Podcasts about hurting kids

The holidays can be a time of excitement and high hopes for family "togetherness".  You probably want to plan fun, festive activities so that you're able to enjoy memorable moments as a family.But nothing can rob you of all that fun like struggling to negotiate some details about scheduling or other logistics with your Ex.We've been there more times than we've wanted to be.  Over the years, we've discovered 5 simple things that can reduce the headaches and avoid the heartaches that often come when negotiations break down.If you're anticipating having to negotiate changes to the visitation schedule this holiday season, don't procrastinate!  We'll help you navigate the negotiations so they don't rob your joy.  Hop into this episode to discover how you can approach negotiations well and enjoy more peace this Holiday Season! You'll Discover:5 tips for negotiating schedule changes with your former spouse that can increase cooperation and ease tension How to stay focused on what's best for the kids and set them up for a peaceful Holiday Season Practical strategies for responding to your child's disappointment when they miss out on an activitySimple thoughts for managing your own emotions when things don't go as planned Resources from this Episode:Episode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowEpisode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 135. How to Set Appropriate Boundaries and Negotiate Well with Your Ex-Spouse Episode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsEpisode 31. 3 Unexpected Ways to Improve How You Cope with Your ExEpisode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday DisappointmentEpisode 7. Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5  Steps That HelpReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Evidence suggests that META and other big tech companies are purposefully hurting kids through their lack of content moderation and their choice of harmful persuasive design features. Justin and Kylie discuss how you can protect your children from online exploitation and manipulation by giving them a play-based childhood. Join the village, sign the pledge to delay smartphones and social media, and “Unplug Childhood” with us! In this episode: The Surgeon General Has New Social Media Guidelines. Minnesota Already Made Some of Them Into Law | After Babel Substack | Ravi Dyer META whistleblower reports Social media algorithms Prioritising engagement over content quality Kids exposed to unwanted contact, sexual advances REPORT on addictive design of online services and consumer protection in the EU single market | European Parliament What is persuasive design? Unplug Childhood - sign the pledge Related Links: #1002 Kylie Can't Get Enough Snapchat #1060 – No Hang-Ups With School Phone Bans (Heads Up Alliance interview) Unplugging Parenthood The Screen Smart Series: Unplug Childhood + Tweens, Teens & Screens Doors are now open to the Happy Families Membership  NEW weekly kids' ‘Print & Play' subscription FELT (Fostering Emotional Learning Together) Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we've been looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter E calls us to quick action, by taking steps to eliminate immediate dangers. Many hurting kids are involved in behaviors and relationships that require early intervention. Furthermore, we need to empower adolescents as people with the power to choose. As long as they feel like helpless victims, they won't move forward. But most importantly, we must expect God to do his part to accomplish what only he can do in the lives of kids. God will provide his presence, his comfort, and his healing. L – O – V – E. When it comes to hurting kids, we must listen to them, offer encouragement and support, validate what's happening in their lives, and eliminate immediate dangers. That's a good place to begin as we endeavor to lead hurting kids to the hope and healing that comes through Jesus Christ.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter V calls us to validate what's happening in the lives of hurting teenagers. Many kids in pain have been told that their perspectives are inaccurate, their emotions are illegitimate, and they need to “get over it.” Our relational commitment validates them as people of worth. Our supportive words validate the courage it takes to face their own pain and share their stories. And our patience and gentleness validate the emotions they feel about the circumstances they share with us. The fear, confusion, shame, hurt, isolation, anger, and loss must be processed, not simply stuffed away. All of us know how difficult it is to begin to open up to someone and to be told in one of a variety of ways that what we're experiencing really doesn't matter. Let's avoid doing that with hurting kids.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter O refers to what we offer students who choose to risk sharing their hearts with us. They've come to us because they believe we have something they need. It's important for us to offer hope in what they often consider to be hopeless circumstances. Offers of encouragement, support, wisdom, and advice can all express this hope. Maybe the most important thing we can offer kids is the willingness to go deeper with them. Most adults want to keep things safe and shallow. What are your offering to hurting kids? The Psalmist reminds us in Psalm Forty-two that we are to put our hope in God. If we have placed our hope and trust in the one who has made us and not in the things he has made, hurting kids will see that reality. Hope is the greatest gift we can give to kids in pain.

This week we're looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner's strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter L concerns listening, the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with wounded kids. Many teenagers are convinced that no one is listening to them. Everyone is either too busy, preoccupied, stressed, or selfish to give kids the undivided attention they need. We must learn to listen beneath the words – at the level of emotions, non-verbal cues, and even silence. Listening must be active and responsive to what's being said and left unsaid. And of course, it must be non-judgmental. Nothing will shut down a kid's story more quickly than an adult pointing out where he's wrong. Listening is a skill we desperately need to develop – not just for the sake of creating an environment conducive to good communication, but for the sake of the spiritual and emotional health of our kids.

This week I want to talk about responding to hurting kids, and some great lessons that I've learned from my good friend, Dr. Marv Penner. For years, Marv has been equipping youth workers, counselors, and parents to understand and help kids who are experiencing brokenness in their lives. The fact is that a growing number of adolescents today are hurting deeply – often more deeply than they or many of the adults in their lives are willing to acknowledge. Most have nowhere to turn with their pain. Marv reminds us that helping these kids is as much about who you are, as it is about what you do. The most powerful instrument of ministry you have to offer a kid is your own life, lived transparently and honestly so they can see the difference the Gospel makes for you. It's all about relationships. When kids trust you, that opens the door to helping them. 

Robert Crosby, PhD and Rev. Kayla Smith join us on today's episode. As Executive Director and Associate Director, respectively, for Reach Hurting Kids Institute, Dr. Crosby and Pastor Kayla give insight into the power of trauma-informed care for children in churches. With a blend of three lenses–pastoral, research, and therapy–Reach Hurting Kids Institute provides helpful resources for churches to reframe the mindset when experiencing common behavioral challenges in children. There is a deeper opportunity for care. Listen in to hear how your team can “train your eyes to see something different.” Quotes The kids of our churches and communities need people who can respond well. [Behavior] is a communication of what is lacking. [Trauma-informed care] softens our hearts toward the kids we usually see as a pain. Resources Trauma-Informed Children's Ministry The Reach Hurting Kids Workshop Connect with Hope Made Strong Website: HopeMadeStrong.org Socials: Facebook – Instagram – Twitter – YouTube

