Podcasts about marriage coaching

What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn't the argument… but the way you argue? In this episode of Married AF, we celebrate a huge milestone, 500,000 downloads, and then dive straight into one of the most important relationship communication conversations we've ever had: why so many couples are trying to win arguments instead of understanding each other.We break down the hidden communication habits quietly damaging marriages, emotional intimacy, dating relationships, friendships, and even faith conversations. From shutting down emotionally to mentally preparing your comeback while your spouse is still talking, we unpack why modern conflict resolution feels more exhausting than productive and what healthy communication actually looks like.We also walk through five practical tools for better marriage communication and healthier relationships:How to stop treating conversations like competitionsWhy undistracted presence changes everythingThe power of asking better questionsHow to find common ground even during disagreementWhy grace and truth matter in every hard conversationIf you're struggling with marital issues, emotional disconnect, intimacy challenges, recurring fights, or feeling unheard in your relationship, this episode offers practical marriage advice and support you can actually use. Whether you're newly married, dating, navigating relationship challenges, or simply trying to communicate better with the people you love, this conversation will challenge the way you think about conflict, happiness, love, and connection.This episode is packed with:Marriage adviceRelationship communicationConflict resolution toolsChristian marriage coachingEmotional intimacy insightsCommunication strategiesDating and newlywed adviceBiblical perspectives on relationships and ChristianityPractical support for healthier marriagesBecause sometimes the strongest marriages aren't the ones that never fight… they're the ones that learn how to fight without destroying each other.

How Long Do Affairs Last?When a spouse's affair keeps going, it can leave you stuck between hope, fear, and the pressure to make the right move before more damage is done. Common reactions like blaming yourself, avoiding boundaries, or copying what worked for someone else can keep you trapped longer. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how to understand your situation more clearly so you can take the next steps that actually help bring the affair to an end.What You'll Learn: How to identify the four factors that most affect how long an affair lasts  How your own security and boundaries can change what is possible in reconciliation  How to tell whether the affair is supplemental, selfish, or a replacement affair  How to choose a response that fits your marriage instead of relying on one-size-fits-all advice Want to Work With Coach Jack? If you want more clarity on what fits your specific situation, Coach Jack's Coaching Package for Ending a Spouse's Affair can help you understand the patterns in your relationship and take steady, practical steps toward reconciliation. Because every affair dynamic is different, personalized coaching can help you focus on the actions that are most likely to move things forward.Key Takeaways: You are not responsible for your spouse's affair.  Boundaries require security.  Different kinds of affairs end in different ways.  Pre-affair relationship damage affects the timeline.  A workable plan matters more than panic. Additional Resources:One-on-one consultation with Coach JackCoaching Package for Ending a Spouse's AffairA Christian Guide to Preventing and Endign Men's Affairs, by Jack Ito PhDQuiz: How Effective Are Your Boundaries?Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

In this episode of Love, Sex and Leadership, I sit down with Dr. Lee Baucom to explore how couples can rekindle connection and move beyond old patterns. We dive into what really sustains lasting love—building emotional, physical, and spiritual connection with intention—and why so many well-meaning partners get stuck repeating the same cycles. Drawing on decades of experience, Dr. Baucom brings a wise, grounded perspective on what helps relationships evolve and what quietly erodes them over time.We unpack why traditional marriage therapy often misses the mark when it stays focused on problems rather than creating a new path forward. Instead, we explore how a coaching approach helps couples design the relationship they want, practice new skills, and commit to small, consistent investments that add up. We clarify the difference between codependency and interdependence—how healthy partnership honors individual wholeness while strengthening the “us.” And we name the sneaky “pause button” so many couples hit without realizing it: that gradual drift into autopilot where connection, curiosity, and touch get deferred until “later.”Throughout our conversation, we emphasize practical moves you can make today—tiny, daily rituals of presence, appreciation, and repair that reawaken safety and desire. We talk about rebuilding trust through action, prioritizing intimacy across all three domains (emotional, physical, spiritual), and staying oriented toward growth rather than winning arguments. Dr. Baucom's guidance is compassionate and clear: relationships thrive when we lead with intention, take responsibility for our part, and keep choosing each other on purpose.We close by reflecting on how AI is reshaping intimacy, communication, and self-awareness. While technology can support learning and reflection, it can't replace what makes us deeply human—our capacity to attune, to be moved by each other, and to love with presence and authenticity. This episode is an invitation to reconnect with those capacities, build from what's strong, and create a relationship that feels alive, resilient, and deeply connected. [b]Chapters[/b]0:02 - Welcome with Lee Bocom0:53 - Recovering Therapist to Coach3:16 - Therapy vs Coaching in Marriage10:36 - Why Communication Isn't Always the Answer12:56 - Pausing to Reconnect in Marriage18:44 - Three Levels of Marital Connection21:18 - Does Compatibility Matter?26:13 - Talking Through Conflict as a Team31:07 - Codependency vs Interdependency33:37 - Fear of Abandonment and Intimacy37:23 - A Deeper Conversation on Marriage42:59 - Building Connection Habits47:03 - AI and the Writing Industry48:09 - AI as Therapist: Pros and Cons55:34 - Unpause Your Marriage and Final Thoughts

How to Save Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Pulling AwayWhen a spouse is pulling away, it is easy to panic, push for talks, explain more, and try harder in ways that create even more distance. Those reactions often lead to conflict, churning, or rejection instead of connection. In this episode, Coach Jack helps listeners understand how to slow down, stop the patterns that make things worse, and rebuild connection in a way that fits where their relationship actually is now.What You'll Learn:How to tell whether to work together with a spouse or begin making changes on your ownWhat churning looks like and how to replace it with behaviors that build connectionHow to match the current level of connection instead of moving too fast and creating more resistanceWhat makes a spouse more likely to enjoy, desire, and respect the relationship againWant to Work With Coach Jack?:The Re-Connections Coaching Package can help listeners become calmer, more connected, and more effective in the way they approach a struggling marriage. It is a good fit for those who want practical help changing the patterns that create distance and building the kind of connection a spouse can respond to.Key Takeaways:Panic behaviors create more distance.Churning is not progress.Connection comes before problem-solving.Attraction grows through pace, consistency, and desirability.Respect is built through values, follow-through, and boundaries.Additional Resources:Free Downloads to help your spouse to enjoy talking with youBooks by Coach JackRe-Connections Coaching PackageWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

