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James doesn't open chapter 4 by pointing at your enemies. He points at you.What causes the fights? The quarrels? The resentment that won't leave? James says it starts with the desires battling within you. Not your coworker. Not the person in your family who keeps showing up in your head. Within you.That is the harder answer. It is easier to name an enemy outside. But James presses us to look at the war within first.He takes it further. You do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive because you ask with wrong motives. Wrong desires produce wrong prayers. What you bring to God in prayer reveals what you are actually chasing. That is worth sitting with.Then he uses language that shocked his original readers. He calls them adulterous people. Not because they had all literally committed adultery, but because throughout Scripture, God describes His relationship with His people as a covenant. Unfaithfulness to God is like unfaithfulness in marriage. When we pursue friendship with pride, status, and self-sufficiency, we are choosing against Him.James names three layers of division the enemy works to create. Division within us, conflict rooted in unchecked desire. Division from God, the quiet drift that happens when we start preferring the world's values to His. Division between people, the slander, the gossip, the words used to shape how others see someone.Then James turns it. He gives us the antidote.Submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.There is a period after that last sentence. Not an explanation. Not a condition. The promise stands on its own. You draw near. He draws near.But James is specific about how. He does not say believe harder. He says wash your hands. Purify your hearts. Grieve. Mourn. Humble yourselves before the Lord and He will lift you up.That word grieve matters. Faith is not pretending. It is not performing happiness over real pain. It is bringing your whole self to God: the grief, the disappointment, the confusion, the regret. God can handle your honesty. The Psalms are full of it.After you resist, do not obsess. The devil wants your attention. We illuminate what we fixate on. James says resist, then run toward Jesus. That is repentance in its simplest form. Turn from. Turn toward.Jesus said it plainly in Matthew 11:28. Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Not come when you have got it together. Come now. Come weary. Come broken.The division is real, within you, from God, with others. But the antidote is already available. Draw near. And He comes closer.Scripture References:James 4:1-12 (Desires at war; submit to God; resist the devil; draw near to God; do not slander one another)Proverbs 4:23 (Guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it)Proverbs 18:21 (The tongue has the power of life and death)Proverbs 12:18 (The tongue of the wise brings healing)Matthew 5:9 (Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God)Matthew 11:28 (Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest)
In this message on the final chapters of Ezra, we see true grief over sin leading to faithful repentance. Outline Sin Confessed (Ezra 9) Sin Repented (Ezra 10) (Note: Due to technical issues, the first two minutes of audio are lower quality than usual.)
Theme: God condemns unfaithfulness. I. The Nature of Unfaithfulness A. Deliberate—refusing to listen and to do B. Breaking the Lord's covenant and the law of God II. Penalty for Unfaithfulness A. All kinds of punishments (vv. 16-39) B. War => sword, plague, famine, exile (vv. 23-39) C. Religiously (vv. 30-31) III. Pardon for Repentance from Unfaithfulness A. Confession 1. Iniquity—twistedness; distortion 2. Acknowledgement of sin and of God's judgment B. Humility—expression of a circumcised heart C. Covenant 1. Historical covenants [Adam, etc.] 2. God's remembrance—the land; Sabbath; promises IV. The Summary—law and covenantal faithfulness (v. 45) Observations A. Nothing new under the sun when it comes to iniquity B. "Iniquity" emphasizes distortion/ugliness/inappropriateness Application A. Don't wallow in your sin and rebellion B. Find in Jesus the pardon for your sins 1. All of the promises of God are yes and amen in Him 2. He is the embodiment of the law, which He fulfilled for you 3. He is the mediator of the covenant of grace
Theme: God condemns unfaithfulness. I. The Nature of Unfaithfulness A. Deliberate—refusing to listen and to do B. Breaking the Lord's covenant C. The law of God is in view, and is being rejected II. Penalty for Unfaithfulness A. All kinds of punishments (vv. 16-39) B. War => sword, plague, and famine (vv. 23-26) 1. It is said that the Lord will bring the sword 2. Plague will result, and famine, too C. War => exile (vv. 27-39) 1. Cannibalism (v. 29) 2. Make the cities waste (vv. 31, 33) 3. Make the land desolate (vv. 32, 34-35) 4. Fear and confusion (vv. 36-37) 5. Physical perishing (v. 38) 6. Spiritual rotting (v. 39) D. Religiously (vv. 30-31); God says: "I shall loathe them" 1. False worship will be destroyed 2. Way of death (corpses thrown on the wrecks of idols) Observations A. Man in his unregenerate state is always at war B. The Lord is always at war against His enemies Application A. Are you keeping the Sabbath as you should? B. Beware of hardness of heart that refuses to submit to God C. Make sure that you are in a right relationship with God
No one's proud of being unfaithful, but what if some people's cheating was actually caused by genetics, rather than selfishness? That might sound like a convenient excuse, but actually there could be some scientific basis behind it. In 2022 researchers at the University of Queensland in Australia analysed the DNA of over 7,300 twins aged between 18 and 49, all of whom had been in relationships for several years. What were the study's results then? Are some people simply programmed to cheat then? To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is it a good idea to sleep with my pet? How can I stop micro-awakenings from disrupting my sleep? Does sex help us to sleep better? A Bababam Originals podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 1/10/2025 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Theme: God condemns unfaithfulness. I. The Nature of Unfaithfulness A. Deliberate—refusing to listen and to do B. Breaking the Lord's covenant C. The law of God is in view, and is being rejected II. Penalty for Unfaithfulness A. General warning (vv. 16-17) B. Droughts and bad harvests (vv. 18-20) C. Wild animals (vv. 21-22) Observations A. Unfaithfulness starts in the heart—the intentions B. Relationship between the individual and the society C. There is a specificity in terms of the outward conformity D. If/then conditional E. Rewards/punishment F. Pointing to sufferings of hell and sufferings of Christ Application A. Make sure that you are not being unfaithful! B. Make sure that you are trusting in Christ 1. Put your faith in Jesus 2. Trust in His righteousness on your behalf 3. Rely on His suffering for all your unfaithfulness
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This message from Hosea 1–3 reveals a powerful picture of God’s relentless, covenant love for His people. Through Hosea’s painful marriage to Gomer, we see that our sin is not just rule-breaking—it is spiritual adultery that breaks God’s heart. Yet God’s response is not to abandon us, but to confront our unfaithfulness, lovingly discipline us, pursue us in our wandering, and ultimately redeem and restore us at great cost. Just as Hosea bought Gomer back, God has come after us in our sin through Jesus Christ, paying the price to bring us home. The central truth is this: no matter how far we drift, God’s love will not let go—He is working even now to draw us back into a restored relationship with Him.
This message from Hosea 1–3 reveals a powerful picture of God’s relentless, covenant love for His people. Through Hosea’s painful marriage to Gomer, we see that our sin is not just rule-breaking—it is spiritual adultery that breaks God’s heart. Yet God’s response is not to abandon us, but to confront our unfaithfulness, lovingly discipline us, pursue us in our wandering, and ultimately redeem and restore us at great cost. Just as Hosea bought Gomer back, God has come after us in our sin through Jesus Christ, paying the price to bring us home. The central truth is this: no matter how far we drift, God’s love will not let go—He is working even now to draw us back into a restored relationship with Him.
This message from Hosea 1–3 reveals a powerful picture of God’s relentless, covenant love for His people. Through Hosea’s painful marriage to Gomer, we see that our sin is not just rule-breaking—it is spiritual adultery that breaks God’s heart. Yet God’s response is not to abandon us, but to confront our unfaithfulness, lovingly discipline us, pursue us in our wandering, and ultimately redeem and restore us at great cost. Just as Hosea bought Gomer back, God has come after us in our sin through Jesus Christ, paying the price to bring us home. The central truth is this: no matter how far we drift, God’s love will not let go—He is working even now to draw us back into a restored relationship with Him.
Theme: God condemns unfaithfulness. I. The Nature of Unfaithfulness A. Deliberate 1. Refusing to listen 2. Refusing to do 3. Having an attitude of rejection—despising; abhorring B. Breaking the Lord's covenant 1. A covenant is an agreement between two or more parties 2. The immediate context is the Mosaic covenant C. The law of God is in view 1. Many different words that can be used for God's law 2. Often, terms are piled up in a triad, for the sake of emphasis 3. Here, commandments; statutes; judgments 4. This law governs our relationship with God and with man D. The law of God is being rejected 1. Omission—by not listening and not doing 2. Commission—by breaking the covenant Application A. Examine your heart regarding your faithfulness toward God 1. Have you broken the covenant? 2. Is the root of your unfaithfulness a despising of God? 3. Do you abhor God's law? 4. Do you abhor God's grace? B. Cling to Christ as the fulfiller of faithfulness for you 1. Fundamentally, this is the covenant of grace 2. Jesus fulfilled the covenant as our righteousness 3. He paid the price for our violations of that covenant 4. He enables us to be conformed to His image
On this episode of Day by Day, our journey through Romans, Dr. Clif emphasizes that while human unfaithfulness cannot cancel God's faithfulness, it reveals the true state of our hearts and calls us to align our lives with God's unchanging truth as found in Scripture. "Interested in becoming a devoted follower of Christ?" Go to follow.lifeword.org
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Theme: God condemns unfaithfulness. I. The Nature of Unfaithfulness A. Deliberate [worse than the lack of caring of the sluggard] 1. Refusing to listen 2. Refusing to do 3. Having an attitude of rejection a. Abhorring—casting off; loathing b. Despising B. Breaking the Lord's covenant (v. 15)—that's the key 1. What is a covenant? a. An agreement between two or more parties b. Covenants have been used throughout history: marriage; property; HOA; Mayflower Compact; U.S. Constitution c. A treaty is in many ways a covenant—sometimes explicitly d. National covenants [Covenanters] e. Church covenants [congregational] f. Stipulations g. Blessings for obedience, curses for unfaithfulness 2. We make covenants, because God is a covenant-making God 3. God made two distinct, overarching covenants with man a. The covenant of works—man could earn salvation b. The covenant of grace—salvation not by works, but via faith Application A. Do not think that you can earn your salvation by your own works 1. If you believe that, you will go straight to hell 2. Salvation is by grace alone through faith alone B. Believe in Jesus 1. Trust in Him and His grace and His sacrifice on the cross 2. And then live for Him, out of gratitude, not out of payment
On this episode of Day by Day our journey through Romans, Dr. Clif shares that despite human unfaithfulness, God's faithfulness and promises remain unwavering, offering hope and encouragement rooted in His steadfastness. "Interested in becoming a devoted follower of Christ?" Go to follow.lifeword.org
Congratulations on completing the Desert Wanderings period! Jeff Cavins joins Fr. Mike to introduce the fifth biblical period, Conquest and Judges. They discuss the trials the Israelites face as they enter the Promised Land. We learn that the book of Joshua and the book of Judges are characterized by Israel's unfaithfulness, destruction, and repentance. For the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/bibleinayear. Please note: The Bible contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children - parental discretion is advised.
Matthew Week 16 | Matthew 5:27-32
This message explores the Seventh Commandment not just as a warning against adultery, but as a call to faithful, covenant love that reflects the heart of God. Moving from Jesus’ teaching on the inner life to Paul’s vision for marriage in Ephesians, we see that God designed marriage and family as the foundation for human flourishing and a living picture of Christ’s relationship with the Church. With practical encouragement to guard and strengthen our relationships, the sermon ultimately points to the hope of the gospel—reminding us that where sin has broken, God’s grace is able to restore and make new.
This message explores the Seventh Commandment not just as a warning against adultery, but as a call to faithful, covenant love that reflects the heart of God. Moving from Jesus’ teaching on the inner life to Paul’s vision for marriage in Ephesians, we see that God designed marriage and family as the foundation for human flourishing and a living picture of Christ’s relationship with the Church. With practical encouragement to guard and strengthen our relationships, the sermon ultimately points to the hope of the gospel—reminding us that where sin has broken, God’s grace is able to restore and make new.
This message explores the Seventh Commandment not just as a warning against adultery, but as a call to faithful, covenant love that reflects the heart of God. Moving from Jesus’ teaching on the inner life to Paul’s vision for marriage in Ephesians, we see that God designed marriage and family as the foundation for human flourishing and a living picture of Christ’s relationship with the Church. With practical encouragement to guard and strengthen our relationships, the sermon ultimately points to the hope of the gospel—reminding us that where sin has broken, God’s grace is able to restore and make new.
Life & Spirit - Bible Study - Hosea - Unfaithfulness and Idolatry Where They Come From Theme - Episode 3
We hope you enjoy today's Scripture reading and devotional aimed at equipping you for moral and spiritual transformation. Today's Bible reading is 1 Kings 11. To read along with the podcast, grab a print copy of the devotional. Browse other resources from Ryan Kelly. ESV Bible narration read by Graeme Goldsworthy. Follow us on social media to stay up to date: Instagram Facebook Twitter
In this week's episode Rabbi Kohn asks listeners if they hear G-D's voice. He explains from this weeks Parsha how G-D's voice is able to be heard by all. It is up to us if we tune in to the correct frequency. He also brings down a lesson from the wording of the verse about the word "maal" which has a double meaning in hebrew. How it teaches us about externals and what is below the surface. Subscribe to The Practical Parsha Podcast. For questions or comments please email RabbiShlomoKohn@gmail.com. To listen to Rabbi Kohn's other podcast use this link- the-pirkei-avos-podcast.castos.com/ Chapters (00:00:00) - Practical Parasha: Sell Your Chomets for Pesach(00:01:22) - Parshas Vayikra(00:08:43) - The Beginnings of the Parsha(00:09:46) - The Voice of God(00:16:27) - The Torah's Contribution To A Guilty Offering(00:18:30) - The Talmud(00:20:10) - Parsha 3, Unfaithfulness
Does your walk with God look like Jonah's, where he knew God's calling but chose to be unfaithful instead? Listen to the full message from our senior Pastor Elaine, on the dangers of being unfaithful to the Lord.
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Jeff Moody speaks from Hosea 6 and 7 on God's charges against Israel's false repentance and our call to true repentance.
Preached at the Qodesh City Church during the Model Marriage Conference 2026 for all married couples on Vals day, Saturday 14th February, 2026 together with E. S Adelaide Heward Mills and Syster Theresa. Fostering Faithfulness in Marriage
The book of Hosea is one of the most emotionally intense and theologically rich prophetic books in the Old Testament—and its opening chapters give us a lens for reading everything that follows.In this episode, we explore Hosea 1:1–2:1 as a paradigm for the entire book. From the very beginning, Hosea alternates between devastating bad news and breathtaking good news—prophecies of judgment and discipline followed by promises of renewal, restoration, and hope. That rhythm is not accidental. It's the heartbeat of Hosea's message.We begin with Hosea's shocking marriage to Gomer, a woman characterized by persistent unfaithfulness. This marriage is not merely biographical—it is prophetic. Hosea's relationship with Gomer becomes a living parable of God's covenant relationship with Northern Israel, exposing Israel's spiritual adultery and fractured loyalty to YHWH.We then examine the three children born to Hosea and Gomer and the symbolic weight of their names—names that announce judgment, estrangement, and the sobering diagnosis of their covenant identity. In particular, we wrestle with God's declaration to Israel: “You are not my people.” But Hosea makes it clear—this is not the end of Israel's story.By the end of chapter 1, the prophecy turns. Rejection gives way to restoration. Alienation gives way to belonging. Hosea foretells a future reversal in which those once called “not my people” will be called “sons of the living God.” Crucially, this promise is anchored to geography—“in the place” where judgment was pronounced, restoration will occur—pointing to a concrete, historical fulfillment within Israel's own land.From there, we trace how the apostle Paul draws on this very passage in Romans 9:23–26, arguing that Hosea's prophecy is already beginning to be fulfilled as Israelites come to faith in Jesus the Messiah. This includes Jews living in regions historically associated with Northern Israel in Paul's own day. What Hosea foresaw, Paul recognizes as unfolding.At the heart of both Hosea's and Paul's message is a profound claim: Israel's unfaithfulness is not the end of the story. God will reunite Northern Israel and Southern Judah under one leader, restoring them to be the people He always intended them to be.And that matters—not just for Israel, but for us.Because if God can reverse Israel's destiny, He can reverse the destiny of the world. Their story is bound up with ours. Their restoration speaks to our hope. The God who refuses to abandon Israel is the same God who refuses to abandon creation itself.Key Passages: Hosea 1:1-2:1Romans 9:23-26Explainer Video on how to use www.biblehub.com and www.blueletterbible.orgLeave us a question or comment at our website podcast page.
Exploring the book of Romans for the next several months, verse by verse.
Proverbs 6:23-35 - Jacob Halle
No one's proud of being unfaithful, but what if some people's cheating was actually caused by genetics, rather than selfishness? That might sound like a convenient excuse, but actually there could be some scientific basis behind it. In 2022 researchers at the University of Queensland in Australia analysed the DNA of over 7,300 twins aged between 18 and 49, all of whom had been in relationships for several years. What were the study's results then? Are some people simply programmed to cheat then? To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Is it a good idea to sleep with my pet? How can I stop micro-awakenings from disrupting my sleep? Does sex help us to sleep better? A Bababam Originals podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
An expository sermon from Daniel 1:1-7 on the unfaithfulness of Judah that led to their fall.
Have you been wondering why SOME friends and family have grown distant or out of tough all-together over the years-Especially since the Covid epidemic? Friendships of old sometimes fade for Christians as well as non-Christians. Today, I am going to show you that this is a SPIRITUAL issue more-so than a friendship issue. Let's get started.CHECKOUT ONLINE COURSES! www.EQUIPPEDACADEMY.COMBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/reason-for-truth--2774396/support.
Top Ten from 2024: # 9: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Disclaimer: This message contains adult themes and is not intended for little ears. Ephesians 4:31+32 “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” **Transcription of original episode** Special Patreon Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Dave Carder serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on numerous media outlets including The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He has taught at various universities and seminaries world wide, and has done training for both the US Navy and Army. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married over 50 years, and have four adult children and eight grandchildren. More info is available at www.DaveCarder.com At The Savvy Sauce, we will only recommend resources we believe in! We also want you to be aware: We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. 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Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.” Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.” Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.” John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.” Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.” Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“ Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“ Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Congratulations on completing the Desert Wanderings period! Jeff Cavins joins Fr. Mike to introduce the fifth biblical period, Conquest and Judges. They discuss the trials the Israelites face as they enter the Promised Land. We learn that the book of Joshua and the book of Judges are characterized by Israel's unfaithfulness, destruction, and repentance. For the complete reading plan, visit ascensionpress.com/bibleinayear. Please note: The Bible contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children - parental discretion is advised.