiz FM: Voiz FM là ứng dụng sách nói podcast ra mắt thị trường công nghệ từ năm 2019. Với gần 2000 tựa sách độc quyền, Voiz FM hiện đang là nền tảng sách nói podcast bản quyền hàng đầu Việt Nam. Bạn có thể trải nghiệm miễn phí đa dạng nội dung tại Voiz FM từ sách nói, podcast đến truyện nói, sách tóm tắt và nội dung dành cho thiếu nhi.---Voiz FM website: https://voiz.vn/ Theo dõi Facebook Voiz FM: https://www.facebook.com/VoizFM Tham khảo thêm các bài viết review, tổng hợp, gợi ý sách để lựa chọn sách nói dễ dàng hơn tại trang Blog Voiz FM: http://blog.voiz.vn/---Cảm ơn bạn đã ủng hộ Voiz FM. Nếu bạn yêu thích sách nói Con Đường Chính Trực và các nội dung sách nói podcast khác, hãy đăng ký kênh để nhận thông báo về những nội dung mới nhất của Voiz FM channel nhé. Ngoài ra, bạn có thể nghe BẢN FULL ĐỘC QUYỀN hàng chục ngàn nội dung chất lượng cao khác tại ứng dụng Voiz FM.Tải ứng dụng Voiz FM: voiz.vn/download#voizfm #sáchnói #podcast #sáchnóiConĐườngChínhTrực #MarthaBeck

We're always told to live our best lives, but what does that really mean? In this book, coach Beck introduces us to the 10 daily practices that she believes will help us live more joy full lives. We are starting this week with chapter 1, habit #1: do nothing. In this episode, I explore this practice a bit with you, talk about how doing nothing has helped me live a more balanced life, and invite you into the practice using Martha Beck's directions.  If you are interested in reading along, you can buy her book from your local independent bookstore and join me each week to explore her offering.I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Tell me how doing nothing has worked for you!Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lilly.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Bu podcast, Dr. Martha Beck'in kaygı, beyin ve travma konusundaki derinlemesine görüşlerini ele alan bir söyleşiden alıntılar ve önemli noktalar sunuyor. Dr. Beck, kaygının beyindeki etkilerini, travmanın psikolojik ve fizyolojik sonuçlarını ve bu durumlarla başa çıkmanın yollarını tartışıyor. Beynin travmaya nasıl tepki verdiği ve kaygı ile başa çıkabilmek için kullanılan stratejiler üzerine yapılan açıklamalar, dinleyicilere zihinsel sağlıklarını iyileştirme konusunda pratik rehberlik sağlıyor. Podcast, kaygı ve travmanın etkileriyle başa çıkarken, iyileşme yolculuğunda atılacak adımlar için bilimsel temellere dayalı içgörüler sunuyor.  

I hope this quote from Martha Beck helps you appreciate the choices you have.   Join the FREE Facebook group for The Michael Brian Show at https://www.facebook.com/groups/themichaelbrianshow   Follow Mike on Facebook Instagram & Twitter

This week the three mustaches reunite to tell the story of Raymond Fernandez and Martha Beck, better known as The Lonely Hearts Killers. Are you looking for sexy singles in your area? Look no further! Whether you're a lonely widow with a large inheritance, or a con man looking for a lonely widow with a large inheritance, we've got you covered! Stick around until the end of the episode for a new segment we're calling Cellmate Soulmates! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/crime-corner-with-jessie-wiseman/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Martha Beck is a Harvard-trained sociologist, world-renowned coach on harvesting creativity and finding purpose, and New York Times best-selling author across her dozens of books, including The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, Finding Your Own North Star, and her newest release, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose.  In this episode, Dr. Beck shares how to practice patience in consciousness, the power in both compassionate self-talk and being a compassionate witness, and how creativity works as a tool for anxiety. Dr. Martha Beck Stages Podcast YouTube Join the mailing list  