 How to Reconcile When Your Wife Is Angry and Doesn't Trust You When your wife stays angry and distrustful, it is easy to push harder with logic, apologies, or pressure and end up making the distance worse. This episode helps you understand what may be driving her anger and how to respond in ways that lower defensiveness, rebuild trust over time, and keep you from giving up too soon.What You'll Learn: How to recognize different reasons your wife may be angry or unable to trust you  What to do when reassurance, logic, or repeated apologies are making things worse  How boundaries can reduce destructive patterns without becoming threats or pressure  What rebuilding connection looks like when trust has been deeply damaged Want to Work With Coach Jack? If you want help applying these principles in a steady, practical way, Coach Jack's Re-Connections Coaching Package can help you rebuild connection, improve your responses, and create the consistency needed for trust to grow again.Key Takeaways: Feelings have to be addressed at the emotional level, not argued away with logic.  Anger and distrust can come from insecurity, punishment, self-protection, or emotional detachment.  Reassurance given on demand can strengthen unhealthy testing patterns.  Boundaries work best when they are loving, consistent, and never used as threats.  Rebuilding trust usually starts with empathy, validation, connection, and time. Additional Resources: Re-Connections Coaching Package  Overcoming Neediness and Get the Love You Want, by Jack Ito PhDFree downloads to help your spouse enjoy talking with you againWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Why Is My Spouse Becoming Cold and Distant from Me?When a spouse feels cold or distant, it is easy to react with more pressure, more honesty about frustrations, or repeated attempts to fix the problem. Those responses often increase defensiveness and emotional distance instead of rebuilding closeness. In this episode, Coach Jack helps listeners look at what may be driving the distance and how to replace unhelpful patterns with behaviors that create safety, connection, and steadier progress.What You'll Learn:How to tell whether the distance may be tied to stress, substances, health issues, an affair, unavailability, or needy behaviorHow to identify relational blind spots that may be pushing a spouse further awayHow to replace criticism and arguing with behaviors that protect closeness while still addressing problemsHow to make gradual, practical changes that help a spouse feel more loved, valued, and emotionally safeBuild a Closer Relationship With Your Spouse: The Re-Connections Coaching Package helps you respond to distance in ways that can improve connection, rebuild emotional safety, and create more closeness in your marriage. It is designed to help you know what to say and do to increase your spouse's desire for you.Emotional distance often has more than one possible cause.Waiting passively rarely improves disconnection.Criticism and arguing can reduce love and closeness.Positive requests, validation, and boundaries are stronger alternatives.Small, consistent changes can create meaningful improvement.Additional Resources:Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want, by Jack Ito PhDCoaching ConsultationsContact PageWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Your husband didn't just “pull away.”He LEFT.For another woman.And now he's filing for divorce.In this Marriage Q&A, Michelle shares how she found the texts, got blindsided, and watched her husband move in with the woman he works with. No communication. No closure. Just chaos.Here's the TRUTH:It's not just a “midlife crisis.” It's an IDENTITY crisis.Prayer matters… but faith without works is dead.If there's zero contact, he has zero chance to see change.You don't beg. You create opportunities.And if you want to compete with the other woman? You don't stalk her. You don't rage at him. You outshine her by becoming the woman he'd be crazy to live without.This isn't about being desperate.It's about taking your power back and playing the long game—smart, calm, strategic.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.My Husband Lies About Everything!If your husband lies about EVERYTHING… this episode is for you.Not “big lies.”Not just cheating.The daily, stupid lies… and the massive ones too.In this Marriage Q&A, we talk to a wife who's been living with chronic, compulsive dishonesty—and what it does to trust, safety, and the decision to stay married or walk away.Cass breaks down the REAL root:why men lie to protect themselveswhy “baseline improvement” doesn't rebuild trusthow a man has to learn to tell the truth even if it costs himand why some marriages don't heal until someone stops tolerating the chaosIf you're stuck in a marriage where you can't trust a damn word… you need to hear this.Want more help? Watch the live show and get plugged into the resources.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You broke her trust—now what?In The NEW Marriage Ep388, Cass and Kathryn break down the real steps to earn back your wife's trust (and keep it). Forget the fake apologies and “nice guy” bullshit—this is about peace, emotional safety, and actual connection. If you're stuck in the blame game or sexless marriage, it's time for raw truth and real change.DM PODCAST for the next move.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.“Don't have kids, it's not worth it.”That's the brutal advice Cass grew up with—and it's wrecked generations.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep387), Cass and Kathryn rip into family trauma, the “happy wife, happy life” lie, and why sitting in your pain keeps you stuck.This is raw, honest, and the wake-up call you need to start healing and actually move forward.

Marriage Coaching or Counseling? Alone or Together?When a marriage is in trouble, it is easy to assume that any help is better than no help or that what worked for someone else should work for you. That can lead to more frustration, more delay, and more time spent in the wrong kind of support. In this episode, Coach Jack helps you sort through whether counseling or coaching fits your situation better, and whether it makes sense to work alone or involve your spouse.What You'll Learn:How to tell whether counseling or coaching is the better fit for your current situationHow to decide if working alone or together is more likely to help your marriage move forwardHow emotional control, motivation, and learning style affect the kind of support that works bestHow to recognize when a support approach is creating progress versus keeping you stuckWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you are looking for coaching, Coach Jack has 5 custom-designed Coaching Packages from which to choose. If you are not sure where to start, consultations are also available.Key Takeaways:There is no one-size-fits-all answer for marriage help.Counseling is often the better choice when emotions make daily functioning difficult.Coaching is often the better choice when emotional control is present but clear relationship skills are missing.A spouse's motivation matters when deciding whether to work together.Session progress matters more than simply staying in the same format.Additional Resources:Therapy Beyond All Expectations, by Jack Ito PhDCoaching ServicesContact PageWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Women's High Tolerance and Fracturing Their Relationship With Their Children!Women put up with more than anyone sees—men snap, and the whole family pays.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep386), Cass and Kathryn get brutally honest about why women's endless patience leads to burnout, how men's short fuse fractures their bond with the kids, and why connection—not control—is the missing piece. Real talk, real solutions.DM PODCAST for real answers.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.The Roommate Marriage Nobody Talks About!Nobody wants to admit it, but most couples are living in a roommate marriage—zero intimacy, just business partners.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep384), Cass and Kathryn go raw on trust, erectile dysfunction, sexless marriage, manipulation, boundaries, and why “closure” is a modern myth.Time to break the silence, call out the bullshit, and get your marriage off life support.DM PODCAST for the real fix.

