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“My spouse is having an affair. What do I do now?” Affairs expert Dave Carder walks through searing betrayal, what you need to know, and what to do next. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

“My spouse is having an affair. What do I do now?” Affairs expert Dave Carder walks through searing betrayal, what you need to know, and what to do next. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

Counselor Dave Carder, author of "The Anatomy of An Affair," explains how attractions and addictions develop—and how to guard your marriage against them. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

Counselor Dave Carder, author of "The Anatomy of An Affair," explains how attractions and addictions develop—and how to guard your marriage against them. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/84/29

The beginnings of an affair are often innocent and hardly noticeable, which is why you should take steps to safeguard your marriage. This week, join Greg & Erin as they sit down with author and counselor Dave Carder to talk about building trust, setting boundaries, and nurturing intimacy to keep your marriage strong and secure. Later, we share our favorite date night ideas. Then, we answer a question from a listener who wants to know how she should handle confronting her husbands addiction to pornography.   Click here to receive Dave's book, "Anatomy of an Affair," for a gift of any amount!   Read Erin's article, "Make Date Night With Your Spouse A Weekly Habit."   Read Erin's article, "Why and How to Pursue a Healing Separation."   Read Joann Condie's book about how to deal with a spouse's porn addiction, "Aftershock."   If you or your spouse struggle with porn, click here for Pure Desire Ministries   Donate Now!   We'd love to hear from you! Visit our Homepage to leave us a voicemail.

Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Disclaimer: This message contains adult themes and is not intended for little ears. Ephesians 4:31+32 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” DAVE CARDER serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals.  He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married for 49 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. Anatomy of an Affair by Dave Carder Torn Asunder by Dave Carder Torn Asunder Workbook by Dave Carder Close Calls by Dave Carder Schedule an appointment with Dave Carder HERE Dave Carder's Website, Including FREE video series on recovering from extramarital affair How We Love Website 5 Love Languages Website Couple Talk Website Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass Thank You to Our Sponsor: Chick-fil-A East Peoria  Connect with The Savvy Sauce through Our Website Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast! Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

What does it look like to choose each other again after betrayal? Listen as author and counselor Dave Carder joins Debbie Laaser & Greg Miller to discuss marriage after betrayal.Subscribe to our YouTube channel:   - https://bit.ly/FaithfulandTrueAttend a Workshop Experience   - For Men - https://bit.ly/MensJourneyWorkshop   - For Women - http://bit.ly/WomensJourneyWorkshop   - For Couples - http://bit.ly/CouplesIntensiveWorkshopContact us:   - https://faithfulandtrue.com/   - info@faithfulandtrue.com   - 952-746-3880Dr. Mark Laaser, M.Div., Ph.D., was considered one of the Christian leaders in the field of sex addiction before his death in September 2019. Mark, together with his wife, Debbie Laaser, MA, LMFT, have shared their 32 years of personal experience in sexual addiction recovery with thousands of individuals and couples through their work and resources at Faithful & True.The Faithful & True 3-Day Intensive Workshops continue to transform lives, rebuild trust, and help heal marriages.

Usted tuvo un amoro. Y ahora qu? Dave Carder, autor del libro Destrozados y pastor de una iglesia, comparte sus consejos para poder confesrlo a su cnyuge despus de haber cometido adulterio. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Usted tuvo un amoro. Y ahora qu? Dave Carder, autor del libro Destrozados y pastor de una iglesia, comparte sus consejos para poder confesrlo a su cnyuge despus de haber cometido adulterio. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Un guio, un odo que escucha, una sonrisa evasiva y tmida. Es un simple coqueteo o el inicio de algo mucho ms peligroso, como un amoro extramarital? Escuche el programa de hoy, en el que el pastor Dave Carder, autor del libro Destrozados, contar cmo una accin o un gesto inocente, con el tiempo, pueden terminar convirtindose en infidelidad. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Un guio, un odo que escucha, una sonrisa evasiva y tmida. Es un simple coqueteo o el inicio de algo mucho ms peligroso, como un amoro extramarital? Escuche el programa de hoy, en el que el pastor Dave Carder, autor del libro Destrozados, contar cmo una accin o un gesto inocente, con el tiempo, pueden terminar convirtindose en infidelidad. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Por qu empiezan los amoros? Descbralo cuando el autor y pastor, Dave Carder, seale la raz que causa una relacin extramarital To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Por qu empiezan los amoros? Descbralo cuando el autor y pastor, Dave Carder, seale la raz que causa una relacin extramarital To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Los amoros extramaritales estn rompiendo matrimonios en porcentajes muy altos. Dave Carder, pastor y autor del libro Destrozados, le contar cmo tener un matrimonio a prueba de amoros. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

Los amoros extramaritales estn rompiendo matrimonios en porcentajes muy altos. Dave Carder, pastor y autor del libro Destrozados, le contar cmo tener un matrimonio a prueba de amoros. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/692/29

"My spouse is having an affair. What do I do now?" Affairs expert Dave Carder walks through searing betrayal, what you need to know, and what to do next. Show Notes and Resources Try Dave Carder's marriage counseling sessions now. Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Counselor Dave Carder, author of The Anatomy of An Affair, explains how attractions and addictions develop and how to guard your marriage against them. Show Notes and Resources Try Dave Carder's marriage counseling sessions now. Save 50% on Weekend to Remember registration now though Jan. 23! Find resources from this podcast at shop.familylife.com. Find more content and resources on the FamilyLife's app! Help others find FamilyLife. Leave a review on Apple Podcast or Spotify. Check out all the FamilyLife podcasts on the FamilyLife Podcast Network

Season 7 might be over, but we are bringing back the Top 10 most listened-to episodes in Lifegiver Podcast History! Betrayal is, unfortunately, more common than you think- especially in the service culture.  In this episode, I share with you the strategy I use to help couples work through affair recovery.  There are three phases and couples will certainly stall if not fail to recover their marriage if they miss important steps throughout the phases.  Two people, if are both willing to work hard, can rebuild their marriage after an affair and go on to have a rich relationship.   Here are some of the resources mentioned throughout the episode: My interview with Dr. Mike Sytsma Here is also my podcast on "Sin in a Christian Marriage" Part 1 & Part 2  More Resources: • Torn Asunder by Dave Carder. There is also a workbook available for this book. (faith based) • Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary & Mona Shriver (faith based) • Secrets to Surviving Infidelity by Scott Haltzman • After the Affair by Janis Spring  Rebuilding Trust Video – Using the image of a “trust bucket”, Dr. Mike addresses rebuilding trust after a affair. Setbacks in Marriage- The Podcast Episode Women & the Tough Bible Verses– (Topic of Submission and gender roles in the Bible- Authentic Intimacy) People Are More Important Than Marriage– Authentic Intimacy, When you shouldn't fight for your marriage. Sexual Intimacy and Post Affair with Mike Sytsma How do Affairs Happen? New Life Church, Brady Boyd Articles: So You've Hit a Marriage Setback: 3 Steps Military Marriage: When to Separate Mike Sytsma- Betrayal & Affair Recovery (articles and video) Protecting Your Marriage from an Affair  Books: Mission Ready Marriage: My Life As An Active Duty Wife Claire Wood Sacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage Corie Weathers

As a young Christian, Dave Carder saw two pastors commit adultery, losing both their families and their ministries. He was determined to find out why people commit adultery and to help couples recognise "close call friendships" that could blossom into affairs. He encourages listeners to develop a "dangerous partner profile," identifying types of people they tend to find attractive - like authority figures. Pastor Carder provides over a dozen “red flags” that warn of inappropriate intimacy in a friendship, and encourages spouses to stay within judicious boundaries. Book by guest: Anatomy of An Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them.

As a young Christian, Dave Carder saw two pastors commit adultery, losing both their families and their ministries. He was determined to find out why people commit adultery and to help couples recognise "close call friendships" that could blossom into affairs. He encourages listeners to develop a "dangerous partner profile," identifying types of people they tend to find attractive - like authority figures. Pastor Carder provides over a dozen “red flags” that warn of inappropriate intimacy in a friendship, and encourages spouses to stay within judicious boundaries. Book by guest: Anatomy of An Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them.

As a young Christian, Dave Carder saw two pastors commit adultery, losing both their families and their ministries. He was determined to find out why people commit adultery and to help couples recognize “close call friendships” that could blossom into affairs. Pastor Carder provides over a dozen “red flags” that warn of inappropriate intimacy in a friendship, and encourages spouses to stay within judicious boundaries. (Part 2 of 2) Receive Dave's book "Anatomy of an Affair" for your donation of any amount: https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-daily-broadcast-product-2022-02-22?refcd=1318002 Get more episode resources: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/friendship-or-flirtations-danger-signs-for-couples-part-2-of-2/#featured-resource-cta If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback: https://focusonthefamily.com/podcastsurvey/

As a young Christian, Dave Carder saw two pastors commit adultery, losing both their families and their ministries. He was determined to find out why people commit adultery and to help couples recognize “close call friendships” that could blossom into affairs. Pastor Carder provides over a dozen “red flags” that warn of inappropriate intimacy in a friendship, and encourages spouses to stay within judicious boundaries. (Part 1 of 2) Receive Dave's book "Anatomy of an Affair" for your donation of any amount: https://donate.focusonthefamily.com/don-daily-broadcast-product-2022-02-22?refcd=1318002 Get more episode resources: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/episodes/broadcast/friendship-or-flirtations-danger-signs-for-couples-part-1-of-2/#featured-resource-cta If you've listened to any of our podcasts, please give us your feedback: https://focusonthefamily.com/podcastsurvey/

Did you get the feedback you wanted from your last interview? One of the most frustrating things about being rejected after an interview is not understanding why. On episode 11 of the Career PROgressions podcast, Mark has a conversation with one of our RGI Purpose Driven Recruitment™ Consultants, Dave Carder. He's been interviewing candidates for over 35 years and he's going to spill the beans about what might be the reason you didn't get the job!

Many wives have a fear that their husband will have an affair.  Many husbands have this exact same fear.  Today, we are going to dive into some of the key take-aways from a book called "Anatomy of an Affair" by Dave Carder, to help us with this topic.The author studied the elements that often lead up to an affair, and he outlines them in his book.  Listen in, as we are going to list some of the things he suggests that we avoid thinking, feeling, and doing, in order to decrease our chances of an affair occurring.  This list is not meant for us to become more critical of our spouse, or to accuse them of doing some of these things, or to assume they are having one.  The purpose of this list is to heighten our awareness... not of our spouse's behaviors, but of our own.  What thoughts are we thinking?  What feelings are we entertaining?  What actions are we taking that might lead us down the path of having an affair?  While we do list quite a bit of things we should NOT doing, we also list just as many things TO BE DOING, and ways to use our time, energy, and efforts to create a deeper connection with our spouse. 

It started as “just friends” but somehow it has become more and now your marriage is at risk. It can happen to anyone who doesn't know their risk factors or the warning signs. Join Kim Wier, author of The Art of Friendship, for a conversation with Dave Carder and discover how to guard your marriage (and your friendships) from the destruction of infidelity. Dave is a Counselor and adultery recovery expert and best-selling author of Anatomy of an Affair. Kim Wier is a speaker, radio talk show host, Bible teacher, and author of the book, The Art of Friendship and other titles.    The Art of Friendship Podcast is part of Hope On Demand!

Top Ten from 2020: #10 Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder   Hebrews 10:23 (NIV) “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”    DAVE CARDER serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA.   His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals.  He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army.   He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology.   Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married for 49 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.    Anatomy of an Affair by Dave Carder Torn Asunder by Dave Carder Torn Asunder Workbook by Dave Carder Close Calls by Dave Carder Schedule an appointment with Dave Carder HERE Dave Carder's Website, Including FREE video series on recovering from extramarital affair   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Wire Talk Podcast   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Also, check out our Patreon Page to find out how to gain access to additional podcasts and freebies!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

We are digging into the wisdom of the book of Proverbs, exploring some of the reoccurring lessons and warnings. So we tackle a common conversation in Proverbs and it is the importance of finding our joy and intimacy inside of our marriage and truly guarding our heart. Joining us is Dr. Dave Carder, who reveals some of the common reasons people look outside of their marriage and what we can do to protect and grow intimacy with our spouse. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The USO is launching a new virtual series with Corie and Matt Weathers on how military families can stay strong while apart. Corie and Matt Weathers will share how they are keeping their military marriage strong through a season apart - as well as tips for how you can do the same. Tools and concepts discussed during the series apply to all types of military-initiated separations; from deployments and trainings, to geo-bachelor tours, unaccompanied tours, and even third shift schedules. Restoring trust after it has been broken can be scary, confusing, and difficult to navigate.  Depending on if you are dealing small of large infractions, deep hurt in your relationship can be healed and restored.  In this episode, Matt and I talk about how you can ask for trust to be restored, or do the hard work to earn it back.  Even if you have been devastated by betrayal, there is hope.  Listen in and find out how.  To access the Series dashboard, including the videos and handouts: https://www.uso.org/campaign/mvp-youre-leaving-again Forgiveness: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-ajqyv-b8c9f1 My Strategy for Affair Recovery: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-5jwg4-b63b20 Here are some of the resources mentioned throughout the episode: My interview with Dr. Mike Sytsma Here is also my podcast on “Sin in a Christian Marriage” Part 1 & Part 2  More Resources: • Torn Asunder by Dave Carder. There is also a workbook available for this book. (faith based) • Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary & Mona Shriver (faith based) • Secrets to Surviving Infidelity by Scott Haltzman • After the Affair by Janis Spring   Rebuilding Trust Video – Using the image of a “trust bucket,” Dr. Mike addresses rebuilding trust after an affair. Setbacks in Marriage- The Podcast Episode Women & the Tough Bible Verses– (Topic of Submission and gender roles in the Bible- Authentic Intimacy) People Are More Important Than Marriage– Authentic Intimacy, When you shouldn’t fight for your marriage Sexual Intimacy and Post Affair with Mike Sytsma How do Affairs Happen? New Life Church, Brady Boyd Articles: So You’ve Hit a Marriage Setback: 3 Steps Military Marriage: When to Separate Mike Sytsma- Betrayal & Affair Recovery (articles and video) Protecting Your Marriage from an Affair  Books: Mission Ready Marriage: My Life As An Active Duty Wife Claire Wood Sacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage Corie Weathers

The USO is launching a new virtual series with Corie and Matt Weathers on how military families can stay strong while apart. Corie and Matt Weathers will share how they are keeping their military marriage strong through a season apart - as well as tips for how you can do the same. Tools and concepts discussed during the series apply to all types of military-initiated separations; from deployments and trainings, to geo-bachelor tours, unaccompanied tours, and even third shift schedules. Restoring trust after it has been broken can be scary, confusing, and difficult to navigate.  Depending on if you are dealing small of large infractions, deep hurt in your relationship can be healed and restored.  In this episode, Matt and I talk about how you can ask for trust to be restored, or do the hard work to earn it back.  Even if you have been devastated by betrayal, there is hope.  Listen in and find out how.  To access the Series dashboard, including the videos and handouts: https://www.uso.org/campaign/mvp-youre-leaving-again Forgiveness: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-ajqyv-b8c9f1 My Strategy for Affair Recovery: https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-5jwg4-b63b20 Here are some of the resources mentioned throughout the episode: My interview with Dr. Mike Sytsma Here is also my podcast on “Sin in a Christian Marriage” Part 1 & Part 2  More Resources: • Torn Asunder by Dave Carder. There is also a workbook available for this book. (faith based) • Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary & Mona Shriver (faith based) • Secrets to Surviving Infidelity by Scott Haltzman • After the Affair by Janis Spring Rebuilding Trust Video – Using the image of a “trust bucket,” Dr. Mike addresses rebuilding trust after an affair. Setbacks in Marriage- The Podcast Episode Women & the Tough Bible Verses– (Topic of Submission and gender roles in the Bible- Authentic Intimacy) People Are More Important Than Marriage– Authentic Intimacy, When you shouldn’t fight for your marriage Sexual Intimacy and Post Affair with Mike Sytsma How do Affairs Happen? New Life Church, Brady Boyd Articles: So You’ve Hit a Marriage Setback: 3 Steps Military Marriage: When to Separate Mike Sytsma- Betrayal & Affair Recovery (articles and video) Protecting Your Marriage from an Affair  Books: Mission Ready Marriage: My Life As An Active Duty Wife Claire Wood Sacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage Corie Weathers

You may think your marriage is safe from adultery, but that’s actually when it’s most vulnerable. Dave Carder helps you affair-proof your marriage by revealing how attractions can lead to affairs, and how you can make wise, protective decisions.

You may think your marriage is safe from adultery, but that’s actually when it’s most vulnerable. Dave Carder helps you affair-proof your marriage by revealing how attractions can lead to affairs, and how you can make wise, protective decisions.

Today we talk with Dave Carder about the vulnerabilities and signs that can lead to marital affairs, as well as steps for affair recovery. 

*This message includes adult themes and is not intended for little ears*   Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder   Hebrews 10:23 (NIV) “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.”    Dave Carder serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA.   His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project,Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army.   He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair,Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage,and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology.   Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married for 49 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com   At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! 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Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Join us as we talk with Dave Carder author of the book "Anatomy Of An Affair". This book/workbook breaks down how affairs , attractions, and addictions can develop and how you can guard and protect your marriage against them. Every single couple needs to read this preventative book no matter how strong you believe your marriage to be. This book is a way for you to be proactive as a couple and acknowledge every relationship is susceptible to an affair unfortunately but that doesn't mean it has to be your marriages reality! 

Betrayal, is unfortunately more common than you think- especially in the service culture.  In this episode I share with you the strategy I use to help couples work through affair recovery.  There are three phases and couples will certainly stall if not fail to recover their marriage if they miss important steps throughout the phases.  Two people, if are both willing to work hard, can rebuild their marriage after an affair and go on to have a rich relationship.   Here are some of the resources mentioned throughout the episode: My interview with Dr. Mike Sytsma Here is also my podcast on "Sin in a Christian Marriage" Part 1 & Part 2  More Resources: • Torn Asunder by Dave Carder. There is also a workbook available for this book. (faith based) • Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary & Mona Shriver (faith based) • Secrets to Surviving Infidelity by Scott Haltzman • After the Affair by Janis Spring  Rebuilding Trust Video – Using the image of a “trust bucket”, Dr. Mike addresses rebuilding trust after a affair. Setbacks in Marriage- The Podcast EpisodeWomen & the Tough Bible Verses– (Topic of Submission and gender roles in the Bible- Authentic Intimacy)People Are More Important Than Marriage– Authentic Intimacy, When you shouldn’t fight for your marriage.Sexual Intimacy and Post Affair with Mike SytsmaHow do Affairs Happen? New Life Church, Brady Boyd Articles: So You’ve Hit a Marriage Setback: 3 StepsMilitary Marriage: When to SeparateMike Sytsma- Betrayal & Affair Recovery (articles and video)Protecting Your Marriage from an Affair  Books: Mission Ready Marriage: My Life As An Active Duty Wife Claire WoodSacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage Corie Weathers

Scripture says the Day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night. Are you ready? We'll talk with Dr. Ed Hindson, vice chancellor of Liberty University, about his two studies on I and 2 Thessalonians, "Looking for Christ's Return" and "Preparing for the Day of the Lord." Plus: Adultery is a serious sin that's not only pervasive in our culture, but pervasive in our churches. How does it begin, and how can Christians guard against it? Dave Carder joins me to talk about his new book, "Anatomy of an Affair." That and more on Thursday's JANET MEFFERD TODAY.

According to some recent statistics, 36% of people have had an affair in the workplace. This number seems incredibly high, but what we don't realize sometimes is just how easily it can happen to us. While most guys don't wake up one day saying, "You know, I think I'm going to have an affair today," we're naive to think the slide into infidelity is something we're immune to. In his book Anatomy Of An Affair, Dave Carder talks about how affairs develop, and how to guard our marriages against them. We discuss with him some of the primary reasons and circumstances that cause couples to wander, the difference between physical and emotional affairs (and why emotional affairs are just as detrimental), situations and people to avoid, and how to cultivate a healthy, affair-proof marriage.

Dave Carder, Counseling Ministries, Evangelical Free Church, Fullerton, California. Dave has been working in the field of adultery recovery for over 40 years. He was part of a research team that surveyed 4,000 pastors for a decade. He has authored 6 books, his most recent, Anatomy of an Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop and How To Protect Your Marriage From Them, has made him a popular guest on Christian talk shows across the country with the recent rise in sexual harassment issues in the public consciousness.

We wrap our conversation with my guest Dave Carder today. Dave is a pastor, author, and counselor and we have been discussing his new book titled,“Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”. Today we are talking about the truth, reality and the trust that is needed to recover from an affair. In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things: 1) How to protect ourselves from people we’re attracted to 2) The reasoning behind adultery 3) How the betrayed spouse truly feels about pornography

We continue our conversation with my guest Dave Carder. Dave is a pastor, author, and counselor and we are discussing his new book titled,“Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”. In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things: 1) Why sex won’t fix the God void in your life. 2) We’ll discuss a recovery exercise for marriages who have gone through an affair 3) What is a “dangerous person” in the marriage? And why does everyone have one?

We are starting the show off today in Genesis 16, and as we look at that story, we can see the humanistic rationalization of both Abram and Sarai, can’t we? It seemed like a good idea at the time, but as you can see things didn’t end well. This is what my guest Dave Carder calls an "Add-On" Affair in his book titled “Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriage against them”. In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things: 1) Finish our discussion on the different types of affairs 2) Discuss what “mate poaching” is 3) Discuss One of the fastest growing types of affairs - the reconnection affair

Today we continue our series in dealing with one of the most serious marital issues there is - and that is to commit adultery. Having an affair is by far the fastest way to ruin your life. How do I know? Well, first we can see from scripture how King David’s life turned out after this affair. Secondly, to my own shame, I’ve been there and done that. And that’s why we are having this conversation today with pastor, counselor, and author Dave Carder. Trying to prevent the same thing from happening to you. We are discussing his new book titled, “Anatomy of An Affair: How affairs, attractions, and addictions develop, and how to guard your marriages against them. In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things: The different types of affairs How children contribute to the stress of having an affair. How parents can over-do family time rather than marriage time.

As Christians, we know that marriage is a covenant - commitment - made between one man and one woman in the presence of God, family, and friends. This commitment is to remain unbroken until death. But, contemporary culture, doesn’t view marriage this way. Things certainly have changed over the past several years when it comes to defining marriage, and we have unfortunately brought this attitude into the Church. I have many men come into my office to confess their sexual sin, their porn use specifically, and then proceed to tell me that they never have or will ever cross over into having an affair - committing adultery. Well, I’m excited to have Dave Carder as my guest this week. Dave is an author and pastor along with a particular type of counselor - an “adultery recovery and prevention counselor.” Dave is the author of five books, and this week we will be discussing his latest, “Anatomy of An Affair: How Affairs, Attractions, and Addictions Develop, and How to Guard Your Marriage Against Them In today’s podcast, we’ll discuss several things: The two factors for first-time affairs Why stress is a significant contributor to committing adultery Why adultery is a mood altering experience

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Host Jacquelyn Fletcher talks with Dave Carder, an author, pastor and marriage and family therapist about what couples can do to prevent or recover from infidelity.