"The person who most needs to hear your words is you."Have you ever wished you could just see your situation clearly and finally hear exactly what you most need to know?I'm sharing one of my favorite self-coaching exercises, inspired by Martha Beck, to help you do just that.We begin by exploring someone else's stuck patterns and hidden courage — because sometimes it feels safer to look outward first.Then, step by step, I guide you to turn those insights inward, revealing the truths and guidance you most need to tell yourself.This simple but powerful practice can help you drop old ways of thinking, see your life with fresh eyes, and feel more at peace with the decisions ahead of you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Welcome back to 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs!'    In this lively and heartfelt episode, Danielle Ireland chats with Ashlyn Thompson from the Parent Empowerment Network. Ashlyn shares her journey from growing her nonprofit organization to the emotional rollercoaster of her daughter's complex medical journey.    Get ready to explore how pain can be an unexpected teacher, the magic of community support, and why tapping into creativity can be your secret weapon against anxiety. Filled with laughs, valuable insights, and touching moments, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom and joy. Tune in and enjoy the ride!   00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview 00:20 Ashlyn Thompson's Journey and Nonprofit Growth 01:10 The Importance of Community and Support 01:37 Embracing Big Feelings and Finding Joy 02:52 Welcoming Ashlyn Back and Discussing Growth 05:44 Navigating Pain and Empowerment 09:51 The Power of Perspective and Decision Making 14:27 Balancing Life and Nonprofit Work 21:21 The Role of Pain as a Teacher 30:48 Finding Comfort in Movement and Nature 33:09 Returning to Basics 33:35 Reflecting on Past Decisions 35:20 The Role of Pain and Fear 38:20 Parent Empowerment Network 44:25 Creativity as a Lifeline 49:21 Embracing Emotions 53:07 Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Moment 01:01:20 Conclusion and Resources   Ashlyn Thompson interview links Ashlyn Thompson, a passionate advocate and storyteller, is co-founder of the Parent Empowerment Network, a nonprofit providing emotional and mental health support to parents navigating pediatric medical complexities. She also co-hosts theEmpowered by Hope podcast, which equips parents with practical tools, resources, and a strong sense of community—delivered with a heavy dose of humor and hope to empower them as their child's best advocate. Ashlyn's fire for advocacy was ignited by her daughter Emery, who was born with bladder exstrophy. After Emery nearly died following a major surgery at just seven weeks old, Ashlyn became a fierce voice for patient safety. Unwilling to accept the limitations of domestic medical care, she discovered a surgical option in the U.K. that wasn't available in the U.S. at the time. In early 2023, Emery became the first American to undergo this procedure—and thanks to Ashlyn's relentless advocacy, that surgery is now available in America. When she's not advocating or recording podcasts, Ashlyn moonlights as a budding driveway chalk artist, chaos coordinator for her spirited family, and an avid nature lover. Chocolate is her daily vitamin, ADHD is her superpower, spiders and small talk are her sworn enemies, and she firmly believes laughter and boldness are two of a parent's greatest tools.   Parent Empowerment Network:  The Parent Empowerment Network exists to support, encourage, and educate parents of children with medical complexities—empowering them with community, knowledge, and confidence to be their child's fiercest advocate. www.ParentEmpowermentNetwork.org Empowered by Hope podcast on all major podcast streaming platforms: https://parentempowermentnetwork.org/podcast/   Social Media:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Parent-Empowerment-Network/100083218456295/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentempowermentnetwork/   She is Charlotte book by co-founder, Emily Whiting:https://parentempowermentnetwork.org/she-is-charlotte-book/ DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.   Website: https://danielleireland.com/   The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal   Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com/   Blog: https://danielleireland.com/blog/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW   Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured “Don't Cut Your Own Bangs” is about creating a community around, and familiarity with, the messy middle—that uncertain and often chaotic and uncomfortable time in the middle of a process or journey. The messy middle is replete with ambiguity and challenges, but it's also where the hard and rewarding work happens.   Transcript [00:00:00] Danielle: Hello. Hello, this is Danielle Ireland and you are watching or listening to Don't Cut Your Own Bangs. I am so excited to be back in the interview seat. We've done some solo cast. It's been a blast. But Ashlyn Thompson is here with me today, and we just wrapped an incredible conversation. Ashlyn came on as a guest to talk about her work with Charlotte's Hope Foundation a couple of years ago. [00:00:26] She was about ready to embark right in the interview we were, she was. Days away from embarking on a trip to the UK for her daughter having a surgery with the only surgeon in the world who performed the specific type of surgery that her daughter needed. Her daughter's made a full recovery. It's a beautiful story we're gonna get into in this episode, but what I'm truly, if you could imagine even beyond that beautiful story, what I'm so excited to introduce to you and to that I was so grateful to witness and learn from. [00:00:53] Is that Ashlyn has grown her nonprofit organization, not no money in organization, but yes, a nonprofit organization that at the time, two years ago when we last checked in with her, was called Charlotte's Hope Foundation. It has grown. It's expanded, and it's evolved, and it's now the Parent Empowerment Network. [00:01:10] She and her co-founder also have a podcast for that same work, and what I love about the work that they do. They create community connection space and resources for parents and families raising children or any provider helping a child navigate medical complexities. And that sounds like such a hard and heavy and challenging topic. [00:01:33] And it is. But what Ashlyn embodies is. The work that I really wanted to bring to this season and this new phase of don't cut your own bangs, which I want big feelings to feel less scary. I want approaching them to feel possible. And then with that in mind, wherever possible, as much as possible, finding lightness, levity, and joy. [00:01:54] However we can do it. And I'm telling you, in this episode we did that. We accomplished that. We talk about important things, we talk about heavy things, and Ashland is vulnerable in a way that is inviting. But also something we can all learn from. And through the specificity of her life experience and what she's learned, there are universal nuggets that we can all find value in. [00:02:17] I know I did, and this was such a beautiful place to share, and we laughed. We had joy, we smiled . I hope that this topic invites you and encourages you to lean in and tune in because there are so many great nuggets of this. Thank you for being here, and I can't wait for you to sit back, relax, and enjoy. [00:02:38] Ashlyn Thompson [00:02:39] Hi. Yes, I know. Big jumps for both of us. I know. I feel like we're, it does feel like a lifetime ago. It I mean, in many ways it is. It's like we're, I mean, I'm still, me and all the key players are still playing. Right. But it does feel like a different life in a way. And I, with that in mind, I just wanna officially welcome you back. [00:02:55] Yes. Welcome. Ashlyn Thompson. Oh, thank. Don't cut your own bangs. I am so excited that you're here for many reasons, but the thing I'm most excited about is I think that. Building something or starting something creates a certain amount of effort and energy. Sustaining something, growing with it, breathing new life into it, that's a different part of a different element of a creative process. [00:03:17] And that's something I think specifically I'm really excited to talk to you about because you're parent Empowerment Network, which has it, it exists to support, encourage and educate parents and caregivers of children with medical complexities. And that was, it already was in existence when we, right, when we recorded the first time. [00:03:34] But it has grown. Grown. I went to a gala, people, she's throwing a gala fundraiser for her for her network. And so, I mean, I wanna hear about all the twists and all the developments of that, but more specifically the context I wanna provide for us and for this conversation. The thing that I'm really excited about, , and why I feel really passionate about bringing this to video. [00:03:57] Is that I want to help make big feelings feel less scary. Yeah. And I want to make, approaching them feel possible. And then with that in mind as much and as often as possible, laugh as much as possible. Amen. And so, right? So like, you are swimming in the trenches with people and even in your own life with people who are holding and making space for heavy things. [00:04:23] Yes. And yet there is a bright smile on your face. There's a twinkle in your eye. You laugh and you smile. And I wanna, and I don't know how to articulate what that is, but I want to, I wanna, that's something I wanna make space for in this conversation too. So it's important and it's big and it's emotional for sure, but also like, let's allow levity too. [00:04:42] Absolutely. I am so excited to be continuing our conversation, and I'm also really happy to know that. The person who's sitting here with you today is very much a different person from two years ago. And I feel like I have gone through multiple versions of myself just in the past two years. And that's one of the things that I truly celebrate about, not just the journey of parent empowerment network, but I think just growing and evolving as a human spirit, experiencing this life is recognizing that I say this phrase to only certain people, but I act, I feel compelled to share it now. [00:05:26] I feel like I have died a thousand times. And greeted so many versions of myself. But every time I rise into that extroversion and realize who I am, I like that person more and more. And. I feel like one of my greatest accomplishments just this past year has been truly settling into a, knowing a deep belief that life is meant to grow through, not go through. [00:05:58] And that change, that pivot of how I see the next big thing that comes up has been such a grounding force for me and has really helped me feel like I'm actually sitting in the driver's seat of my car. I don't know what I'm going to pass as I'm on this highway. In life. And sometimes life yanks me off on an exit I didn't plan. [00:06:23] And those exit ramps are typically the next lesson. But I'm grateful to be at a point where I can now see the next really hard thing emerging and not wanna hit reverse. Wow. Wow. Not that I like it all the time. No, God. But I can appreciate that this isn't out to crush me. This isn't here to take me down like I used to feel. [00:06:53] , Wow. There's a lot to unpack there for. Thank you so much for sharing that, but also not going in reverse. I wanna make a mental note, not going in reverse. The next version of me, I like better, and this is not here to crush me. Right. The, there's something, I got chills. I got full body chills when you, the la with the last thing that you said, because when I'm working with clients, there is this element and this is something. [00:07:18] I promise I'll come back to that original point there. There's an element of the work that I do where, and I'm sure you get this in your own way too, with like hearing stories from families who are holding really hard and heavy things. I think when I meet people for the first time, a common response is, wow, I don't know how you do what you do, or I don't know how you listen to that all day. [00:07:36] Or Oh man, and I think, yes, sure. There, there are certainly days and clients or moments where those stories are making space for people's big, heavy, painful experiences. Right. Is can be a lot at times. Far less anymore. But I think more than anything the va like, I feel so lucky to have the experience a hundred maybe even thousands of times over hurt people's pain. [00:08:03] And I know what pain sounds like. Yes. And there are different types and one thing that I absolutely believe to be true is that our pain is not personal. Our story is personal, right? But pain is not personal. And the events of our life, even things that happen to us, it's, there's it's almost shifting out of a, and I hope I can say this within the context that, that is heard with love. [00:08:27] But shifting out of a victim mentality right into it. Because being victimized or being stricken with grief or holding something hard like that is absolutely real. And also knowing that this is happening to me, but this is not gosh, what are the words I'm trying to find. It, what I'm hearing is you recognize how hard this is. [00:08:51] Whatever that insert blank. I recognize how hard this is, and I'm not going to make this pain so precious that I don't also see it as temporary. Yes, exactly. But there's something, so I think there's something really powerful and there's so much nuance to that because I certainly don't want to, people can be victimized, but the victim mentality is one of, in my professional experience it's one of the more challenging headspace to, for someone to walk out of. [00:09:21] Agree. It's really hard. Exactly. It shrinks your world. So, so much. That's well said. And we experience that very often. We really fo I mean we say all the time, you know, we are non diagnosis specific, non prognosis specific with the families that we work with, and we focus on the parents or the parent role, which could be performed by a sibling, a grandparent, a friend, an adopt, a lot of different people, but. [00:09:51] What we really found early in our journey and what helped us evolve into parent empowerment network was that recognition that, like you pointed out, pain is not it's not customized to your experience. The feeling, the emotional and physical experience relationship with pain is common through all of us, and it actually is a way that we can connect with each other when we recognize that. [00:10:18] When we stop comparing one another's pains. Now, don't get me wrong, if your kid got a bump on the head versus your kid needs a, you know, brain surgery. Right. Those are different. Yes. Very different. Yes. But most of the time we're not dealing with that. And what we have found is that when somebody is in that victim mentality, which is understandable, I think that's a, very important aspect to acknowledge when you're feeling like a victim, why is this happening to me? Or why is this happening to my child? Because I'll be the first to say, it's never okay when your child is hurting or sick or in harm's way or worse. I will never be okay with it. But when we say stuck in a victim mentality, our ability to problem solve goes from about here to here. [00:11:08] Yeah. And then your child is really the one who suffers. And I hate, it's a hard truth. But we have to face that truth because when we can help a parent start to find glimmers of hope, start to see that there's a way to build on quality of life rather than cure. Then you start to see this new version emerge where they are truly, you know, empowered advocates for their child. [00:11:45] There's something that I heard in what you said too, that a lot of times when I'm working with clients who are maybe knee deep in anxiety or depression, for example. I think why can be a powerful question, but I think a misplaced why is a really exactly damaging question. Like, why me? Why them? [00:12:02] Why this, why now? Because those are questions you can't answer that only lead to a defeating answer. Exactly. And usually another question or shame, but what I'm hearing a lot in when you. When you can kind of broaden your focus and sort of release that constriction from why you then can open yourself up to a different type of question. [00:12:23] How can I, exactly. How can I get through today? How can I get through this moment? What is needed most of me now? What do I need now? Right. And those types of the what and the how. Who do I need to show up for? Is it me? Right. Is it them? Who do I need to ask for help? Who has information that I need? [00:12:43] Those types of questions don't eliminate the pain, but it broadens the scope Yes. Of, of your field of vision. And I know that though, like, 'cause you are here in many ways. Oh, I hope it's okay to use this term. But I hope that you're here as an expert and you're also the executive Hope director of of the power impairment network. [00:13:05] And I think a lot of times. What we would imagine as the worst possible case scenario. Like the worst thing we could imagine would be something happening to our kids. This has been your lived experience. This has been your business partner's lived experience. And for, even though you have a podcast as well, where you really create a space and content and a community that helps people with that very specific set of circumstances, that Right. [00:13:33] I would imagine it's like. The best and worst club to be a part of. So we always say, we're so sorry you're in this club. Yes. But we're so glad you found us. Yes. Like it's the yes, we're really sorry, but at the same time, like, welcome home, welcome. And so I think a lot of the, a lot of the people who tune in to don't cut your own bang, I don't know how many would have this specific life experience. [00:13:57] Right. And if you do, oh my gosh, what a gorgeous resource you have in Ashlyn. Oh, thank you. And the Parent empowerment network and their podcast. But I do think that even in something like this, in within the specificity of everything you're saying, there is such a broad truth that I think we can all access and find value in. [00:14:16] And, yeah. So just thank you for all of that. And I want to, okay. I wanna shift a little bit to the growth of the parent Empowerment network. Right. Because, so when I originally started this podcast, what I was, what I really motivated me, one was I was terrified of becoming a therapist and having worked as a creative, and I just wanted to surround myself with other people who, who were building things, right? So that I could sort of sneak in my own needy questions. Like, how did you do it? How did you figure it out? What happened when you were scared? Like, what happened when your computer crashed? Oh my gosh. And you went from newly building something to, you have really grown. [00:14:53] Yes. You have really grown. And I wanna know having experienced the, you know, the gala that Right. That you that you threw that was so lovely. I wanna know . What led to the growth over the last two years? Because you're still momming, you're still life. Yeah. Your daughter is still being you. [00:15:08] I mean, like your life is still life and Yes. Life is still lifeing. How, in the midst of your lifeing, how have you also continued to grow this? And I really wanna know like what fueled your fire. And just tell me more about that story please. Yes, absolutely. So at the beginning of this, you know, when we started talking, you were very talking about how I'm sitting here smiling and I mean, I am fully, I am genuinely full of joy in this moment. [00:15:35] And I think I know actually that comes from being in something like we have with Parent Empowerment Network, which has been truly its own huge like business, right? We are called a nonprofit, but let me tell you, I mean, it is straight up business. [00:15:57] Is what it is in a lot of ways, and. That's the worst possible name for a tax category. It totally is. Because it's so confusing. Nonprofit doesn't mean no money. Right. Exactly. It's so confusing. We do not exist for free. Is great an idea as that sounds. I want that to be the slogan for every nonprofit. [00:16:16] I just, 'cause we don't exist for free. Right. You know the whole, you get what you pay for. It's, yeah. That's a whole other conversation. We're not gonna spend too much time there today. We should have a part two then. There we go. I'm okay with that. All right. So for that, what I think the biggest lesson that has. [00:16:33] Emerged from this journey just since we were, you know, you and I were talking a couple years ago when we were actually still called Charlotte's Hope Foundation. Yes. Which was our initial name. Yes. Because we had an idea for something that was this big at the beginning. And the name Charlotte's Hope Foundation fit that in theory. [00:16:52] But the thing I'm most proud of my, of Emily Whiting, who's my co-founder, fellow mom, fellow sister, fellow savior, at times the best thing we have done is allowed ourselves permission to grow and shrink as needed. And that's what we've done throughout this journey. It has not been a step process. [00:17:15] There have been countless times where we have grown two or three steps, been bigger, you know, working with international teams of surgeons, pulling together collaborations that have never been done, and then. There have been times where we have pulled back and we haven't released an episode for six weeks. [00:17:33] We have had maybe two or three social posts because our lives were on fire or just demanded all our attention, but it didn't mean we had to stop. I need to, oh my gosh. I don't know how many of you listening or watching can relate to that. I, there is a relationship I have with the expansion and contraction of output where if I'm not putting something out, producing something, making something that it really does a number on my sense of self worth. Right. And self esteem. And that is something that I'm still actively healing and repairing, because I definitely know the facts. I know. The really bumper stickery, self helpy sounding talk. [00:18:26] And I believe it. It's not that I, I don't hear it and think like, yeah. Right. It's just that there's a more practiced version of me, right. That has just had more at bats operating in a certain way. And then life in many ways rewards you for that. In theory. In theory. And I don't mean the like the laurels, like you get the the kudos pat on the back accolades but there is a cost, right? [00:18:47] There is a cost. And I think, in the I this past year I wrote a children's book called Wrestling a Walrus. And this the act of writing this book was something that I didn't realize that in the contraction, or even like in the I love the visual of the caterpillar becoming the butterfly. [00:19:09] 'Cause there's a two week process where the caterpillar is literally, we talk about the messy middle in this podcast and think, thank you Brene Brown, wherever you are for creating language and context for us for this very conversation. 'cause so much of this is inspired by that, but that gooey, mushy middle where it's not a butterfly, it's literally goo and it's Exactly, and it, and, but in that place, there is magic happening there. [00:19:33] Even if it, even though it looks like a pile of shit, right. Like, it's, there's magic happening there. I'll say the impetus or the inspiration, the. It was tough moments with my daughter, moments where I didn't feel like I was doing anything. Right. It like hitting the wrecking ball of, you know, being a parent of a toddler and a parent of an infant like that was, there's not enough grace in any space to help you go through that without serious, you know, support. [00:20:02] There were, I had some victim mentality at that point in time, even, and all things can be true at once. But all of that was what I experienced before I had the idea to write the book. And had I not had that experience, I wouldn't have been able to do that. Exactly. I don't think it would've been the same. [00:20:16] And [00:20:16] , and I promise this whole podcast isn't an ad for the book, but like, I really believe in this damn book and I love it so much. And I love that you talk about that expansion and contraction for yourself. And that you doesn't, it doesn't mean you have to stop. 'cause I think a big reason why I maybe avoided picking up the torch again and doing this podcast like I left it for so long, or I abandoned it for so long, or can I still do it right? [00:20:41] Like all of that stuff. And then yeah it. Yeah. Doubt doesn't mean you're done. No. And taking a pause doesn't mean you're stopping forever. But yeah. I mean, you can't just exhale forever. You can't just output like you eventually have to breathe in. Exactly. And that relationship is very necessary. [00:21:00] And so, I mean, everything you're saying is exactly what I need. Thank you. Thank you. You're welcome. You're welcome. And it, that lesson doesn't come easily. Nope. But I think another element of that, you know, building off of what you were just talking about, pain and discomfort and naturally shying away from it. [00:21:21] I challenge anybody in life to just take a moment to consider pain as a potential teacher, as a professor, rather than pain as an enemy, or pain as a destroyer. Right. If you ask yourself. Why does this feel painful? Because how many times do we all experience in our life something that really gets under our skin, but whether it's a spouse or it's a friend or a coworker and they seem totally unfazed by it, [00:21:56] and that used to be something that bothered me. I was kinda like what's, am I ever sensitive? Or like, what is my thing? And I grew up always hearing, not necessarily even from my parents, but I feel like. Teacher schools and saved by the bell commercials about find what you love in life and you'll never work a day in your life. [00:22:16] And that was great in theory, but I'm a very eclectic person. Yep. I love a lot. And all I was getting was a lot of burnout. That's also like saying like, love your kids and you'll never have a hard day with them in your life. You're like, no bs. No. I love my kids. But like, you know, oh my gosh, kids are the greatest, hardest thing of life. [00:22:33] Right. Right. But I think the same is true. Like , I never stopped loving this. Right. But I don't always have control over the life around. Right. But it's a, I think allowing things to be a part of you, not all of you, is really important. Yeah. And I think it's so easy to define ourselves by that output. [00:22:53] For me and Emily, the word is often it's impact. Are we actually making an impact? And the thing that helped us. Become okay with hitting the pause button when we needed to, and not officially throwing in the towel. Don't get me wrong, there were conversations about it, but we were always very honest with each other and we held each other accountable that if you are feeling like this is not jiving with your life, if it's not jiving with you personally, or it's not good for your family at this moment, let's hit the pause button and talk about it. [00:23:26] But realizing that if we only help each other while working on this, Emily and I, that's helping our kids, that's helping our families. And there's a domino effect from that goes from that. And if that's all we ever do, what's bad about that? You said something that I, it still stuck with me and it will probably be the title of this episode. [00:23:49] Pain is a Professor. Yes, it is. And I wanna go back to that because something that I talk about in my sessions a lot is that your emotions never lie to you. Now your thoughts are very different. Yes. Your thoughts can go a, now granted, we need to think critical thinking is important. [00:24:04] We probably need more critical thinking, but thoughts happen to us all day, every day, constantly. Right. I don't remember what the statistic is. I think we have roughly like eight thoughts a minute, something like that. I'm surprised it's not . Maybe that's just a DH adhd. And that could be too, like, yeah, there, maybe there's a spectrum. [00:24:18] Maybe it's eight to 80 thoughts a minute. Give or take. Give or take a hundred. But so thoughts happen to us now. We can certainly consciously choose what to focus on and what we think. But thinking happens, the emotions are in response to what we're thinking and believing. Exactly. And they never lie. [00:24:35] Right. And I But something you said like pain as a professor. And I like the thought that emotions are energy in motion. Yes. And they always have something for you to learn. There's something for every emotion. There is something it wants you to know. Right. And when you're not feeling good are we have more pain receptors in our body, unfortunately. [00:24:55] We have more pain receptors in our body than we do pleasure receptors. Like, and so when pain is activated, it just has a firmer grip. There's something that Martha Beck talks about that I love. It's called the, I think she calls it the Viper in the box of puppies. So if you were to imagine like, and enough said, right. [00:25:10] Done. You get it. But you hand, if I handed you a box full of like 15 adorable, gorgeous little puppies, I mean, it's, they're the most abundant, silly, loving, fuzzy source of love, safety, pleasure. I could really go for that right now. I mean, would it, that should be a, I'm hoping there's one hiding around somewhere. [00:25:28] We have a surprise for you, but if I were to then put a Viper in or a cobra in your box of puppies. All you're gonna see is the threat. Exactly. All you're gonna see is the threat. And I think in life, it's like we pop mo most of us more often than not, are probably living in lives with a lot of puppies. [00:25:48] But the viper, the threat is what consumes Oh yeah. So much energy and attention and shifting your focus from one to the other is easier said than done. And I wanna talk to you specifically about how you have found meaning or, and I, when I say success, I don't mean it in like a bullet point sense, but right. [00:26:12] Where you have found access to, you know, the viper, you know, or the cobra, you know, the box of puppies. Right. How you access that. I can certainly share how I have, but my emotions, I. I've learned in time. I don't always know exactly what they're telling me in the beginning, but I trust them enough to know that it's something. [00:26:36] And so the first place I try to access, if I'm not dissociating or avoiding, is to sit with it. Yeah. So usually it's like, I'm I'll just dissociate in my fantasy book or rewatching parks and recreation for the MPH teeth bajillion time. You know, it's just always a Sure bet. Yeah. It's just, it's hard for, life can only be so hard with Leslie Nope and little Sebastian, you know? [00:26:57] So anyway. But I wanna know where you find yourself in that shift. Yeah. Yeah. So you've got my head's like turning, I'm also still picturing puppies to be honest. That's okay. So I actually, I feel like I wanna give an example of something that I experienced last year, so two years ago. [00:27:11] It's crazy to think two years ago I went on this crazy journey to England. I went to London to take my daughter, who was not quite two years old yet to have a surgery over there for her ultra rare condition that was not available in the States. And I had talked to everybody in the States, of course, that had any knowledge about it and all they could tell me was, we don't really know anything about it. [00:27:35] We don't do it here. Kind of you're on your own, go for it. Or don't, we can't say that we would support you. All that matters is I went for it. And fortunately it did end up being the right decision, but I also knew that it could not be the right decision. And what I found on that experience was that I was originally desperate for picking the right way in life to move forward, that I could not make a decision. [00:28:06] I could not possibly move forward unless I was a hundred percent sure. But guess what? Life isn't real big on giving you a guarantee. Yeah. Guarantees with anything. And I think where I, that's where I started to learn that I don't have to have the answers to move forward. I can be looking at that box and I can see, oh my gosh, this could go terribly wrong. [00:28:34] But I think living with a hopeful mindset is something that allows me to keep my eye on that viper and then still interact with the puppies over here. My eye is still trained on it, but what I found is a peace in making my decision. And it was a, that feeling, that gut feeling. You know, it, I, it doesn't matter what you've gone through in life. [00:28:58] I can't believe that there's anybody out there who hasn't just had that. I call it just that knowing in your gut, it's a physical experience and that is something. That has helped me move forward in life. Because here's the thing, guys, nobody can ever stay truly still. And that's where a lot of our pain and discomfort comes from, is fighting moving forward without certainty. [00:29:23] Oh, let's pause right there. Oh my gosh. So there's something that Dr. Becky Kennedy who she has the good, she wrote the book Good Inside, and she's got her own beautiful podcast and work and content. She does. She really she focuses on kids, but she's really working on parents relationship with their inner child and by extension their parenting. [00:29:43] But she talks about something called, I've called it the Gap, but she calls it the learning space. So with kids, most of their frustration, tension and meltdowns happen between meeting a moment or. A moment arising and knowing how to meet the moment. And that learning space is usually the gap in knowing or understanding of this is what's arisen and I don't know how to meet this moment. [00:30:04] Right? And then if their context or their ability to meet it, if the moment exceeds their ability that's usually when there's a lot of pain or big feelings. Right. And I think with adults, that's usually where I see self-doubt, rumination anxiety, self-destructive tendencies. [00:30:23] Come in and you're right. You're, I love that you said we're never really still, I mean, one that's just true based on science and physics. We're never still that's actually one of the, like, there's like two necessary components, maybe three to being a living, being or a living entity. [00:30:36] I think, what is it? Movement, cell division, reproduction, and, I don't know, something else. Hey, anyone here pop off in the comments if you're a science boss, please gold star for you. Please. But but yeah, we're never truly still. And so even when you feel stagnant and stuck and even hearing you say that I'm actually processing in real time, one of the things that I have done that I, I discovered by accident, but probably because my body knew better than my mind did. [00:31:04] I would, it often does. I would take my feelings on walks. I would, I talked about that movement is essential if you are literally feeling stuck. I tell, that's what I tell everybody. Anytime they're spiraling. Which it's understandable. Go for a walk. Even if it is five minutes, walk up and down your stairs. [00:31:22] Or at the least one of my favorite things thank you Instagram reels for sucking up so much of my life at times in the hospital, but sometimes, but it's, sometimes it's, it is the perfect escape. It's okay to let the pressure off of ourselves. But there was this one that I saw it was this therapist who was like in her seventies and she was in Ireland and she's walking around in like this, you know, the quintessential Ireland landscape. [00:31:47] And she said, I tell all of my clients when you have a problem or a worry or something that's making you feel like you need to hurry, walk outside where you can see the sky and look up. Because the moment you remove a ceiling from your view, from your your line of sight, your mind opens with it. [00:32:08] And possibilities grow. And I have experienced that so often. And you think about it where you, when you're in a confined space. It only adds to those feelings of I'm stuck or I'm out of options, or I can't deal with this. But when you go outside and the world is just showing you how big it is and how small you are, there's actually a ton of comfort in that. [00:32:35] There's, I've also read and heard that there's something about the way that our eyes sort of gently move and follow and track side to side. Yeah. The movement around us that activates a similar calming sensation that our body experiences in REM sleep. Because if you're tracking a bird or tracking a squirrel, or just simply seeing like the trees and movement, track your kids. [00:32:55] Right. That'll keep you, your eyes all over the place. Girl. But like, 'cause right now we're facing a computer screen and we're in, we're under lights. Like, it's a very I mean, it's a lovely container, but it's a sterile container by comparison of being outside. And I Right. I do think that sometimes, like, like Lifeing. [00:33:11] It can be hard, and I never wanna oversimplify holding the challenges and moving through the challenges. Right. And yet I think sometimes when something feels overly, when something feels complex and impossible, it's almo. I, my instinct is to abandon the basics. And that is always the place to start. [00:33:32] That's always the place to start, is to go back to the basics. [00:33:35] Knowing what you know now what. Do you think the version of you, I wrote down three years ago, but I wanna go back to two years ago bef, like as you were navigating all the travel plans and the decision to go to the UK for your daughter's surgery, what do you think that version of Ashlyn needed to hear or needed to know? [00:33:55] And then the follow up question to that, after you answers, do you think she would've believed you? [00:33:59] It's really funny that you're asking this question because I actually had a conversation yesterday with a neighbor's daughter who is a film student, and this question has actually been going through my mind a lot lately about, I wonder where my life would be if I'd known this in my early thirties, if I'd known, or if I had known this in my twenties. [00:34:23] And I kept kind of going backwards like, I didn't know this then. Oh maybe if I'd known this. And I kept just, like I said, looking back and then what I realized is. It's so important that I didn't know those things because I had to experience them with the challenges. I had to climb the mountains for the first time to really understand the importance of gaining those skills for myself. So I actually think that Ashlyn, a couple years ago, I may have wanted to hear, I, what I wanted to hear was, you're making the right decision. I wanted to be validated by doctors, by people who I typically refer to as the ones who have the alphabet after their name. [00:35:06] Can somebody please just tell me, check, you know, you're making the right choice. Or this is what I would do if it were my child. And I wanted it so desperately that I, it did almost prevent me from going. But I am blessed that because of other experiences before that, right where pain had started to evolve into a guide for my life, a way of understanding what is most important to me. [00:35:37] It clarifies a lot. Exactly. Because often, you know, pain and fear are often about things we can't control, right? And what it showed me was that I don't need guaranteed outcomes to be able to sleep at night. I know that if I don't give it everything, including the kitchen sink, I won't be able to sleep at night. [00:36:03] I won't be able to look at Emery when she's an adult and tell her. We tried absolutely everything we could to give you the best quality of life, and that's what I needed to be able to give her. In order for me to feel good about the mom I am. And that's what was most important to me at that time. [00:36:23] So it sounds like maybe you trust in your ability to meet the moment enough that you don't think you would've gone back and told yourself anything? No, I think, and that's something that, like I said, I'd been thinking about a lot, like how many times if I'd only known this, if I if I'd only held my boundaries or if, or you know, these standards or, you know, all the things I could have done differently. [00:36:48] But as I said at the beginning of this, I feel like I have lived a thousand lives and become. A thousand new versions of myself, but you don't become your next self without going through something that carves away at you to reveal it. We don't grow through the easy no we stay stagnant. And besides small talk, my biggest fear in life is staying stagnant. [00:37:20] God, can we just let go of small talk? Oh my gosh. We all have a weather app and we all know the traffic patterns at this point. Like, do you know what's so funny about the weather app? I'm gonna use it every day. I treat my husband like the weather app, and we have an Alexa, like in, literally, like, I'll ask him what the temperature is and he'll be like. [00:37:41] Alexa. I just, oh my goodness. It's like those basic the basic like things of moving through life. I don't know why. It's like I've, I have this like faux that's of publicist. I'm like, I don't know what I'm, so what's the weather? I can't look out the window. I can't ask my own Alexa. [00:37:56] I always think, I think it's, I think it's more like, I think it's fair to acknowledge those as high. There's higher priorities that take up front of mind space. That's right. That's right. Things' so focused on the big things. Right? Yes. It's okay. We're not meant to like, you know, and I think that's another, that's one point I feel really compelled to bring up in this conversation based on all these things we've talked about, you know? [00:38:20] Yes. thank you for the chance to share what Parent Empowerment Network does, and the Empowered By Hope podcast is about addressing the real hard, the messy like, because as far as we're concerned, like once you get the news, your child is not okay. You're living in the messy middle from there on out. [00:38:36] And it can make you, or it can break you. And we're there to tell everybody, we promise this will make you. Even with worst case scenario, and that's a bold statement, but, you know, but it's one you've lived and I exactly. And I've seen countless others live, right? But I think it's so important that everybody, you know, I guess my dream would be if everybody could just realize we are not meant to carry pain and hardship and struggle by ourselves. [00:39:07] That's really what Parent Empowerment Network does. That's really what our podcast does, is it directly says to everybody who gets a chance to interact with us or who we have the honor to meet with. It just says, Hey, you are not expected to hold this alone. You know, put some of that on our plate. [00:39:24] Let's hold it together because it'll be better for everybody. It's not just you is like, again, that's what frees you from a victim mentality. You are not the only one who's ever experienced this. Right. You are not the only one who has suffered this way. And in by no means it's not to minimize. [00:39:40] Right. Exactly. It's not belittling it, it's not, it's definitely not dismissing it. But it's meant to serve as a lighthouse. Right. Our stories are unique. Yes, of course. And so that's, and I think that's what is endlessly, I will never be bored having an in-depth. Not small talk with the love of God, but like, I will never I will be endlessly fascinated by other people. [00:40:01] Because the stories are unique. Yeah. But there is a common thread that we can all see ourselves in or relate to. That, it's so enriching. Yeah. It's almost like, maybe because it's spring and, but I'm thinking it's like the pain is like the compost. Yeah. Something has to die in rotten decay in order to nurture something new. To grow. Yep. Exactly. And I, and that pain serves as fur. It's fertilizing the new, the next round of growth. Right. Yeah. It's not making anything vanish or destroying it, it's just, but it has to break down to build back up. I think that's why mosaics are my favorite type of art. [00:40:39] Yeah. I have such a strong connection to any piece that I see that's made up of a mosaic. And I remember that coming true for me when my dad had his massive stroke and. You know, he was completely debilitated, couldn't speak for himself, couldn't move his own body. He lived like that almost two years. But I remember getting really close to a couple key therapists in his life. [00:41:04] And I remember just after he passed, I got them both a small gift. It was these little mosaic art pieces for them. And I said, when I saw those, I knew that this was the right thing because you didn't see my dad as a destroyed person. You saw him as for the broken pieces. He was that to be put back, to be put together into something that was new and beautiful on its own. [00:41:33] And that's what I feel like pain has the ability to do for all of us. It's okay. And I to acknowledge that you are broken. But it's also just as important to acknowledge that you can be remade into something. You, the old you is gone. You know, when we go through something awful hard, unimaginable it's really easy to think that I will feel this way forever. There is a finality that we attach to painful experiences and it takes often somebody from the outside to gently help us realize that's not reality. I often, when I'm in that transition and I'm not aware or I'm just not ready to admit there are either, there's usually it's I there's usually things I wanna carry along with me. [00:42:28] Yep. It's like. Like an old dingy snugly blanket or like a stuffed animal that like has like holes worn in and like an eyes popped off. It's just but I when I've gone through those transitions, it's saying goodbye to maybe friendships that aren't serving me. [00:42:42] Yep. Or titles, roles levels of output expectations, stories, ways of being and the way, and to go back to pain as a professor, which is going to be the title. That it's only when I try to take the old way of being or the old relationship that is no longer serving into my new now reality. [00:43:04] When it feels anything other than good. Yeah. That's information exactly that it's showing me something and. That curiosity over constriction can also for me look like curiosity over criticism. And because that criticism is usually either dialed inward, what's wrong with me? Right. Or what's wrong with them? [00:43:25] Versus , what is happening Exactly. What's going on? What is this showing me? And I would say probably saying goodbye to relationships or friendships has probably been the hardest. Yeah. The hard, because there is this idea that I'm like if I like it, and it's like in a possessive way. [00:43:42] It's, if I like you forever. And I, and of course that is true. I mean, it, there's nobody who's been in my life that's added value that I don't appreciate. Right. But but I think that the shedding. Yeah. It's like I, I want the next thing, but I also don't wanna let the old thing go. [00:43:56] Right. And so it's, I think I've spent a lot of time and energy trying to like, pull that thing with me. Whatever it is and whatever that stage. But I think that there's when you can fully embrace, 'cause what I'm hearing from you is when you can fully embrace I am different now. [00:44:11] Yep. This is different. This mosaic. I'm not, I may not be able to carry water like I was as a vase. Right. But I'm gonna look really great as this. Yeah. And the other thing I wanna shift to before, before I get to your, don't cut your own bangs question. What I wanna ask you, you've mentioned art a couple of different times. [00:44:28] And this is to, to reference Dr. Martha Beck again. She has done a lot of incredible work in the last couple years where a way to. Step out of anxiety is not to try to access calm. 'cause we talked about going for a walk, right? So, because as much as I love these big conversations, it can be sometimes like, what is something tangible I can actually hold onto? [00:44:53] So walking with something we talked about community and connection with something else we talked about, but Art, I wanna talk about that for a moment because that is what my book was for me. Yeah. It was I created something that only that felt like it was to serve me. The process of interacting with that idea was so delightful and so delicious and so fun that I was like, I feel like I'm just the luckiest person that like this is, oh wow, I get to play with this thing. [00:45:21] Yeah. And it wants to play with me. And I don't feel that all the time. Like sometimes it's origami or doodling or coloring with my daughter. But to go back to Dr. Martha Beck's work that the opposite of anxiety is not calm, it's creativity. Oh, I love that. And you have by default really spoken through, like just healing through creating. [00:45:43] Oh, absolutely. And also there's something about, 'cause calm, there's something about calm that like, we must be still, and granted I love meditation, but like, I must be still, I must be calm. But when you are holding something that is buzzing and shaking or heavy or hot, like just some emotions are hot, like you, it's like you wanna move it through your hands or your words or your body and make something, right. [00:46:06] And you made me, she made me this bracelet before we started this episode. So like, it feels like you have a relationship with creativity too. A hundred percent. Creativity is a lifeline. And I feel like, and the most chaotic moments of my life have been the least I'm my least creative and I think it's a really. [00:46:29] Valuable, tangible thing for anybody to take from this conversation is if you are feeling out of control, lean into something as simple as I'm obsessed with those adult, you know, like the coloring books. Yes. You know, for adults to have like tons of different like lines all over the place that you have to be like really specific to keep the marker in there. [00:46:51] It can't, I do get a little bugged when it like bleeds over to the next section, but, , it's okay. I know I'm working through my, , my stressors at that moment. But yes, giving yourself a creative outlet, it's like taking a big drink of water after you've been exercising and you are so parched. [00:47:07] And I also agree that , calm sounds great in theory, but for me I feel like the more important, like the word that's become more important or I'm better able to. Absorb is the idea of am I grounded? Are my feet touching the ground? I can still have a lot going on, but when I'm like rising higher, you know, off the ground, 'cause like, I'm like a bird at this point, just flapping my arms so fast, right. [00:47:35] That I'm actually taking flight. I'm not in my best head space, but when I can just take a moment to literally just ground myself, make sure that my feet are, whether it's in the grass or sit down like this. And a conversation with a friend, somebody who really knows you is a great moment for that. [00:47:53] It's a great way to remind you who you are is somebody else. Sometimes I talk all the time about the value of when you can connect with somebody who feels with you, not just for you. Oh my gosh. It makes the world so much lighter and goodness. I mean, huh. That's probably if I could have answered the question I asked you a little bit ago, what's something that you could have if I could have told my former therapist self, like when I very when I first started, you're there to hold space for people to feel and feel with them. [00:48:23] Right. Exactly. You're not there. It's sacred. Yeah. It's there's nothing, one, it's like, there's nothing I can tell someone who's deeply in pain that they're actually gonna No. , That's, the words are just like, right. It's just noise. Yeah. And not to take anything. I'm sure I have clients who have been impacted by words. [00:48:40] But having a safe space to feel your feelings free of judgment. Is one of the reasons why I love journaling so much, but also doing that in communion Yeah. With another human right who expects nothing of you. I love Elizabeth Gilbert has language I love, like there's no precious outcome. [00:48:57] Like I can, that I can sit and have space with you or I can make plans with you or be, and there's no precious outcome. You don't have to perform for me. Right. You don't have to be anything for me. Like we can just be that is what a gift. Yes, that is. I just want to, this conversation has inspired way too many thoughts, but in the best way. [00:49:15] But something that hit me and then I think we could absolutely move on to Yeah. This the cut your bangs question. But what I've realized even in our conversation is that logic is not loud . our emotions are loud and they get louder and louder. The more we. Push them back the more we ignore them. [00:49:36] Think of your kids until they, when they need your attention. Because they deserve your attention. They do. The best thing we can do is acknowledge those emotions and just, even if it's as simple as, it's totally understandable. I feel this way right now. That is such a freeing sentence. Of course, I feel this way right now. [00:49:58] That was some serious shit that I just went through. Yeah . of course, I feel, and it doesn't have to make sense when those feelings hit the timing a lot of times feelings for me, I've found won't hit until I'm in a safe space much further down the road. Yes. And it's like being T-boned, like yes, totally out of the blue. [00:50:19] But that's also what happens to kids when they have tantrums. Ah, yeah. They'll hold. And then when they're finally either home at the end of the day or something, when the container is so full and they're finally in a place where they feel safe, they'll erupt over an orange peel not being peeled correctly. [00:50:32] Or , or a banana not being peeled correctly. Oh gosh. And it's not that, don't even start me on string cheese. God. Oh God. Parenting is fun. The best, but No, but you're right. Sometimes, I think that's probably why I cry almost with like every movie and TV show I watch. [00:50:47] Yeah. Because the emotions are just always right there and I just need a place to let it trickle out. Right. And that's okay. And I think, but just not judging ourselves for feelings. And then I think once we give that space or the feelings, the sooner we can do that, the sooner that logic, you know, like you, you mentioned multiple times, I know this, then you give logic. [00:51:13] The space that it needs to speak to you in a calm and quiet manner that you can actually trust. And that's where I think that those gut feelings truly come from. Those inner knowings are, when you've allowed space for the emotions first, given them their due. So then the logic can start to talk to you because it's never going to yell for your attention. [00:51:35] No. And I think we want it to, but that's not the way it works. And that's okay. A lot of times things make sense in hindsight, oh gosh, hindsight's 2020. Always. South Park has a great episode. If people if you have just like a dark sense of humor and you wanna laugh at, there's a character called Captain Hindsight and it's really funny. [00:51:54] . So yeah, a lot of times things don't make sense until we're. A little bit more removed from them. Yep. And some what I have found to be helpful, I've noticed you using your hands. Yeah. And I find when I am, when my mind is really active and I need it to stop or slow down or I just i'll sometimes even throw my hands up. Yeah. And I'll say, and even saying. I'm feeling something and just to myself in my kitchen. 'cause I'm almost always , because I work from home, I'm either like in my office or in my kitchen, like I'm feeling something. As soon as you did that, it's gonna show on video. [00:52:25] I like saw from the corner of my eye myself, naturally going, whew. Yeah. Just sound like inhale. Exhale. Yes. It's like something is being felt. Something's happening. I don't know what it is, but something's happening. And I think, in a lot of ways too, like that's how we have these internal smoke signals. [00:52:42] Yeah. And it's the same way, like your smoke detector in your house doesn't know the difference between burnt toast and something on fire, right? But it will beep when it senses. Yeah. When it senses something. And so my body is like sensing something. Is this a threat? [00:52:56] Are we safe? Yes, we're safe. Oh, we're likely. We just needed water. We're just dehydrated. Uhhuh. Or we just, yeah. So any number of things. But that was so good. Thank you. And yes, I would love, love, love to know your don't cut your own bang moment. And for anybody who is new to the podcast, 'cause I think there are some new people here. [00:53:15] Thank you for being here. Don't cut Your own bang moment is a moment where you went all in on something like cutting your own bangs, you grabbed some scissors, you watched a YouTube video, you're like, I got this. And you go, and then, oh no, this wasn't what I thought it would be. But the value in a don't Cut Your own Bang moment is not only that we can share in the silliness of humanity and mistakes, but also like maybe we learn something from it. [00:53:42] So, Ashlyn? Yes. I would love to hear your Don't cut your own bang moment. Oh my goodness. I think that there's probably a plethora of them. Oh, of course. And, let's see here. I'm even, I tried to have one prepared, and then I got excited about the rest of our conversation. Oh my gosh. Don't worry. So, okay I'll share one. [00:53:58] So what's a good, don't a good, oh. I invited my husband to record a podcast with me because I thought it would just be, , fun to bring him back on. And what I realized was I didn't prepare him for it at all. I just set up lights and set up a camera and asked him to sit. And he was so, visibly like he was trying, he was sitting, he was trying. [00:54:23] But I could just tell, again, something's happening. And I could tell he was a little uncomfortable and a little stiff. And I kept, because our eyes look out. My first assumption is, what's wrong out there? And I was like, what are you okay? What's wrong? And he he was , I don't really know what I'm supposed to be doing. [00:54:41] And then I was like. Oh, no, it was snip the bangs. I didn't provide any context. I didn't give him any preparation for what we'd be talking about, why we'd be talking like he had no context. And the whole setup is different, uhhuh. And it was such a humbling, settling moment of context. [00:55:04] It's I'm writing something right now about this idea of play. I'm a freedom loving, freedom seeking play hungry, greedy person right now. I want more play. I could never get enough. But what makes play feel fun and safe is to understand the context. Yeah. , There's rules in a game. [00:55:20] Otherwise, what is it? And I, my first instinct is to buck. Rules. I don't like ingredient lists. I don't like recipes. I just wanna feel my way through it. But, if you wanna make a beautiful croissant, you can't just feel your way through that. There's a very exacting way to do it. And so, it, it was such a one, I'm endlessly grateful for him and his patients with me. [00:55:40] I'm grateful that , our dynamics not new, so he probably knew what was going on, but just did yeah he's pretty sweet that way. But I, it was such a refresher that , if I wanna create a space and container to play safely with people Yeah. I need to give them the context. Absolutely. And it doesn't matter how long I've known someone, how well I know someone. [00:55:59] I laughed at myself because I, the part of the reason why it feels funny to me, but in like a humbling way. I thought the problem was him for like the first 15 minutes. I was like, what dude? Relax. I was like, what? Is he doing it right? [00:56:12] Yeah. like come on. And I was like. Oh no. Context. Zero. Oh my goodness. So that was a great one. Thank you. Okay, I'm gonna do mine in like short seconds because this one just hap this that inspired me perfectly. So my 8-year-old son and I are both going to the same therapist right now. [00:56:30] I'm a believer everybody should have at least an annual checkup with a therapist, but that's a great endorsement. Everyone should have an you annual checkup. You welcome, reach out to Danielle, she's fantastic. If you live in Indiana, by all means. If not, we'll help you find someone. Yes. And also order the book. [00:56:44] Yes, order the book. Get resting the wall risk. Get treasured. Yes. But go on please. So anyway one, one of the things that my I, the reason I love the person we're working with is because she's the first therapist I've worked with when it comes to, with my kids, she actually tells me what I can work on rather than just , you're doing the best you can and like you just love 'em. [00:57:03] And like, yes, I know, but that is not helping me. And so one of the things that got pointed out to me. Was so Cole , has very low frustration tolerance, like more so than is necessarily healthy for an 8-year-old. And of course with all the trauma with our his sister, our journey, it's understandable. [00:57:22] So we're working on that. What she kindly pointed out to me was, okay, we could work on his, but do you also realize that your tolerance for acceptable emotions is about this big? Oh, she's , therapist, be therapist Uhhuh. She's , but there's like a whole lot more emo like, she's , it's like a whole rainbow. [00:57:42] We need a whole arc for acceptable emotions. She's so you need to stop making it your responsibility to control which emotions he experiences. And it's up to you to provide the solid ground for him no matter which emotion comes up for him. And I will say that has changed my parenting in the last week. [00:58:04] More than maybe anything has like faster than anything. Because all of a sudden I'm like, of course it's acceptable that his sister just made him extremely mad. Of course it's understandable that he's jealous or sad or excited or whatever the feeling is, but it also doesn't define him as right or wrong, what emotions he's experiencing in that moment. [00:58:28] And the big thing was the realization that every emotion he experiences is not a direct reflection of who I am as a parent. No. Because that was what I needed to let go of that any emotion that is considered negative that my child has doesn't mean. That I'm doing a bad job as a parent. Oh my God. [00:58:49] That is one. What a beautiful. Don't cut. Thank you. With Dr. Sarah. Yes. Thank you, Dr. Sarah. You'd be therapizing all up in that session. That was so good. And it's the, that to me is a great example that hard truths can always be delivered with kindness. Yeah. But I think the big important thing there is you had the right context. [00:59:12] Exactly. You went to her for that information. Right. It wasn't like someone on the street. But the thing that we can't give someone what we don't have. Exactly. And I actually think that what you just said, if there was ever an endorsement for what. Self-care actually is not the commoditized, right. [00:59:29] Faux sense of, I'm gonna create a problem and I'm going to prescribe collagen. Did you know that the reason why, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah is these things that you need to buy and, oh, my program for blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm gonna, I have all that stuff. I'm not I'm wanna, I wanna keep it in perspective. [00:59:45] I am drinking the same Kool-Aid 'cause I'm getting sent the same algorithm ads that we're all getting sent. Like I'm doing colostrum now. I don't even know. Like, I just, because I was like, my gut might grow up I own, but anyway but I think self-care and the best possible context is when you nurture. [01:00:03] And heal yourself. It becomes the medicine. Yes. Yes. And the offering for the other people in your life that you love most. It's like as you increase your own palette of what you're able to allow yourself to experience, you're then also able to see it in your son and give it to him. That is so beautiful and it's hard. [01:00:26] Sometimes, but it's some God that a well timed, articulated loving truth like that can change your life. Yeah. That is amazing. Thank you. I don't know, we can't top that. That was good. We're good. That was real good. Ashlyn Thompson, thank you so much for coming back and we're going to have you back. [01:00:43] You have to come back. Yes. And you're coming over to Empowered by Hope very soon. I would love that so much. And Yes. And so all of the ways, if you or anyone you know in your life has been impacted by a little one with complex me complex medical issues and you want some support, you want some information, you want some resources. [01:01:01] The link in the show notes will have every way that you can connect with Ashlyn, her business partner, and what was formally Charlotte's Hope Foundation, what is now the Parent Empowerment Network. Pick up all the books, all the resources, everything I talked about too for my stuff is also in there. [01:01:16] But , it's all linked for you there. So I hope that you get what you need and. Thanks so much, . Oh my gosh. [01:01:21] If you've ever wanted to pick up journaling,