4 Steps to Make Up After a Fight With Your Spouse Avoiding, fighting, distancing can become a cycle that slowly erodes the loving part of a marriage. After a fight, common reactions like pushing for resolution too soon, withdrawing, or trying to “win” usually make both partners feel less safe and more disconnected. In this episode, Coach Jack walks through a simple process for repairing quickly, restoring connection, and addressing the real issue without restarting the fight.What You'll LearnHow to stay steady when a spouse is upset, without escalating or chasing reassuranceHow to validate what is true in what a spouse said, without apologizing, explaining, or reopening the argumentHow to restart positive connection through low-pressure activities a spouse actually enjoysHow to shift from fighting to a better method of solving the underlying problemWant to Work With Coach Jack? If the fight cycle keeps repeating and it's hard to get back to warmth, the Difficult Partner Coaching Package will help you to rebuild connection, reduce conflict damage, and develop repair skills that hold up under stress. Coach Jack works with clients to create practical routines for calming down, reconnecting, and dealing with problems without getting pulled back into the same patterns.Key TakeawaysExpect a spouse to be upset and allow non-harmful coping behaviors.Differences in who calms down first are normal, and someone has to go first.Validation is agreement with the truth, not giving in, apologizing, or restarting the discussion.A shared positive activity often repairs faster than more talking.Preventing repeat fights requires solving the original issue with a better method than discussion during conflict.Additional ResourcesConnecting Through "Yes!" by Jack Ito PhDSelf-help QuizzesWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Stop making weak decisions that keep you stuck.In this episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep383), Cass and Kathryn go all-in on why most couples therapy fails, why “happy wife, happy life” is BULLSHIT, and how labeling your partner destroys connection. We break down narcissist triggers, cognitive distortions, and the hard TRUTH about making choices that actually move your life and marriage forward.Want real change?DM PODCAST for next steps.

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You're letting the WRONG people in your marriage—and it's killing you.This episode of The ‘NEW' Marriage (Ep381) exposes how outside voices, toxic friends, and even family sabotage your relationship.Cass and Kathryn go raw on boundaries, emotional safety, the “roommate trap,” and why you must PROTECT your marriage at all costs.Real talk, real stories, and brutal TRUTH from our latest live event—plus how to finally break free from the cycle of unhappiness.Ready to rebuild?DM PODCAST for next steps.

Are you struggling to trust yourself as you consider dating again? In Episode 432 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating, Trauma & Healing After a Narcissistic Marriage: Coaching with Kimmy," Kimmy does a live coaching session with Rex, who courageously opens up about his five-year marriage that morphed from an intoxicating honeymoon phase into a whirlwind of emotional manipulation and eventual abandonment.   Together, Kimmy and Rex explore not only the recognizable stages of narcissistic relationships—love bombing, devaluation, and discard—but also the deep psychological wounds left behind. Kimmy guides Rex through a process of understanding how childhood caretaking shaped his relationship patterns and how he can break free of the cycle to rediscover who he is beyond being "the caretaker." You'll hear: The warning signs and stages of a narcissistic relationship, including love bombing, devaluation, and discard How childhood family dynamics can set the stage for becoming a caretaker in adult relationships The emotional fallout from being in a narcissistic marriage—especially the impact on men Practical steps for rebuilding self-worth and confidence after being discarded Strategies to overcome the fear of abandonment and re-learn trust in oneself   If you find yourself getting back out there after a toxic relationship and things feel heavy, join Kimmy's co-ed Flirting Made Easy Workshop to learn how to flirt and have fun while dating.   Kimmy will teach you how to flirt without pressure, without games, and without feeling awkward. This isn't about pickup lines or pretending to be someone you're not. It's about learning how to use your body language, energy, and natural charisma to create attraction and connection.  Register here www.stophatingdating.com and grab your spot.    Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website:  https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Today we're diving into what we're all working toward: secure attachment. What does it actually look like when both partners feel safe, seen, and able to be themselves? We'll explore the markers of secure attachment in marriage, how to recognize it, and most importantly - how to build it even if you didn't start there. Secure attachment isn't about being perfect; it's about repair, trust, and showing up consistently. Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidantly attached, or somewhere in between, this episode will show you the path toward greater security in your relationship. Because earned security is possible - and it changes everything. Watch on YouTube! Happening This Week! Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When to Let a Cheating Spouse Move Back (and When it Prevents Reconciling)When a spouse says they want to come home after an affair, the relief can be overwhelming. But moving back in too quickly often restores comfort without restoring trust, increasing the risk of repeated betrayal and emotional distance. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how to rebuild love, trust, and commitment in the right order so reconciliation has a real chance to succeed.What You'll Learn:How to know whether your spouse's remorse reflects real change or fear of consequencesWhy rebuilding connection must come before living together againWhat conditions should be met before ending a separationHow to set loving but firm boundaries that protect your marriageWant to Work With Coach Jack?: If you are trying to end an affair and restore your marriage, the Ending a Spouse's Affair Coaching Package provides structured guidance to help you balance strong boundaries with meaningful relationship building. Coach Jack works with clients to communicate clearly, reduce emotional reactivity, and create the right conditions for lasting reconciliation.Key Takeaways:Remorse without action does not rebuild trust.Separation creates the conditions necessary for reconciliation.Rebuild love, trust, and commitment before living together again.Living together should be treated as a trial, not a guarantee.You must be willing to lose your marriage in order to save it.Additional Resources: A Christian Guide to Preventing and Ending Men's Affairs, by Jack Ito, PhD,7 Separation Bourndaries that Promote Reconciliation after SeparationHow to Decide Between Marriage Counseling and Marriage CoachingWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

