Podcasts about marriage coaching

In this mini but important episode, Christa tackles the most common, and most painful, dynamic in marriage: the anxious-avoidant pairing. If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing your spouse for connection while they pull away, or if you feel overwhelmed by a partner who won't give you breathing room, this episode will help you understand why these attachment styles are magnetically drawn to each other and how the pursue-withdraw cycle keeps you stuck. In this intro episode, Christa gives practical steps each partner needs to take to break the cycle and move toward earned secure attachment. The key insight: Your Enneagram type is the engine, your attachment style is the steering, understanding both is where real change begins. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this episode gives you language for what's happening and hope that change is possible. Listen right here or watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if the real reason marriages fail isn't a lack of connection but years of staying silent and avoiding conflict? Licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr joins us in an attachment-based discussion to discuss her new book The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love (releases February 3, 2026). As a Type 7, Colette shares how even optimistic, future-focused types can fall into avoidant patterns, sidestepping day-to-day disputes and brushing problems under the rug to "keep the peace." We explore how silence (as well as to damaging reactivity) often lead to emotional disconnection, self-abandonment, and essentially "quiet quitting" your marriage. Drawing from attachment science and evidence-based therapies, Colette gives us tools to approach our spouse with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. Whether you're the one staying silent or living with someone who won't speak up, this conversation will show you why a good relationship is worth fighting for—and how to start having the hard conversations that create secure, lasting love. Find The Cost of Quiet wherever books are sold starting February 3rd. Watch on YouTube! Get Colette's book here! https://a.co/d/5HMlsJh Get on her email list here! https://www.colettejanefehr.com/ Visit Colette here on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/ Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we wrap up the conversation on instincts, Christa brings you a powerful episode exploring how our three instincts—self-preservation, sexual, and social—can turn dark or animal-like when we're scared, threatened, or in pain in our marriages or world, and we talk about how to slow down, stay kind stay human, godly, and loving in hard or dystopic times. Though the episode is grounded and practical, Christa addresses cognitive heuristics and mental shortcuts humans can use to dehumanize the "other" including the Halo Effect as well as examines how each instinct goes dark, self-preservation leading to hoarding, sexual instinct leading to using people, and social instinct leading to outgrouping and tribalism—and offers practical ways to stay strong in faith. Drawing on CS Lewis's wisdom that evil must be unwound bit by bit, she calls listeners to not rush the stories of pain away or abandon friends who voted differently as you fight for justice - we're one human body, and we must rise together. Watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.Porn, Fantasy & The Silent Betrayal!Porn, fantasy, and silent betrayal are wrecking marriages—let's get fuckin' real.Why does therapy fail, what's the TRUE betrayal, and how do you break the cycle? Cass & Kathryn rip the lid off the “happy wife, happy life” bullshit, get raw about fantasy, lies, and what actually works to rebuild trust and connection.If you're sick of surface-level advice and want the TRUTH, this episode's for you. Listen, confront your habits, and change your marriage—NOW.

Dorothy Littell Greco, marriage ministry leader and author joins us for a powerful conversation about abandoning misogyny and misandry (disdain for all men or women) in favor of mutual flourishing in marriage, including sexual flourishing, especially since pornography use, perpetrating harm to women is rampant. Despite undeniable progress as we discover the mental loads women and men carry in the 20th and 21st centuries, misogyny and misandry are still alive in culture, often in ways more subtle and insidious than outright sexism of the past, and it shows up in marriages in ways couples don't always recognize. Statistically, misogyny especially hurts marriage intimately and sexually. In this conversation, we focus specifically on how it shows up in Christian marriages and what it costs both women and men since this is a lose-lose system where no one wins. A type 1 justice fighter with a long and successful marriage of faith and confession, Dorothy unpacks how dismantling misogyny isn't just good for women, it benefits men and marriages too, creating space for true partnership where both spouses can grow and flourish. Join us as we talk about why we need to abandon both misogyny (disdain for women) and misandry (disdain for men) in favor of a partnership that honors the image of God in both. Find Dorthy's book, "For the Love of Women: Uprooting and Healing Misogyny in America" on Amazon: https://a.co/d/55qxeyd Find Dorthy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dorothylgreco/?hl=en Find Dorthy's riveting blog: https://www.dorothygreco.com/ The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠here ⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Week 3 of our January instincts series reveals the hidden fears that block intimacy for SP, SO, and SX types. Why does your SP partner hoard resources? Why does your SO spouse need constant social validation? Why does your SX partner panic when you're emotionally distant? Understanding these core fears changes everything - plus, discover how to rebuild weakened instincts instead of watching them decline. Watch here on YouTube! The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠here ⁠or at ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey and Meygan Caston, creators of the Marriage365 platform that reaches millions each week, join us as authors of the brand new book, The Marriage Habit (recommended by Dr. Gary Chapman and many others, including Christa right here)! Join us for a riveting and inspiring conversation about the ten non-negotiable habits that successful couples use to maintain and repair their relationships. After fifteen years of helping couples and working through their own deep hurt, Casey and Meygan have gained tremendous insight into the common issues couples from all walks of life face and how they choose to solve or not solve them. Drawing on user data and candid stories from couples around the world, Casey and Meygan show how we create massive results including taking a four step apology process, the sex talk, weekly regular awareness inventories to appreciate how your partner's preferences, opinions, and differences are evolving, offering unsolicited apologies that break down walls of resentment and disconnection, and removing assumptions by being clearer about the specific ways you want to be loved. Focused on action and practicality (Casey and Meygan's 7-8 pairing gifts), this couple and episode provide hope for couples in any circumstances to solve their own problems as they work to create the relationship of their dreams. Watch on YouTube! Find Casey and Meygan on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/marriage365/ Pre-order your copy of The Marriage Habit now and get $320 worth of bonuses, too! (releases Feb 3!) ⁠The Marriage Habit⁠ right here! https://a.co/d/b9ZBUjW (Get bonuses here: https://marriage365books.com/ Find Casey and Meygan's courses, app, and SO much more right here! www.Marriage365.com The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount here or at https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Send us a textSo many wives are trying to do all the right things — change their tone, fix their habits, communicate better — and still feel like they're failing.Why? Because they're starting in the wrong place.In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the critical difference between behavior modification and true transformation. She shares why surrendered heart posture is the foundation for lasting change — not just in marriage, but in your walk with God.You'll learn:Why most coaching, therapy, and self-help fall shortHow fear and pride sneak into Christian performanceWhat the Holy Spirit can do when we stop “trying harder”Practical steps to shift from control to surrenderIf you've been stuck in striving, white-knuckling growth, or trying to become the “perfect wife,” this episode will set you free. Support the showChelsey Holm | the Wife Coach "I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God's design in marriage, motherhood, and life."Grab my free training here: https://chelsey.coach/highlevelwife-blueprint 2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)10+ years coaching experienceNASM-certified in Personal Training and NutritionMom of 5, Army wife 16 yearsSupport the show!The Chelsey Holm Podcast (The Chelsey Holm Podcast) It's hard to give your best when you don't feel your best- replenish your health with Ready Set Wellness: https://us.shaklee.com/site/chelseynoel/Nutrition/Ready-Set-Wellness/Ready-Set-Wellness-Bundle/p/89599

