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Patreon/Supercast Special Release - Disarming the Narcissist: Myths, Truths, & Strategies for Healing with Wendy Behary (264) This is a sneak peek of our episode with Wendy Behary - available only on our Premium Supercast and Patreon platforms. For as little as $5/month you can have access to special releases like this one, first-to-know about upcoming events and discounts and an ad-free feed. Click here to join & finish the episode!! Dr. Ann Kelley and narcissism expert, Wendy Behary, explore the complexities of narcissistic behavior, its development, and the challenges faced by those experiencing relationships with narcissists. Follow along as they dive into the myths, the spectrum of narcissistic traits, and the importance of understanding the underlying insecurities that drive behavior. Behary touches on the cultural implications and how it manifests in society today, as well as practical strategies for individuals to navigate relationships, highlighting the significance of maintaining one's own mental health and well-being. “Narcissism occurs along a spectrum within the human condition. Embodied in human nature itself is a tendency for narcissistic expression... and that isn't all bad.” - Wendy Behary About our Guest - Wendy Behary With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 25 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck's Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated in 16 languages. The Third Edition was recently released and was selected by Oprah Daily as one of the top books on the subject of Narcissism. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and subject matter expert on narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. Find Upcoming Events here!! Our Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW! Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping who you are and how you connect with others. Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A's Integrative Attachment Therapy Course Information Therapists: THIS is our recommended course experience for the most comprehensive training on attachment out there. Use our link for a discount! Thanks for stopping by & for being on this journey with us! 

Subscribe in a reader Join me for an in-depth conversation with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist, as we explore the profound impact of narcissism on relationships and mental health. Together, we discuss the complex layers of narcissism and its connections to various forms of abuse, including sexual addiction and coercive control. Whether you're […] The post Understanding the Impact of Narcissism: Abuse, Estrangement, and Control | Wendy Behary appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

Understanding narcissism isn't about excusing it. It's about equipping yourself to break free and protect your mental health, especially during times of heightened emotions like the holidays.     In this episode, Dr. Z is joined by Wendy Behary, expert in cognitive and schema therapy and author of “Disarming the Narcissist.” Together, they unpack the complexities involved in managing the dynamics with a narcissist. Wendy defines the role of empathy, not as sympathy or agreement, but as a tool for understanding narcissistic behavior, discerning your place within the dynamic, and strengthening your internal boundaries.   Wendy shares strategies for navigating interactions with narcissists, including maintaining neutral, confident communication and recognizing personal triggers. She also introduces the concept of schemas—deep-rooted emotional beliefs formed in childhood—and explains how identifying these patterns can help mitigate vulnerabilities within a narcissistic relationship.     Join Wendy and Dr. Z as they share actionable strategies to help you protect your peace this holiday season, nurture your well-being, recognize your progress, and stay grounded in challenging moments.   Quotes “The problem with empathy is the word itself—empathy. Too many people hear ‘empathy' and think ‘sympathy.' You hear ‘empathy' and think ‘compassion.' It's neither. Empathy, in really simple language, is ‘understanding.' So, it's not about having empathy for the narcissist; it's about having empathy about narcissism—and your particular brand of narcissist that you may be dealing with.” (12:28 | Wendy Behary) “Empathy is not agreement. Empathy is not endorsement. Empathy is not support. Empathy can lead to compassion for someone in your life—not necessarily the narcissist, though it can for therapists. It certainly can when we develop a better understanding of what's happening deep at the core for those narcissists who are actually willing to work on themselves. Some want to work on themselves, or at least have succumbed to the idea that they really need to. I think differentiating empathy—or just calling it a deep, skin-felt understanding of how something works and why it is the way it is—becomes part of your freedom ticket.” (14:44 | Wendy Behary) “Empathy means to know, to understand, to get, to sense. Know yourself. Where am I the most at risk? When does that level of intensity strike me, where I go into some defensive position when I have nothing to defend, when I start apologizing?” (19:11 | Wendy Behary)   Links Connect with Wendy Behary, LCSW: http://www.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-behary0 https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/ https://www.facebook.com/wtbehary linkedin.com/in/wendy-behary-269a8a16 Instagram: @donsanddivas https://www.instagram.com/donsanddivas/ Connect with Dr. Z: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ https://www.zgrouptherapy.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.z_psychologist/ https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.z_psychologist https://www.youtube.com/@DrJaimeZuckerman   Get my Holiday Help Handbook: https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/store/p/dr-zs-holiday-help-workshop-l3ss7 Shop my new Mindfully Messy hoodie here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/apparel Get my FREE breathing exercise here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/newsletter Register for my virtual workshops here: http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/workshops Order my workbooks! http://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/books Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm

Wendy Behary, LCSW, author of Disarming the Narcissist, joins us to discuss how to deal with narcissists. Behary is founder and clinical director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and codirector of The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She is also a founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy.  Visit our website at www.newharbinger.com and use coupon code 'Podcast25' to receive 25% off your entire order.  Buy the Book:  New Harbinger - https://bit.ly/3MVB0YK  Amazon - https://a.co/d/abFwCUX  Barnes & Noble - https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/1023566914   Bookshop.org - https://bit.ly/4eABGhZ    If you have ideas for future episodes, thoughts, or questions, we'd love to hear from you! Send us an email at podcast@newharbinger.com 

in this episode Wendy Behary, Rob Brockman and Chris Hayes provide a schema therapy Q&A session (this is part of our online training The Schema Therapy Solution: www.schematherapysolution.com)

Get the Couples Therapy 101 course: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/ Join the Couples Therapist Inner Circle: https://www.couplestherapistcouch.com/inner-circle-new In this episode, Shane talks with Wendy Behary about narcissism in couples therapy. Wendy is the Bestselling Author of “Disarming the Narcissist” and the Founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. Hear how she became interested in the study of narcissism, how to approach narcissism as a therapist, how to use Schema Therapy, whether it's okay to interrupt your clients, and how to avoid getting triggered. To learn more about Wendy and check out her book, visit: DisarmingTheNarcissist.com  

This episode, titled "The Great Taboo: The role of literature and myth in understanding complex trauma," features the second part of a conversation with NPD expert, author, and clinician Wendy Behary. One of today's most influential figures in the Schema Therapy world, she specializes in the treatment of covert narcissism. This segment unexpectedly evolved into a discussion of psychodynamic esoterica often eschewed or outright rejected by the trauma therapy world. A dangerous episode, certain to be loved or hated! Highlights include: -The host's conceptualization of certain resentful fight parts as resembling the Faust archetype, and Ms. Behary's comparison of this to the "super-suffering" covert NPD presentation -The function of this phenomenon in covert NPD as an avoidance of accepting personal responsibility for flaws, given a childhood in which this was unacceptable -The perpetrator as as an abused child's only model for power, seen through the lens of Goethe's interpretation of Mephistopheles -Janet's concept of the "substitute action" in thwarted defense systems as it may apply to a Schema understanding of simultaneous loyalty to and hatred of an abusive caregiver. -"Ego-states" as possibly analogous to "Schema Modes" -Differentiation of the cases of traumatized clients with an NPD presentation, and traumatized clients with "NPD" dissociative parts; possible treatment in microcosm -Practical advice for therapists dealing with NPD clients who are both tragic victims, and victimizers: countertransference, boundaries, confrontation as compassion, and self-care And finally, -A brief argument by the host for the validity of studying and treating complex trauma through the lens of archetypes common to world literature and mythology In future (as in past) episodes, guests will offer counterpoints to Ms. Behary's views, and this video is a dialogue, rather than an endorsement of her perspectives. Likewise, The Dissociative Table does not endorse the views of its hosts, nor do any professional organizations to which the host or guest might belong. Ms. Behary is the Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and the Schema Therapy Institutes of New York City, DC, and New Jersey. She is a founding Fellow and consulting supervisor for the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She served as President of the Executive Board of the International Society for Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014, and now sits on the ISST's Training and Advisory Board. She is the author of or contributor to 14 publications, and her book "Disarming the Narcissist" has been translated into 16 languages. The music in this episode is taken from the song "Kirimu," from Cracked Machine's album Call of the Void. The band has generously donated rights to their music in support of increased global access to effective trauma treatment. https://crackedmachine.bandcamp.com/

