After the First Marriage Podcast

Have you heard of SMART recovery? What distinguishes SMART recovery from the usual 12-step program? How does SMART recovery prioritize recovery for the individual and the loved ones? In this podcast episode, Christi Alicea and I discuss recovery and managing addiction. She introduces SMART, a group of people and families working together to resolve addictive problems, and explains why their treatment is so effective.  In this podcast we cover: Components of SMART recovery Four points of SMART recovery Distinguishing aspects of SMART recovery   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What are the different approaches people take to sex with a new partner after a divorce? Why is it necessary for you to externalize the feelings from your previous relationship? How can talk therapy help you find closure and truly step into your life after a divorce? In this podcast episode, I speak about the body's responses to sex after a relationship, and how to move on, with sex therapist, Dr. Stephanie Buehler. In this podcast we cover: Sex after separation for men Sex after separation for women Moving on   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What are the surprising upsides to feelings of shame? How can you respond to shame healthily and constructively? Why should you always try to sit and listen to your emotions? In this podcast episode, I speak about Navigating Emotions After Divorce with Dr. Mary Lamia. In this podcast we cover: The upside of shame Four basic responses to shame Navigating shame in dating after divorce Listen to your emotions   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How do you navigate relationships with narcissistic people? Can narcissism be treated? What should you do in a divorce if your ex is a narcissist? In this podcast episode, Dr. Susan Orenstein speaks about Understanding Narcissism with Researcher Dr. W. Keith Campbell. In this podcast we cover: What is narcissism Relationships with narcissistic people “My crazy ex” Navigating your narcissist ex   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Where does boredom come from? What can you do when you start to feel bored in your relationship? What can boredom teach you about yourself? In this podcast episode, I speak with James Danckert, Boredom Researcher, about the two causes of boredom and how we can use it to better understand ourselves, and our relationships. In this podcast we cover: What triggers a sense of boredom Boredom in relationships How can you benefit from boredom?   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How do lies show up in interactions between people? Have there been times when you may have been lying to yourself about your partner's behavior? Why should you maintain trust in yourself when you are in relationships? In this podcast episode, I discuss how we can learn to tell whether someone is being honest or lying with Irvine Nugent. In this podcast we cover: Data on people and lies Look at the hard evidence Building trust in yourself Communication in new relationships Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What is the difference between being mindful and practicing mindful action? Why is self-compassion an essential part of healing during and after a divorce? What is the connection between practicing self-compassion and being curious? In this podcast episode, I speak about growing after divorce with Leadership Coach, Rob Kramer. In this podcast we cover: Mindfulness tools Self-care and self-compassion Being curious Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can you reignite your sex life after divorce? Can the transition phase after divorce lead to personal and positive sexual awareness? What are the benefits of building a strong communicative base with your partner concerning matters of the bedroom? In this podcast episode, I speak with Vanessa Marin, a licensed psychotherapist, coach, and writer who helps people stop feeling embarrassed and start having more fun in the bedroom, about enjoying sex after divorce. In this podcast we cover: Building sexual confidence after divorce Reclaiming your sexuality as your own Sexuality can exist in many forms Misconceptions to be mindful of   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you struggling to lay down the groundwork for co-parenting with your ex? Is your ex asking for an attorney and refusing a mediator? What are some benefits of working with a mediator that you cannot find in courtrooms? In this podcast episode, I speak with co-parenting coach, Karen Bonnell who offers solutions when co-parenting with your ex is an ongoing struggle. In this podcast we cover: Co-planning with an uncooperative ex Facilitator privacy Benefits of working with a co-parenting coach   Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can gossip be a good thing in a marriage? What are some of the powerful benefits as well as dangers of gossiping in relationships? Where does the interest in gossiping come from? In this podcast episode, I speak with Frank McAndrew about the upside of gossip. In this podcast we cover: What is gossip? Gossip in evolution Gossip in marriage How is gossip a social skill? Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Is your current partner or a previous partner that you still have to work with a narcissist? What really is a narcissist? Is it possible for a narcissist to change? In this podcast episode, I speak with Wendy Behary about what to do when your ex is a narcissist. In this podcast we cover: What does narcissism really mean? Do you currently have a narcissistic partner or had a previous partner who was a narcissist? What to do if a stepparent is a narcissist Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How do you work towards the best interests of the children in a co-parenting agreement? What can you do with your ex to make sure you have a stable yet flexible co-parenting agreement? What happens to the agreement when the family expands to allow for new in-laws? In this podcast episode, I speak about co-parenting with Dr. Katrina Kuzyszyn-Jones. In this podcast we cover: Things for divorcing parents to consider To have a parent-coordinator or not? Involving the kids in co-parenting decisions Co-parenting situations in expanded families post-divorce Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can you release the stress of feeling like you need to always be perfect? How does perfectionism hold you back more? Can your values guide you out of the people-pleasing maze? In this podcast episode, I speak with Kathryn Ely about imperfectly navigating divorce. In this podcast we cover: Focus on what you value 3 Types of perfectionism to be wary of Releasing perfectionism allows you to be in the present Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can a football metaphor give you usable relationship advice? Are you hindering or aiding your relationship by working with assumptions? How can you utilize shortcuts in your relationship effectively? In this podcast episode, I speak about the pros and cons of talking shortcuts. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Have you heard of the prisoner's dilemma? Is there a way to go through a separation so that it can end as a win-win for both partners? How can you make sure that you both get your needs met? In part 4 of this 4 part series focusing on communicating with your ex, I talk about cooperation, getting needs met, and reaching agreements. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com/course/ SHOW NOTES: https://afterthefirstmarriage.com/episode25 Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What advice can Mister Rogers give us about relationships and communication? Can you discuss a topic with your ex while drawing strength from your core values? Why is it important to see the humanity in your ex and know that you're sharing the same goals? In part 3 of this 4 part series focusing on communicating with your ex, I talk about speaking. In this podcast we cover: Maxum of quantity Maxum of quality Maxum of relation Maxum of manner Deep and simple Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com/course/ SHOW NOTES: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com/episode24 Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you a good listener? Do you often get interrupted, or perhaps do you find yourself interrupting your ex? How can you polish up your listening skills to improve the communication between yourself and your ex? In part 2 of this 4 part series focusing on communicating with your ex, I speak about how to be a good listener. In this podcast we cover: Tips for being a good listener Why some people have trouble listening How you can signal to your partner that you're listening Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Do you need to communicate with your ex? How can you discuss a topic with your ex without becoming riled up or frustrated? What can you do to keep calm and on track with the conversation? In part 1 of this 4 part series focusing on communicating with your ex, I speak about conditions for an amicable divorce. In this podcast we cover: Conditions for an amicable divorce discussion Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can you parent your daughter through a difficult divorce with your previous partner? What are some things to keep in mind as a single mother? How does encouraging your daughter to be her own person actually bring you closer together? In this podcast episode, I speak with mother-daughter expert, Dr. Michelle Deering. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How can you utilize the principles of improv to improve your life? What can you do to hack your mind and reexamine a situation in a better light? Are you able to shift your mindset from improv principles? In this podcast episode, I speak with Patricia Ryan Madson about improv and the principles you can start using it to improve your life. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What can you do to have better sex in your relationship, present, and future? Do you feel like you are making the same sexual mistakes from one relationship to the next? How can you create a healthier sex life for you and your partner in your relationship? In this podcast episode, I speak with sex therapist, Dr. Joe Kort about how to have better sex. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Have you heard about integrative medicine? What role does biology have in mental health? Can medicine provide a framework for you to get your life in order, instead of only treating uncomfortable symptoms? In this podcast episode, I speak with Cara Hoepner about integrative medicine. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Have you heard of collaborative divorce? How can the collaborative divorce system be more beneficial to a family in the long run when it comes to conflict resolution? Why should you consider collaborative divorce rather than go the usual route? In this podcast episode, I speak with Family Law Attorney, Randy Pitler about collaborative divorce. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What do you do after a separation to reconnect with your intuition? What are the crucial lessons that some people learn throughout their experience with divorce? What are some red flags to look out for in a new relationship? In this podcast episode, I speak about healing from divorce with Katie Sroka. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you a Beta or an Alpha? Are you not quite sure what these terms mean? How can you be the best Beta or Alpha within your family? In this podcast episode, I speak with Billy Eldridge about the Beta Male Revolution. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you going into a new relationship and unsure of how to proceed? What aspects should you be aware of when you are heading into the romantic scene after a separation? What are some tips you can carry with you to help you stay headstrong in a new relationship? In this episode, I speak about what we can learn about falling in love and I share some tips for romance while avoiding trouble Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you needing advice on how to cope with anxiety after a separation? How does one go about rebuilding self-esteem after a divorce? What can you do to work towards the future while dealing with the past? In this podcast episode, I speak about managing anxiety during a divorce with Dr. Jenna Godfrey. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

How do you deal with anxiety after divorce? How can you change your mindset to engage better with yourself and your reactions to your emotions? Why is good self-talk important? In this podcast episode, I speak about coping with the anxiety of divorce with Gennifer Morley. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you wanting to dive back into the world of dating but unsure of how to go about it? How does one begin to date and flirt again after a separation? What tools are there that can help you begin this transition? In this episode, I speak about dating confidence with Confidence Coach, Kimmy Seltzer.  Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Do you need some legal advice? Are you considering hiring a mediator? What roles and services do they perform that could assist you? In this episode, I speak about the value of mediation with Mediator and Playwright, Hank Kimmel. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you going through or thinking about going through a separation and need some advice from experts? Are there different ways of moving through the divorce process? How do the decisions you make now affect your long-term life post-separation? In this episode, I speak about the inside scoop on divorce with New Direction Family Law attorneys, Sarah Hink and Elizabeth Stephenson. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What are some avoidable mistakes people make when thinking about divorce? What is the difference between a separation agreement and a court document? In what instance would you want to consider a prenup? In this episode, I speak with Jen Bordeaux all about her personal divorce journey and the important work she does professionally regarding family law. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What steps can you take to restructure your life after a divorce? How does one start the process of decluttering this old life to usher in a new one? When is the best time to make the shift and start the transformation from despair to a rebirth? In this episode, I speak with Geralin Thomas about how to move from clutter to clarity within your life in the aftermath of a divorce. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

What does dating look like after the first marriage? How can you make sure you go in with your eyes wide open and set yourself up for healthy relationships? What are some of the danger signs you need to look out for when venturing back into the dating world?  In this podcast episode, I talk about how to date someone. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

When is it safe to go back into the real world? When is it safe to go back to dating? How long should you date before you get married again? In this podcast episode, I talk about three things to consider before dating again. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Can you find hope after your first marriage has ended? How can you have hope? Why is it important to have hope when going through a difficult time? In this podcast episode, I talk about hope and optimism after the first marriage. I also share my thoughts on the roadmap for hope. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Are you finding yourself preoccupied with your ex in a way that it’s hijacking your brain and getting in the way of the life you want to live now? What are some red flags you need to look out for? Are you going to let go or be dragged?  In this podcast episode, I talk about how to identify whether you’re obsessed with your ex and what you can do about it. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Why is it important to have rules of engagement in place? What boundaries should you set around calls and texts? Have you discussed what happens when you have to attend the same events? In this podcast episode, I talk about how to relate to your ex in a way that is going to create a sense of calm, ease, and comfort in your life. Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Welcome to the first episode of the After the First Marriage Podcast! If you're going or been through a divorce and are wondering what this show is about, then this episode is for you.  On this podcast, we are going to sort through all the things that went wrong in your first marriage and go through your current struggles, in order to help you have a transformation. Divorce does not define you, but it does present a defining moment in your life.  Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com