The Radical Imperfectionist

For real… society tells us that we aren't supposed to age, and we can't let ourselves go or we have failed. It's represented all over and yet it's done so much that we take over shaming ourselves for the normal process of life. We are told that if someone ages then they have “not aged gracefully” but that's just a distraction from living life. That is a resistance to the process of life and yet the programming is there. So where do we go from here? Here I just want to share my thoughts on the matter in hopes, per usual, that it helps you on your journey. Have a wonderful week!

This year, I choose space. In all of my imperfect glory, I will show up in my life with the energy that keeps me growing. Thank you for joining me. Have a wonderful day!

Today we are Redefining trust as it relates to love and letting go… today, I take you down a journey I've been on lately as I deconstruct and remodel my experiences around a life of Love, unhindered by insecurity of my lovability. Enjoy!

What if; what if; what if…. What if we flipped the script and redefined what it meant to say “she let herself go”….

How to be and not be in control simultaneously; Constant questioning; internal dialogue; awareness; and the journey. This week I share how hard it has been and how perfect it has been. I must remind myself that what we think true is only one optional interpretation of circumstances. What can we do today to help the world and help ourselves? Become comfortable with discomfort... dare I?

This week I open up about my struggles to let go and how it's led me to finding so much freedom in practicing feeling the discomfort of my emotions. I also talk about how my wrestling with thoughts on God and Peopke and the World in these times has led me to really profoundly feel that I need more listening and walking in other's shoes than getting on my soap box right now and always... the irony, to post this on my audio soap box haha... well, I hope you enjoy!

My, has it been an interesting past year... I have taken a much needed sabbatical from many things in order that I could submit to the humbling process of life, as it has been, and re-focus on what matters. I've been decluttering my mind and my home and my schedule,.. and lately, I've been really aching to share my heart with you. So, I'm back, and today I just want to share with you a piece of my heart and a virtual hug to all of you. It's not looked the same for any of us, and yet we are in this together. Email me your thoughts, experience, struggle and silver linings if you'd like to connect. I'm at theradicalperfectionist@gmail.com. I aim to check my email weekly, not daily, but would certainly love to hear your heart ❤️ ❤️❤️

This episode is about my struggle, with the shuffling of my life, to keep some habits in place that I need. It's about letting go more and starting again now. Several weeks ago I was a speaker on The Fiercely Resilient Women's Health and Wellness Summit as well. Go check it out: https://www.fiercelyresilient.com Also, join me in doing a 100 day Gong; I'll share more very soon! Or send me an email about your experience with this challenge?!? More soon! Email me TheRadicalImperfectionist@gmail.com or check out TheRadicalImperfectionist.com

As a human living in a radically imperfect world, I share from my heart my feelings at this time. A week late as I learned late about what had happened, and yet I must share. My heart is with you all ❤️❤️❤️

Today, I want to shift our attention to what we can control. Let's dig into emotions, particularly happiness. Here we talk about the work of Byron Katie and Brooke Castillo and others, as we understand what “thought work” even means, and how to find power on the inside (where we can feel so helpless and overwhelmed). This is meant to empower you and bring peace, and I hope it does my friends, because our mental state matters now more than ever. It affects how we show up in the world, and the impact we can and will make depends on the thoughts that we allow to tell our story.

In this episode of the podcast, I want to tell you that your thoughts are not “you” and that we are all experiencing the current circumstances differently. Our minds are faced with a lot of uncertainty and more than ever before, our mental health matters. You matter. And the things we were struggling with before feel even more in our faces as we are participating in social isolation and attempting to find our footing. Today I hope to encourage you and to reinforce why I'm here. I want to give you a couple of tips but also just to remind you that you are a human with a human mind and to give yourself grace. I hope this finds you well and gives you peace today and know that I am praying for you and sending my love into the world. You are not alone, even if it feels that way. Go to TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources ❤️

I think we all are on overload with what's going on. We want to be safe, we want to help, we are juggling a whole new set of obstacles as a result of taking action alongside thoughts that just produce fear after fear. In Today's episode I am sharing with you what I'm doing. This message is to give you some peace and calm right now, especially for those of you that struggled with anxiety' before any global emergency began. I'm here for you. Please share this with any mamas out there who are struggling in this area. We are in this together. You can Find more resources and contact me at TheRadicalImperfectionist.com.

It is uncomfortable to find yourself wrestling with competing thoughts/beliefs, emotions and actions. As humans, we all struggle with cognitive dissonance, but just becoming aware of this predicament as the very human occurrence that it is releases a lot of the power in this mental struggle that we face. In this episode we talk about Cognitive Dissonance; What it is, how it is pretty rough for perfectionists and some steps in moving through it toward the life we want, and to enjoying the life we are in. You can head over to theradicalimperfectionist.com for more resources and to send me a message ❤️❤️❤️ Text the word “Imperfect” to the number 228-28 to receive the RE-Write Your Story Worksheet as a gift from me to you and to stay up to date on all the good stuff. Enjoy and have a wonderful day!

This episode is about something I've been focusing on for the past several weeks. It's something all of us struggle with as perfectionists and is a must listen if you are working toward freedom and growth. DECISIONS... this topic I take from a different angle because it is talked about a lot from the outside in, as though it is separate from what's going on in our minds, but that's not true. When we have decisions (small and large) looming over our heads, our energy is zapped and we have less to give to our lives and our loved ones; to pour into our goals and to honor ourselves with previously made decisions. Here I talk about what I've been working on and some helpful shifts in thinking. Subscribe on your platform and share with those who you know would benefit. Thank you for joining me sunshine. Also, You can check out TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources and to keep updated on future happenings. Have a wonderful week

In this episode I talk about how our brains are always asking and answering questions; it's how our brains are making sense of our circumstances and giving everything meaning. This is the essence of thoughts.... And harnessing the power of these questions in your life works with your brain to change your life by changing the focus of your thoughts on purpose and through human psychology. This episode is powerful and is a must for the life of any Radical Imperfectionist. Listen, subscribe and share this message with anybody that would benefit from this message. Send me a message on IG or at https://theradicalimperfectionist.com/contact-us/ I can't wait to hear from you! Have a wonderful day ❤️❤️❤️

In this episode we talk about how complaints happen when we give a voice to our inner critic. We talk about a new way to look at it that can immediately take us out of the dialogue that is spiraling us negatively, and change our thought patterns with simple tools. We all want something and when we are stuck in unhelpful stories we can't see the desire. Let's work to uncover what we want and need and come from a place of curiosity, gratitude and admiration so we can actually grow and learn and lead the life we want. Send me a message at https://TheRadicalImperfectionist.com/contact-us or on Instagram. You can also check out The Radical Imperfectionist on YouTube for some helpful videos and tools. Workbook coming in 2020! Enjoy

In this episode we talk about how people often confuse thoughts with emotions. This confusion can make the idea of honoring emotions confusing and unhelpful (because we don't want to honor unhelpful thoughts even though the resulting feeling is valid). Not all thoughts are truth and this clarity can really help in figuring out how to actually change your life where it matters, right where you live it. Enjoy!

The new year often means more pressure to do the things we think will make us “better”. This attempt to fix ourselves often comes from fear motivations... we think we aren't enough and we are finally going to change that. But since our action comes from our emotion, which comes from our thoughts; a root of unworthiness will never produce a more satisfying life. Join me as I discuss letting go of more this year and assessing your motivating beliefs so that you can find the joy and peace in YOUR life being who YOU are, right now. Subscribe and share this episode with anybody who needs this message.

Getting sick this week caused a change of my plans, so today we will try something a little different with this episode. The audio quality isn't as great but I hope you join me on my walk and dialogue with me on this topic today. Take a quick walk with me as we discuss the idea of progressing from clinging, to acceptance and finally embracing the circumstances we can't control! Enjoy

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In this episode, I discuss how to sustain real change... this is about how it doesn't begin with our behaviors; behaviors are a symptom of our thoughts. You see happiness doesn't begin with our circumstances either... it all begins on the thoughts in our mind. The stories we tell. If you want to find success with your resolutions, join me, and share with anybody that will find this helpful. Enjoy!

Hello My Friends!!! 2020 is almost here. The holiday season can feel like we find ourselves on a treadmill going fast... one that we never remembered choosing to step on... but we don't have to be taken along for the ride. This season, I am sharing some tips that I'm arming myself with going into the season so that I can make space for what matters and remain in the drivers seat as much as possible when it comes to my headspace. I will be taking some much needed time off this week to connect with my incredible husband as we celebrate 10 years of marriage, and am incredibly excited. I hope that this more brief episode still fills you up and inspires you and that you too find time to connect with loved ones and reflect on what matters the most. Have an incredible week my friends and enjoy!

Today I explore the idea of being wrong, jumping off from last week's episode on giving ourselves permission... let's give ourselves permission to grow. Enjoy!

In this episode, we unpack the need to give ourself permission; we discuss how it in essence forms a bridge from our dreams right through the fear into a radically imperfect beautiful life of freedom that we all want. Enjoy!

This is from way back in June. I am working on my workbook including much of what is included here and pulled it down... enjoy :) Today we dig in deep beneath the layers of other people's opinions to what we allow it to mean inside ourselves when other people don't like us. We talk about perfectionism and it's role in this cycle. It's a long one but at the core of this work. Enjoy!

In this episode I talk about the connection between ignorance and wisdom and how it's the awareness of our constant unfolding of ignorance that frees us from the binding of that ignorance. I talk about how wisdom has to do with understanding what we know and that we mostly don't know, and that we only suffer at the hands of ignorance when we point the finger and refuse to acknowledge that we are all ignorant. As perfectionists, we are trapped in ignorance that produces fear and shame. Let's stop using this to slander others and start using this to understand ourselves and extend compassion to our former selves and the rest of the world. Enjoy!

In this episode we discuss how emotions are a physical reaction to our thoughts... they are a signal, alerting us of what is going on in our internal world; of which thoughts we are believing or that our actions are not aligned with what we are trying to believe. Tap into the power of your emotions without letting them intimidate you and run your life! Enjoy my friends.

Society tells you not to let yourself go. I call BS. In this episode I talk about how the idea of not letting ourselves go represents a great truth; this is the fact that so many of us hold ourselves captive to the ideas of others. You are enough and don't need to comply. Free yourself from expectations of others and society and learn to really embrace yourself. I hope you enjoy!

Resilience is critical for a life of happiness and fulfillment. It is not about surviving but about thriving. It has a lot to do with our perception at the core and it is a habit, a muscle to be worked and built. Struggle, stress, frustration, fear and failure are not BAD. Join me as I talk about the profound shifts I'm making in my perception so that I can live my imperfect life more joyfully and fully. Enjoy!

It's been six months since the launch of The Radical Imperfectionist Podcast, IG account, Website and so on, and I am celebrating doing my happy dance... this episode is not a normal episode, just an update. Please send me a message on Instagram or an email at theradicalimperfectionist@gmail.com to share what would help you the most on your journey to embracing yourself and growing more into who that is. Or, if you have any ideas I would love to hear them. I'm so grateful for you and for this community we are building. I have great visions for the future and am taking steps to make it happen. Have a wonderful day!

This week I am sharing what's been going on with me and how much I realize that I need to reduce the clutter of my world; those things that clutter my time and energy and mind, so that I can focus on what is important. I realize I was getting wrapped up in trying to do too much and in expectations that were making me feel like I was constantly failing. I talk about holding space and some areas I am going to focus on to making shifts in my life. I hope this resonates with you and is helpful. Have a great day!

This week we talk about emotional scars and I share what I'm working to heal this week. Real growth comes with accepting the pain as well and feeling it. It's hard but it's real and it's where we will find what we need to become who we are underneath it all. Enjoy!

In this episode, we talk about believing the lies about the concept of humility. We talk about how this impacts our lives and what real humility looks like and how amazing it can be. It's a way of being and thinking that ripples throughout our lives. It is a mindset that transforms our lives. I have been working on this, and will keep working on letting go and embracing more and more about my imperfection, while I own my “stuff” and seek growth. I hope you'll join me today in wrestling with these ideas. Enjoy!

This week I think it's important to discuss how easy it is to be trapped in fear when things like the recent Mass shootings and other events happen. It's a struggle for me as well, but we do have a choice. Enjoy!

This week we will talk about how ruminating over and obsessing over conversations holds us back, oppresses us and keeps us trapped in the past. When we do this we feel helpless and hopeless and utterly powerless. I hope you find this helpful. Enjoy!

In this episode I'm exploring how all-or-nothing thinking impacts our lives. We talk about how it holds us back from growth and in relationships. We talk about some ways I practice work in this area and I hope you find this incredibly helpful. Enjoy!

In this episode we talk about how our brains take in evidence to enforce what they already believe and how we can harness this and own our choice. We talk about using visualization, curiosity and reflection on where we are easily offended to gain freedom and power in our lives. Enjoy!