This week Ash dives into how to identify and disarm narcissists in your life. Whether it is a romantic partner, coworker, or family member, This week's guest, Wendy Behary, is here to help you understand narcissistic people and learn how to navigate this population with success.  Wendy Behay is the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC and the author of the book Disarming the Narcissist. Wendy and Ash talk through the traits of a narcissist, how to identify patterns of gaslighting, the root of narcissistic behavior, and so much more. This episode is here for anyone who is struggling to navigate someone with signs of narcissism or if you want to be prepared for the moment you encounter someone with narcissistic tendencies. Don't miss this episode! In This Episode, You'll Learn: The traits of someone with narcissism and the various spectrum of narcissism. How to identify gaslighting in any relationship. Trauma bonding: what it is, how it impacts your body, and what type of relationship is rooted in a trauma bond.  Covert narcissism versus overt narcissism. Connect with Wendy Behary Get her book: Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary Connect with Ash: https://www.instagram.com/ashleystahl/ Take a FREE Quiz to Discover Your Most Authentic Career Path: https://www.ashleystahl.com/freequiz/ LMNT  Ready to get Hydrated? Visit drinklmnt.com/ashleystahl to get a FREE sample pack with every LMNT purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode, titled "Covert Narcissism as a Development of the 'Child's Unheard Story' in Complex Trauma," features the first part of an interdisciplinary dialogue with NPD expert, author, and clinician Wendy Behary. One of today's most influential figures in the Schema Therapy world, she specializes in the treatment of covert narcissism. In this episode, the following topics are prominent: -"Covert narcissism" as an under-diagnosed presentation of complex trauma -NPD as the result of a more functional coping with disorganized attachment than BPD, as the result of temperament -Neglect as the source of "odd" symptoms separating personality disorders from more traditional trauma presentations -Comorbidity of NPD with dissociative disorders -ACE's and "covert narcissism' -Intersections between the languages of Schema Therapy, EMDR, Structural Dissociation theory, and Ego-State Therapy -Complex trauma as the result of disrupted narrative In future episodes, guests will offer counterpoints to Ms. Behary's views, and this video is a dialogue, rather than an endorsement of her perspectives. Likewise, The Dissociative Table does not endorse the views of its hosts, nor do any professional organizations to which they might belong. Ms. Behary is the Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and the Schema Therapy Institutes of New York City, DC, and New Jersey. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She served as President of the Executive Board of the International Society for Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014, and now sits on the ISST's Training and Advisory Board. She is the author of or contributor to 14 publications, and her book "Disarming the Narcissist" has been translated into 16 languages. All music in this episode is taken from the song "New Vostok," from the album I, Cosmonaut, by the band Cracked Machine. The band has generously donated rights to their music in support of increased global access to effective trauma therapy.

With 30 years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck's Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST.Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated in 15 languages. The Third Edition was recently released. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and subject matter expert on narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is joined by Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist, to discuss why the "inner critic," the voice in our minds that condemns, criticizes, or demeans us—whether justified or not, is formed out of painful early life experiences causing attachment trauma.By "Healing the Inner Trauma Child," a powerful psychotherapy technique to uncover unconscious, dissociated childhood trauma, one can "re-write the script," which previously consisted of negative, pessimistic thoughts caused by our childhood trauma, and replace it with positive, optimistic thoughts, and most importantly, self-love.► Visit Self-Love Recovery Institute:https://www.selfloverecovery.com► Listen to the podcast on all major platforms:https://selfloverecovery.com/pages/podcast► Ross Rosenberg's Links:YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/RossRosenbergFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheCodependencyCureInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rossrosenberg_slriTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/RossRosenberg1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rossrosenberg► Wendy T. Behary's BiographyWith 30 years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated in 15 languages.Learn more about Wendy by visiting her website:https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/► Ross Rosenberg's BiographyRoss Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 23 million views and 250,000 subscribers, and his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome, which has sold over 155,000 copies in 12 languages.In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.Support the show

Wendy Behary, LCSW, author of Disarming the Narcissist, joins the podcast today to discuss her experience in counseling couples where one partner is a narcissist.  *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some of the information discussed on the podcast can be sensitive in nature, therefore listener discretion is advised. *This page contains affiliate links. If you choose to purchase after clicking a link, Dr. Jones may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.* The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.  Connect with Dr. Wendy Behary, LCSW: Wendy Behary's website Get Wendy Behary's book here: Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@drnataliejones.com Sign up for the free ebook on Red  Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse at www.drnataliejones.com Individual and group membership coaching sessions opening soon. Get on the mailing list to be the first to know here. Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation going via social media: Instagram: A Date With Darkness Twitter: @Adatewdarkness Facebook: A Date With Darkness To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group

FROM THE VAULT:  Enjoy this insightful re-released episode from Season 4:Narcissistic partners, bosses or family members can be highly critical, cruel and impossible to live with. The same can be true for us when we become our own toughest critics. That's why Anne and Arielle reached out to Dr. Wendy Behary, author of the best-selling book, Disarming the Narcissist and a globally-respected psychotherapist. Wendy sees some through-lines between people who are critical of us and those of us who are cruel and critical of ourselves. Fortunately, she's got some great insights about how to deal with both types. Our conversation with her left us with hope that we can squelch our own inner critics and find the strength to protect ourselves from the narcissists in our lives as well.

Empathic Confrontation expert Wendy Behary discusses the art form of empathic confrontation within schema therapy. We discuss its application in coping modes, critic modes, motivation and “other gnarly challenges!”

Mindful Matters Podcast host, Elaine Clark, speaks with Wendy Behary, author of an international bestselling book, “Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving And Thriving With The Self-absorbed”, a step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life. Wendy speaks to us about how to effectively navigate narcissism. Episode Highlights:- Insights from her book "Disarming the Narcissist" - What is narcissism? - Overt narcissist vs Covert Narcissist - The importance of empathic confrontation - What it's like to be in a relationship with a narcissist- Signs and traits to look out for - Most common paths that lead to narcissism - Establishing healthy boundaries- Ending the cycle of self-blame, self-shame & self-sacrificing choices- How to disarm the narcissist - Why professional help is often needed for the narcissist to change - What is Schema Therapy? - The dysfunctional fit of codependents & narcissists For more information about Wendy Beharyhttps://disarmingthenarcissist.com/Social Media:Instagram: @donsanddivasFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/wbeharyTwitter: https://twitter.com/donsanddivasLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-behary-269a8a16/Contact Usinfo@blumatterproject.comhttps://blumatterproject.com/ 

When I learned about this, so much changed for me! This will change how you relate to yourself and others when you observe an overreaction. What can be revealed to you about the love and healing that awaits you is incredible.Check out my interview with Wendy Behary here.And please consider rating and reviewing the podcast on Apple Podcasts if you enjoy this episode! This helps to get the message out to more people just like you. And be sure to click the "Follow" button to get notified of updates.Also, I'm hosting a free workshop that'll show you how to further coach yourself through any of life's challenges. Check it out here.

When I learned about this, so much changed for me! This will change how you relate to yourself and others when you observe an overreaction. What can be revealed to you about the love and healing that awaits you is incredible. Check out my interview with Wendy Behary here. And please consider rating and reviewing the podcast on Apple Podcasts if you enjoy this episode! This helps to get the message out to more people just like you. And be sure to click the "Follow" button to get notified of updates. Also, I'm hosting a free workshop that'll show you how to further coach yourself through any of life's challenges. Check it out here.