Dr. Martha Beck explains how the right hemisphere of the brain, through creative thinking, can be a sanctuary for those struggling with anxiety. While today's fast-paced world often frames creative expression as unproductive, learning to embrace it is crucial for improving mental well-being. In this top moment, discover how creative tools can offer emotional relief, helping you feel more calm, grounded, and connected to your true self. Listen to the full episode here - Spotify - https://g2ul0.app.link/7WH0j10fkUb Apple - https://g2ul0.app.link/enmhhX4jkUb Watch the Episodes On YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Dr Martha Beck - https://marthabeck.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Parent Lean In episode, I'm talking with Margaret Webb about a question I hear often—how can we support our neurodivergent kids in connecting with neurotypical peers, especially when social skills don't quite align? We unpack one listener's situation with her sweet, social autistic son and talk about managing our own worries as parents, scaffolding playdates so they feel more successful, and finding the right playmate fit. It's all about creating safe, supportive opportunities for connection—without putting too much pressure on anyone involved.   Debbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of TiLT Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, and the author of more than a dozen books for children and teens, Debbie's most recent book is Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope. Margaret Webb is a certified Master Life Coach, parenting coach, nature-based coach, former teacher, wife and mother. As a life and parenting coach, she weaves together her experience as an elementary education teacher with the tools she's learned in Martha Beck's Life Coach Training, Sagefire Institute's Nature-Based Coach Training, and what she's applied to her own life as a mom of a now 20-year-old autistic son. Her most recent book is Hero's Journey in Parenting: Parenting the Child You Didn't Expect While You Were Expecting.   Things you'll learn from this episode Why understanding the root causes of a child's behavior helps parents respond with empathy and effectiveness How dysregulation often stems from overwhelming emotions and energy that need safe release Why co-regulation and physical activity are powerful tools for helping children return to a calm state How a parent's calm presence can de-escalate emotional intensity and offer safety Why knowing when to step in and when to hold space without reacting is key to supporting regulation How keeping a long-term perspective can help parents navigate tough moments with more resilience and hope Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever feel like the world's designed to keep you anxious… and stuck? You're not alone. And today's guest—Martha Beck, best-selling author and world-renowned life coach—is here to show us a gentler way forward. In this episode, Martha shares the soul-soothing, science-backed strategies from her latest book, “Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose.” We dive deep into why anxiety is on the rise (and what you can do to quiet it), how to live in a “circle world” even when life feels like a box, and the simple actions that unlock your purpose—no hustle required.