Megyn Kelly dives deep into the issue of radical trans ideology in our society today. First, Anne Hutchinson, record-breaking female powerlifter, joins to talk about the biological man who began taking over her sport, the shocking rules in Canada when it comes to biological males in women's sports, the money women are losing by the "trans" sports revolution, how she was suspended for calling a "biological male" a "biological male" in her sport, the "trans" athlete then harassing and threatening her over social media, the value of free speech and freedom of thought, and more. Then detransitioner Isabelle Ayala and her lawyer Jordan Campbell join to talk about Isabelle's story that led her to begin "transitioning" at the age of 14, the lawsuit she has filed taking action on those who pushed this, the major revelations in the "WPATH Files," who the "medical professionals and activists" in WPATH really are, how they are saying one thing privately and another publicly, their continued push toward "affirmation" despite clear evidence of major complications and consequences that they acknowledge privately, and more. Then Robby Starbuck, filmmaker of "The War on Children," joins to discuss the way radical trans ideology demands lying about reality, how "social emotional learning" has been co-opted now, race essentialism in our schools, how parents can fight back, and more.Hutchinson- https://www.aprilhutchinson.com/Campbell- https://cmppllc.com/Starbuck- https://thewaronchildren.com/ Follow The Megyn Kelly Show on all social platforms: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/MegynKellyTwitter: http://Twitter.com/MegynKellyShowInstagram: http://Instagram.com/MegynKellyShowFacebook: http://Facebook.com/MegynKellyShow Find out more information at: https://www.devilmaycaremedia.com/megynkellyshow

Greg talks about how today's parenting is hurting kids, then he answers questions from callers about whether it's okay for a church to host a debate with an atheist and what to say to someone who rejects God because of things the church has done.   Topics: Commentary: How today's parenting is hurting kids (00:00) Is it wrong for a church to host a debate between an apologist and an atheist since a Christian might be swayed by the atheist's arguments? (39:00) What can I say to someone who rejects God because of things the church has done? (51:00) Mentioned on the Show:  How touchy-feely parenting and therapy have created the loneliest, most helpless, depressed, and fearful young people ever by Abigail Shrier Temple Grandin film Reality Student Apologetics Conference – March 22–23, 2024 in Philadelphia, PA; April 19–20, 2024 in Augusta, GA Order the Reality live stream Cold-Case Christianity: A Homicide Detective Investigates the Claims of the Gospels by J. Warner Wallace

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Resources for this Simple Step:Episode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 7. Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 8. Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and SlanderEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsEpisode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation — and 6 Tips For YouSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Children moving between two homes WANT one thing — to be connected to the people they love.  And what they NEED most is to experience peace and freedom to simply enjoy time spent with each of their parents.This might seem simple, but many kids don't get what they want or need due to unhealthy co-parenting patterns.  Most often, that leads to unnecessary stress and tension for kids.Why do we say it's unnecessary?  Because parents and step-parents CAN make a difference and protect the kids.  When you do your part to follow the 8 tips we share in this episode, you'll be setting your kids up for the best possible outcomes as they move between their two homes. You'll Discover:8 Practical tips to safeguard your kids from stress and tension as they move between homesHow to manage the challenging dynamics of co-parenting and set your kids up for the best possible outcomes Resources from this Episode:Episode 41. Are you unintentionally putting your kids in the middle?Episode 6.  Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' - and What Can You Do About It?Episode  161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification?Episode 153.   How to Empower Organization, Improve Communication and Create Peace Between Your Kid's Two HomesEpisode 113.  How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse (Part 2 of 2)Episode 7.  Toxic Ex's and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps that HelpAll Episodes that focus on healthy Co-Parenting Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe to Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

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How Hard To Push Kids - When Are You Helping Or Hurting Kids? (audio) Life Success with Dr. Greg Moody, Sr. Master Laura Sanborn and Mr. Dwayne Flees! Is for parents, teachers, instructors and all families are working to build success and excellence for their kids! See more at KarateBuilt.com and DrGregMoody.com

How Hard To Push Kids - When Are You Helping Or Hurting Kids? Life Success with Dr. Greg Moody, Sr. Master Laura Sanborn and Mr. Dwayne Flees! Is for parents, teachers, instructors and all families are working to build success and excellence for their kids! See more at KarateBuilt.com and DrGregMoody.com

This week, our Operations Director, Amy Kavanaugh, is sitting down with Lori Crosby, MFT, RPT-S and Rev. Kayla Smith to talk about reaching all types of families in church, and using play as both therapy and an aid in spiritual practice. Lori and Kayla are two arms of the Reach Hurting Kids Institute, which is committed to providing trauma-informed children's ministry resources to churches. And through their roles with the Institute and their roles as parents, they have so much insight to provide on using play as an aid in healing and a guide in spiritual practice. Whatever brings you to this podcast episode today, we think there's something here for you! Pull up a seat, and join us. Find the Reach Hurting Kids Institute at: https://reachhurtingkids.com/ IG @reachhurtingkids Buy the book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1666715743

Brianna Edwards coaches us on emotional attunement and developing relationships that bring healing to children and families who have experienced trauma.

This week's episode is with people I have admired for a long time and I am so excited to have them on the podcast! Our guests are Robert & Lori Crosby. They are the authors of Trauma-Informed Children's Ministry and the founders of Reach Hurting Kids Institute. How they equip ministry leaders to care for and love all kids and students is truly incredible. I was a better large group teacher after this conversation and I know you will be encouraged and equipped to love your families well. Resources Mentioned: Kids Ministry Circle Fall Cohort Connect with Robert & Lori: Reach Hurting Kids Trauma-Informed Children's Ministry

Watch the full video on YouTube @ https://youtu.be/ZuNsh7-uCGE.This is LifeRehabTV with DrFumi, PsychDNP… a Doctor of Nurse Practice ShowDr. Princess Fumi Hancock addresses the growing issue of loneliness and isolation in today's society, like the United States and Nigeria, as she watched the news and listened to US Surgeon Dr. Vivek Murphy. She shares her insights on the detrimental effects of social disconnection and highlights its impact on mental health. Through personal anecdotes and professional expertise, Dr. Hancock sheds light on the alarming rise of suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety, and other negative consequences of loneliness. She urges parents and adults to take responsibility for combating this pervasive problem by actively engaging with their children and loved ones, promoting open communication, and creating a nurturing environment at home. Dr. Hancock also encourages viewers to reflect on the influence of social media and the need to strike a balance in its usage. By reclaiming the essence of community, fostering genuine connections, and prioritizing mental well-being, we can empower ourselves and future generations to overcome the challenges of loneliness and isolation.Get more of Dr. Fumi's words of wisdom. Get your copy now!

Why are Corey and Amber "happy-dancing?" Find out on this week's episode with Robert & Lori Crosby from the Reach Hurting Kids Institute!

In his book “Help my Kids are Hurting,” my friend Marv Penner offers an acronym to help us think through the skills needed to help wounded kids. The letter L stands for listening – the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with hurting kids. We must close our mouths and listen intently as they tell their story. O refers to what we offer students. They've opened up with us because they believe we have something they need. We must offer hope and the willingness to go deeper with them. V calls us to validate what's happening in the lives of hurting kids. We must let them know that their pain and feelings are real and legitimate. E reminds us to eliminate immediate dangers including behaviors and relationships, especially if they are on a path to hurting themselves or others. Our culture leaves kids hurting and they desperately need our LOVE.

On today's episode we are talking to George Carmona, an producer here at our studio with a history in Special Education specifically working with kids with emotional disturbance and Ricky Marin a personal trainer, lifestyle coach and fitness competitor who had a rough time in his younger years to talk about what it's like growing up in a system that doesn't always have your best interest at heart. We cover the topic of "students with emotional disturbance", a demographic of students that is much larger than you would think and that in our opinion, is not paid attention to enough. Kids with severe emotional disturbance in George's words are sometimes considered to be put on a "pre school to prison pipeline" and are not given a fair chance because of their circumstances.

Linda Flanagan, author of the new book "Take Back the Game: How Money and Mania Are Ruining Kids' Sports and Why It Matters," joins the podcast to talk about the ways heavily commercialized and professionalized youth sports are hurting kids and their families. Linda has written extensively about how youth sports can hijack families to the point where family outings, non-sports activities and bonding time over dinners are lost in the pursuit of the next club team game or travel tournament. She also talks about the "why?" ... why youth sports began to transition from a positive recreational activity to a huge industry in which kids and their parents sometimes travel hundreds of miles to play 10-year-old soccer, basketball or volleyball games. We start the episode talking about why Linda decided to write her new book, get into some of the problems and issues in Youth SportsWorld today and then talk about ways the youth sports scene can begin to change, including a couple positive examples.

It's important that we pay special attention to any new trends that are sparked by the growing presence of smartphones and technology in today's youth culture. One new trend has been labeled as “digital self-harm”, and it's on the rise among our teenagers. Listen carefully to this definition of digital self-harm: “it's a form of self-aggression that involves anonymously posting hurtful and sometimes verbally abusive remarks about one's self online.” Kids will create anonymous social media accounts which then use to post these comments targeted at themselves. Why, you may ask, are kids doing this? According to the journal of adolescent health, teens are doing this as a mechanism to regulate and express their feelings of self-hatred and sadness, in addition to gaining attention from family and friends who will sympathize and reach out without knowing the real source of the comments. Parents, the God-shaped hole in our kids is growing, and it needs to be answered with the Gospel.

The Talk Spot is an interview show featuring guests from all backgrounds. This week's guest is Upper Echelon.   To watch Upper Echelon's content, visit his YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@UpperEchelon

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In her book, Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers, Leslie Leyland Fields writes about our need to enter into the sufferings of others. . . sufferings that we may never have experienced ourselves and therefore have little ability to understand. In effect, it's about taking the time to listen to the other person's story, to show them grace, and to forgive them for acting out of their pain in ways that just might be hurting us. Yes, Fields is writing about doing this with our parents. But I think her challenge is also one that we need to hear and heed in our churches, schools, and neighborhoods with those kids whose brokenness leads to the types of disruptive behavior that make waves in the neat and easy little worlds for which we yearn. What would happen if we would pray for hearts that are sensitive to the most broken of kids and their sufferings? No, we don't want to excuse or write off immoral or bad behavior. But we do want to love the disruptive kids as Christ loves them. 

Today, I am going to be sharing with you a session I led at the Women's Ministries Conference offered by Small Church Summits. I spoke specifically to women's ministries leaders about ministering to the gals in their church who were going through a difficult season, such as grief, depression, anxiety, or caring for an aging parent. This is a true heart-to-heart conversation. I want so desperately to help leaders understand what it might be like for someone they know to be going through a trying time. My friend, we as leaders struggle when we see you hurting and we want to help you, we want to come alongside of you, but we don't know how because we don't see you at church. Many times, you can't come for a good reason. And so this is my encouragement for leaders to find ways to reach out to you and support you. If you are listening and you're not a women's ministries leader or small group leader, I still invite you into this conversation because I try my best to offer some perspective about what it might be like for someone you care about who is hurting. And I give some specific questions to ask at the end about how you can support her in this season of loss or hurt. Kari   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Shop Now: Save 50% on all digital resources, including the Courageous Care Masterclass, now through March 31, 2022, with coupon code “oneyear” Episode 12: Caring for Hurting Kids at Your Church: 3 Powerful But Simple Things You Can Do Free Resource: Breaking Through the Fear of Reaching Out The Creative Little Church (Small Church Summits) with Laurie Acker   __________ >> Written Spiritual Direction: Recognize God's presence in your pain http://lovedoesthat.org/spiritualdirection >> Soul Care Group: Monthly email with soul care practices http://lovedoesthat.org/soulcaregroup

In recent weeks medical scholars and infectious disease specialists are attempting to alert parents to the truth about mask efficacy, the real harm they are doing and why things need to change now. James D. Agresti has been documenting studies for months and brings the latest facts.

HBO's show Euphoria is getting major backlash for portraying heavy drug use and underage sex for HIGH SCHOOLERS - Alex drops HER thoughts on that.

On Fox Across America With Jimmy Failla, former Obama Economic Advisor Robert Wolf gives his take on the record levels of inflation the U.S. is experiencing and tells Jimmy why he thinks President Biden is going to run for re-election in 2024. PLUS, Host of “Final Thoughts” and “No Interruption" on Fox Nation Tomi Lahren tells us why the country is currently dealing with a meat shortage.  [00:00:00] Pandemic restrictions are hurting kids [00:16:47] Crazy college COVID restrictions [00:18:22] Dems pushing more COVID restrictions [00:36:13] Will someone primary Biden in '24? [00:36:44] No second season for Biden presidency [00:53:06] More trouble for Biden's reelection prospects [00:55:09] Robert Wolf [01:12:32] We need more bipartisanship [01:13:33] Hypocrisy of lockdown politicians [01:30:09] Caller on COVID [01:31:56] Tomi Lahren [01:47:30] Jimmy TV hits

Imagine a time that co-parenting with your Ex is reasonable, collaborative, and maybe even pleasant.Is that hard for you to imagine?Often it feels like all the pain from the past and differing perspectives hijacks your ability to cooperate effectively.  And ultimately, when co-parenting breaks down it's the kids who pay the price.  The tension between their homes robs kids of just being themselves and feeling secure in both homes.I wish we could give you the "magic formula" to perfect your co-parenting negotiations — but you and I both know that doesn't really exist.However, there are plenty of things you can do to create more peace and cooperation with your former spouse — regardless of how they choose to react.  And the more you focus on doing your part, the better things will be for your kids.In this episode, we're sharing 5 steps you can take when the collaboration and communication in your co-parenting coalition seem to be breaking down.You'll Discover:The best way to respond when negative emotions get triggered by a former spouse5 practical steps to build cooperation in your co-parenting relationship - even when you disagreeHow to maintain self-control and stay focused on the wellbeing of your kids Resources from this Episode:Episode 112: 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting  - And Hurt the KidsBook:  Divorce Poison by Dr. Richard WarshakEpisode 42:  Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation - and 6 Tips For YouEpisode 33:  How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids (FREE Cheat Sheet Included)Episode 7:  Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps that Help Episode 8:  Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander Episode 67 - The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already KnowClick Here to Schedule a Free Coaching Call Ready for some extra support?We're here to help.  Connect with us for a free coaching call to see how you might experience more clarity, confidence and connection.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show We want to encourage you to subscribe so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast .   Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” .  Thank you!

One of my core beliefs as a children's ministries director, one that I continue to hold today, is that children already experience and know God in a deep and personal way. Kids are not junior varsity Christians. They are able to communicate with God, to hear from Him, and to engage with Him in so many incredible ways. But because we are adults, we don't always see it. We don't always believe it. What looks like child's play to us can really be a form of prayer. What looks like them using their imagination can really be them engaging with God in His Word. What looks like sitting quietly with a coloring book can actually be a form of silence and solitude. And that's why I love this interview with Joy Wendling. Joy is a spiritual parenting coach, and she helps mamas use play with their children to engage with God and build their faith. “But what if I don't like to play?” you ask. “What if I'm not very good at it? What do I do if I'm not very creative?” Joy offers us some very practical steps to take when it comes to using play to talk with our kids about their faith. And let me assure you, you can do this. Kari   MEET JOY WENDLING: Joy Wendling is a Children's and Family Minister turned Stay-at-Home Mom to her 5 little girls. Growing up in the South, Jesus has always been a part of her life, but it wasn't until college that she came to know him as a friend and to realize that he desires a daily relationship with her. This experience started Joy's journey and passion for equipping families to take responsibility of their children's discipleship. For a time, her Family Ministry also overlapped with Christian Early Childhood Education, which is where Joy fell in love with play and its benefits for learning and well-being. Joy is now a play advocate and believes play is the best way to engage children in discipleship. Currently, Joy is encouraging mamas to point their children to Christ with play at her blog CreatedtoPlay.com and is the host of the podcast Playfully Faithful Parenting.   CONNECT WITH JOY: 5 Day Bible Play Challenge Facebook Instagram Website   RESOURCES: Episode 12: Caring for Hurting Kids at Your Church: 3 Powerful But Simple Things You Can Do (lovedoesthat.org/12) Article: How Children Process Grief and Loss Through Play   ------ Friend, I'd love to encourage you as you encourage others. Here are two ways to get started: 1. SHOP ENCOURAGEMENT + SYMPATHY GIFTS These are prayerfully-crafted gifts you can share with those you love as tangible expressions of care. Let your friend know she is not alone. www.lovedoesthat.org/shop 2. SCHEDULE A SPIRITUAL DIRECTION DISCERNMENT CALL Interested in spiritual direction? Schedule a complimentary Discernment Call where we'll talk about what's weighing on your heart and identify next steps you can take to discern God's direction. www.lovedoesthat.org/spiritualdirection/

   Joe Biden is giving a big speech now that we are out of Afghanistan where he's going to try to convince you that the greater good of getting out justifies the disaster we just witnessed the past two weeks.  Just remember, the most important call in their playbook is controlling the message.  And that's about to start.    These are the same people that have controlled our Covid policy for two years.  You know, Covid, that virus that kills really old people that aren't well.  Turns out the policies are making our children fatter, sicker and dumber.  Hey, this is great.   And it's week one for college football as we take a peek at the Jayhawks, Wildcats and Tigers openers.

Jocelyn Bamford on the Covid restrictions hurting kids. Georganne Burke on the conservative momentum in the election. Tom Quiggin and Joe Warmington talk about the Afghan disaster.And Syrett/Patrone breakdown the campaign ups and downs so far.

My friend Duffy Robbins offers some great advice for helping kids translate biblical truths into everyday life. Duffy says that a wise doctor spends focused effort on touching, testing, and probing to be certain she can offer a targeted prescription for her patient. The same holds true for those of us who are doctoring teens spiritually as parents, youthworkers, teachers, and pastors. Duffy says that when we explore biblical truths with our kids we want to probe in order to discover where their pain is, where they are feeling and living with guilt, and how the cure might best be applied in each of their lives. This type of approach reminds us how important it is to listen to our kids before we attempt to speak. When we take the time to listen first, we are more apt to communicate and prescribe helpful remedies that speak directly to their lives, hurts, and longings. This type of technique moves kids towards specific, personalized applications of God's life-giving Word. 

You might remember Kanye West's 2007 chart-topping single, “Stronger.” In the song West quotes the famous line from Fredrich Nietzsche, “that which does not kill us makes us stronger.” According to the Bible, that's true. But in today's world, we are told that the emerging generations increasingly believe the opposite, that what doesn't kill you makes you weaker. Are our kids losing their ability to do hard things and endure difficulty? Are we coddling and protecting them out of healthy growth and development? And, what can we do to reverse the tide and begin to facilitate spiritual growth that leads to a life marked by resilience? Stay with us as I chat with my friend Marv Penner about resilience and how to foster it in our kids, on this episode of Youth Culture Matters.

To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29 Christian parents are understandably worried about how the world is poisoning their teens. But Chap Clark, author ofHurt 2.0: Inside the World of Today's Teens, says the single greatest gift you can give the young adults under your roof is to intentionally climb into their world each day. And do it without an agenda. It'srevolutionary! Your actions will trump your words. Clark also points out that the family that prays together, plays together, and eats together is the one that stays together.

To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29 Christian parents are understandably worried about how the world is poisoning their teens. But Chap Clark, author ofHurt 2.0: Inside the World of Today's Teens, says the single greatest gift you can give the young adults under your roof is to intentionally climb into their world each day. And do it without an agenda. It'srevolutionary! Your actions will trump your words. Clark also points out that the family that prays together, plays together, and eats together is the one that stays together.

To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29 Our culture says the key to well-adjusted teens is to get them plugged into the right peer group. Chap Clark, author ofHurt 2.0: Inside the World of Today's Teens, disagrees by saying,Two kids in a mud puddle cannot clean each other up. The truth is that young people crave their parents' guidance. Surprisingly though, when the Bible addresses child discipline, 90% of the time the reference is to train your children like a coach. Only 10% of the time does God call parents to correctively punish. Think aboutthat.

To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29 Our culture says the key to well-adjusted teens is to get them plugged into the right peer group. Chap Clark, author ofHurt 2.0: Inside the World of Today's Teens, disagrees by saying,Two kids in a mud puddle cannot clean each other up. The truth is that young people crave their parents' guidance. Surprisingly though, when the Bible addresses child discipline, 90% of the time the reference is to train your children like a coach. Only 10% of the time does God call parents to correctively punish. Think aboutthat.

Great interview today with my friend, pastor and therapist Bobby Jackson. Get your note taking app ready when he breaks down the 5 Stages of Change. Squad Goals: Goal Setting Course https://sunny-knitter-655.ck.page/products/squad-goals-the-7-day-youth-ministry-c Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/youthministryinmotion/ Rally Point Ministries https://www.rallypointmin.com/ Get the free Leadership Toolkit https://www.rallypointmin.com/toolkit Bobby's World Instagram/Linkedin @bobbyactionjackson

How many of you serve with the kids at your church in some way? How many of you at least smile and wave to the kids when you see them on Sunday? What you may not realize is how many of those kids are coming with some type of hurt or struggle, whether physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. How can those of us in the church care for them during this time? Here are three very powerful, but very simple things you can do to care for kids in your life who are hurting--especially as a Sunday school teacher, children's ministries volunteer, or youth leader. Let's encourage one another… Kari   QUOTES + RESOURCES: “Studies show that an hour or two a week with a safe adult in a safe place can make a huge difference in the life of a vulnerable child.” (Julie Cooper, Trauma Free World, TBRI Practitioner) “Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” (Fred Rogers) Parent Cue Live: 6 Gifts Every Kid Needs CONNECT: Shop Encouragement + Sympathy Gifts Facebook Instagram

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With bullying being an issue for so many kids in today’s world, we need to be sure that our churches are building a youth ministry setting that’s safe. As a step towards making this a reality, counselor Julie Lowe offers the following advice. “First, leaders need to ask themselves, am I observing and actively building the dynamics of the group? Do I know who the outsiders are? Am I building cohesion along with a positive and supporting atmosphere. Second, leaders need to realize who is coming to the group and what they struggle with. There could be kids who struggle with cutting, homosexuality, or promiscuity. Some of these kids may be outsiders. They may experience bullying, either in the youth group or at school. Unless there is a safe and supportive atmosphere, none of these struggles will surface. You want struggles to surface so you can minister the gospel. Be sure your church’s youth group is a safe place for anyone to come, and not just safe for those who fit a certain mold.

After divorce. Parental attitudes about custody are harming kids. There's a common-sense solution that two states have enacted, but other states won't do it. It's helping children, so why are lawyers opposing it?

Hurting children don't always know how to tell us they are stressed, scared and anxious. Join us as Counselor and licensed Play Therapist Robi Heath from KidTalk discusses how to develop relationships with our kids that allow for honesty, creativity, learning and kindness as we navigate life's struggles. Check our the blog post at www.noisynarratives.com/blog

This episode is about how children deal with loss. We begin by asserting that children, even the youngest, do experience grief. We share some pertinent insights from an article in Social Work Today. Then we offer 7 practical things that we can do to assist the hurting kids we care so deeply about. As usual, we share from our own stories of loss, and finish with our “something to think about” and “something to do” invitations. -email: feedback@theheartofgrief.com-Website: theheartofgrief.com-paper mail: The Heart of Grief C/O Martin Brother Funeral Chapels 610 4 St S Lethbridge AB Canada T1J 4P3. Ph 403-328-2361-The Grief Recovery Institute -How Children Grieve ... by Kate Jackson, Social Work Today

With LA’s new citywide stay-at-home order, children are not able to socialize on playgrounds or in schools. How is that affecting their mental health? “That social milieu, as we call it, on the playground, it's a very dynamic place for children to be able to express themselves creatively, practice their negotiation skills, practice setting boundaries,” says Tara Niendam, associate professor of psychiatry and licensed child psychologist at UC Davis. She continues, “Young children are not really built to stay in a seat and pay attention for long periods of time. They need to get up and move their bodies, and run and jump, and do all of those things. They're very important parts of cognitive development for young children. … Many homes in California, apartments, condos may not have access to open spaces where kids can safely go out and play. So these children are now inside in a seat for hours on end, sitting in front of a screen. It really isn't the best place for them developmentally.”

Today’s children and teens face a difficult and complex set of issues and problems. The result is that many are walking around buried in deep hurt. In his book Help! My Kids Are Hurting, my friend Marv Penner offers acronym L-O-V-E to help us think through the skills needed to help wounded kids. The letter L stands for listening – the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with hurting kids. We must close our mouths and listen intently as they tell their story. O refers to what we offer students. They’ve opened up with us because they believe we have something they need. We must offer hope and the willingness to go deeper with them. V calls us to validate what’s happening in the lives of hurting kids. We must let them know that their pain and feelings are real and legitimate. E reminds us to eliminate immediate dangers including behaviors and relationships, especially if they are on a path to hurting themselves or others. Our kids desperately need our LOVE.

A young poet by the name of Hannah Dains has gained notoriety thanks to social media serving to popularize her poem entitled “Don’t Kill Yourself Today.” Dains wrote the poem as a way to encourage those struggling with suicidal thoughts. In the poem, she lists all kinds of reasons to choose to continue living. Some teenagers who are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts are now reaching out to others via social media sites including Tik Tok to share phrases from Dains’ poem as a way to tell others they are struggling. At first glance, the phrases seem very innocent. They include things like “I had pasta tonight”, or “I finished my shampoo and conditioner at the same time”, or “my Netflix subscription ran out.” While these obscure references might not make sense to most of us, they do to those familiar with Dains’ poem. This trend reminds us that teen suicide is real, and we must be diligent in listening to our kids, taking their struggles seriously, and getting them the Christ-centered help they need. 

This week we’ve been looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter E calls us to quick action, by taking steps to eliminate immediate dangers. Many hurting kids are involved in behaviors and relationships that require early intervention. Furthermore, we need to empower adolescents as people with the power to choose. As long as they feel like helpless victims, they won’t move forward. But most importantly, we must expect God to do his part to accomplish what only he can do in the lives of kids. God will provide his presence, his comfort, and his healing. L – O – V – E. When it comes to hurting kids, we must listen to them, offer encouragement and support, validate what’s happening in their lives, and eliminate immediate dangers. That’s a good place to begin as we endeavor to lead hurting kids to the hope and healing that comes through Jesus Christ.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter V calls us to validate what’s happening in the lives of hurting teenagers. Many kids in pain have been told that their perspectives are inaccurate, their emotions are illegitimate, and they need to “get over it.” Our relational commitment validates them as people of worth. Our supportive words validate the courage it takes to face their own pain and share their stories. And our patience and gentleness validate the emotions they feel about the circumstances they share with us. The fear, confusion, shame, hurt, isolation, anger, and loss must be processed, not simply stuffed away. All of us know how difficult it is to begin to open up to someone and to be told in one of a variety of ways that what we’re experiencing really doesn’t matter. Let’s avoid doing that with hurting kids.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter O refers to what we offer students who choose to risk sharing their hearts with us. They’ve come to us because they believe we have something they need. It’s important for us to offer hope in what they often consider to be hopeless circumstances. Offers of encouragement, support, wisdom, and advice can all express this hope. Maybe the most important thing we can offer kids is the willingness to go deeper with them. Most adults want to keep things safe and shallow. What are your offering to hurting kids? The Psalmist reminds us in Psalm Forty-two that we are to put our hope in God. If we have placed our hope and trust in the one who has made us and not in the things he has made, hurting kids will see that reality. Hope is the greatest gift we can give to kids in pain.

This week we’re looking at some of Dr. Marv Penner’s strategies and skills for helping hurting kids. Marv has developed a set of skills based on the acronym L.O.V.E. The letter L concerns listening, the most fundamental skill needed by anyone working with wounded kids. Many teenagers are convinced that no one is listening to them. Everyone is either too busy, preoccupied, stressed, or selfish to give kids the undivided attention they need. We must learn to listen beneath the words – at the level of emotions, non-verbal cues, and even silence. Listening must be active and responsive to what’s being said and left unsaid. And of course, it must be non-judgmental. Nothing will shut down a kid’s story more quickly than an adult pointing out where he’s wrong. Listening is a skill we desperately need to develop – not just for the sake of creating an environment conducive to good communication, but for the sake of the spiritual and emotional health of our kids.

This week I want to talk about responding to hurting kids, and some great lessons that I’ve learned from my good friend, Dr. Marv Penner. For years, Marv has been equipping youth workers, counselors, and parents to understand and help kids who are experiencing brokenness in their lives. The fact is that a growing number of adolescents today are hurting deeply – often more deeply than they or many of the adults in their lives are willing to acknowledge. Most have nowhere to turn with their pain. Marv reminds us that helping these kids is as much about who you are, as it is about what you do. The most powerful instrument of ministry you have to offer a kid is your own life, lived transparently and honestly so they can see the difference the Gospel makes for you. It’s all about relationships. When kids trust you, that opens the door to helping them. 

Everyone knows how important it is for kids to have a meaningful relationship with both of their parents — and it's best when they can freely enjoy time in each home. And when one parent tries to distance the kids from the other parent, it can be tragic. The attempt one parent might make to intentionally and systematically distance a child from their other parent has a name — it's called Parental Alienation.We personally know the heartache that comes with Parental Alienation. At one point in our journey, my Ex systematically disrupted my daughter's contact with our family through emotional manipulation…and it was gut wrenching. Awareness and proactivity are key to protecting your family from the pain of parental alienation. That's what we'll be talking about in this episode. Join us as we share our personal story of this difficult battle and we'll give you 6 tips that we've discovered over the years.You'll Discover:What Parental Alienation is — and what it's NOTThe warning signs that you might be at risk of parental alienationOur personal story with Parental Alienation — what we've learned and what we could've done better6 tips to help you evaluate your current situation and proactively protect your kids, your parental rights and your marriageResources from this Episode:Episode 33 — How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsEpisode 41 — Are you unintentionally putting your kids in the middle?Episode 7 — Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids — 5 Steps that HelpEpisode 8 — Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids — A Simple Strategy Against Lies and SlanderBook by Dr. Richard Warshak: Divorce PoisonIf you have adult kids you've been alienated from: Ryan ThomasSubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

You want your kids to experience freedom from stress and concern as they move between their two homes. You want them to be able to love both of their parents — without feeling like there are strings attached.To make sure that's what your kids experience, you're probably very careful about the way you talk about your Ex when the kids are around……but are you sure you're not unintentionally putting them in the middle, even in subtle ways?It can be tough to know when and what to say about an Ex when your kids are around. You can't read their mind or really understand how they're internalizing a conversation - or how they'll respond to your emotional reactions.And most of us make some common unintentional mistakes — even when we have the best of intentions.That's what this episode is all about. We'll help you understand 2 of the most common conversational mistakes we can make that unintentionally puts kids into a bind called a Parental Allegiance.And we'll help you think through how these mistakes might be present in your home.You'll Discover:What it's like for kids who are stuck in a Parental AllegianceWhy a Parental Allegiance bind is harmful to your kids and your relationship with themThe 2 unintentional mistakes parents and step-parents can make that feed into a Parental Allegiance4 Questions you can ask yourself to determine if you're inadvertently creating a parental allegiance for your kids.Resources from this Episode:Episode 29 — What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It?Episode 6 — Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?Episode 7 — Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 8 — Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and SlanderWe referenced this article while discussing Parentification: Your Child is not your Confidant Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

PC magazine recently ran an article with this headline: “This robot wants to help stressed-out teens.” The robot is being developed by engineers at the University of Washington in an effort to address the issue of anxiety and depression among teenagers. It is estimated that seventy percent of teens see anxiety and depression as a major problem among their peers. The robot, is being developed under the name EMAR, which is an acronym for Ecological momentary assessment robot. Researchers found that teens like telling the robot their problems because it cannot judge them or feel burdened by their problems. The robot is even designed to relieve a teenager’s stress through an interactive hug. While we applaud efforts to help teens relieve stress and anxiety, we have to wonder how we are failing kids if we don’t engage them in loving, caring, and burden-bearing human interaction. God has made us for relationships. Perhaps it’s the lack of interactions which are causing stress in the first place. 

