The Bird Brain Podcast

You thought being low-maintenance would earn you love.You thought showing up, being chill, not asking for much—would be enough.But when your love language is self-sacrifice and silence…You don't get peace.You get taken for granted.Let's talk about the invisible love languages—and how they backfire.

We've all heard the lines: “I'm just really busy,” “Friendship is hard,” or “You know I'm always here if you need me.” These phrases sound virtuous, even comforting—but are they actually meaningful? Or are they just passive ways to dodge the responsibility of real connection?In this episode, we unpack the culture of performative friendship—where people want credit for care they never deliver. Because sometimes, the thought doesn't count. Especially when it's never followed by action. Let's talk about what it means to actually show up.1:1 coaching www.birdbrainwellness.com

Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we're unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”

Have you ever chosen not to respond? Or bowed out of a plan without fully explaining why—and then wondered… was that petty? Or was that me protecting my peace? Today, we're unpacking the nuance between emotional self-protection and performative withdrawal—what I call The Petty Principle.”

You ever walk into your own space—mentally, spiritually, physically—and feel like you're not alone? Like someone's energy is still sitting in the room, even though they haven't been around in weeks…months…maybe even years? Yeah, today we're talking about the ghosts we don't always see—but definitely feel.”Not all ghosts are dead. Some are just people who left behind a piece of themselves… or tried to stay longer than they were supposed to.Accepting 1:1 clients: www.birdbrainwellness.com

You ever walk into your own space—mentally, spiritually, physically—and feel like you're not alone? Like someone's energy is still sitting in the room, even though they haven't been around in weeks…months…maybe even years? Yeah, today we're talking about the ghosts we don't always see—but definitely feel.”Not all ghosts are dead. Some are just people who left behind a piece of themselves… or tried to stay longer than they were supposed to.Accepting 1:1 clients: ⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com⁠

We've all been there—bending over backward for people who barely show up for us, while sidelining the relationships that are actually solid. In this episode, we dive into the difference between high priority and high quality connections. Why do we chase status, mystery, or validation from people we barely know, while neglecting the consistent, genuine folks already in our lives? Let's talk about how this pattern forms, what it says about our self-worth, and how to start choosing substance over spectacle.Accepting 101 clients: ⁠⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com

We've all been there—bending over backward for people who barely show up for us, while sidelining the relationships that are actually solid. In this episode, we dive into the difference between high priority and high quality connections. Why do we chase status, mystery, or validation from people we barely know, while neglecting the consistent, genuine folks already in our lives? Let's talk about how this pattern forms, what it says about our self-worth, and how to start choosing substance over spectacle.Accepting 101 clients: ⁠www.birdbrainwellness.com

We often pride ourselves on being the nurturers—the ones who show up, fix, soothe, and hold space. But what if that instinct to mother others is actually masking our own unmet needs? In this episode, we explore the thin line between compassion and codependency, care and control, nurture and neglect. When you're always the one pouring into others, who's replenishing you? Let's unpack how well-meaning over-giving can disconnect us from our own healing, how people-pleasing becomes mistaken for purpose, and what it really means to mother yourself. If you've ever been praised for being “the strong one” while quietly feeling depleted, this one's for you.

We often pride ourselves on being the nurturers—the ones who show up, fix, soothe, and hold space. But what if that instinct to mother others is actually masking our own unmet needs? In this episode, we explore the thin line between compassion and codependency, care and control, nurture and neglect. When you're always the one pouring into others, who's replenishing you? Let's unpack how well-meaning over-giving can disconnect us from our own healing, how people-pleasing becomes mistaken for purpose, and what it really means to mother yourself. If you've ever been praised for being “the strong one” while quietly feeling depleted, this one's for you.

Emotional disconnection doesn't always come with a dramatic exit — sometimes it shows up as silence, passive effort, or that gut feeling something's missing. In this episode, we explore the subtle signs of emotional withdrawal, why it's not always rejection, and how to stop taking it personally when someone just isn't invested.

Emotional disconnection doesn't always come with a dramatic exit — sometimes it shows up as silence, passive effort, or that gut feeling something's missing. In this episode, we explore the subtle signs of emotional withdrawal, why it's not always rejection, and how to stop taking it personally when someone just isn't invested.

They wanted the wisdom. They just didn't want to pay the invoice.In this episode, we break down the hard truth about connections that quietly run on your worth, your time, and your wisdom — all while leaving you emotionally overdrawn. If you've ever felt used, overlooked, or drained by the people who claimed to value you, this one's for you. It's time to call it what it is — and start setting the price for your peace.

They wanted the wisdom. They just didn't want to pay the invoice.In this episode, we break down the hard truth about connections that quietly run on your worth, your time, and your wisdom — all while leaving you emotionally overdrawn. If you've ever felt used, overlooked, or drained by the people who claimed to value you, this one's for you. It's time to call it what it is — and start setting the price for your peace.

Who are you when you are not struggling? What do you tell others though? Let's take a deeper dive into what our identity is centered on and what we desire for others to know about us.

Ever notice how life seems to shift every 7 years? Maybe it's not just a coincidence. In this special birthday episode, I dive into the 7-year cycle theory—why major changes in life tend to happen in phases, how to spot your own patterns, and what this means for your future. Whether you believe in cycles or not, this episode will make you reflect on the last 7 years of your life and what's next.

There comes a point where everything around you feels… off. You've outgrown the conversations, the habits, the relationships—even the dreams you once held close. But no one tells you how unnerving it is to realize that the life you built no longer fits. This episode explores the subtle and not-so-subtle signs that you're evolving past your current life, and how to navigate that uncomfortable space between who you were and who you're becoming. It's not a breakdown—it's a breakthrough in disguise.

Romantic breakups come with closure, conversations, and maybe even a dramatic playlist. But when a friend ghosts you? Silence. No explanation. Just the realization that someone you cared about has disappeared from your life. In this episode, we talk about the heartbreak of friendship breakups, why people ghost, and how to heal when you never got closure.

Self-growth is powerful—but it has its limits. We hear a lot about doing inner work, staying mindful, and focusing on self-improvement to fix relationship issues. But what if the problem isn't you? What if no amount of meditation, journaling, or self-reflection can fix a friendship that's fundamentally unhealthy?This episode breaks down the fine line between self-improvement and self-sacrifice—how sometimes, in an effort to ‘work on ourselves,' we end up justifying bad behavior from others. We'll explore when self-growth becomes an excuse to stay in toxic friendships, why setting boundaries is more important than endless self-reflection, and how to recognize when a relationship is no longer serving you.

The self-help industry is worth billions, but how much of it is actually helping? There's a fine line between personal growth and using self-help as a crutch. Some people consume endless books, courses, and podcasts but never take real action.

Ever been left with a million unanswered questions after a breakup? Closure doesn't always come wrapped in neat explanations—it's something we create for ourselves. In this episode, we dive into letting go, finding peace, and moving forward even when the last page was never written.

How do we heal patterns that feel bigger than us? When it comes to the concept of generational cycle breaking we may believe or hope that it's a simple fix, but sometimes it's more tedious and challenging.

Self-improvement is often framed as a constant upward journey, but it can feel like a never-ending battle of “not being enough.” This episode would explore the emotional and mental fatigue that comes from always striving to improve. It would validate the exhaustion people feel when they're perpetually chasing a “better version” of themselves and offer permission to pause and just be.

Is it fear-based or fruitful? Sometimes there are elements of control and even abuse that are running the dynamics of your relationships (of all kinds) and it's important to notice what is sustaining the connection.

Guys, we hit 300 episodes today!!! What a time to be alive, to be aware, and to be appreciative of the garden you tend to. In the process of building out our lives we may overlook what the most important components are to ensuring a strong foundation, a sense of self appreciation and recognition. But how? Well, I can share my truth. Tune in, Take flight

Who were you this year? Was it you? What did your relationships look like this year? What about your goals, did they align with you, or did you mistake someone else's life for yours this entire time? In the final episode of the year, let's genuinely take a moment to see what was taking place and if our truest selves were present for it.

What's your hidden love language? Do you know? I've learned I have an interesting relationship with "resistance". In my professional and personal life, there have been some tell-tell signs of where love is based on the level of resistance I was facing. But sometimes there's resistance because we don't belong there. But how do you know the difference? Tune in.

What has the movie Wicked taught me? Well, sometimes the road we see is paved with a lot of what we did not. Sometimes, how people are treated may go unnoticed, but how they respond may be the only visible thing we consider. In this episode, we unpack reactive abuse, friendship, scapegoating and so much more. Tune in. Join the wellness community: ⁠https://www.skool.com/thewellnesswing/about⁠

Perfectionism, procrastination, and imposter syndrome all have the same origin story - Fear of consequence and or getting in trouble. Whether it's life choices regarding relocating, relationships, or not responding properly, our adult lives may reveal a pivotal component of what we may have experienced.  five spots left to join the wellness wing at 50% off! -https://www.skool.com/thewellnesswing/about⁠  2 spots left for 1:1 coaching if you are looking to work on your personal growth as a team www.birdbrainwellness.com

You are what you attract... maybe. In this episode, let us debunk the very narrow idea that everything that happens to us reflects who we are inherently and what we deserve. There are important pieces worth including in that dialogue and mindset, One of the most important being: "The world doesn't revolve around me." And that's a great thing! If you are eager for more community on your healing journey, with your commitment to growth and personal development, check out my new community "The Wellness Wing" skool.com/thewellnesswing. Our first workshop is this Tuesday 11/26 7pm Est/ 4pm PST

Love, Relationships, success, can all be exciting, but htere can also be moments of fear and grief that come with it. Rest remorse, buyer's remorse, endings, and self-sabotage are all apart of this. Change is inevitable, but it's rarely straightforward. In this episode, we explore the duality of growth—how it can be both liberating and unsettling. Why does the process of transformation often feel so heavy? How do we navigate the grief that comes with letting go of what's familiar? We'll discuss: Why growth doesn't always look glamorous. The cost of change and what it demands of us. How fear and patterned behaviors keep us stuck. The difference between love, boundaries, and codependency in relationships during times of change. Join us for a deep dive into the emotional layers of transformation and how to embrace the paradox of change without losing sight of yourself. 1:1 coaching available www.birdbrainwellness.com

Why does making friends as an adult feel so challenging? In this episode, we dive into the unique social and psychological hurdles that come with building friendships later in life. From changing priorities and busy schedules to the realities of modern work-from-home culture, we explore why many adults find it tough to form new connections. We'll also discuss practical tips for meeting new people and building meaningful relationships in a world that can sometimes feel isolating. Whether you're looking to make new friends or deepen existing bonds, this episode offers insights to help you connect and thrive.

Do you think you're an adult? what do you use as the determinants? Would your relationships reflect the same? There may be necessary components that we are missing from adulthood, for one our behavior. Accepting new clients www.birdbrainwellness.com

Happy Halloween, Night Owls! Tonight we celebrate with a special story about a few friends whose traditions may have a darker history than they had hoped. Lock your doors, check your windows, and get comfortable… grab some candy… maybe check the doors one more time before you really settle in.  Written & Narrated by Isaiah Frizzelle

This episode isn't about the ability to control other people... but it is about being in control of how you navigate with people and the *truth behind some of our controlling tendencies... including self-sabotage.

Who is in the driver's seat when you are making adult decisions, you or your younger self? How do you know? How scared are you? In this episode, we talk about making grown-up decisions but leaving the little kid in charge.

There's nothing like running into an old friend from the past or simply just running from your past altogether ... Written & Narrated by Isaiah Frizzelle

How do you know you're growing? How often and how sustainable has it been for you to be uncomfortable? In today's episode we talk about the "darker" side of growth that we may not always realize is a necessary component of the entire process.

Some cities never sleep, and some spirits never rest... Lock your doors, Check your windows, and get comfortable. Written & Narrated by Isaiah Frizzelle

"Know your landmarks". When we are navigating life and going through uncomfortable change we question a lot and probably doubt even more. But if you say you want growth, your relationships will provide a generous amount of information in terms of where you are headed. Let's talk about it.

Sometimes what's getting in the way is you are putting others in the driver's seat. So are you on the journey of trying to find your purpose? Are you frustrated and overwhelmed by it? Are you asking yourself, "What am I supposed to be doing with my life?" , while simultaneously asking yourself "will they get mad at me?" When it comes to living your actual life, there may be a lot of questions that come up, a ton of uncertainty, and a ton of information along the way... So let's figure out what our purpose looks and feels like versus what someone else's approval looks and feels like.

Would you sit with you ? In today's episode, I want to explore this idea of self-rejection that we may overlook in our adult life. If I met me would I want to be my friend, partner, or person I enjoy being around? For better or worse am I currently communicating that to myself?

The past isn't always where you left it, and some offers you shouldn't refuse. The warnings we hear as kids never leave us, even when the years pass and life moves on. What happens when childhood fear reappears? Written & Narrated by Isaiah Frizzelle

So who are you choosing and why? Today's episode we unpack a hidden truth around our relationships: sometimes it's not because we even love a person, we just love the idea of not being alone. But that influences more than we realize and can be more harmful than we think.

So you've been healing, but the ground still feels unsteady under you. You may be frustrated or confused about what's happening when "I've been doing all the work." but there is more to understand about personal development than just, Love and Light. Today's episode we talk about what the "aftershocks" may feel or look like after a challenging moment or life experience.

In today's episode, we delve into the complexities of ghosting behavior and the silent treatment within our interpersonal relationships. We explore the emotional toll these actions can take, recognizing how deeply painful it can be to be on the receiving end of silence. However, we also discuss the nuanced reality of setting boundaries, particularly when it comes to disengaging from those who feel entitled to our time and energy. This episode is all about respecting our relationships while acknowledging the fine line between self-protection and emotional harm.

t's been six years and truly a journey so what Have I been learning along the way that seems most familiar?

In this day and time, the poison we drink is posturing like we don't have needs or feel like it's shameful to have any at all. In today's episode, I talk about how not having needs may be keeping you in relationships that are harming you long-term and habits that may be keeping you unhealthy.

In today's episode, I unpack the impact of societal status that being in a relationship or not has. In society, not being coupled implies a level of insignificance or incompetence compared to those in relationships, however, there are dynamics and blindspots at play that are not being considered. accepting new 1:1 clients www.birdbrainwellness.com

It's just television ... or is it? Sometimes our guilty pleasures have consequences. Written & Narrated by Isaiah Frizzelle

In today's episode, we discuss this concept and the dynamic of para-social relationships. What does it mean? What does it look like? what are my interpersonal relationships? I also discuss this idea of what may be the hindrance of relationships or what makes them work. 1:1 coaching www.birdbrainwellness.com