Podcast appearances and mentions of Martha Beck

Resources: Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW & get access to our Reflection Ritual PDF & Pathway Discount Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge Now Live! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Beam - Visit https://shopbeam.com/TBM and use code TBM to get our exclusive discount of up to 30% off. Osea - 10% off with MAGNETIC10Undaria Algae™ Body OilUndaria Algae™ Body ButterDream Night CreamHoliday Sets In This Episode We Talk About:The spiritual aftermath of losing a soulmateReceiving and interpreting signs from the other sideClaircognizance, clairvoyance, and intuitive abilitiesHow grief can open the channel to deeper consciousnessThe 34 human senses beyond the traditional fiveMediumship and neuroscience: bridging the seen and unseenThe thin veil during eclipse portals and ancestral presenceHow trauma reshapes intuition and the bodyBeauty and neuroaesthetics as tools for emotional healingCultural suppression of ancestral and spirit workLacy's live mediumship in channeling Dr. Tara Swart's late husband, RobinReclaiming ancient spiritual practices in modern lifeSigns of connection through numbers, animals, and synchronicitiesExploring low latent inhibition and altered statesHonoring grief without losing connection to love Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 275 - The Science & Spirituality of Manifestation with Dr. TaraExpanded x Ep. 99: Dr. Tara Swart on Neuroplasticity and ManifestationPre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Lacy's Substack! - By Candlelight - Join HereFind our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Worst Case Scenario DI, Safe DI, and Regulate DI)  Connect with Dr. TaraFollow Dr. Tara on IG at /www.instagram.com/drtaraswartOrder her book The Signs  Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

What if everything goes right? What if we looked to the future with excitement and joy?In this ultra-expansive conversation, Libby DeLana invites us into her wildly magnetic life shaped by daily walking, attention, and playing at the edges. Wise expander and author of This Morning Walk and Cold Joy, Libby has modeled for iconic brands, manifested deeply aligned relationships, and continues to manifest beyond her wildest dreams—even in her 60s. Together, Jessica and Libby explore moving beyond identity loops, aging as expansion, and finding magic and tenderness in the present. Libby reminds us to follow joy, stay curious, and embrace new experiences with grounded regulation—whether through cold plunges or setting down our rigid, limiting beliefs. This conversation offers gentle permission to step toward what feels alive, one small step at a time.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour! NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW & get access to our Reflection Ritual PDF & Pathway Discount Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge --Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In This Episode We Talk About:The evolution of Libby's identity shift and allowing new possibilitiesThe practice of walking as a meditative and grounding ritualNaming and befriending inner “critical voices”The concept of a “beta season” — trying, failing, experimentingHow cold exposure changed limiting beliefs and invited radical presenceSafety, community, and shared vulnerability in cold water practicePresence as a portal: how the cold water “doesn't negotiate with ego”Recognizing abundance in energy, time, love, not just financesReframing aging as a life affirming and joyful experienceThe interplay of surrender and magnetism in manifestationCelebrating what has emerged without guilt over what hasn'tWhat authentic abundance is really aboutAdvice for those feeling stuck, invisible, or fearful of becoming more themselves Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 185 - Why Motion Can Help You Feel Your Emotions with Libby DeLanaPre-order Cold Joy - releasing Oct 14!Pre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Worst Case Scenario DI, Safe DI, and Regulate DI)  Connect with LibbyFollow Libby DeLana on IGPre-order Cold Joy - releasing Oct 14!Learn more about Libby's cold plunges at ThisColdJoy.comThis Morning Walk on SubstackListen to This Morning Walk podcast Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

How would it feel if you decided—just for a moment—to let the universe hold you and guide you? Do you feel peace and release? Or anxiety and panic? If it's the latter, you're likely struggling with fear of letting go, being hyper-focused on outcomes, or needing to ground into safety. This episode is here to remind you that surrender may be your medicine. In this round table discussion, Lacy, Jessica, and Janelle dive deep into one of the hardest but most transformative parts of manifestation: surrender. They unpack what surrender really means—beyond the vague “just let go”—and how it shows up in our bodies, our relationships, and our manifestation process. From identifying ego attachments and timelines, to navigating envy and resentment, to following joy pings as a portal to alignment, this episode is both expansive and grounding. If you've ever wondered how to release control, this conversation will change how you see surrender forever. It's not about giving up. It's about opening more space to dance with the universe. Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW & get access to our Reflection Ritual PDF & Pathway Discount Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge -- Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Sundays for Dogs - 40% off with code TBMGet 40% off your first order of Sundays. Go to sundaysfordogs.com/TBM or use code TBM at checkout. Beam - Beam is offering a limited-time deal just for TBM listeners: you can get up to 30% off your first order when you go to shopbeam.com/TBM and use code TBM at checkout. In This Episode We Talk About:Breaking down the etymology and deeper meaning of “surrender”The difference between surrendering and quitting/giving upHow ego attachments create resistance in manifestationOver-controlling patterns: gripping, impatience, entitlementMoving from fight-or-flight into the “wise owl brain” through regulationThe role of grief and ego death in true surrenderHow resentment and envy can block manifestation and magnetismThe subtle ways denial masks itself as surrenderSomatic cues: how the body reveals if you've truly let goWhy envy often points to areas we haven't given ourselves permission to haveJoy pings as divine guidance—creative acts that restore magnetism Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 371 - How to Reframe Jealousy and Step Into Your Power with Elise Loehnen Expanded x Ep. 370 - Rewriting Your Patterns: How to Handle Tests with Self-WorthExpanded x Ep. 318 -  Speeding up Your Manifestations in the New Paradigm with Jenna ZoeRead Gabor Maté's book: When the Body Says NoEp. 216 - Dr. Gabor Maté on Trauma, Authenticity & HealingRead Lacy's Substack - By Candlelight - Join HereJessica's YouTube!Pre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Worst Case Scenario DI, Safe DI, and Regulate DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Feasting… author Martha Beck tells us that feasting has three essential elements: celebration, nourishment and gratitude. That's what we talk about today in this final episode of the book, and of this 2024 spring season.Thank you for your good company as we close out this review of this informative guide into joy in the everyday!Feel free to share your thoughts with me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. I'd love to hear how your work has gone, and how you are onboarding, or playing with, these ten daily practices. Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.“What Comes From Spirit,” by Richard WagameseMy friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLive life joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Annmarie reminds us to make space for compassion, grace, and love, and how this can change our relationships and approach to conflict, drama, and life. Annmarie Chereso is a conscious relationship coach, speaker and author of the #1 International Best Seller Anthology, The Perfectly Imperfect Family and the children book Little Seeds Journey. She is devoted to helping women lead empowered, fulfilling lives from the inside out. With over two decades of experience, she blends deep wisdom with practical tools to help women break generational patterns, navigate conflict with clarity, and reconnect with their true self. Known for her playful and heart-centered approach, Annmarie serves as a compassionate guide—supporting women in building relationships rooted in love, trust, and freedom. Her mission is to help women let go of conditioned beliefs, embody unconditional love, and step into their full potential. Annmarie has supported thousands around the globe through courses, coaching, speaking, workshops, and retreats. She has trained with master teachers including Jon Kabat-Zinn, Jack Kornfield, Thich Nhat Hanh, Daniel Rechtschaffen, Susan Kaiser Greenland, Martha Beck, and The Conscious Leadership Group. Living her teachings, Annmarie resides in Chicago with her husband, where they joyfully navigate life with their beautifully blended family of nine—a living testament to her work in cultivating harmony and conscious connection. Resources:Website: annmariechereso.meInstagram: @annmariecheresoWhat's Fueling Conflict in Your Relationship? Take her FREE quiz now and start your path to clarity and connection. https://annmariechereso.me/quiz-v1/

What if the fear of falling short is the very thing keeping you from your own greatness?In this vulnerable episode, Elizabeth Enders, host of The Wellness Process Podcast, gets real about her journey through rock-bottom moments—chronic health struggles, a challenging breakup, and a deep-rooted fear of staying stuck. She shares how, through the TBM work, she was able to move through a relationship ending and failed podcast to manifesting her dream partner and launching her most soul-aligned and successful business yet.Elizabeth opens up about what it really takes to connect with your authentic self: energetic clearing, daily rituals, and manifesting not just external wins but true emotional freedom. Her story is a powerful reminder that the inner work ripples into every area of your life, and that living from your authentic essence is the fastest road to your dreams.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources:Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW & get access to our Reflection Ritual PDF & Pathway Discount Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge --Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are atJoin the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Kettle & Fire - For a limited-time, you can get a free carton of Kettle & Fire bone broth by going to KettleAndFire.com/TBMBeef Bone BrothChicken Bone Broth Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETICInfrared PEMF MatThe BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I've seen on the market! Use code MAGNETIC at checkout for 15% off. us.boncharge.com/MAGNETIC Act + Acre - 25% off with code TBM25Act+Acre Daily Hydro™ Hydration System In This Episode We Talk About:Growing up highly sensitive and feeling misunderstoodHow Elizabeth navigated a major rock bottom during 2020How trying to control outcomes was blocking her manifestationsCrafted a clear, heart-led partner list that aligned her energy for true loveHow Elizabeth faced and unpacked the deep fear of being “mediocre” in love and careerHow micro-morning rituals build magnetic self-worthHow nervous system regulation helped stop overthinking and spiralingThe shift from dating to fill a void vs. dating from wholenessImportance of claiming space for your own timeline—even when it's nonlinear Mentioned In the Episode: Listen to Elizabeth Endres episode featuring Jessica! 69. How to Be Magnetic and Manifest Your Deepest Desires with Jessica GillLearn more about Nichole SachsJessica's YouTube!Hero's JourneyPre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill)Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Clear Your Aura DI, Safe DI, and Regulate DI) Connect with Elizabeth!Connect with Elizabeth on IG @elizaendListen to The Wellness ProcessFollow the podcast @thewellnessprocesspod Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!NYC AUSTIN LA Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Connection! This is the chapter where I really feel like the rubber hits the road. We see how the practices support us in our relationship with ourselves, and then we can apply these skills to our relationships in the bigger world. That's what we cover in this next to final chapter in the book.Feel free to share your thoughts with me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. I'd love to hear how your work is going as we meander through these daily practices.Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.Brené Brown on shame and vulnerabilityThe anatomy of a conversationThe Five Love Languages, by Gary ChapmanMy friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Do you love the fall or dread it? A fan of clipboards, colour coding, and to-do lists? Or would you rather stay in the freedom of flip-flops and summertime hammocks all year round? Fall is here, bringing crisp weather and a grounding energy to our days. In this episode, Tania Brightman and Geneva Robins chat about returning to routines and the energetic shifts this season can bring to your spiritual life. Returning to Self-care SchedulesThe change in the seasons can bring a massive shift in the energy and tempo of our lives. Sometimes this can have a rushing and unsettling quality to it as you go from the slow flow of summer to a flurry of managing new schedules and time demands.Within this shift of energy, you can also establish a steady structure that allows you to return to regular sleep and meal schedules, bringing a nourishing frequency to your days. The gift of this season, even if you're now a fan of chilly weather, is that in the change of one routine pattern to another, you get an opportunity to craft your routines to bring a different kind of balance.This is an excellent time to start a new habit or routine that helps you thrive. We're fans of meditation here, as it can totally shift your mindset in only a few minutes. But really, it can be anything that helps you feel grounded and happy.Try this Grounding Meditation to help settle your energy. Or read the book Beyond Anxiety by Martha Beck to learn tools you can put in your routine to calm the anxiousness that change can create.The Magic of Being in the InbetweenThe shift of seasons creates a magical moment where we are in between two states of living. That mid-point moment of the equinox is a time when it can be remarkably easy to manifest new experiences. Anytime we are in limbo, we are actually in a space of pure creative potential. When everything is in flux, it is all moving and free.Energy is being mobilized right now, and we can use that powerful cycle in nature to create a wave of positive change in our lives and in the world. Try the Manifesting Miracles Meditation to access the law of attraction energy that helps bring miracles into your life.Expand your Learning ModeThe fall season also brings a pull to learning. Even if it has been many years since you've been in a classroom, the benefits of lifelong learning are profound. This season is a prime time to put your thinking cap on and learn something new that excites you. Even a few hours on Wikipedia can get you started learning and finding things that might interest you.You can also learn Reiki here at LunaHolistic if you are interested in learning more about self-healing and meditation. Check out our Level I course, which helps you build a solid self-care routine. Courses start seasonally, so check out our Upcoming Courses page to see when the next one is happening.