Doro and Tricia welcome Martha Beck, a New York Times bestselling author and life coach, to Health Gig, where she talks about coming from her structured, conservative upbringing to a life dedicated to exploring joy, creativity, and the complexities of anxiety. Martha delivers poignant insight on the intricate relationship we have with fear and suffering, offering advice on how to make them tools for self-development. She demonstrates how storytelling aids in understanding our emotions and unlocking problem-solving abilities, highlighting for listeners how moving beyond anxiety can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Los futuros en Wall Street están planos, al igual que las acciones en Europa, a la espera de novedades en las negociaciones comerciales en Londres entre EE.UU. y China; siguen las protestas en Los Ángeles; se frena la inflación en Colombia; y la periodista de Bloomberg en Brasilia Martha Beck comenta su artículo sobre la baja en popularidad de Lula en Brasil.Para leer el reportaje de Martha Beck sobre Lula: bloom.bg/4jHiYakMás de Bloomberg en EspañolNewsletter Cinco cosas: bloom.bg/42Gu4pGLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/bloomberg-en-espanol/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/BloombergEspanolWhatsApp: https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VaFVFoWKAwEg9Fdhml1lTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bloombergenespanolX: https://twitter.com/BBGenEspanolProducción: Eduardo ThomsonSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

1. Why it's important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love. 2. What Glennon says was the hardest thing about telling her kids that Craig and she were getting a divorce–and how truth telling frees us all. 3. Martha's helpful strategy for how to choose freedom over fear when we're faced with a tough decision. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. Book: ⁠The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self⁠ Instagram: ⁠@themarthabeck⁠ Twitter: ⁠@marthabeck To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summary: Why is it that so many highly sensitive people struggle to ask for what they want? Is it fear of rejection—or something deeper? In this gentle, reflective episode, we explore the quieter truth: that many HSPs aren't afraid of being told no... they're afraid of being told yes. We walk through the hidden fears beneath desire, the right-brain wisdom that often goes unheard, and the cultural noise that drowns out intuitive knowing. Along the way, we draw from the research of Bianca Acevedo, the teachings of Martha Beck, and the soul-deep ache for both authenticity and belonging. This episode is an invitation to return to the power of sensitivity—not as weakness, but as precision. And to remember that what you want may already be unfolding... if you're quiet enough to notice. We Will Walk Through: The counterintuitive reason HSPs hold back from desire Why asking for what you want can feel like a risk to your nervous system Insights on right-brain processing and language barriers for intuitive people The tension between personal power and the longing to belong A gentle reminder that you may already be living someone's dream (it might just not be yours) How to start (by inches) creating the life of your dreams

It is hard to imagine how intricate and complicated your eyes are. This episode starts with a look at some of the amazing things your eyes do and how they work to allow you to see the world. https://www.buzzfeed.com/acuvue/impossibly-cool-facts-you-may-not-know-about-yo#.kjpwxlkvO Anxiety is a huge problem. It appears more people are more anxious today than ever before. Why is that? What causes anxiety in the first place and more importantly, what can you do to lower your anxiety? Here with some wonderful insight into all of this as well as offering very practical suggestions to reduce anxiety is Martha Beck. She is a Harvard-trained sociologist and speaker who is the author of a book called Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose (https://amzn.to/4dyqWRV) For decades, science fiction has given us various versions of talking computers. And today we have Alexa and Siri that utilize pretty cool technology that allows you to speak a question and hear an answer back. But talking machines go back a long time and their history is fascinating. And what is the future of talking computers and machines? Have they reached their potential or is there more to come? Listen to my guest Sarah A. Bell. She is a writer and professor who studies the impact of information technologies on the world. She is author of the book, Vox ex Machina: A Cultural History of Talking Machines (https://amzn.to/4k8FfyU) We all know the importance of frequent handwashing. Still there are a few things many of us unknowingly get wrong that can put us at risk of catching or spreading germs. Listen as I explain what they are. https://www.foxnews.com/health/biggest-handwashing-mistakes-could-increase-germs-viruses PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! MINT MOBILE: Ditch overpriced wireless and get 3 months of premium wireless service from Mint Mobile for 15 bucks a month at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://MintMobile.com/something⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! FACTOR: Eat smart with Factor! Get 50% off at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://FactorMeals.com/something50off⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TIMELINE: Get 10% off your order of Mitopure!  Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Timeline.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ROCKET MONEY: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster! Go to ⁠⁠⁠https://RocketMoney.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠ QUINCE: Elevate your shopping with Quince! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! INDEED: Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now! DELL: The power of Dell AI with Intel inside is transforming the world of pro sports! For the players and the fans who are there for every game. See how Dell Technologies with Intel inside can help find your advantage, and power your wins at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Dell.com/Wins⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Christina welcomes back Michelle to talk about real and tactical tips for navigating the chaos of summer—when there's no school or camp buffer, exchanges get messy, routines fall apart, and stepmoms often end up managing more than they expected. Michelle and Christiina talk about boundaries, managing expectations with partners, and keeping your sanity when everything feels unpredictable. What can you do now to protect your peace this summer?  Listen in! About My Guest: Coach Michelle is a high conflict resolution coach, an attorney, and a badass single mom. She helps parents disengage from high conflict relationships, getting them out of court, and stepping back into their lives. Her unique combination as a certified Martha Beck life coach, a lawyer for almost 20 years, her field of study in Psychology, and her own personal family law experience, makes Michelle a well-rounded coach, capable of helping parents learn how to disengage from a challenging and protracted co-parenting relationship.Find her on IG: coachmichellesdWebsite: www.coachmichelle.clubSo much more than a podcast!!!Instagram: @radicalstepmomspodcastSchedule with Christina: https://chatwithchristina.as.me/Become a Member: https://www.patreon.com/radicalstepmomspodcastwww.radicalstepmomspodcast.com

This episode is about the thoughts that hold you back, the actions that pull you forward, and why being present beats being perfect. Smith & Mayhew explore anxiety, negative self-talk, and the daily mind games that stop so many men from showing up fully—in the gym, at home, and in life. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, doubted yourself mid-set, or wondered if you're living the life you really want, this one's for you.  Oh, and if you've ever used the phrase "Fattibumbum" in a serious conversation—you're not alone. Register your interest in our retreat in March 2026: https://agameconsultancy.com/retreat/ Martha Beck is the guest on Modern Wisdom that Smith talks about - Check out her book "Beyond Anxiety" : AmazonUK   If you want your question answered on a future episode, please drop the lads a line : hello@agameconsultancy.com Adam Smith From depressed and suicidal to the happiest and fittest he's ever been, Adam Smith's self-development journey hasn't been easy but it has been worth it. Today, he's a qualified mindset coach in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and a certified Time Line Therapist®. Adam has coached many high performers, using NLP to rewire his clients' thoughts and behaviours so they can destroy limiting beliefs and engineer the change needed to excel. Connect with Adam Smith: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-smith-high-performance-coach/ Adam Mayhew Adam Mayhew swapped burnout and binge drinking for ultra marathons, CrossFit and sobriety. A registered nutritional therapist specialising in performance nutrition, Adam supports everyone from office workers to athletes to build healthy eating habits. Using science (and never fad diets, quick fixes or gym bro culture) he helps clients target their problem areas and confidently master diet, training and lifestyle. Connect with Adam Mayhew: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-mayhew-nutrition-coaching/ To find out more about Smith & Mayhew: https://agameconsultancy.com/about/

In this episode, Martha Beck explores how to move beyond anxiety and how curiosity turns fear into fuel. Martha dives into why anxiety can’t simply be silenced. It has to be replaced with things like creativity, curiosity, and a deep kindness towards ourselves. Key Takeaways: Discussion of anxiety versus fear and their psychological implications. Exploration of societal factors contributing to increased anxiety levels. Importance of living authentically and in alignment with one’s true self. The role of creativity and curiosity in overcoming anxiety. Neurological aspects of anxiety and the brain’s functions related to creativity. The concept of breakdowns leading to breakthroughs in personal growth. Practical techniques for managing anxiety through self-compassion and kindness. The significance of sensory experiences in activating creativity and reducing anxiety. The idea of a “creativity spiral” versus an “anxiety spiral” in personal development. Reflection on the power of imagination and intention in shaping one’s reality and life purpose. If you enjoyed this conversation with Martha Beck, check out these other episodes: How to Find Peace and Balance in Managing Anxiety with Sarah Wilson Why Anxiety is Good For You with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the late-1940s, con-artists Raymond Fernandez and Martha Beck used newspaper “lonely-hearts” ads to lure trusting women into deadly traps. Tonight, Kevin, Anthony, and Doug dissect how the couple's twisted love story escalated from fraud to at least three confirmed murders, why the media crowned them The Lonely Hearts Killers, and what finally brought the killers to the electric chair at Sing Sing Prison on March 8, 1951