In this episode, Christa sits down with Alli Patterson, type 8 (8-1 pairing), teaching Pastor at Crossroads Church, author of Blueprint for Belonging and How to Stay Standing, and founder of the Ignite Conference to talk about the five types of relationships we all need to thrive: your core, circle, comrades, community, and crowd. Alli, who holds a seminary degree from Dallas Theological Seminary and just also released Spirit-Led Bible Study in February 2026 (this month!), breaks down how loneliness isn't about the quantity of relationships but the quality and variety of connection. Join us as we discuss how understanding these five relationship types can transform your marriage, friendships, and sense of belonging, and why so many of us are drowning in loneliness despite having more ways to connect than ever before. Christa also shares exciting updates and contests. Plus, we're giving away 5 copies of Alli's book Blueprint for Belonging. Follow Alli on social media Instagram account below (or on another social) and let us know at melody@enneagramandmarriage.com that you did for a chance to win one of them! This conversation is for anyone who's ever felt lonely in a crowded room or wondered if their relationships are truly satisfying their soul. Alli reminds us: your relationships are the key to a thriving life and healthy attachment, don't settle for lonely. Watch on YouTube! Follow Alli Patterson on Instagram and enter the contest for a copy of her book, Blueprint for Belonging, here! https://www.instagram.com/theallipatterson/ Find Alli's books, The Spirit Led Bible Study and Blueprint for Belonging here on her website! https://www.allipatterson.com/ Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Send a textIn this insightful episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we welcome Dr. Lee Baucom, a renowned relationship coach and the creator of the globally recognized Save the Marriage system. With over two decades of experience, Dr. Baucom has dedicated his career to helping couples navigate the complexities of marriage and relationship success. He shares his journey from therapist to coach, highlighting the importance of connection in relationships and the detrimental effects of the "pause button" phenomenon that many couples experience. Dr. Baucom discusses his three dimensions of connection—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and offers practical strategies for couples to reconnect and thrive together. He also addresses common misconceptions about marriage problems, the impact of individual fears on relationships, and how one person can initiate positive change within a partnership. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that emphasizes the power of teamwork in marriage and the vital role of communication and connection. Discover more about Dr. Baucom's work at savethemarriage.com, and learn how to revive your relationship today.Want to be a guest on Living the Dream with Curveball? Send Curtis Jackson a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1628631536976x919760049303001600mosaic: Exploring Jewish Issuesmosaic is Jewish Federation of Palm Beach County's news magazine show, exploring Jewish...Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

In this episode, Christa continues the February series on Attachment Styles Meets Enneagram by walking through all nine types and exploring two critical questions: How do you attach well to yourself, and how do you attach well to your partner? She opens by acknowledging the need for God and self-regulation (and five fun Valentine's Dates!), and then we breaks down each type's unique attachment challenges and growth narratives together. Christa makes it clear that secure attachment starts internally, but you cannot give your partner what you haven't given yourself. Listen now! ❤️ We also give a final call for your chance to join the E + M Coaching Certification & Masterclass Course starting February 12th (last day for $250 off with code COACH). This episode is practical, compassionate, and grounded in the truth that real intimacy requires showing up fully, with God, with yourself, and with your spouse as we celebrate our love and marriage this month of love ❤️. Watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this conversation, Christa sits down with Kendall Mariah, author of the brand-new book This Little Fire of Mine: How Flickers of Doubt Can Spark a Bolder, Brighter Faith, to explore what happens when you stop performing faith and start living it authentically, especially in marriage. Kendall Mariah, 3, an adoptive mom, Army wife, and founder of Unapologetic Ministry, invites us to embrace holy discomfort, lean into doubt, and ask the hard questions we've been told to avoid. In this episode, they discuss how doubt can lead to discernment, why good friction is healthy in relationships, how to navigate different faith journeys with your spouse, and what it means to pursue an integrated life where your words and actions reflect the full truth of Scripture, not just on Sundays, but in your actual day-to-day marriage. Kendall says her book is about finding "a deeper, truer version of your soul," and Christa believes that when you find that truer version of yourself, you also find a truer version of your marriage. If you've ever felt the disconnect between your beliefs and your lived experiences, or if you're navigating faith questions alongside your spouse, this conversation will give you permission to embrace the journey and discover a bolder, brighter faith together as we work on deepening attachment all month long here on the pod! Watch on YouTube! Get your copy of Kendall's brand new book here! https://www.amazon.com/This-Little-Fire-Mine-Flickers/dp/1400251672 Learn about Kendall here on her website! https://kendallmariah.com/ Get connected with Kendall on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendallmariah/ Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Ready to stop being the “nice guy” and actually LEAD in your marriage?Cass and Kathryn destroy the excuses, call out the real reasons your wife disrespects you, and show you how to take back control—without miles of text messages or weak apologies. It's about TRUTH, integrity, and making decisions that actually move your marriage forward.Get the raw, real steps to leadership, connection, and a marriage where you're finally respected.

In this mini but important episode, Christa tackles the most common, and most painful, dynamic in marriage: the anxious-avoidant pairing. If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing your spouse for connection while they pull away, or if you feel overwhelmed by a partner who won't give you breathing room, this episode will help you understand why these attachment styles are magnetically drawn to each other and how the pursue-withdraw cycle keeps you stuck. In this intro episode, Christa gives practical steps each partner needs to take to break the cycle and move toward earned secure attachment. The key insight: Your Enneagram type is the engine, your attachment style is the steering, understanding both is where real change begins. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this episode gives you language for what's happening and hope that change is possible. Listen right here or watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You think you hit rock bottom?Think again. Most couples don't even see why their marriage is failing until it's almost too late.We're breaking down the ugly truth—your apology problem, your fake boundaries, and the real reason you're not having sex.Cass and Kathryn get brutally honest about their own marriage struggles, breakthroughs, and how facing the REAL issues leads to insane intimacy. Stop lying to yourself—this is the wake-up call you need.

7 Steps to Revive Your Marriage Whether You Work On It Alone or as a CoupleWhen your marriage feels disconnected or routine, it's tempting to push for change through constant discussions or waiting for your spouse to get on board. But pressure and passivity both backfire. In this episode, Coach Jack shares seven practical, enjoyable steps to restore interest and connection—whether your spouse is involved or not.What You'll Learn:How to make your spouse more interested by becoming more interestingSimple ways to reintroduce romance, connection, and enjoymentHow to shift from pursuit to attraction to avoid resistanceA step-by-step path to rebuild closeness at your own paceWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you're ready to stop feeling stuck and start reconnecting, the Re-Connections Coaching Package can help. Whether you're working on your marriage alone or as a couple, Coach Jack offers practical support to rebuild connection without pressure or conflict.Key Takeaways:Reviving a marriage doesn't require mutual effort—it starts with one person making positive changesSmall improvements done consistently can restore attraction and connectionAvoid trying to fix the relationship through talks; build it through action and behaviorTreat your spouse more like a boyfriend or girlfriend, not just a partner in choresExpect imperfections and grow the good instead of pulling all the weedsAdditional Resources:Re-Connections Coaching PackageCouples Coaching PackageSocial Skills QuizFree Lessons for WomenFree E-Book for MenWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

What if the real reason marriages fail isn't a lack of connection but years of staying silent and avoiding conflict? Licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr joins us in an attachment-based discussion to discuss her new book The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love (releases February 3, 2026). As a Type 7, Colette shares how even optimistic, future-focused types can fall into avoidant patterns, sidestepping day-to-day disputes and brushing problems under the rug to "keep the peace." We explore how silence (as well as to damaging reactivity) often lead to emotional disconnection, self-abandonment, and essentially "quiet quitting" your marriage. Drawing from attachment science and evidence-based therapies, Colette gives us tools to approach our spouse with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. Whether you're the one staying silent or living with someone who won't speak up, this conversation will show you why a good relationship is worth fighting for—and how to start having the hard conversations that create secure, lasting love. Find The Cost of Quiet wherever books are sold starting February 3rd. Watch on YouTube! Get Colette's book here! https://a.co/d/5HMlsJh Get on her email list here! https://www.colettejanefehr.com/ Visit Colette here on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/ Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we wrap up the conversation on instincts, Christa brings you a powerful episode exploring how our three instincts—self-preservation, sexual, and social—can turn dark or animal-like when we're scared, threatened, or in pain in our marriages or world, and we talk about how to slow down, stay kind stay human, godly, and loving in hard or dystopic times. Though the episode is grounded and practical, Christa addresses cognitive heuristics and mental shortcuts humans can use to dehumanize the "other" including the Halo Effect as well as examines how each instinct goes dark, self-preservation leading to hoarding, sexual instinct leading to using people, and social instinct leading to outgrouping and tribalism—and offers practical ways to stay strong in faith. Drawing on CS Lewis's wisdom that evil must be unwound bit by bit, she calls listeners to not rush the stories of pain away or abandon friends who voted differently as you fight for justice - we're one human body, and we must rise together. Watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Porn, Fantasy & The Silent Betrayal!Porn, fantasy, and silent betrayal are wrecking marriages—let's get fuckin' real.Why does therapy fail, what's the TRUE betrayal, and how do you break the cycle? Cass & Kathryn rip the lid off the “happy wife, happy life” bullshit, get raw about fantasy, lies, and what actually works to rebuild trust and connection.If you're sick of surface-level advice and want the TRUTH, this episode's for you. Listen, confront your habits, and change your marriage—NOW.

Dorothy Littell Greco, marriage ministry leader and author joins us for a powerful conversation about abandoning misogyny and misandry (disdain for all men or women) in favor of mutual flourishing in marriage, including sexual flourishing, especially since pornography use, perpetrating harm to women is rampant. Despite undeniable progress as we discover the mental loads women and men carry in the 20th and 21st centuries, misogyny and misandry are still alive in culture, often in ways more subtle and insidious than outright sexism of the past, and it shows up in marriages in ways couples don't always recognize. Statistically, misogyny especially hurts marriage intimately and sexually. In this conversation, we focus specifically on how it shows up in Christian marriages and what it costs both women and men since this is a lose-lose system where no one wins. A type 1 justice fighter with a long and successful marriage of faith and confession, Dorothy unpacks how dismantling misogyny isn't just good for women, it benefits men and marriages too, creating space for true partnership where both spouses can grow and flourish. Join us as we talk about why we need to abandon both misogyny (disdain for women) and misandry (disdain for men) in favor of a partnership that honors the image of God in both. Find Dorthy's book, "For the Love of Women: Uprooting and Healing Misogyny in America" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/55qxeyd Find Dorthy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorothylgreco/?hl=en Find Dorthy's riveting blog: https://www.dorothygreco.com/ The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠here ⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Week 3 of our January instincts series reveals the hidden fears that block intimacy for SP, SO, and SX types. Why does your SP partner hoard resources? Why does your SO spouse need constant social validation? Why does your SX partner panic when you're emotionally distant? Understanding these core fears changes everything - plus, discover how to rebuild weakened instincts instead of watching them decline. Watch here on YouTube! The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠here ⁠or at ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey and Meygan Caston, creators of the Marriage365 platform that reaches millions each week, join us as authors of the brand new book, The Marriage Habit (recommended by Dr. Gary Chapman and many others, including Christa right here)! Join us for a riveting and inspiring conversation about the ten non-negotiable habits that successful couples use to maintain and repair their relationships. After fifteen years of helping couples and working through their own deep hurt, Casey and Meygan have gained tremendous insight into the common issues couples from all walks of life face and how they choose to solve or not solve them. Drawing on user data and candid stories from couples around the world, Casey and Meygan show how we create massive results including taking a four step apology process, the sex talk, weekly regular awareness inventories to appreciate how your partner's preferences, opinions, and differences are evolving, offering unsolicited apologies that break down walls of resentment and disconnection, and removing assumptions by being clearer about the specific ways you want to be loved. Focused on action and practicality (Casey and Meygan's 7-8 pairing gifts), this couple and episode provide hope for couples in any circumstances to solve their own problems as they work to create the relationship of their dreams. Watch on YouTube! Find Casey and Meygan on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/marriage365/ Pre-order your copy of The Marriage Habit now and get $320 worth of bonuses, too! (releases Feb 3!) ⁠The Marriage Habit⁠ right here! https://a.co/d/b9ZBUjW (Get bonuses here: https://marriage365books.com/ Find Casey and Meygan's courses, app, and SO much more right here! www.Marriage365.com The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount here or at https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Send us a textSo many wives are trying to do all the right things — change their tone, fix their habits, communicate better — and still feel like they're failing.Why? Because they're starting in the wrong place.In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the critical difference between behavior modification and true transformation. She shares why surrendered heart posture is the foundation for lasting change — not just in marriage, but in your walk with God.You'll learn:Why most coaching, therapy, and self-help fall shortHow fear and pride sneak into Christian performanceWhat the Holy Spirit can do when we stop “trying harder”Practical steps to shift from control to surrenderIf you've been stuck in striving, white-knuckling growth, or trying to become the “perfect wife,” this episode will set you free. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Grab my free training here: https://chelsey.coach/highlevelwife-blueprint 2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)10+ years coaching experienceNASM-certified in Personal Training and NutritionMom of 5, Army wife 16 yearsSupport the show!The Chelsey Holm Podcast (The Chelsey Holm Podcast) It's hard to give your best when you don't feel your best- replenish your health with Ready Set Wellness: https://us.shaklee.com/site/chelseynoel/Nutrition/Ready-Set-Wellness/Ready-Set-Wellness-Bundle/p/89599

205  Why does unhappiness and irritation so often sneak into even the most loving marriages? Usually, it's through the silent killer of connection: non-acceptance.In this episode, we're diving deep into the "Acceptance Switch"—that internal shift that moves us from judging our partner's flaws to making peace with their full, messy, human selves. I share the raw truth about my two marriages: how a lack of acceptance created a cycle of shame and distance in my first, and how consciously choosing to perceive my second husband's "shortcomings" through the lens of acceptance has unlocked a level of joy and playfulness I never thought possible.We also explore:The Cultural Root of Intolerance: Why society has conditioned us to reject our partners full selves, including moods and behaviors.The "Human Inheritance": Understanding that your partner's frustrating patterns aren't personal—they are often a genetic and cultural "ball and chain" they didn't choose.The Growth Paradox: Why true growth and change in a relationship only happen after you've established a foundation of radical safety through acceptance.Acceptance vs. Tolerance: Why accepting someone's humanity is the opposite of being a "pushover."To help you kick off the year with a heart-centered reset, I'm walking you through a New Year Acceptance Process. We'll unpack the "stories" we tell ourselves about our partners and learn how to see through the fog of expectations to find the sweetness that's been there all along.Stop fighting your partner's humanness and start reaping the gifts of making peace with who your partner really is.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started here. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.

202 Want to make sure you aren't settling for unfair treatment, letting your partner's hurtful behavior fly, passively just “taking” your partners rudeness, or being a doormat? Want to stand up for yourself and proactively make sure you get the BEST treatment from your spouse, not just the scraps? Ever wondered if what I share on this podcast lets your spouse get away with too much? This episode is for YOU!!!You'll learn how, for the best marriage possible with your spouse,  you need to develop both a soft belly, and a strong back. In other words, you need an emotional skillset that allows for true open-heartedness (instead of reactivity and defensiveness) AND you need to take specific strategic "strong" actions that prevent any poor treatment and GET the loving treatment you deserve in your marriage. I generally teach more about the soft belly piece, because you can't do the strong back piece well without it–and this part does NOT get enough attention in the relationship advice/self-help world… BUT the strong back pieces (i.e. specific actions and strategies) are 100% essential, too, to have a great marriage.So listen in today to hear what those “strong back” strategies are, and how you can learn more about implementing them, and what you must also be able to do in order for them to create a truly loving connected marriage (instead of a roommate or business-partner type relationship of cold functionality). The magic lies in the combination of both a strong back and a soft belly, not one by itself. Come hear exactly what I mean.SHOW NOTESJoin Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. Take The 2 Minute Free Quiz: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage? Find out the most important place for you to focus on to make your unique marriage more loving and connected a sensitive woman.

Send us a textHave you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter?You're not doing it wrong. You're doing it right.When couples begin opening up about what doesn't feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like things are getting worse, but really… they're just getting real.That's what I explore in this week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage:“Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage.”We'll talk about:Why awareness often feels painful at firstWhat's really happening under the surface when old patterns are being challengedHow to tell if you're actually making progress (even when it feels like you're not)Why discomfort is the most reliable sign that transformation is underwayMarriage growth isn't supposed to feel easy. It's supposed to feel true.And truth — when faced with courage and compassion — is what makes intimacy possible again.If you're in that messy middle right now, take a deep breath. You're not breaking down; you're breaking open.

How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict)Your spouse won't talk about the marriage, won't go to counseling, and won't try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You'll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance.What you'll learnWhy logical arguments fail when a spouse is checked outHow unwanted pursuit and begging push a spouse farther awayHow to use the relationship continuum to understand motivationSteps that increase desire and connection without discussions or pressureWant to work with Coach Jack?If you want one-on-one help applying these steps to your situation, the Re-Connections Coaching Package gives you a structured plan to rebuild desire, attraction, and connection with a spouse who is distant or rejecting.Key takeawaysDirect pressure makes an unmotivated spouse pull back even moreAttraction and connection must improve before problem-solving worksConversations fail when your spouse wants a different outcomeDesire grows when you eliminate needy behavior and increase positive interactionAdditional resourcesConnecting through "Yes!" (book) - Learn to connect and resolve problems rather than fight about themSelf-help quizzes - great for identifying areas where you can make self-improvement that will build your marriage.Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

SWM 155 - Hookup Culture - When You Take Relationship Out of Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided.Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning - where bodies meet, but no one truly connects.I'm continuing this series exploring how, when we remove aspects of God's intent for sex, we end up with all the examples of sexual immorality we see in our world.Last time, I tackled what removing covenant from sex gets you: sex before marriage, and the fallout from that choice.Today, we're going to push that even further and look at hookup culture. At first glance it might seem like sex before marriage taken to the next level - but that expansion comes with new problems.This isn't just the removal of covenant - it's the removal of the relationship itself.Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingSpeak at an event or churchFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

One of the common behavior patterns we HSPs can be prone to is people pleasing – or partner pleasing! Interestingly, on the surface people pleasing seems lovely, it can wreak real emotional havoc and really hurt our intimate relationship over time. Today my special guest, Todd Smith, a highly sensitive person and host of the podcast,  Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People, and I are going to talk about all about people and partner pleasing: what it looks like, what it leads to (ahem, talk about resentment! And overwhelm!), why we do it, and how it affects us and our marriages. You'll hear examples of how we both have "people pleased” in our own lives and relationships, and client stories, as well.  Then we will offer several ways to break this habit or pattern, and ultimately be TRUE to yourself, more authentic and honest in your marriage, and feel more loved for who you really are.Whether you think you may sometimes fall in to people pleasing, or not, you may be surprised at what you'll learn about yourself and other people in your life as you listen to this fun, important, laughter-filled conversation. You'll come away intrigued by how much opportunity for real loving change can come from leaving this pattern in the past, and clear on how to get started. SHOW NOTES:TODD SMITH: Find Todd's website and free Stress Test HEREListen to his podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People here.HANNAH BROOKSFREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever--WITHOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

In this episode, we're getting real about something most adults never stop to unpack — the father wound. Whether your dad was absent, emotionally unavailable, or even well-intentioned but distant, the imprint he left is shaping the way you love, lead, and connect today.You'll discover how the unmet needs from your father are still influencing your marriage, your triggers, your self-worth, and even your ability to trust. This isn't about blame — it's about awareness, healing, and breaking generational patterns so your family story ends differently.In this episode, you'll learn:What the “father wound” actually is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe hidden ways it affects your marriage, intimacy, and communicationWhy so many high-achievers carry a “silent ache” from their fathersHow healing your father wound strengthens your relationship with God and your spousePractical steps to begin healing and reclaiming your emotional freedomHow to avoid creating a father wound in your own children or future children Order your GoodKind products today! Use the code DIVORCEPROOF at checkout for 10% off✨ Advent Blocks — Make the countdown to Christmas meaningful again with this intentional, hands-on way to point your family back to Jesus.