Wendy Behary, founder and director of The Schema Institutes of NJ/NYC/DC and author of the best-selling “Disarming the Narcissist” (available in 14 languages), joins Dr. Laura once more to dig deeper into how narcissists show up at work and in home life. She explains the emotional impact of the narcissistic individual on those around them.Wendy Behary details the way in which overt and covert narcissists work to exert control over people and also how intimidating, overwhelming, and anxiety-producing they can become. She and Dr. Laura explore how gaslighting, or distorting reality, is used by the narcissist to instill doubt in others. Wendy has keen insight into how to cope with narcissists in your workplace or home, how to regain a sense of self, and also when and how to confront them in order to find your voice. Wendy encourages learning how to regain calm within yourself, not just for dealing with narcissists but so you can pursue personal wellness.“The narcissist is attracted to self-sacrificers. And so often the empath and the self sacrificer are one and the same. So when we think about someone who is highly self sacrificing, typically what motivates that is two things: guilt and empathy. So if you've got a super amount of empathy and you also carry guilt, which may have been laid down through modeling in your own early life, then chances are you're willing to sacrifice your own needs, even your own identity, in order to please another. Narcissist: yay, happy day, right?” - Wendy BeharyAbout Wendy Behary:With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for  more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of  New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck's Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the  author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated into 15 languages. The Third  Edition was released on October 1, 2021. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with  and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of  several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and  internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships,  anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.  Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. Resources:Disarming the Narcissist“Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” by Wendy BeharyWendy Behary on LinkedInWendy Behary on TwitterThe Schema Therapy Training Institute Learn more about Dr. Laura on her website: https://drlaura.live For more resources, look into Dr. Laura's organizations: Work EvOHlutionSynthesis PsychologyCalgary Career CounsellingCanada Career CounsellingDr. Laura is a partner of Humance | Culture and Performance.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for womenVisit our website THE GOOD MOOD CLINICInstagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249Check out what's new on our LEARNING HUBSchema Chemistry Recorded WebinarFor confidential information, counseling, and support service, go to  https://1800respect.org.au.Ask us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auHealing the Vulnerable Child WebinarWendy Behary's website: www.disarmingthenarcissist.com Recommended books:Disarming the Narcissist  by Wendy BeharyWe are delighted to have Wendy Behary joining us on the podcast today! Wendy is an expert on narcissism. She is very well-known in the world of schema therapy for the work she has done on narcissism.Wendy is the Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of New Jersey, New York City, and DC. She is also the author of the bestselling book, Disarming the Narcissist, which is now in its third edition. Narcissists are impaired people. In this episode, Wendy talks about narcissism and the effects of growing up with a narcissist. She offers advice and some helpful tools for coping with difficult yet unavoidable encounters with the narcissistic individuals in your life and setting limits with them while taking care of yourself too. She also explains what is truly going on with narcissists emotionally. We know that many of our listeners are interested in the topic of narcissism, so we hope that you will get a lot out of our conversation with Wendy Behary! Stay tuned to gain insight into narcissism and find out how to navigate your relationship with the narcissist in your life.Show highlights:Narcissism is on a continuum, so there are people with narcissistic traits who may not have a full-blown personality disorder.If you grew up with someone narcissistic, your identity was probably held hostage for a long time. You will also have carried the burdens that typically come with having a narcissistic parent or adult caretaker living vicariously through you, putting unrealistic expectations upon you, or ignoring you because they are so self-centered.Why is it a good thing when you become highly sensitized to narcissism after learning about it?Notice the patterns in yourself where you go silent, give in, lose your voice, subjugate yourself, and sacrifice your own needs.Wendy explains what an activating condition is and how that triggers narcissistic people.Who is a narcissist, and what do you need to look out for in the early days of dating someone?If you want to be an advocate for yourself, be sure of your intention when talking to someone you are dating, and make sure that what you say is having the impact you want.What should you do if you're dating someone you like but start noticing red flags?How to use "the narrator voice" as a tool when someone is l

Dr. Laura welcomes Wendy Behary, founder and director of The Schema Institutes of NJ/NYC/DC and author of the best-selling book “Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed”, to the podcast. Wendy brings over twenty-five years of professional experience, and a specialty in treating both narcissists and those who deal with them, to this important conversation.Wendy Behary defines narcissism and explains the traits that define both more typical “overt narcissists” and the “covert narcissists” she refers to as ‘virtuous victims'. Narcissistic individuals all carry the same sense of very self-absorbed energy. Dr. Laura and Wendy explore why narcissists do tend to gravitate to professional work and leadership positions, and Wendy shares the pros of their leadership as well as the devastating cons. Wendy has vast experience, through her extensive work as a therapist, on how to deal with a narcissist and why certain approaches work and others don't. She wrote her book to help the people living and working with narcissists identify opportunities to get them help, while liberating themselves from self-blame. “I think one of the toughest situations is when you're working with or for someone like this, especially if it's your boss or supervisor, because you may just not have the luxury of just leaving. Or the ease of transitioning into a whole new job. If you can, it may be the best way. But for most people that isn't the case. And so I guide them, as you probably do too, Laura, with strategies like: set limits as much as you can, try to limit your exposure, keep yourself tucked away from the narcissist as much as you can. Don't be trying to win them over. It's really a lost cause.” - Wendy BeharyAbout Wendy Behary:With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for  more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of  New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck's Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the  author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...” translated into 15 languages. The Third  Edition was released on October 1, 2021. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with  and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of  several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and  internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships,  anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.  Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. Resources:Disarming the Narcissist“Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” by Wendy BeharyWendy Behary on LinkedInWendy Behary on TwitterThe Schema Therapy Training Institute Learn more about Dr. Laura on her website: https://drlaura.live For more resources, look into Dr. Laura's organizations: Work EvOHlutionSynthesis PsychologyCalgary Career CounsellingCanada Career CounsellingDr. Laura is a partner of Humance | Culture and Performance.

Narcissistic partners, bosses or family members can be highly critical, cruel and impossible to live with. The same can be true for us when we become our own toughest critics. That's why Anne and Arielle reached out to Dr. Wendy Behary, author of the best-selling book, Disarming the Narcissist and a globally-respected psychotherapist. Wendy sees some through-lines between people who are critical of us and those of us who are cruel and critical of ourselves. Fortunately, she's got some great insights about how to deal with both types. Our conversation with her left us with hope that we can squelch our own inner critics and find the strength to protect ourselves from the narcissists in our lives as well.

My guest today is Wendy Behary. Wendy is an expert in the understanding of narcissism.  With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York (until the Institutes merged in 2012), where she trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck's Institute).   Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She is currently the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee for the ISST. Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an international bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist...”  translated in 15 languages. The Third Edition was released on October 1, 2021.  Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism for professional readers. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on schema therapy, narcissism, interpersonal relationships, anger, and dealing with difficult people. She receives consistent high praise for her clear and articulate teaching style and her ability to bring the therapy to life through dramatic demonstrations of client interactions in the treatment room.  Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.  You can find Wendy at disarmingthenarcissist.com.   