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What does it really take to free yourself from anxiety? Not just manage it, but truly move beyond it? Oprah once said Martha Beck is “one of the smartest women I know.” A Harvard-trained sociologist, bestselling author, and world-renowned life coach, Martha has spent decades guiding others to reclaim their peace, purpose, and power. In this intimate and eye-opening conversation, Martha joins Sarah Grynberg to talk about her groundbreaking new book Beyond Anxiety, and the practices that helped her move from crippling fear to radical inner freedom. She unpacks the neuroscience of anxiety, the myths we believe about control, and how we can all access the quiet wisdom that already lives within us. You’ll learn: *Where most anxiety comes from. *A simple technique Martha swears by. *What it actually feels like to live in alignment with your truth. *The biggest misconception we have about healing, and what to do instead. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, stuck in your head, or afraid to trust your gut, this episode will change the way you see fear and yourself. It’s a deep breath for your nervous system, and a reminder that peace isn’t something you chase. It’s something you remember. Beyond Anxiety by Martha Beck is available now in all good bookstores and online here. Purchase Sarah's book: Living A Life Of Greatness here. To purchase Living A Life of Greatness outside Australia here or here. Watch A Life of Greatness Episodes On Youtube here. Sign up for Sarah’s newsletter (Greatness Guide) here. Purchase Sarah's Meditations here. Instagram: @sarahgrynberg Website: https://sarahgrynberg.com/ Facebook: facebook.com/sarahgrynberg Twitter: twitter.com/sarahgrynberg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In this episode of Humane Marketing podcast, I'm joined by Polly Hearsey for a deep and refreshing conversation about radically reinventing business. Together, we explore how heart-centered entrepreneurs can move beyond fear-based tactics, align with natural rhythms, simplify offerings, and build businesses rooted in service, integrity, and community. If you're ready to treat your business as a living, evolving ecosystem—and break free from outdated rules—you'll find inspiration and real-world guidance here. This is business reimagined for a more humane world. Here's what we discussed in this episode: Buyers are more skeptical and seek authenticity over hype. Clients sense the true intent behind messaging; fear- or scarcity-based offers don't resonate. Aligning business with natural and seasonal rhythms creates a more sustainable presence. Flexibility is key-evolve offerings in real time based on current needs. Simplifying offerings-less but deeper-better meets people's needs. Treat business as a living, evolving ecosystem rather than a machine to optimize. Root work in service and integrity instead of focusing solely on profit. Shift away from endless growth; redefine success through depth and impact. Build business around community, connection, and co-creation rather than competition. Practice courageous listening to ourselves, clients, and the world-and act on what we hear. And most importantly, break all the rules and question all the assumptions you have around business. Watch this episode on YouTube -- 1 00:00:01.610 --> 00:00:04.559 Sarah Santacroce: Hi, Polly, it's good to speak to you again. 2 00:00:04.560 --> 00:00:12.699 Polly Hearsey: Thanks. You know, I always enjoy coming to talk to you because it's just it's fun to suggest. Go where we go. It's it's all. 3 00:00:12.700 --> 00:00:13.170 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 4 00:00:13.170 --> 00:00:13.820 Polly Hearsey: Light. 5 00:00:14.100 --> 00:00:14.600 Polly Hearsey: Thank you. 6 00:00:14.600 --> 00:00:23.210 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, it's kind of like one of the things that I feel like. That's my zone of genius. And I know it's yours to. 7 00:00:23.330 --> 00:00:46.690 Sarah Santacroce: you know, reimagine, rethink differently. And so really, that's what I want to do today. And I was just telling you, I think we can do half of the episode or the beginning of the episode about today, right now and then look into the future. So so yeah, let's let's start there. You know, it's quite the time we live in. And there's 8 00:00:46.810 --> 00:00:54.670 Sarah Santacroce: there's probably I can sense the fear in entrepreneurship. And yeah, I'm just 9 00:00:55.170 --> 00:01:00.949 Sarah Santacroce: maybe start us off before we go into taking action, start us off with 10 00:01:01.150 --> 00:01:06.680 Sarah Santacroce: explaining what you sense energetically. What is going on. 11 00:01:08.320 --> 00:01:14.060 Polly Hearsey: I think that there's been a big shift in the buyer market 12 00:01:14.500 --> 00:01:22.949 Polly Hearsey: in terms of what they want and what they're expecting, and the way in which they've been burnt in the past. 13 00:01:24.600 --> 00:01:30.500 Polly Hearsey: And there's definitely an ability to read through the hype 14 00:01:30.730 --> 00:01:36.349 Polly Hearsey: right? And the promises. So there's a lot of skepticism, I would say, building. 15 00:01:37.123 --> 00:01:47.610 Polly Hearsey: So. And you see that when people put ads out say on Facebook or something, and you read the comments and the threads, it'll just be. Get the just people be tearing into them because it's not. 16 00:01:47.790 --> 00:01:48.180 Sarah Santacroce: It. 17 00:01:48.180 --> 00:01:48.870 Polly Hearsey: So I'm asking. 18 00:01:48.870 --> 00:01:50.240 Sarah Santacroce: Feel so fake. It's fake. 19 00:01:50.240 --> 00:02:00.419 Polly Hearsey: Feels fake and and the promises feel overhyped. You know, state, and particularly in the space that we're in. 20 00:02:00.690 --> 00:02:05.689 Polly Hearsey: We've got a lot of economic turmoil, and we've got a but 21 00:02:06.060 --> 00:02:11.710 Polly Hearsey: but even before the sort of like the very recent economic turmoil, what we had was 22 00:02:12.470 --> 00:02:18.240 Polly Hearsey: a lot of well established businesses, we're sliding. 23 00:02:18.810 --> 00:02:19.250 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 24 00:02:19.250 --> 00:02:23.800 Polly Hearsey: And they were keeping it under wraps. And I also noticed a lot of people who'd. 25 00:02:24.410 --> 00:02:34.189 Polly Hearsey: Yeah, maybe 6 years ago had been very present, and then they'd slid off my radar. And then all of a sudden, they've started advertising. That tells me that their business is slipping. 26 00:02:34.420 --> 00:02:35.010 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 27 00:02:35.010 --> 00:02:44.320 Polly Hearsey: And that's because the way in which they were approaching it through this sort of psychological, persuasion-based approach. 28 00:02:45.580 --> 00:02:52.540 Polly Hearsey: It's not working, because once you know that it's happening to you. It doesn't work anymore. So people becoming very wise. 29 00:02:52.710 --> 00:02:58.950 Polly Hearsey: And but I also think that people want something different now. They don't want the same old 30 00:02:59.310 --> 00:03:12.899 Polly Hearsey: heavy investments long term, because they don't feel that they have a grasp on where things are going to be in 3 months. So why would I invest in an 8 month, 10 month, 12 month program 31 00:03:13.390 --> 00:03:17.909 Polly Hearsey: to support myself in whatever area I needed 32 00:03:18.130 --> 00:03:27.189 Polly Hearsey: when I don't know where I'm going to be. Am I going to be the same person? Am I going to want to do the same sort of things? Because I think people can feel so much bubbling up within them 33 00:03:27.300 --> 00:03:32.310 Polly Hearsey: that they're not entirely sure how they're going to respond to it. 34 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:33.110 Sarah Santacroce: So. 35 00:03:33.110 --> 00:03:44.109 Polly Hearsey: Big investments don't make an awful lot of sense. And yet some of these very established businesses that's a lot of money to invest with them on something where they're not getting one to one support. 36 00:03:44.110 --> 00:03:46.150 Sarah Santacroce: Right? It's always group, giant group. 37 00:03:46.150 --> 00:04:01.209 Polly Hearsey: Giant groups. And it's like, Oh, the value is in the information. No, the value isn't in the information anymore. We have AI proliferating that can turn information into process, but without any nuanced understanding 38 00:04:01.690 --> 00:04:03.810 Polly Hearsey: of how to deliver it. 39 00:04:03.810 --> 00:04:04.420 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 40 00:04:04.420 --> 00:04:11.400 Polly Hearsey: So what people are now looking for is more human contact. And yet we've built business structures 41 00:04:11.600 --> 00:04:13.109 Polly Hearsey: that remove that. 42 00:04:13.310 --> 00:04:13.920 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 43 00:04:13.920 --> 00:04:23.200 Polly Hearsey: And so all the expectations about how you automate everything and how you run one to many, and all of that is oh. 44 00:04:23.340 --> 00:04:30.899 Polly Hearsey: you know I mean, education hasn't lost its value. But information has, I think. And so so it's changing expectations. So I think 45 00:04:31.070 --> 00:04:45.089 Polly Hearsey: that puts us in a position where we need to be really agile to respond, and creative as well. So we're not just going. Oh, God, I've got to try a little bit harder to make something that's always worked work because it's not going to. 46 00:04:45.090 --> 00:04:49.070 Sarah Santacroce: Right. You can't just push harder and think it's gonna. 47 00:04:49.190 --> 00:04:54.919 Polly Hearsey: You see that with the classic old, give me your email address and I'll give you something of value. 48 00:04:55.090 --> 00:04:57.479 Polly Hearsey: How hard is that to push right now. 49 00:04:57.480 --> 00:04:58.869 Sarah Santacroce: Right? It's yeah. 50 00:04:58.870 --> 00:05:17.000 Polly Hearsey: Do not want yet another, because I don't know about you. My inbox is unmanageable. I spent tail end of last year unsubscribing. I spent a whole day just going unsubscribe, unsubscribe, unsubscribe. Stop sending me so much stuff. I don't read it. I do not have the capacity to read it. 51 00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:17.390 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 52 00:05:17.390 --> 00:05:18.890 Polly Hearsey: But people don't want that. 53 00:05:18.890 --> 00:05:19.420 Sarah Santacroce: No. 54 00:05:19.420 --> 00:05:28.300 Polly Hearsey: And there was an interesting thread on substack. I was reading yesterday where people were saying, what I want is the ability to buy a single article 55 00:05:28.520 --> 00:05:32.530 Polly Hearsey: stop making me subscribe, because there are so many writers here. 56 00:05:32.690 --> 00:05:36.970 Polly Hearsey: but I want to be able to subscribe to pay for one article, awesome and 57 00:05:36.970 --> 00:05:38.760 Polly Hearsey: interesting reflection of where we're at. 58 00:05:38.760 --> 00:05:58.989 Sarah Santacroce: That's kind of what I took away from your newsletter the other day where I was like, oh, I got to have you back on the podcast where you talked about bite. Sized. Right? Yeah. Like, people want small bits, and they want to yes experience. Your work before engaging in any length of program. 59 00:05:59.130 --> 00:06:26.720 Sarah Santacroce: And and yeah, like, I, just, I'm experimenting this year with instead of a 3 month program. I'm running the marketing like we're human in a 5 week program, and I already see the difference, like people who've gone through it in January. They tell me it was so much easier to decide, because it's 5 weeks, and I can. I can handle that like you said I don't know. 3 months, I'm you know, all over the place in 3 months, and so. 60 00:06:26.720 --> 00:06:27.140 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. 61 00:06:27.140 --> 00:06:30.469 Sarah Santacroce: Weeks. Yes, just sound easier. And I think. 62 00:06:30.470 --> 00:06:37.489 Polly Hearsey: People wanted to know what they're going to do with that, you know, and 3 months down the line it feels like a very long time. 63 00:06:37.490 --> 00:06:37.900 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 64 00:06:37.900 --> 00:06:50.989 Polly Hearsey: Not, but it feels like a very long time, whereas 5 weeks it doesn't. And I, I ran a couple of 3 week programs this year, and that was much easier for people, although it wasn't easier for me. 65 00:06:51.210 --> 00:06:55.530 Polly Hearsey: actually, because I and I know how much I 66 00:06:55.750 --> 00:06:58.989 Polly Hearsey: want people to understand in order to be able to action it. 67 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:00.619 Sarah Santacroce: That's the thing right? 68 00:07:00.620 --> 00:07:04.469 Polly Hearsey: They had a little bit of a sort of like shockwave. 69 00:07:05.260 --> 00:07:21.509 Polly Hearsey: So I got so I just said to them at the end of it instead, I wasn't going to do a pitch at the end of it. I just said, Look, take your time, process it. Expect to go, you know. Come out of this high and come down through this processing, and then you come out the other side of it. Just be gentle with yourself. 70 00:07:21.510 --> 00:07:22.020 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 71 00:07:22.020 --> 00:07:28.049 Polly Hearsey: But I have, you know, for me it's like I I couldn't in all integrity 72 00:07:28.370 --> 00:07:32.240 Polly Hearsey: offer you something that didn't cover all of the bases. 73 00:07:32.240 --> 00:07:32.930 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 74 00:07:32.930 --> 00:07:43.810 Polly Hearsey: Even on, you know, I've scaled it back to just one focus. But I still, you know, I need to give you the information, because if you don't have that, then you've got missing pieces of the puzzle, and you're not gonna do anything with it. So. 75 00:07:43.810 --> 00:07:44.240 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 76 00:07:44.240 --> 00:07:54.380 Polly Hearsey: There there is for us when we're actually designing stuff. There is a bit of a balancing act to go on there, because we we know what we need to do in order to be in integrity with our own values. 77 00:07:54.750 --> 00:07:56.010 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, exactly. 78 00:07:56.010 --> 00:07:59.260 Polly Hearsey: Equally responding to that changing need of. 79 00:07:59.880 --> 00:08:06.060 Polly Hearsey: I need something a little more immediate. I need something very specific. No, I mean. 80 00:08:06.530 --> 00:08:07.360 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 81 00:08:07.490 --> 00:08:18.009 Sarah Santacroce: yeah, what I did also because of the integrity piece. I I well, I've always had that. But I just have a flat fee where people can come again. 82 00:08:18.170 --> 00:08:38.470 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, next round and and often. That's a very much appreciated gesture, because it doesn't mean Oh, you failed, and you didn't, you know, integrate it? But it just gives them more time. And that's often the thing that we don't have in these programs is like, Oh, 5 weeks so much content. 83 00:08:38.470 --> 00:08:55.560 Sarah Santacroce: And then you're like, Oh, exhausted after. So yeah, having this flat fee for past participants has really yeah helped people. I think, also just giving them permission, giving themselves permission. Yeah, I'm going to do this again. And this is this, is that deep. 84 00:08:55.560 --> 00:08:59.670 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. And it's okay. Because every time it's like, when you read a book. 85 00:09:00.200 --> 00:09:20.329 Polly Hearsey: when you read it the 1st time you have, you have particular paragraphs that jump out at you, and then you'll read it again. You think I'm really waiting for that moment, and it doesn't come, but it comes somewhere else, because you're just integrating and processing something else and understanding it. And if I think about my own journey through business because it's what it was 11 years now since 86 00:09:20.846 --> 00:09:22.190 Polly Hearsey: I started my business. 87 00:09:22.490 --> 00:09:25.110 Polly Hearsey: I don't recognize the person I was back then. 88 00:09:25.750 --> 00:09:29.929 Polly Hearsey: but if I go back to what I was talking about. I was talking about the same things. 89 00:09:29.930 --> 00:09:30.820 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 90 00:09:30.820 --> 00:09:36.080 Polly Hearsey: But my understanding of what I was talking about was very different. 91 00:09:36.080 --> 00:09:36.510 Sarah Santacroce: And. 92 00:09:36.510 --> 00:09:46.199 Polly Hearsey: And I knew that I had. In fact, I have a client who's worked with me over a number of years, say to me, and she'd had a break, and she came back and she said, the last program I ran, she said. 93 00:09:47.070 --> 00:09:50.520 Polly Hearsey: you've it's so much more coherent what you offer now. 94 00:09:51.080 --> 00:09:59.299 Polly Hearsey: Yeah, I mean, it feels that way. But it takes time to get there. It's like slow version of slow food version of business, you know. 95 00:09:59.660 --> 00:10:00.380 Polly Hearsey: next time 96 00:10:00.380 --> 00:10:11.299 Polly Hearsey: to build the flavors and to understand the process, and and to really sort of settle yourself into it. And I think that's what we're missing. I think it's also a hint of where we're going. 97 00:10:12.090 --> 00:10:13.589 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, we'll get to that. 98 00:10:14.590 --> 00:10:16.540 Sarah Santacroce: But maybe 99 00:10:16.850 --> 00:10:25.899 Sarah Santacroce: so you're you're seeing these sub stack threads. And you know, listening to clients what they tell you, what do you feel like? Is is 100 00:10:26.320 --> 00:10:37.190 Sarah Santacroce: well, their biggest fear right now. But also, what kind of mistakes are they making because they're in fear? So what kind of business mistakes are they making. 101 00:10:37.190 --> 00:10:44.929 Polly Hearsey: I think one of the biggest mistakes that people are making are trying to persist in being places and doing things that they aren't right for them. 102 00:10:45.080 --> 00:10:45.960 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 103 00:10:45.960 --> 00:10:51.359 Polly Hearsey: And I said at the end of last year that I think social media will really. 104 00:10:51.360 --> 00:10:51.740 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 105 00:10:51.740 --> 00:10:53.939 Polly Hearsey: Have a massive shake up this year. 106 00:10:53.940 --> 00:10:54.770 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 107 00:10:55.410 --> 00:11:04.719 Polly Hearsey: And I do think that you know that sort of like the pressure to be on social media, to be on Tiktok, to be on Instagram to, you know, to have this visual presence. 108 00:11:05.410 --> 00:11:09.939 Polly Hearsey: People are realizing that it's not actually doing them any favors. 109 00:11:10.120 --> 00:11:11.050 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 110 00:11:11.050 --> 00:11:19.060 Polly Hearsey: And where everybody's consciousness is at, it's about depth and precision. 111 00:11:20.004 --> 00:11:23.810 Polly Hearsey: The the wonderful Jess Lorimer says. 112 00:11:24.277 --> 00:11:31.489 Polly Hearsey: An inch wide a mile deep. That's and that's where we're at, not not a mile wide and an inch deep, which is where we've been. 113 00:11:31.490 --> 00:11:33.560 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, all the time. Right? 114 00:11:33.560 --> 00:11:34.690 Polly Hearsey: That depth. 115 00:11:35.010 --> 00:11:43.279 Polly Hearsey: So it's about having deeper conversations, about deeper connection, and that is so hard to achieve in sound bites. 116 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:44.210 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 117 00:11:44.420 --> 00:11:45.220 Polly Hearsey: So when I say. 118 00:11:45.220 --> 00:11:46.089 Sarah Santacroce: Think of bias. We're. 119 00:11:46.090 --> 00:11:47.720 Polly Hearsey: And it's big of the sound bites. 120 00:11:47.720 --> 00:11:55.709 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, we're wanting bite, sized things that we're offering. And yet we want to go deep. 121 00:11:55.710 --> 00:12:04.489 Polly Hearsey: I think the thing is, it's about what is there within you that is going to stop someone in their tracks and make them think. 122 00:12:04.860 --> 00:12:05.650 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 123 00:12:05.650 --> 00:12:15.369 Polly Hearsey: What is something that's really going to land? I was saying something this week in a group that I'm in, I saying there is a difference between visibility and having your content received. 124 00:12:16.600 --> 00:12:30.560 Polly Hearsey: You can be visible. You can be visible to millions of people. But that doesn't mean that content has achieved anything. And I think we have such a moral obligation to make sure that the content that we put out there actually has a meaning 125 00:12:30.830 --> 00:12:36.329 Polly Hearsey: and a value to somebody because it has a cost attached to it. 126 00:12:36.440 --> 00:12:38.500 Polly Hearsey: It has a cost to our planet. 127 00:12:38.790 --> 00:12:39.560 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 128 00:12:39.560 --> 00:12:49.820 Polly Hearsey: And it's a permanent escalating cost, because it goes into data banks that have to be sustained with electricity and water and land. That 129 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:51.670 Polly Hearsey: so, you know. 130 00:12:52.590 --> 00:13:02.750 Polly Hearsey: for me, it's there's a huge amount of integrity about saying, not putting out this very shallow content just because it gets abuse. It's about depth. 131 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:09.610 Polly Hearsey: It's me that is the mistake that people are making, because they're still trying to use the old methods. 132 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:19.610 Polly Hearsey: So my conversation has always has been this year about, flip it, flip the script because you need to be thinking about. What can I do to create 133 00:13:20.040 --> 00:13:26.620 Polly Hearsey: the means for people to engage with me in a way that is actually meaningful for me and for my business. 134 00:13:26.620 --> 00:13:27.010 Sarah Santacroce: I'm. 135 00:13:27.010 --> 00:13:29.770 Polly Hearsey: Full for the people I support. 136 00:13:30.050 --> 00:13:39.709 Polly Hearsey: Yeah, that resonates in the business. Like, we're human book. I ask people to be assumption busters. 137 00:13:39.780 --> 00:14:05.429 Sarah Santacroce: Question all your assumptions that you have about business and social media and marketing, how it should be done, and then do it differently, like. I am so so tired of, you know, going on social media and looking what's out there, and everything is the same. It's like I was trying to break my brain about how to do this book launch, but do it differently. 138 00:14:05.430 --> 00:14:12.980 Sarah Santacroce: and not just follow the same copy and same structure that everybody else is doing. And so I think that's 139 00:14:13.010 --> 00:14:21.660 Sarah Santacroce: yeah. That's part of it. Like, how do we want to do this in a in a more human, engaging way, and not just be about. 140 00:14:22.010 --> 00:14:50.709 Sarah Santacroce: Well, let's just take this example. Not just be about a best selling author on Amazon, or, you know, getting a thousand reviews. What we're really doing is hustling for Bezos, who's taking all the benefit. And and we are just working like slaves to get those reviews. So like, question, all of these things that we have just bought as well. This is just how it is, and this is just how it works. 141 00:14:51.160 --> 00:14:55.430 Polly Hearsey: There is an assumption there, isn't it, that you don't have the power to change that. 142 00:14:55.430 --> 00:14:55.950 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 143 00:14:55.950 --> 00:15:05.900 Polly Hearsey: And that that's something I say all the time is like, don't underestimate your power. If you think about all of the new trends that happen. Someone started them somewhere. 144 00:15:06.355 --> 00:15:06.810 Sarah Santacroce: Yes. 145 00:15:06.810 --> 00:15:11.759 Polly Hearsey: So are you going to be a sheep, or are you going to be a leader? And that? And 146 00:15:11.890 --> 00:15:19.130 Polly Hearsey: when I talk about leadership, I know people sort of tend to go. It's not me. I'm not a leader because we have some really toxic 147 00:15:19.250 --> 00:15:20.250 Polly Hearsey: role models for. 148 00:15:20.250 --> 00:15:21.380 Sarah Santacroce: Leadership. 149 00:15:21.380 --> 00:15:24.390 Polly Hearsey: But there are different leaders coming. 150 00:15:24.390 --> 00:15:24.860 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 151 00:15:24.860 --> 00:15:28.660 Polly Hearsey: Quiet leaders, people who lead from the middle. And 152 00:15:28.980 --> 00:15:32.650 Polly Hearsey: you can have, you can create different ways of doing it. 153 00:15:33.556 --> 00:15:40.280 Polly Hearsey: And it doesn't have to be this sort of like standard standard approach. 154 00:15:40.390 --> 00:15:50.130 Polly Hearsey: And, in fact, the more subtle you are, the more creative you are, the more you're likely to be received because you're thinking, oh, hang on a second. 155 00:15:50.350 --> 00:15:55.519 Polly Hearsey: I didn't think I was being sold to like that. So I did in the program I did recently. 156 00:15:55.730 --> 00:16:03.689 Polly Hearsey: I set them all a task to produce a piece of content based on sort of understanding the the energetics of their business. 157 00:16:04.460 --> 00:16:08.829 Polly Hearsey: and they they produce the most extraordinary things. 158 00:16:09.960 --> 00:16:16.519 Polly Hearsey: And I asked them to share it because I wanted them to see the difference in reaction. 159 00:16:16.690 --> 00:16:20.879 Polly Hearsey: So you might get less of a reaction. But it'll be a deeper reaction. 160 00:16:20.880 --> 00:16:21.310 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 161 00:16:21.310 --> 00:16:30.949 Polly Hearsey: And so they got instant responses from people going. This spoke to me so deeply, and I asked them afterwards, said, Did you feel like you were selling. 162 00:16:31.070 --> 00:16:34.680 Polly Hearsey: and they said no, didn't feel like saying, but you were 163 00:16:35.190 --> 00:16:39.319 Polly Hearsey: still putting it on the table for people and people weren't feeling like they were being sold to. 164 00:16:39.320 --> 00:16:40.020 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 165 00:16:40.020 --> 00:16:46.110 Polly Hearsey: That's rebellious. That is the height of rebellion in a world that's all about. You've got to have conversions. 166 00:16:46.110 --> 00:16:50.020 Sarah Santacroce: Right? Yeah. So so do you feel like, that's 167 00:16:51.150 --> 00:16:57.769 Sarah Santacroce: right. Now, it feels like we're the outsiders. Still right? Do you think that's gonna Flip where. 168 00:16:57.770 --> 00:16:59.919 Polly Hearsey: I think it already has. 169 00:16:59.920 --> 00:17:02.010 Sarah Santacroce: It already has. Hmm. 170 00:17:02.010 --> 00:17:13.869 Polly Hearsey: But I don't think that some people are even aware I mean the last people to know that the change has happened to the people at the top. If you sort of mean, I think it has already changed, because 171 00:17:15.270 --> 00:17:29.110 Polly Hearsey: I mean, I just look at what people are talking about and just go. I've been saying that for 10 years. It's like slightly between gritted teeth. Which? But actually going? Well, if if everybody is now openly talking about that. 172 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:33.509 Polly Hearsey: Then then a change has already happened. 173 00:17:34.540 --> 00:17:35.489 Sarah Santacroce: But I still. 174 00:17:35.490 --> 00:17:38.280 Polly Hearsey: Don't think that people know how to respond to it. 175 00:17:38.280 --> 00:17:42.829 Sarah Santacroce: Okay, yeah. Because what I see is like, when you talk to people 176 00:17:43.180 --> 00:17:46.700 Sarah Santacroce: they are like, yes, agreeing, you know, nodding their heads. 177 00:17:46.890 --> 00:17:49.670 Sarah Santacroce: But then when you see what they're posting. 178 00:17:49.790 --> 00:17:58.500 Sarah Santacroce: they're still adhering to the old rules, maybe because they don't. They don't have the new role models. They don't. 179 00:17:58.500 --> 00:18:14.359 Polly Hearsey: Have the alternative. So that's what that's what you and I are doing. We're providing them with the alternative. So we have to be the walking role models. We have to walk the talk and do it differently. And and that means we also have to be the experimenters. We have to fail a lot. 180 00:18:14.360 --> 00:18:17.720 Sarah Santacroce: Yes. Talk to me about that. Yeah. 181 00:18:17.720 --> 00:18:38.330 Polly Hearsey: And so that brings it. That's an interesting one, because it brings a degree of transparency about the fact that not all business efforts are successful. So this whole narrative that we've all come through in the last 4 years of this instant overnight success. Once I found out how to do XY. Or Z, because it was the missing piece. 182 00:18:38.330 --> 00:18:39.560 Sarah Santacroce: A magic pill. 183 00:18:39.560 --> 00:18:44.450 Polly Hearsey: The magic flipping wand and pill. Yes, it's that doesn't exist. 184 00:18:45.110 --> 00:18:49.029 Polly Hearsey: We we demonstrate that that doesn't exist. 185 00:18:49.480 --> 00:18:52.969 Polly Hearsey: and that actually, the real magic comes from 186 00:18:54.130 --> 00:18:56.910 Polly Hearsey: giving yourself permission to be creative. 187 00:18:56.910 --> 00:18:57.585 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 188 00:18:58.260 --> 00:19:10.650 Polly Hearsey: So that that has been challenging sort of like. Oh, right, I have to have a signature program and a signature talk, and I have to have a lead in, and I have to have an automation, and I have to have a welcome. All of these pieces 189 00:19:10.930 --> 00:19:15.639 Polly Hearsey: coming back to being assumption Busters. Why the hell do you actually need them? 190 00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:15.970 Sarah Santacroce: Nice. 191 00:19:15.970 --> 00:19:20.860 Polly Hearsey: Seriously. Why do you need them? Do you have to have that? You can have something that is paid? 192 00:19:21.190 --> 00:19:25.380 Polly Hearsey: And here's the interesting thing in terms of the buyer behaviours. 193 00:19:25.580 --> 00:19:32.680 Polly Hearsey: People are more likely to give you $5 $10 for something. 194 00:19:33.270 --> 00:19:37.379 Polly Hearsey: and then do something with it than they are to take a freebie. 195 00:19:37.620 --> 00:19:38.219 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm, 196 00:19:38.820 --> 00:19:41.449 Polly Hearsey: So why do you have to produce any free content. 197 00:19:41.450 --> 00:19:42.260 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm! 198 00:19:42.980 --> 00:20:07.109 Sarah Santacroce: That's interesting. I was just thinking about my workbook that goes together with the with the book, and in the 2 previous books I just had it as a free download, and it felt good until I, you know, started to realize. Well, I want to know who's working on these books, and like, you know, and so I was like, well, I'll just add it as a donation. 