In this greatest hits episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm joined by my friend and colleague Karen C.L. Anderson for a powerful conversation about the role of healthy anger—and how to relate to it in a way that creates healing instead of harm. Karen is a master-certified life coach and author who helps smart, creative women transform their relationships with their mothers—into catalysts for growth. She's the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, one of my favorite books to recommend to clients when mom stuff comes up, and You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame (Living Free from Narcissistic Mothers and Fathers) which I also highly recommend.  Her work has also been featured in the New York Times as an expert on boundaries, and I'm so excited to share her wisdom with you. Together, we talk about the difference between immature and mature anger, how to use anger as a guide instead of something to fear, and why giving yourself permission to feel it can lead to deeper self-trust and healthier boundaries.  If anger has ever felt confusing, overwhelming, or like something you had to avoid in order to be “good,” this episode is for you. ✨ Episode at a Glance The difference between immature and mature anger What anger is often signaling—and why it matters The Anger Scale and how to use it for self-awareness The concept of the Microscopic Truth and how it helps in conflict How to process and move through anger without fear or shame The link between anger and healthy boundary-setting A powerful coaching moment from Karen that shows anger in action  

SWM 154 - Sex before marriage - when you remove covenant from intimacy. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.In my last episode, I talked about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended.However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God's plan so as to distort sex. To make it not something that's worship and creative, but rather destructive to ourselves, to each other, and to society as a whole.So, today we're going to explore sex outside of marriage, or what happens when you remove the covenant from sexual intimacy.And to be clear, the legal status of the relationship is not the big problem here. It's the intentional lifelong monogamous commitment to each other. Arguably, many marriages in the Bible are considered marriages simply because they had sex. However, sex is meant to seal a covenant, not substitute for one.Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingSpeak at an event or churchArticle as a PDF (without mention of UncoveringIntimacy.comPodcast mp3Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

 How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 2: The Right Steps) Most couples either avoid confrontation or end up fighting—but neither approach leads to lasting change. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll learn the essential steps to confront your spouse in a way that ends destructive behavior and rebuilds trust. Coach Jack explains how to set boundaries with love, reduce the risk of rejection, and forgive in a way that actually restores connection.What You'll LearnThe specific steps to confront your spouse without escalating conflictHow to set boundaries that stop damage without destroying closenessWhy people-pleasing sabotages love and respect in marriageThe right way to forgive and move forward after confrontationWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you want personalized help applying these steps to your marriage, Coach Jack's Difficult Partner Coaching Package  provides one-on-one guidance to rebuild love and security with your spouse—without fighting or begging. Additional ResourcesHow to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 1)How Effective Are Your Boundaries (Quiz)Coaching PackagesConsultationsBooksWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

198  To make your relationship better, it's absolutely essential to BELIEVE it is possible to do so. That's why I love sharing about the changes my clients see when they work with me: it helps you believe you can also make your relationship better, too! But it's even more helpful and inspiring to hear directly from these women themselves. So here's Caroline! Get ready to feel so much hope and inspiration.When Caroline came to me for 1:1 coaching, she was struggling with feeling small and insecure in her relationship, unsure it could work, afraid to fully be herself, and frustrated at her own behavior. She kept having doubts that this relationship could last. But she really wanted it to work. And it has. The relationship is so strong now, and she feels  really free to be her full self in it. She is so much happier, feels really secure, connected, and in love and loved. She feels how much power she has to continue to make things great, and has seen her partner grow a lot, too, as she has focused on her own inner work and how she shows up in the relationship. What did it take for her to get here? Listen in as she shares many gold nuggets of wisdom, pieces from her coaching journey that made all the difference for her, and tips for other HSP women to make their marriages more secure, loving, and mutually supportive.You will also hear: What things were like for her before working with me (many of which are oh-so-common for HS women)More about what has changed for her and her partner since working with meSpecific details about the nervous system work and thought work that made so much difference for her.Why is it normal to fear that this work may not “work” How she started believing coaching with me would work–and why that made all the difference in the world What made it possible for her to be so good at implementing the coaching I gave her and applying the tools.Why “leading love” works, and how much power you have as a highly sensitive woman to change your relationship for the much betterHow her partner shifted himself as she did this work, and how much sway her inner work had in how wonderful the relationship is nowWhat has been the difference for her between listening to the podcast, and direct coaching support and how therapy and coaching have been different for herWhy the structure and process of coaching with me works and makes it easy to really DO what it takes to make your relationship greatWhy she wants to have a non-sensitive brain and why “equipping” it matters for love.And lots more!You'll come away from this episode with deep insight into what so much of what I've shared on this podcast looks like applied in the real life and relationships of an HSP woman, more confidence that you really have so much power to improve things in your marriage, and a deeper sense of hope and motivation that you, too, can have a much brighter future as you do this work yourself. SHOW NOTES:Learn more about Jungle Cacao Peru HERE, or follow on instagram @junglecacaoperuHop on Hannah's Email list hereCome coach with Hannah in her private 1:1 Marriage Coaching program, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.

SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about. She'll tell you I probably ask that too often, because I'm endlessly curious about what's going on in her head.Her answer surprised me. She said, “Sex is an act of worship.”I asked her to explain, and she said, “Well, everything we do should be for God. And since you're the head of the household, just as Christ is the head of the church, then giving myself to you, serving you in this way, is like serving Christ.”That surprised me. I mean, I've taught before that sex is about more than physical release - that it's for procreation, for bonding, for comfort, for recreation, even for warding off temptation. But I don't think I've ever described it quite this way: as an act of worship.So let's unpack that. What does it mean that sex - sweaty, messy, joyful sex - could actually be worship of the God who created it?Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

197 One of the reasons so many marriages and relationships are not as good as they could be, or are really quite painful, is that we tend to approach our relationships in instinctual ways. Since instinct often comes not from our inner wisdom (that intuition's role), but from our inner protective patterning and our cultural conditioning, following our instinct in our relationship can often slowly –or quickly– erode the love and closeness in it. The truth is that building and maintaining the best possible marriage with our partner entails a lot of things that are not instinctual—that are actually quite counterintuitive!We want to embrace these counter-instinctual ways–and don't worry, over time they eventually do become natural or instinctual to do. But to embrace them, you need to know what they are, of course! So today I am going to share 18 counter-instinctual approaches or understandings that HEAL and CONNECT and lead to truly a fulfilling relationship with your partner.You'll also hear about how I followed my instinct in my first marriage until I ran into the ground, what the difference is between instinct, intuition, and skill, and how when I say counter-instinctual  approaches I also mean cutting edge, and well, simply effective. Seeing as the way we have been doing relationships for the last 70 years or more is obviously not yielding the loving, secure, mutually corroborating, deeply connected marriages we really want as women,  tune in today and learn 18 of the counterintuitive things to understand and live out to make your marriage one you feel so RIGHT in, so at HOME in, and so much LOVE in.SHOW NOTES:Take the FREE QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.  SEE WHAT PAST CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WORKING WITH HANNAH HERE.See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) 