Have you ever tried to change a negative emotion? It's not easily done without first understanding where the emotion came from. When we're feeling hurt, frustrated or unheard by someone we love, it's usually because we've got a negative story about them in our head that's developed over time. But is the story really the truth about who they are? And how can we correct the story so that we can move beyond those overwhelming emotions to communicate in a way that leads to deeper understanding and positive outcomes? These are questions our special guest Mark Warren explores with us. Mark specializes in communication coaching. He has a proven reputation for helping people discover and live out their personal life callings. He has worked with high profile organizations, individuals and couples (click here to check out his full bio). Mark is passionate about what he does, and is committed to helping people identify and live out their Core Wiring. We love Mark's training maxim which is this: "Learning changes your thinking, practice changes your life." In this episode, Mark shares some simple things we can all practice that will improve communication and reduce conflict in all our relationships! You'll Discover:How to reduce conflict and communicate more effectivelyWhy the stories in your head threaten your relationshipsHow CORE and CHORE impact your storiesHow to end painful cycles of conflict and miscommunicationThe benefits of becoming your own 'Story Detective' and labeling emotionsHow to maintain a curiosity mindset and move away from judgementHow to help change the negative stories your kids and step-kids might have about youResources from this Episode:Want to connect with Mark? Just click this link: https://markwarrenassociates.com Episode 7: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids — 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 8: Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids — A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

Today we’re finishing up our week-long look at Chap Clark’s five new realities every kids wants you to know. As I listened to Chap talk about reality number five my heart ached for our children and teens. You see, our kids are trying to tell us that they are wounded, bruised, and hurt. Chap reminds us that when you add up all these factors, despair is the only rational choice left for many kids. In today’s world, nearly every child and adolescent has been hurt by the systemic abandonment of adults. It’s for this reason that Chap titled his eye-opening book on kids with this one word: hurt. Parents, youth workers, teachers, coaches, pastors, and anyone else who knows and works with kids – there’s a message here for us: We need to go out of our way to step into their world and lives. And while we’re there, we need to listen hard to their cares and concerns. Then, we need to bring the life-giving light of God’s Word to bear on the realities that exist. Let’s really love our kids!

We all want to have an easy, peaceful co-parenting relationship with our Ex — mostly because we want to protect our kids and ensure they aren't caught up in drama or conflict. We don't want to feel like our kids are the ones suffering the consequences of our disagreements with the Ex.But, when the Ex seems to constantly insist on being difficult no matter the situation, it's exhausting! And if we're really honest with ourselves, their poor behavior starts to tempt us to lash out and retaliate…even though we know that's not the best thing to do.I know how that feels. I spent way too many years dealing with some of the ugliest accusations and being dragged through the family court system for no good reason.It took me a long time to discover effective ways to keep the conflict contained (as much as possible) and keep my sanity in the process. And some of what I discovered is what Mike and I are sharing in this episode.So, if you've been struggling with a particularly difficult Ex, this is the episode for you. We're going to give you some specific strategies and even some scripts you can tweak to fit your unique situation……and we've made it really simple for you to access that right here…just click below to grab your free copy of our "Cheat Sheet" that goes along with this episode:You'll Discover:How to move beyond unrealistic expectations of your ExKey strategies of conflict containmentA healthy mindset to keep you from 'Taking the Bait'How to use appropriate boundaries around harassmentWhat to do when negotiations become manipulative and toxicHow to stay calm and secure when painful emotions get triggeredWhat you can do to protect your kids from harmful conflict Resources from this Episode:Episode 027: How to Set Clear Boundaries and Safeguard RelationshipsWe mentioned this blog article: 'Parental Alienation' - A Heartbreak for Unknowing ParentsEpisode 007: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 008: Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and Slander Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here

Does the Ex seem to be sabotaging your best parenting efforts?We all have priorities for our kids - a vision for the values, character traits and lifestyle choices we want them to embrace as they grow up. But the influence of our Ex and the other home can sometimes send mixed messages and steer the kids in the opposite direction.In this episode, we'll focus on how to cope with the differences between your kid's two homes. We'll share an effective strategy to guide your kids toward the values and character traits that are important to you - and keep them from following in unhealthy footsteps.And better yet…we'll accomplish this without badmouthing or criticizing our Ex or their spouse — and without attempting to control what happens in the other home!If you're ready to take action and counteract the impact of an unhealthy Ex, then this episode is for you!You'll Discover:Two critical mindsets for successThe Inoculation Strategy - what it is and how it worksReal-life examples, tips and dialog scripts that you can use todayHow to make an impact and influence the kids even if you have limited or less visitation time A next step opportunity to get united (in your own home) around the values, character traits and lifestyle choices you want to instill in the kids Resources from this Episode:We mentioned Ron Deal's book The Smart Stepfamily, click the link to check it out.Episode #7: Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That HelpEpisode #20: 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex has Different RulesWant to join our Patreon community and receive exclusive content and free bonuses? Just click here Subscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safe-guarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us! Click here to join our community today

Have you ever felt rejected by your stepchild?I know I have — and it hurts. Especially when you're trying so hard to show them how much you love them. Most stepparents I've met really want to have a connected relationship with their stepchild. But somewhere along the way, they feel like giving up. It's not that they don't still want to build a relationship…it's just that rejection is painful.I've also discovered that the "rejection" is most often not really about me. It's common for that to be the reaction of a stepchild when they're caught in a Loyalty Bind…and that's a typical place for kids to get stuck in blended families.As I started to see that Annika (my step-daughter) was stuck in this bind it changed my view of what was really happening. I got more focused on helping her loosen the "binds" instead of simply protecting myself.If you've ever felt rejected by your step-child — this is the episode for you.You'll Discover:What a Loyalty Bind is and how kids get stuck in themHow to support kids emotionally when they're stuck in a Loyalty BindWays to help step-parents cope when they're feeling hurt from the result of a step-child's Loyalty BindHow bio-parents can avoid inadvertently feeding into a child's Loyalty BindResources from this Episode:Episode 7 — Toxic Ex's & Hurting Kids — 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 25 — How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids — Your Guide to Spring BreakEpisode 26 — Are You Stuck in a "Competition" with Your Step-Kids?Episode 27 — How to Set Clear Boundaries and Safeguard RelationshipsRaising an Emotionally Intelligent Child book by Dr. John GottmanArticle by Ron Deal on FamilyLife Blended: How to Cook a StepfamilySubscribe & Review in Apple PodcastsAre you subscribed to our podcast yet? If not, we want to encourage you to subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsNow if you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you!Want to Support the Show?You can join our mission of safeguarding marriages and supporting step-couples by connecting with our Patreon community. By everyone doing just a little, we can create big opportunities.Consider joining our community for as little as $4 per month and as a "thank you" — you'll have even more access directly to us!

What should our focus be in mentoring? Should we focus on fruitfulness, or faithfulness? Should we focus on giving, or receiving? Jordan Sutton shares on the importance of mentoring from a place of rest in Jesus, and how rhythms of sabbath and silence will lead to a healthier mentoring mindset. Jesus said, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst." John 6:35 ESV Jordan serves as Lead Pastor of Clear Path Dallas.

The Bible records several times where Jesus says that it’s out of the overflow of the heart that mouth speaks. What we say, reveals the condition of our hearts. And just as spoken words offer a window into one’s soul, so do the words and pictures that we post on social media. In today’s social media saturated world, one of the best ways to learn about our kids is to monitor what they are posting online. Many kids engage in a practice known as sadfishing. In case you’ve never heard of it, sadfishing is the act of making exaggerated claims about one’s emotional problems to generate sympathy. In many cases, these posts are an attempt to get attention. In other cases, kids who are struggling deeply are crying out for help. In all cases of sadfishing, we need to follow up what we see online with questions so that we might determine if  the poster is truly hurting and in need of help, or simply looking for affirmation. Monitor your kids in an effort to help them navigate their teen years in healthy, God-honoring ways.

Toxic Exes can impact lots of things…and it could be that nothing is more worrisome than how they impact our kids.The good news is that you can counteract the negative influence of that Toxic Ex with some simple tools. You can guide your kids through their difficult emotions — and you don't have to be a child psychologist to do that well!We'll walk you through the basics of what Dr. John Gottman calls Emotion Coaching in this episode. It's a process that any parent or step-parent can learn.Full episode show notes available here: https://support.mikeandkimcoaching.com/007

My guest, Kristen Caputo, a high school SAC (Student Assistance Counselor) and I chat about the holiday's impact many of our kids in ways we may not take into consideration. Taking their emotions and baggage into consideration as parents, educators, family members, etc. can make a difference at a tough time of year for too many. Special thanks to our sponsor, Fire Mountain Residential Treatment Center. www.firemountainprograms.com

Kids are lonely. Parents are lonely. They need each other. They can help each other.

  Dr. John D Rich, Jr. is an educational psychologist, and associate professor of Psychology at Delaware State University, with expertise in effective parenting and teaching. He joins me to discuss a very sensitive topic. We both share our views on the topic, offer research-based information and some helpful suggestions for you to move using punishments What is punishment? What are some types of punishments? What's the difference between discipline and punishment and why people use these two terms interchangeably. Why spanking is wrong?    SUPPORT THE AUTHENTIC PARENTING PODCAST ON PATREON!!! Has the show been of value to you? Do you find the show helpful? Have you gained from the show? Do you want the show to remain strong and bring more excellent content to you? Consider supporting your favorite podcast on Patreon. A small token of appreciation goes a long way.   Become a Patron of the Authentic Parenting by clicking here. Select your level and get awesome rewards!!!   FULL SHOW NOTES; pictures, links, resources, about my guest and anything mentioned in the show, visit my website: www.authenticparenting.com   YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general?   USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: info@authenticparenting.com   ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline.   WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only)   WAYS TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE AUTHENTIC PARENTING PODCAST: Click here subscribe on Apple Podcasts Click here to subscribe on Stitcher Click here to subscribe on Spotify   RATE & WRITE REVIEW FOR THE SHOW Watch this quick video tutorial on YouTube to how rate and write a review for the podcast on Apple Podcasts.   SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: info@authenticparenting.com   CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram   NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Schedule 30 min. FREE session by phone Get the HOW TO STOP YELLING class now   Thanks for listening!   With gratitude, Anna Seewald, ME.d, MPsy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com      

We all know life gets messy, and as we minister to families these hurts appear in our ministries. In this episode, Heidi Hensley, Director of Children’s Ministry at Shadow Mountain […]

Rob & Scott continue their talk about how we can help hurting kids with special guest, Mark Schaufler.

Rob & Scott invite Mark Schaufler into the studio to talk about how we can help hurting kids.

After Mom Loses 3 of Her 4 Kids... She's Saving Lives Cari Zorno lost 3 of her 4 children in a horrific season of loss... But, this mother shares life-saving lessons in her new book Tattooed By Grief She offers a faith-based approach to helping hurting youth struggling with loss PLUS more lessons moms won't want to miss... LIKE helping parents walk through grief with their kids -- in a healthy way. Catch it all on THIS ChannelMom Podcast. OR Listen to ChannelMom Radio Fridays @ 1PM - Saturdays @ 7AM and @ 2:30PM On Denver's 94.7 KRKS FM OR Stream at LISTEN LIVE link above.       Save Save

Walt and Jason begin the podcast with a discussion about gun violence in movies, body image and photo-editing, Russell Wilson ans Ciara, sports specialization, Millennials in the workplace, and heavy alcohol use and brain development. Research reveals the alarming fact that far too many of our boys and girls are being victimized by sexual abuse. It’s our belief that loosened sexual standards and the growing pervasiveness of pornography will only lead to a rise in sexual absue. And, whether you know it or not, the abusers and the abused are living in our midst. Sexual abuse is not benign. It is traumatizing. Consequently, it requires intervention, deep care, and healing. The journey to hope and healing is difficult and long, but it is a journey that can lead to redemption. We’ll be talking to world-class diver Denise Gater about her own story of abuse and redemption on this episode.

Walt and Jason discuss news related to selfies, YouTube celebrities, sexuality, reading, stories, weak handshakes and more. Then Dr. Marv Penner joins the podcast to talk about self-injury, self-mutilation, cutting, and what parents and youth workers can do to understand this behavior and move kids into healing. He takes a look at how the understanding of self-harm has changed over the last few decades and shares the insights he has gained over the years of counseling students who practice various forms of self-injury.

Walt and Jason discuss the latest news in youth culture, such as Tommy John surgeries among young athletes, today's freshman class and protesting, rat studies and the teenage brain, raising the smoking age and more. Then Rich Van Pelt joins the podcast to talk about the what to do when crisis hits and how to help teens in crisis. Walt and Rich briefly look back at the Columbine massacre and Rich shares lessons that were gleaned from that tragic event.

David and Sissy share more helpful tips to care for the kids in your life that are dealing with big feelings after the Nashville school shooting. This content originated on the Raising Boys and Girls IG (@raisingboysandgirls) on Tuesday, March 28. We continue to pray that your conversations lead to hope and peace.A Few Ideas on Helping Kids who are Hurting:Kids emotions are transient. Follow their lead.Have conversations in doses. Kids need to come up for air more than we do. Watch for: emotions bigger than the situation warrants, more clinging, tearfulness, regression, trouble sleeping. Maintain routines. Kids thrive in structure. Keep giving them space to feel. Process your feelings elsewhere.Move with them toward empathy and purpose. . . . . .The Jesus Storybook BibleSally Lloyd-Jones