Where are you giving your power away—and how can you take it back? In this powerful solo episode, our very own Jessica Gill explores one of the most foundational themes in manifestation: maintaining self-worth in the in-between. She explores why self-doubt often shows up as the “final boss” before your next level, how the uncomfortable middle ground is actually preparing you to hold the new, and the small ways you can build confidence by showing up for yourself daily. From unblocking hidden fears of unlikability to shifting perfectionism into self-compassion, this conversation will remind you that your power and magic have been with you all along, and even the most challenging moments serve as an initiation to meet them.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge Now Live! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Red Light Neck and Chest Mask Seed - Use MAGNETIC20 at checkout for 20% off your first month@seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic Beam - Beam is offering a limited-time deal just for TBM listeners: you can get up to 30% off your first order when you go to shopbeam.com/TBM and use code TBM at checkout. In This Episode We Talk About:Understanding the energetic power of empowerment and confidenceHow placing desires on a pedestal blocks manifestationThe importance of showing up for yourselfJessica's real-time unblocking around fear of being unlikeableNavigating the in-between: the most fertile ground for self-growthWhy your manifestations might be delayed (and what to do)Viewing burnout as a call for aligned self-nourishmentHow to align action with your authentic self, not your egoRecognizing when you're at the threshold of a big manifestationLetting go of perfectionism and fear of judgmentTransforming imposter syndrome into deep self-trustHow small habits signal readiness for big manifestationsWhat your fears are trying to teach you before your breakthroughUsing intuition over perfectionism in the TBM process Mentioned In the Episode: Listen to Elizabeth Endres episode featuring Jessica! 69. How to Be Magnetic and Manifest Your Deepest Desires with Jessica GillExpanded x Ep. 302  How to Overcome The Perfectionism Block & Shift Your Internal Dialogue: The Process with AsyaExpanded x Ep. 116 - Surrendering to Your Unique Process - The Process with Asya RoseJessica's YouTube!Hero's JourneyPre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Tests DI, and Regulate DI)  Connect with Jessica!@JessicaashleygillJessica's new YouTube! HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast is the top manifestation podcast hosted by Lacy Phillips, founder of To Be Magnetic, and co-hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer, Jessica Gill. Rooted in TBM's Neural Manifestation™ process, the show blends neuroscience, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics with a touch of spirituality to help you manifest and step into your most authentic self. Each episode features TBM teachings, community stories, and tools to reprogram the subconscious, heal your inner child, and reclaim your worth. We explore astrology, human design, internal family systems, and more to shift your energetic blueprint. Past guests include leading voices like Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Laughter! That's the focus of today's meander, as we explore the third last chapter in Martha Beck's book, “The Joy Diet: 10 daily practices for a happier life.” We visit a laughter yoga class from 2023 on Australia's sunshine coast and hear from two laughter yoga teachers about the benefits of such a thing. There's good science behind it too, that Beck explores in the book. I hope you'll have a read of that, and explore her invitation to increase your quotient of laughs per day.Feel free to share your thoughts with me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. I'd love to hear how your work is going as we meander through these daily practices.Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.Laughter Yoga, edited, care of ABC Australia, Laughter Yoga InternationalBaby laughter, child laughter, royalty free, with thanksMy friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

COMPARISON: FRIEND OR FOE? In this week's episode of the Jewellers Academy Podcast, host Anna Campbell sits down with writer, storyteller, and trauma-informed artist and educator Heidi Hinda Chadwick to tackle a challenge every creative and entrepreneur faces: comparison. They explore the double-edged sword of comparison in the age of social media — how it can fuel inspiration, but also leave us feeling “not enough.” Anna and Heidi share personal stories and practical tools to help you shift your perspective and keep your creativity alive. IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL DISCOVER: Why comparison is so powerful in today's hyper-connected world, and how to know when it's serving you versus when it's draining you. How to use jealousy as a “treasure map” to uncover what you really want in your creative or business journey. The three P's of self-sabotage (perfectionism, people-pleasing, procrastination) and how to move beyond them. Simple practices to re-centre your confidence and joy. Why there's no single path to success, and how collaboration and community can replace competition. How to ground yourself in your own growth and celebrate progress, instead of relying on external validation. This conversation is a reminder that while comparison is inevitable, it doesn't have to hold you back. Instead, it can inspire, motivate, and reconnect you with your unique strengths — helping you build a creative practice and business that truly reflects you. FULL OF OURSELVES PODCAST If you enjoyed this conversation, check out the Full of Ourselves podcast for women in business, co-hosted by Anna and Heidi. Now in its third season, it covers topics including: Self-sabotage The hustle myth Overcoming the fear of mistakes Toxic productivity Handling criticism Managing your money mindset

You're ready to leave old narratives behind—but what comes next? How do we truly break those deep-rooted cycles?In this empowering episode, Jessica sits down with author, podcaster, and spiritual thoughtleader Elise Loehnen, whose latest workbook, Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness, guides us through that “what now?” space. They explore how envy and expansion are connected, why we're never truly alone when struggling with cultural programming, and how to truly release the stories that hold us back. Sharing their own experiences with external validation, fear of lack, and the need for control, they offer a roadmap to rewrite the scripts of perfection, scarcity, and performance, move from awareness to embodiment, reclaim your power, and trust your inner knowing. Overachievers, entrepreneurs, perfectionists, manifestors, and manifesting generators—this episode is sure to empower and inspire you.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge --Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month)New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity ExerciseBe an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Osea - 10% off with MAGNETIC10Undaria Algae Body ButterUndaria Algae Body OilOcean Wave Cleanser Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In This Episode We Talk About:How cultural narratives—not just childhood—shape limiting beliefsReplacing subconscious scripts like “I'm the only one who can do it right”The importance of somatic awareness and emotional processingHow envy, pride, and scarcity affect women's visibility and powerHow to dismantle control patterns around work and relationshipsRewiring narratives tied to approval, safety, and self-worthExpander theory in action: from competition to collective empowermentWhy resting and receiving feel unsafe for high-performing womenIntegrating masculine and feminine energies for wholenessCreating space for vulnerability and owning disowned partsThe role of women, femininity, and equality in shaping a new cultural paradigm Mentioned In the Episode: Read On Our Best Behavior by Elise LoehnenRead Choosing Wholeness over Goodness by Elise LoehnenListen to Pulling the Thread with Elise LoehnenRead True and False Magic: A Tools Workbook by Phil Stutz and Elise LoehnenPre-Order HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Tests DI, and Regulate DI)  Connect with Elise!Connect with Elise on IG @eliseloehnenCheck out Elise's substack Pulling the ThreadListen to Pulling the Thread with Elise LoehnenRead On Our Best Behavior by Elise LoehnenRead Choosing Wholeness over Goodness by Elise Loehnen HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast is the top manifestation podcast hosted by Lacy Phillips, founder of To Be Magnetic, and co-hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer, Jessica Gill. Rooted in TBM's Neural Manifestation™ process, the show blends neuroscience, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics with a touch of spirituality to help you manifest and step into your most authentic self. Each episode features TBM teachings, community stories, and tools to reprogram the subconscious, heal your inner child, and reclaim your worth. We explore astrology, human design, internal family systems, and more to shift your energetic blueprint. Past guests include leading voices like Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

In this chapter on play, I feel like I have really “shown my work.” I liked this chapter, and the invitation to make all that you do in your life feel like play. The exercises are great, and I walk through my answer to what my real career actually is, and if I am living into that in my every day. Sneak peek: I am! Feel free to share your thoughts with me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. I'd love to hear how your work is going as we meander through these daily practices.Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Do you ever feel like you're great at supporting others but struggle when it comes to prioritising yourself and your own business? You're not alone, and there are things you can do. This week on the Jewellers Academy podcast, Jessica Rose chats with our part-time Community Manager Anna Campbell. Anna is a former psychology lecturer and author of the brand new book Good Girl Rebellion: Build the Business, Break the Rules, Be Limitless, about how women who identify with the ‘good girl' personality can grow businesses that align with who they really are without burning out or trying to force themselves into a model that doesn't fit.   Anna shares insights from her new book, including her REBEL methodology:   RESILIENT MINDSET - Clear away overwhelm, indecision and fear of criticism and start building confidence and growth. Mindset is the foundation of how we feel and how we build a business so it is a crucial step EVERYDAY ACTION – Finding ways to get things done that actually work for you because you likely are great at prioritising everyone else but you and your business always ends up at the bottom of the list.  BOLD MARKETING – At every stage of your business, particularly at the beginning, bold marketing is the key to your success. But stepping into the spotlight and learning to receive doesn't always come naturally so this section of the book is all about how to do this. EMPOWERED PRICING – Change your money mindset, stop undercharging and show up for yourself and your business. This is all about tackling internalised beliefs around money and charging fairly. LIBERATING RESULTS – Creating long-term change through small, manageable shifts.   In this episode, Jess and Anna explore why so many creatives and entrepreneurs struggle with self-prioritization, and how we can break free from people-pleasing patterns to build businesses rooted in integrity, confidence, and self-care. If you've ever found traditional business advice overwhelming or anxiety-inducing, this episode offers a gentler, more compassionate approach - one that helps you embrace who you are while still expecting more from yourself. Support Anna If you've been following Jewellers Academy for a while you will recognise Anna. She has worked with Jessica Rose and her businesses since 2012. She teaches on our Diploma in Silver Metal Clay and has filmed a number of jewellery making and business courses with us. A key part of growing the Jewellery Business Bootcamp and the Jewellery Business Academy. We want to support her in ensuring her book is a bestseller. The Good Girl Rebellion is available worldwide on Kindle and in paperback, launching on 2nd September 2025. Pick up your copy on release day to help it hit bestseller status! And if you are listening to this episode after 2nd September, the book is out now and is a must-read.   https://www.goodgirlrebellion.com/ggr-book   About Anna Campbell   Anna Campbell is the founder of The Good Girl Rebellion, leading a powerful cultural shift: dismantling the ‘good girl' conditioning that keeps women small, and replacing it with bold, values-led leadership in business and beyond. With over a decade of experience empowering women entrepreneurs, Anna specialises in mindset, pricing, visibility and self-leadership, guiding women to claim their worth and lead with integrity. Her work is backed by real-world results: she was the first hire at a startup that scaled from zero to seven figures and over 30 staff. Rising from Marketing Coordinator to senior leadership, Anna gained hands-on insight into every stage of building a profitable, purpose-driven business. Anna trained as an Associate Certified Coach (International Coaching Federation) with Martha Beck and brings a unique blend of academic and practical expertise to her work. As a former psychology lecturer at a London university, she combines deep psychological expertise with transformative coaching tools to support women to rewrite their internal narratives and reshape their external realities. Her book, Good Girl Rebellion (Rethink Press, September 2025), is a fierce rallying cry for women to stop shrinking and start shaping their own rules of success. A magnetic speaker and media contributor, Anna has been featured on BBC Radio, 5 Live, STV, The Scotsman, Huffington Post and the Daily Record, and is the co-creator of the Full of Ourselves podcast, home to raw, unfiltered conversations about courage, visibility, and building businesses that last. With a signature aesthetic, clear digital voice, and a growing global community, Anna's platforms are a beacon for women ready to break free from perfectionism, people-pleasing and playing small. Her work is more than coaching, it's rebellion, revolution, and a return to self.   https://www.goodgirlrebellion.com/ Instagram @annaccampbell

Are you being tested? Life is full of those frustrating moments—an unexpected bill, a toxic job dynamic, or an unaligned romantic suitor. This episode is your pick-me-up on how to navigate tests and what they really mean in manifestation terms. Lacy and Jessica share that tests aren't here to punish us—they're here to show if we're truly ready for what we're calling in. Each test reflects our subconscious self-worth, asking us to notice old patterns and choose differently this time. Through live channelings, grounded insights, and real-time examples, they walk you through the TBM approach to moving through life's tests with clarity and power. Because your manifestations are already orbiting, and every test is the universe knocking to see if you're ready to receive it.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge -- Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month)New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity ExerciseBe an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Beam - Beam is offering a limited-time deal just for TBM listeners: you can get up to 30% off your first order when you go to shopbeam.com/TBM and use code TBM at checkout. Act + Acre - 25% off with code TBM25 In This Episode We Talk About:Tests are growth checkpoints, not punishmentThe universe matches your subconscious self-worth, not your conscious desires“A test is just the universe knocking to see what you want to receive” —Lacy PhillipsTests highlight inner looping—patterns you're ready to outgrowIf you don't pass a test, it will lovingly return until you're readyExpansion is the key to making new choices aligned with your highest selfReframe “failing” a test as simply showing where more work is neededUse the TBM protocol: Pause, Reframe, ReviewExternal frustrations often mirror subconscious beliefsInterruptions can be tests or reminders—like Lacy's parenting moment mid-episodeNot all patterns can be unblocked alone—therapy (like EMDR) may be neededThe difference between standing up for yourself and walking away depends on your past patternDon't put tests on a pedestal—stay grounded in your intuitionThe collective shift through 2027 is creating space for new structures and ways of beingTBM's book launch is breaking conventional structures—mirroring the energy of the episode Mentioned In the Episode: Monthly Check-inAuthenticity ChallengeExpanded x Ep. 368 - How to Manifest Ease When a Magic Dark Swoops InExpanded x Ep. 197 - EXPLAINED Divorce and Relationships w. LMFT Janelle NelsonFind our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Tests DI, and Regulate DI)  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast is the top manifestation podcast hosted by Lacy Phillips, founder of To Be Magnetic, and co-hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer, Jessica Gill. Rooted in TBM's Neural Manifestation™ process, the show blends neuroscience, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics with a touch of spirituality to help you manifest and step into your most authentic self. Each episode features TBM teachings, community stories, and tools to reprogram the subconscious, heal your inner child, and reclaim your worth. We explore astrology, human design, internal family systems, and more to shift your energetic blueprint. Past guests include leading voices like Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