In this episode of The Persistent Entrepreneur Podcast, host David Hill sits down with Tony Palow — the Marriage Warrior himself — to explore the principles that can strengthen marriages and transform family legacies. Tony reveals why many couples don't truly have a “communication” problem but rather a comprehension problem, how to transform stubbornness into steadfastness, and why treating marriage as a covenant instead of a contract is the foundation for lasting love. If you want to divorce-proof your marriage, strengthen your family, and create a legacy that lasts, this episode is packed with wisdom you can apply today. What You'll Learn in This Episode The difference between a contract vs. covenant mindset in marriage Why communication issues are really comprehension issues How to redeem stubbornness into steadfastness The role of vision statements in marriage, business, and life How to divorce-proof your relationship through principles, not preferences The importance of forgiveness and how men and women process it differently Practical strategies for building marriages that thrive for generations About the Guest Tony and Susan are passionate international marriage coaches with over 20 years of experience helping couples build stronger, healthier relationships. Through retreats, conferences, and one-on-one coaching, they teach kingdom principles that transform how couples relate to one another. Tony, a certified life coach with a Master's in Clinical Pastoral Counseling, and Susan, a skilled nurse, combine their expertise to offer real solutions to real issues. Married for 33 years, with five children and four grandchildren, they live out the principles they teach with authenticity and energy. Connect with Tony: facebook  Instagram About the Host David Hill is a two-time author, business coach, world-class sales trainer, top real estate broker, Ironman, and 23 years sober. His mantra is “I exist to persist,” and through The Persistent Entrepreneur Podcast, he brings inspiring conversations with relentless entrepreneurs and leaders who've mastered perseverance. Connect with David: Website: www.davidhill.ai Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidihill/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidihill YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DavidHillcoach TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@davidihill Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidihill X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/davidihill   Subscribe & Review the Podcast: Apple Podcasts: The Persistent Entrepreneur  

If you've ever wondered what marriage coaching really looks like behind the scenes—this conversation is for you. In this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm joined by my former client Amanda Gold, who vulnerably shares how her relationship transformed through coaching. Amanda opens up about the frustration and disconnection she once felt in her marriage, and the moment she realized something had to shift—not just in her relationship, but in how she was showing up for herself. Together, we unpack what it looks like to move from resentment to relief, how coaching helped Amanda reclaim her voice, and why creating emotional safety within is often the first step to creating it with your partner. ✨ If you've been stuck in a cycle of frustration or burnout in your relationship, let this episode remind you: it's possible to feel better—starting now. ✨ Episode at a Glance Amanda shares the “aha” moment that brought her to coaching Why self-silencing became a default—and what broke that pattern The Power of One and how Amanda took action without resentment What coaching actually looked like (and why it wasn't about fixing him) Building trust in herself, her partner, and the process What life and marriage feel like now: grounded, connected, and honest  

In this deeply personal and refreshingly raw episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined by my incredible wife, Jessica Hagner, for a long-overdue conversation that many of you have been asking for. After years of encouragement (and a little nudging), Jessica stepped up to the mic to help me share the real, behind-the-scenes story of our 22-year marriage. We go back to the early days of college, reliving the awkwardness of our first kiss and my embarrassing (but strategic) attempt to get her on a student committee just to spend time with her. But we don't just stay in the past. We dive deep into the challenges of our early marriage, the struggles I had showing up as a husband and father, and how Jessica's unwavering grace, direct but loving communication, and deep emotional strength helped pull us through. From parenting four boys to rediscovering connection after disconnection, we explore how we've stayed aligned, what we've learned, and why our friendship is the real heartbeat of our relationship. Whether you're a husband, wife, parent, or someone navigating the messy middle of a relationship, this episode will speak to your heart and give you practical hope that real love is always within reach, if you're willing to work for it.   TIMELINE SUMMARY [1:34] - Jessica joins the podcast for the first time—and how long it took to convince her [4:35] - The (disastrous) first kiss story from both our perspectives [10:22] - My clever scheme to get Jessica on the student committee [13:36] - Celebrating 22 years: reflections on young love and early marriage [16:05] - My struggles early on as a husband and father [20:48] - Jessica's thoughtful, respectful way of expressing hard truths [26:02] - A rough week of disconnection—and why we refuse to let it linger [29:30] - How we sense and address emotional distance before it becomes dangerous [35:31] - Replacing blame with grace: the power of constructive feedback [38:01] - Jessica's journey through self-image and how we supported each other [40:35] - Our secret weapon: friendship as the foundation [44:12] - Creating emotional safety in a marriage [46:40] - Reflections on sobriety and emotional consistency [47:17] - The role of counseling and shared tools in sustaining growth [50:21] - That time we tried swing dancing—and what it taught us about trying new things   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS Marriage Is Built, Not Found Strong relationships don't happen by accident—they're intentionally created through effort, vulnerability, and consistent choices. Love is less about fate and more about foundation, and we've learned that every season of growth requires patience and partnership. Grace Changes Everything Jessica's ability to express concerns with love instead of criticism shaped how I received them—and how I grew. Her grace didn't minimize the message; it softened the delivery so that it could be heard. When grace leads, growth follows. Friendship Is the Foundation Beyond intimacy and partnership lies a deep friendship. We laugh, challenge, and enjoy one another—whether we're hitting the gym or sitting in silence. That comfort and camaraderie anchor us in hard times and elevate the everyday. Disconnection Is a Signal, Not a Sentence We all drift sometimes—but we've trained ourselves not to tolerate that drift for long. Disconnection is simply a call to reconnect. We address it, own it, and rebuild before it becomes a pattern. Shared Growth Sustains Love What keeps us aligned is our shared commitment to grow—individually and as a couple. From therapy to new hobbies, we make space for evolution. That growth keeps the relationship fresh, resilient, and deeply fulfilling. LINKS & RESOURCES Pre-order my book Legendary Fatherhood: http://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join Our Community: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools All Podcast Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Recommended Episode: https://www.thedadedge.com/intentional-marriage     If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more families, more fathers, and more couples who need real, honest conversations like this one. Thanks for being here.