199 00:20:07.220 --> 00:20:12.380 Polly Hearsey: So that they can give. You know, however much they want, and. 200 00:20:12.670 --> 00:20:22.449 Sarah Santacroce: And I think that's when money feels good, if it's like, yes, I want to, you know, earn something for that. I've put a lot of effort and hours into it. 201 00:20:22.630 --> 00:20:34.440 Sarah Santacroce: But I understand your situation might be different, and you know, just kind of like putting it out there and explaining. I think a lot of what we're doing is explaining how things are. 202 00:20:34.680 --> 00:20:38.810 Sarah Santacroce: so that there is that transparency because. 203 00:20:38.810 --> 00:20:39.190 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. 204 00:20:39.190 --> 00:20:41.150 Sarah Santacroce: People are. So 205 00:20:42.280 --> 00:21:00.709 Sarah Santacroce: you know, everything was so hidden and and opaque that yeah, it just needs that time now to make everything super clear. And yes, that starts with affiliate links. But it also, you know. We talked about AI in our community. It's like, well. 206 00:21:00.710 --> 00:21:17.480 Sarah Santacroce: say, when you're using AI and make that clear. So yeah, all these different things that we do to help people in that transition so that they can gain trust again because they lost all the trust in any kind of message. 207 00:21:18.020 --> 00:21:25.629 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. But I mean coming back to sort of like, your original point of opening this this bit was, you've got to work with the tools that you've got. 208 00:21:25.630 --> 00:21:26.000 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 209 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:31.049 Polly Hearsey: At your disposal right now, but it doesn't mean you have to work with them in the standard ways. 210 00:21:31.310 --> 00:21:31.730 Sarah Santacroce: Right. 211 00:21:31.730 --> 00:21:39.180 Polly Hearsey: So you can rethink those right now and think well, how can I do it? So you know some of the examples I gave in the Newsletter you referenced were. 212 00:21:39.600 --> 00:21:43.190 Polly Hearsey: why have a free substack? Why not just have a paid one? 213 00:21:43.540 --> 00:21:47.950 Polly Hearsey: You know you can use notes, or whatever to sort of like promote it. 214 00:21:48.060 --> 00:21:53.070 Polly Hearsey: You don't have to have a free one. You don't have to run one-to-one mentoring. 215 00:21:53.480 --> 00:22:11.460 Polly Hearsey: But bear in mind that the market doesn't want large groups. So how do you do that? How do you maximize that you can get really creative with the tools that you have and the technology that you have, but you can use it in a different way. So forget about the algorithms on Facebook 216 00:22:11.760 --> 00:22:24.439 Polly Hearsey: and do what feels good to you because it can guarantee that if you do what feels good to you, people will find it and engage with it, and then you'll actually be part of resetting the algorithm. Then, you know, in the short term. So 217 00:22:24.630 --> 00:22:29.929 Polly Hearsey: it it's think, stop stop thinking that you have to operate within the rules. 218 00:22:31.150 --> 00:22:40.199 Polly Hearsey: And my favorite, my favorite tool for business development is blank sheet of paper. What would you create if you didn't have any rules. 219 00:22:40.620 --> 00:22:44.659 Sarah Santacroce: What feels good, and then you might say, Oh, you know what. 220 00:22:45.810 --> 00:22:49.590 Polly Hearsey: That program was. And I did this myself this year. That program I was thinking of running. 221 00:22:49.890 --> 00:22:51.849 Polly Hearsey: I'm going to do it as pay what you want. 222 00:22:52.090 --> 00:22:52.770 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 223 00:22:52.770 --> 00:22:53.700 Polly Hearsey: Why not? 224 00:22:53.920 --> 00:22:59.559 Sarah Santacroce: I mean, that's something you can do. Do not do that if you are dependent on the income. 225 00:22:59.870 --> 00:23:01.100 Sarah Santacroce: Right? Of course. 226 00:23:01.100 --> 00:23:02.940 Polly Hearsey: You've got the flexibility. 227 00:23:03.090 --> 00:23:08.499 Polly Hearsey: Why not see how it lands? See what people give, and people will give a whole spectrum. 228 00:23:09.210 --> 00:23:19.280 Polly Hearsey: You know, and it depends on whether or not they know you, whether or not they know the value of it. What their financial situation is, it makes it more accessible, and that honesty of accessibility 229 00:23:19.770 --> 00:23:23.759 Polly Hearsey: changes the relationship. So have your blank piece of paper. 230 00:23:23.890 --> 00:23:25.150 Polly Hearsey: Think what what can I do? 231 00:23:25.150 --> 00:23:45.379 Sarah Santacroce: I guess it's not easy, like we've been in entrepreneurship for a while, right? And we know that we are in charge. We make all the decisions in our business. But for new entrepreneurs I can. I can totally understand the overwhelm. It would be much easier to have, you know, a 7 step process on how this works. 232 00:23:45.380 --> 00:23:45.710 Polly Hearsey: I mean. 233 00:23:45.710 --> 00:23:47.460 Sarah Santacroce: That's not the time we're in. 234 00:23:47.660 --> 00:24:04.000 Polly Hearsey: No. And the thing is that there's there's 2 groups of people that I see at the moment. There's the new entrepreneurs who are actually basically in a frozen state, because they know that they don't want to proceed down the normal route, but they don't know what else to do. So they do dabble with it, and it burns them, you know. 235 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:04.899 Polly Hearsey: it really hurts. Yeah. 236 00:24:04.900 --> 00:24:10.099 Polly Hearsey: Then there's a group of people who've been through that, and they've got an established business, but 237 00:24:10.750 --> 00:24:12.990 Polly Hearsey: that has burnt them out completely. 238 00:24:12.990 --> 00:24:13.410 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 239 00:24:13.410 --> 00:24:17.300 Polly Hearsey: And they're at the point of hitting hitting the big red button to explode everything. 240 00:24:18.400 --> 00:24:23.480 Polly Hearsey: So yeah, so if you're a new entrepreneur, it's about finding 241 00:24:23.910 --> 00:24:28.899 Polly Hearsey: people who inspire you, and that doesn't have to just be in the business world, you know, if 242 00:24:28.900 --> 00:24:29.490 Polly Hearsey: you know how to. 243 00:24:29.490 --> 00:24:39.129 Polly Hearsey: How do I start my business. How is someone approaching that I've got? A dear friend who has such a gentle approach to her? Instagram? 244 00:24:39.470 --> 00:24:45.450 Polly Hearsey: It's just. It's just so gentle that you wouldn't necessarily know that it was selling. 245 00:24:45.830 --> 00:24:50.090 Polly Hearsey: you know, because she just does it in her own way. 246 00:24:50.770 --> 00:24:52.540 Polly Hearsey: And so I think that's that's 247 00:24:53.740 --> 00:24:56.170 Polly Hearsey: that's the thing is that finding yourself 248 00:24:56.370 --> 00:25:01.550 Polly Hearsey: people who really sort of like just make you. That's a beautiful way to share something. 249 00:25:01.980 --> 00:25:19.189 Polly Hearsey: There's a photographer. I'm so glad that her stuff comes. I like it every day, so that makes sure that I see it on my feed every day. She's just on an Anti AI cruise and photography crusade. Sorry. And so she shares a photo that she's taken every single day, and it's just like. 250 00:25:19.760 --> 00:25:26.370 Polly Hearsey: Oh, my God! She never mentions that you can go and buy this photos from her or anything. It's just. It's so gentle and it's so inspiring 251 00:25:27.540 --> 00:25:28.630 Polly Hearsey: that 252 00:25:29.030 --> 00:25:36.700 Polly Hearsey: it's about the energy that you feel. You think I wanna I want to hold that energy when I'm out there in my business. How would I do that. 253 00:25:36.930 --> 00:25:38.240 Sarah Santacroce: Just. 254 00:25:38.540 --> 00:25:40.170 Polly Hearsey: Throw out the rule book. 255 00:25:40.330 --> 00:25:52.920 Polly Hearsey: throw out all of the reference points of all the people who are telling you exactly how to do it, because that is a very toxic narrative to have in your head really, really toxic. It will keep you stuck. 256 00:25:53.250 --> 00:25:53.960 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm! 257 00:25:55.030 --> 00:26:07.340 Sarah Santacroce: I want to switch to the future now, and maybe hear from you 1st how you envision your work and life in 5 years can't go. 258 00:26:07.340 --> 00:26:07.670 Polly Hearsey: Okay. 259 00:26:07.670 --> 00:26:11.580 Sarah Santacroce: That right now is like, Oh, 5 years already feels really far. 260 00:26:11.580 --> 00:26:14.220 Sarah Santacroce: No, I'm not entirely sure I could get to 5. 261 00:26:15.130 --> 00:26:16.457 Polly Hearsey: To be honest. 262 00:26:17.370 --> 00:26:27.039 Polly Hearsey: okay, I mean, where I see business going is this complete transition? Because we're in a space where we simply cannot continue 263 00:26:27.460 --> 00:26:40.000 Polly Hearsey: down the path that we're on. It is not sustainable from a human point of view, it is not sustainable from an environmental point of view, and it's not even sustainable from the economic point of view. But that is not necessarily being understood. 264 00:26:40.350 --> 00:26:41.450 Polly Hearsey: So 265 00:26:41.800 --> 00:26:55.900 Polly Hearsey: I don't know if you've seen it. But the Uk government has just actually started talking about, how are they going to brighten clouds to reflect more sun? And how are they going to geoengineer the weather that they've actually provided grants for this research. You just go. 266 00:26:57.180 --> 00:27:07.749 Polly Hearsey: This is classic economic model. You just knew it was going to come. People are going to be trying to find. How can they make money out of solving the crisis? 267 00:27:07.750 --> 00:27:08.660 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 268 00:27:08.660 --> 00:27:10.010 Polly Hearsey: Here's the problem 269 00:27:10.740 --> 00:27:31.439 Polly Hearsey: that they're not looking at, or the solution that they're not looking at, and that is that the problems are solved by doing it in a completely different way. We cannot continue to use the economic model that we've got. So in terms of climate change, if we just actually poured all of our resources into restoring the soil, we would make a massive difference in a couple of years. 270 00:27:31.610 --> 00:27:33.210 Polly Hearsey: Huge difference. 271 00:27:33.590 --> 00:27:39.950 Polly Hearsey: And it's not about planting forests and forests and forests. It's about looking at the soil, because that's where most of the carbon goes. 272 00:27:40.550 --> 00:27:48.899 Polly Hearsey: So we have to. So to me the future of business is about returning it, returning the power to the people. 273 00:27:50.100 --> 00:27:57.809 Polly Hearsey: and that starts with believing in yourself and believing in the fact that you have a valid and valuable role in the world 274 00:27:58.100 --> 00:28:03.979 Polly Hearsey: which has been so severely eroded by the societies that we've set up. 275 00:28:05.120 --> 00:28:11.510 Polly Hearsey: So where do I think business is going? I think business is going into a much more diverse 276 00:28:12.750 --> 00:28:21.839 Polly Hearsey: creative process. When I say creative, I don't just mean everyone's going to go into the creative arts. I mean that it's about, who am I as a person? And what do I want to offer the world? 277 00:28:22.240 --> 00:28:28.549 Polly Hearsey: So it's going to become more diverse. It's going to become more creative? And ultimately 278 00:28:30.150 --> 00:28:37.099 Polly Hearsey: is this 5? Is it 10? Is it 20 years down the line? They business is actually going to be part, become part of the ecosystem. 279 00:28:37.610 --> 00:28:41.469 Polly Hearsey: Instead of being in an extractive mode, the economic 280 00:28:41.950 --> 00:28:47.990 Polly Hearsey: norms will have been reshaped. So that actually, we're in a collaborative mode. 281 00:28:49.740 --> 00:29:00.070 Polly Hearsey: That's complex, because there's a whole web of energies that are, you know, they've got existing pathways that is very hard to change, but that, to me is 282 00:29:01.290 --> 00:29:05.470 Polly Hearsey: the higher sort of philosophical philosophical philosopher. 283 00:29:05.650 --> 00:29:10.680 Polly Hearsey: Philosophical direction of travel. 284 00:29:10.940 --> 00:29:11.800 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 285 00:29:11.800 --> 00:29:18.640 Polly Hearsey: Because it's about restoring agency. It's about restoring individual power and restructuring society. 286 00:29:19.650 --> 00:29:21.460 Polly Hearsey: So that's not a 5 year thing. 287 00:29:21.750 --> 00:29:28.589 Polly Hearsey: but in 5 years time I think the expectations of businesses will be completely different. 288 00:29:29.030 --> 00:29:29.850 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 289 00:29:30.750 --> 00:29:31.520 Polly Hearsey: How about you? 290 00:29:31.520 --> 00:29:32.616 Sarah Santacroce: I like that vision. 291 00:29:33.521 --> 00:29:38.240 Sarah Santacroce: I just recently finished reading a book called Stellar, where 292 00:29:38.570 --> 00:29:41.419 Sarah Santacroce: the vision is that we have 293 00:29:41.600 --> 00:29:44.910 Sarah Santacroce: free energy that comes from the sun and the wind. 294 00:29:46.010 --> 00:29:54.810 Sarah Santacroce: and that then changes everything, because once we have free energy that is not extractive, but is regenerative. 295 00:29:55.700 --> 00:29:59.619 Sarah Santacroce: Well, the humans, in a way, it's kind of like you can just relax 296 00:29:59.910 --> 00:30:08.420 Sarah Santacroce: because there is not that need anymore to constantly produce. And, you know, create 297 00:30:08.990 --> 00:30:23.699 Sarah Santacroce: money to pay energy which then creates more crap. And you know, it's like this whole cycle. And so, yeah, I think I think it starts with with, like, you say, a complete systems change. 298 00:30:24.510 --> 00:30:36.330 Sarah Santacroce: I know already what we're already seeing is people don't want to work in in big businesses anymore, where it's just about, you know, climbing the ladder, and 299 00:30:36.430 --> 00:30:53.540 Sarah Santacroce: of course yes, there will. It'll be, I think, for a while there will be 2 worlds, 2 narratives. But eventually yeah, that that will change. And I think, actually like you, I think the power comes from the people. 300 00:30:53.650 --> 00:31:08.590 Sarah Santacroce: And so it's going to be these new leaders with innovative ideas. And yes, technology will help. But it will be with good intentions that we're using these technologies that are available. 301 00:31:08.850 --> 00:31:16.169 Sarah Santacroce: And I think the one the countries, if you think, from a country orientation? I think it's the small countries. 302 00:31:16.320 --> 00:31:21.460 Sarah Santacroce: probably from the global South that will be able to implement this the fastest. 303 00:31:21.750 --> 00:31:22.080 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. 304 00:31:22.080 --> 00:31:26.600 Sarah Santacroce: Because there's not that level of bureaucracy that we have in other countries. 305 00:31:26.600 --> 00:31:43.800 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. And I think that is a really interesting point, because we have these big institutions, you know, the bigger, the more established the economies of a particular country, the more we have these institutions, and so the power is controlled through the institutions. 306 00:31:43.800 --> 00:31:44.150 Sarah Santacroce: Exactly. 307 00:31:44.150 --> 00:31:56.420 Polly Hearsey: What's going to happen when we have more and more people coming into entrepreneurship, more and more people sort of choosing different pathways for their business for their careers, which not necessarily about owning a business 308 00:31:56.700 --> 00:32:01.120 Polly Hearsey: is, you diversify the the ground. 309 00:32:01.340 --> 00:32:08.020 Polly Hearsey: You change people's behavior in terms of how they engage with the businesses that they need in order to live. 310 00:32:08.380 --> 00:32:13.260 Polly Hearsey: and then, all of a sudden, there is nothing underneath those institutions. 311 00:32:13.890 --> 00:32:16.730 Polly Hearsey: and which means that governments don't have the power 312 00:32:17.420 --> 00:32:22.169 Polly Hearsey: to direct things anymore. So it's a very sudden collapse. 313 00:32:22.770 --> 00:32:28.960 Polly Hearsey: But it takes a long time coming, and it takes a lot of belief. So you know, going back to Martha Beck's pyramid in the pool 314 00:32:29.310 --> 00:32:33.019 Polly Hearsey: idea of, you know the changes created from the ground up. 315 00:32:33.660 --> 00:32:38.980 Polly Hearsey: We have to get across the base and work our way up slowly. 316 00:32:39.230 --> 00:33:01.219 Polly Hearsey: So for you and me because we we have to navigate. So you know, probably the conversations we were having with people, and what people were ready to hear 10 years ago, 5 years ago. That's changed. People are ready to hear something different now. So we have to keep advancing the conversation because it moves the the change up a little bit, because already, you know. 317 00:33:01.330 --> 00:33:06.859 Polly Hearsey: I see this all the time. It's like the the ground level where I might have started being, you know 318 00:33:07.340 --> 00:33:09.100 Polly Hearsey: 8 years ago, or whatever. 319 00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:15.739 Polly Hearsey: There's plenty of people there now saying exactly what I was saying back then, so I need to advance the conversation. 320 00:33:15.740 --> 00:33:22.630 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, yeah, that's that's really good. And it reminds me also, when I shortened the the program. 321 00:33:22.770 --> 00:33:34.549 Sarah Santacroce: i 1 of the points I explained in my newsletter, I said. I can with all integrity do that because I feel like I'm picking people up at an advanced, more advanced level. 322 00:33:34.550 --> 00:33:35.150 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. 323 00:33:35.150 --> 00:33:46.970 Sarah Santacroce: Like when I started in 2019, I had to 1st explain, well, what is this? Why are we doing this? And now people are like, sign me up. Yeah, I want to do humane marketing. 324 00:33:46.970 --> 00:33:47.959 Polly Hearsey: The assumptions have already. 325 00:33:48.470 --> 00:33:49.080 Polly Hearsey: Is it. 326 00:33:49.080 --> 00:33:50.020 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, exactly. 327 00:33:50.020 --> 00:34:00.930 Polly Hearsey: People have done the work which they hadn't done. So this is one of the reasons that this year I've been focusing a lot on what I call states of being and understanding those states of being of your audience. 328 00:34:00.930 --> 00:34:01.470 Sarah Santacroce: Because. 329 00:34:01.470 --> 00:34:12.089 Polly Hearsey: There are some who are still need to have it explained, and there are some who are in the process of getting ready, and there are a whole lot lot more people who are ready to do the work 330 00:34:12.090 --> 00:34:12.480 Polly Hearsey: if you talk 331 00:34:12.480 --> 00:34:18.019 Polly Hearsey: the right language to them. So you have to understand where they're at. You also have to understand what the role of your business is. 332 00:34:18.199 --> 00:34:28.780 Polly Hearsey: So because there are educator businesses who have a really important role to play in coming back to. I was saying to you before we started recording, but ecosystems of change. 333 00:34:28.969 --> 00:34:36.889 Polly Hearsey: you have to have people who are educators because it's like. It's asking people to open up and to do that assumption busting. 334 00:34:37.219 --> 00:34:41.320 Polly Hearsey: But you have to have the people who inspire different ways, and you and I fall into that category. 335 00:34:41.480 --> 00:34:43.419 Polly Hearsey: But we also have to have the people who 336 00:34:43.670 --> 00:34:47.609 Polly Hearsey: draw people together, and the people who focus on the actual mechanics of. 337 00:34:47.610 --> 00:34:48.010 Sarah Santacroce: Create. 338 00:34:48.010 --> 00:35:04.489 Polly Hearsey: The new. So we need all of these things, and everybody's business has a different role to play in that cycle. So we need to understand that. But you and I, we fall into that inspiration category. We we do show people how to do it. 339 00:35:04.920 --> 00:35:11.349 Polly Hearsey: But really, our focus is on saying, you want to go. Are you ready to go? Let's go because 340 00:35:11.750 --> 00:35:14.719 Polly Hearsey: you have the answers, and I can show you how to access them. 341 00:35:14.720 --> 00:35:15.180 Sarah Santacroce: That's kind. 342 00:35:15.180 --> 00:35:20.290 Polly Hearsey: What we do. So it's it's the conversation has changed. 343 00:35:20.290 --> 00:35:21.609 Polly Hearsey: Hmm, yeah. 344 00:35:21.610 --> 00:35:24.859 Polly Hearsey: I spent years thinking I am screaming into the void. 345 00:35:25.260 --> 00:35:37.459 Sarah Santacroce: Yes, yeah, in 2,018 that that was my or you know already before. But it's like when I put the 1st book out. It's like crickets, you know. Nobody was. 346 00:35:37.460 --> 00:35:39.870 Polly Hearsey: The collective consciousness was not ready to receive. 347 00:35:40.440 --> 00:35:41.010 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 348 00:35:41.010 --> 00:35:47.379 Polly Hearsey: But the simple act. Here's the thing that I think people must remember the fact that you put that out there 349 00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:49.170 Polly Hearsey: changed 350 00:35:49.680 --> 00:36:06.240 Polly Hearsey: the playing field. It doesn't matter that there were crickets. You change the playing field, so you made it more possible for that conversation to happen, and the words that you put out there. Then I bet they're being reflected back to you now the things that you see other people saying you're going. Oh, hang on a second. I said that. 351 00:36:06.410 --> 00:36:07.929 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. And that's good, you know. 352 00:36:08.181 --> 00:36:09.690 Polly Hearsey: That's what we do it for. 353 00:36:09.690 --> 00:36:11.700 Sarah Santacroce: That's that's what we're here for. Yeah. 354 00:36:11.780 --> 00:36:18.980 Polly Hearsey: So. So we have to remember that even if we get crickets, there's a long term thing. And I say this a lot. 355 00:36:19.240 --> 00:36:25.650 Polly Hearsey: We have been trained to think that there is a direct correlation between the actions that we take and the responses that we get. So 356 00:36:26.060 --> 00:36:28.730 Polly Hearsey: you know, I I put this out, and I've got a bit of hair. 357 00:36:28.840 --> 00:36:33.440 Polly Hearsey: and I put this post out. I get a sale. 358 00:36:33.440 --> 00:36:35.140 Sarah Santacroce: I get sales. Yeah. 359 00:36:35.140 --> 00:36:37.835 Polly Hearsey: Doesn't work like that. And I was 360 00:36:38.500 --> 00:36:51.149 Polly Hearsey: an exercise, I say to people to put put something that you you genuinely believe about, and you believe in and put it out there, and you might get crickets. But then just open your awareness. 360, 361 00:36:51.500 --> 00:37:00.129 Polly Hearsey: and see where the response comes from. Because there you are. You're assuming there's a direct correlation between what I'm saying and the person that I'm talking to. 362 00:37:00.750 --> 00:37:08.009 Polly Hearsey: But actually, what you're doing is putting an energy out into the world. And then, if you're aware of it, some behind you, you're going to get a response. 363 00:37:08.630 --> 00:37:09.000 Sarah Santacroce: So, yeah. 364 00:37:09.000 --> 00:37:14.680 Polly Hearsey: So stop thinking. That's the other thing that we stop thinking about this direct causation. 365 00:37:15.469 --> 00:37:22.280 Polly Hearsey: It isn't a direct causation, it is. It is about the energy we put out, and then the energy that we receive. 366 00:37:23.010 --> 00:37:31.509 Sarah Santacroce: And so the problem with that is that we're being taught well, if you put something out there and nobody responds, then. 367 00:37:31.510 --> 00:37:32.000 Polly Hearsey: Failed. 368 00:37:32.000 --> 00:37:48.830 Sarah Santacroce: It's failed, and, you know, move on to the next thing. And meanwhile there's all this, you know, movement going on underneath the surface that you're not seeing. And so you know, people ask next year, what about your program? You're not doing that anymore. So. 369 00:37:48.830 --> 00:37:55.252 Polly Hearsey: So, and there there's if you agrees. The the 370 00:37:56.350 --> 00:37:58.200 Polly Hearsey: An analogy I use 371 00:37:58.520 --> 00:38:04.899 Polly Hearsey: is that if you if you look particularly spring now, if you look at this, there's a riot of growth going on. 372 00:38:05.260 --> 00:38:11.909 Polly Hearsey: Where does that growth start? It starts in the soil. Can you see it? No. 373 00:38:11.910 --> 00:38:12.630 Sarah Santacroce: No. 374 00:38:12.840 --> 00:38:14.010 Polly Hearsey: It's happening. 375 00:38:14.420 --> 00:38:22.450 Polly Hearsey: So we have. So there's a lot of trust. So and you and I have been through that. We've been through this sort of thing, feeling like we're talking 376 00:38:22.650 --> 00:38:29.639 Polly Hearsey: to nothing, you know, we're not getting a response. But actually, we've just been fertilizing the ground. 377 00:38:30.290 --> 00:38:30.940 Sarah Santacroce: No. 378 00:38:31.195 --> 00:38:33.490 Polly Hearsey: But we have to keep on doing that because. 379 00:38:33.490 --> 00:38:34.420 Sarah Santacroce: Keep on doing that. 380 00:38:34.420 --> 00:38:43.040 Polly Hearsey: Our part, you know, there's a lot of people who will then come in and work that. But we for us, it's about setting the expectations. 381 00:38:43.040 --> 00:38:43.560 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 382 00:38:43.560 --> 00:38:49.709 Polly Hearsey: What does it actually mean? Because about probably about 4 years ago, I noticed this big shift 383 00:38:50.420 --> 00:39:04.969 Polly Hearsey: in the way that some of the really big businesses, you know, the multi 7 figure businesses were talking and the language that they were using. And then I looked at what they were doing, and they were doing exactly the same thing, but they shifted their language. 384 00:39:04.970 --> 00:39:05.390 Sarah Santacroce: And. 385 00:39:05.390 --> 00:39:19.930 Polly Hearsey: It's more than that. It's not about just shifting your language. It's about shifting your expectations. It's about upholding your values. It's about listening to yourself in a different way, and giving yourself a different set of permissions to do things. 386 00:39:20.570 --> 00:39:21.740 Polly Hearsey: So he's. 387 00:39:21.740 --> 00:39:29.169 Sarah Santacroce: And that's what you said at the beginning. It's like people can smell that a mile away, right when it's just lipstick on a pig. 388 00:39:29.450 --> 00:39:39.520 Polly Hearsey: And yeah, and your business. It's what happens behind the scenes in your business and beyond the public gaze. That is as important as what you put out there publicly. 389 00:39:40.175 --> 00:39:40.830 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. 390 00:39:40.830 --> 00:39:45.649 Polly Hearsey: There can be an absolute, you know, businesses that are car crash behind the scenes 391 00:39:46.620 --> 00:39:58.600 Polly Hearsey: that it helps no one. So you do the work on yourself, on how you hold your business, and how you conduct your business. You do that in order to build something that is resilient. 392 00:39:58.730 --> 00:40:05.230 Polly Hearsey: and that would be my. The one thing I would say to people is that if you want to have a business in the future. 393 00:40:05.530 --> 00:40:08.610 Polly Hearsey: you better then well, focus on your resilience. 394 00:40:08.610 --> 00:40:09.080 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm, okay. 395 00:40:09.080 --> 00:40:17.290 Polly Hearsey: I don't mean your economic resilience, I mean your energetic, your values-based resilience. Now. 396 00:40:17.290 --> 00:40:18.060 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 397 00:40:18.060 --> 00:40:18.540 Polly Hearsey: Cause it. 398 00:40:18.540 --> 00:40:22.309 Sarah Santacroce: I was just gonna ask you, kind of as a closing question, like. 399 00:40:22.420 --> 00:40:29.779 Sarah Santacroce: what kind of questions do you think leaders, entrepreneurs should ask themselves. 400 00:40:29.950 --> 00:40:34.648 Sarah Santacroce: either themselves or or about their business, just like what are the. 401 00:40:35.040 --> 00:40:41.589 Polly Hearsey: The number. One thing that I come, I tell people to do, and I and you cannot do it too many times. 402 00:40:42.100 --> 00:40:49.839 Polly Hearsey: You can do it every month if you want to, every week, if you want to, is, ask yourself what are my values, and how am I upholding them? 403 00:40:49.840 --> 00:40:50.510 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 404 00:40:50.510 --> 00:40:59.699 Polly Hearsey: And that means looking at the fine print of your terms and conditions as much as it means. How am I showing up. 405 00:41:01.320 --> 00:41:07.169 Polly Hearsey: Where is the integrity in that? Where is the integrity with my values? 406 00:41:07.740 --> 00:41:09.790 Polly Hearsey: Because your values come from within. 407 00:41:10.820 --> 00:41:16.449 Polly Hearsey: and the more that you are focused on your values, the more you are challenging and busting assumptions. 408 00:41:16.770 --> 00:41:23.830 Polly Hearsey: and the more you are opening up the landscape for your business to thrive in the future. 409 00:41:24.250 --> 00:41:25.060 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm! 410 00:41:25.420 --> 00:41:26.470 Sarah Santacroce: Beautiful. 411 00:41:26.950 --> 00:41:30.390 Sarah Santacroce: Well, I think we have a lot of hope for. 412 00:41:30.390 --> 00:41:30.860 Polly Hearsey: And do we do. 413 00:41:31.180 --> 00:41:38.011 Sarah Santacroce: Business of the future. I do. You do so. We'll just keep showing up. 414 00:41:38.500 --> 00:41:41.360 Polly Hearsey: I say, business has caused a lot of the problems. 415 00:41:41.510 --> 00:41:43.550 Polly Hearsey: It can also be the solution. 416 00:41:43.550 --> 00:41:46.469 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah, yeah, I really believe that it's. 417 00:41:46.470 --> 00:41:46.950 Polly Hearsey: Yeah. 418 00:41:46.950 --> 00:41:52.739 Sarah Santacroce: It's not the institutions, it's not the governments. It's the humans behind the businesses. Right? 419 00:41:52.740 --> 00:41:54.450 Sarah Santacroce: Yeah. Yep, yeah. 420 00:41:54.450 --> 00:41:56.510 Polly Hearsey: And that's going to be the thing that changes everything. 421 00:41:56.510 --> 00:41:57.450 Sarah Santacroce: Hmm. 422 00:41:58.239 --> 00:42:07.350 Sarah Santacroce: thank you, Polly, as always wonderful. Please do share where people can find out more about you, and sign up to your newsletter, etcetera. 423 00:42:07.350 --> 00:42:14.259 Polly Hearsey: Yeah, you can head over to my website, which is just polyhecy.co.uk, and and follow the breadcrumbs from there. 424 00:42:15.560 --> 00:42:19.259 Sarah Santacroce: Wonderful. Yeah. And let's let's do it again, sometime. 425 00:42:19.260 --> 00:42:20.250 Polly Hearsey: I'd love to. 426 00:42:20.756 --> 00:42:21.770 Sarah Santacroce: Thank you. 427 00:42:21.770 --> 00:42:22.370 Polly Hearsey: Thank you. 428 00:42:22.580 --> 00:42:23.240 Sarah Santacroce: Bye.  

