Girl On Top: ShallonXO

Work hard? Stay humble? How about…no. I'll get you pumped for Evil Week with a sinister pep talk AGAINST kindness and hard work why you should flip to the dark side. Join me for the rest of Evil Week starting Oct 25, link below! 

If you've done some changing, growing, or even just WANT to, you may encounter pushback from people who need you to stay predictable and small. I'll tell you how to stand firm in your beliefs and be true to yourself without destroying all your relationships! 

This week's episode dives deeper into a recent YouTube video about friends who tell you want you want to hear…even when it's not in your best interest. I'll help you smoke out who's doing this for the wrong reasons, and give some tips on how to trust yourself over anyone!

There's nothing worse than perfectly understanding why a guy is bad for you… But missing him anyway. I'll tell you why it's ok that you can't snap your fingers and be over it, and give you a psychological trick to ACTUALLY get over it!

It's the perfect time to clean out our emotional closets and rebrand…but how? I'll tell you how to leave things behind and cut out situations and people who are no longer serving you.  

This week we're going to get inspiration from an unlikely place: Top Gun: Maverick. Yes, the movie. I'll tell you how one character sparked an ah-ha moment about what to do when a guy needs saving!  

Do you find yourself blabbing way too much and kicking yourself after? Well I sure do. I'll break down why we overshare, what need it's kicking up inside, and 3 easy steps to holding your boundaries and honoring yourself! 

Setting boundaries and ditching toxic people feels AMAZING right?! No. Not so much. I'll give you tips to navigate the anxiety, shame and sadness of standing up for yourself, confronting a toxic person, or cutting someone off!  💜COME TO ITALY 💜https://bit.ly/3ymoHOK 💜SAVE A RAINFOREST ANIMAL! 💜 https://bit.ly/3xowECl 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Confession: I ghost friends. If you're being blanked by a bestie (or a guy), I'll give a counter point to what may be going through their head and how to prevent it from happening! 💜SAVE A RAINFOREST ANIMAL! 💜 https://bit.ly/3xowECl 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I'll tell you how I learned to stop seething over my friends love or accomplishments and how to feel confident in my own lane and life! 💜SAVE A RAINFOREST ANIMAL! 💜 https://bit.ly/3xowECl 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stressed because you don't have it all figured out yet? Trying to manifest your dreams but nothings really happening? I'll break down the right way to attract your perfect life, And give you a pep talk if you don't even know where to begin!

Graduating from college is terrifying and exhausting, but i'll give you some tips on adjusting to corporate life, dealing with male-dominated industries, and post grad burn out. And head over to my YouTube channel for videos on how to find your passion and trust your dreams! 💜JOIN ME IN PARIS 💜 https://bit.ly/3MJFtvD 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're a recent graduate—or just a person existing in the world—chances are people give you lots of “feedback” whether you ask for it or not. I'll tell you how to process it with more neutrality and less defensiveness!  💜JOIN ME IN PARIS 💜 https://bit.ly/3MJFtvD 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is a relationship doomed if you sleep together on the first date? What's the ideal timeline to shagging for the first time? I'll explain a man's mentality on a girl who puts out and how to up your chances of keeping him interested! 💜JOIN ME IN PARIS 💜 https://bit.ly/3PzsyOY 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we hear from a Shalligator hoping to flip the script on a longtime hookup buddy. I'll tell you EXACTLY what to say to change how he sees you and the trajectory of your situation!  💜JOIN ME IN ITALY!💜 https://bit.ly/35xkmN1 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

After a week traveling solo around Paris, I'll share with you my tips on slaying the dragon of loneliness and an easy plan to conquer your fear brain and live your best life—no +1 required!  💜JOIN ME IN ITALY!💜 https://bit.ly/35xkmN1 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cutting off a friend isn't easy…but what if they refuse to get the hint? What if they turn toxic and try to ruin your other friendships? I'll give you the script on how to deal with an ex-bestie who just won't get gone! 💜JOIN ME IN MEXICO💜 https://bit.ly/3JemCrb 💜STILL WANNA COME TO ITALY?💜 https://bit.ly/35xkmN1 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Looking to get back in touch with a bestie? Well, maybe there's a reason you unplugged in the first place. Using tips from our book club selection, “Essentialism,” I hope you decide which friendships are worth salvaging and tell you exactly how to do it! 💜JOIN ME IN MEXICO💜 https://bit.ly/3JemCrb 💜STILL WANNA COME TO ITALY?💜 https://bit.ly/35xkmN1 💜READ ESSENTIALISM💜 https://a.co/cs7qJw3 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Did your boyfriend's efforts drop off once he “got” you? I'll tell you how to re-ignite his need to hunt you down WITHOUT having to grovel, beg or play games. Just kidding, you'll play a lot of games—but you'll win, honey.  💜JOIN ME IN MEXICO💜 https://bit.ly/3JemCrb 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Love being poor? And overworked and overlooked? Amazing! Then definitely start or continue that on-the-job flirtation! I'm breaking down office flings and why The Office's Pam and Jim are anything but #CoupleGoals!  💜JOIN ME IN MEXICO💜 https://bit.ly/3JemCrb 💜SAVE A HOMELESS DOG💜 https://bit.ly/33fuA3u 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A question from a sorority-saturated Shalligator and my own trip to my college town reminded me that I wasn't always a warm blooded alpha female—quite the opposite. This episode, I'll give advice to my younger self, and tell you the ONE WORD I wish I'd had as my mantra!  💜JOIN ME IN MEXICO💜 https://bit.ly/3JemCrb 💜SAVE A HOMELESS DOG💜 https://bit.ly/33fuA3u 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the world gets back to pre-pandemic normal, I'll tell you how to over ride fear, take bold new chances and friend smarter, not harder! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com  💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We know Hurt Lockers as those guys we just cannot get over…but what if your obsession is a friend? If you're gnawing on a frenemy who treated you poorly, I'll tell you why borrowing a drop of their dark magic is the key to moving on!  💜SAVE A HOMELESS DOG 💜 https://bit.ly/33fuA3u 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last episode we unpacked the bizarre and exhausting feeling of having high self esteem but low self worth. This week, I'll tell you how to dig yourself out of this rut and demand your worth from the world!  💜JOIN ME COSTA RICA 💜 https://bit.ly/32QBxYz 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel burnt out dating? Exhausted by men? Bitter and resentful? There's a reason: you have high self esteem but low self worth. This week I'll break down this confusing concept and how to fix it! 💜 JOIN ME IN COSTA RICA 💜 https://bit.ly/32QBxYz 💜 ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜 FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜 ENJOYING IT? 💜 Please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is in full swing… and burnout might be too. I'll tell you how burnout can trick you into thinking you're falling for someone, and help set boundaries not only to keep burnout at bay, but why they're crucial to keeping a guy interested! 💜JOIN ME IN THE DOMINICAN💜 https://bit.ly/DRwithShallonxo 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who doesn't want to have a hot girl summer? But there's a right way and a wrong way to have a summer fling. I'll break down the definition of a successful summer romance, and exactly the kind of guys to avoid if you're not looking to get your heart broken! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tired of talking yourself to death about your feelings and boundaries when a guy is disrespectful? I will give you four (science backed!) magic words to communicate your point without sounding desperate, naggy or needy—and put the ball back in his court!  💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last week we talked about when to stop leaning in and take a pause to lean back, and this week we'll outline 4 steps to cope with burnout and use it as a set up to being your most authentic self! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a time to lean in…but there's a time to step away. If you're feeling anxious about reentering society, burnt out on socialization, exhausted by relationship, or just need a little bit of a pause for yourself, I will tell you how to disengage and embrace a self-serving season! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to have a hot girl summer but…what exactly does that mean? For me, it means not needing approval or rescuing from any guy or even society. I'll break down how to deal with body shamers and why gettin' yo bag is the key to happiness!  💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Putting yourself out there is crucial to making friends…but what do you do when your coupled up galpals aren’t reciprocating the effort? This week we’ll help a Shalligator who is the odd (single!) girl out in a sea of loved up ladies.  💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on YouTube I explained why silence is your main weapon if you want an ex back, but here we’ll delve a little deeper into the strategy behind it. Plus, we’ll follow up to my tale about a booty call that became a wife, and what precisely she said to him to get out of the sex zone and into an engagement ring!  