Podcast appearances and mentions of marv penner

This week we've been looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter E calls us to quick action, by taking steps to eliminate immediate dangers. Many hurting kids are involved in behaviors and relationships that require early intervention. Furthermore, we need to empower adolescents as people with the power to choose. As long as they feel like helpless victims, they won't move forward. But most importantly, we must expect God to do his part to accomplish what only he can do in the lives of kids. God will provide his presence, his comfort, and his healing. L – O – V – E. When it comes to hurting kids, we must listen to them, offer encouragement and support, validate what's happening in their lives, and eliminate immediate dangers. That's a good place to begin as we endeavor to lead hurting kids to the hope and healing that comes through Jesus Christ.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter V calls us to validate what's happening in the lives of hurting teenagers. Many kids in pain have been told that their perspectives are inaccurate, their emotions are illegitimate, and they need to “get over it.” Our relational commitment validates them as people of worth. Our supportive words validate the courage it takes to face their own pain and share their stories. And our patience and gentleness validate the emotions they feel about the circumstances they share with us. The fear, confusion, shame, hurt, isolation, anger, and loss must be processed, not simply stuffed away. All of us know how difficult it is to begin to open up to someone and to be told in one of a variety of ways that what we're experiencing really doesn't matter. Let's avoid doing that with hurting kids.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter O refers to what we offer students who choose to risk sharing their hearts with us. They've come to us because they believe we have something they need. It's important for us to offer hope in what they often consider to be hopeless circumstances. Offers of encouragement, support, wisdom, and advice can all express this hope. Maybe the most important thing we can offer kids is the willingness to go deeper with them. Most adults want to keep things safe and shallow. What are your offering to hurting kids? The Psalmist reminds us in Psalm Forty-two that we are to put our hope in God. If we have placed our hope and trust in the one who has made us and not in the things he has made, hurting kids will see that reality. Hope is the greatest gift we can give to kids in pain.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter L concerns listening, the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with wounded kids. Many teenagers are convinced that no one is listening to them. Everyone is either too busy, preoccupied, stressed, or selfish to give kids the undivided attention they need. We must learn to listen beneath the words – at the level of emotions, non-verbal cues, and even silence. Listening must be active and responsive to what's being said and left unsaid. And of course, it must be non-judgmental. Nothing will shut down a kid's story more quickly than an adult pointing out where he's wrong. Listening is a skill we desperately need to develop – not just for the sake of creating an environment conducive to good communication, but for the sake of the spiritual and emotional health of our kids.

This week I want to talk about responding to hurting kids, and some great lessons that I've learned from my good friend, Dr. Marv Penner. For years, Marv has been equipping youth workers, counselors, and parents to understand and help kids who are experiencing brokenness in their lives. The fact is that a growing number of adolescents today are hurting deeply – often more deeply than they or many of the adults in their lives are willing to acknowledge. Most have nowhere to turn with their pain. Marv reminds us that helping these kids is as much about who you are, as it is about what you do. The most powerful instrument of ministry you have to offer a kid is your own life, lived transparently and honestly so they can see the difference the Gospel makes for you. It's all about relationships. When kids trust you, that opens the door to helping them. 

In his book “Help my Kids are Hurting,” my friend Marv Penner offers an acronym to help us think through the skills needed to help wounded kids. The letter L stands for listening – the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with hurting kids. We must close our mouths and listen intently as they tell their story. O refers to what we offer students. They've opened up with us because they believe we have something they need. We must offer hope and the willingness to go deeper with them. V calls us to validate what's happening in the lives of hurting kids. We must let them know that their pain and feelings are real and legitimate. E reminds us to eliminate immediate dangers including behaviors and relationships, especially if they are on a path to hurting themselves or others. Our culture leaves kids hurting and they desperately need our LOVE.

Loss is all around us--from change to disappointment to death. We see grief show up in ourselves and in our students. What does it look like to make space for grief in youth ministry and lead in the midst of it? Join today's conversation with Holly Bishu, Kara Allison, and Austin White as they unpack personal experiences with grief in their ministry and cover practical tips for leading amidst loss.    You can find Holly on Instagram @hollybishu Austin is @austtinnwhite And Kara is @kara.alllison   Check out Love Does by Bob Goff and be encouraged!   Lastly, you can dive deeper into this topic by revisiting older episodes on this podcast… 117: How Do You Walk With Your Student Through Grief and Loss? With Dr. Dorothy Hunse 005: How Should I Help Students Who are Hurting? With Dr. Marv Penner

Have you ever been in the middle of small group and the conversation takes a dramatic turn that you weren't expecting? How should you respond in those moments? If you've created a safe space for your students you can expect for your conversation to be derailed at some point with some heavy topics. Join Sid, Lisette, and Jer in the final part of the small group series, this conversation being all about what you can do when conversations take a turn you weren't expecting.    Other Volunteer Youth Worker Podcast Episodes that you might find helpful…   011: Self-Injury -- How Do I Help and What Do I Need to Know? Interview with Dr. Marv Penner 005: How Should I Help Students who are Hurting (Part 1)? Interview with Dr. Marv Penner   Do you have a specific situation that you would love to talk more about? We would love to hear from you! You can connect with Jeremy via email at Jeremy@YouthWorker.Community   Submit your youth ministry question at youthministry.team.

Dr. Marv Penner is a veteran Canadian youth worker, founder of the National Center for Excellence in Youth Ministry and the author of many books on youth ministry and parenting including Help! My Kids Are Hurting. He is also a licensed marriage and family counselor who specializes in parent-youth relationships, sexual abuse recovery, eating disorders and other adolescent issues. In this episode of Legacy Grandparenting, Marv visits with our co-hosts Wayne Rice and John Coulombe and shares his thoughts on how grandparents can be a refuge of safety for grandchildren who may be struggling with loneliness, anxiety, depression, self-harm, substance abuse or other difficult life and family situations. He offers special encouragement and hope for grandparents who have had to step into the role of parents for their grandchildren. "Our grandkids don't need us to be cool," he says. "They just need us to be safe." 

You might remember Kanye West's 2007 chart-topping single, “Stronger.” In the song West quotes the famous line from Fredrich Nietzsche, “that which does not kill us makes us stronger.” According to the Bible, that's true. But in today's world, we are told that the emerging generations increasingly believe the opposite, that what doesn't kill you makes you weaker. Are our kids losing their ability to do hard things and endure difficulty? Are we coddling and protecting them out of healthy growth and development? And, what can we do to reverse the tide and begin to facilitate spiritual growth that leads to a life marked by resilience? Stay with us as I chat with my friend Marv Penner about resilience and how to foster it in our kids, on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

In this episode, we share a conversation we had with Dr. Marv Penner on the topic of mental health and resilience. Episode Notes: Books by Dr. Penner https://www.amazon.ca/Marv-Penner/e/B001IXS9LU/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_book_1 Centre for Youth Ministry Excellence https://www.coalitionforministry.com

When I was engaged in full-time local church youth ministry, it was obvious to me that my greatest youth ministry asset was my volunteers. They were nothing short of awesome. One of the mistakes we make in today’s youth ministry world is believing that the best youth workers are those who do it full-time with large budgets and lots of kids. That’s just not true. Here at CPYU, we believe that part-time youth workers, volunteers, and bi-vocational youth workers are essential and effective. That’s why we’re focusing today’s conversation on answering some of the unique youth ministry questions being asked by those who aren’t full-timers. Stick with us as bi-vocational youth worker Jordan Martin picks the brains of veteran trainers Duffy Robbins and Marv Penner, on this episode of youth culture matters.

Today’s children and teens face a difficult and complex set of issues and problems. The result is that many are walking around buried in deep hurt. In his book Help! My Kids Are Hurting, my friend Marv Penner offers acronym L-O-V-E to help us think through the skills needed to help wounded kids. The letter L stands for listening – the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with hurting kids. We must close our mouths and listen intently as they tell their story. O refers to what we offer students. They’ve opened up with us because they believe we have something they need. We must offer hope and the willingness to go deeper with them. V calls us to validate what’s happening in the lives of hurting kids. We must let them know that their pain and feelings are real and legitimate. E reminds us to eliminate immediate dangers including behaviors and relationships, especially if they are on a path to hurting themselves or others. Our kids desperately need our LOVE.

This week we’ve been looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter E calls us to quick action, by taking steps to eliminate immediate dangers. Many hurting kids are involved in behaviors and relationships that require early intervention. Furthermore, we need to empower adolescents as people with the power to choose. As long as they feel like helpless victims, they won’t move forward. But most importantly, we must expect God to do his part to accomplish what only he can do in the lives of kids. God will provide his presence, his comfort, and his healing. L – O – V – E. When it comes to hurting kids, we must listen to them, offer encouragement and support, validate what’s happening in their lives, and eliminate immediate dangers. That’s a good place to begin as we endeavor to lead hurting kids to the hope and healing that comes through Jesus Christ.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter V calls us to validate what’s happening in the lives of hurting teenagers. Many kids in pain have been told that their perspectives are inaccurate, their emotions are illegitimate, and they need to “get over it.” Our relational commitment validates them as people of worth. Our supportive words validate the courage it takes to face their own pain and share their stories. And our patience and gentleness validate the emotions they feel about the circumstances they share with us. The fear, confusion, shame, hurt, isolation, anger, and loss must be processed, not simply stuffed away. All of us know how difficult it is to begin to open up to someone and to be told in one of a variety of ways that what we’re experiencing really doesn’t matter. Let’s avoid doing that with hurting kids.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter O refers to what we offer students who choose to risk sharing their hearts with us. They’ve come to us because they believe we have something they need. It’s important for us to offer hope in what they often consider to be hopeless circumstances. Offers of encouragement, support, wisdom, and advice can all express this hope. Maybe the most important thing we can offer kids is the willingness to go deeper with them. Most adults want to keep things safe and shallow. What are your offering to hurting kids? The Psalmist reminds us in Psalm Forty-two that we are to put our hope in God. If we have placed our hope and trust in the one who has made us and not in the things he has made, hurting kids will see that reality. Hope is the greatest gift we can give to kids in pain.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter L concerns listening, the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with wounded kids. Many teenagers are convinced that no one is listening to them. Everyone is either too busy, preoccupied, stressed, or selfish to give kids the undivided attention they need. We must learn to listen beneath the words – at the level of emotions, non-verbal cues, and even silence. Listening must be active and responsive to what’s being said and left unsaid. And of course, it must be non-judgmental. Nothing will shut down a kid’s story more quickly than an adult pointing out where he’s wrong. Listening is a skill we desperately need to develop – not just for the sake of creating an environment conducive to good communication, but for the sake of the spiritual and emotional health of our kids.

This week I want to talk about responding to hurting kids, and some great lessons that I’ve learned from my good friend, Dr. Marv Penner. For years, Marv has been equipping youth workers, counselors, and parents to understand and help kids who are experiencing brokenness in their lives. The fact is that a growing number of adolescents today are hurting deeply – often more deeply than they or many of the adults in their lives are willing to acknowledge. Most have nowhere to turn with their pain. Marv reminds us that helping these kids is as much about who you are, as it is about what you do. The most powerful instrument of ministry you have to offer a kid is your own life, lived transparently and honestly so they can see the difference the Gospel makes for you. It’s all about relationships. When kids trust you, that opens the door to helping them. 

Unforeseen stress is not something new to the adolescent journey, but because stress compounds, the Coronavirus reality is creating extreme challenges for vulnerable teenagers. If you can’t meet face to face with someone from your group, what are ways that you can still support them?   Join today’s conversation as Sid and Jeremy interview Dr. Marv Penner.   You can jump into the followup conversation from today’s episode in our Facebook group as we share with each other different questions that open up deeper conversations with teenagers.   Don’t forget -- you can join the Canadian Youth Worker Prayer Call on Fridays at 9am Pacific / 10am Mountain / 11am Central / 12pm Eastern / 1pm Atlantic … Hosted in partnership with Alpha Canada. Located at cywc.ca/prayercall Submit your youth ministry question at youthministry.team.

When was the last time that you pondered, if ever, the architecture and layout of your church building or youth room? And, does architecture and layout even matter? Should our spaces be purely utilitarian in nature? Or, should they serve an even greater purpose? Winston Churchill once said, “First we shape our buildings, and then our buildings shape us.” The fact is that space does speak. And space can shape us in ways that lead to our spiritual flourishing, or space can undermine our spiritual growth and development. Dr. Bill McAlpine has studied and written on the power of sacred space. Stay with us as Marv Penner and Duffy Robbins join me for an eye-opening conversation with Bill McApline about our churches and youth rooms on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

When your students are hurting and experiencing sadness, anxiety, fear, or loneliness they might struggle with how best to manage their pain and it can be intimidating and overwhelming when you discover someone has chosen self-injury for their pain management. How should you respond? Who else needs to know? Why would someone who is already hurting on the inside start hurting themselves on the outside? Welcome to the Youth Ministry Team Podcast. Youth Ministries rise and fall on the team of volunteers, so this podcast is for the WHOLE team. Join the conversation as we tackle the practical questions you’re asking so you can be encouraged and equipped as you head into your role in your youth ministry this week. We want to hear from you! Submit your youth ministry question at youthministry.team To learn more about this topic you’ll find the following two books are incredibly helpful resources: Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut: Learning to Understand and Help Those Who Self-Injure by Marv Penner Help! My Kids Are Hurting: A Survival Guide to Working with Students in Pain by Marv Penner

Whether it’s a student opening up about a toxic home life, an addiction, mental health, grief and loss, or some other significant issue, the question of dealing with students who are hurting is a question of when not if. And when a student shares about their hurt it can be difficult to know what our response is supposed to look like. When we feel out of our depth, what do we do? And what are we supposed to say when a student asks if they can share something in complete confidence? Welcome to the Youth Ministry Team Podcast. Youth Ministries rise and fall on the team of volunteers, so this podcast is for the WHOLE team. Join the conversation as we tackle the practical questions you’re asking so you can be encouraged and equipped as you head into your role in your youth ministry this week. We want to hear from you! Submit your youth ministry question at youthministry.team

Youth ministry has always needed to adapt and adjust to changes in the mainstream culture. With the advent of the metoo movement and our growing knowledge of the nature and extent of sexual abuse, youth workers must be thinking about how to best engage with students in ways that lead to healthy relationship building. Is it ever proper to give a student a hug? What about car rides, lunches, or having one-on-one meetings with kids? What are the borders and boundaries we need to enlist to insure that none of us or our volunteers cross lines that would thrill the enemy, undermine ministries, or do harm to the kids who have been entrusted to our care? Our good friend Marv Penner joins us to offer wisdom and to help us answer the question, “To hug or not to hug? How Do we love kids well in our metoo culture? . . . on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

With the culture changing at breakneck speed, we need to know the culture so that we can contextualize the unchanging Good news of the Gospel in ways that can be heard by a changing world. As a result, we talk a lot about the need for relevance in our churches and youth ministries. Is it possible that our commitment to relevance can lead us to focus too much on forms, with the result that we forfeit our knowledge of the Gospel? And, can we become so committed to relevance that we find ourselves falling into theological compromise and relativism? These are important questions for those who minister in today’s world. We’ll be discussing relevance, relativism, and a whole lot more with veteran youth ministry experts Dr. Duffy Robbins and Dr. Marv Penner on this episode, of Youth Culture Matters.

Dr. Marv Penner directs All About Youth and the National Center for Excellence in Youth Ministry. In addition to his teaching, speaking and writing, Marv specializes in parent/adolescent conflict resolution, sexual abuse recovery, eating disorders and marriage and family issues. He is the author of several books including Help! My Kids Are Hurting and Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut.

Dr. Marv Penner directs All About Youth and the National Center for Excellence in Youth Ministry. In addition to his teaching, speaking and writing, Marv specializes in parent/adolescent conflict resolution, sexual abuse recovery, eating disorders and marriage and family issues. He is the author of several books including Help! My Kids Are Hurting and Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut.

Dr. Marv Penner directs All About Youth and the National Center for Excellence in Youth Ministry. In addition to his teaching, speaking and writing, Marv specializes in parent/adolescent conflict resolution, sexual abuse recovery, eating disorders and marriage and family issues. He is the author of several books including Help! My Kids Are Hurting and Hope and Healing for Kids Who Cut.

When youth workers ask me about the qualities they should seek to develop in their lives and ministries, there are three that I’m always sure to mention: humility, teachability, and cooperation. Pride kills ministry. Without a determination to learn we get horribly stale. And if we aren’t working with others we forfeit the great benefits of ministering together as part of the body of Christ. How can we intentionally position ourselves to serve Christ, kids, and families most effectively? What does it look like to be a part of a ministry team where all generations learn from each other? And what are the benefits of doing youth ministry in this way? We’ll talk to a multi-generational team of youth workers who are committed to carrying the youth ministry baton together, on this episode of youth culture matters.

We don’t like to talk about it, but we must. The spiritual, emotional, and physical well-being of our kids hangs in the balance. That’s why we need to be thinking about and strategizing for how to best push back and minister to kids in the midst of the growing epidemic of teen suicide. What are the signs? What are the myths? How can youth workers and parents intervene in a moment of crisis? Join us for a practical and hope-filled conversation with Dr. Marv Penner about teens and suicide, on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

Over the course of Walt Mueller's years of youth ministry, he's developed some wonderful friendships with a variety of youth ministry peers. Some of the most significant relationships have resulted in sometimes fun, sometimes serious, and always profitable conversation about their personal lives and ministry matters. They don't always agree, but they always work to sharpen one another. All of us need these kind of relationships where iron sharpens iron as we love each other and serve together. We invite you to listen in on one of these conversations among youth ministry friends, Walt Mueller, Duffy Robbins, Marv Penner, and Chap Clark... on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

Walt and Jason discuss news related to selfies, YouTube celebrities, sexuality, reading, stories, weak handshakes and more. Then Dr. Marv Penner joins the podcast to talk about self-injury, self-mutilation, cutting, and what parents and youth workers can do to understand this behavior and move kids into healing. He takes a look at how the understanding of self-harm has changed over the last few decades and shares the insights he has gained over the years of counseling students who practice various forms of self-injury.

Walt and Jason discuss news related to sexting, selfies, performance enhancing substances, teens and driving and more. Then Dr. Marv Penner joins the podcast to talk about the challenge of church kids and what we can do as parents and youth workers to encourage church kids to grow and embody a vibrant faith in Jesus Christ.

Dealing with one of the most difficult areas of student crisis, cutting. Why do they do it and how can we in a healthy way help them. Listen to Marv Penner discuss this. This is for Parents and Leaders in Mariners Jr. High Ministry, made possible by DownloadYouthMinistry.com

Doug is super excited this week, and Josh, Matt and Katie are trying to figure out why. Turns out it’s all about the 00 hall of fame taking shape on the wall. After reviewing all the members of the new wall, Doug has a short discussion with special guest Nadim about Josh’s new book. Then it’s time for your questions on: finding mentors, parent meet and greet ideas, how to help a student whose cutting (with a special video from Marv Penner), getting a job with only volunteer experience, and how to deal with volunteers drinking beer while out with students.

Doug is super excited this week, and Josh, Matt and Katie are trying to figure out why. Turns out it’s all about the 00 hall of fame taking shape on the wall. After reviewing all the members of the new wall, Doug has a short discussion with special guest Nadim about Josh’s new book. Then it’s time for your questions on: finding mentors, parent meet and greet ideas, how to help a student whose cutting (with a special video from Marv Penner), getting a job with only volunteer experience, and how to deal with volunteers drinking beer while out with students.