The Femiio Podcast

You know… this feels like of those episodes that would be locked up under a Patreon if I had one of those

Shalita Grant, a Tony-nominated actress, gained fame when she courageously left a popular TV show due to her battle with traction alopecia and hair damage. Determined to find a solution, she developed a groundbreaking plant-based hair treatment for her own type 4 hair issues. In 2019, she founded Four Naturals Hair in her dining room, which has now grown into a nationwide salon and home care treatment system. Through Four Naturals, Shalita has empowered her clients, lovingly called Curlfriends, to embrace their type 4 hair with newfound confidence. Her commitment to uplifting Black women extends to developing a patent-pending textured hair detangling technique, offering pain-free experiences for mothers and children.

We've been told that strength and vulnerability are at odds with each other but the truth is that they're very closely related. Let's talk about how! Shop Nisolo: https://nisolo.uvwgb9.net/c/2219200/1058225/10656 If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Oh man friends, today I have my good friend Zach Porter on the show to discuss maybe one of the best television works we've seen thus far: Succession. Enjoy! Shop Nisolo: https://nisolo.uvwgb9.net/c/2219200/1058225/10656 If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Hi friends! Today I'm entering my Brené Brown era and we're talking about shame. Shop Nisolo: https://nisolo.uvwgb9.net/c/2219200/1058225/10656 If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Annnd we're back! With another installment of Whiskey Tales — this time including part of the Seven Grand cast, Alex, Lead Bartender! Hope y'all have as much fun listening as we had recording

It is (one of) my dream(s) to be invited onto the Drama Queens OTH Podcast to join Sophia Bush, Hilarie Burton, and Bethany Joy Lenz and they rewatch and discuss episodes of one of my foundational television series: One Tree Hill. To that end, I figured why not do an episode where I pretend to be on the podcast ALREADY and rewatch an episode and discuss it myself? It's called “manifesting”

Oludara Adeeyo is a psychotherapist and author of Self-Care for Black Women. She is passionate about helping people, especially Black women, improve their overall wellness. Before becoming a clinical social worker, Oludara worked as a writer and editor. She has been an associate web editor at Cosmopolitan and the managing editor at XXL. Oludara lives in Los Angeles, California. Affirmations for Black Women: A Journal is her second book.

Today my friends we are going to be talking about “preferences” in dating, inspired by a quote from Solomon Missouri where he noted: “Too many of us use the language of ‘preference' to cover a highly curated set of white supremacist ideologies.” Having been guilty of doing that exact thing myself in the past, and spending years undoing that hideousness, figured I should talk about it.

Shani Silver is an author and podcaster originally from Fort Worth, Texas. Her name is pronounced like “rainy” with a “sh.” Her book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one, helps singles reframe singlehood to see its value and validity, for as long as we happen to be single. She is not an advocate for singlehood, she's an advocate for people being happy while single, and there is a difference. Her podcast, A Single Serving Podcast, launched in April of 2019 in the hopes of giving single women content that—for once—didn't revolve around dating, and to support singles around the world in shedding the societal shame of singlehood. Shani has lived and dated in Austin, TX, Los Angeles, CA, Chicago, IL, Philadelphia, PA, and Brooklyn, NY. She currently lives in New Orleans. Following ten years of use, Shani permanently deleted her dating apps in January of 2019. She has loved her life ever since. Referenced TikTok Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@femiio/video/7158903607461727534 Shop Nisolo: https://nisolo.uvwgb9.net/c/2219200/1058225/10656 If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Ooooo this week friends we are talking about p l e a s u r e. Now for some of us “pleasure” is one of those words that fits right up there with "moist" and "quiver" — cringe city. And we're no more comfortable with the concept; women, especially Black women, have been taught to deny, repress, abhor, forget, and be ashamed about our own pleasure and exploring our pleasure. But the truth is that experiencing pleasure is fundamental to being alive, and in order to embrace our full selves, we need to embrace, get comfortable with, and allow ourselves to be led by our pleasure. So let's talk about what pleasure is, how we all got so weird about it, and how we can learn to get friendly with it and become our fullest most alive selves! References: Tweet Fearing the Black Body

SEASON 5 PREMIERE!!! Ugh SO happy to be back with you, we're starting the season on this

FINALE!! WE MADE IT! And this week we are talking about S-E-X my friends! I've invited my beautiful and wise friend Amber on the episode to talk about sex, our sexual journeys, how we learned to be comfortable with our bodies, all of the things! Hope you all enjoy, thank you for another gorgeous season!

SEASON FINALE!! You ever wonder why nostalgia has such a chokehold on us? Not only individually, but communally as well? SAME girl, take a walk with me while we try to figure this out together. If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

We're back! After a series of unfortunate events (including ya girl catching COVID) we are gathered today to finally discuss the book Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fatphobia by Sabrina Strings. Everybody grab your brooms cause guess what? It's a mess. If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

I and my beautiful friends Asha and Cristyna are here to talk about all things Auntie! You know what it is, pour a glass of wine and enjoy friends!

Hi babes! We are BACK with a new episode about one of my favorite shows: The O.C. Sit back, blast some Phantom Planet, and let's escape back to 2003 shall we? Enjoy!

Whew okay so today friends we are diving into the Enneagram! “What on God's green earth is an ‘enneagram'?” you ask??? Absolutely valid question, listen to the episode to find out!

Let's bring some levity shall we? For this episode I'm talking to my dearest friend and audience-favorite Asha about the best bar in San Diego: Seven Grand. Seven Grand's not only a place I go to rest and be with myself, she's also the very beautiful background for hijinks galore, and so today Asha and I are sharing some of our favorite real-life stories we've either been part of or seen unfold at the bar. Hope you love mess as much as we do!

Okay so full disclosure, this episode was going to be named “R*ssian Dolls” but after witnessing the atrocities P*tin is committing against Ukraine I figured we'd take it in another direction. But you know those dolls where you open it up and inside there's another smaller doll and you open that one up and there's another even smaller doll and so on? That's like us! I'll let the episode tell you how. Enjoy! If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Back to back interviews with badass women! In this one, I invite Shani Silver back on the podcast to talk about her book, A Single Revolution, and essentially be my therapist for the day. Enjoy! If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

On today's episode I'm talking with Oludara Adeeyo! Oludara Adeeyo is a psychotherapist. Based in Los Angeles, California, she works as a psychiatric social worker, where she assists individuals experiencing homelessness, as well as severe and persistent mental illnesses. Oludara is passionate about helping people improve their overall well-being; especially, Black women. Before becoming a clinical social worker, Oludara spent seven-plus years working as a writer and editor. She has been an associate web editor at Cosmopolitan and the managing editor at XXL. Oludara grew up in Edison, New Jersey. She loves Beyoncé, hot yoga, cooking, and watching telenovelas. Social Media Consultant referenced in the episode: Anuli Akanegbu info@anuliwashere.com http://anuliwashere.com/ If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Okay so we have been told in every way imaginable that the “spark” is what we need to be looking for in relationships, but what if in reality… The Spark ain't whatchu want? Listen and learn friends, you might want to leave The Spark alone, and I'll tell you why in this episode. If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

This week we are going to be talking about attachment styles, aka what our relationship behavior can look like based on family of origin, relationship history, etc. Ultimately knowing our attachment style not only helps us show up better in our relationships, but it most importantly is part of the process of self-discovery which is imperative in our self-love practice. Learning your attachment style will help you love and take better care of yourself. Enjoy the episode, and feel free to continue to do research on your own to find out more about your attachment style! References: @floybylow on TikTok Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

WELCOME FRIENDS TO SEASON 4! This week we are talking about the question “What Are They Showing You?” and how you can use it to clarify your decision-making process and choose people, jobs, relationships that support you. It's good to be back, enjoy! If you want to stay in touch, find me on TikTok or Instagram @femiio, or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Season 3 finale!! We made it y'all! This week I wanted to talk about my new favorite show, American Crime Story: Impeachment about the Monica Lewinsky scandal and the ensuing impeachment of Bill Clinton. There were too many overlays between Monica's portrayed experience and one of my earlier podcast episodes discussing the trouble with choosing emotionally (and otherwise) unavailable people for me to NOT talk about it so here we are. Enjoy! Watch the show! Go listen to the Emotional Availability episode afterwards! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

ALROIGHT BAYBES. This week let's keep it fun and ridiculous and talk about the madness that is Love Island UK. Warning: it's spoilers all up and through but if you're about that life, get after it! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

THIS WEEK. We had the lovely and wise and talented and funny Shani Silver, host of “A Single Serving” Podcast on the show to talk about the Wild West that is dating in a global pancetta. We covered everything from why dating apps are not your friend to finding out that all the hot men in the world are on TikTok. Enjoy! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

I literally can't even write this summary, you just have to press play. Dissect Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6xvQg8K0PHnLKdUOTlifYt?si=pltbyGp4Tg27iRI1oq2vaQ&dl_branch=1 If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Okay so Juneteenth is officially a holiday! And while in some senses that can be cause for celebration, in others it only further highlights the staunch resistance this government seems to have to truly recognizing and reconciling its shameful past. Let's talk about it! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Naketa Ren Thigpen is a Psychotherapist, Trauma Specialist, Sexology and Relationship expert and founder of the Thigpro Balance and Relationship Management institute and this week we got to talk about — I mean what DIDN'T we talk about? Relational trauma, work/life/love balance, healing generational curses, finding fun in boundary-setting, self-love vs. selfishness, sex, passion, calling, divine work! Hope y'all ready with some pen and paper! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

We are HALF WAY through season 3 already, can you believe?! So this week we're taking a breath to reflect on the first half of the season, maybe catch up on any episodes you've missed, and get pumped about what's coming the last half of the season! Click here to get access to the Feeling Your Feelings Online Workshop: https://www.femiio.com/fyf-signup If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

So last week was a lot. Minutes before a jury told us what we'd already seen with our eyes, that Derek Chauvin was guilty of murdering George Floyd in cold blood, Ma'Khia Bryant was murdered in cold blood after calling the police for help. I have never been more tired and I imagine Black people everywhere are feeling the same weight. Please rest. White people, y'all have work to do. Black people, take care of yourselves

I promised I'd do it so here it is! Recapping (to the best of our abilities) the final episode of this season and the After the Final Rose special. WHAT. An adventure it's been. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

You knew we had to talk about that interview. THAT interview. The one where Harry and Meghan slammed the “Expose” button on The Royal Family. Yes this is a huge cultural moment and so deserves attention for that but even more so, this interview felt important to discuss because on some level, Meghan's experience in The Royal Family echoes and mirrors the experiences Black women have everyday. Being gaslit, being watched under a microscope, being unduly criticized, being accused of making a white woman cry, being told that you and/or your children do not deserve the same rights and protections because of your skin. There is a whole host of privilege involved here (both due to wealth and colorism), but there are also points of connection, a subtle sameness. So I wanted to discuss those, as well as highlight the similarities between hers and the late Princess Diana's stories. It's a lot so let's get into it! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Y'all THIS WEEK. We are going IN on this season of the Bachelor and it's about damnb time. Yes, that “b” is there on purpose. If you've been watching the circus surrounding Matt James, the tomfoolery that is Rachel Kirkconnell's social media history, and the flat out buffoonery that is Chris Harrison's comments on it, this episode is for you. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Welcome to season 3 of The Femiio Podcast everyone! For today's show I had the opportunity to interview the incredible Nikki Lynette, a creative multi-hyphenate in the fullest sense of the word, who birthed the hit play Get Out Alive based on her personal mental health journey. Over the course of this powerful conversation, Nikki and I got to discuss the importance of representation in mental wellness, what it means to live on purpose, and why you are the only one responsible for making yourself happy. It's loaded y'all, take a listen! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

We made it! The season 2 finale of The Femiio Podcast is here! This week we're wrapping up our Trip Down Memory Lane with a journal entry I wrote recently, reflecting on the process of moving from self-hatred towards self-love. I want to thank every single one of you who have listened, commented, shared, rated, and loved this podcast! It gives me life and I cannot wait to get back here next season. Happy Holidays, and here's to 2021 being… NOT 2020! Cheers pretties! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Mmmmkay so THIS WEEK. Y'all are getting a *special treat* because I apparently lost my mind and decided that I would read to you my old JOURNAL ENTRIES! Can you imagine. Kidding of course about the lost my mind part — it is thrillingly vulnerable to read journal entries on a public podcast but isn't that what we're all about? Vulnerability! This is the first of a two-part episode, which will showcase the transition from being in a place of deep self-hatred, through the awkward middle phase as I begin to practice self-acceptance (a very uncomfortable undertaking when you've been so used to self-rejection) and finally, in two weeks, we'll discuss my current practice of self-love and what I've learned and hope for along the way. It promises to be quite the ride, enjoy! And please don't forget to rate and subscribe to this podcast, it helps more people it might benefit to find it! Heyooo! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

I wasn't going to do any Election 2020 content, but as the votes rolled in last week and we waited what seemed like an eternity to find out who would become the 46th President of the United States, I thought it important to not only let off some steam, but have a record of the thoughts and emotions a lot of us may have been feeling, and may still be feeling. I invited my friend Asha back for an open, honest, and raw conversation about the election chaos, Donald Trump's surging numbers, and the incredible ways Black folk continue to show up and show out in a country that routinely rejects us. I hope at the least, you feel heard as you listen. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Happy first birthday to The Femiio Podcast!