205  Why does unhappiness and irritation so often sneak into even the most loving marriages? Usually, it's through the silent killer of connection: non-acceptance.In this episode, we're diving deep into the "Acceptance Switch"—that internal shift that moves us from judging our partner's flaws to making peace with their full, messy, human selves. I share the raw truth about my two marriages: how a lack of acceptance created a cycle of shame and distance in my first, and how consciously choosing to perceive my second husband's "shortcomings" through the lens of acceptance has unlocked a level of joy and playfulness I never thought possible.We also explore:The Cultural Root of Intolerance: Why society has conditioned us to reject our partners full selves, including moods and behaviors.The "Human Inheritance": Understanding that your partner's frustrating patterns aren't personal—they are often a genetic and cultural "ball and chain" they didn't choose.The Growth Paradox: Why true growth and change in a relationship only happen after you've established a foundation of radical safety through acceptance.Acceptance vs. Tolerance: Why accepting someone's humanity is the opposite of being a "pushover."To help you kick off the year with a heart-centered reset, I'm walking you through a New Year Acceptance Process. We'll unpack the "stories" we tell ourselves about our partners and learn how to see through the fog of expectations to find the sweetness that's been there all along.Stop fighting your partner's humanness and start reaping the gifts of making peace with who your partner really is.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started here. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.

202 Want to make sure you aren't settling for unfair treatment, letting your partner's hurtful behavior fly, passively just “taking” your partners rudeness, or being a doormat? Want to stand up for yourself and proactively make sure you get the BEST treatment from your spouse, not just the scraps? Ever wondered if what I share on this podcast lets your spouse get away with too much? This episode is for YOU!!!You'll learn how, for the best marriage possible with your spouse,  you need to develop both a soft belly, and a strong back. In other words, you need an emotional skillset that allows for true open-heartedness (instead of reactivity and defensiveness) AND you need to take specific strategic "strong" actions that prevent any poor treatment and GET the loving treatment you deserve in your marriage. I generally teach more about the soft belly piece, because you can't do the strong back piece well without it–and this part does NOT get enough attention in the relationship advice/self-help world… BUT the strong back pieces (i.e. specific actions and strategies) are 100% essential, too, to have a great marriage.So listen in today to hear what those “strong back” strategies are, and how you can learn more about implementing them, and what you must also be able to do in order for them to create a truly loving connected marriage (instead of a roommate or business-partner type relationship of cold functionality). The magic lies in the combination of both a strong back and a soft belly, not one by itself. Come hear exactly what I mean.SHOW NOTESJoin Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. Take The 2 Minute Free Quiz: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage? Find out the most important place for you to focus on to make your unique marriage more loving and connected a sensitive woman.

Send us a textHave you ever started working on your marriage — maybe reading the books, having deeper conversations, or getting professional help — and suddenly everything feels heavier instead of lighter?You're not doing it wrong. You're doing it right.When couples begin opening up about what doesn't feel right, emotions that have been buried finally come to the surface. It can feel like things are getting worse, but really… they're just getting real.That's what I explore in this week's episode of AwakenYou in Your Marriage:“Why It Feels Worse Before It Gets Better: The Real Work of Changing Your Marriage.”We'll talk about:Why awareness often feels painful at firstWhat's really happening under the surface when old patterns are being challengedHow to tell if you're actually making progress (even when it feels like you're not)Why discomfort is the most reliable sign that transformation is underwayMarriage growth isn't supposed to feel easy. It's supposed to feel true.And truth — when faced with courage and compassion — is what makes intimacy possible again.If you're in that messy middle right now, take a deep breath. You're not breaking down; you're breaking open.

How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict)Your spouse won't talk about the marriage, won't go to counseling, and won't try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You'll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance.What you'll learnWhy logical arguments fail when a spouse is checked outHow unwanted pursuit and begging push a spouse farther awayHow to use the relationship continuum to understand motivationSteps that increase desire and connection without discussions or pressureWant to work with Coach Jack?If you want one-on-one help applying these steps to your situation, the Re-Connections Coaching Package gives you a structured plan to rebuild desire, attraction, and connection with a spouse who is distant or rejecting.Key takeawaysDirect pressure makes an unmotivated spouse pull back even moreAttraction and connection must improve before problem-solving worksConversations fail when your spouse wants a different outcomeDesire grows when you eliminate needy behavior and increase positive interactionAdditional resourcesConnecting through "Yes!" (book) - Learn to connect and resolve problems rather than fight about themSelf-help quizzes - great for identifying areas where you can make self-improvement that will build your marriage.Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