In this area we unpack the idea of getting to know yourself from a new angle, inspecting how we can cling to ideas of who we are as a limiting identity. We talk about how to nourish our thoughts with good food and we go deep. I am grateful to be sharing in this journey with you and hope you enjoy!   You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or check out the Essay version of this episode HERE.

In this episode, I discuss the crushing power of feeling responsible for all of the worlds problems. We go into how we are not meant to know all of it all of the time and how helpless it feels when the influx is never ceasing. You were not meant to do it all. Let go and lean into your life, responding to what's before you with love and gratitude. You are enough. Enjoy!

In this episode, I share my experiences with judgement and how debilitating the pervasive mindsets can be. I share some pivotal paradigm shifts around this idea and a few practical tips on how you can start implementing the shift toward embracing yourself and freedom in your every day life. For more resources or to view the written version of this episode you can visit TheRadicalImperfectionist.com or click HERE.

In this episode we talk about how we are all jerks, how we need grace and how nothing is really personal. We talk about how the present moment is our greatest gift and it constantly being stolen from us as we pursue an illusion of joy... all while joy is in our very midst, if only we can live here and now. Enjoy!

In this episode we will talk about how important it is to make a distinction between ambition and not listening to your physical body. We talk about teaming up with your body to go farther, rather than creating a battle with the very vessel that makes it all possible. Enjoy!

In this episode I'll talk about the idea of feeling lost; of not having to know it all, and the endless pursuit of knowledge. I talk about how important it is to respect the ideas we have before us and accept that which is outside of our control. I hope you enjoy! You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or to skim the written version of this episode HERE.

In this episode I will talk about how imposter syndrome has manifested in my life and how it has impacted my actions. I'll talk about the concept of confident humility and share some strategies that I use to help to stand up to the bully inside and embrace the blessings of this beautiful life. Enjoy! You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or check out the Essay version of this episode HERE.

In this episode I open up about a story that has had a lot of power in my life. A part of my journey that, because I had not rewritten the narrative, had a powerful pull of shame in my life. I talk a little about the difference between taking responsibility for our actions and tormenting ourselves with shame. How our actions are not where our value lies and I recap a mini version of rewriting our story. I hope you find help and encouragement in this episode. Have a wonderful day! You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or check out the Essay version of this episode HERE.

Your body was beautiful from the moment it was born. What if you digested the idea that we all have been drank the tea of lies causing body shame, but that we can become aware of the lies and we do have a choice? What if you untied with your body to enjoy your life fully? We will begin to unpack this in this episode. Enjoy! If you would like to check out my website for resources and my blog, you may click HERE or go to theradicalimperfectionist.com!

In this episode we dive into the importance of authentic relationships. As the author Ben Boss said in his Book about Dyslexia, “Ironically, community is the antidote to shame.” Let's talk about shame and vulnerability and how important it is to take time to find your tribe and put forth effort to be vulnerable. Enjoy! You can also visit my website for the written version of this episode and other resources as well, by clicking HERE or visiting TheRadicalImperfectionist.com. Have a wonderful day!

In this episode we explore the value of getting to know our core selves in order to see both our strengths and weaknesses as valuable, and releasing us from being stuck so we can find liberation and growth with our own individual traits. You can also visit my website for the written version of this episode and other resources as well, by clicking HERE or visiting TheRadicalImperfectionist.com. Have a wonderful day!

In this episode we explore how posture and thoughts are intimately linked, and how we can use this as a tool. I share experiences from my youth which have affected my posture for much of my life; along with some ways we can explore this and find alignment in both our physical and emotional bodies. You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or to skim the written version of this episode HERE.

In this episode, I share yet another part of my story... a part that kept me in shame for a long time. I shared where I came from and where I am now, along with one tool I have used to help me move past the struggle toward healing and freedom. I give an example of rewriting a story and challenge you to do the same. Join me in this powerful work and live in freedom! You may also visit my website TheRadicalImperfectionist.com for more resources or to skim the written version of this episode HERE.

This episode is to welcome you into my world; to give you a glimpse into my heart and my vision for this podcast and the accompanying website. I am on a mission to encourage you to embrace yourself, to Grow, and to empower yourself and others. I don't know it all, but I'm a scientist of my life; deeply driven to pursue wisdom and the best life I can live, and I'm not going to do it alone. Let's do this! If you would like to visit my website for more resources or to skim the Essay version of each episode, along with other resources, you can visit TheRadicalImperfectionist.com or click HERE.  Have a great day!