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In this episode of The Skeptical Shaman podcast, host Rachel White (of TOTEM Readings), chats with the incredible Vanessa Reiser: licensed clinical social worker, narcissistic abuse survivor and author of the incredible new book Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People.Vanessa is the human embodiment of the phrase: "New levels, new devils", having been shot into the world of narcissistic abuse-- and helping others in healing from it-- after a terribly abusive romantic relationship with a...drumroll please...NARCISSIST!Vanessa is the best-- and we were so pumped to close this season of The Skeptical Shaman podcast out on the same note we brought it in: identifying narcissistic abuse, freeing ourselves of it, and recovering and healing after the trauma. Rachel's LINKS:Rachel's Website: https://www.totemreadings.comTOTEM Readings Substack: https://totemrach.substack.comRachel's Other Links: https://linktr.ee/totemrachOur Sponsors' LINKS:The TOTEM Flower Essence Deck: https://a.co/d/gw16LsGThe TOTEM Tarot Deck: https://www.amazon.com/TOTEM-Tarot-Deck-Rachel-White/dp/0578980126The TOTEM Flower Essences: https://www.etsy.com/shop/TotemReadingsATXTOTEM Spiritual Transformation Coaching: https://www.totemreadings.com/coachingTOTEM Business of Woo Mentoring: https://www.totemreadings.com/business-of-wooVanessa's LINKS:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/VanessareiserWebsite: Tellatherapist.netWebsite: Tellatherapist.orgWebsite: Tellalifecoach.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw/Please note: The views and opinions expressed on The Skeptical Shaman do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, protected class, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. And remember: sticks and stones may break our bones, but words—or discussions of religious or spiritual topics-- will never hurt us.
Watch/Listen to this and all episodes ad free by joining the ITBR Patreon and get a free trial for the ITBR Professor level! patreon.com/ivorytowerboilerroom Vanessa M. Reiser, a licensed clinical social worker, enters the ITBR to talk about her book Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. Vanessa discusses the typical behaviors and thought patterns of narcissists, including their inability to handle criticism, their tendency to retaliate, and their desire for constant attention and validation. She advises on strategies for identifying and protecting oneself from narcissistic abuse.She explains how narcissistic traits can enable success in certain professions like business, politics, and the military, and how this dynamic has played out in the current political climate. You can find Vanessa's book here: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative PeopleBe sure to follow Vanessa on Instagram, @vanessareiserlcsw. Follow ITBR on IG,@ivorytowerboilerroom and TikTok,@ivorytowerboilerroomOur Sponsors:To subscribe to The Gay and Lesbian Review visit glreview.org. Click Subscribe and enter promo code ITBR50 to receive 50% off any print or digital subscription. Follow them on IG,@theglreview.Head to Broadview Press, an independent academic publisher, for all your humanities related books. Use code ivorytower for 20% off yourbroadviewpress.com order. Follow them on IG,@broadviewpress.Follow That Ol' Gay Classic Cinema on IG,@thatolgayclassiccinema Listen here:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/that-ol-gay-classic-cinema/id1652125150Thanks to the ITBR team! Dr. Andrew Rimby (Host and Director), Mary DiPipi (Chief Contributor), and Christian Garcia (Editor)
What triggers envy for you? How do you turn envy into action? Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it's packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today's challenges. One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, We Who Wrestle With God. He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what's possible. Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don't fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build a Life of Integrity How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals How to Practice Gratitude Daily How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation 08::13 Escaping A Limited Reality 09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root 13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths 18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths 21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People 24:16 PTSD And Its Impact 27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity 37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery 40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking 47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision 52:56 The Dangers of Envy 55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy 59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth 1:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening 1:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth 1:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress 01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement 01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today 01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5 Episode Resources: Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Website Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | YouTube Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Instagram Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Facebook Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | TikTok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Today on the show, we have Vanessa Reiser. Vanessa is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of the nonprofit TellaTherapist.org. She is also a long-distance runner and two-time Ironman who is best known for running the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days) in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse and a psychotherapist in private practice, Vanessa now specializes in narcissistic personality disorder, and her practice focuses on treating victims and survivors of cults, narcissists, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. Vanessa can be found online, sharing life-changing information that is educational and accessible. Her new book, is titled: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. Get 10 FREE meals at HelloFresh.com/freecwpodcast — Applied across 7 boxes, new subscribers only, varies by plan. That's 10 free HelloFresh meals, just go to HelloFresh.com/freecwpodcast Timeline is offering 10% off your first order of Mitopure. Go to timeline.com/courageous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
If there's a disease that captures the toxic spirit of our times, it's what the therapist, Vanessa Resier, in her new book, calls Narcissistic Abuse. Even the language of this disease - Gaslighting. Love bombing. Hoovering. Triangulating - has become part of the dictionary of life in the 2020's. Narcissism and narcissists seem to be everywhere these days. In fact, as Resier told me (see full transcript below), all domestic abuse - from outright violence to subtle manipulation - is a form of narcissistic abuse. But if that's true, I asked her, then what, exactly, isn't narcissism?Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC as well as the founder of the nonprofit, Tell a Therapist, INC. Vanessa holds a bachelor's degree in political science from SUNY Empire State college and a Master of Social Work (MSM) from the University of Southern California. Vanessa specializes in narcissistic personality disorder, and her practice focuses on treating victims and survivors of cults, narcissists, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. Vanessa is a long-distance runner and two-time Ironman who is best known for running the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days) in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse.Named as one of the "100 most connected men" by GQ magazine, Andrew Keen is amongst the world's best known broadcasters and commentators. In addition to presenting KEEN ON, he is the host of the long-running How To Fix Democracy show. He is also the author of four prescient books about digital technology: CULT OF THE AMATEUR, DIGITAL VERTIGO, THE INTERNET IS NOT THE ANSWER and HOW TO FIX THE FUTURE. Andrew lives in San Francisco, is married to Cassandra Knight, Google's VP of Litigation & Discovery, and has two grown children.TRANSCRIPTAndrew Keen: Hello, everybody. Long-time viewers and listeners to the show know that I have a particular interest in words. Certain words acquire fashion, and I'm always curious why. One word that seems to be particularly popular these days, gets thrown around a lot, both clinically and out of the psychotherapist's office, is the word “narcissist.” There's a new book out this week. It's called Narcissistic Abuse. It's by my guest, Vanessa M. Reiser. She is a clinical social worker, a psychotherapist based in central New Jersey. And she's joining us. Vanessa, congratulations on the new book. This word narcissist. You're all too familiar with it, of course, everyone throws it around. Do you think it's particularly fashionable these days, or is that my imagination?Vanessa Reiser: I think it is definitely a word that is misunderstood. So, to your point, I think people use it in a way or in a regard that is not totally accurate. So, somebody who has narcissistic personality disorder. Has a list of characteristics that are very specific, very hazardous. It's not just somebody who is into taking selfies, or that we might think the word is in reference to. So, there are pretty serious characteristics that they possess. If somebody has a pathological disorder.Keen: Or let me rephrase the question: do you think there are more narcissists around now in the 2020s than there were historically, or are always the same amount? Of course, the word was invented by the Greeks. Its etymology comes out of Greek mythology: the God of Narcissus. So are we particularly prone, our culture or our individuality. To two to the problems of narcissism?Reiser: I think that it's always been around. I think there are more people, but I do think that we are now developing the vernacular for the characteristics. And I do think that because we have social media, people are more inclined to discuss it. So, in some ways it's a good thing, because we are now talking about it more, and some of the toxic behaviors. But I think is also an uptick because people are more individualistic, they are potentially more vain, more narcissistic. In their approach to their marketing themselves, everybody is out there flitting about, trying to make themselves an entity of sorts. And so, we're seeing a lot of people that are seemingly narcissistic, but that is not the same as somebody who has a pervasive pathological disorder, somebody who is lacking empathy, somebody who potentially has overlaps with sociopathy and looks to hurt people. We see this in certain pop culture scenarios, like we're seeing it with the P Diddy stuff here. There's a lot of talk now about cults, which my book is about also. So, these are people that are dangerous in some regard. These are people who are interested in meeting their own needs at the expense of others. And so it is somewhat misused, the word.Keen: Aren't we all want a bit like that? Aren't we all a bit self-interested? The subtitle of your book is A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. Aren't all people, Vanessa, aren't they all manipulative? Aren't we all seeking what we want? This word toxic...it's another one of these words that's become fashionable, it seems to be used in all sorts of generic ways. Aren't we all, in our own way, toxic too?Reiser: I think there is a level of ego that we all possess, so we are feeding our egos, we are trying to manage that up against others in society, etc. Very Freudian. But this idea that somebody would be particularly manipulative, somebody who's lying, controlling, uses isolation. And again, the book is aimed to fuse the concepts of narcissistic abuse and cult abuse. So, cult leaders are all narcissists, sociopaths or psychopaths, and the way that they operate is in line with what we see in domestic violence scenarios in a one-on-one interpersonal relationship. And those are the tactics. They are very much about mind control. So this is positive reinforcers, negative reinforcers, silent treatment. So the level of manipulation is different than, let's say, if you're having a bad day and you need a Snickers bar and you might just act like a jerk. That is not a pervasive behavior. This is more maniacal, to sort of oversimplify it.Keen: I can't resist our promise not to bring up Trump too much in this conversation, Vanessa. But this is the week, of course, that he got elected, or reelected, to office. And often people use the word narcissist in association with him. You talked about its influence on popular culture. Does it also play a role in politics? You talked about cult leaders, aren't all political leaders in their own way, cult leaders?Reiser: No, because, again, you have to have a pathological disorder. It's not to say that there aren't an abundance of--there are. There are a ton of CEOs and c-suites of, you know, poets, priests and politicians are generally able to kiss babies and potentially stab you in the back. They can be really dangerous. I wouldn't say they all are. I would say it is more prevalent in certain career paths for sure. We see this in the military. We see this in police officers. We see this in surgery rooms. So, there are certain jobs--see, I think 1 in 4 CEOs is a psychopath directly, which is very interesting.Keen: But what do you make of that? Does that suggest that everyone is a psychopath, or does that suggest that certain kinds of jobs like CEO or perhaps presidents lend themselves to psychopaths and narcissists?Reiser: I think the way that they climb the ladder without empathy, sort of lying...Jeffrey Epstein was a good example of this because he was a liar. His entire resume was a fraud. So they know how to work the system, climb to the top, convince others to do their bidding, hide, find loopholes. They're pretty slippery and sneaky. And as I mentioned, the level of manipulation is just a master level. And so this is why cult leaders in political arenas and otherwise, in the one-on-one relationship, they are able to get people to fall in line, right? Manson never killed anyone. It was his minions that did so. So, they are able to use mind control in a way that most people don't think they could fall victim to. But I think that's the beauty of the conversations we're starting to have around this, because we're bumping into these people in our work environments. We're now having a discussion about what they look like, how they behave. It's very hard to process when you go through something like this. I think most of us think that people are sharing similar perspectives and logical ideas. And when you go through this portal, you understand that not everyone is thinking the way you are. And I think it's brilliant that we're starting to talk about it, actually. I think the word is overused, but I also believe that there are far more dangerous people out there than maybe we ever realized.Keen: Vanessa, you talked about Mayor Charles Manson, mass murderer Jeffrey Epstein, a serial sexual criminal. You also talk about CEOs. Surely there's a difference between the two, though. Are there, shall we say, criminal narcissists and then people who have done well, who have an element of narcissism in their personalities?Reiser: Absolutely. I think there are unfortunately often overlaps between narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder or sociopathy. So, the way I would characterize the difference would be what you are saying, which a is very, very big difference and yet somewhat nuanced, in my opinion, is the idea of no empathy. The narcissist might step over the dead body, the sociopath put the dead body there. So, it feels like it's a huge difference and a very small difference at the same time. Why? Because without empathy, I think our society really doesn't go on. I think empathy, is in the very first place, something that occurs when the primary caregiver realizes the baby's crying. Let's take care of the baby, the baby needs something. And this sort of innate experience is why we go on as a species. Without it, we are doomed. And so, this idea of no empathy already feels very wonky to me, and I think we need to open up a dialogue about that. But you're quite right. There is a difference between somebody who steps over the dead body and somebody who puts the dead body there.Keen: Yeah, there's a very big difference. You use the E-word, empathy. It's another of these, what I think of at least, as cult words. It gets thrown around as if it's a good thing. You talked about the the species nature of empathy, that we wouldn't survive without it. I'm not an expert on evolution or Darwin's theories, but I wonder what evolutionists would say about this, that our species is a competitive one and we all compete with one another. Is empathy, then, self-interest, and does that, in a sense, undermine the idea of empathy, given that it's supposed to be about being empathetic? But if it enables us to survive and prosper, then maybe it's not quite as empathetic as we would like to think.Reiser: I think probably there's a balance there, and the imbalance is what we're seeing. I think we need to cultivate more empathy. I think we need to be kinder to one another. I feel like it's gotten a little dark, and people are maybe acting out of fear a lot more than I've ever seen. And so, I think we have lost a good amount of that. I think we see it in times of tragedy, like in New York, on 9/11, you were able to see humankind in its best light. And we saw quite a bit of it with Covid when the first responders were being highly empathetic and volunteering their time and risking their lives to look out for others. So I think it's still there, but I think that we might be trending away from it. And that scares me. So, I think it is important. Empathy, to me, is ground zero for everything. I think it's important. I understand what you're saying, but I think there's a balance that we might be getting too polarized around.Keen: Are you suggesting that if you don't have empathy, you are by definition a narcissist?Reiser: No, I think that there are certain people that don't have as strong of empathy. Maybe they understand empathy. But I think if you couple that with this recipe of other characteristics like manipulation, like lying, controlling, isolating, abusing through addiction, smearing, withholding, there's, you know, something like 20 characteristics that most of them will possess a good amount. So, it's not an exact science. But no, I think no empathy, though, is one of the things that I think lends people to behave the way that they do if they're going to be abusive. So, it is a term that I think may highlight a good amount of what narcissists jumping off point is, which is they don't care, so they're going to do anything that they can to get what they want.Keen: You mentioned Manson, Jeffrey Epstein, of course, a historic sexual criminal, both male and very male in their own way. You've talked about empathy in some detail, Vanessa, both on the show and in the book. Is there a gendered quality to this too? Do Women make, and of course, there are female narcissists, but is a female narcissist different from a male narcissist, or are all narcissists, whether they're made of female, essentially the same?Reiser: There are some slight differences. By and large, the female narcissist will oftentimes exploit their children and use their children for supply. Not that the male narcissist won't do that, but a good oversimplification to identify the female narcissist is oftentimes the “pageant mom." Their children are an extension of them and they're sort of braggadocious about, you know, “my child is a doctor." The other thing that they they can do is--Keen: Sounds like a lot of mothers, Vanessa. They're proud of their kids if they're adults, I think, or a psychotherapist...Reiser: I think proud is very different from somebody who behind the scenes in the home, they're valuing that child based only on what they can get from the child. So they get supply from the neighbors who are excited to see the daughter, or the people at the cheerleading competition. It's very superficial and shallow. Behind the scenes, they can be particularly abusive and severely so. So, these children could develop eating disorders, could be self-injuring. And a lot of this is about the mask that they wear in public versus who they are behind the scenes.Keen: But on a lot of shows, Vanessa, on social media and anxiety, as you know, as a therapist and as a writer, this is a huge issue these days: is there a connection between our age of anxiety and the prevalence of narcissistic abuse? Are some of the most important reasons why there's so much anxiety, particularly amongst young people, a consequence of the rise of narcissistic abuse?Reiser: I'm not sure. It's an interesting question. I tend to lean more into the camp of nature, less nurture. So, my belief is based not on a ton of data, because there is not a lot of data on NPD because narcissists are not going into studies and saying, “Hey, I'm a narcissist, please study me," or “I'm willing to be studied." They are generally mandated. So, you know, there's not a lot of data to pull from. So, we're kind of theorizing, but I tend to lean more into the camp of something where intergenerational trauma may play a role, or genetic or biological predisposition. So, I'm not sure. There are certain people who have different opinions on this. Some people think this is something that happens in childhood, and it's a trauma. I tend to think it's something that potentially could be genetic.Keen: Vanessa, is there a danger here? You're a clinical social worker, a psychotherapist, you have your own private practice. So I'm not suggesting, of course, you're self-interested and you're trying to build a clientele here. But aren't you, not you, but isn't this whole movement, or discourse, medicalizing the complexity of the human condition? So all parents are, in their own way, manipulative. They will perhaps use their children sometimes to self-promote. Everybody wants to control one kind of relationship, or rather, everyone has their own interest. What's the danger, in your work and in the work of others, of medicalizing the business of being human? And I mean that not in an economic sense, but in all the messiness of what it means to be human and in our relations with others.Reiser: Yeah, I definitely do not see it that way. I think when my clients come to me, they are very confused about what has happened to them. And so the word being a clinical word, narcissistic personality disorder (or clinical words, narcissistic personality disorder) can feel very validating because it would be like going to the hospital and the doctor says, “you're sick." “Well, what do I have?" “You're just sick." And so my clients, very specifically, because I work only in the domestic violence realm, really are feeling validated around the language. So the language, you opened up this conversation today talking about words, these words like gaslighting, and the level of confusion that's gone on with--Keen: --and lovebombing and hoovering and triangulating, all these words that you bring up in your book.Reiser: They're very important for people to understand what they've endured. And so, I actually quite like the medical term, because it gives an answer to those that have gone through something that is particularly difficult to process and certainly very hard to describe.Keen: You talked about abuse and a lot of your clients, you talk about violence, or as most of the narcissistic abuse verbal?Reiser: All domestic violence is narcissistic abuse, all domestic violence is narcissistic abuse. Every single one of my clients who has been physically assaulted, or has an acute trauma through physical abuse, tells me that the psychological abuse is far worse. It's a brain injury of sorts when somebody lies to you repeatedly and skews your perception. I feel like the brain is kind of a fact-finding machine, and it looks for data, and it's constantly working to make those connections. And so, when that becomes fractured, people really decompensate. They do not do well. They fall apart. They fail. Most realms of their entire life can just fall apart. And so, it's a pretty serious thing, this psychological brain injury, if you will.Keen: Yeah, I take your point. I'm certainly not trying to minimalize domestic abuse. But just to repeat, you said all domestic abuse is narcissistic abuse. Is that what you're saying? So the husband who comes home after some drinks in the bar and beats his wife up. Is that narcissistic abuse or is that just that an angry drunk man?Reiser: I would have to sort of assess further, but it very well could be, and more than likely it would be. Now, does that mean he has narcissistic personality disorder? No, but that behavior itself is narcissistic.Keen: But aren't you, again, making it such a big word that any kind of bad behavior...it becomes narcissism. So it's really everything.Reiser: Certainly the high level bad behaviors that you're referencing, yes.Keen: So domestic abuse, anything behind domestic abuse: smacking someone around, beating up your child, beating up your wife, beating up your husband, it's always narcissism?Reiser: Yes.Keen: So, okay, so we have this thing called narcissistic abuse. You're a therapist. People don't come to you to, as you suggested, to have this thing argued over. They come for help, and they come to identify it and escape it. How do you deal with it? Let's begin with children and their narcissistic mother. What's your advice? How to get out of a narcissistic relationship?Reiser: That one is particularly challenging, because when you leave an intimate relationship, oftentimes you can just go back to the person you were prior, go find that person. When you are the child of a narcissist, it is challenging because, as I mentioned earlier, you become an extension of that parent. And so, your identity has not been developed, you have to figure out who you even are. What are your likes? What are your interests? What is autonomy like for you? And so, it's a big hill to climb. You're generally filtering thoughts through "what would my toxic parent want or what would they not want?" Which ultimately gives them control over every single thought you're having. And so that is a really, really hard thing to overcome. And then I suppose what we would do, probably, would be work on low contact or harm reduction to the extent that they feel comfortable, unless they're willing to remove them from their lives. Narcissists can be dangerous, in a way. So, these are people who might manipulate your love relationship, or the relationship you have with your own children, or your career. They can infiltrate everything around you. So depending upon the severity--it would be a case-by-case basis--but generally, with a parental unit, I would say probably trying to get to a point where you would see them maybe during holidays, or whatever you're comfortable doing, and then you don't really want to share too much with them, because they tend to exploit the information that you share with them.Keen: How reformable then, Vanessa, are narcissists? You're suggesting that they can't be reformed, that they have this condition and that you shouldn't trust them with information? They're always trying to take advantage of you.Reiser: Not a lot of data on the narcissist changing. It is a rigid pathological disorder. So, the neurotypical brain can move. Trauma victims can repair and develop new pathways in the brain. This is different. It's rigid. So, I don't see a ton of movement. I think that the best-case scenario is to get away from them.Keen: But have you had patients who've come into your office and said, “I'm a narcissist or I fear I'm a narcissist. Nobody wants to talk to me. My parents, my kids, my friends, my children, my relatives won't speak to me. I need to become less of a narcissist." Is that a condition that you sometimes come across?Reiser: Yes. And we would work towards developing empathy to the extent that they can. We would work towards developing emotional connections with other people. We would work towards understanding boundaries, working on accountability, communication style, attachment style. This is generally something that is best handled in an in-patient scenario. So it could look like a sex addiction treatment center, something like this, where they are really diving in. So the work that I'm doing is the best that I can with anybody who comes to me, as you mentioned. But it's something that would be best handled with extensive therapy.Keen: So you're a therapist and you're in the business of identifying and escaping and healing from toxic and manipulative people. But what about medicine? I talked about medicalizing the condition. I'm slightly curious about that, perhaps even slightly skeptical. But are there drugs for narcissists or for people who have been abused by narcissists?Reiser: In a word, no. There are tons of things therapeutically that have been coming out. We're seeing people who are trying certain psychedelics for post-traumatic stress disorder. So in the case of the victim, I know Bessel van der Kolk talks about MDMA and other options for treating trauma specifically that is very experimental and goes up against big pharma. So he has a lot of push back. But there's different treatments and things that people are trying, but there isn't really anything per se that treats trauma. In the pharma world, everything is to treat anxiety and depression, and sometimes that can work. So again, we're going to practice harm reduction. And the same could be said for the narcissist in terms of treatment. Pharmacologically, we would probably do something like the SSRIs, but there's no data that I can provide that says that that works. It's just something that I've heard people try to probably work on the anxiety of it. But there's no there's no drug that I know of that's going to remedy trauma or NPD.Keen: So you're ambivalent on psychedelics. We've done a number of shows. It's becoming increasingly fashionable or popular.Reiser: I'm not ambivalent.Keen: You're against or for? You don't think it works, basically?Reiser: No, I think I think it I think it could be tremendous. I don't know enough about it, but I'm kind of hopeful that it would work.Keen: But isn't that kind of, some people might say, Brave New World? It's an escape? We live in a psychedelic universe, we leave the world and we go to another?Reiser: I don't know. If we are microdosing, it's possible that we could quell the trauma responses to the extent that we may be able to then focus on developing different neural pathways and changing the way that the brain is thinking and some of the cognition that's negative that's floating around in there. So I'm hopeful that those things would help. I understand what you're saying, though.Keen: In an America which, Vanessa, is very divided, a lack of, perhaps, your word, empathy, politically, on either side, an election that reflects and perhaps compounds the divisions...do you think that America needs to become more, shall we say, therapeutic? Is is that the only way to bring Americans back together? I'm not suggesting that all politicians are narcissists, although, as I said, a lot of people have argued, including, I think his own niece, that Donald Trump is a classic example of a narcissist. But does America need counseling, shall we say? Is America itself collectively suffering from narcissistic abuse?Reiser: Well, that is a good question. Just gave me the chills. Yes, but also therapeutic practices that we can all do, I do this in my own life, is just...I really think it's important for people to express themselves. I notice in my clientele, when they are just sharing, they're connecting the dots really on their own, they aren't processing things, and I think it's important to express yourself. So even if you're journaling--so it doesn't have to be this, like, you're in therapy, so something is wrong with you, and let's fix you, and this is this is my advice, and all this. No. I do think that you need to have a safe place to express yourself. So, even just good friends, some way to kind of get it off your chest if it's through, you know, anything that you enjoy doing, like, running as I do, or the written word, or kickboxing, or some way to get things off your chest, I think, will help you to feel empowered, will help you to process some of the things that you're witnessing that could be upsetting.Keen: Yeah there's a long tradition of narcissism in literature, many writers have written books about narcissism, and some people believe many of the greatest writers are themselves narcissists. You talk about, Vanessa, finally, a safe place to do this. We touched on social media earlier. You're on Instagram, you're on TikTok, like most of us. Is social media in your view, a safe place, or is it the problem, or is it both?Reiser: Oh, great timing on that one. I would say it is something that could be both, for sure. It has tremendous benefits. There's communities that have developed through something as simple as a hashtag. So, there's so much good and then there's so much horror. I mean, that's just the way I see it.Keen: Well, finally, I have to ask you this, Vanessa. Since I get some free therapy from you, sometimes my kids accuse me of being a narcissist. I think it's sometimes when they don't like what I say. Have I displayed any manifestations of narcissism in this conversation? Do I need therapy myself?Reiser: No. You know, I don't know you well enough. You were certainly a gentleman. And it would be very, very hard for me to decipher something like that unless I got to know you behind the scenes. And I'm sure the same could be said about me.Keen: Well, next time my kids accuse me of being a narcissist, I will tell them, “Go and talk to Vanessa." Well, congratulations, Vanessa, on the new book, it's an important subject, and you treated in a very down to earth, coherent way. The new book is Narcissistic Abuse--sorry--Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist Guide to Identifying, Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. It's on audiobook, it's read by Vanessa, and it's also out in traditional text. Congratulations, Vanessa. Subject isn't going away, we'll get you back in the not-too-distant future to talk more narcissism. Thank you so much.Reiser: Thank you so much. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit keenon.substack.com/subscribe
How can you handle passive-aggressive coworkers and get them to speak up openly? Passive aggressive types are vague and avoid transparent conversations because they don't like conflict. That's why direct questions are your best weapon to stop walking on eggshells when passive-aggressive colleagues create toxic drama. Try these 20 direct questions to confront silent conflict and immediately stop the toxic behavior. In this episode you'll discover: ✔️20 powerful questions to outsmart passive-aggressive coworkers. ✅ Free Resources FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude 30 min Amplify Voices Strategy Session: https://calendly.com/assertiveway/amplifyvoicesstrategycall Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/ Ivna's Unapologetic Voice Stories: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/ivnastories From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/ Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter Our Linkedin Blog Articles: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/ TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It's Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/ Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/ ✅ Listen on the Speak Your Mind Unapologetically podcast on Apple Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 ✅ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6L1myPkiJXYf5SGrublYz2 ✅ Order our book, ‘Unapologetic Voice: 101 Real-World Strategies for Brave Self Advocacy & Bold Leadership' where each strategy is also a real story: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetic-Voice-Real-World-Strategies-Leadership-ebook/dp/B0CW2X4WWL/ ✅ Follow the show host, Ivna Curi, on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/ ✅ Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company: http://assertiveway.com/workshops ✅ Other Episodes You'll Like How to Protect Yourself from Manipulative People: 7 Effective Strategies Assertive, Passive, Aggressive, or Passive-Aggressive? Which Is Your Communication Style How to Deal with Difficult Coworkers Without Compromising Your Integrity (Examples) Avoid These 10 Boundary Mistakes That Make You Look Difficult 13 Reasons Why People Don't Respect Your Boundaries "No" to Regrets: Living Authentically and Making Empowered Choices ✅ Work With Us Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/ Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2 Website: https://assertiveway.com ✅ Support The Podcast Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion
“The narcissist will never be able to fix their corrupt disorder. It is a rigid disorder,” says Vanessa Reiser, a licensed clinical social worker and author who specializes in narcissistic and cult abuse. She joins Dr. Z to talk about the striking similarities between narcissistic relationships and cult dynamics, focusing on how coercive control plays a role in both. Drawing from her own life experiences and professional background, Vanessa shares insights from her book “Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People.” She breaks down how narcissists deploy tactics like gaslighting, isolating their victims, and enlisting enablers (often called “flying monkeys”) to keep control. But how does this connect to cult-like dynamics? Vanessa explains that these methods work by stripping away a person's identity that will trap them in a mental prison that's just as damaging as the control seen in actual cults. This episode reminds listeners of the resilience required to break free from these toxic environments and the importance of building supportive relationships that will help individuals reclaim their identities. Vanessa's insights offer valuable tools and strategies for overcoming these challenges that encourage listeners to seek help and validation as they move toward healing and self-empowerment. Quotes “A real cult is always led by somebody who's trying to control, groom, and manipulate others to get supply and attention. We see this in intimate relationships and families. What they're doing is using the classic tactics of narcissists to manipulate others to do what they want. They will isolate and get you to basically only view their opinions.” (05:01 | Vanessa Reiser) “There's this misconception that people who get sucked into ‘these cults'—whether it's a cult of one, within a family system, or on a larger scale hiding behind a religious organization—have low self-esteem or no backbone. That's not true… It's important for people to understand that it has nothing to do with intelligence. The myth that you're a weak person comes from the fact that once you're in this cult—whether it's a cult of one or something larger—the whole point is to gain control and power over you. And with that comes the loss of self-identity.” (07:48 | Dr. Z) “A narcissist will never be able to fix their corrupt disorder. It is a rigid disorder.” (16:49 | Vanessa Reiser) “A narcissist is allergic to your power and autonomy. They want to groom you and keep you ignorant, unaware, and not in the know.” (36:25 | Vanessa Reiser) Links Connect with Vanessa Reiser: https://www.facebook.com/vanessa.pugliese https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw/ https://x.com/vanessareisersw https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrYVROGoPdYqsEFkr2XYC9A https://amzn.to/3XPf9ad Connect with Dr. Z: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist Shop my new Mindfully Messy hoodie here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/apparel Get my FREE breathing exercise here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/newsletter Register for my virtual workshops here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops Order my workbooks! http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
Imagine a world where the very fabric of your thoughts, your desires, your deepest beliefs could be rewoven without your knowledge or consent. A world where the boundaries between influence and control, between persuasion and manipulation, blur into a hazy twilight of uncertainty. Welcome, my friends, to the shadow realm of hypnosis misused – a realm where the power to reshape minds becomes a weapon in the wrong hands. Picture this: You're having a seemingly casual conversation with a charming stranger. Their words flow like honey, their gestures captivate your attention. Before you know it, you're agreeing to things you never intended, revealing information you meant to keep private, feeling emotions that seem to come out of nowhere. What just happened? You, my friend, have been ensnared in a web of covert hypnotic techniques. This isn't your grandmother's pocket watch swinging hypnosis. No, this is neurolinguistic programming on steroids, a cocktail of subtle language patterns, calculated nonverbal cues, and psychological triggers designed to bypass your critical faculties and speak directly to your subconscious. It's the dark art of implanting ideas so skillfully that you believe they're your own.And here's the truly chilling part – it's happening all around us, every day.
Manipulation is the act of influencing or controlling someone or something in a clever, often deceptive, and usually unfair manner to achieve a desired outcome or purpose. It involves using various tactics or techniques to sway the thoughts, emotions, or actions of individuals or situations, often without their full awareness or consent. It is crucial to be aware of manipulative tactics and to critically evaluate information and interactions to protect oneself from potential exploitation.The goal of this episode is to uncover the ways you can be manipulated and explore ways to overcome manipulation. Are you creating your reality or is someone else. If you don't learn to overcome manipulation you can never create the reality you truly desire.
In this episode I am joined by the inspirational Vanessa Reiser!Vanessa M. Reiser is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), licensed in New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, and Florida. She is a psychotherapist and the founder of Tell a Therapist, LLC as well as the founder of the nonprofit, Tell a Therapist, INC. She is also the Author of - "Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People" Vanessa specializes in narcissistic personality disorder, and her practice focuses on treating victims and survivors of cults, narcissists, domestic violence, and narcissistic abuse. Her insights are both personal and professional, giving her a unique lens into this insidious form of domestic abuse. Vanessa is a long-distance runner and two-time Ironman who is best known for running the state of New York (285 miles in 11 days) in a wedding dress to raise awareness for narcissistic abuse.For more episodes like this, make sure you hit that subscribe button on your favourite podcast platform! (and while you're there, please leave us a rating and a review if you enjoyed this episode. Nova
How to handle discrimination with professionalism and positivity? Learn practical strategies to address and overcome bias in the workplace by maintaining professional composure and redirecting focus to your contributions. Discover how to transform initial skepticism into respect and collaborative relationships. Tune in to this episode to discover: ✔️Techniques for asserting your qualifications confidently. ✔️ Methods to engage actively and shift focus from bias. ✔️ Tips for affirming your role and intention positively. ✔️ Strategies to turn initial skeptics into strong supporters. ✅ Free Resources FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/ Ivna's Unapologetic Voice Stories: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/ivnastories From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/ Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter Our Linkedin Blog Articles: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/ TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It's Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/ Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/ ✅ Other Episodes You'll Like How To Respond Assertively When You're Labeled Too Aggressive, Abrasive, or Difficult How to Deal with Difficult Coworkers Without Compromising Your Integrity (Examples) 10 Proven Courage Habits: Speak Up At Work Even If You're Scared How to Protect Yourself from Manipulative People: 7 Effective Strategies ✅ Key Moments 00:00 Introduction: Facing Bias in the Workplace 01:33 A Personal Story of Discrimination 04:34 The Turning Point: Gaining Respect 07:42 Strategies to Overcome Bias 08:42 10 Practical Tips to Shift Focus To Your Value 13:14 Conclusion: Embrace Professionalism and Positivity 14:01 Subscribe and Further Resources ✅ Listen on the Speak Your Mind Unapologetically podcast on Apple Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 ✅ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6L1myPkiJXYf5SGrublYz2 ✅ Order book, ‘Unapologetic Voice: 101 Real-World Strategies for Brave Self Advocacy & Bold Leadership' where each strategy is also a real story: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetic-Voice-Real-World-Strategies-Leadership-ebook/dp/B0CW2X4WWL/ ✅ Follow the show host, Ivna Curi, on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/ ✅ Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company: http://assertiveway.com/workshops ✅ Work With Us Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/ Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2 Website: https://assertiveway.com ✅ Support The Podcast Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion
Dear Listeners, In this exciting Bonus Episode of The Dichotomy Diaries, I interview the beautiful, bad ass, Vanessa Reiser, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker from The Big Apple who's got a BOOK coming out soon! (Pre-Order Link Below!) We talk about SO many juicy topics including the connection between narcissistic abuse and cults, the behavior and mindset of narcissists and psychopaths, and dissect the experience of victims down piece by piece. We touch on the confusing role most family members take in (not) warning others about the narcissist in their life. Join us as we break down the challenges of conveying the complexity of narcissistic abuse in a concise manner others. A topic that I've really struggled with lately... This episode also explores trauma bonding and addiction in narcissistic relationships. Vanessa and I talk about the repetitive cycle of love bombing, devaluing, and discarding, which creates a trauma bond and intense addiction to the makeup session. Vanessa emphasizes the need for support and understanding for those trying to extricate themselves from these relationships, comparing it to drug addiction. Not to mention the post-separation abuse that can occur, which more often than not, includes attempts to destroy the victim's life. I had SO MUCH FUN chatting in up with Vanessa and learning all the things from her not only about my relationship with Dick, but about important topics and congruencies I wasn't even aware of. Forever Speaking My Truth, Amanda Be sure to check below for Vanessa's website, how to find her on Social Media, and Pre-Order her new book: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. @vanessareiserlcsw-narcissi5380 Website: https://www.tellatherapist.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessareiserlcsw TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vanessareiser BOOK PRE ORDER: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0306833174
Cult leaders, parents, spouses, ex-partners…narcissistic abuse can affect any of us. But what are some of the signs we're under a narcissist's spell? Today's guest is Vanessa Reiser, a psychotherapist, author & narcissistic abuse survivor. She recently stopped by to chat with Dawn about how to detect if you're in an abusive relationship, why cults and narcissistic abuse go hand-in-hand, and why she thinks it's time to move past the term "narcissist". Pre-Order Vanessa's book, Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People on Amazon here. Find Vanessa at: Home - Tell A Therapist Vanessa M. Reiser, LCSW (@vanessareiserlcsw) • Instagram photos and videos ________________________________ Method & Madness is researched, written, hosted, & produced by Dawn Gandhi Music by Tymur Khakimov from Pixabay ____________________________________ REACH OUT: methodandmadnesspod@gmail.com CONNECT: Instagram X TikTok DIVE INTO MORE: MethodandMadnessPodcast.com ____________________________________ All sources are listed on the website, under each episode description. MethodandMadnessPodcast.com Thank you for listening!
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at shopify.com/notforeveryone/. __ It's Hater Hour, kooks—and Caroline is ready to bear it all. She jumps into a WHATADO about a deep friend betrayal: can they make it right? Or do you have to cut your losses? Caroline shares first hand examples of similar situations, offers some ideas for helping friends who are in manipulative situations, and tells us how to identify signs that you might be in the grips of a master manipulator. Plus, a WHATADO about getting closure from a not-so-great partner, and another WHATADO about dating someone who is super great at everything…except making stimulating conversation. Take a walk on the hater side. You'll be pleasantly surprised at how much there is to love. __ Video on closure Caroline referenced: https://youtu.be/y0xShs1P950?si=QBxOWUcrRzj982jW&t=755 __ This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/not4everyonepod/support
Vanessa Reiser, LCSW, talks about her new book "Narcissistic Abuse" A Therapist's Guide to Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People. We dive into how narcissists operate and how to identify their dangerous behaviors, as well as the Cult tactics they use to establish mind control over their victims. Vanessa Reiser - Instagram Vanessa's Book Vanessa Reiser - Facebook Tell A Therapist Vanessa's Run to Raise Awareness about Narcissistic Abuse Vanessa Reiser - Tik Tok DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS STATED ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY OR MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE SPECIFIC TO YOUR SITUATION.
How can you protect yourself from manipulation at work while maintaining your good-natured personality? You don't have to change who you are to safeguard against manipulative colleagues or bosses. In this episode, you'll discover the subtle and often overlooked signs of manipulation and learn seven smart, proven strategies to disarm and deflect these tactics while retaining your authenticity and kindness. Using real-life analogies and step-by-step advice, she equips you with the tools needed to navigate tricky professional landscapes with confidence and assertiveness. Tune in to this episode to discover: ✔️ The subtle signs that you're being manipulated. ✔️ Seven proven strategies to safeguard yourself from manipulation. ✔️ How to set boundaries and maintain self-respect. ✔️ The importance of using assertive communication techniques. 00:00 Introduction to Manipulation Awareness 01:51 Recognizing Manipulation Tactics 04:22 The Trojan Horse: A Lesson in Deception 06:54 Identifying Manipulation Signs 09:59 Seven Strategies to Handle Manipulation 19:58 The Power of Assertiveness 21:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 23:30 Additional Resources and Farewell ✅ Listen on the Speak Your Mind Unapologetically podcast on Apple Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 ✅ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6L1myPkiJXYf5SGrublYz2 ✅ Order our book, ‘Unapologetic Voice: 101 Real-World Strategies for Brave Self Advocacy & Bold Leadership' where each strategy is also a real story: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetic-Voice-Real-World-Strategies-Leadership-ebook/dp/B0CW2X4WWL/ ✅ Follow the show host, Ivna Curi, on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/ ✅ Request A Customized Workshop For Your Team And Company: http://assertiveway.com/workshops ✅ Other Episodes You'll Like How to Deal with Difficult Coworkers Without Compromising Your Integrity (Examples) Avoid These 10 Boundary Mistakes That Make You Look Difficult 13 Reasons Why People Don't Respect Your Boundaries "No" to Regrets: Living Authentically and Making Empowered Choices ✅ Free Resources FREE Training & presentation on How To Be Assertive Without Being Rude, Aggressive, or Offensive: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/assertivenotrude Sign Up for Our Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter/ Ivna's Unapologetic Voice Stories: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/ivnastories From Rambling To Articulate PDF Guide: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/articulate Podcast episode lists by theme: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/speakyourmindunapologeticallytopics Women in Tech Leaders Podcast Interviews: https://assertiveway.com/womenintechpodcastguests/ Podcast Summaries & More Email Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter Our Linkedin Blog Articles: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/6863880009879306240/ TEDx Talk How To Speak Up Safely When It's Psychologically Unsafe: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/safespeak 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead Other Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/ Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/ ✅ Work With Us Workshops: http://assertiveway.com/workshops Break The Silence: https://assertiveway.com/communicationculturetransformation/ Services: https://assertiveway.com/offerings Contact me: info@assertiveway.com or ivnacuri@assertiveway.com Contact me on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2 Website: https://assertiveway.com ✅ Support The Podcast Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915 Ask me your question for the next episode: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion
You must know how to detach from manipulative people because if you don't, they will succeed in disrupting your life by controlling you. It is impossible to change a manipulative person, so your only choice is to figure out how not to give in to them by learning how to detach. Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube:https://youtu.be/4HQGaPYbthM
Leslie continues her Most Asked Questions series with a Biblical look at responding to manipulative people. Many women struggle with feeling controlled or strongly influenced by manipulative friendships, and it can be confusing to know how to respond to this challenge in a healthy and Christ-centered way. As Christians, we are to be controlled only by the Spirit of God, rather than by human manipulation. In this episode, Leslie shares three Biblical keys to becoming set free from manipulation. If you have struggled with being manipulated, you will be amazed and the freedom and joy you find once you allow God to remove the unhealthy control of others over your life, so that you can make yourself completely and fully available to Him.To learn more about our 2024 Set Apart Conference, visit https://setapart.org/2024-set-apart-conference/. For more resources from Leslie, visit www.setapart.org. To support Set Apart Ministries, visit https://setapart.org/support/.
Do you feel uneasy, disoriented, or confused after interactions with certain people? You may be dealing with a highly manipulative person! In this episode, Emily and Meg revisit how they deal with relationships with highly manipulative people. They provide a five-step framework for checking in with themselves to find their way forward. #highlymanipulated #toxicrelationship #narcissist #gaslighting #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #toxicpeople #narcissism #healing #redflags #manipulation #relationships #boundaries #relationshipadvice #podcastersofinstagram #podcastersofinstagram #podcastinglife #applepodcasts #spotifypodcasts #personalgrowth #selfdevelopment #selfhelp #positivevibes #infinitepossibilities #denverpodcast
Do you know someone who might have a manipulative personality? What does it mean to be manipulative? Manipulation involves the use of deception or underhand methods to achieve personal aims. Manipulative people love to control, change, and warp the behaviors or perceptions of others. Do you anyone in mind who you think people be a manipulative person, but you aren't sure? To help you with that, let's go through some of the signs of a manipulative personality. Did you know that there are different types of manipulation? To find out more, watch this video: https://youtu.be/j5AOp93S1F4 Credits Writer: Julian Heng Script Editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Storyboarder: Yi Lin Animator: Anthony Shek YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References “9 Classic Traits of Manipulative People.” Psychology Today. Sussex Publishers. Accessed February 12, 2020. www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/in-flux/201610/9-classic-traits-manipulative-people. GoodTherapy. 2020. “Manipulation”. Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/manipulation. Lancer, Darlene. 2020. “How To Spot Manipulation”. Psych Central. www.psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-spot-manipulation/. Do you have any personal stories or video requests that you would like to share with us? If so, email us at editorial@psych2go.net
In this episode, we explore the three-step approach to handling manipulative behavior. Step one focuses on cultivating self-awareness to recognize manipulation tactics, while step two empowers you to assert boundaries confidently. Finally, step three delves into navigating backlash with resilience and self-assurance. Join us as we navigate the complexities of human interaction and empower ourselves to maintain healthy relationships built on mutual respect. The episode that I referenced about responding instead of reacting is Episode 181 - Empower Yourself Around Toxic People: Respond Instead of React. You can find it wherever you listen to the Heal Your Story with Heidi Dellaire Podcast. You can book the Heal Your Story Breakthrough Intensive at https://heididellaire.com/work-with-me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healyourstory/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/healyourstory/support
In this episode of THE MENTORS RADIO, Host Tom Loarie talks with world renown psychologist, Dr. George Simon, who has spent decades understanding and dealing with character-impaired personalities. His best-selling book In Sheep's Clothing just celebrated its 28th year in print. In this interview, Dr. Simon shares his insights on those people who can suck you dry and sap the joy of life out of you. These people subtly prey on your weaknesses and use clever tactics to gain an advantage over you. These people are underhanded, backstabbing, deceptive and conniving. They may work with you, associate with you, or even live with you. They fight hard for what they want, but they want to conceal their aggressive intentions. They can destroy your life and your career. Find out how to defeat manipulators and regain your sanity. Listen to this episode below, or on ANY PODCAST PLATFORM here. BE SURE TO LEAVE US A GREAT REVIEW on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and share with friends and colleagues! SHOW NOTES: GEORGE K. SIMON, PhD. BIO: https://www.drgeorgesimon.com/about/ WEBSITE: https://www.drgeorgesimon.com BOOKS: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, by Dr. George K. Simon Character Disturbance: the phenomenon of our age, by George K. Simon The Judas Syndrome: Why Good People Do Awful Things, by George K. Simon Essentials for the Journey: Embracing and Living the 10 Commandments of Character - Proven Principles for a Psychologically Healthy and Spiritually Rich Life, by Dr. George K. Simon How Did We End Up Here?: Surviving and Thriving in a Character Disordered World, by George Simon and Kathryn Armistead The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence, by Gavin De Becker (mentioned in show episode) ARTICLES: Malignant Narcissists Always Pose High Risk, by Dr. George Simon The Narcissistic Rage and many other excellent articles, by George Simon
This is a episode of sisters chit chat. We are discussing how we walked through our situation with manipulative people. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/amarillo-tornado-hunters/message
There are some people that just seem to suck the life out of us. Some are endlessly needy; others complain. Some you can't trust because they're manipulative, or just hypocrites. We know we're supposed to love them, but honestly, sometimes it's just plain difficult. In this series, we'll be putting a name to this type of person: Relational Vampires. We'll recognize that these people are all around us draining our energy, and that it's easy to fall under their spell and become vampires ourselves. Instead of running from or fighting with these vampires, though, we will learn how God can use us to bring love into their lives.
I've had people in my life use manipulation to create leverage that allows them to achieve their goals. But there is a way to handle these situations effectively to keep yourself in check. On this episode we discuss: Who is challenging/manipulative in your life Why people resort to manipulation Don't get sucked in Focusing on your breathing Slowing down by asking questions It is NOT about YOU Let go of anger and resentment Rebuilding trust Ask for what you need Be prepared for people who are difficult Resources:Assertiveness ActivitySelect a specific interpersonal challenge you're currently dealing with, will most likely face soon, or that you've unsuccessfully addressed in the past. Answer the questions for addressing this issue using this DEAR MAN Assertiveness Worksheet. Save the worksheet on your desktop, fill in your answers, save it again, and email it back to me before your next session. Shatterproof Yourself Video: 7 ACTIONS to START Building Your LegacyGet free content to start your legacy journeyDecide Your Legacy Corporate & Group WorkshopsThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review!Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgragg Connect with Decide Your Legacy! Adam Gragg is a Legacy Coach, Blogger, Podcaster, Speaker, & Mental Health Professional for nearly 25 years. Adam's life purpose is helping people & organizations find transformational clarity that propels them forward to face their biggest fears to LIVE & leave their chosen legacy. He's ultra-practical in his approach, convinced that engaging in self-reflective ACTION & practical tools, practiced consistently, WILL transform your life. He specializes in life transitions, career issues, and helping clients overcome anxiety, depression & trauma. Contact Adam HERE. if you're interested in getting started on deciding YOUR legacy. Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
Dr. George Simon is a psychologist and best-selling author who's been decoding manipulation for over 30 years. Tracy and Sarah ask him about his work on "character disturbance" and Dr. Simon answers a listener's question about being estranged from her family after they sided with her abusive, cheating ex-husband.
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What a joy for Timmy to talk with George Simon, Jr., Ph.D. on his book, In Sheep's Clothing, Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People. Enjoy! BIO https://www.drgeorgesimon.com/ Dr. George Simon is an internationally-recognized expert on manipulators and other problem characters and the author of 3 bestselling books: In Sheep's Clothing (which has been translated into 12 foreign languages), Character Disturbance, and The Judas Syndrome. He's made appearances on several major television (Fox News Network, CNN, CBS 48 Hours) and radio programs and is also the host of a weekly internet program on UCY.TV called Character Matters. The interview with Bill O'Reilly that helped launch his first book --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timmygibson/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timmygibson/support
In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is joined by Dr. George Simon, author of, "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People," where they discuss narcissism, character disturbance, and Dr. Simon's "Ten Commandments of Character."► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institute:https://www.selfloverecovery.com► Listen to the podcast on all major platforms:https://selfloverecovery.buzzsprout.com► Ross Rosenberg's Links:YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/RossRosenbergFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheCodependencyCureInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rossrosenberg_slriTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/RossRosenberg1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rossrosenberg► Ross Rosenberg's BiographyRoss Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 23 million views and 258,000 subscribers, and his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome, which has sold over 155,000 copies in 12 languages.In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.Support the show
It's time to look out for these 8 signs that there are manipulative people in your life. We need to be better about recognizing them so we can limit their negative effects on our path to success! Join host Steve Wohlenhaus on the ANATOMY OF SUCCESS podcast and dig deep into what actions you can take to find success in health, work, and relationships. Expect transparent candor and challenges that require action, all to help you define success on your own terms.
Emotional manipulators are people who, whether they realize it or not, use emotions as weapons. They get what they want in their relationships no matter the cost. If it takes playing the victim or blaming the other person, they'll do it without batting an eye. If they have to give the cold shoulder or tear down their partner's confidence, they'll do that too. It seems scary if you've never experienced it before, and it can get even scarier if you realize you've been friends with an emotional manipulator without knowing it. Here are some tips on how to deal with manipulative people.
I get messages from those who are with someone who claims to have changed, but something doesn't feel right to them. What they feel is usually accurate. There are specific thoughts and feelings inside you that can help you tell if someone has actually changed and healed from being emotionally abusive, or if they still have a ways to go.
In this episode, we're going to talk about manipulative people, and I am going to talk about it in a way that's probably different than you've ever heard before. If you have someone in your life who you feel is manipulative, this episode is going to be so useful to you. So, start thinking about someone you believe is being manipulative and listen to this podcast.
We all encounter people who try to manipulate our actions or emotions for their own purposes. How does Scripture call us to respond to those who try to manipulate others around them? In this episode, Janet and Jocelyn explore the heart behind manipulative behavior and discuss ways to come alongside those who try to control others and respond with Christ-likeness. Episode Transcript Resources Books Manipulation - Lou Priolo How to Handle Trouble - Jay Adams Websites ACBC Counselor Faith Bible Seminary Visit the Joyful Journey website to sign up for our newsletter, view a transcript, and search previous episodes. Emails us with questions or comments at joyfuljourneyquestions@outlook.com Facebook, Instagram Donate to Joyful Journey Podcast Joyful Journey Podcast is a ministry of Faith Bible Seminary. All proceeds go to offset costs of this podcast and toward scholarships for women to receive their MABC through Faith Bible Seminary.
We all encounter people who try to manipulate our actions or emotions for their own purposes. How does Scripture call us to respond to those who try to manipulate others around them? In this episode, Janet and Jocelyn explore the heart behind manipulative behavior and discuss ways to come alongside those who try to control others and respond with Christ-likeness. Episode Transcript Resources Books Manipulation - Lou Priolo How to Handle Trouble - Jay Adams Websites ACBC Counselor Faith Bible Seminary Visit the Joyful Journey website to sign up for our newsletter, view a transcript, and search previous episodes. Emails us with questions or comments at joyfuljourneyquestions@outlook.com Facebook, Instagram Donate to Joyful Journey Podcast Joyful Journey Podcast is a ministry of Faith Bible Seminary. All proceeds go to offset costs of this podcast and toward scholarships for women to receive their MABC through Faith Bible Seminary.
Are you manipulative when you don't get what you want? How do you identify manipulation in yourself, and how do you overcome it? Connect with us: YouTube: Soul02-Youtube Facebook: @LP.Oxygen https://www.facebook.com/LP.Oxygen Instagram: LP.Oxygen Twitter: @Soul025 Buzzsprout: Soul02-Buzzsprout Spotify: Soul02 - Spotify Apple: Soul02-Itunes Stitcher: Soul02-Stitcher
"in coping with manipulation, it's best to follow four basic principles: Know your rights and your limits; set clear, appropriate boundaries in a respectful and neutral way; recognize and avoid the other person's efforts to escalate the conflict or muddy the issue; and always make sure to protect your own safety."RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-hear-you/201807/4-ways-deal-manipulative-peoplehttps://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/manipulationDONATE IF YOU CAN: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/givetolocalfundsGO AD FREE: www.patreon.com/mydbpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastLUH YOU. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
"You're intimidating" to "You're just being difficult." You know those people that label you or question your healthy boundaries with projection and manipulation? Today I'll be discussing the reasons why it's difficult for some people to tolerate other people's boundaries. Never a judgment here but creating a platform for better understanding! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
On today's episode, a listener writes in and asks Dave, “Why do manipulative people misuse the Bible?" What You'll Hear on this Episode Why manipulative people misuse the Scriptures. Why manipulative people use deception and distortion. The danger of spiritual manipulation and marks of it. What Christians can do about the misuse of Scripture. Subscribing, sharing, and your feedback You can subscribe to the Servants of Grace Podcast via iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, or your favorite podcast catcher. If you like what you've heard, please consider leaving a rating and share it with your friends (it takes only takes a second and will go a long way to helping other people find the show). You can also connect with me on Twitter at @davejjenkins, on Facebook, or via email to share your feedback. Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Servants of Grace theology segment!
On today's episode, a listener writes in and asks Dave, "Why do manipulative people misuse the Bible?What You'll Hear on this Episode• Why manipulative people misuse the Scriptures.• Why manipulative people use deception and distortion.• What Christians can do about the misuse of Scripture.Thanks for listening to this week's episode of Servants of Grace theology segment!
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Join us on this week's episode of IncreMental Health Tips Podcast for a discussion on how to deal with manipulative people. Join the conversation and follow us on your favourite platform: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVfisdH-CMGLh6s9Eo8VZqQ Anchor: https://anchor.fm/incrementalhealthtips Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3A0MK78HlUsf6VdRjGbTfc Pocket Casts: https://pca.st/j87qziyj New episodes every Tuesday at 11 PM Eastern! Note: This content is intended for general education purposes only and in no way constitutes mental health advice and is no substitute for clinical intervention. If you need mental health advice, please contact a duly licensed practitioner in your area --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/incrementalhealthtips/message
Keith Mills is here and we talk about me getting stranded in Boston, dating manipulative girls, standup comedy in the streets, main character energy, hating on happy people, long distance relationships, fake friends, healthy dating, gaslighting, polygamy, dating for clout, & more.
This week we tackle something a little different and discuss narcissism. Episode Resourses: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age by George K. Simon Theology Gals Journals Women can join Theology Gals Facebook Group Theology Gals-Ladies Theology Discussion and Encouragement Follow Theology Gals: On Facebook On Twitter @TheologyGals On Instagram theologygals Email us at theologygals@gmail.com
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