SWM 155 - Hookup Culture - When You Take Relationship Out of Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided.Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning - where bodies meet, but no one truly connects.I'm continuing this series exploring how, when we remove aspects of God's intent for sex, we end up with all the examples of sexual immorality we see in our world.Last time, I tackled what removing covenant from sex gets you: sex before marriage, and the fallout from that choice.Today, we're going to push that even further and look at hookup culture. At first glance it might seem like sex before marriage taken to the next level - but that expansion comes with new problems.This isn't just the removal of covenant - it's the removal of the relationship itself.Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingSpeak at an event or churchFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

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One of the common behavior patterns we HSPs can be prone to is people pleasing – or partner pleasing! Interestingly, on the surface people pleasing seems lovely, it can wreak real emotional havoc and really hurt our intimate relationship over time. Today my special guest, Todd Smith, a highly sensitive person and host of the podcast,  Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People, and I are going to talk about all about people and partner pleasing: what it looks like, what it leads to (ahem, talk about resentment! And overwhelm!), why we do it, and how it affects us and our marriages. You'll hear examples of how we both have "people pleased” in our own lives and relationships, and client stories, as well.  Then we will offer several ways to break this habit or pattern, and ultimately be TRUE to yourself, more authentic and honest in your marriage, and feel more loved for who you really are.Whether you think you may sometimes fall in to people pleasing, or not, you may be surprised at what you'll learn about yourself and other people in your life as you listen to this fun, important, laughter-filled conversation. You'll come away intrigued by how much opportunity for real loving change can come from leaving this pattern in the past, and clear on how to get started. SHOW NOTES:TODD SMITH: Find Todd's website and free Stress Test HEREListen to his podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People here.HANNAH BROOKSFREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever--WITHOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

In this episode, we're getting real about something most adults never stop to unpack — the father wound. Whether your dad was absent, emotionally unavailable, or even well-intentioned but distant, the imprint he left is shaping the way you love, lead, and connect today.You'll discover how the unmet needs from your father are still influencing your marriage, your triggers, your self-worth, and even your ability to trust. This isn't about blame — it's about awareness, healing, and breaking generational patterns so your family story ends differently.In this episode, you'll learn:What the “father wound” actually is and how it shows up in adulthoodThe hidden ways it affects your marriage, intimacy, and communicationWhy so many high-achievers carry a “silent ache” from their fathersHow healing your father wound strengthens your relationship with God and your spousePractical steps to begin healing and reclaiming your emotional freedomHow to avoid creating a father wound in your own children or future children Order your GoodKind products today! Use the code DIVORCEPROOF at checkout for 10% off✨ Advent Blocks — Make the countdown to Christmas meaningful again with this intentional, hands-on way to point your family back to Jesus.

In this greatest hits episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm joined by my friend and colleague Karen C.L. Anderson for a powerful conversation about the role of healthy anger—and how to relate to it in a way that creates healing instead of harm. Karen is a master-certified life coach and author who helps smart, creative women transform their relationships with their mothers—into catalysts for growth. She's the author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, one of my favorite books to recommend to clients when mom stuff comes up, and You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame (Living Free from Narcissistic Mothers and Fathers) which I also highly recommend.  Her work has also been featured in the New York Times as an expert on boundaries, and I'm so excited to share her wisdom with you. Together, we talk about the difference between immature and mature anger, how to use anger as a guide instead of something to fear, and why giving yourself permission to feel it can lead to deeper self-trust and healthier boundaries.  If anger has ever felt confusing, overwhelming, or like something you had to avoid in order to be “good,” this episode is for you. ✨ Episode at a Glance The difference between immature and mature anger What anger is often signaling—and why it matters The Anger Scale and how to use it for self-awareness The concept of the Microscopic Truth and how it helps in conflict How to process and move through anger without fear or shame The link between anger and healthy boundary-setting A powerful coaching moment from Karen that shows anger in action  

SWM 154 - Sex before marriage - when you remove covenant from intimacy. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.In my last episode, I talked about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended.However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God's plan so as to distort sex. To make it not something that's worship and creative, but rather destructive to ourselves, to each other, and to society as a whole.So, today we're going to explore sex outside of marriage, or what happens when you remove the covenant from sexual intimacy.And to be clear, the legal status of the relationship is not the big problem here. It's the intentional lifelong monogamous commitment to each other. Arguably, many marriages in the Bible are considered marriages simply because they had sex. However, sex is meant to seal a covenant, not substitute for one.Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingSpeak at an event or churchArticle as a PDF (without mention of UncoveringIntimacy.comPodcast mp3Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

 How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 2: The Right Steps) Most couples either avoid confrontation or end up fighting—but neither approach leads to lasting change. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll learn the essential steps to confront your spouse in a way that ends destructive behavior and rebuilds trust. Coach Jack explains how to set boundaries with love, reduce the risk of rejection, and forgive in a way that actually restores connection.What You'll LearnThe specific steps to confront your spouse without escalating conflictHow to set boundaries that stop damage without destroying closenessWhy people-pleasing sabotages love and respect in marriageThe right way to forgive and move forward after confrontationWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you want personalized help applying these steps to your marriage, Coach Jack's Difficult Partner Coaching Package  provides one-on-one guidance to rebuild love and security with your spouse—without fighting or begging. Additional ResourcesHow to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 1)How Effective Are Your Boundaries (Quiz)Coaching PackagesConsultationsBooksWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 1, Preventing Conflict)Do you need to confront your spouse but fear it will turn into another fight? Conflict damages marriages, but confrontation—done correctly—can actually strengthen them. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll learn why avoiding conflict doesn't mean avoiding problems, and how to address damaging behaviors in a way that fosters respect and closeness.What You'll LearnWhy confrontation is not the same as conflict and why that distinction mattersCommon mistakes people make when confronting their spouse—and how to avoid themThe three essential parts of a loving yet firm confrontationHow to set boundaries that protect your marriage without hostilityWant to Work With Coach Jack? If your spouse's behaviors are damaging your relationship, you don't have to face it alone. Coach Jack's Restore a Loving Relationship with a Difficult Spouse coaching package gives you the steps and support you need to create change while rebuilding closeness.Key TakeawaysConfrontation seeks resolution, not conflictConflict weakens marriages; loving confrontation can strengthen themBoundaries—not hostility—make confrontations effectiveTemporary anger is better than long-term damage from unresolved problemsAdditional Resources How to Make Positive Requests - Why confront when a request will do?More information on boundaries in marriageWhat's Your Conflict Style? -  Free online quizHow Effective Are Your Boundaries? - Free online quizWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