Take the MedCerts quiz to see if becoming a medical professional is right for you, and start your 21-day free trial now at medcerts.com/shallon   💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜JUMPSTART YOUR HEALTHCARE CAREER💜  http://medcerts.com/shallon 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to a Shalligator who wants to rekindle things with a guy she rejected (twice!) and another who wants her husband to morph back into the man she married, and not the mega douche he's become. I'll help you let go of regret and knock some sense into guys who are letting you slip away!  💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜SHOP MY CUSTOM QUILT COLLAB💜 https://jlbeautyllc.com/collections/quilts/products/biscuit-rag-quilt-by-shallon-lester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT?💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With summer around the corner, it’s easy to have spring fever about boys and dating. But before you start swiping, texting or hooking up, I’ll give you a pep talk on why we NEVER CHASE. Plus, I’ll help a Shalligator who isn’t sure if she’s worked through her issues enough to get out in the dating game. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜GET CUSTOM HAIR CARE 💜 www.formulate.co/podcast, use code “SHALLON” at checkout 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating apps are a great way to meet guys…and an excellent way to completely waste your time with f*ckboys! I’ll tell you red flags to look for in a boy’s profile, plus help one Shalligator who isn’t sure if her new Bumble boy is all in or all trouble! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! Go check out their website at w ww.usualwines.com and use my discount code “SHALLON” for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! 💜GET A SECRET, SECURE PHONE NUMBER💜 https://hushed.com/promo/shallon CODE SHALLON25! 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Change sucks. Change is the worst when it’s change you didn’t particularly ask for...but isn’t MOST change out of your control? I’ll give you five tips on becoming more resilient instead of bitter and erotic, and talk to one shower gator whose ex just dropped a bomb about the change in his own life! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself attracting guys who don’t really have a social life of their own? Or are your “friends” flaky, frazzled and forgettable? I’ll give you tips on getting a life for him AND yourself! Head on over to www.formulate.co/podcast complete the brief hair questionnaire and use my code “SHALLON” at checkout. Order today and you will get a second order FREE. 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We should all be visualizing what we want out of our future but what do you do when imagination goes bad? If you struggle with romanticizing things at the expense of reality, I’ll give you the two keys to happiness and help you pump the breaks on a runaway emotional train! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’ll break down the psychology of beta males who neg amazing women, plus share some lessons from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Essentialism,” and help you walk away from “perfect” opportunities that don’t feel so perfect after all.  💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜GET FORMULATE HAIR CARE 💜 http://www.formulate.co/podcast use code SHALLON  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we emerge out of the pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to remake things into a new normal, from our job situation to our friendship. I’ll tell you how to rejigger dynamics that are/aren’t working, plus talk to a Shalligator who worries that she may have followed “Why Men Love Bitches” a little TOO closely! 💜GET “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight fair! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! analuisa.com/GIRLONTOP go treat yourself and your loved ones with a unique gift and use my code GIRLONTOP to get 10%off 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you!  Go to FlexFits.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! Go to AnaLuisa.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 10% off your piece! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct of a boundary-less life! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness.  Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata comes out every Wednesday, on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts! Go to Curology.com/SHALLION for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it!  Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! 💜READ “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If a friend vanishes out of your life, do they deserve to get let back in? I’ll help a Shalligator who is wondering if a long lost pal wants another chance or if it’s time to let things go. ALSO! Listen to XO Radio every Wednesday on the Stationhead app (free!) where I play my fave tunes and break down their lessons. AND! Subscribe to my intimate new blog, Eat Prey Love.  💜READ EAT PREY LOVE 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, a Shalligator is at her wits end with guys who seem to break up with her because they “can’t give you what you need.” But the gag is, she doesn’t really need that much! Is this just a line guys are handing her, or is she portraying herself has way more high maintenance than she is? I’ll decode it all! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com  💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices