Podcast appearances and mentions of jane honikman

This episode features a conversation with my guest, Jane Honikman, M.S.Jane co-founded Santa Barbara Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP) in 1977. Ten years later in 1987 she founded Postpartum Support International (PSI). Jane has published 5 books, most recently Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers. She and her husband Terry have lived in Santa Barbara since 1970, have 3 married children, and enjoy being grandparents to 8 grandchildren. In this conversation, Jane sheds some light on how she began her lifelong advocacy for equal parental consideration in the postpartum and mental health space by sharing intimate details of her past and the way that began to shape her. We talk about how having essential conversations about ones past and family history before conceiving and having children can help new parents be more grounded during the difficult days of parenthood. Jane shares a very valuable reframing of how the term "postpartum" should be better thought of and defined, explaining that this term is a lifelong adjective that still applies even in the phase of being grandparents. We conclude with discussing the value of openly talking about what can be difficult topics people experience in parenting as a means to push our society's perception of parenting forward in the right direction.Please share your thoughts about this and/or any other prior episode(s) here or there; and rate the podcast as well! You can always send an e-mail to wtfatherhoodpodcast@gmail.com for any inquiry, comment, and/or question.As always, thank you for spending your Wednesday with us!Theme MusicDreamweaver by Sound ForceFrom Premium BeatShow MusicComplicated by OHSNAPITSBWAYWarmup by JeesGuyFrom Soundstripe

Today's episode is an important one in the field of parental mental health. Unfortunately, fathers are often overlooked in many aspects of parenthood and family dynamics. To build strong families, we need to involve all parents in the path to parenthood and in providing family-supporting resources. Join us to learn more! Jane Honikman, M.S. co-founded Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP), co-founded the Postpartum Action Institute, and founded Postpartum Support International (PSI). Jane is the author of several parenting support books: Community Support for New Families; I'm Listening: A Guide to Supporting Postpartum Families; My Diary: A Postpartum Journey from Pain to Purpose; Postpartum Action Manual: How to Provide Comfort, Encouragement, and Guidance to New Families; and Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers. She was born and raised in Palo Alto, California, and has lived in Santa Barbara since 1970. She and her husband have three adult married children, eight grandchildren, and a cat. Show Highlights: How Jane looked to her mother as a role model but didn't follow conventional social rules as she became an adult How fantasies about life can set you up for failure and disaster Why Jane was involved in the movement to make mothers and fathers equal partners in parenthood in the 70s How family mental illness and her personal trauma pushed Jane into her work with parental mental health The flip in inequity with what we've done to men and their feelings What we should change regarding fathers How Jane partnered with Dan Singley to write Factoring in Fathers Why men today struggle to identify role models in manhood and parenthood How postpartum mental illness affects men in different forms than women How pediatricians can do more in parental mental health with the whole family Available resources for fathers How mental health clinicians can do better in their work with families Why the postpartum period never really comes to an end  Resources: Instagram: (@parental_health)  Twitter: Parental_Health Factoring In Fathers Jane's books: Community Support for New Families I'm Listening: A Guide to Supporting Postpartum Families My Diary: A Postpartum Journey from Pain to Purpose Postpartum Action Manual: How to Provide Comfort, Encouragement, and Guidance to New Families Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers by Jane Honikman and Daniel Singley

Jane Honikman, M.S. began her career in maternal mental health in 1977. She co-founded Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP). Jane’s long history in the maternal mental health field continued as she received a grant to study the Growth and Dynamics of Postpartum Support Groups. She also continued her work as Executive Director of the Santa Barbara Birth Resource Center (1984) and founded Postpartum Support International after organizing a conference on Women’s Mental Health Following Childbirth. She has authored many articles and educational materials on postpartum issues and how to start community support networks. In 2012, “I’m Listening”, was adapted by the humanitarian organization CARE as a Facilitators Guide for use in Bangladesh.

EPISODE 50! Jane Honikman - Mother of Maternal Mental Health 2 OMG's at once, Jane Honikman is on with us and we are at Episode 50! I'm honored to bring you this weeks episode with Jane, she is the founder of Postpartum Support International which is having it's 30 year anniversary AND the co-founder of Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP) coming up on it's 40 year anniversary this June! Most recently, Jane also co-founded the Postpartum Action Institute, which she runs with Shoshanna Bennett, PhD.  In this episode: -Jane talks with us about how Maternal Mental Health as a discipline began, how it's changed and what she hopes to see as we move forward. -The collaboration with Dr. James Hamilton of Marce Society, in getting psychiatry, science, medicine and social supports engaged in helping moms and families. -Silos of healthcare that have made it difficult to establish care for families. -On caring for people, focusing on wellness - "you don't wait for someone to be ill, you automatically assume everybody needs support" -Maternal Mental health should be more about Parental Mental Health because it is about THE WHOLE FAMILY! More from Jane! www.janehonikman.com Books: Community Support for New Families, I’m Listening, My Diary A Postpartum Journey from Pain to Purpose, and Postpartum Action Manual.   -Join Jane Honikman and Shoshana Bennett for an Open House Celebration of 40 years of PEP and 30 years of PSI! In Santa Barbara June 3rd and 4th, 2pm-5pm. get more information at jane@janehonikman.com or call 805-967-9757. On June 3rd at 7pm, PEP is also hosting a Playing Monopoly With God - One woman's story through Postpartum Psychosis. Tickets at http://www.sbpep.org/ Postpartum Education for Parents PEP -  http://www.sbpep.org/   Postpartum Support International PSI - www.postpartum.net Postpartum Action Institute PAI - www.PostpartumAction.org Marce Society - https://marcesociety.com/   Bio Jane Honikman, M.S. Santa Barbara, California   Jane Honikman was born and raised in Palo Alto, California. She moved to Santa Barbara in 1970 and began her career in maternal mental health in 1977 when she co-founded Postpartum Education for Parents (PEP). In 1981 Jane received a grant from the American Association of University Women to study the Growth and Dynamics of Postpartum Support Groups. She became the Executive Director of the Santa Barbara Birth Resource Center in 1984. In 1987 she founded Postpartum Support International (PSI) after organizing a conference on Women’s Mental Health Following Childbirth. She was elected PSI’s first President in 1989 and operated the organization from her home until 2004.  Jane has authored many articles and educational materials on postpartum issues and how to start community support networks. Her books are: Community Support for New Families, I’m Listening, My Diary A Postpartum Journey from Pain to Purpose, and Postpartum Action Manual.  In 2012 I’m Listening was adapted by the humanitarian organization CARE as a Facilitator’s Training Guide for use in Bangladesh. It has also been translated into Chinese and Hebrew. Her expertise is based upon her struggles as a new mother. Her most recent endeavor is the Postpartum Action Institute. She continues to lecture and train internationally on the role of social support and the emotional health of families.  Jane’s own family includes her supportive husband of 50 years, 3 adult children, their spouses, and 8 grandchildren (and a cat).  She enjoys living a healthy and active lifestyle in Santa Barbara, California. 

Jane Honikman gives us an overview and outline for finding ourselves on the spectrum of mental health. Listen to the episode to find out how to identify different parts of the continuum and better understand where you yourself might fall on that spectrum. She talks about her time studying with Dr. James Hamilton who was interested in maternal mental health at a time when it might have seemed as if no one cared or understood, much like today in many women's experience!

LaShonta Edwards - A Mothers Sanctuary LaShonta is a doula, advocate, author of A Dark Secret, founder and CEO of A Mothers Sanctuary. She shares with us the amazing work and model program that she is doing in Huston, Texas to help mothers and families in the community. What is so great about her organization is that it both offers workshops for moms to learn about postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety, they offer support groups AND educate the community health care providers, including Mental Health First Aid classes. This is vital work. The first Gala to benefit the organization is coming up in May, see details below! She shares her book A Dark Secret, where 15 different women came together to tell their personal stories of pregnancy and postpartum mood challenges, including their messages of hope...how they healed from their Dark Secret. The book is for all of us mothers who have been through this pain and who need to see ourselves reflected in the world. Things like postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, postpartum OCD, and so much more...the book shows us that we are not alone. A Mothers Sanctuary: www.Amsmothers.com Living Life with LaShonta: www.Lashontaedwards.com A Dark Secret -  http://lashontaedwards.com/a-dark-secret/ A Mothers Sanctuary Gala - May 6th - with Keynote from Jane Honikman, MS, founder of Postpartum Support International https://www.eventbrite.com/e/an-evening-of-hope-masquerade-gala-tickets-31490890100

How To Build Your Strength After A Major Life Change - Jane Honikman Shares The Steps To Wellness Jane Honikman gave her first baby up for adoption because she felt pressure to "do things in order". She later finished college, married the father and had additional babies with the same man who is now her husband. Jane described her experience of giving up her first baby as a trauma. Compounding that trauma was the feeling that her second baby, another girl, was severely jaundiced as a kind of karmic punishment for what she'd done with her first baby. The experience triggered tremendous grief and guilt. Jane was not able to recover from her traumas until decades later through therapy. She waited until she was in her fifties to get the help she needed, having felt waves of anxiety and depression throughout her life. Jane encourages women to seek out the help they need as soon as they are able, and not to postpone healing. In our latest episode, we share an outline to help address postpartum anxiety and depression issues. This is relevant for EVERYONE, not just people who are "depressed".

The American expectation is that pregnant women and new moms will be happy and fulfilled. But the reality is that approximately 20% of pregnant women are diagnosed with depression during pregnancy. So what happens when pregnancy and childbirth bring along the storm clouds of depression?  In this Practically Perfect Parenting Podcast episode you’ll learn more about post-partum depression and hear writer and founder of Postpartum Support International, Jane Honikman share a universal message to families. You’ll also understand why now is always a good time to support pregnant women and mothers. This podcast is brought to you by The Charles Engelhard Foundation, and The National Parenting Education Network. Resources mentioned in this podcast can be found at: John Sommers-Flanagan's Blog Postpartum Support International  

Did you all know that you can get training or psychotherapy from Dr. Shosh? She is very active in treating, training and advocacy. Dr. Shosh is with us again today! We get to delve into the Postpartum Action Institute, that she co-founded with Jane Honikman. They offer small group training, support and guidance for therapists who are looking to serve mothers and families. Dark Side of the Full Moon Documentary about the maternal mental health and the effects on mothers and the Free app, PPD Gone which offers so much hand-held support for mothers to get support for mental healing!!! These are great contributions to maternal mental health training, awareness, support and advocacy! Find this and more from Dr. Shosh www.drshosh.com www.postpartumaction.org www.darksideofthefullmoon.com www.drshosh.com/ppdgone-app/  

Here are a few of my favorite things: My Brest friend pillow: Yes, there are lots of breastfeeding pillows on the market. Not all pillows work well for all mothers. I find that My Brest Friend works well for a nice amount of woman. Selling points: The adjustable strap with a release clip that is silent so you don’t wake up a sleeping baby when you want to remove the pillow. I like the firm, flatt front cushion. When you strap on the pillow, you have this nice firm surface and it stays put. There is no gap between you and your baby, which is what I find, happens a lot with other pillows. It wraps around your body, you can make it nice and snug and it provides good back support, which is also something that is sorely missing with many pillows. https://www.mybrestfriend.com/ Babywearing…. f any kind slings and wraps and front and back structured carriers. It is one of my favorite ways for moms and dads and caregivers to spend quality time with their baby particularly when holding them for an extended period of time. 1. You will notice that many baby love to be held,,, even when they are well fed and burped and with a fresh diaper. They will still fuss when you put them down. Why? Because they have had a steady supply of rocking and soothing sounds of mom’s heartbeat in utero. Now on the outside, they crave touch, smell, rhythm, rocking, soothing voice, just the right temperature and babywearing provides all this for baby. On the adult side of things, it can be pretty tiring on your back and neck and arm muscles to hold a baby, without support for long periods of time. Wrap your baby around you and you have solved many problems. Boba wrap is one of my faves for first time moms. It looks complicated, but it is easy to figure out. After about the 10th practice session, you will be good at it. So, don’t be scared when you look at this long piece of material and think: how am I going to figure this out? I love the Boba Wrap particularly for newbies at babywearing. You can wear a baby from 5 to 30 pounds in the Boba Wrap. It is nice and comfy for mom and baby, rolls up in a bunch, very portable and it is priced right with some really nice solide colors. Don’t want to spend too much or too complicated with first time moms. Skin to Skin: This is a fabulous way to love, nurture and connect with newborns and anyone can do it and it cost nothing. Premature babies greatly benefit with Kangaroo care where their parents wear their babies for several hours each day. Research has shown that when you tuck a baby in skin to skin, upright, they respond really well. Their breathing is better regulated, it improves oxygen levels, they sleep better, gain weight quicker, cry less, quicker to go home. We now have numerous well researched studies that show how bneficial the practice of STS is to health premature babies, which is why many hospitals encourage parents to spend time with their babies STS. Your baby does not have to have been born early to benefit from skin to skin. Previous it was thought that only premature babies benefited from STS, but now the research backs up what parents have intuitively know for years. STS contact for healthy newborns is beneficial to their physical and emotional regular at the time of birth. For millions of years mothers have kept their babies safely tucked in with them after birth. It is only in the last 100 years or so that mothers and babies have been separated. When I teach BF classes, I am like a pain in the tush as parents have to hear me say some of the same things over and over. One of them is,,, keep the baby with the mommy, keep the baby with the mommy. If there is no medical reason to separate mom and baby, just don’t. Your baby is born, tuck your baby in with your, keep nice and warm with blanket wrapped around both of you. This helps to regulate their breathing, temperature, sleep, and helps that baby is right there when he/she begins to cue for breastfeeding. Bathing and clothing and putting on hats and swaddling babies and passing them around to family members does not help with early breastfeeding… so this is why STS is one of my favorite things. And if mom is unable to provide STS, then Dad or another close family member can. Books for Breastfeeding: I have quite a few favorites and will talk about some of the others in future shows. I am choosing these first two as they are my favorites for helping moms prepare for a good start with breastfeeding. They cover a lot, in an easy to read fashion, without being technical and too many pages. I want you to be able to pick up a book and not be overwhelmed. BFMade Simple – Nancy Mohrbacher – Great book, practical advise on getting started with breastfeding, easy to read and does cover some of the not so popular challenges that mothers have in the early days and on through weaning problems. The Ultimate Book of Breastfeeding Answers – by Dr. Jack Newman and Teresa Pitman – I list this as one of my favorite books because it is filled with practical advise about breastfeeding and provides solutions for common problems that may arise for the new mother. One of the reasons I like this book is because it does not just tell you what you should do, it explains the reason behind the advice. There are lots of misinformation and myths circulating out there in cyberspace and Dr. Jack Newman spends time making sure the reader understands what is true and what you need to pay attention to and what you should ignore. Of course, one might say that I am plugging these two books because they have said yes to being a guest on my show. Perhaps, but it is really the other way around. It is because I love their books and respect their work so highly, that I reached out to them and asked them to be a guest. Don’t worry, I will let you know when their shows are going to be released. Mother Support Groups: If you know me, you will know that I am a huge fan of Mothers Support Groups. Mothering is one of the hardest things most of us will ever do in our lives. I have asked mothers all over the world, who are in many different professions, and no matter how hard their paying job is, they will all say that Mothering is one of the most important jobs they will ever do in their lifetime and it is one of the most hardest jobs they will ever do in their lifetime. Mothers groups provides support, information, friendship and a safe place to go and talk about your stuff. On a National level, listeners of All About Breastfeeding already know that Mom-mentum is my favorite organization that offers Mothers groups. You have heard me talk about Mom-mentum on many of my shows. My mission is to help support this organization and help them grow more Mother Centers around the country. On a local level, with a little bit of research you can find a mothers group that best fits your needs. Breastfeeding mothers groups meet regularly with La Leche League and in your local hospital or birthing centers. Groups like Mom-mentum that are mother centered, not only for BF mothers, can often be found in your community as well. Check out your local library and hospital for what they offer. Online Virtual Breastfeeding Mothers Group, I have the perfect solution for moms who cannot make it out of the house to attend a group. Perhaps you live in an area where you just cannot find a group., or realistically it is just too far to drive, or you just want the convenience of not having to leave the house, you can join the All About Breastfeeding Online Virtual Breastfeeding Mothers Group, which is specifically for pregnant woman who are planning on breastfeeding and mothers who are in the early months of breastfeeding. Detailed information can be found at allaboutbreastfeeding.biz/support PSI – Postpartum Support International was founded in 1987 by Jane Honikman in Santa Barbara, CA. The purpose of the organization is to increase awareness among public and professional communities about the emotional changes that women experience during pregnancy and postpartum. This organization and their volunteers really cares about the emotional health of all mothers and have systems and information in place so that you can get the help you need. PSI has volunteer coordinaters all over the US and 36 other countries. There is a free helpline, a membership directory, and lots of resources and education. This organization provides help during your pregnancy months and your postpartum period. They let you know you are not alone and they take action to help you, get the help you need if you feel like you are in a state of crisis. I have facilitated several hundred mothers groups and am currently interviewing mom in this podcast. If you are a steady listener, you will note that one of the most common themes mothers express are the very strong feelings and emotions they go through during the pp period, which is not just a few weeks after the birth, but up to a whole year later. Some it is feelings of sadness, lots of crying, some depression and others it is major anxiety, wanting to not eat or having problems sleeping and it is interfering with their joy of new motherhood and some moms have expressed the extreme side of ppd which has caused them extreme highs and lows and the need for medical intervention. Most talk about not getting help because either they or there partner of family member had no idea what was g oing on, or they secretly knew, but did not address it with anyone because of the perceived stigma surrounding this. I want you to know that you are not alone and there is help. Happier a podcast by Gretchin Rubin : I first got turned on to Gretchen Rubin when I read her book, The Happiness Project. It is a great book and one I found very helpful. The beginning was a good read, just getting into her mindset about how and why she even wrote a book about Happiness was fascinating to me. When I found out that she had a podcast also, I was thrilled. She co-hosts it with her sister Elizabeth and every show I pick up little tidbits of useful information and on top of that, they make me laugh. Their latest episode a the time of this podcast is: You can’t make me and neither can i. If this intrigues you, be sure to check out there show.

What differentiates the baby blues from postpartum depression? What are the early signs of postpartum depression? Can it be prevented? How long is the postpartum period? Jane Honikman co-founder of Postpartum Education for Parents and Postpartum Support International talks ppd with the crew.