198  To make your relationship better, it's absolutely essential to BELIEVE it is possible to do so. That's why I love sharing about the changes my clients see when they work with me: it helps you believe you can also make your relationship better, too! But it's even more helpful and inspiring to hear directly from these women themselves. So here's Caroline! Get ready to feel so much hope and inspiration.When Caroline came to me for 1:1 coaching, she was struggling with feeling small and insecure in her relationship, unsure it could work, afraid to fully be herself, and frustrated at her own behavior. She kept having doubts that this relationship could last. But she really wanted it to work. And it has. The relationship is so strong now, and she feels  really free to be her full self in it. She is so much happier, feels really secure, connected, and in love and loved. She feels how much power she has to continue to make things great, and has seen her partner grow a lot, too, as she has focused on her own inner work and how she shows up in the relationship. What did it take for her to get here? Listen in as she shares many gold nuggets of wisdom, pieces from her coaching journey that made all the difference for her, and tips for other HSP women to make their marriages more secure, loving, and mutually supportive.You will also hear: What things were like for her before working with me (many of which are oh-so-common for HS women)More about what has changed for her and her partner since working with meSpecific details about the nervous system work and thought work that made so much difference for her.Why is it normal to fear that this work may not “work” How she started believing coaching with me would work–and why that made all the difference in the world What made it possible for her to be so good at implementing the coaching I gave her and applying the tools.Why “leading love” works, and how much power you have as a highly sensitive woman to change your relationship for the much betterHow her partner shifted himself as she did this work, and how much sway her inner work had in how wonderful the relationship is nowWhat has been the difference for her between listening to the podcast, and direct coaching support and how therapy and coaching have been different for herWhy the structure and process of coaching with me works and makes it easy to really DO what it takes to make your relationship greatWhy she wants to have a non-sensitive brain and why “equipping” it matters for love.And lots more!You'll come away from this episode with deep insight into what so much of what I've shared on this podcast looks like applied in the real life and relationships of an HSP woman, more confidence that you really have so much power to improve things in your marriage, and a deeper sense of hope and motivation that you, too, can have a much brighter future as you do this work yourself. SHOW NOTES:Learn more about Jungle Cacao Peru HERE, or follow on instagram @junglecacaoperuHop on Hannah's Email list hereCome coach with Hannah in her private 1:1 Marriage Coaching program, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.

SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about. She'll tell you I probably ask that too often, because I'm endlessly curious about what's going on in her head.Her answer surprised me. She said, “Sex is an act of worship.”I asked her to explain, and she said, “Well, everything we do should be for God. And since you're the head of the household, just as Christ is the head of the church, then giving myself to you, serving you in this way, is like serving Christ.”That surprised me. I mean, I've taught before that sex is about more than physical release - that it's for procreation, for bonding, for comfort, for recreation, even for warding off temptation. But I don't think I've ever described it quite this way: as an act of worship.So let's unpack that. What does it mean that sex - sweaty, messy, joyful sex - could actually be worship of the God who created it?Links in this podcast episode:Marriage CoachingFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful supporters!If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

197 One of the reasons so many marriages and relationships are not as good as they could be, or are really quite painful, is that we tend to approach our relationships in instinctual ways. Since instinct often comes not from our inner wisdom (that intuition's role), but from our inner protective patterning and our cultural conditioning, following our instinct in our relationship can often slowly –or quickly– erode the love and closeness in it. The truth is that building and maintaining the best possible marriage with our partner entails a lot of things that are not instinctual—that are actually quite counterintuitive!We want to embrace these counter-instinctual ways–and don't worry, over time they eventually do become natural or instinctual to do. But to embrace them, you need to know what they are, of course! So today I am going to share 18 counter-instinctual approaches or understandings that HEAL and CONNECT and lead to truly a fulfilling relationship with your partner.You'll also hear about how I followed my instinct in my first marriage until I ran into the ground, what the difference is between instinct, intuition, and skill, and how when I say counter-instinctual  approaches I also mean cutting edge, and well, simply effective. Seeing as the way we have been doing relationships for the last 70 years or more is obviously not yielding the loving, secure, mutually corroborating, deeply connected marriages we really want as women,  tune in today and learn 18 of the counterintuitive things to understand and live out to make your marriage one you feel so RIGHT in, so at HOME in, and so much LOVE in.SHOW NOTES:Take the FREE QUIZ: What's Your Best Next Step To Improve Your Marriage?Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form.  SEE WHAT PAST CLIENTS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WORKING WITH HANNAH HERE.See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) 

Fun Marriage Exercise to Stop Fights before They StartMost couples try to solve problems by talking, but that often leads to arguments, defensiveness, and even more distance. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll discover a fun and surprising alternative to problem-talking that actually brings couples closer: role play. Learn how this playful method can turn potential conflict into connection.What You'll LearnHow role play helps you avoid arguments while still addressing issuesA simple way to use role play to show your spouse what you wantWhy role play can quickly improve intimacy and empathy in your marriageWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you're tired of conflict and want to rebuild closeness with your spouse, Coach Jack's Re-Connections Coaching Package will help you take the right steps, in the right order, to create a loving and lasting marriage.Key TakeawaysTalking about problems often makes marriages worse, not betterRole play is fun, low-stress, and easy to try at homeSwitching roles helps couples understand each other's needs instantlySmall role play experiments can prevent fights from ever startingAdditional ResourcesCoaching Packages - Self-Assessment QuizzesWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

In this episode of The Persistent Entrepreneur Podcast, host David Hill sits down with Tony Palow — the Marriage Warrior himself — to explore the principles that can strengthen marriages and transform family legacies. Tony reveals why many couples don't truly have a “communication” problem but rather a comprehension problem, how to transform stubbornness into steadfastness, and why treating marriage as a covenant instead of a contract is the foundation for lasting love. If you want to divorce-proof your marriage, strengthen your family, and create a legacy that lasts, this episode is packed with wisdom you can apply today. What You'll Learn in This Episode The difference between a contract vs. covenant mindset in marriage Why communication issues are really comprehension issues How to redeem stubbornness into steadfastness The role of vision statements in marriage, business, and life How to divorce-proof your relationship through principles, not preferences The importance of forgiveness and how men and women process it differently Practical strategies for building marriages that thrive for generations About the Guest Tony and Susan are passionate international marriage coaches with over 20 years of experience helping couples build stronger, healthier relationships. Through retreats, conferences, and one-on-one coaching, they teach kingdom principles that transform how couples relate to one another. Tony, a certified life coach with a Master's in Clinical Pastoral Counseling, and Susan, a skilled nurse, combine their expertise to offer real solutions to real issues. Married for 33 years, with five children and four grandchildren, they live out the principles they teach with authenticity and energy. Connect with Tony: facebook  Instagram About the Host David Hill is a two-time author, business coach, world-class sales trainer, top real estate broker, Ironman, and 23 years sober. His mantra is “I exist to persist,” and through The Persistent Entrepreneur Podcast, he brings inspiring conversations with relentless entrepreneurs and leaders who've mastered perseverance. Connect with David: Website: www.davidhill.ai Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidihill/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidihill YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DavidHillcoach TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@davidihill Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidihill X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/davidihill   Subscribe & Review the Podcast: Apple Podcasts: The Persistent Entrepreneur  

If you've ever wondered what marriage coaching really looks like behind the scenes—this conversation is for you. In this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm joined by my former client Amanda Gold, who vulnerably shares how her relationship transformed through coaching. Amanda opens up about the frustration and disconnection she once felt in her marriage, and the moment she realized something had to shift—not just in her relationship, but in how she was showing up for herself. Together, we unpack what it looks like to move from resentment to relief, how coaching helped Amanda reclaim her voice, and why creating emotional safety within is often the first step to creating it with your partner. ✨ If you've been stuck in a cycle of frustration or burnout in your relationship, let this episode remind you: it's possible to feel better—starting now. ✨ Episode at a Glance Amanda shares the “aha” moment that brought her to coaching Why self-silencing became a default—and what broke that pattern The Power of One and how Amanda took action without resentment What coaching actually looked like (and why it wasn't about fixing him) Building trust in herself, her partner, and the process What life and marriage feel like now: grounded, connected, and honest  

Welcome to the Alcohol Free Marriage & More Podcast! In today's episode, we discuss our almost rock bottom moments, social media alcohol debates and are NA drinks helping to keep us drinking? Download our FREE  Marriage Meeting Guide HereGet Our FREE Beyond Spirits: 7 Tips for Starting Your AF JourneyDrink of the weekAtypique Non-Alcoholic Red Sangria Cranberry and soda with lime...on a planeEarthing MovieEarthing MatsWatch the podcast on YouTube here: Alcohol Free Marriage Podcast VideoCoach Amy on TikTokCoach Amy on InstagramGet $5 off your first Go Brewing order!Our Website: AFMPodcast.comSchedule your free discovery coaching call with Amy

196 Hope comes in various flavors. Some of them promote better relationships, and some drag them down. Hope can leave us helpless to change things, OR make us powerful agents of change in our marriages (and other areas of our lives, of course).Today you will hear about the 2 kinds of hope that don't help, and the 1 kind of hope that makes ALL the difference in your marriage–and in being able to make your marriage the loving one you want. This episode is especially for you if you've been trying and trying to make changes in your marriage for years, but you aren't seeing any real lasting change for the better. Believe me, I have been there!! Dive in to hear about what happens when we succumb to apathy, cynicism, futility, and despair, and how the way you might be relating to hope may be the same as just giving up. Learn, instead, how I use what I call Active Hope to continue to make my marriage better and better, and how you, too, can harness it, so that you come away with a relationship to hope that will drive the best kind of change between you and your partner.Everyone could use a good dose of hope and inspiration from time to time. This is yours today.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) 

June - August 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:My wife's nightclothes are killing my attractionIs using a vibrator wrong?How do I get my husband to initiate sex?Need something to spice up our sex lifeHow does scent factor into spouse selectionRecovery after pregnancyIs using classical conditioning on your spouse wrong?How do I keep myself from becoming distant from my husband? How can I talk to my husband about oral sex?Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Have a Question (form)Join the supporter's forum (donate)Manual Sex & Masturbation SurveyBecoming More Sexually Engaged (webinar)Why masturbation is a problem whether you're married or single (blog)Sexploration ListMarriage CoachingFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference!Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

195 This may be one of the most important episodes you will hear to make your marriage the one you want it to be. Especially if, like so many women, you wonder “Why should I be the one to do the work on our relationship?” Or you feel burdened or resentful that you seem to be alone in working on your marriage. Or if it just seems unfair that a lot of relationship advice is directed at women, when men have so much to learn when it comes to having a great relationship. If you're feeling that way, I get it. I've been there. AND it is making it HARDER to have the loving, connected, mutually supportive marriage you want with your spouse. In this episode, you'll hear why. And why this line of thinking is leading to an almost epidemic of women being unhappy in their marriages. What I want most is for you to feel deeply fulfilled in your relationship–and you want that too! So we've got to address this. Because trying to create deeper, better love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work. You didn't get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage. And like it or not, that means you WILL have to work for it, no matter how much your partner is also working on it. But it can be fun, even joyful. In fact, in this episode, I share how I work on my marriage every single day---with joy, passion, and feeling like it's a sacred honor that I GET to do–and how you can, too. Listen to this episode to move past the burden and resentment that comes from feeling like you have to do this work with no or very little help from your spouse, and so you can feel truly empowered to do what it takes to make your marriage what you want it to be.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) 

An affair doesn't begin in a single moment of passion—it starts with quiet compromises and subtle shifts of the heart. In this second part of their powerful testimony series, Rusty and Heather Bryant revisit the season before the confession that forever changed their marriage. With raw vulnerability, Heather shares how seemingly harmless “what if” thoughts and a craving for affirmation outside of her marriage slowly eroded her foundation and opened the door to betrayal. Rusty offers perspective from the betrayed spouse, reminding listeners that protecting a marriage begins with guarding your own heart. Together, they reveal how pride, discontentment, and the belief that you “deserve better” can become footholds for the enemy. This episode is essential for anyone seeking to understand the anatomy of infidelity—not to assign blame, but to build stronger boundaries, restore hope, and pursue a deeper walk with God. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Website Interested in Marriage Coaching? Interested in Marriage Intensives? Subscribe to TRM YouTube channel

194 Today we are shining light on an almost funny thing that goes on deep under the surface in us women, which  can really cause rifts, pain, and unnecessary suffering in our marriages to men: What I am calling Reverse Sexism in relationships. What is that, you may wonder? Tune in to find out. You will hear many examples of it, both how it has shown up in me personally, and my clients, too. You'll hear why it costs us so much, and why it happens at all, how to find it in yourself, and how to stop it from creating ever-widening rifts in your own relationship.As usual, this reverse sexism issue is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to address it – if you want the best relationship you can have with your man.  So get ready to put on your compassionate curiosity glasses and take a good (but humorous) look at yourself. Dig in.SHOW NOTES: FREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

In this deeply personal and refreshingly raw episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I'm joined by my incredible wife, Jessica Hagner, for a long-overdue conversation that many of you have been asking for. After years of encouragement (and a little nudging), Jessica stepped up to the mic to help me share the real, behind-the-scenes story of our 22-year marriage. We go back to the early days of college, reliving the awkwardness of our first kiss and my embarrassing (but strategic) attempt to get her on a student committee just to spend time with her. But we don't just stay in the past. We dive deep into the challenges of our early marriage, the struggles I had showing up as a husband and father, and how Jessica's unwavering grace, direct but loving communication, and deep emotional strength helped pull us through. From parenting four boys to rediscovering connection after disconnection, we explore how we've stayed aligned, what we've learned, and why our friendship is the real heartbeat of our relationship. Whether you're a husband, wife, parent, or someone navigating the messy middle of a relationship, this episode will speak to your heart and give you practical hope that real love is always within reach, if you're willing to work for it.   TIMELINE SUMMARY [1:34] - Jessica joins the podcast for the first time—and how long it took to convince her [4:35] - The (disastrous) first kiss story from both our perspectives [10:22] - My clever scheme to get Jessica on the student committee [13:36] - Celebrating 22 years: reflections on young love and early marriage [16:05] - My struggles early on as a husband and father [20:48] - Jessica's thoughtful, respectful way of expressing hard truths [26:02] - A rough week of disconnection—and why we refuse to let it linger [29:30] - How we sense and address emotional distance before it becomes dangerous [35:31] - Replacing blame with grace: the power of constructive feedback [38:01] - Jessica's journey through self-image and how we supported each other [40:35] - Our secret weapon: friendship as the foundation [44:12] - Creating emotional safety in a marriage [46:40] - Reflections on sobriety and emotional consistency [47:17] - The role of counseling and shared tools in sustaining growth [50:21] - That time we tried swing dancing—and what it taught us about trying new things   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS Marriage Is Built, Not Found Strong relationships don't happen by accident—they're intentionally created through effort, vulnerability, and consistent choices. Love is less about fate and more about foundation, and we've learned that every season of growth requires patience and partnership. Grace Changes Everything Jessica's ability to express concerns with love instead of criticism shaped how I received them—and how I grew. Her grace didn't minimize the message; it softened the delivery so that it could be heard. When grace leads, growth follows. Friendship Is the Foundation Beyond intimacy and partnership lies a deep friendship. We laugh, challenge, and enjoy one another—whether we're hitting the gym or sitting in silence. That comfort and camaraderie anchor us in hard times and elevate the everyday. Disconnection Is a Signal, Not a Sentence We all drift sometimes—but we've trained ourselves not to tolerate that drift for long. Disconnection is simply a call to reconnect. We address it, own it, and rebuild before it becomes a pattern. Shared Growth Sustains Love What keeps us aligned is our shared commitment to grow—individually and as a couple. From therapy to new hobbies, we make space for evolution. That growth keeps the relationship fresh, resilient, and deeply fulfilling. LINKS & RESOURCES Pre-order my book Legendary Fatherhood: http://thedadedge.com/legendarybook Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Join Our Community: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools All Podcast Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Recommended Episode: https://www.thedadedge.com/intentional-marriage     If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps us reach more families, more fathers, and more couples who need real, honest conversations like this one. Thanks for being here.