"I am informed not overwhelmed by my vulnerability."   If you like what you hear and you want to support me you can make a one time donation using PayPal https://paypal.me/beinganddoing. In this episode I am talking to a true Jedi master, a person that knows how to use the force for good. And we are discussing a topic close to my heart and experience - narcissism. Wendy Behary is an expert on this subject and she explains the concept of emphatic confrontation and how to develop a sturdy self. She also reveals her curious interest in drumming

Dealing with a narcissist is inevitable for most of us, whether it be a narcissistic spouse, a colleague, or a boss. Therefore, knowing how to how to handle a narcissist is something we all need to learn how to do. If you know one, or spot signs of this behavior, there are ways that you can get a handle on your experiences. And take your power back! I got to speak to the world's leading authority on narcissism, and I could not be more psyched to share this interview with you! Wendy Behary is the author of the internationally bestselling book, Disarming the Narcissist. We discuss: - What narcissism really is (it's not what most people think)! - Symptoms of narcissism. - How to deal with covert narcissism in your life with love and grace - whilst protecting yourself. - Empathy vs. compassion. - The 4 Masks or types of narcissism. - What a schema is.- How understanding your own triggers protects you (this is surprising - and life-altering)! - Setting boundaries with a narcissist. - Why it's OK to lie to a narcissist if you have to. Her book changed my life, and this conversation is pure gold! This information could save you in many ways. Order Wendy's book here

Dealing with a narcissist is inevitable for most of us, whether it be a narcissistic spouse, a colleague, or a boss. Therefore, knowing how to how to handle a narcissist is something we all need to learn how to do.  If you know one, or spot signs of this behavior, there are ways that you can get a handle on your experiences. And take your power back!  I got to speak to the world's leading authority on narcissism, and I could not be more psyched to share this interview with you!  Wendy Behary is the author of the internationally bestselling book, Disarming the Narcissist.  We discuss:  - What narcissism really is (it's not what most people think)!  - Symptoms of narcissism.  - How to deal with covert narcissism in your life with love and grace - whilst protecting yourself.  - Empathy vs. compassion.  - The 4 Masks or types of narcissism.  - What a schema is. - How understanding your own triggers protects you (this is surprising - and life-altering)!  - Setting boundaries with a narcissist.  - Why it's OK to lie to a narcissist if you have to.   Her book changed my life, and this conversation is pure gold!  This information could save you in many ways. Order Wendy's book here

Sherry and Carla start the show talking about toxic masculinity, and how men don't often get the emotional support that women do. They take a Love Fix Question on the main characteristics of a narcissist and then welcome guest Wendy Behary, Founder and Director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and author of Disarming a Narcissist. Wendy discusses her private practice which is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners, and people dealing with them, along with couples experiencing relationship problems. She talks about the most common paths that lead to narcissism, how to set yourself up for confrontation with a narcissist, and why professional help is often needed for the narcissist to transform.   What You'll Hear In This Episode: A Love Fix Question — what are the main characteristics of a narcissist? No one is immune to getting attracted or captured under the spell of a narcissist, but not everyone stays. Wendy discusses working with narcissistic men directly, what are some of the most common themes she sees in these men? Wendy talks about how having a plan set in place when planning to confront or leave a narcissist is critical. You may even look for a narcissism-savvy lawyer in the process. A few highlights of Wendy's new book Disarming the Narcissist, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. What is empathic confrontation, and how can you use it as a better chance of being heard? At the end of the day, it's more important for you to hear yourself state your needs and boundaries than it is for the narcissist to hear you. How can you tell if there's hope in a relationship with a narcissist, and when you should get out immediately? Wendy talks about why professional help is so important when trying to get a narcissist to transform. She details how long it typically takes to see growth and a few of the larger obstacles that show up. How to break a trauma bond. How is narcissism typically developed, and are people born with it, or is it something that is developed?   Tweetables: “No one is immune to getting attracted to or captured under the spell of the narcissist because they can be incredible, particularly in the courtship phase.” — Wendy “Narcissists get what they want and they know how to get what they want.” — Wendy “It's not your job to figure out the profile of narcissism, but I do think it's a bit of a gift for liberation.” — Wendy “The goal is for you to hear yourself. I want to hear me being the best advocate for me that I can be.” — Wendy “It's really hard without therapy to imagine change that's going to be sustainable.” — Wendy “I think that in betrayal trauma, which is the most common type of trauma, when you're living with a narcissist, the bond is such that it's not so easy.” — Wendy “What happens with narcissists is they come into the world with a temperament that might be a little more sensitive, perhaps a little more impulsive, and they meet an environment that cannot adequately meet those needs or … imposes certain high expectations upon them.” — Wendy   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Sign up for one of Sherry's coaching or psychotherapy packages here: Sherrygaba.com/addiction-recovery/sessions-psychotherapy/rates-insurance/   Gain access to Sherry's FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. Relationship-quizzes.com   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Wendy Website | Disarming the Narcissist | Facebook | Instagram   Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.  

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On this episode the Whole Mind team is joined by a very special guest;Ben Dodd, LPC. Ben has about 20 years of counseling experience behind him and we were thrilled partner with him on this episode. Listen in the hear how to spot narcissism, where it comes from, and how to do life with someone who is a narcissist. Mentioned in this episode: Research on a brain with NPD: https://www.amenclinics.com/conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/ https://drsyrasderksen.com/seeing-narcissism-in-the-brain.html https://watermark.silverchair.com/nsu072.pdf Dr. Caroline Leaf's Podcast: https://drleaf.com/pages/podcasts Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary: https://www.amazon.com/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1684037700/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?gclid=Cj0KCQiAubmPBhCyARIsAJWNpiNnorn78mZKlJtAPS4YMD5Z2eNQ9fEc0z5lIhkqf5jzMbt1zNCjHw8aAgtMEALw_wcB&hvadid=241610145563&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9006789&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14375699802949362919&hvtargid=kwd-6474657455&hydadcr=15524_10340834&keywords=disarming+the+narcissist&qid=1643037116&sr=8-2-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFQRVc0SllMU1pUQVUmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAwODM0MzU4VUxBOTRKVkRRWDImZW5jcnlwdGVkQWRJZD1BMDI3MDg4NjFVRjFZWlU3NFI3R0omd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

Wendy Behary specializes in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. With 25+ years of professional experience and advanced level certifications, Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals, and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is also a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy and also served as their Training and Certification Coordinator. She currently serves as the chair of the Schema Therapy Development Programs Sub-Committee. Wendy has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of an internationally bestselling book, "Disarming the Narcissist,” which has been translated into 15 languages. She also has a private practice primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. We chat about...  What inspired Wendy to work with narcissists What narcissism looks like How narcissism presents in men and women What it looks like to grow up with a narcissistic parent How to know you're in a relationship with a narcissist Whether or not narcissists ever feel bad for their behavior How to have a conversation with a narcissist who always thinks everything is your fault Why you might be triggered by a narcissist The importance of being the narrator of your experience when speaking with a narcissist Why no one is immune to finding themself caught in the spell of a narcissist One of the hardest issues for people coming out of a relationship with a narcissist Hypersexual narcissism and what it looks like Co-parenting with a narcissist How do you cope if you have a narcissist in your life Whether or not narcissism can be successfully treated What Wendy would say to a therapist who's struggling with a narcissistic client   COURAGEOUSLY.U SHOW NOTES: https://courageouslyu.com/wendy-behary/   COURAGEOUSLY.U INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/courageously.u/

If you have ever wondered “what is narcissism?” or “does my partner have narcissism?”, then this podcast is for you. In this episode we cover: What narcissism means Different kinds of narcissism How common narcissism is Where narcissism comes from The impact of narcissism on relationships What kind of people are more likely to attract partners with narcissistic qualities How to speak to someone who does have narcissistic tendencies To learn more about Wendy Behary and the book Disarming the Narcissist check out these links: https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/ The book: https://www.amazon.ca/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1684037700/ref=asc_df_1684037700/?tag=googleshopc0c-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=459263674062&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=17782327393863818313&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9000815&hvtargid=pla-1289331927350&psc=1 This podcast is for informational purposes only.

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast! Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for women Visit our website THE GOOD MOOD CLINIC Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249 Check out what's new on our LEARNING HUB For confidential information, counseling, and support service go to  https://1800respect.org.au.Ask us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auIn today's mailbox episode, Gemma and Justine address two questions submitted by two different listeners. One of the questions is about co-parenting children with a narcissistic ex-partner and how to protect them from the negative influences of their narcissistic parent. The other question is about supporting a partner while they have schema therapy. Like any other personality trait, type, or disorder, narcissism falls on a continuum, so every case is different and comes with its own level of difficulty. People can fall anywhere on the spectrum, from having a few narcissistic traits to being an extremely toxic pathological and malignant narcissist. Some people with narcissistic traits could also have some healthy traits. So you might be able to communicate with them rationally in their healthy moments, while others may have more extreme traits and can be more difficult to deal with as a co-parent.Narcissism is a complicated topic, and co-parenting your children with a narcissistic ex-partner can be very tricky. You can go back and listen to episodes 14, 17, 20, and 22 to gain a deeper understanding of narcissism and learn how to deal with the narcissist in your life. Those episodes also cover how to manage your narcissistic parents when you are an adult. Show highlights:Justine reads out and discusses the email that Joe sent in asking how to support his teenage daughters without undermining their relationship with their narcissistic mother.Gemma explains how Joe can keep the lines of communication with his kids open. Justine explains to Joe how he can provide a safe space and be an emotional coach for his kids.What you can do when your child comes home and shares a distressing story about something that has happened at their other parent's house.Talking to your kids about boundaries.There are many resources available on the topic of narcissism.Justine and Gemma summarize and discuss Karen's question about how to help and support her partner while he is doing schema therapy.How to cope with a partner with an emotional deprivation and a self-sacrifice schema.Coming up with a plan when your partner and you both get triggered.Why you should never throw things that people have said to you when they are vulnerable back in their faces.How the subjugation and self-sacrifice schemas are correlated.Links:Free webinar on co-parenting with a narcissist:https://susanstifEmotion Coaching information  Books:Disarming the Narcissist, by Wendy Behary

Is your current partner or a previous partner that you still have to work with a narcissist? What really is a narcissist? Is it possible for a narcissist to change? In this podcast episode, I speak with Wendy Behary about what to do when your ex is a narcissist. In this podcast we cover: What does narcissism really mean? Do you currently have a narcissistic partner or had a previous partner who was a narcissist? What to do if a stepparent is a narcissist Sign up for the FREE e-course for processing and moving past divorce here. SHOW NOTES: Click here Visit the website: www.afterthefirstmarriage.com

Susan talks with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, including an absence of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a focus on attention and approval--at the cost of addressing children's needs. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/encore-episodes-co-parenting-with-a-narcisssist/

Spotkałeś_aś narcyza na swojej drodze? Jeżeli tak, to ta rozmowa jest dla Ciebie, bo usłyszysz jak sobie radzić. Nie wiesz, czy znasz narcyza? Dowiesz się jakie sygnały mogą to zwiastować i jak wyznaczać granice w takiej relacji. Jesteś narcyzem? To z tego odcinka podcastu możesz zabrać sobie kilka wskazówek na to, jak komunikować się, aby nie ranić innych. I jak ukoić to wewnętrzne skrzywdzone dziecko, które przecież gdzieś tam w środku drzemie.Wendy Behary jest autorką książki “Rozbroić narcyza” wydanej przez GWP - moim zdaniem najlepszej książki na rynku, która pomaga radzić sobie z byciem i konfrontacją z narcyzem ucząc technik komunikacji (np. empatycznej konfrontacji, o której pisałyśmy w jednym z postów na IG), a także pozwalając rozumieć jak działa i funkcjonuje osobowość narcystyczna.Tłumaczenie rozmowy: https://zdrowaglowa.pl/rozbroic-i-zrozumiec-narcyza-rozmowa-z-wendy-behary-pl/

Back on One Broken Mom is a listener favorite, Wendy Behary. Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She is also the author of “Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” (New Harbinger Publications). Now translated in 15 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them.  Based on a listener question, Ameé and Wendy talk about how to co-parent with an abusive, manipulative, or narcissistic parent. In this episode you will hear:The four steps for handling a narcissistic ex How dysfunction can impact our learned communicationUnderstanding the nature of the narcissistic parentKnowing how to handle when a parent doesn't want to be in the child's life anymoreKnowing how to deal with being gaslit by the narcissistic parent through the childrenWhat to do when worried that the children will adopt the narcissistic parent's worldviewLinks from This Episode:Disarming the NarcissistCo-Parenting with a Narcissist: https://susanstiffelman.com/narcissist-free-webinar/ Links to buy The Fearless Woman's Guide to Starting a BusinessAmazon (Audio, Print, Kindle Versions): https://amzn.to/3daO7nABarnes and Noble- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomansGuideBookshop- https://bit.ly/FearlessWomanBookshop Visit https://www.ameequiriconi.com/ for more articles about self-help, healing from trauma, and more! 

We have been getting some comments, queries, and questions in our mailbox recently. So in this episode, we will be introducing a new mailbox segment that we will have on the podcast from time to time. With this podcast, we strive to raise awareness about some common topics that many of us have to deal with. So, if you are struggling with something or have an issue, the chances are that many others will be in the same boat. One of the things we received in our mailbox was an email from someone who listened to our podcast about narcissistic parents. In her email, she reflected on what that podcast meant for her regarding her narcissistic parent. She has kindly permitted us to read her email out on the show today and talk about it. Be sure to stay tuned to find out what our listener had to say.Show highlights:Justine reads the letter from the listener, who we will call Jane. In it, she asks how to protect herself emotionally in her relationship with her narcissistic mother.Jane is trying to work out what is possible in terms of her relationship with her mother. In her mother's reply to her letter, she offered Jane nothing. Nor did she apologize to Jane or validate what she said, so Jane does not know what to do.Jane wants recognition. She wants to be seen and understood.Jane wants her mum to put her stuff aside and take care of Jane in the present moment.Jane's mum has not answered any of Jane‘s questions. Nor has she offered any repair or explained her behavior. Jane has no way of knowing if her mum's question about her wellbeing is sincere, so the situation remains unresolved.Past behavior is usually the best predictor of future behavior.The ‘healthy adult mode' is required for narcissistic parents to put their stuff aside and come to the table. Jane needs to prioritize what is important for her before re-establishing a relationship with her mother.Jane is likely to get triggered by her mother if she decides to re-establish a relationship with her.We can never make another person feel or respond in the way we would like them to.A therapist can help you navigate and come to terms with the hurt caused by a narcissistic parent.Links and resources:Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for womenVisit our website THE GOOD MOOD CLINICInstagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249Check out what's new on our LEARNING HUBAsk us a question or suggest a topic by emailing:  justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auRecommended reading:Reinventing Your Life (A self-help book for schema therapy) by Jeffrey E. Young and Janet S. KloskoChildren of the Self-Absorbed by Nina W. BrownDisarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary

It is extremely challenging to raise a child with a highly self-absorbed co-parent who moves through life with a sense of entitlement and an unwillingness to acknowledge the needs and feelings of others. In this episode, Susan discusses narcissism and invites listeners to a free webinar with Wendy Behary, her co-facilitator of a Co-Parenting With a Narcissist support group. https://susanstiffelman.com/narcissist-free-webinar/

We're talking about something very interesting today. We're starting a series discussion on narcissism, a topic that has come up a lot for us as clinicians over the years. Many of our clients have also nominated narcissism as a topic that they would like us to talk about.In our practices, we see many people whose lives are affected by narcissism, and those relationships are often very preoccupying and distressing. Some people have parents, partners, friends, or even bosses who are narcissists. Today, in our first episode of this series, we will be covering what narcissism is, exactly. We will discuss the particulars in-depth, and we will also give you some examples. Going forward, we will be following on with some more specific episodes on the topic of narcissism. Be sure to stay tuned today to find out what narcissism is and the kind of impact it could have on your life.Show highlights:What narcissism is.What a healthy amount of narcissism means.What insidious narcissism entails.Some of the more obvious traits of narcissists.The grandiose narcissist.Why narcissists avoid feeling vulnerable.Why it's so difficult to have a relationship with a narcissist.The schemas of the types of people who tend to gather around narcissists.Why relationships with narcissists can lead to depression.Why and how narcissists tend to overcompensate.The malignant narcissist.Using empathic confrontation in therapy with narcissists.The origins of narcissism from a schema perspective.How narcissists gain their supply.The covert narcissist.Some of the defining characteristics of people with narcissism.Links and resources:Go straight to THE RED FLAG PROJECT course for womenClick here for the Break-Up GuideVisit our website THE GOOD MOOD CLINIC  (Go to our website to download Ten Characteristics of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner on the Podcast Page!)Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theredflagproject._/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/The-Red-Flag-Project-103442091937249Check out what's new on our LEARNING HUBAsk us a question or suggest a topic by emailing: justineandgemma@goodmood.com.auGo to the Good Mood Clinic website podcast page to download your free guide, which talks about the characteristics of an emotionally available partner.Recommended Reading:Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy Behary  

Wendy Behary, author of the book Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, joins the show this week to dive into her practice and research in how to deal with the people around us whose inflated view of their place in the world leaves a wake of destruction and chaos.   Wendy Behary is the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than twenty years.   Connect with Wendy on her website at https://disarmingthenarcissist.com or on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-behary-269a8a16. Check out her book at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DMJ768K.

With 25 years of post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals, and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of Schema Therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people.    In this episode, Wendy Behary and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How confusing and disorienting it can be to be in a relationship with a narcissist.  Understanding how a narcissist got to be how they are and what it entails.  The spectrum of narcissism. The goal of a narcissist and the missing piece in relationship.  How one’s own schema, or learned thought patterns and behaviors, can be triggered by, and play into, the tendencies of a narcissist. How to have an effect of the relationship.  How to get your emotional balance, so that you can approach your partner with empathic confrontation.  The work that goes into helping someone feel capable of standing on their own, to be the strongest healthiest adult they can be, and their own best advocate.      "To hear your own voice, to stand up for yourself...That's a new new movement, which will guide you towards making a decision about this relationship one way or the other, but making it from a healthy position, not from a frightened reaction." —  Wendy Behary       Mentioned:  Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed, by Wendy Behary Loving Leaving Living With...The Narcissist In Your Life Connect with Guest:  Website: disarmingthenarcissist.com LinkedIn: Wendy Behary - Speaker-Lecturer - PESI Facebook: Wendy T. Behary Email: wendy.behary@gmail.com Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:  Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @DrJessHiggins Website: drjessicahiggins.com  Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com     Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.   

Do you think your husband is a narcissist? When you first met him, he was extremely likable.  He was charismatic, charming, and flirtatious. Everyone who met him immediately liked him… and you felt like the luckiest girl in the world that he chose you. Then, over time, things started to change. You started to notice that most of your conversations revolved around his needs, his wants, and his accomplishments. He didn’t seem to care as much about what was going on in your life. He rarely asked you questions that allowed for any deep emotional connection. Life was good as long as his needs were met. You started to plan your life around making sure he was happy… because if he wasn’t, he’d often lose his temper, or say things that would make you feel as if you’d done something wrong. When you were hurting, he’d dismiss your emotions. And if he was the cause of your hurt, he’d somehow find a way to turn it around and make it your fault. When things really started to get rough, you tried to talk to him about it. Maybe you suggested you go to therapy. He didn’t take that well. He was hypersensitive to anything even remotely resembling criticism.  He would withhold affection from you as punishment, or to gain leverage. You noticed that he started to find pleasure in tearing you and other people down. It seemed like the longer you were in the relationship, he was thriving more and more. You, on the other hand, seemed to get sicker and sicker. You were exhausted, stressed, depressed, and sad. You felt like a shadow of your former self. You started to wonder if you were the crazy one. “Maybe there’s something wrong with me… everyone seems to love him. He’s thriving. Maybe I’m the one who’s broken.” You began to float through life feeling lonely, guilty, ashamed, invisible, unimportant… You didn’t want to be judged. You didn’t want to appear disloyal. You believed that maybe this was a “phase,” or that it wasn’t a true reflection of his character. You became a shadow of your former vibrant, caring self. You lost the light in your eyes. *DEEP BREATH* Being married to a narcissist can be incredibly draining and difficult. Recently I had a conversation with Wendy Behary. She’s a licensed clinical social worker who has specialized in working with narcissists and those in with relationships with narcissists. She shared three powerful tips to help you deal with a narcissistic partner: 1. Get Help Most people simply don’t have the tools and resources to navigate the complexities of a relationship with a narcissist. If you want your relationship to survive and thrive, you will absolutely need to get help from a trained mental health professional. Specifically, someone who specializes in working with narcissists. Don’t be afraid to ask a prospective therapist questions about the experience or training they have working with narcissists.  Ask them about their approach to treatment.  Ask them about any success stories they’ve experienced working with past clients in situations similar to yours. Hiring the wrong therapist can actually cause more harm than good. So make sure you do your research here. 2. Be “Sturdy” When you’re sturdy, you are grounded. Rooted. You don’t give in easily to the storms of life. Being “sturdy” in relationship with a narcissistic partner means you have the self-control and self-respect to stand up for yourself without getting emotional or defensive. When your partner loses his temper and flies off the handle, you can calmly but firmly look him in the eye and say, “I don’t appreciate being spoken to that way. That might work with other people, but it won’t work with me anymore. I’m going to go for a walk while you cool down. Let me know when you’re ready to speak to me with more respect.” Being “sturdy” means you won’t let him bait you back into an unhealthy and unproductive cycle by escalating his emotions. Being “sturdy” means that you care enough about your own emotions, experiences, and values that you will not allow them to be dismissed, ignored, or swept under the rug. You cannot have a healthy relationship with a narcissist unless you are “sturdy.” (Which is why so many narcissists seek out partners who are “pleasers.” Those who will accept or even accomodate their selfish and entitled behaviors.) Being “sturdy” is definitely a skill that can be learned and mastered over time, even if it doesn’t come naturally to you. 3. Use Leverage Narcissists HATE being criticized.  They don’t like to be wrong. They don’t like to accept help. They despise staring their own weaknesses, insecurities, and faults in the face. That means, inevitably, most narcissists will resist change – especially if it means meeting with a therapist to “talk” about things. They’ll dismiss, invalidate, manipulate, and throw emotional fits to get out of it. But you can get them to do the work… if you have leverage. Behary says that most narcissistic people don’t respond to positive incentives like the rest of us. “If you do this, you’ll get that,” doesn’t work for them. What motivates a narcissist to change is fear of losing something. Fear of losing reputation, privileges, status, or their relationship with you. By clearly outlining the consequences of negative behaviors (and following through on those consequences), your partner will be spurred to action. Behary recommends starting by saying something like, “I really love you, but the way things are going, I’m worried we may not have a future together. No matter how much I love someone, I just don’t think I can be in a relationship if I feel like this all the time. Something needs to change.” As you stand your ground, remain “sturdy,” create clear consequences for poor behavior, and seek the help of a trained counselor, you can set yourself up for success.Need more information? Check out Wendy Behary’s website , or you can get her book .

Former International Society of Schema Therapy president and expert in narcissism and empathic confrontation Wendy Behary talks about Schema therapy and karate moves.

This is the full episode of the interview with Wendy Behary in March. The first 20 minutes is a repeat for anyone who listed to the Special COVID Episode with her. Back on the show is Wendy Behary, the author of Disarming the Narcissist and frequent guest who shares her expertise on narcissistic personality disorder and the impacts on relationships. Today Ameé talks with Wendy about how our own ego and dysfunction plays out in our business relationships as well. While we can see this usually in leadership, globally as well as locally, people unaware of their own unrelenting drives or wounds can be in any position in organizations that are not necessarily in leadership or management. And these people can actually be ourselves. In this episode, you will hear:Why does the business/work environment trigger us differently than at home?How can we uncover some of our survival modes we play out at work? How is coaching effective at helping us grow? How can organizations and leaders handle the re-introduction of people back to work? References:Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great AgainDisarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

In this bonus episode, Amee takes a moment out of her upcoming Season 3 episode (launching May 10, 2020) to speak with Wendy Behary about how the 2020 Coronavirus pandemic may be affected people, especially those with trauma histories. In this episode, you will hear:How some people may have new schemas triggered by the stress of the pandemicWhat to do if we have a narcissistic person in our life who is more demanding then everWhat companies could do to nurture their workforce during a time like thisWhat we should do to help us regulate ourselves Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC as well as the author of Disarming the Narcissist.

Susan is joined again by Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss what truly lies beneath narcissism and how we can use this understanding to manage some of the hurt a narcissist inflicts. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-wendy-behary/

For her 75th episode of One Broken Mom, Ameé brings back a listener favorite, Wendy Behary. Wendy is the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than twenty years.She is the author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed and is on the show to talk about the very real but often not understood hypersexualized nature of many male narcissists. From excessive porn watching to hiring prostitutes to having multiple affairs, the hallmark is the overarching sense of entitlement these types of narcissists feel. Unfortunately, their behaviors are demeaning and without the consent or knowledge of their partners, leaving deeply traumatic and painful wounds on the relationship as well as the partner. In this episode you will hear: So what is abuse?Hypersexualization – how does this fit into the picture of a relationship with a narcissist? Are all narcissists this way? Is this the same as having a sex addiction? What is betrayal trauma? How do these betrayals activate the Attachment System and what does that do to victims?What are possible long-term impacts sometimes for a victim who’s been in a relationship like this? How does a person heals from this type of trauma?Resources:Wendy's Website Wendy on Facebook

Susan talks with Wendy Behary, author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. Susan and Wendy discuss challenges associated with co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, including an absence of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a focus on attention and approval--at the cost of addressing children's needs. Susan and Wendy co-host a monthly support group on Co-Parenting With a Narcissist. https://susanstiffelman.com/podcast-episode-behary/

Wendy Behary (@donsanddivas) has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years, and is the author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. What We Discuss with Wendy Behary: What's the difference between someone who comes off as somewhat self-absorbed and a full-blown, clinical narcissist? Is clinical narcissism actually on the rise in the US? If so, what’s causing it? Does narcissism statistically affect men more than women, or is there just a difference in how they tend to express it? When a little bit of narcissism can be a big advantage. How to tell early on if you’re dealing with a bona fide narcissist, what you can do to remain your best self in their presence, and how you might possibly help them become their better selves. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/246 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Get two months of Skillshare -- unlimited access to over 18,000 classes in design, business, technology, photography, entrepreneurship, film, writing, and more -- for free at skillshare.com/harbinger! Great protection. Fair prices. Easy to use. SimpliSafe is the right way to protect your home at half the size and double the range -- go to SimpliSafe.com/jordan to learn more! NetSuite by Oracle allows you to manage sales, finances, accounting, orders, and HR for your business instantly on the cloud from anywhere! Download your free guide -- Seven Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits -- at netsuite.com/jordan! Don't let a botched below-the-belt trim snag your summer plans -- Manscaped has precision tools for your family jewels! Go to Manscaped.com and get 20 percent off with free shipping by using code JORDAN at checkout! Borderlands 3 lets you shoot and loot your way through a mayhem-fueled adventure and gives you the chance to save the galaxy from a fanatical threat this September 13th! Pre-order now at Borderlands.com. (Rated M for Mature.) Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps!...

In this episode, Ameé speaks with Ross Rosenberg. He is the owner Owner of Clinical Care Consultants in Chicago and Self-Love Recovery Institute as well as a psychotherapist, trainer, and author who specializes in Codependency, Narcissism, Trauma & Sex Addiction.He is the author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap which provides answers to why patient, giving and selfless individuals (codependents) are predictably attracted to self-centered, selfish and controlling partners (emotional manipulators).In this episode, you will learn:What is co-dependency or self-love deficit disorder? What are the signs? Can you be “sometimes” co-dependent – that is, exhibit the characteristics more so with certain people and not with others? Are you turned into a co-dependent by a bad partner or is this something we’ve had in us all along that is pulled out once the conditions are right? What is "chemistry"?How do you counsel people who are constantly choosing or are attracted to the “wrong person” to re-tune or just be made aware of this predilection to certain types of people who are going to hurt us? How does a man end up in a relationship with a narcissistic woman? Resources Mentioned in this EpisodeBuy The Human Magnet Syndrome book Self-Love Recovery Institute WebsiteRoss Rosenberg's YouTube ChannelSelf-Love Recovery Institute on Facebook

This episode is a continuation of the topic narcissistic relationships due to many people writing to Ameé – men and women – expressing their frustrations at repeating the patterns of falling into bed (literally and figuratively) with the same type of person over and over again. So, for those of you still falling off the wagon and finding themselves attracted to another charismatic, over-the-top flattering personality, Ameé brings back to the show Wendy Behary, the author of "Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed" and the founder and Director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC, to talk with Ameé about the next steps on your journey to towards finding more secure relationships – not just the ones with other people but more importantly – the secure relationship with YOURSELF.In this episode, you will hear: How will a person feel right after they have left a narcissistic/emotionally manipulative partner? What should a person do then for themselves once they've left an emotionally traumatic situation like this? Should they start dating someone new right away or wait? What are some key self-examination things one should be doing or looking for about their relationship patterns? What are the non-negotiable RED flags one has to look for if they want to avoid choosing another emotionally abusive partner? Is there a dating process one could do, intentionally, so that red flags can be drawn out sooner than later. What is the best way to break up or break it off with a narcissist?ResourcesBuy the book "Disarming the Narcissist"Wendy Behary's Website

When working with clients in therapy I often wonder if someone might be displaying aspects of narcissism. I often question myself and my reality. It is important to realize that partner of people with narcissism feel this way all the time. The following is from Wendy Behary's website: Typically, narcissists display ten of the following thirteen traits: Self-absorbed – Acts like everything is all about him or her Entitled – Makes the rules; breaks the rules Demeaning – Puts you down, bullyish Demanding – of whatever he or she wants Distrustful  – Suspicious of your motives when you’re being nice to him or her Perfectionistic – Rigidly high standards – his or her way or no way Snobbish – Believes he or she is superior to you and others; gets bored easily Approval seeking – Craves constant praise and recognition Unempathic- Uninterested in understanding your inner experience or unable to do so Unremorseful – Cannot offer a genuine apology Compulsive – Gets overly consumed with details and minutiae Addictive – Cannot let go of bad habits; uses them to self soothe Emotionally detached – Steers clear of feeling Wendy Behary is a leader in working with people with narcissism. She is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She wrote the book Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Get your free copy of The Comparison of 7 different Models of Couples Therapy. Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group Find more resources for working with narcissism at disarmingthenarcissist.com Find out more about the book Disarming the Narcissist Today's Sponsor Brighter Vision Brighter Vision makes amazing websites for therapists. Go to www.brightervision.com/try/couples/ to get one month free off your Brighter Vision subscription. Let Brighter Vision help you build the practice of your dreams.

This is the last episode of Season 1 and I want to thank all of my listeners who have joined in with the journey over the past 10 months. Today is not just any episode or interview – in fact, really, none of them have been that way but this one is incredibly important and special. On December 17, I was reading what was I believe my third book in a month on narcissism because even though I didn’t see it even then – still trapped in a narcissistic relationship that, as I would discover in the next year of therapy – was extremely traumatizing – even more so than I knew – of course until I tried to leave it all behind and couldn’t shake it off for months and months. I NEVER knew or believed up until this book on that day in December a year and a half ago that I was actually attracted to THEM, perhaps just as strongly as they were attracted to me. And, up until that day – while I walked around like everyone else with our bag of bad childhood experiences and memories – my mantra was the “Past is the past. It has nothing to do with what you do today.” And I realized in a flash when I read the words “childlike and powerless” in a paragraph on page 63 of the book – that I was wrong. Those memories were everything. And in the course of the last year, as many of you have listened along the way, you have heard me describe resetting dip switches in my brain as the healing has been happening – well this was the first dip switch to click into place. From there, I traveled into the world of childhood trauma, emotional neglect. I started therapy less than month later and went every week for 3 months. And I adjusted the sails on the boat immediately with my children when I realized that if I didn’t correct myself right then and there – I would be planting similar experiences and memories into THEIR brains. I couldn’t change my past BUT I could change their future. And this is why this show, One Broken Mom, exists todaySo, today, to say its an honor is an understatement to have with me Wendy Behary – the author of the book that literally changed my life - “Disarming the Narcissist”. Because it seems to fit to end my first season at the beginning of the story. In this episode you will hear us talk about: 1. An overview of the narcissistic personality2. Schemas & Scripts and how they are created and the work of Jeffrey Young in the treatment of the Narcissistic personality disorder.3. How these Schemas and scripts drive some of us to co-habitat with Narcissists over and over again. 4. What are the Personal Traps we fall into with narcissistic people5. How some of us ‘chose’ even subconsciously to be with a manipulative or abusive person and how this happens 6. The other ways that the maladaptive schemas that link us up with Narcissists hurt us in other areas of life and with other non-Narcissists7. What kind of work should someone do on themselves first before they tackle trying to manage a relationship with a narcissist Resources:Wendy Behary's Website Disarming the Narcissist Book

With 25 years post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy.She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is also on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. Wendy is a founding fellow (and supervisor) of The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). She was also the President of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014.Wendy Behary has co-authored several chapters and articles on Schema Therapy and Cognitive Therapy. She is the author of “Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed” (New Harbinger Publications—2008 & 2013). Now translated in 10 languages. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism (Wiley and APA Press, 2011, 2012, 2013). She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional and general audiences on the subject of Schema Therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her work with industry has included speaking engagements focused on interpersonal conflict resolution.Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems. She is also an expert in coaching individuals in interviewing, public speaking, and interpersonal skills enhancement.www.wendybehary.com

This is narcissism expert Wendy Behary - on the Finding Mastery podcast with Michael Gervais - explaining how narcissism forms in children. Full podcast available at hyperurl.co/wendy-behary

In today's #WiseGirl, I talk to the author of "Disarming the Narcissist" Wendy Behary, LCSW, about what narcissism is, where it comes from, how you can spot it and what to do about it, how it shows up in relationships and in society in general. https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/

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Wendy Behary, author of "Disarming the Narcissist" talks about how to deal with a self absorbed teenager. What is the best way for parents to handle self centered teenage problems? One of the big topics covered in this episode is how to tell a self absorbed teenager that something he or she is doing is not OK.

This is author Wendy Behary - on the Finding Mastery podcast with Michael Gervais - discussing the difference between supporting and nurturing your child and the impact it can have on a child becoming a narcissist. Full podcast available at: hyperurl.co/wendy-behary

This is author Wendy Behary - on the Finding Mastery podcast with Michael Gervais - sharing how to identify if you have narcissistic tendencies. Full podcast available here hyperurl.co/wendy-behary

Wendy Behary is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck Institute). Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. She is the author of "Disarming the Narcissist -- surviving and thriving with the self-absorbed” translated in 10 languages. Narcissism and world-class achievement have an interesting relationship. When we think of those who excel on the world stage, it'd be easy to conjure up a story that they have a deep inner belief that they can be the absolute best in the world (that's actually not the case, as we've come to learn from many of the folks on the Finding Mastery Podcast. But for those who do hold that belief -- THE WORLD REVOLVES AROUND ME BECAUSE I’M THAT IMPORTANT AND SPECIAL --is when my antenna tends to attune to the concept of narcissism. It's the excessive self-centered vanity and lack of regard for others that is one of the hallmarks of narcissism. We can all be self-absorbed, needy….. display narcissistic behavior from time to time…that's not what this is about….it's when the sense of grandiosity is so pervasive that it impairs daily functioning with others, and in essence, within themselves. Narcissism is named for the Greek myth of Narcissus—who was a hunter and when he saw his own reflection in the water, he fell in love with it, not realizing it was merely an image. He stared at his reflection until he died. The way I like to simplify narcissism, is that the person can't tell the difference between himself and everyone around him -- everyone then becomes a reflection of his him -- in which gives him the right to use them as extensions of his own self-worth (even if that means public embarrassment). There was an interesting piece of research in the Journal of applied sport psychology, 2013, by Ross Roberts and team -- where they found that the more narcissistic a person was, the less they benefited from psychological skills training - in other words, all you had to do for them, is turn on the lights, and they came alive. If you have ever thought, am I'm living with or working with a narcissist, or am I a narcissist? Wendy provides ways to tease that out. She dives into why so many elite performs are narcissists, and how we can be more effective with living and working with them.

Are you co-parenting with someone who you suspect to be a narcissist? If you would like to find out if this is actually so and what you can do in that case,  listen in to today's show, with Robbin's expert guest, Wendy Behary, who has a really deep understanding of narcissism, having worked with narcissists for more than twenty-five years and find out how to deal with the situation.    Wendy, who has a private practice in Springfield, New Jersey, is the author of the book Disarming The Narcissist- Surviving and Thriving With The Self-Absorbed. As a trained psychotherapist, she spends most of her time educating the general public and other clinicians around the world about how to work with the very challenging narcissistic client. She also teaches people how to deal with narcissism in their lives. Wendy stumbled on this as her specialty, through her curiosity about her own reactions in the treatment room, when she was confronted with narcissists. She found herself reacting as she would have as a little girl - caving in and apologizing, rather than responding as an adult therapist. This was a start to her adventure of learning and teaching about narcissism. Listen in today and to find out more about how to handle the narcissistic behavior of a co-parent and set yourself free from the associated drama.   Today, Wendy and Robbin discuss:   How to identify someone who is narcissistic. Gaslighting- What that means. The impact that narcissists tend to have on those who are close to them. The difficulty of raising children within a narcissistic relationship. Wendy's advice for single parents who are raising children with a narcissistic co-parent. The use of empathic confrontation when dealing with a narcissist. How understanding narcissism helps you to deal with narcissistic people. What empathic confrontation looks like. Why many people tend to avoid confrontation. That the motivational driver is not to change the narcissist, but rather to change yourself in your responses to them. How you can help your kids to deal with a narcissistic parent. How you can model for your kids by empathizing with their situation.   Links:  Wendy's website: www.disarmingthenarcissist.com    

Wendy Behary is a psychotherapist based in New Jersey. She works primarily with narcissists, using Schema Therapy. In this interview, Wendy discusses how she became involved with Schema Therapy and how she built a successful private practice. She talks about her books and international teaching engagements. To get the show notes for this show go to http://julietaustin.com/bb49.

About the book: Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and  community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me,therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide. About the Author: Michelle Skeen, PsyD, is a therapist who lives and works in San Francisco. She has provided brief and long-term therapy for individuals and couples utilizing schema, cognitive, behavioral and mindfulness-based therapies to address interpersonal issues, weight management, anger, depression, anxiety, disabilities, and trauma. Skeen has studied schema therapy under Jeffrey Young PhD and Wendy Behary and completed her postdoctoral work at the University of California, San Francisco. She is the author of Love Me Don’t Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships and The Critical Partner: How to End the Cycle of Criticism and Get the Love You Want. Michelle is coauthor of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems: Using Mindfulness, Acceptance and Schema Awareness to Change Interpersonal Behaviors and The Interpersonal Problems Workbook: ACT to End Painful Relationship Patterns. She is currently working on her fifth book for New Harbinger Publications. Michelle is part-time faculty at Notre Dame de Namur University. She hosts a weekly radio show called Relationships 2.0 with Dr. Michelle Skeen on KCAA-1050AM. To find out more about Michelle Skeen, PsyD visit her website at:michelleskeen.com, “like” her on Facebook MichelleSkeenPsyD, and follow her on twitter @michelle_skeen.

Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in magical thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one—so ignoring them isn’t really a practical solution. They’re frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them. Disarming the Narcissist, Second Edition, will show you how to move past the narcissist’s defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You’ll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it’s sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you’ll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you’ll also find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist.

Dealing with a Narcissist: Do you need to tame a narcissist in your life? Wendy Behary has some answers that will imprve your relationship.