Some time ago I posted this sentence to Instagram and got a... RESPONSE. For many of us (straight, cisgendered women looking for relationship) hearing this phrase comes with a litany of excuses and evidence trying to disprove it. But how instead, can we see this statement as a truth and reflection of abundance in our love lives? How do we practice believing this even in the face of mountains of evidence to the contrary? Listen for my take, and leave your thoughts in the comments! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. Black Lives Matter. Black Women Matter. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

So many of us are OBSESSED with the idea of being a “good person”. We find ourselves ruminating, constantly agonizing over decisions, or regretting words we've used or things we've done with the past, keeping a constant tally and hoping that at the end the result will tell us that we are “Good people”. What if I told you that was all horseshit? What if I told you life isn't about dividing people up into “good” or “bad” camps, rather it is about looking at yourself with love and having a deep knowing that you are doing your best? Listen to this episode to hear why we struggle so hard with wanting to be “good”, and how to release that and relax into grace for yourself and the people around you. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Recently I had the distinct privilege of (virtually) sitting down with Miss Deun Ivory! For those of you who don't know, Deun Ivory is a photographer, creative visionary, and founder of The Body a Home for Love — a nonprofit organization centered on shifting the culture and conversation around how black women heal from sexual trauma. POWERFUL AMIRITE. In this episode we got to discuss all things art, aesthetic, inspiration, and black girl magic. It's jam packed with gems so I highly suggest listening at least twice and taking some notes. Enjoy friends! If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Who is The Chill Girl? What does that mean? In essence, The Chill Girl is a persona we slip into when we decide to make ourselves small. When we give into the teaching that we as women are to be seen, not heard — God forbid we express dissent or vocalize a need because then we run the risk of being called “high-maintenance”, “difficult to work with”, or be otherwise shamed. The Chill Girl is who we sometimes become in our efforts to belong (which is not a bad thing!). However, we must realize, the only way to truly belong is to abandon the “The Chill Girl” persona, and instead accept, embrace, and show up with all parts of ourselves. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Y'all remember Hamilton, that show that came out a few years ago that reminded everyone Theater exists? Disney+ just started showing Hamilton on their platform a few weeks ago and you know we had to get into it. How much responsibility to artist's have when telling a story? Is it okay that Hamilton seemed to gloss over America's slaveholding history in favor of a good show? Listen to hear my take. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

The title of this episode, as you may have guessed, was inspired by that absolute BOP by Selena Gomez of the same name, about what it looks like when you get to the other side of heartbreak. As so many of us are now facing varying kinds/levels of heartbreak, be it personal, societal, or global, I thought it was important to discuss what it looks like to move through heartbreak, and how we can get to the other side even when the middle feels so vast and at times insurmountable. If you find yourself struggling right now, please don't hesitate to reach out to a trusted friend or better yet a THERAPIST. They'll save your life, I can personally attest. Blog Post: Life Tends Towards Healing If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

Hi y'all! Welcome back to SEASON TWO of The Femiio Podcast, boy did I miss you!For this episode, we (and by we I mean “I”) decided go to off the cuff. No notes, no outline, just you and me shooting the shit about the last 2 (3?) months. Grab your wine and buckle in. Cheers to being back! (So it turns out the YouTube video I mentioned in the episode is no longer available, but you know what still is? Google. Happy hunting!) If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

When we think of Beyoncé, we often tend to believe that how she is is always how she's been — powerful, strong, self-assured. And to some extent that's true, but what's truer is that even she is in a process of becoming, as we all are. And it's evident in her work, that she has continued to grow and change and become more herself over her career. So what can we learn from that process? How can we also lovingly submit to our process of becoming so that we can grow into our highest selves? If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio

What does it mean to make a home out of our bodies? How do we practice making our bodies feel safe when so many of us have been taught and practiced years of the opposite — talking badly about your body, wishing you had someone else's stomach, or chest, or legs, overlooking the body's needs. In this episode we cover the practice of making homes out of our bodies, making them spaces we feel safe and comfortable in, and love well in and from. If you want to stay in touch, find me on Instagram @femiio or email questions/feedback to info@femiio.com. To support Femiio and The Femiio Podcast, you can visit paypal.me/femiio