You shape your emotional experiences SO deeply. Even if you can't see it now, even if it feels like your partner is the main shaper of how you feel in your relationship, even if it seems like you are often emotionally at the effect of the world.  YOU, in fact, are the #1 source of your own emotions.This is the best news EVER. Because it means you have so much more power over how you feel in your relationship--and how the relationship goes-- than you've ever known. It's time to learn to access this power--what I call Emotional Agency. (Think of this as a follow-up episode to the last episode, Emotional Delegation 101. Although they go together, you can listen to either one first.)In this episode, you'll delve deep into the details of where your emotions really come from (likely not where you've always assumed they come from). And you'll hear many concrete examples to illustrate this essential teaching and make it clear as daylight, so you can:develop a whole new, way more empowered relationship with your emotions. start to soften, influence, and guide your emotions, regardless of outside circumstancesStart to feel way less disappointment, resentment, frustration and upset, and WAY MORE ease, love, lightness, and closeness, so you can naturally make your marriage how you want it to be.It all starts by being truly open to understanding the real source of your feelings. Everything will get better once you really understand and live this. So dig in to really get this life and love-transforming understanding.SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

192  If there has been one major underlying concept that I have woven into nearly every episode of this podcast, it is the concept of emotional delegation (or its opposite, emotional agency). BUT I've never made a podcast episode solely dedicated to making sure you understand this concept. So today is the day! I made this episode to clearly define emotional delegation for you, and help you see how it may be playing into your relationship challenges, and so you can start the journey of letting it go — because it is really the #1 underlying habit that pretty much EVERYONE falls into that hurts our relationships (and you're not going to hear about on many other relationship podcasts. I truly can't understand why this gets left out so often, because it is pretty much everything when it comes to marriage problems!)So listen in to learn:What emotional delegation is and how it completely disempowers you in your relationship.Where emotional delegation comes from (hint, both nature and nurture) and why pretty much everyone does it.Signs of what it looks like, so you can recognize if you may have this habit.Why understanding it is so important.Why emotional delegation is so detrimental, and the specific tolls that it takes on you and your relationship.My own personal stories of how it has affected me and my relationships.And what happens when you learn to stop emotional delegating, and step into its opposite: emotional agency.  As you recognize that you are emotionally delegating, you hand yourself, and your marriage, a huge win. When you stop doing it, and begin to step into emotional agency, instead, you empower yourself even more, and give your relationship the very best chance to become the truly loving one you have always wanted. So don't miss this essential episode. SHOW NOTES:Join Hannah for 4 months of private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. Leave  a review in Apple Podcasts--we are SO grateful!Get the Podcast Map by becoming a Podcast Supporter, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.

Jan - June 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Do men enjoy cunnilingus after ejaculation?Should I feel bad for refusing oral after anal?My spouse says I should accept substitutes for sexFeeling unloved due to lack of physical affectionGuilt over sexual desires shaped by past porn useWhen one spouse wants BDSM and the other doesn'tSex is loving but not exciting—can it be fixed?Why not have kids in your 40s?Survey requests on mutual masturbation and handjobsHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Have a Question (submit form)Sexploration ListTalking Dirty (ebook)Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire (post)Desire vs Willingness (post)Sexual Frequency (post)SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty SexBDSM ForumBDSM Survey ResultsMutual Masturbation Survey ResultsCunnilingus (glossary)Your Definition of Gross Changes (post)SWM 147 - Sexual CompatibilitySWM 150 - Control, Sex, and MarriageBecoming More Sexually Engaged (course)MarriedDance.com (store)CouplesMassageCourses.com (course)Marriage Coaching (service)Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference!Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

 Build a Stronger Marriage as a Couple—Without Going to Therapy Many couples think therapy is the only way to improve their marriage—but that's not always true. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll learn why therapy often stalls progress and how behavioral changes can make your marriage feel alive again. Whether you're both motivated or just one of you is, this episode will show you a better way to work together on your relationship.What You'll LearnWhy traditional couples counseling often falls short for long-term improvementHow to start making meaningful changes without analyzing your childhood or rehashing problemsExamples of two real couples who rebuilt emotional connection with simple behavior shiftsThe three principles that solve 95% of relationship problems—without debate or compromiseWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you're both motivated to reconnect as a couple, we can build the emotional connection, attraction, and respect needed for lasting change. Learn more about the Couple's Coaching Package .Key TakeawaysTalking doesn't fix a relationship—behavior doesEmotional disconnection is usually the root of problems, not communicationArguing always damages relationships, no matter how well-intentionedBeing a good match and staying desirable takes daily effortCoaching gives you tools for change, not just support or validationAdditional ResourcesLove Languages Quiz—Determine if you need compensate for a difference in love languages between you and your spouse.Couple's Coaching Package—Do you and your spouse want to get back to loving and connecting rather than talking about problems?Connecting Through "Yes!" – Jack's book on how to rebuild love and connection when your spouse is pulling awayWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

Are Your Social Skills Hurting Your Marriage? Fix Them NowMany people are sabotaging their marriages without realizing it—simply by failing to use basic social skills with their spouse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you'll learn how small behaviors like tone, body language, and validation can make the difference between growing closer or drifting apart.What You'll LearnHow poor social skills damage attraction, trust, and connectionKey behaviors that make your spouse feel relaxed and valuedWhy “being yourself” can backfire in long-term relationshipsWhat to do first if your spouse resists talking or connectingWant to Work With Coach Jack? If you're trying to reconnect with a spouse who's pulling away, improving your social skills is a foundational step. But you'll need more than just kindness to repair a broken relationship. The Re-Connections Marriage Coaching Package is designed to help you rebuild connection, attraction, and commitment in a step-by-step way—even if your spouse isn't currently trying.Key TakeawaysSocial skills protect and grow relationships—don't reserve them for strangersValidation, good listening, and tone matter more than persuasionStart with body language if your spouse resists talkingSmall talk done right leads to real connectionYou can become desirable again—but not by arguing or explainingAdditional ResourcesSocial Skills Quiz – Find out which skills need workConnecting Through “Yes!” – Learn to end arguments and build agreementWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm joined by manifestation expert, master coach, and money mentor Jamie Berman to explore how manifestation principles can help you create a more intentional, connected, and joyful marriage. We're talking about that magical mix of strategy and soulful wisdom—what I like to call practical magic. This isn't about bypassing hard things or “thinking positive” 24/7. It's about aligning your energy, your actions, and your imagination with the kind of relationship you truly want. Jamie brings a grounded, soulful perspective on manifestation—rooted in both cognitive psychology and spiritual insight. We talk about how to hold a vision for your relationship, navigate when things don't go your way, and use everyday tools like gratitude and celebration to fuel your growth together. If you've ever been curious about how manifestation principles can apply to your real-life relationship, this conversation is filled with ideas and tools you can start using today. Listen in as we explore: Why going first in your marriage isn't about doing more work—it's about claiming your power How your emotional state impacts the stories you tell yourself about your partner What we've learned from supporting clients (and each other!) through messy, beautiful relationship moments How Soul-Centered Communication and The Power of One show up when real life gets real This episode is full of laughter, real talk, and reminders that you are not alone—and you are more powerful than you know.   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Connect with Jamie on Instagram Money, Manifestation & Business Podcast Jamie Berman's Website Ep 184: Marriage Coaching Concepts: Exploring Reluctant Tolerance All In Energy & Committed Detachment Ep 48: Celebrations & Word of the Year Ep 58: The Power of One The Questions for Couples Journal Private Coaching with Maggie  

Even in the healthiest marriages, disappointment is inevitable—especially after kids. Maybe your spouse forgets something important, doesn't show up how you hoped, or just doesn't respond the way you needed in that moment. It's frustrating, lonely, and can stir up a lot of resentment if it isn't dealt with well. In this episode, I'm walking you through how I personally deal with those moments of disappointment in my own marriage, and the tools I use with clients to keep these experiences from quietly unraveling connection. If you've ever felt let down by your partner (or struggled when your partner felt let down by you), this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why disappointment hits harder after kids—and how to make sense of it How I stopped reacting and started responding when I felt disappointed The exact process I use before communicating hurt (and why it matters) How to turn disappointment into a conversation that actually strengthens your marriage What it actually takes to release resentment and rebuild connection   FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it's not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages. This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you're going to feel so seen and encouraged by it. Tune in to discover: What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day one Why bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right” How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationships The powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connection A new way to think about missed moments (and why it's never too late to reconnect) This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who's expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It's also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves.   Connect with Joanna: Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfW Website: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/ Connect with Lindsay: FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Did you know marriage counseling isn't the only way to get support for your marriage?If you've ever wanted an alternative to marriage counseling, here's an episode dedicated to explaining how marriage coaching works and how to make sure you get the results you want out of it.If you are ready to finally see the change you want in your marriage, book your clarity call with me today so we can get started!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I'm breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it's not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family. This isn't about blame—it's about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little. Tune in to discover: The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don't want to What stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it's not helping) The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentment The powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it all Conversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists   Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn't know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I'm opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.   If you've ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you've felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart. Tune in to discover: Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it) How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Mother's Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we're carrying, how little help we're getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don't solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I'm getting real about what's really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn't enough when you're carrying it all the other 364. I'll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother's Day.   Tune in to discover: Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks What your heart is actually craving (and it's not a better gift) How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role What to ask for when you're tired of holding it all alone   This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn't enough (because it's not). Let's create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter. Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you'll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I'm sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too. This isn't about ignoring real issues. It's about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you're really craving. Tune in to discover: Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don't mean something is wrong with you or your marriage What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict) The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don't push my spouse away when I'm actually craving closeness How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too! Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids  

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, I'm taking you on a dive into three powerful marriage coaching concepts: reluctant tolerance, all-in energy, and committed detachment. If you've ever felt a low-grade frustration with your partner where everything they do seems to trigger annoyance, you may be stuck in reluctant tolerance. It's that feeling of "this should be different," which creates an invisible barrier between you and your partner. Today, we explore how this dynamic erodes connection and how shifting out of it can lead to deeper appreciation. One alternative to reluctant tolerance is all-in energy, where we fully accept our partner as they are, without resentment or disdain. Using examples from personal stories and client experiences, I share how choosing to go all in—embracing our partner's quirks with love and respect—can radically change the energy in a relationship.  One eye-opening example is a client who was frustrated by her husband's habitual lying. Instead of staying in reluctant tolerance, she chose to truly accept him, and, to her surprise, his lying decreased. This unexpected result reminds us of the power of unconditional love and emotional safety to shift long-standing patterns.  Finally, I introduce the concept of committed detachment. Unlike reluctant tolerance, committed detachment isn't about resisting reality. It's about stepping into a place of self-empowerment and clarity. If you've ever felt stuck between wanting to change your partner and not wanting to leave, my highest intention is that this episode will help you find a new path forward.  Listen in to hear more about: Where reluctant tolerance comes from and how it pulls partners in different directions Why the small, seemingly insignificant moments of frustration, sighs, and eye rolls create distance in a relationship How to fully embrace your partner as they are, with appreciation instead of subtle rejection Things you can lovingly do to create surprising shifts in your partner's behavior One of THE biggest relationship killers: what it is, and how to counteract it   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Questions for Couples Journal Private Coaching with Maggie  

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you're not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you're carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I'm breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn't on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support. Tune in to discover: What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve The mistake many couples make when they're feeling disconnected Where to start when your partner isn't doing their part Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones) The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected   If you've been stuck in “I don't know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

You've probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you've even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good? In this episode, we're unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck. Tune in to discover: Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustrating The most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriage How knowing your partner's attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connection What to do if you're “insecurely attached” and don't know how to change it The #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection   Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you've gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship.   Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin   FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets   3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you've ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work.   Tune in to discover: The biggest mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and how to avoid them) Why boundaries are about YOU, not controlling your spouse What to do when your spouse resists or ignores your boundary A key mindset shift that makes enforcing boundaries easier How to set boundaries that actually strengthen connection instead of causing conflict   If boundaries haven't worked for you in the past, don't give up yet! This episode will help you set them in a way that feels good for both you and your spouse. Share it with a friend who needs this too!   FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:  https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call Follow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids