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Welcome to Daily Steps from ONE Extraordinary Marriage! Each day Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo outline the simple steps that you can take to have the ultimate marriage adventure. Submit your questions by emailing dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message. You c…

Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo


    • Apr 25, 2019 LATEST EPISODE
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    DS 115: What’s Next?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2019 4:06


    Today is the last day of Daily Steps. We’ve enjoyed partnering with you and having you part of the ONE family. Over the last 9 years we have shared about sex, love and commitment on the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show. Come join us each week for all things marriage and more. Love you guys.

    DS 114: Is It Wrong for a Husband or Wife to Tell Their Spouse That They Should Lose Weight?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2019 6:12


    You're not each other’s parents instead you are each other’s partners. Treat each other with the level of respect and care bestowed upon a married couple. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 113: How Do We Keep Our Marriage Strong When We Are Living Paycheck to Paycheck

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2019 6:33


    Finances plays a role in every marriage and knowing how to keep it strong through all seasons is vital to long term fulfillment. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 112: How Do You Keep the Intimacy Lifestyle Routine When You Are Outside of Your Home?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2019 5:43


    There will be times when you are traveling together that you'll need to have a plan for staying consistent with your intimacy lifestyle Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 111: How Do You Reconcile Different Needs for Affection?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2019 6:08


    Touch is an important part of any marriage union and yet when it's overt or non-existent it can cause tension between you and your spouse. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 110: Does It Matter If We Don't Go to Bed at the Same Time?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2019 5:23


    There are many studies that conclude that going to bed together has a positive benefit on both you and your spouse. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 109: How Do You Create Intimacy with a Large Family?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2019 5:51


    As your family grows there are more moving parts which can cause a disconnect when it comes to your sexual intimacy. Even with a large family you can find time to connect. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 108: How Can I Help My Spouse Disconnect From Work and Connect With Me?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2019 6:36


    When work gets in the way of your marriage it may be time to set the vision for your marriage. Doing so can help you and your spouse have a focus other than work. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 107: How Can We Do a Sex Challenge If Our Levels of Desire Are So Different?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2019 5:02


    The time you spend with each other during a challenge serves as a way to break out of the different mindsets each of you have around sex as well as the roll you play as the high desire or low desire spouse. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 106: How Do You Keep Sex From Becoming Routine During a Sex Challenge?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 21, 2019 6:58


    Prior to starting you want to think about how you can be creative throughout your challenge. This is an opportunity for the two of you to spice up your sex life. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 105: Why Do a Sex Challenge Around a Holiday?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2019 5:27


    Holidays, celebrations, birthdays are typically a one day event. When you start or finish a challenge on one of these you'll remember it for years to come. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 104: What’s The Idea Behind a Sex Challenge?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2019 5:49


    Starting a sex challenge isn't just about sex. It's about fostering your emotional intimacy, eliminating rejection and trying something new with your spouse. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 103: How Can Scheduling Sex Benefit Our Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2019 7:01


    Honestly… scheduling sex IS spontaneous, intimate and much more! When you schedule sex your giving yourself and your spouse a way to be sexually intimate on a regular basis that is best for the two of you. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 102: How Do I Handle My Wife’s Feelings Around Her Lack of Arousal?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2019 6:40


    Arousal and what that looks like or means to you both can change over time. Having conversation around this topic is key for husband and wife to to enjoy their sexual intimacy. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 101: How Do We Maintain Our Sex Life in a Small House With Teenagers and a Baby?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2019 6:00


    Anyone who has kids knows that when kids enter the picture your sex life enters a new phase. The key is to change your mindset from “we can’t do this” to “let’s get creative”.  Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 100: Am I Out Of My Mind For Changing My Mind About Having Kids?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2019 6:19


    Kids are a big conversation for couples and it’s not a one time conversation. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 099: How Can We Keep Intimacy Alive When a Spouse Is Deployed Overseas?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2019 7:30


    No matter the circumstances you may be facing you can continue to make your marriage extraordinary when your spouse is deployed. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 098: Is It OK for a Married Couple to Use Sex Toys?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2018 9:27


    Toys can enhance sexual pleasure, create a spark and bring excitement to you sex life. Learn how to discuss your comfort level with toys in your bedroom. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 097: How Can We Do The Coffee Break If We Are Long Distance?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2018 7:13


    The Coffee Break is like a business meeting for your marriage where you talk about everything from love to logistics. You can even do it when you are long distance. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 096: How Do We Handle Cleaning Up After Sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2018 6:46


    No matter where you make love there is the clean up that comes afterwards. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 095: What If I Don't Know What I Like?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2018 6:47


    If you don’t know what you like it’s time to start your own personal sex ed class in your bedroom with your spouse. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 094: How Do I Talk to My Kids About Sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2018 7:40


    As a parent make a commitment to answer your children truthfully about sex, even if it means that you have to do a little research to answer their questions. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 093: How Can We Be Sexually Intimate When We Don’t Even Sleep Together Because of a Back Injury?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2018 6:39


    Physical limitations due to injuries can and will happen. Knowing some strategies to approach this will be beneficial to being sexually intimate. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 092: What is the Best Way to Lovingly Explain What I Would Like My Wife to Wear When it Comes to Our Sexual Intimacy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2018 7:41


    Discussing your sex life is not a one and done conversation. Healthy marriages talk about their sexual intimacy and all its many aspects on a regular basis. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 091: How Can We Make Our Words and Actions Our New Normal If We Didn’t Grow Up That Way?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2018 8:35


    When the path isn't clear it's time to cast a vision that both you and your spouse what to reach for together. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 090: How Do I Get My Husband to Wear His Wedding Ring?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2018 6:37


    The wedding ring is a circle which has no beginning or end and is therefore a symbol of infinity. It is endless, eternal, just the way love should be. And yet what happens when your spouse decides not to wear theirs. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 089: How Can I Help My Wife Shut Off Her Brain in the Bedroom?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2018 7:46


    There is a lot that is going on that there are times when the brain has a hard time focusing in on the one next to you. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 088: Do You Combine Sensation Oil in Your Oral Sex Fun?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2018 5:12


    What you use when having oral sex can help it make it more enjoyable or it can turn you off. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 087: Is It Wrong of Me to Want My Wife to Dress Skanky?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2018 5:56


    The words you choose to use can have an impact on how your spouse responds to you.  Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 086: How Do You Sleep in the Same Bed as Your Spouse When the Two of You Have Opposite Body Temps?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2018 5:56


    Not enough covers or to many covers can sometimes be a question you're asking each other. Especially when the two of you have different body temperature. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 085: How Can I Share the Importance of Maintaining One's Appearance After Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2018 5:26


    Discussing the appearence of your spouse can be a touchy topic. We share how you can bring this up to your spouse without having hurt feelings or causing resentment. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 084: How Do I Encourage My Husband to do Creative Things to Show His Love?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2018 5:57


    There may be times when your spouse doesn't know exactly what you want. Learn how to encourage him to show his love in creative ways. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 083: Can Poor Body Image Affect a Woman’s Ability to Have An Orgasm?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2018 6:04


    Body image isn’t just about what you see, it’s about how you feel about what you see. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 082: How Do We Juggle Different Work Schedules?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2018 6:16


    There are a lot of couples in the ONE family with different schedules. If this is your marriage we share what others have done to connect sexually with different work schedules. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 081: How Do You Pull Off the Logistics of Morning Sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 23, 2018 6:57


    When it comes to morning sex make sure that you discuss what this looks like for you and for your spouse. What you know helps you both to make it happen. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 080: How Do We Deal With Addiction In The Marriage?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2018 7:54


    The process of becoming clean and sober and having a healthy marriage is just that, a process, but like all processes it needs a beginning. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 079: What Do You Do When You Get to the Point When You Have Nothing to Talk About Anymore?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2018 7:42


    There can be a lot of reasons why the two of you aren’t talking and different seasons of life may lead to this time right now. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 078: Is There Such a Thing as Falling Out of Love?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2018 6:34


    The idea of falling out of love refers to love as a noun but love is a verb. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 077: How Can New Parents Make Sure They Are Still Putting in Time For Their Relationship?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2018 8:22


    The number one thing to keep in mind even from the earliest days is that your marriage is your child’s first model for what marriage looks like. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 76: How Do You Stop Your Spouse From Lying?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2018 7:23


    Some people lie out of habit, what started out as "a little white lie" or difficult has now become routine. If this is the case in your marriage it may be time to seek outside help. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 075: Is It Acceptable For Us to Have Naughty Sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2018 8:23


    Naughty is one of those words that means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Sex was designed as a way for a husband and a wife to connect in way that they cannot do with anyone else. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 074: How Do You Find Love, Specifically a Godly Man, After a Divorce?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2018 6:26


    It might seem unusual for us to answer a question about how to find a man. We have a lot of folks in the ONE family who are divorced, who are single and wanting to know what to do to have an extraordinary marriage the next time. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 073: How Do You Keep Your Sex Life Alive When You Are Trying to Conceive?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2018 6:58


    In dealing with infertility, sex can become a task. It can become all about timing and cycles and body temperature and ovulation. All about the data points and not about  the connection. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 072: How Does One Say That They Want More Sex Without Saying It?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2018 6:38


    You have made it clear that you would like to have more sex and yet your spouse isn't responding. It’s time to dig deeper into what the two of you envision for your sexual intimacy. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 071: How Do You Know When You Are Ready to Have Kids?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2018 7:01


    Getting ready to have a baby is first and foremost about making your marriage relationship strong. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 070: How Can We Possibly Get Along When it Seems Like We Have Grown So Far Apart?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 6, 2018 7:44


    When you are in a place where you feel you are far apart you may have to start at the beginning and truly get to know your spouse once again. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 069: What Do I Do About the Resentment That I Feel Having to Constantly Clean Up After My Husband?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2018 7:50


    Cleaning up after another person without any response/help or acknowledgement can easily lead to resentment. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 068: What Do We Need to Consider When Planning a Vacation for Just the Two of Us?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 2, 2018 8:30


    The most important part of any vacation is to discuss your expectations before you leave so you have an amazing time together. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 067: How Do We Share with Family That My Husband is Going to be a Stay at Home Dad?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 1, 2018 6:39


    Learning to create your own family unit, with your own traditions, values and ideals is one of the most challenging things that a couple can do and yet one of the most necessary. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 066: How Do You Build a Stronger Spiritual Life as a Couple?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2018 7:33


    Building a spiritual life is a process. It is as important as building your emotional connection, your physical connection and your financial connection. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

    DS 065: What Can I Do If My Husband Yells at Me In Front of Our Child?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2018 6:16


    There is a difference between having an argument and yelling to belittle or demean someone. Submit your question to dailysteps@oneextraordinarymarriage.com or call 858-883-8842 to leave a voice message.

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