What if your dream life was on the other side of the fear of being “cringe?”In this expansive Process episode, Jessica sits down with TBM community member Alexandria to explore what it looks like to manifest from alignment when everything familiar falls away. From starting out as a fitness influencer to becoming a retreat host and conscious creator, Alexandria shares how she moved through the fear of being seen, reconnected with her inner child, and followed intuitive pings that led her to quit her job, heal old wounds, and sell out her first retreat—all without a perfect plan in place.Together, they dive deep into the power of expanders, the role of vision holders, the energetics of desperation, and why honoring your nervous system is the key to your most aligned, magnetic life.**Trigger warning: Discussion of alcoholism and parental loss at 19:07 through 23:54Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge - Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are atJoin the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETICRed Light Face Mask In This Episode We Talk About:How Alexandria discovered TBM through a synchronistic podcast episodeThe emotional toll of silencing her voice after leaving the fitness influencer worldThe pivotal moment she received an intuitive ping to quit her jobThe role of vision holders and the importance of expanders in transformationHealing grief and self-worth wounds through inner child connectionShifting from desperation to trust during career transitionsHow to know when it's time to take a leap (even without a full safety net)Why rest is a radical act of alignment in hyper-productive cultureHow personal dreams and micro-manifestations fuel greater magnetismShedding external validation in favor of soul-aligned expressionThe year of stripping away inauthenticity to reveal essence Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 329 - How to Be Authentic in Every Room and Find Your PurposeExpanded x Ep. 287 - You Can't Rush Your Manifestations: The Energetics of DesperationFind our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Inner Child DI, Conflict DI, and Reset DI) Connect with Alexandria!Alexandria on IG HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast is the top manifestation podcast hosted by Lacy Phillips, founder of To Be Magnetic, and co-hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer, Jessica Gill. Rooted in TBM's Neural Manifestation™ process, the show blends neuroscience, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics with a touch of spirituality to help you manifest and step into your most authentic self. Each episode features TBM teachings, community stories, and tools to reprogram the subconscious, heal your inner child, and reclaim your worth. We explore astrology, human design, internal family systems, and more to shift your energetic blueprint. Past guests include leading voices like Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

In this episode, I dive into the concept of the “Empty Elevator,” a metaphor I first came across in Martha Beck's Steering by Starlight. Here's the truth: sometimes our relationships, friendships, and connections reach their natural end. The season has passed, but we cling on out of fear. Fear of being alone, fear of letting someone down, or fear of what comes next. I share how the elevator metaphor helps us see that in order to welcome new people, opportunities, and connections into our lives, we need to make space by letting others off. That pause in between, the ride to the next floor, can feel lonely, but it's also the fertile in-between space where growth happens. I also talk about: The difference between “reason, season, and lifetime” relationships. Why social media has made clean endings messier (and sometimes more painful). How releasing what's no longer serving you creates space for aligned people to arrive. The surprising way old friends can circle back when the timing's right. If you're in the messy middle of shifting friendships or feeling the sting of letting go, this episode is a reminder that you're just between floors and the doors will open again. Find out more about Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com For exclusive content, including a private solo podcast, join Suzanne's Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/suzanneculberg Enjoy my podcast? You'll love my emails, sign up here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/newsletter Join Networking without Schmooze with Laura & Suze, Register here - https://networkingwithoutschmooze.substack.com/ Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach podcast? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach Contact Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/contact  

When the world feels like it's burning, some people retreat. Mandana Dayani builds. In this episode, Danielle sits down with the powerhouse behind I Am A Voter and Archewell, attorney, entrepreneur, and activist Mandana Dayani—a woman whose story spans war zones, boardrooms, and the front lines of cultural change. From escaping post-revolution Iran to advising the White House, launching viral civic movements, and leading Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's media and philanthropic company Archwell, Mandana shares the moments that shaped her and the values that keep her grounded, outspoken, and unshakably hopeful. Mandana shares: The childhood escape from Iran that shaped everything The guilt that became her fuel Why she left a “perfect” persona behind to tell the truth What it really took to launch I Am A Voter + why she'll never stop The heartbreak of October 7th and what it revealed about her community How she built Our Campus United and The OCU Chronicle in response to rising antisemitism Why integrity is her personal compass and the question she asks herself every night Her experience working with Meghan & Harry—and what storytelling means at scale The power of reinvention, especially when you're already at the top And why she believes optimism isn't naive—it's necessary Follow Mandana on Instagram @mandanadayaniBook Recommendation:  The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck.  Learn more about her work at www.mandanadayani.com 

Treats! Everyone loves treats... and they can be a crucial tool in supporting you in the joy diet. They can help offset the inner challenge of taking a risk, and they can reinforce good habits.I hope you enjoy this meander as I share some of the things that I think of as "treats." It's more than chocolate and pizza, I can assure you! I hope you'll take some time to consider what a treat means to you. Beck calls treats things that make you smile, so what's your list? Feel free to share your thoughts with me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com.Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.The iconic song, "My Favourite Things" from the epic movie "The Sound of Music" is used here with great thanks to Julie Andrews and Fox Family Entertainment.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

What if those old blocks resurfacing were simply the universe clearing the cobwebs for your next level?In Expanded's seventh anniversary reflection, Lacy and Jessica pull back the curtain on life after the Money Challenge—sharing candid updates, emotional shifts, and the deep initiations they've navigated. Together, they explore how manifestation isn't always about striving for more, but often about slowing down, feeling deeply, and reclaiming your authentic rhythm.If you're in a season of uncertainty, frustration, or stagnation, this episode will remind you: nothing's wrong with you. You're simply being prepared to hold a more aligned reality.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month!Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge -- Now Live! The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now - to get full access to our 2025 Money Challenge and join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Red Light Neck and Chest Mask Kajabi - Try Kajabi all-in-one business platform free for 30 days with TBM link!  In This Episode We Talk About:The evolution of the Expanded Podcast over seven yearsHow astrology and retrogrades are contributing to deep emotional shiftsReflections on the energetic high of the Money Challenge and what followedMagic darks as invitations to deeper levels of surrenderJournaling as a cathartic tool for integrationImportance of feeling emotions over forcing outcomesRedefining abundance through presence and natureAI as a tool to understand authenticity and purposeListening to body-based pings and intuitive signalsShifting your relationship with digital platformsInner child awareness and not letting it lead decisionsTBM's team rhythm and planning around energetic cycles Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 318 - Speeding Up Your Manifestations in the New Paradigm with Jenna ZoeAlign: The Human Design App with Jenna ZoeExpanded x Ep. 206 - EXPLAINED Aligned Action with Dr. Tara SwartExpanded x Ep. 275 - The Science & Spirituality of Manifestation with Dr. TaraThe HerbalistIS Clinical Warming Honey CleanserJessica's ChatGPT Personal Brand prompt Check out Lacy's Substack! - By Candlelight - Join HereFind our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Feel Your Feelings DI, Self-Love DI, and Reset DI)  HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Coming October 21st!Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast is the top manifestation podcast hosted by Lacy Phillips, founder of To Be Magnetic, and co-hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer, Jessica Gill. Rooted in TBM's Neural Manifestation™ process, the show blends neuroscience, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics with a touch of spirituality to help you manifest and step into your most authentic self. Each episode features TBM teachings, community stories, and tools to reprogram the subconscious, heal your inner child, and reclaim your worth. We explore astrology, human design, internal family systems, and more to shift your energetic blueprint. Past guests include leading voices like Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

As the saying goes, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Risk is the pathway through something that you fear, which paradoxically, helps you grow. Risk is a skill you can practice, and this chapter helps you find your way through. I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to:  meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.Comfortable Hiking HolidaysZion National Park, Angel's LandingZion National Park, The Narrows on the Virgin RiverMy friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

The Motherkind team will be taking a short break this August to enjoy some time off over the summer. Over the next four weeks, we'll be re-releasing some of the most downloaded episodes in 2025 - Enjoy! *** Trigger warning: termination, suicide. Please be mindful of this before hitting play*** If you feel stuck, anxious, or unsure of yourself, this episode is going to grab you by the hand and show you the way through. Today's guest, Martha Beck, is a Harvard-trained sociologist, a multiple New York Times best-selling author, and is famously Oprah Winfrey's life coach. In this incredibly special episode, Martha reveals how motherhood was the catalyst that changed her life, what most parenting advice gets completely wrong, and why following your own rules is the only way to feel happier. Martha is full of wisdom, and you can't help but feel joy when you hear her speak - this is an episode not to be missed. Get your free 3 days of 5-minute Motherkind here  - 21 days to reset your energy, mood and mindset. Click Here to order your copy of 'Motherkind: A New Way to Thrive in a World of Endless Expectations' Motherkind is sponsored by Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women's supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply. For a £100 sponsored job credit, visit Indeed.com/ Motherkind Get 40% off a Calm premium subscription at calm.com/motherkind Continue the Conversation: Join our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day - @zoeblaskey Join our mailing list to receive news, updates and new episode releases Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Martha Beck's Lonely Hearts ClubJump To AD-FREE SAFE HOUSE EDITIONEpisode 368 tells the tragicomic tale of a romantic and business partnership that goes awry when a woman's jealousy overpowers her professional detachment. It's also a love story of a passion so profound that they take their love all the way to the electric chair.Hear More BLUEBEARD StoriesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-crime-historian--2909311/support.

Is your nervous system keeping you stuck in old patterns and narratives? Josh Trent welcomes Sarah Baldwin, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 763, to reveal how we “time travel” through our autonomic nervous system, reacting to past experiences instead of living in the present, and how we can regulate our nervous system, heal generational wounds, and create deep, authentic connection by loving our parts into wholeness.

Creativity is this week's focus in chapter 4 of “The Joy Diet.” I found this chapter really helpful and I encourage you to grab a pen and a piece of paper so you too can work through the exercises she offers. She doesn't as much talk about creativity as much as invite you into a few practices that help you explore yours, in relation to the desire you may have articulated in the previous chapter. In today's episode, I show my work and talk about what I learned about taking steps to make my desire a reality. I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to:  meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Bestselling author and life coach Martha Beck joins Rosie to explore how anxiety often stems from living out of alignment with our truth. In this conversation, they unpack how small acts of integrity can ease inner conflict, reduce anxiety, and lead to a more grounded, peaceful life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"If somebody doesn't have hope, then they sure don't have that. And if somebody doesn't have a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives, then there's no hope." - Maryanne Nicholls   Marianne Nicholls is a distinguished registered psychotherapist and certified Martha Beck life coach based in Kalamazoo, Michigan. With over 20 years of therapeutic expertise and an additional 20 years as a senior corporate consultant, Marianne brings a unique blend of skills to her practice. She specializes in helping success-driven individuals manage burnout while maintaining their passion and energy for what they love. Her approach is holistic, combining practicality, compassion, and humor to create transformative experiences for her clients.   Episode Summary: Join Jana Short in this enlightening episode of "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" as she converses with the remarkable Marianne Nicholls, psychotherapist and life coach. With a rich tapestry of professional experience, Marianne shares her insights on burnout, a condition familiar to high achievers and driven individuals. Her expertise stems from decades of firsthand experience—both in her therapy sessions and previous corporate roles—providing her a unique perspective on how success can be achieved without sacrificing personal well-being.   The discussion delves deep into the nuances of burnout, exploring the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects that contribute to this pervasive issue. Marianne shares her personal journey of experiencing burnout multiple times and how she learned to navigate it by shifting to a career that reignited her energy and passion. The episode also covers Marianne's offerings, including a course on avoiding burnout that emphasizes community support. With her guidance, listeners can gain actionable insights into recognizing the early signs of burnout and adopting practices to prevent it, sustaining a fulfilling life and career.   Key Takeaways: Marianne Nicholls emphasizes recognizing burnout early by tuning into physical and emotional signs, using intuitive listening to guide well-being. Burnout is multifaceted, affecting mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health; addressing all aspects is vital for holistic recovery. Setting boundaries and learning to say no is crucial to maintaining energy and enthusiasm in personal and professional life. Community support during burnout recovery can provide vital encouragement and perspective, making it a key component of her programs. Simple breath exercises can engage the relaxation system and offer a reset, providing space to make more conscious, healthier decisions.     Resources: www.thejoyofliving.co www.linkedin.com/in/maryannenicholls     Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine.   Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/

We're always told to live our best lives, but what does that really mean? In this book, coach Beck introduces us to the 10 daily practices that she believes will help us live more joy-filled lives. We're on chapter three, which dives into finding your heart's desire.Today, I meander with you from the hot tub, the site of my daily meditation practice. Truth be told, I've been struggling with this week's practice on Desire. I had a whole script written, but instead, by instinct, I set it aside and just spoke from my heart. You'll hear the hiss from the hot tub's filtre for a while, then the sound of the wind brushing the mic and the birds tweeting in the background. It's all real, I promise you! After that, I share with you what I have learned about stillness and how it has applied in my life. I keep coming back to this first practice as it is just that pivotal. Then we turn to the book and the topic of desire and how I have worked with that practice. I'm hoping you are reading along  and so will learn also from Martha Beck herself as I stray a bit away from her work in this meander, and into my experience with it. I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to:  meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Let me know how this practice lands for you.Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

We're always told to live our best lives, but what does that really mean? In this book, coach Beck introduces us to the 10 daily practices that she believes will help us live more joy-filled lives. Today, we're looking at chapter 2, called “Truth.” The practice in this case is all about getting quiet enough in our body and mind to hear what is true for us in this very moment. Beck walks us through just how we can do that. I also weave in a bit of my favourite Indigenous author, Richard Wagamese with a few excepts from his book “Embers: One Ojibway's Meditations.” If you are interested in reading along, you can buy her book from your local independent bookstore and join me each week to explore her offering.I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to:  meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Tell me how exploring your truth has worked for you!Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood. Same thing with “Embers: One Ojibway's Meditations” by Richard Wagamese.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lily.  I use it with permission.  As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

Martha Beck is a best-selling author, life coach, and speaker and expert in coping with anxiety. Despite decades of sociology research and coaching, Beck says she'd struggled with anxiety her entire life. She says we live in a global anxiety spiral, and turned to neuroscience to understand why, and how to move past it. Through her research, Beck found that anxiety shuts down the brain's curiosity and creativity, and tapping into them can be life-changing. She opened up to Hoda about her book, "Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose", and shares strategies to change the way they think and live.

We're always told to live our best lives, but what does that really mean? In this book, coach Beck introduces us to the 10 daily practices that she believes will help us live more joy full lives. We are starting this week with chapter 1, habit #1: do nothing. In this episode, I explore this practice a bit with you, talk about how doing nothing has helped me live a more balanced life, and invite you into the practice using Martha Beck's directions.  If you are interested in reading along, you can buy her book from your local independent bookstore and join me each week to explore her offering.I hope you'll enjoy this episode. Please, share my work widely, and give the podcast a review to tease the algorithms. If you have comments or questions, please send them to meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. Tell me how doing nothing has worked for you!Episode links:You can find "The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a Happier Life" by Martha Beck at Indigo in Canada, and at local bookstores near you, like Books on Beechwood.Learn more about Martha Beck.My friend Richard Godin shot this beautiful picture of the water lilly.  I use it with permission. As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLife live joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.

I hope this quote from Martha Beck helps you appreciate the choices you have.   Join the FREE Facebook group for The Michael Brian Show at https://www.facebook.com/groups/themichaelbrianshow   Follow Mike on Facebook Instagram & Twitter

This week the three mustaches reunite to tell the story of Raymond Fernandez and Martha Beck, better known as The Lonely Hearts Killers. Are you looking for sexy singles in your area? Look no further! Whether you're a lonely widow with a large inheritance, or a con man looking for a lonely widow with a large inheritance, we've got you covered! Stick around until the end of the episode for a new segment we're calling Cellmate Soulmates! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/crime-corner-with-jessie-wiseman/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Martha Beck is a Harvard-trained sociologist, world-renowned coach on harvesting creativity and finding purpose, and New York Times best-selling author across her dozens of books, including The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, Finding Your Own North Star, and her newest release, Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose.  In this episode, Dr. Beck shares how to practice patience in consciousness, the power in both compassionate self-talk and being a compassionate witness, and how creativity works as a tool for anxiety. Dr. Martha Beck Stages Podcast YouTube Join the mailing list  

"The person who most needs to hear your words is you."Have you ever wished you could just see your situation clearly and finally hear exactly what you most need to know?I'm sharing one of my favorite self-coaching exercises, inspired by Martha Beck, to help you do just that.We begin by exploring someone else's stuck patterns and hidden courage — because sometimes it feels safer to look outward first.Then, step by step, I guide you to turn those insights inward, revealing the truths and guidance you most need to tell yourself.This simple but powerful practice can help you drop old ways of thinking, see your life with fresh eyes, and feel more at peace with the decisions ahead of you.Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you're serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We'll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there's a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Welcome back to 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs!'    In this lively and heartfelt episode, Danielle Ireland chats with Ashlyn Thompson from the Parent Empowerment Network. Ashlyn shares her journey from growing her nonprofit organization to the emotional rollercoaster of her daughter's complex medical journey.    Get ready to explore how pain can be an unexpected teacher, the magic of community support, and why tapping into creativity can be your secret weapon against anxiety. Filled with laughs, valuable insights, and touching moments, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom and joy. Tune in and enjoy the ride!   00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview 00:20 Ashlyn Thompson's Journey and Nonprofit Growth 01:10 The Importance of Community and Support 01:37 Embracing Big Feelings and Finding Joy 02:52 Welcoming Ashlyn Back and Discussing Growth 05:44 Navigating Pain and Empowerment 09:51 The Power of Perspective and Decision Making 14:27 Balancing Life and Nonprofit Work 21:21 The Role of Pain as a Teacher 30:48 Finding Comfort in Movement and Nature 33:09 Returning to Basics 33:35 Reflecting on Past Decisions 35:20 The Role of Pain and Fear 38:20 Parent Empowerment Network 44:25 Creativity as a Lifeline 49:21 Embracing Emotions 53:07 Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Moment 01:01:20 Conclusion and Resources   Ashlyn Thompson interview links Ashlyn Thompson, a passionate advocate and storyteller, is co-founder of the Parent Empowerment Network, a nonprofit providing emotional and mental health support to parents navigating pediatric medical complexities. She also co-hosts theEmpowered by Hope podcast, which equips parents with practical tools, resources, and a strong sense of community—delivered with a heavy dose of humor and hope to empower them as their child's best advocate. Ashlyn's fire for advocacy was ignited by her daughter Emery, who was born with bladder exstrophy. After Emery nearly died following a major surgery at just seven weeks old, Ashlyn became a fierce voice for patient safety. Unwilling to accept the limitations of domestic medical care, she discovered a surgical option in the U.K. that wasn't available in the U.S. at the time. In early 2023, Emery became the first American to undergo this procedure—and thanks to Ashlyn's relentless advocacy, that surgery is now available in America. When she's not advocating or recording podcasts, Ashlyn moonlights as a budding driveway chalk artist, chaos coordinator for her spirited family, and an avid nature lover. Chocolate is her daily vitamin, ADHD is her superpower, spiders and small talk are her sworn enemies, and she firmly believes laughter and boldness are two of a parent's greatest tools.   Parent Empowerment Network:  The Parent Empowerment Network exists to support, encourage, and educate parents of children with medical complexities—empowering them with community, knowledge, and confidence to be their child's fiercest advocate. www.ParentEmpowermentNetwork.org Empowered by Hope podcast on all major podcast streaming platforms: https://parentempowermentnetwork.org/podcast/   Social Media:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Parent-Empowerment-Network/100083218456295/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/parentempowermentnetwork/   She is Charlotte book by co-founder, Emily Whiting:https://parentempowermentnetwork.org/she-is-charlotte-book/ DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.   Website: https://danielleireland.com/   The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal   Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com/   Blog: https://danielleireland.com/blog/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW   Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured “Don't Cut Your Own Bangs” is about creating a community around, and familiarity with, the messy middle—that uncertain and often chaotic and uncomfortable time in the middle of a process or journey. The messy middle is replete with ambiguity and challenges, but it's also where the hard and rewarding work happens.   Transcript [00:00:00] Danielle: Hello. Hello, this is Danielle Ireland and you are watching or listening to Don't Cut Your Own Bangs. I am so excited to be back in the interview seat. We've done some solo cast. It's been a blast. But Ashlyn Thompson is here with me today, and we just wrapped an incredible conversation. Ashlyn came on as a guest to talk about her work with Charlotte's Hope Foundation a couple of years ago. [00:00:26] She was about ready to embark right in the interview we were, she was. Days away from embarking on a trip to the UK for her daughter having a surgery with the only surgeon in the world who performed the specific type of surgery that her daughter needed. Her daughter's made a full recovery. It's a beautiful story we're gonna get into in this episode, but what I'm truly, if you could imagine even beyond that beautiful story, what I'm so excited to introduce to you and to that I was so grateful to witness and learn from. [00:00:53] Is that Ashlyn has grown her nonprofit organization, not no money in organization, but yes, a nonprofit organization that at the time, two years ago when we last checked in with her, was called Charlotte's Hope Foundation. It has grown. It's expanded, and it's evolved, and it's now the Parent Empowerment Network. [00:01:10] She and her co-founder also have a podcast for that same work, and what I love about the work that they do. They create community connection space and resources for parents and families raising children or any provider helping a child navigate medical complexities. And that sounds like such a hard and heavy and challenging topic. [00:01:33] And it is. But what Ashlyn embodies is. The work that I really wanted to bring to this season and this new phase of don't cut your own bangs, which I want big feelings to feel less scary. I want approaching them to feel possible. And then with that in mind, wherever possible, as much as possible, finding lightness, levity, and joy. [00:01:54] However we can do it. And I'm telling you, in this episode we did that. We accomplished that. We talk about important things, we talk about heavy things, and Ashland is vulnerable in a way that is inviting. But also something we can all learn from. And through the specificity of her life experience and what she's learned, there are universal nuggets that we can all find value in. [00:02:17] I know I did, and this was such a beautiful place to share, and we laughed. We had joy, we smiled . I hope that this topic invites you and encourages you to lean in and tune in because there are so many great nuggets of this. Thank you for being here, and I can't wait for you to sit back, relax, and enjoy. [00:02:38] Ashlyn Thompson [00:02:39] Hi. Yes, I know. Big jumps for both of us. I know. I feel like we're, it does feel like a lifetime ago. It I mean, in many ways it is. It's like we're, I mean, I'm still, me and all the key players are still playing. Right. But it does feel like a different life in a way. And I, with that in mind, I just wanna officially welcome you back. [00:02:55] Yes. Welcome. Ashlyn Thompson. Oh, thank. Don't cut your own bangs. I am so excited that you're here for many reasons, but the thing I'm most excited about is I think that. Building something or starting something creates a certain amount of effort and energy. Sustaining something, growing with it, breathing new life into it, that's a different part of a different element of a creative process. [00:03:17] And that's something I think specifically I'm really excited to talk to you about because you're parent Empowerment Network, which has it, it exists to support, encourage and educate parents and caregivers of children with medical complexities. And that was, it already was in existence when we, right, when we recorded the first time. [00:03:34] But it has grown. Grown. I went to a gala, people, she's throwing a gala fundraiser for her for her network. And so, I mean, I wanna hear about all the twists and all the developments of that, but more specifically the context I wanna provide for us and for this conversation. The thing that I'm really excited about, , and why I feel really passionate about bringing this to video. [00:03:57] Is that I want to help make big feelings feel less scary. Yeah. And I want to make, approaching them feel possible. And then with that in mind as much and as often as possible, laugh as much as possible. Amen. And so, right? So like, you are swimming in the trenches with people and even in your own life with people who are holding and making space for heavy things. [00:04:23] Yes. And yet there is a bright smile on your face. There's a twinkle in your eye. You laugh and you smile. And I wanna, and I don't know how to articulate what that is, but I want to, I wanna, that's something I wanna make space for in this conversation too. So it's important and it's big and it's emotional for sure, but also like, let's allow levity too. [00:04:42] Absolutely. I am so excited to be continuing our conversation, and I'm also really happy to know that. The person who's sitting here with you today is very much a different person from two years ago. And I feel like I have gone through multiple versions of myself just in the past two years. And that's one of the things that I truly celebrate about, not just the journey of parent empowerment network, but I think just growing and evolving as a human spirit, experiencing this life is recognizing that I say this phrase to only certain people, but I act, I feel compelled to share it now. [00:05:26] I feel like I have died a thousand times. And greeted so many versions of myself. But every time I rise into that extroversion and realize who I am, I like that person more and more. And. I feel like one of my greatest accomplishments just this past year has been truly settling into a, knowing a deep belief that life is meant to grow through, not go through. [00:05:58] And that change, that pivot of how I see the next big thing that comes up has been such a grounding force for me and has really helped me feel like I'm actually sitting in the driver's seat of my car. I don't know what I'm going to pass as I'm on this highway. In life. And sometimes life yanks me off on an exit I didn't plan. [00:06:23] And those exit ramps are typically the next lesson. But I'm grateful to be at a point where I can now see the next really hard thing emerging and not wanna hit reverse. Wow. Wow. Not that I like it all the time. No, God. But I can appreciate that this isn't out to crush me. This isn't here to take me down like I used to feel. [00:06:53] , Wow. There's a lot to unpack there for. Thank you so much for sharing that, but also not going in reverse. I wanna make a mental note, not going in reverse. The next version of me, I like better, and this is not here to crush me. Right. The, there's something, I got chills. I got full body chills when you, the la with the last thing that you said, because when I'm working with clients, there is this element and this is something. [00:07:18] I promise I'll come back to that original point there. There's an element of the work that I do where, and I'm sure you get this in your own way too, with like hearing stories from families who are holding really hard and heavy things. I think when I meet people for the first time, a common response is, wow, I don't know how you do what you do, or I don't know how you listen to that all day. [00:07:36] Or Oh man, and I think, yes, sure. There, there are certainly days and clients or moments where those stories are making space for people's big, heavy, painful experiences. Right. Is can be a lot at times. Far less anymore. But I think more than anything the va like, I feel so lucky to have the experience a hundred maybe even thousands of times over hurt people's pain. [00:08:03] And I know what pain sounds like. Yes. And there are different types and one thing that I absolutely believe to be true is that our pain is not personal. Our story is personal, right? But pain is not personal. And the events of our life, even things that happen to us, it's, there's it's almost shifting out of a, and I hope I can say this within the context that, that is heard with love. [00:08:27] But shifting out of a victim mentality right into it. Because being victimized or being stricken with grief or holding something hard like that is absolutely real. And also knowing that this is happening to me, but this is not gosh, what are the words I'm trying to find. It, what I'm hearing is you recognize how hard this is. [00:08:51] Whatever that insert blank. I recognize how hard this is, and I'm not going to make this pain so precious that I don't also see it as temporary. Yes, exactly. But there's something, so I think there's something really powerful and there's so much nuance to that because I certainly don't want to, people can be victimized, but the victim mentality is one of, in my professional experience it's one of the more challenging headspace to, for someone to walk out of. [00:09:21] Agree. It's really hard. Exactly. It shrinks your world. So, so much. That's well said. And we experience that very often. We really fo I mean we say all the time, you know, we are non diagnosis specific, non prognosis specific with the families that we work with, and we focus on the parents or the parent role, which could be performed by a sibling, a grandparent, a friend, an adopt, a lot of different people, but. [00:09:51] What we really found early in our journey and what helped us evolve into parent empowerment network was that recognition that, like you pointed out, pain is not it's not customized to your experience. The feeling, the emotional and physical experience relationship with pain is common through all of us, and it actually is a way that we can connect with each other when we recognize that. [00:10:18] When we stop comparing one another's pains. Now, don't get me wrong, if your kid got a bump on the head versus your kid needs a, you know, brain surgery. Right. Those are different. Yes. Very different. Yes. But most of the time we're not dealing with that. And what we have found is that when somebody is in that victim mentality, which is understandable, I think that's a, very important aspect to acknowledge when you're feeling like a victim, why is this happening to me? Or why is this happening to my child? Because I'll be the first to say, it's never okay when your child is hurting or sick or in harm's way or worse. I will never be okay with it. But when we say stuck in a victim mentality, our ability to problem solve goes from about here to here. [00:11:08] Yeah. And then your child is really the one who suffers. And I hate, it's a hard truth. But we have to face that truth because when we can help a parent start to find glimmers of hope, start to see that there's a way to build on quality of life rather than cure. Then you start to see this new version emerge where they are truly, you know, empowered advocates for their child. [00:11:45] There's something that I heard in what you said too, that a lot of times when I'm working with clients who are maybe knee deep in anxiety or depression, for example. I think why can be a powerful question, but I think a misplaced why is a really exactly damaging question. Like, why me? Why them? [00:12:02] Why this, why now? Because those are questions you can't answer that only lead to a defeating answer. Exactly. And usually another question or shame, but what I'm hearing a lot in when you. When you can kind of broaden your focus and sort of release that constriction from why you then can open yourself up to a different type of question. [00:12:23] How can I, exactly. How can I get through today? How can I get through this moment? What is needed most of me now? What do I need now? Right. And those types of the what and the how. Who do I need to show up for? Is it me? Right. Is it them? Who do I need to ask for help? Who has information that I need? [00:12:43] Those types of questions don't eliminate the pain, but it broadens the scope Yes. Of, of your field of vision. And I know that though, like, 'cause you are here in many ways. Oh, I hope it's okay to use this term. But I hope that you're here as an expert and you're also the executive Hope director of of the power impairment network. [00:13:05] And I think a lot of times. What we would imagine as the worst possible case scenario. Like the worst thing we could imagine would be something happening to our kids. This has been your lived experience. This has been your business partner's lived experience. And for, even though you have a podcast as well, where you really create a space and content and a community that helps people with that very specific set of circumstances, that Right. [00:13:33] I would imagine it's like. The best and worst club to be a part of. So we always say, we're so sorry you're in this club. Yes. But we're so glad you found us. Yes. Like it's the yes, we're really sorry, but at the same time, like, welcome home, welcome. And so I think a lot of the, a lot of the people who tune in to don't cut your own bang, I don't know how many would have this specific life experience. [00:13:57] Right. And if you do, oh my gosh, what a gorgeous resource you have in Ashlyn. Oh, thank you. And the Parent empowerment network and their podcast. But I do think that even in something like this, in within the specificity of everything you're saying, there is such a broad truth that I think we can all access and find value in. [00:14:16] And, yeah. So just thank you for all of that. And I want to, okay. I wanna shift a little bit to the growth of the parent Empowerment network. Right. Because, so when I originally started this podcast, what I was, what I really motivated me, one was I was terrified of becoming a therapist and having worked as a creative, and I just wanted to surround myself with other people who, who were building things, right? So that I could sort of sneak in my own needy questions. Like, how did you do it? How did you figure it out? What happened when you were scared? Like, what happened when your computer crashed? Oh my gosh. And you went from newly building something to, you have really grown. [00:14:53] Yes. You have really grown. And I wanna know having experienced the, you know, the gala that Right. That you that you threw that was so lovely. I wanna know . What led to the growth over the last two years? Because you're still momming, you're still life. Yeah. Your daughter is still being you. [00:15:08] I mean, like your life is still life and Yes. Life is still lifeing. How, in the midst of your lifeing, how have you also continued to grow this? And I really wanna know like what fueled your fire. And just tell me more about that story please. Yes, absolutely. So at the beginning of this, you know, when we started talking, you were very talking about how I'm sitting here smiling and I mean, I am fully, I am genuinely full of joy in this moment. [00:15:35] And I think I know actually that comes from being in something like we have with Parent Empowerment Network, which has been truly its own huge like business, right? We are called a nonprofit, but let me tell you, I mean, it is straight up business. [00:15:57] Is what it is in a lot of ways, and. That's the worst possible name for a tax category. It totally is. Because it's so confusing. Nonprofit doesn't mean no money. Right. Exactly. It's so confusing. We do not exist for free. Is great an idea as that sounds. I want that to be the slogan for every nonprofit. [00:16:16] I just, 'cause we don't exist for free. Right. You know the whole, you get what you pay for. It's, yeah. That's a whole other conversation. We're not gonna spend too much time there today. We should have a part two then. There we go. I'm okay with that. All right. So for that, what I think the biggest lesson that has. [00:16:33] Emerged from this journey just since we were, you know, you and I were talking a couple years ago when we were actually still called Charlotte's Hope Foundation. Yes. Which was our initial name. Yes. Because we had an idea for something that was this big at the beginning. And the name Charlotte's Hope Foundation fit that in theory. [00:16:52] But the thing I'm most proud of my, of Emily Whiting, who's my co-founder, fellow mom, fellow sister, fellow savior, at times the best thing we have done is allowed ourselves permission to grow and shrink as needed. And that's what we've done throughout this journey. It has not been a step process. [00:17:15] There have been countless times where we have grown two or three steps, been bigger, you know, working with international teams of surgeons, pulling together collaborations that have never been done, and then. There have been times where we have pulled back and we haven't released an episode for six weeks. [00:17:33] We have had maybe two or three social posts because our lives were on fire or just demanded all our attention, but it didn't mean we had to stop. I need to, oh my gosh. I don't know how many of you listening or watching can relate to that. I, there is a relationship I have with the expansion and contraction of output where if I'm not putting something out, producing something, making something that it really does a number on my sense of self worth. Right. And self esteem. And that is something that I'm still actively healing and repairing, because I definitely know the facts. I know. The really bumper stickery, self helpy sounding talk. [00:18:26] And I believe it. It's not that I, I don't hear it and think like, yeah. Right. It's just that there's a more practiced version of me, right. That has just had more at bats operating in a certain way. And then life in many ways rewards you for that. In theory. In theory. And I don't mean the like the laurels, like you get the the kudos pat on the back accolades but there is a cost, right? [00:18:47] There is a cost. And I think, in the I this past year I wrote a children's book called Wrestling a Walrus. And this the act of writing this book was something that I didn't realize that in the contraction, or even like in the I love the visual of the caterpillar becoming the butterfly. [00:19:09] 'Cause there's a two week process where the caterpillar is literally, we talk about the messy middle in this podcast and think, thank you Brene Brown, wherever you are for creating language and context for us for this very conversation. 'cause so much of this is inspired by that, but that gooey, mushy middle where it's not a butterfly, it's literally goo and it's Exactly, and it, and, but in that place, there is magic happening there. [00:19:33] Even if it, even though it looks like a pile of shit, right. Like, it's, there's magic happening there. I'll say the impetus or the inspiration, the. It was tough moments with my daughter, moments where I didn't feel like I was doing anything. Right. It like hitting the wrecking ball of, you know, being a parent of a toddler and a parent of an infant like that was, there's not enough grace in any space to help you go through that without serious, you know, support. [00:20:02] There were, I had some victim mentality at that point in time, even, and all things can be true at once. But all of that was what I experienced before I had the idea to write the book. And had I not had that experience, I wouldn't have been able to do that. Exactly. I don't think it would've been the same. [00:20:16] And [00:20:16] , and I promise this whole podcast isn't an ad for the book, but like, I really believe in this damn book and I love it so much. And I love that you talk about that expansion and contraction for yourself. And that you doesn't, it doesn't mean you have to stop. 'cause I think a big reason why I maybe avoided picking up the torch again and doing this podcast like I left it for so long, or I abandoned it for so long, or can I still do it right? [00:20:41] Like all of that stuff. And then yeah it. Yeah. Doubt doesn't mean you're done. No. And taking a pause doesn't mean you're stopping forever. But yeah. I mean, you can't just exhale forever. You can't just output like you eventually have to breathe in. Exactly. And that relationship is very necessary. [00:21:00] And so, I mean, everything you're saying is exactly what I need. Thank you. Thank you. You're welcome. You're welcome. And it, that lesson doesn't come easily. Nope. But I think another element of that, you know, building off of what you were just talking about, pain and discomfort and naturally shying away from it. [00:21:21] I challenge anybody in life to just take a moment to consider pain as a potential teacher, as a professor, rather than pain as an enemy, or pain as a destroyer. Right. If you ask yourself. Why does this feel painful? Because how many times do we all experience in our life something that really gets under our skin, but whether it's a spouse or it's a friend or a coworker and they seem totally unfazed by it, [00:21:56] and that used to be something that bothered me. I was kinda like what's, am I ever sensitive? Or like, what is my thing? And I grew up always hearing, not necessarily even from my parents, but I feel like. Teacher schools and saved by the bell commercials about find what you love in life and you'll never work a day in your life. [00:22:16] And that was great in theory, but I'm a very eclectic person. Yep. I love a lot. And all I was getting was a lot of burnout. That's also like saying like, love your kids and you'll never have a hard day with them in your life. You're like, no bs. No. I love my kids. But like, you know, oh my gosh, kids are the greatest, hardest thing of life. [00:22:33] Right. Right. But I think the same is true. Like , I never stopped loving this. Right. But I don't always have control over the life around. Right. But it's a, I think allowing things to be a part of you, not all of you, is really important. Yeah. And I think it's so easy to define ourselves by that output. [00:22:53] For me and Emily, the word is often it's impact. Are we actually making an impact? And the thing that helped us. Become okay with hitting the pause button when we needed to, and not officially throwing in the towel. Don't get me wrong, there were conversations about it, but we were always very honest with each other and we held each other accountable that if you are feeling like this is not jiving with your life, if it's not jiving with you personally, or it's not good for your family at this moment, let's hit the pause button and talk about it. [00:23:26] But realizing that if we only help each other while working on this, Emily and I, that's helping our kids, that's helping our families. And there's a domino effect from that goes from that. And if that's all we ever do, what's bad about that? You said something that I, it still stuck with me and it will probably be the title of this episode. [00:23:49] Pain is a Professor. Yes, it is. And I wanna go back to that because something that I talk about in my sessions a lot is that your emotions never lie to you. Now your thoughts are very different. Yes. Your thoughts can go a, now granted, we need to think critical thinking is important. [00:24:04] We probably need more critical thinking, but thoughts happen to us all day, every day, constantly. Right. I don't remember what the statistic is. I think we have roughly like eight thoughts a minute, something like that. I'm surprised it's not . Maybe that's just a DH adhd. And that could be too, like, yeah, there, maybe there's a spectrum. [00:24:18] Maybe it's eight to 80 thoughts a minute. Give or take. Give or take a hundred. But so thoughts happen to us now. We can certainly consciously choose what to focus on and what we think. But thinking happens, the emotions are in response to what we're thinking and believing. Exactly. And they never lie. [00:24:35] Right. And I But something you said like pain as a professor. And I like the thought that emotions are energy in motion. Yes. And they always have something for you to learn. There's something for every emotion. There is something it wants you to know. Right. And when you're not feeling good are we have more pain receptors in our body, unfortunately. [00:24:55] We have more pain receptors in our body than we do pleasure receptors. Like, and so when pain is activated, it just has a firmer grip. There's something that Martha Beck talks about that I love. It's called the, I think she calls it the Viper in the box of puppies. So if you were to imagine like, and enough said, right. [00:25:10] Done. You get it. But you hand, if I handed you a box full of like 15 adorable, gorgeous little puppies, I mean, it's, they're the most abundant, silly, loving, fuzzy source of love, safety, pleasure. I could really go for that right now. I mean, would it, that should be a, I'm hoping there's one hiding around somewhere. [00:25:28] We have a surprise for you, but if I were to then put a Viper in or a cobra in your box of puppies. All you're gonna see is the threat. Exactly. All you're gonna see is the threat. And I think in life, it's like we pop mo most of us more often than not, are probably living in lives with a lot of puppies. [00:25:48] But the viper, the threat is what consumes Oh yeah. So much energy and attention and shifting your focus from one to the other is easier said than done. And I wanna talk to you specifically about how you have found meaning or, and I, when I say success, I don't mean it in like a bullet point sense, but right. [00:26:12] Where you have found access to, you know, the viper, you know, or the cobra, you know, the box of puppies. Right. How you access that. I can certainly share how I have, but my emotions, I. I've learned in time. I don't always know exactly what they're telling me in the beginning, but I trust them enough to know that it's something. [00:26:36] And so the first place I try to access, if I'm not dissociating or avoiding, is to sit with it. Yeah. So usually it's like, I'm I'll just dissociate in my fantasy book or rewatching parks and recreation for the MPH teeth bajillion time. You know, it's just always a Sure bet. Yeah. It's just, it's hard for, life can only be so hard with Leslie Nope and little Sebastian, you know? [00:26:57] So anyway. But I wanna know where you find yourself in that shift. Yeah. Yeah. So you've got my head's like turning, I'm also still picturing puppies to be honest. That's okay. So I actually, I feel like I wanna give an example of something that I experienced last year, so two years ago. [00:27:11] It's crazy to think two years ago I went on this crazy journey to England. I went to London to take my daughter, who was not quite two years old yet to have a surgery over there for her ultra rare condition that was not available in the States. And I had talked to everybody in the States, of course, that had any knowledge about it and all they could tell me was, we don't really know anything about it. [00:27:35] We don't do it here. Kind of you're on your own, go for it. Or don't, we can't say that we would support you. All that matters is I went for it. And fortunately it did end up being the right decision, but I also knew that it could not be the right decision. And what I found on that experience was that I was originally desperate for picking the right way in life to move forward, that I could not make a decision. [00:28:06] I could not possibly move forward unless I was a hundred percent sure. But guess what? Life isn't real big on giving you a guarantee. Yeah. Guarantees with anything. And I think where I, that's where I started to learn that I don't have to have the answers to move forward. I can be looking at that box and I can see, oh my gosh, this could go terribly wrong. [00:28:34] But I think living with a hopeful mindset is something that allows me to keep my eye on that viper and then still interact with the puppies over here. My eye is still trained on it, but what I found is a peace in making my decision. And it was a, that feeling, that gut feeling. You know, it, I, it doesn't matter what you've gone through in life. [00:28:58] I can't believe that there's anybody out there who hasn't just had that. I call it just that knowing in your gut, it's a physical experience and that is something. That has helped me move forward in life. Because here's the thing, guys, nobody can ever stay truly still. And that's where a lot of our pain and discomfort comes from, is fighting moving forward without certainty. [00:29:23] Oh, let's pause right there. Oh my gosh. So there's something that Dr. Becky Kennedy who she has the good, she wrote the book Good Inside, and she's got her own beautiful podcast and work and content. She does. She really she focuses on kids, but she's really working on parents relationship with their inner child and by extension their parenting. [00:29:43] But she talks about something called, I've called it the Gap, but she calls it the learning space. So with kids, most of their frustration, tension and meltdowns happen between meeting a moment or. A moment arising and knowing how to meet the moment. And that learning space is usually the gap in knowing or understanding of this is what's arisen and I don't know how to meet this moment. [00:30:04] Right? And then if their context or their ability to meet it, if the moment exceeds their ability that's usually when there's a lot of pain or big feelings. Right. And I think with adults, that's usually where I see self-doubt, rumination anxiety, self-destructive tendencies. [00:30:23] Come in and you're right. You're, I love that you said we're never really still, I mean, one that's just true based on science and physics. We're never still that's actually one of the, like, there's like two necessary components, maybe three to being a living, being or a living entity. [00:30:36] I think, what is it? Movement, cell division, reproduction, and, I don't know, something else. Hey, anyone here pop off in the comments if you're a science boss, please gold star for you. Please. But but yeah, we're never truly still. And so even when you feel stagnant and stuck and even hearing you say that I'm actually processing in real time, one of the things that I have done that I, I discovered by accident, but probably because my body knew better than my mind did. [00:31:04] I would, it often does. I would take my feelings on walks. I would, I talked about that movement is essential if you are literally feeling stuck. I tell, that's what I tell everybody. Anytime they're spiraling. Which it's understandable. Go for a walk. Even if it is five minutes, walk up and down your stairs. [00:31:22] Or at the least one of my favorite things thank you Instagram reels for sucking up so much of my life at times in the hospital, but sometimes, but it's, sometimes it's, it is the perfect escape. It's okay to let the pressure off of ourselves. But there was this one that I saw it was this therapist who was like in her seventies and she was in Ireland and she's walking around in like this, you know, the quintessential Ireland landscape. [00:31:47] And she said, I tell all of my clients when you have a problem or a worry or something that's making you feel like you need to hurry, walk outside where you can see the sky and look up. Because the moment you remove a ceiling from your view, from your your line of sight, your mind opens with it. [00:32:08] And possibilities grow. And I have experienced that so often. And you think about it where you, when you're in a confined space. It only adds to those feelings of I'm stuck or I'm out of options, or I can't deal with this. But when you go outside and the world is just showing you how big it is and how small you are, there's actually a ton of comfort in that. [00:32:35] There's, I've also read and heard that there's something about the way that our eyes sort of gently move and follow and track side to side. Yeah. The movement around us that activates a similar calming sensation that our body experiences in REM sleep. Because if you're tracking a bird or tracking a squirrel, or just simply seeing like the trees and movement, track your kids. [00:32:55] Right. That'll keep you, your eyes all over the place. Girl. But like, 'cause right now we're facing a computer screen and we're in, we're under lights. Like, it's a very I mean, it's a lovely container, but it's a sterile container by comparison of being outside. And I Right. I do think that sometimes, like, like Lifeing. [00:33:11] It can be hard, and I never wanna oversimplify holding the challenges and moving through the challenges. Right. And yet I think sometimes when something feels overly, when something feels complex and impossible, it's almo. I, my instinct is to abandon the basics. And that is always the place to start. [00:33:32] That's always the place to start, is to go back to the basics. [00:33:35] Knowing what you know now what. Do you think the version of you, I wrote down three years ago, but I wanna go back to two years ago bef, like as you were navigating all the travel plans and the decision to go to the UK for your daughter's surgery, what do you think that version of Ashlyn needed to hear or needed to know? [00:33:55] And then the follow up question to that, after you answers, do you think she would've believed you? [00:33:59] It's really funny that you're asking this question because I actually had a conversation yesterday with a neighbor's daughter who is a film student, and this question has actually been going through my mind a lot lately about, I wonder where my life would be if I'd known this in my early thirties, if I'd known, or if I had known this in my twenties. [00:34:23] And I kept kind of going backwards like, I didn't know this then. Oh maybe if I'd known this. And I kept just, like I said, looking back and then what I realized is. It's so important that I didn't know those things because I had to experience them with the challenges. I had to climb the mountains for the first time to really understand the importance of gaining those skills for myself. So I actually think that Ashlyn, a couple years ago, I may have wanted to hear, I, what I wanted to hear was, you're making the right decision. I wanted to be validated by doctors, by people who I typically refer to as the ones who have the alphabet after their name. [00:35:06] Can somebody please just tell me, check, you know, you're making the right choice. Or this is what I would do if it were my child. And I wanted it so desperately that I, it did almost prevent me from going. But I am blessed that because of other experiences before that, right where pain had started to evolve into a guide for my life, a way of understanding what is most important to me. [00:35:37] It clarifies a lot. Exactly. Because often, you know, pain and fear are often about things we can't control, right? And what it showed me was that I don't need guaranteed outcomes to be able to sleep at night. I know that if I don't give it everything, including the kitchen sink, I won't be able to sleep at night. [00:36:03] I won't be able to look at Emery when she's an adult and tell her. We tried absolutely everything we could to give you the best quality of life, and that's what I needed to be able to give her. In order for me to feel good about the mom I am. And that's what was most important to me at that time. [00:36:23] So it sounds like maybe you trust in your ability to meet the moment enough that you don't think you would've gone back and told yourself anything? No, I think, and that's something that, like I said, I'd been thinking about a lot, like how many times if I'd only known this, if I if I'd only held my boundaries or if, or you know, these standards or, you know, all the things I could have done differently. [00:36:48] But as I said at the beginning of this, I feel like I have lived a thousand lives and become. A thousand new versions of myself, but you don't become your next self without going through something that carves away at you to reveal it. We don't grow through the easy no we stay stagnant. And besides small talk, my biggest fear in life is staying stagnant. [00:37:20] God, can we just let go of small talk? Oh my gosh. We all have a weather app and we all know the traffic patterns at this point. Like, do you know what's so funny about the weather app? I'm gonna use it every day. I treat my husband like the weather app, and we have an Alexa, like in, literally, like, I'll ask him what the temperature is and he'll be like. [00:37:41] Alexa. I just, oh my goodness. It's like those basic the basic like things of moving through life. I don't know why. It's like I've, I have this like faux that's of publicist. I'm like, I don't know what I'm, so what's the weather? I can't look out the window. I can't ask my own Alexa. [00:37:56] I always think, I think it's, I think it's more like, I think it's fair to acknowledge those as high. There's higher priorities that take up front of mind space. That's right. That's right. Things' so focused on the big things. Right? Yes. It's okay. We're not meant to like, you know, and I think that's another, that's one point I feel really compelled to bring up in this conversation based on all these things we've talked about, you know? [00:38:20] Yes. thank you for the chance to share what Parent Empowerment Network does, and the Empowered By Hope podcast is about addressing the real hard, the messy like, because as far as we're concerned, like once you get the news, your child is not okay. You're living in the messy middle from there on out. [00:38:36] And it can make you, or it can break you. And we're there to tell everybody, we promise this will make you. Even with worst case scenario, and that's a bold statement, but, you know, but it's one you've lived and I exactly. And I've seen countless others live, right? But I think it's so important that everybody, you know, I guess my dream would be if everybody could just realize we are not meant to carry pain and hardship and struggle by ourselves. [00:39:07] That's really what Parent Empowerment Network does. That's really what our podcast does, is it directly says to everybody who gets a chance to interact with us or who we have the honor to meet with. It just says, Hey, you are not expected to hold this alone. You know, put some of that on our plate. [00:39:24] Let's hold it together because it'll be better for everybody. It's not just you is like, again, that's what frees you from a victim mentality. You are not the only one who's ever experienced this. Right. You are not the only one who has suffered this way. And in by no means it's not to minimize. [00:39:40] Right. Exactly. It's not belittling it, it's not, it's definitely not dismissing it. But it's meant to serve as a lighthouse. Right. Our stories are unique. Yes, of course. And so that's, and I think that's what is endlessly, I will never be bored having an in-depth. Not small talk with the love of God, but like, I will never I will be endlessly fascinated by other people. [00:40:01] Because the stories are unique. Yeah. But there is a common thread that we can all see ourselves in or relate to. That, it's so enriching. Yeah. It's almost like, maybe because it's spring and, but I'm thinking it's like the pain is like the compost. Yeah. Something has to die in rotten decay in order to nurture something new. To grow. Yep. Exactly. And I, and that pain serves as fur. It's fertilizing the new, the next round of growth. Right. Yeah. It's not making anything vanish or destroying it, it's just, but it has to break down to build back up. I think that's why mosaics are my favorite type of art. [00:40:39] Yeah. I have such a strong connection to any piece that I see that's made up of a mosaic. And I remember that coming true for me when my dad had his massive stroke and. You know, he was completely debilitated, couldn't speak for himself, couldn't move his own body. He lived like that almost two years. But I remember getting really close to a couple key therapists in his life. [00:41:04] And I remember just after he passed, I got them both a small gift. It was these little mosaic art pieces for them. And I said, when I saw those, I knew that this was the right thing because you didn't see my dad as a destroyed person. You saw him as for the broken pieces. He was that to be put back, to be put together into something that was new and beautiful on its own. [00:41:33] And that's what I feel like pain has the ability to do for all of us. It's okay. And I to acknowledge that you are broken. But it's also just as important to acknowledge that you can be remade into something. You, the old you is gone. You know, when we go through something awful hard, unimaginable it's really easy to think that I will feel this way forever. There is a finality that we attach to painful experiences and it takes often somebody from the outside to gently help us realize that's not reality. I often, when I'm in that transition and I'm not aware or I'm just not ready to admit there are either, there's usually it's I there's usually things I wanna carry along with me. [00:42:28] Yep. It's like. Like an old dingy snugly blanket or like a stuffed animal that like has like holes worn in and like an eyes popped off. It's just but I when I've gone through those transitions, it's saying goodbye to maybe friendships that aren't serving me. [00:42:42] Yep. Or titles, roles levels of output expectations, stories, ways of being and the way, and to go back to pain as a professor, which is going to be the title. That it's only when I try to take the old way of being or the old relationship that is no longer serving into my new now reality. [00:43:04] When it feels anything other than good. Yeah. That's information exactly that it's showing me something and. That curiosity over constriction can also for me look like curiosity over criticism. And because that criticism is usually either dialed inward, what's wrong with me? Right. Or what's wrong with them? [00:43:25] Versus , what is happening Exactly. What's going on? What is this showing me? And I would say probably saying goodbye to relationships or friendships has probably been the hardest. Yeah. The hard, because there is this idea that I'm like if I like it, and it's like in a possessive way. [00:43:42] It's, if I like you forever. And I, and of course that is true. I mean, it, there's nobody who's been in my life that's added value that I don't appreciate. Right. But but I think that the shedding. Yeah. It's like I, I want the next thing, but I also don't wanna let the old thing go. [00:43:56] Right. And so it's, I think I've spent a lot of time and energy trying to like, pull that thing with me. Whatever it is and whatever that stage. But I think that there's when you can fully embrace, 'cause what I'm hearing from you is when you can fully embrace I am different now. [00:44:11] Yep. This is different. This mosaic. I'm not, I may not be able to carry water like I was as a vase. Right. But I'm gonna look really great as this. Yeah. And the other thing I wanna shift to before, before I get to your, don't cut your own bangs question. What I wanna ask you, you've mentioned art a couple of different times. [00:44:28] And this is to, to reference Dr. Martha Beck again. She has done a lot of incredible work in the last couple years where a way to. Step out of anxiety is not to try to access calm. 'cause we talked about going for a walk, right? So, because as much as I love these big conversations, it can be sometimes like, what is something tangible I can actually hold onto? [00:44:53] So walking with something we talked about community and connection with something else we talked about, but Art, I wanna talk about that for a moment because that is what my book was for me. Yeah. It was I created something that only that felt like it was to serve me. The process of interacting with that idea was so delightful and so delicious and so fun that I was like, I feel like I'm just the luckiest person that like this is, oh wow, I get to play with this thing. [00:45:21] Yeah. And it wants to play with me. And I don't feel that all the time. Like sometimes it's origami or doodling or coloring with my daughter. But to go back to Dr. Martha Beck's work that the opposite of anxiety is not calm, it's creativity. Oh, I love that. And you have by default really spoken through, like just healing through creating. [00:45:43] Oh, absolutely. And also there's something about, 'cause calm, there's something about calm that like, we must be still, and granted I love meditation, but like, I must be still, I must be calm. But when you are holding something that is buzzing and shaking or heavy or hot, like just some emotions are hot, like you, it's like you wanna move it through your hands or your words or your body and make something, right. [00:46:06] And you made me, she made me this bracelet before we started this episode. So like, it feels like you have a relationship with creativity too. A hundred percent. Creativity is a lifeline. And I feel like, and the most chaotic moments of my life have been the least I'm my least creative and I think it's a really. [00:46:29] Valuable, tangible thing for anybody to take from this conversation is if you are feeling out of control, lean into something as simple as I'm obsessed with those adult, you know, like the coloring books. Yes. You know, for adults to have like tons of different like lines all over the place that you have to be like really specific to keep the marker in there. [00:46:51] It can't, I do get a little bugged when it like bleeds over to the next section, but, , it's okay. I know I'm working through my, , my stressors at that moment. But yes, giving yourself a creative outlet, it's like taking a big drink of water after you've been exercising and you are so parched. [00:47:07] And I also agree that , calm sounds great in theory, but for me I feel like the more important, like the word that's become more important or I'm better able to. Absorb is the idea of am I grounded? Are my feet touching the ground? I can still have a lot going on, but when I'm like rising higher, you know, off the ground, 'cause like, I'm like a bird at this point, just flapping my arms so fast, right. [00:47:35] That I'm actually taking flight. I'm not in my best head space, but when I can just take a moment to literally just ground myself, make sure that my feet are, whether it's in the grass or sit down like this. And a conversation with a friend, somebody who really knows you is a great moment for that. [00:47:53] It's a great way to remind you who you are is somebody else. Sometimes I talk all the time about the value of when you can connect with somebody who feels with you, not just for you. Oh my gosh. It makes the world so much lighter and goodness. I mean, huh. That's probably if I could have answered the question I asked you a little bit ago, what's something that you could have if I could have told my former therapist self, like when I very when I first started, you're there to hold space for people to feel and feel with them. [00:48:23] Right. Exactly. You're not there. It's sacred. Yeah. It's there's nothing, one, it's like, there's nothing I can tell someone who's deeply in pain that they're actually gonna No. , That's, the words are just like, right. It's just noise. Yeah. And not to take anything. I'm sure I have clients who have been impacted by words. [00:48:40] But having a safe space to feel your feelings free of judgment. Is one of the reasons why I love journaling so much, but also doing that in communion Yeah. With another human right who expects nothing of you. I love Elizabeth Gilbert has language I love, like there's no precious outcome. [00:48:57] Like I can, that I can sit and have space with you or I can make plans with you or be, and there's no precious outcome. You don't have to perform for me. Right. You don't have to be anything for me. Like we can just be that is what a gift. Yes, that is. I just want to, this conversation has inspired way too many thoughts, but in the best way. [00:49:15] But something that hit me and then I think we could absolutely move on to Yeah. This the cut your bangs question. But what I've realized even in our conversation is that logic is not loud . our emotions are loud and they get louder and louder. The more we. Push them back the more we ignore them. [00:49:36] Think of your kids until they, when they need your attention. Because they deserve your attention. They do. The best thing we can do is acknowledge those emotions and just, even if it's as simple as, it's totally understandable. I feel this way right now. That is such a freeing sentence. Of course, I feel this way right now. [00:49:58] That was some serious shit that I just went through. Yeah . of course, I feel, and it doesn't have to make sense when those feelings hit the timing a lot of times feelings for me, I've found won't hit until I'm in a safe space much further down the road. Yes. And it's like being T-boned, like yes, totally out of the blue. [00:50:19] But that's also what happens to kids when they have tantrums. Ah, yeah. They'll hold. And then when they're finally either home at the end of the day or something, when the container is so full and they're finally in a place where they feel safe, they'll erupt over an orange peel not being peeled correctly. [00:50:32] Or , or a banana not being peeled correctly. Oh gosh. And it's not that, don't even start me on string cheese. God. Oh God. Parenting is fun. The best, but No, but you're right. Sometimes, I think that's probably why I cry almost with like every movie and TV show I watch. [00:50:47] Yeah. Because the emotions are just always right there and I just need a place to let it trickle out. Right. And that's okay. And I think, but just not judging ourselves for feelings. And then I think once we give that space or the feelings, the sooner we can do that, the sooner that logic, you know, like you, you mentioned multiple times, I know this, then you give logic. [00:51:13] The space that it needs to speak to you in a calm and quiet manner that you can actually trust. And that's where I think that those gut feelings truly come from. Those inner knowings are, when you've allowed space for the emotions first, given them their due. So then the logic can start to talk to you because it's never going to yell for your attention. [00:51:35] No. And I think we want it to, but that's not the way it works. And that's okay. A lot of times things make sense in hindsight, oh gosh, hindsight's 2020. Always. South Park has a great episode. If people if you have just like a dark sense of humor and you wanna laugh at, there's a character called Captain Hindsight and it's really funny. [00:51:54] . So yeah, a lot of times things don't make sense until we're. A little bit more removed from them. Yep. And some what I have found to be helpful, I've noticed you using your hands. Yeah. And I find when I am, when my mind is really active and I need it to stop or slow down or I just i'll sometimes even throw my hands up. Yeah. And I'll say, and even saying. I'm feeling something and just to myself in my kitchen. 'cause I'm almost always , because I work from home, I'm either like in my office or in my kitchen, like I'm feeling something. As soon as you did that, it's gonna show on video. [00:52:25] I like saw from the corner of my eye myself, naturally going, whew. Yeah. Just sound like inhale. Exhale. Yes. It's like something is being felt. Something's happening. I don't know what it is, but something's happening. And I think, in a lot of ways too, like that's how we have these internal smoke signals. [00:52:42] Yeah. And it's the same way, like your smoke detector in your house doesn't know the difference between burnt toast and something on fire, right? But it will beep when it senses. Yeah. When it senses something. And so my body is like sensing something. Is this a threat? [00:52:56] Are we safe? Yes, we're safe. Oh, we're likely. We just needed water. We're just dehydrated. Uhhuh. Or we just, yeah. So any number of things. But that was so good. Thank you. And yes, I would love, love, love to know your don't cut your own bang moment. And for anybody who is new to the podcast, 'cause I think there are some new people here. [00:53:15] Thank you for being here. Don't cut Your own bang moment is a moment where you went all in on something like cutting your own bangs, you grabbed some scissors, you watched a YouTube video, you're like, I got this. And you go, and then, oh no, this wasn't what I thought it would be. But the value in a don't Cut Your own Bang moment is not only that we can share in the silliness of humanity and mistakes, but also like maybe we learn something from it. [00:53:42] So, Ashlyn? Yes. I would love to hear your Don't cut your own bang moment. Oh my goodness. I think that there's probably a plethora of them. Oh, of course. And, let's see here. I'm even, I tried to have one prepared, and then I got excited about the rest of our conversation. Oh my gosh. Don't worry. So, okay I'll share one. [00:53:58] So what's a good, don't a good, oh. I invited my husband to record a podcast with me because I thought it would just be, , fun to bring him back on. And what I realized was I didn't prepare him for it at all. I just set up lights and set up a camera and asked him to sit. And he was so, visibly like he was trying, he was sitting, he was trying. [00:54:23] But I could just tell, again, something's happening. And I could tell he was a little uncomfortable and a little stiff. And I kept, because our eyes look out. My first assumption is, what's wrong out there? And I was like, what are you okay? What's wrong? And he he was , I don't really know what I'm supposed to be doing. [00:54:41] And then I was like. Oh, no, it was snip the bangs. I didn't provide any context. I didn't give him any preparation for what we'd be talking about, why we'd be talking like he had no context. And the whole setup is different, uhhuh. And it was such a humbling, settling moment of context. [00:55:04] It's I'm writing something right now about this idea of play. I'm a freedom loving, freedom seeking play hungry, greedy person right now. I want more play. I could never get enough. But what makes play feel fun and safe is to understand the context. Yeah. , There's rules in a game. [00:55:20] Otherwise, what is it? And I, my first instinct is to buck. Rules. I don't like ingredient lists. I don't like recipes. I just wanna feel my way through it. But, if you wanna make a beautiful croissant, you can't just feel your way through that. There's a very exacting way to do it. And so, it, it was such a one, I'm endlessly grateful for him and his patients with me. [00:55:40] I'm grateful that , our dynamics not new, so he probably knew what was going on, but just did yeah he's pretty sweet that way. But I, it was such a refresher that , if I wanna create a space and container to play safely with people Yeah. I need to give them the context. Absolutely. And it doesn't matter how long I've known someone, how well I know someone. [00:55:59] I laughed at myself because I, the part of the reason why it feels funny to me, but in like a humbling way. I thought the problem was him for like the first 15 minutes. I was like, what dude? Relax. I was like, what? Is he doing it right? [00:56:12] Yeah. like come on. And I was like. Oh no. Context. Zero. Oh my goodness. So that was a great one. Thank you. Okay, I'm gonna do mine in like short seconds because this one just hap this that inspired me perfectly. So my 8-year-old son and I are both going to the same therapist right now. [00:56:30] I'm a believer everybody should have at least an annual checkup with a therapist, but that's a great endorsement. Everyone should have an you annual checkup. You welcome, reach out to Danielle, she's fantastic. If you live in Indiana, by all means. If not, we'll help you find someone. Yes. And also order the book. [00:56:44] Yes, order the book. Get resting the wall risk. Get treasured. Yes. But go on please. So anyway one, one of the things that my I, the reason I love the person we're working with is because she's the first therapist I've worked with when it comes to, with my kids, she actually tells me what I can work on rather than just , you're doing the best you can and like you just love 'em. [00:57:03] And like, yes, I know, but that is not helping me. And so one of the things that got pointed out to me. Was so Cole , has very low frustration tolerance, like more so than is necessarily healthy for an 8-year-old. And of course with all the trauma with our his sister, our journey, it's understandable. [00:57:22] So we're working on that. What she kindly pointed out to me was, okay, we could work on his, but do you also realize that your tolerance for acceptable emotions is about this big? Oh, she's , therapist, be therapist Uhhuh. She's , but there's like a whole lot more emo like, she's , it's like a whole rainbow. [00:57:42] We need a whole arc for acceptable emotions. She's so you need to stop making it your responsibility to control which emotions he experiences. And it's up to you to provide the solid ground for him no matter which emotion comes up for him. And I will say that has changed my parenting in the last week. [00:58:04] More than maybe anything has like faster than anything. Because all of a sudden I'm like, of course it's acceptable that his sister just made him extremely mad. Of course it's understandable that he's jealous or sad or excited or whatever the feeling is, but it also doesn't define him as right or wrong, what emotions he's experiencing in that moment. [00:58:28] And the big thing was the realization that every emotion he experiences is not a direct reflection of who I am as a parent. No. Because that was what I needed to let go of that any emotion that is considered negative that my child has doesn't mean. That I'm doing a bad job as a parent. Oh my God. [00:58:49] That is one. What a beautiful. Don't cut. Thank you. With Dr. Sarah. Yes. Thank you, Dr. Sarah. You'd be therapizing all up in that session. That was so good. And it's the, that to me is a great example that hard truths can always be delivered with kindness. Yeah. But I think the big important thing there is you had the right context. [00:59:12] Exactly. You went to her for that information. Right. It wasn't like someone on the street. But the thing that we can't give someone what we don't have. Exactly. And I actually think that what you just said, if there was ever an endorsement for what. Self-care actually is not the commoditized, right. [00:59:29] Faux sense of, I'm gonna create a problem and I'm going to prescribe collagen. Did you know that the reason why, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah is these things that you need to buy and, oh, my program for blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm gonna, I have all that stuff. I'm not I'm wanna, I wanna keep it in perspective. [00:59:45] I am drinking the same Kool-Aid 'cause I'm getting sent the same algorithm ads that we're all getting sent. Like I'm doing colostrum now. I don't even know. Like, I just, because I was like, my gut might grow up I own, but anyway but I think self-care and the best possible context is when you nurture. [01:00:03] And heal yourself. It becomes the medicine. Yes. Yes. And the offering for the other people in your life that you love most. It's like as you increase your own palette of what you're able to allow yourself to experience, you're then also able to see it in your son and give it to him. That is so beautiful and it's hard. [01:00:26] Sometimes, but it's some God that a well timed, articulated loving truth like that can change your life. Yeah. That is amazing. Thank you. I don't know, we can't top that. That was good. We're good. That was real good. Ashlyn Thompson, thank you so much for coming back and we're going to have you back. [01:00:43] You have to come back. Yes. And you're coming over to Empowered by Hope very soon. I would love that so much. And Yes. And so all of the ways, if you or anyone you know in your life has been impacted by a little one with complex me complex medical issues and you want some support, you want some information, you want some resources. [01:01:01] The link in the show notes will have every way that you can connect with Ashlyn, her business partner, and what was formally Charlotte's Hope Foundation, what is now the Parent Empowerment Network. Pick up all the books, all the resources, everything I talked about too for my stuff is also in there. [01:01:16] But , it's all linked for you there. So I hope that you get what you need and. Thanks so much, . Oh my gosh. [01:01:21] If you've ever wanted to pick up journaling,

Dr. Martha Beck explains how the right hemisphere of the brain, through creative thinking, can be a sanctuary for those struggling with anxiety. While today's fast-paced world often frames creative expression as unproductive, learning to embrace it is crucial for improving mental well-being. In this top moment, discover how creative tools can offer emotional relief, helping you feel more calm, grounded, and connected to your true self. Listen to the full episode here - Spotify - https://g2ul0.app.link/7WH0j10fkUb Apple - https://g2ul0.app.link/enmhhX4jkUb Watch the Episodes On YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Dr Martha Beck - https://marthabeck.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Parent Lean In episode, I'm talking with Margaret Webb about a question I hear often—how can we support our neurodivergent kids in connecting with neurotypical peers, especially when social skills don't quite align? We unpack one listener's situation with her sweet, social autistic son and talk about managing our own worries as parents, scaffolding playdates so they feel more successful, and finding the right playmate fit. It's all about creating safe, supportive opportunities for connection—without putting too much pressure on anyone involved.   Debbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of TiLT Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, and the author of more than a dozen books for children and teens, Debbie's most recent book is Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope. Margaret Webb is a certified Master Life Coach, parenting coach, nature-based coach, former teacher, wife and mother. As a life and parenting coach, she weaves together her experience as an elementary education teacher with the tools she's learned in Martha Beck's Life Coach Training, Sagefire Institute's Nature-Based Coach Training, and what she's applied to her own life as a mom of a now 20-year-old autistic son. Her most recent book is Hero's Journey in Parenting: Parenting the Child You Didn't Expect While You Were Expecting.   Things you'll learn from this episode Why understanding the root causes of a child's behavior helps parents respond with empathy and effectiveness How dysregulation often stems from overwhelming emotions and energy that need safe release Why co-regulation and physical activity are powerful tools for helping children return to a calm state How a parent's calm presence can de-escalate emotional intensity and offer safety Why knowing when to step in and when to hold space without reacting is key to supporting regulation How keeping a long-term perspective can help parents navigate tough moments with more resilience and hope Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ever feel like the world's designed to keep you anxious… and stuck? You're not alone. And today's guest—Martha Beck, best-selling author and world-renowned life coach—is here to show us a gentler way forward. In this episode, Martha shares the soul-soothing, science-backed strategies from her latest book, “Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose.” We dive deep into why anxiety is on the rise (and what you can do to quiet it), how to live in a “circle world” even when life feels like a box, and the simple actions that unlock your purpose—no hustle required.

Doro and Tricia welcome Martha Beck, a New York Times bestselling author and life coach, to Health Gig, where she talks about coming from her structured, conservative upbringing to a life dedicated to exploring joy, creativity, and the complexities of anxiety. Martha delivers poignant insight on the intricate relationship we have with fear and suffering, offering advice on how to make them tools for self-development. She demonstrates how storytelling aids in understanding our emotions and unlocking problem-solving abilities, highlighting for listeners how moving beyond anxiety can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

1. Why it's important to prioritize our own needs, wants, and feelings–and how that creates freedom and peace for those we love. 2. What Glennon says was the hardest thing about telling her kids that Craig and she were getting a divorce–and how truth telling frees us all. 3. Martha's helpful strategy for how to choose freedom over fear when we're faced with a tough decision. About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a New York Times bestselling author, life coach, and speaker. She holds three Harvard degrees in social science, and Oprah Winfrey has called her “one of the smartest women I know.” Martha is a passionate and engaging teacher, known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. Her newest book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. Book: ⁠The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self⁠ Instagram: ⁠@themarthabeck⁠ Twitter: ⁠@marthabeck To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It is hard to imagine how intricate and complicated your eyes are. This episode starts with a look at some of the amazing things your eyes do and how they work to allow you to see the world. https://www.buzzfeed.com/acuvue/impossibly-cool-facts-you-may-not-know-about-yo#.kjpwxlkvO Anxiety is a huge problem. It appears more people are more anxious today than ever before. Why is that? What causes anxiety in the first place and more importantly, what can you do to lower your anxiety? Here with some wonderful insight into all of this as well as offering very practical suggestions to reduce anxiety is Martha Beck. She is a Harvard-trained sociologist and speaker who is the author of a book called Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity, and Finding Your Life's Purpose (https://amzn.to/4dyqWRV) For decades, science fiction has given us various versions of talking computers. And today we have Alexa and Siri that utilize pretty cool technology that allows you to speak a question and hear an answer back. But talking machines go back a long time and their history is fascinating. And what is the future of talking computers and machines? Have they reached their potential or is there more to come? Listen to my guest Sarah A. Bell. She is a writer and professor who studies the impact of information technologies on the world. She is author of the book, Vox ex Machina: A Cultural History of Talking Machines (https://amzn.to/4k8FfyU) We all know the importance of frequent handwashing. Still there are a few things many of us unknowingly get wrong that can put us at risk of catching or spreading germs. Listen as I explain what they are. https://www.foxnews.com/health/biggest-handwashing-mistakes-could-increase-germs-viruses PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! MINT MOBILE: Ditch overpriced wireless and get 3 months of premium wireless service from Mint Mobile for 15 bucks a month at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://MintMobile.com/something⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! FACTOR: Eat smart with Factor! Get 50% off at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://FactorMeals.com/something50off⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TIMELINE: Get 10% off your order of Mitopure!  Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Timeline.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ROCKET MONEY: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster! Go to ⁠⁠⁠https://RocketMoney.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠ QUINCE: Elevate your shopping with Quince! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns! INDEED: Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now! DELL: The power of Dell AI with Intel inside is transforming the world of pro sports! For the players and the fans who are there for every game. See how Dell Technologies with Intel inside can help find your advantage, and power your wins at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Dell.com/Wins⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Christina welcomes back Michelle to talk about real and tactical tips for navigating the chaos of summer—when there's no school or camp buffer, exchanges get messy, routines fall apart, and stepmoms often end up managing more than they expected. Michelle and Christiina talk about boundaries, managing expectations with partners, and keeping your sanity when everything feels unpredictable. What can you do now to protect your peace this summer?  Listen in! About My Guest: Coach Michelle is a high conflict resolution coach, an attorney, and a badass single mom. She helps parents disengage from high conflict relationships, getting them out of court, and stepping back into their lives. Her unique combination as a certified Martha Beck life coach, a lawyer for almost 20 years, her field of study in Psychology, and her own personal family law experience, makes Michelle a well-rounded coach, capable of helping parents learn how to disengage from a challenging and protracted co-parenting relationship.Find her on IG: coachmichellesdWebsite: www.coachmichelle.clubSo much more than a podcast!!!Instagram: @radicalstepmomspodcastSchedule with Christina: https://chatwithchristina.as.me/Become a Member: https://www.patreon.com/radicalstepmomspodcastwww.radicalstepmomspodcast.com

In this episode, Martha Beck explores how to move beyond anxiety and how curiosity turns fear into fuel. Martha dives into why anxiety can’t simply be silenced. It has to be replaced with things like creativity, curiosity, and a deep kindness towards ourselves. Key Takeaways: Discussion of anxiety versus fear and their psychological implications. Exploration of societal factors contributing to increased anxiety levels. Importance of living authentically and in alignment with one’s true self. The role of creativity and curiosity in overcoming anxiety. Neurological aspects of anxiety and the brain’s functions related to creativity. The concept of breakdowns leading to breakthroughs in personal growth. Practical techniques for managing anxiety through self-compassion and kindness. The significance of sensory experiences in activating creativity and reducing anxiety. The idea of a “creativity spiral” versus an “anxiety spiral” in personal development. Reflection on the power of imagination and intention in shaping one’s reality and life purpose. If you enjoyed this conversation with Martha Beck, check out these other episodes: How to Find Peace and Balance in Managing Anxiety with Sarah Wilson Why Anxiety is Good For You with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary For full show notes, click here! Connect with the show: Follow us on YouTube: @TheOneYouFeedPod Subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the late-1940s, con-artists Raymond Fernandez and Martha Beck used newspaper “lonely-hearts” ads to lure trusting women into deadly traps. Tonight, Kevin, Anthony, and Doug dissect how the couple's twisted love story escalated from fraud to at least three confirmed murders, why the media crowned them The Lonely Hearts Killers, and what finally brought the killers to the electric chair at Sing Sing Prison on March 8, 1951

Martha Beck is a sociologist, life coach, and an author. Why is anxiety so widespread today? It feels like nearly everyone is struggling with it in some form, but where does it come from, and what are the most effective ways to manage it or overcome it completely? Expect to learn why anxiety always lies, what most people misunderstand about how anxiety works, the true tension between anxiety and creativity and the role creativity plays in anxiety expression, how to overcome your negative inner voice, why most people get stuck when undergoing a personal transformation, how to become your trust and most authentic self, how to overcome trauma and resentment and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get a 20% discount & free shipping on Manscaped's shavers at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM20) Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: https://tinyurl.com/43hv6y59 #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: https://tinyurl.com/2rtz7avf #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: https://tinyurl.com/3ccn5vkp - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if anxiety isn't just a condition—what if it's your culture? This week, I sit down with Dr. Martha Beck, and we get real about something that most of us don't even realize we're living with every day: anxiety. Not just the clinical kind—but the kind that's been baked into our lives from childhood, from trauma, from a society that rewards burnout and worships productivity. I brought Martha on because I've been doing this work on myself. I've been noticing how I've lived in a near-constant state of stress, and the truth is, a lot of you are probably wired the same way. Martha breaks down how anxiety forms, how it's normalized in our environment, and why it thrives in our left brain—the part obsessed with control and fear. She explains how we mistake anxiety for productivity, and how our bodies carry the toll of it for decades. But here's what blew me away: she shows us how the antidote isn't force, but curiosity. That if you can activate that right side of the brain, the part that tracks instead of panics, the part that seeks instead of flees, you can start living from peace—and still be successful. We walked through her Perfect Day visualization technique, talked about accessing creativity through calm, and why kindness—especially toward yourself—is the true starting line for transformation. Not the kind of kindness that coddles you, but the kind that treats your anxious self like a scared horse: steady, soothing, safe. And you'll hear what happened when I applied these tools myself. I've been sharper, more productive, and less exhausted. That's real. This episode isn't just theory—it's a playbook. I want you to be able to say, “I am meant to live in peace.” And believe it. Because it's not either peace or productivity—you can have both. You were never meant to grind your way to worth. You were built for joy, creativity, and ease. Let's start giving ourselves permission to return to that. Key Takeaways: How anxiety becomes “normal” through trauma and culture The difference between fear and anxiety—and why it matters Why choosing peace doesn't mean sacrificing success Tools like the “Perfect Day” and “Sanity Quilt” to reconnect with purpose The role of curiosity in calming anxiety and boosting creativity How to talk to yourself like a frightened horse—and why it works This one's going to stick with you. Share it with someone who needs peace today. Max out.  

Just hearing the word "anxiety" can be enough to make you feel it. If you're someone who's struggled with chronic anxiety, panic attacks, or simply feeling safe in a world that seems far from it, this is a podcast for YOU. Here, Tami Simon speaks with renowned life coach and bestselling author Dr. Martha Beck about her new book, Beyond Anxiety. Enjoy this empowering conversation filled with science-backed techniques and spiritual insights to take a creative, whole-brain approach to freeing yourself from anxiety.  Tami and Martha discuss why anxiety can't just be ended—it must be replaced; the neurology of creativity; the left brain anxiety spiral and the negativity bias; the link between the right brain and our sense of purpose and meaning; the metaphor of the puppies and the cobra; the futility of trying to control the environment; the amygdala and the metaphor of the hall of mirrors; lovingkindness meditation; the power of a calm human voice and how to be an "anxiety whisperer" for yourself; self-care (including sleep!); HSPs (or highly sensitive people); the money excuse; the story of Griffin the therapy dog: a lesson on questioning our fears; the shift from fear to joy; the eureka effect and how the right brain "loves an impasse"; appreciation of the present moment; the mnemonic device, "KAT": kindness, art, and transcendence; and more. Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

Just hearing the word "anxiety" can be enough to make you feel it. If you're someone who's struggled with chronic anxiety, panic attacks, or simply feeling safe in a world that seems far from it, this is a podcast for YOU. Here, Tami Simon speaks with renowned life coach and bestselling author Dr. Martha Beck about her new book, Beyond Anxiety. Enjoy this empowering conversation filled with science-backed techniques and spiritual insights to take a creative, whole-brain approach to freeing yourself from anxiety.  Tami and Martha discuss why anxiety can't just be ended—it must be replaced; the neurology of creativity; the left brain anxiety spiral and the negativity bias; the link between the right brain and our sense of purpose and meaning; the metaphor of the puppies and the cobra; the futility of trying to control the environment; the amygdala and the metaphor of the hall of mirrors; lovingkindness meditation; the power of a calm human voice and how to be an "anxiety whisperer" for yourself; self-care (including sleep!); HSPs (or highly sensitive people); the money excuse; the story of Griffin the therapy dog: a lesson on questioning our fears; the shift from fear to joy; the eureka effect and how the right brain "loves an impasse"; appreciation of the present moment; the mnemonic device, "KAT": kindness, art, and transcendence; and more. Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.