In this quiet yet piercing episode, Mae explores how our social selves, shaped by culture and conditioning, often lead us to adjust, strive, and “be good”—at the cost of being real. Drawing on Cory Muscara's insight and Martha Beck's concept of the essential self, Mae unpacks how performance—even in spiritual practice—can subtly sabotage our presence. What remains when we let all that go?Mae YoshikawaMae Yoshikawa is the creator of the Kizuki Journaling MAE Y method™, a powerful tool for self-awareness and transformation. A pioneer in wellness and personal development, Mae was the first Japanese woman authorized by the founding school of Ashtanga Yoga in India in 2006. Her work bridges Eastern and Western traditions, shaped by profound life experiences—including the loss of her mother, the sudden passing of her husband, and her ongoing journey as a mother to two sons. Mae's upcoming books share her path of healing and becoming, and her online community, MAE Y, continues to support a growing circle of those on their path of inner growth. She has served as a global ambassador for adidas since 2015.Kizuki Journaling Website: KizukiJournaling.comPersonal Website: https://maey.live/Instagram: ⁠@maeyoshikawa

What if anxiety isn't just a condition—what if it's your culture? This week, I sit down with Dr. Martha Beck, and we get real about something that most of us don't even realize we're living with every day: anxiety. Not just the clinical kind—but the kind that's been baked into our lives from childhood, from trauma, from a society that rewards burnout and worships productivity. I brought Martha on because I've been doing this work on myself. I've been noticing how I've lived in a near-constant state of stress, and the truth is, a lot of you are probably wired the same way. Martha breaks down how anxiety forms, how it's normalized in our environment, and why it thrives in our left brain—the part obsessed with control and fear. She explains how we mistake anxiety for productivity, and how our bodies carry the toll of it for decades. But here's what blew me away: she shows us how the antidote isn't force, but curiosity. That if you can activate that right side of the brain, the part that tracks instead of panics, the part that seeks instead of flees, you can start living from peace—and still be successful. We walked through her Perfect Day visualization technique, talked about accessing creativity through calm, and why kindness—especially toward yourself—is the true starting line for transformation. Not the kind of kindness that coddles you, but the kind that treats your anxious self like a scared horse: steady, soothing, safe. And you'll hear what happened when I applied these tools myself. I've been sharper, more productive, and less exhausted. That's real. This episode isn't just theory—it's a playbook. I want you to be able to say, “I am meant to live in peace.” And believe it. Because it's not either peace or productivity—you can have both. You were never meant to grind your way to worth. You were built for joy, creativity, and ease. Let's start giving ourselves permission to return to that. Key Takeaways: How anxiety becomes “normal” through trauma and culture The difference between fear and anxiety—and why it matters Why choosing peace doesn't mean sacrificing success Tools like the “Perfect Day” and “Sanity Quilt” to reconnect with purpose The role of curiosity in calming anxiety and boosting creativity How to talk to yourself like a frightened horse—and why it works This one's going to stick with you. Share it with someone who needs peace today. Max out.  

Martha Beck is a sociologist, life coach, speaker, and also a New York Times Bestselling author many times over. She holds Bachelor's, Master's and PhD degrees from Harvard, where she also taught Sociology, Social Psychology, Organizational Behavior, and Business Management. Martha has been featured on Oprah and Good Morning America, and has published several New York Times International Bestsellers including Finding Your Own North Star, The Joy Diet, and Expecting Adam.Her newest books are Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity and Finding Your Life's Purpose, and The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, which explores why integrity - being in harmony with ourselves - is the key to a meaningful and joyful life.Follow To Dine For:Official Website: ToDineForTV.comFacebook: Facebook.com/ToDineForTVInstagram: @ToDineForTVTwitter: @KateSullivanTVEmail: ToDineForTV@gmail.com Thank You to our Sponsors!American National InsuranceWairau River WinesFollow Our Guest:Official Site: MarthaBeck.comFacebook: Martha BeckInstagram: @TheMarthaBeckFollow The Restaurant:Official Website: The Original Pancake House - Scottsdale, AZ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SYNOPSIS:This is a recording of one of our free, live Eventbrite sessions, where Ali Mezey was joined by Jane Peterson, PhD - and you, our audience - for a live, honest, body-centered conversation about the real work of being in relationship.(Yes, this episode includes live audience questions!)Together, we explore how our bodies carry old relational patterns - what Jane calls the "social soma" - and how these hidden imprints can shape the way we love, fight, and stay (or don't stay) connected.We talk about why love alone isn't always enough to align two people's lives, and why asking deeper, more honest questions early on matters so much.Jane shares practical ways to stay close even when life pulls you in different directions: evolving agreements, repairing after hurt, setting shared goals, and building intimacy that grows with you.We touch on marriage, infidelity, and non-traditional relationships with honesty and warmth, offering grounded advice for navigating real-world love.Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, this conversation will leave you with new ways to understand yourself, your relationships, and the deep intelligence of your body in all of it.To be an angel to the podcast, click hereTo read more about the podcast, click hereMORE ALI MEZEY:Website:  www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:www.alimezey.com/personal-geometry-foundationsTransgenerational Healing Films: www.constellationarts.comMORE JANE PETERSON:Website: www.human-systems-institute.comContact: humansystemsinstitute@gmail.comBIO:Jane Peterson, PhD, is the co-founder and executive director of the Human Systems Institute, Inc. She is the originator of Somatic Imaging and the somatic-resonance approach to constellation work. Her work is internationally respected for being tailored to meet the high learning demands of adult professionals. She was a faculty member at the International Intensive Workshop on Systemic Resolutions in Bernreid, Germany for 9 years. Jane is an INFOSYON certified Master Trainer and has served as an advisor and author for the Knowing Field journal. She has taught systemic constellation work in Asia, South America, South Africa, Mexico, Canada, Europe, and the U.S.In 2005, she organized the first U.S. Conference in constellation work. Her Institute offers trainings in Somatic Imaging and systemic constellation work, including training in organizational constellations. The institute is currently offering it's seventeenth year of training programs.Jane started her professional career as an engineer and manager in a high tech firm (the first woman engineer hired into her department) and knows first-hand the demands placed on leaders in the corporate environment. In the course of becoming a constellation facilitator, she has also been a professional ceramic sculptor and ran her own fine arts studio, Laughing Bones, Inc.Jane is a master practitioner of Neuro-linguistic Programming, a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, a Certified Professional Behavioral Coach and a member of the American Counseling Association, VOIS, OHA, and ODN. She has studied Process Oriented Psychology with Arny Mindell and Max Schupbach, Group Dynamics with Michael Grinder, Peruvian energy healing with Don Amèrico Yàbar, Attachment and Trauma work with Dan Siegel and Diane Poole Heller, a Psycho-biological Approach to Couples Therapy with Stan Tatkin (Level 2), Coordinated Management of Meaning with Barnett Pearce, and continues to learn with other research-driven leaders in the fields of personal and social evolution. She holds a doctorate in Human and Organizational Systems from Fielding Graduate University, and has been a post-doctoral fellow of the Institute for Social Innovation.OTHER RESOURCES, LINKS AND INSPIRATIONS:Essential Skills for CouplesAdapting Systemic Constellations to OrganizationsHuman-Systems-InstituteBurt Hellinger: “caring for desire”Elaine Debutant: compatibility is actually an achievement of love, not a precondition.”SOCIAL SOMA - our body is shaped by our social relationshipsLALAGE SNOW:  We Are the Not Dead - photographerStan Tatkin - safety in relationship = taking care of each other. The Social BiomeTerry Real - The Social EcosystemEsther Perel: Mating in CaptivityArny Mindell, Sitting in the Fire: Large Group Transformation Using Conflict  and DiversityScience of TouchingEllyn Bader, the Initiator/Inquirer processStan Tatkin, In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through ThemTerry Real,

Dr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a bestselling author, coach, and speaker who has spent a lifetime delivering powerful, practical, and entertaining insights to help people transform their lives. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Today on the show, we discuss: the quickest way to reduce anxiety, the key differences between fear and anxiety, how to use your body to calm your mind, how our modern lifestyle exacerbates anxiety, daily habits to help you rewire your brain, why journaling is so powerful for healing, and much more. ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to health and mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your health or mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you've consumed. If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately. If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help: Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Martha Beck's concept of the anxiety spiral and creativity spiral resonate with Edwin Friedman's definition of a non-anxious leader. Here's how.Show Notes:Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity and Finding Your Life's Purpose by Martha BeckA Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin FriedmanBecome a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago—long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. I've shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I'm telling you my full breakup story—not just for the sake of storytelling, but to offer you insights into what healing really looks like, especially after a hard breakup. Tune in for a vulnerable chat + breakup advice.You will learn how to... - reclaim your identity after a toxic or codependent relationship - navigate the grey areas in relationships: where healing and hurt coexist - find strength in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you - embrace self-love through the pain of a breakup Remember: Healing is not about erasing the past—it's about choosing how to carry it forward. And—hint hint—this episode gives you a big clue about the location of my next self-love retreat… Join the retreat priority list to get early access to all the details! Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... Martha Beck on The Mel Robbins Podcast

The Author Events Series presents Maria Shriver | I Am Maria  REGISTER In Conversation with Dr. Martha Beck  Special Guests: Bob Roth & Kate Baer Please join us in celebrating Maria Shriver's I Am Maria: My Reflections and Poems on Heartbreak, Healing, and Finding Your Way Home. A book like no other, I Am Maria weaves Shriver's hard-earned wisdom with her own deeply personal poetry. I Am Maria reminds readers there is strength and love on the other side of all of our hardest days. Maria will be joined in conversation by Martha Beck, and the evening will feature meditation, music, and intimate discussions about life's defining moments-the heartbreaks that shape us, the healing that transforms us, and the journey back to ourselves. Drawing from her own life experiences, I Am Maria tells the story of how Maria emerged from heartbreak and uncertainty-universal moments in every life lived fully-with renewed clarity and strength. The poems in this collection speak to timeless themes of love, loss, longing, and healing, offering readers a comforting reminder that hope can be found even after the most difficult moments. Maria's legacy is built on social impact, deep empathy, and a profound understanding of human connection. Through her leadership, activism, and media presence, she continues to inspire and uplift others. Now, with the release of I Am Maria, she offers these deeply personal poems as a guide for those navigating their own life journeys. Through her intimate reflections, Maria invites readers to shed self-criticism, embrace every part of themselves, and discover the profound healing that comes with forgiveness and self-compassion. The book encourages readers to rediscover poetry as a tool for self-exploration, paving the way to uncover a deeper version of themselves. Maria Shriver is a mother and grandmother, a Peabody and Emmy Award-winning journalist and producer. She is the author of seven New York Times bestselling books, the former First Lady of California, an NBC News Special Anchor, founder of Shriver Media, The Women's Alzheimer's Movement, co-founder of the brain health brand MOSH, and the publisher of The Open Field. When she's not thinking or writing, she can be found hanging with her kids and grandkids. Dr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a bestselling author, coach, and speaker. She has spent a lifetime offering powerful, practical, and entertaining teachings that help people improve every aspect of their lives. Oprah Winfrey has called her ''one of the smartest women I know.'' The founder of Wayfinder Life Coach Training, Martha is a passionate and engaging speaker, and her teachings are very popular for their unique blend of science, spirituality, and humor.  The 2024/25 Author Events Series is presented by Comcast. Because you love Author Events, please make a donation when you register for this event to ensure that this series continues to inspire Philadelphians. All tickets come with a copy of the book! All tickets are non-refundable. (recorded 4/2/2025)

Just hearing the word "anxiety" can be enough to make you feel it. If you're someone who's struggled with chronic anxiety, panic attacks, or simply feeling safe in a world that seems far from it, this is a podcast for YOU. Here, Tami Simon speaks with renowned life coach and bestselling author Dr. Martha Beck about her new book, Beyond Anxiety. Enjoy this empowering conversation filled with science-backed techniques and spiritual insights to take a creative, whole-brain approach to freeing yourself from anxiety.  Tami and Martha discuss why anxiety can't just be ended—it must be replaced; the neurology of creativity; the left brain anxiety spiral and the negativity bias; the link between the right brain and our sense of purpose and meaning; the metaphor of the puppies and the cobra; the futility of trying to control the environment; the amygdala and the metaphor of the hall of mirrors; lovingkindness meditation; the power of a calm human voice and how to be an "anxiety whisperer" for yourself; self-care (including sleep!); HSPs (or highly sensitive people); the money excuse; the story of Griffin the therapy dog: a lesson on questioning our fears; the shift from fear to joy; the eureka effect and how the right brain "loves an impasse"; appreciation of the present moment; the mnemonic device, "KAT": kindness, art, and transcendence; and more. Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

They were living like roommates. Then she had an affair. Is this marriage salvageable? (Does she want it to be?)In this episode of Ask Sharon, I'm taking you inside my membership program with a real-live conversation with my client, Elsa*.We talk about - How to ask the ‘right' questions to make better decisionsThe difference between money problems… and dramaWhat to do if you're financially dependent on your marriageYou'll also hear an embarrassing secret from me and the first lesson I learned from Martha Beck.If you feel stuck trying to make the ‘impossible' decision to leave your marriage or stay… this episode might illuminate the problem.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Tickets Christmas Show Today I have a gift for all women. Five stories that have transformed my life told by the world's greatest thought leaders Martha Beck, Mel Robbins, Gabby Bernstein, Dr Shefali and Dr Mindy Pelz. This podcast is my gift to you as I take the opportunity to celebrate all women today, whether you are a mother or not. I hope you feel something inside you shift as you listen to these stories that have truly changed my life. Thank you Electrosal Dr Mindy Pelz Martha Beck Mel Robbins Gabby Bernstein Dr Shefali

We had so much fun recording a very fancy in person episode with THE Martha Beck and Rowan Mangan! How 'bout those production values?Don't forget Amie's new book, We Need Your Art is out now in Hardcover, Audio, and E-bookIn today's episode we discuss:The amazing power of creativity to banish anxietyHow art and community building creates ripples that extend far beyond our personal practice and help the whole worldWhy society is so afraid of art and artists And so much more!If you want more chats from Rowan and Martha, you can listen to them on the hilarious and wise Bewildered podcast. You can also follow Bewildered on Instagram.We will be dropping by Bewildered soon so make sure you're following them to get the Amie and James episode!Martha is on Instagram @themarthabeckAnd Rowan at @rowanmanganIf you want to dive deeper into all things Martha Beck, you can check out her linktree, but you should really read her new book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose! We absolutely loved it.

Today we explore the emotional toll of practicing medicine in a healthcare system that often feels like it's working against us. Many physicians are feeling burnt out, unheard, and disrespected.  If you feel exhausted by the weight of it all, this conversation is for you. This episode covers: Acknowledgment of the widespread sense of betrayal in healthcare Practical strategies for mindful resilience and emotional regulation Tools to set boundaries without guilt How to advocate for change without depleting yourself We also introduce Perpetual Creative Response, a concept from Martha Beck that can help you navigate uncertainty with curiosity instead of fear.  You can't fix everything, but you can protect your energy and choose where to make an impact.   We close today's episode with a guided breathing practice to help you shift from overwhelm to clarity. Dr. Liang teaches Breath Awareness: Notice the inhale, exhale, and the pauses in between 4-7-8 Breath Pursed Lip Breath: Inhale deeply, exhale as if blowing out birthday candles Whenever you feel stress or uncertainty creeping in, take a moment to breathe. Even one mindful breath can reset your nervous system.     If this episode resonates with you, consider taking the next step in prioritizing yourself and your well-being.  Retreats at Nicasio Creek Farm – Immerse yourself in a supportive space for rest, renewal, and connection. 1:1 Coaching & Leadership Development – 1:1 and small group coaching to help you create sustainable success in medicine. Speaking & Advocacy – Book a keynote or workshop to bring mindfulness, leadership, and well-being strategies to your organization. Mindful Yoga for Healers – Free weekly classes designed to help you regulate stress and find calm. Please also share it with a friend or colleague. Healthcare is in crisis, but together, we can reclaim our peace and power.   www.awakenbreath.org  www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking *Nothing shared in the Mindful Healers Podcast is medical advice.   #physicianwellness #mindfulnesscoach #physiciancoach  

Martha Beck, a New York Times bestselling author and world-renowned life coach, explores the connection between anxiety, creativity, and living in alignment with your true self. Learn how lying affects the body, why so many people feel disconnected from their purpose, and how small changes can transform your life. OUR GUESTDr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and an Oprah's Book Club selection. Her next book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose, will be out on January 7, 2025.MARTHA BECK

On this episode of Nobody Told Me!, we are beyond honored to welcome the legendary Martha Beck—one of the most influential thought leaders of our time. A Harvard-trained sociologist, New York Times bestselling author, and the woman Oprah Winfrey calls her ‘life coach,' Martha has helped millions of people around the world break free from fear, self-doubt, and societal expectations to create lives of radical authenticity. Her book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, became an instant bestseller and was named Oprah's Book of the Year. As the founder of the Wayfinder Life Coach Training Program, she has redefined what it means to be a coach, mentor, and guide for those seeking clarity and purpose. You can learn more about her groundbreaking work at marthabeck.com.

We talk a lot about self-care, but there aren't enough bubble baths in the world to make us feel better about the news lately. Federal employees are losing their jobs. RFK is against anti-depressants and ADHD medication. Elon Musk is giving press conferences in the Oval Office. Everything feels terrifying, and for good reason.So maybe manicures and bubble baths aren't the self-care we really need. (Although of course we love both!) Maybe the self-care we need is quieter. More compassionate. More creative. More about community.This week, we were honored to talk to author, sociologist, and life coach Martha Beck. Her latest book is “Beyond Anxiety” and who among us couldn't use some tips for getting beyond anxiety these days? She tells us about how we can counter the “anxiety spiral” with a “creativity spiral” and how community is the most powerful and intrinsic part of humanity.Martha talked Amanda and Katie Paris through their own anxieties and gave us so much wisdom that will definitely help us get through the next four years. We hope you get as much out of the conversation as we did.This is the last official interview of The Suburban Women Problem, but we'd love to hear from you about what the podcast has meant to you. We'll read those listener notes on our final episode on March 5th!For a transcript of this episode, please email theswppod@redwine.blue. You can learn more about us at www.redwine.blue or follow us on social media! Twitter: @TheSWPpod and @RedWineBlueUSA Instagram: @RedWineBlueUSA Facebook: @RedWineBlueUSA YouTube: @RedWineBlueUSA

In today's episode, you'll learn a process to figure out what you really want, design a life you love, and find your purpose. If you feel stuck, lost, or unsure about what's next, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools you've been searching for. This is your roadmap for creating the life you want. For two decades, Mel has followed the work of Dr. Martha Beck from afar. She is the #1 life coach in the world and her teachings have inspired Mel every single step of her own journey. In this episode, for the very first time, Mel and Dr. Beck are sitting down to give you the coaching session of a lifetime.  Dr. Beck is here to give you the breakthrough you've been waiting for and the wisdom you've been craving. Using her own powerful comeback story of strength and resilience , she'll inspire you to step into your purpose and create a bold, authentic life that's fully aligned with who you are and what you truly want.For more resources, including links to Dr. Martha Beck's research, website, and social media, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked this research-packed episode, your next listen should be this episode: If You Struggle With Stress & Anxiety, This Will Change Your Life Connect with Mel: Get Mel's new book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ on Apple Podcasts to listen to ad-free new episodes Disclaimer

Surprising Way to Overcome Trauma, Stop Anxiety, and Finally Heal! Dr. Martha Beck, Ph.D, a Harvard-educated sociologist, NYT bestselling author & Oprah's life coach is the leading authority on personal growth, resolving childhood trauma and fixing anxiety. Dr. Beck uncovers the link between stress and disease and provides practical tools and strategies to fix anxiety, overcome illness, and unlock your hidden power. Her cutting-edge techniques with foundations in CBT, somatic experiencing, sociology, and psychology to help you BREAK FREE to live your authentic life! She also explains How Trauma Hijacks Your Body (including how your body can distinguish between old trauma & new experiences, and what you can do to heal it), the Physical Dangers of Lying (Spoiler Alert: Your muscles literally weaken when you're not honest!), and How to Heal Spiraling Anxiety - why creativity is the key to calming your mind & boosting your mental health! Dr. Beck also breaks down:- Her near-death experience & how she harnesses the feelings of love and happiness she experienced – anytime, anywhere- Her incredible psychic experiences, including her mind-blowing “remote viewing” abilities- Surprising connection between healing trauma and increasing your intuition Don't miss this chance to transform your life with powerful insights & practical tips to get in touch with your body and heal TODAY! Dr. Martha Beck's latest book, BEYOND ANXIETY: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose: https://marthabeck.com/beyond-anxiety/ BialikBreakdown.comYouTube.com/mayimbialik

How can you turn anxiety into real joy? Martha Beck, NYT bestselling author, life coach, and Harvard-trained sociologist is back to share the lessons from her newest book, Beyond Anxiety. She shares how to use your imagination to reduce your anxiety, how to tap into your creative genius, how to find your purpose, and how being messy can lead you to magic. - There's still time to join our 21 Day Challenge! Sign up at cathyheller.com/newyear - Get Martha's new book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose https://marthabeck.com/beyond-anxiety/ - Follow Martha on Instagram @themarthabeck - Thanks Zocdoc! Go to Zocdoc.com/DREAMJOB to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. - Thanks Miracle Made! Claim your Free 3-piece towel set and save over 40% at Trymiracle.com/DREAMJOB and use code DREAMJOB

375. How to Stop Worrying with Martha Beck Martha Beck shares more on how to lessen anxiety's grip by coaching Amanda, Abby and Glennon out of their anxiety spirals. Discover:  -How to uncover the heart of your deepest fear -How to tell whether something is truly enlightening or dangerously false -The surprising power of living in a state of “I don't know” Dr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and an Oprah's Book Club selection. Her new book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose, is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

374. Life Beyond Anxiety with Martha Beck Martha Beck, bestselling author and life coach, returns to discuss anxiety including actionable strategies for quelling it and achieving a state of calm. This episode is part one of two. Come back next time, to hear Martha coach Amanda, Abby and Glennon out of an anxiety spiral.  Discover:  -The one powerful question to ask yourself to start breaking free from anxiety -Martha's surprising take on the antidote to anxiety -The biggest lie anxiety tells us—and how to uncover the truth -Why nature, creativity, and your senses hold the key to calm Dr. Martha Beck, PhD, is a New York Times bestselling author, coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller and an Oprah's Book Club selection. Her new book, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose, is available now. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices