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Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, chemical dependency counselor, executive coach, and organization coach. jerrywise5@gmail.com | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com | (317) 919-6264 | Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

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    13 Super Specific Signs That Your Childhood Was Extremely Damaging

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2024 11:46


    Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have'- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B161 In this video, I share 13 super-specific signs that reveal how damaging your childhood may have been. Recognizing these signs will help you uncover the lasting effects of your early experiences and understand how they continue to impact your life today. This empowers you to start healing, break free from unhealthy patterns, and embrace a healthier, more fulfilling future. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU

    Narcissistic Parents: Adaptive Behaviors You Used as a Child to Survive Them

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2024 13:14


    Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have'- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B160 In this video, I explore the adaptive behaviors you developed as a child to survive narcissistic parents and a difficult childhood. Understanding these behaviors will help you recognize your habits—both from childhood and adulthood—so you can finally self-differentiate from them and heal from your past. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU

    Narcissistic Parents: Unacceptable Abuse They Trained You to Tolerate

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2024 8:35


    Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have'- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been conditioned to accept, set higher standards for yourself, and become your true self, regardless of whether others like it or not. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU

    Narcissistic Parents: Unacceptable Abuse They Trained You to Tolerate

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2024 14:13


    Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have'- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been conditioned to accept, set higher standards for yourself, and become your true self, regardless of whether others like it or not. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU

    Narcissistic Parents Behaviors that Cause Deep-Rooted LONELINESS

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2023 15:24


    Discover how narcissistic parents' behaviors lead to deep and lasting loneliness in you. This video breaks down key traits and their impact.

    Narcissistic Parent Tactics That Cause Childhood Trauma and CPTSD

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2023 25:31


    Narcissistic parents often use tactics that lead to CPTSD, childhood trauma and can have long-lasting effects on you as an adult. This is how I can help you

    5 Keys for Getting the Narcissist Out of You

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2022 24:40


    Are you having trouble getting the narcissist out of you? Jerry Wise is a life and relationship coach and been helping people for over 40 years using a family systems approach to recovery and healing. In this video he shares 5 keys for helping you get the narcissist out of you. He talks about using a paradoxical acceptance tool, unlocking the interlocking relationships in the past with the narcissist, stopping systems behaviors and resisting systems feelings, resisting and overcoming obsessive thinking, and turning your obsession to self love. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at: www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZWHfOsTVegeEFEXV56llWA Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ #invisible #feelinginvisible #narcissism #jerrywise #stages #stagesofresistance #resistance #courage #consistency #patience #self #boundaries #boundary #lovebombing #lovebomb #familylovebombing #family #excessive #emotional #dysfunctionalfamily #dysfunctional #boundaries #worry #disrespect #jerrywise #needyoursupport #god #ideal #compliments #stringsattached #deeds #emotions #familyselfvsrealself #anxiety #reactivity #selfabandonment #selfdenial #selfpowerlessness #selfborrowing #selfhelp #self #beliefs #feelings #actions #emotionalprocess #maturity #dysfunctional #dysfunctionalfamily #foo #family #parents #calm #calmness #selfcare #selfdifferentiation #jerrywise #narcissism #youtubevideo #yt #youtubeexplore #narcissist #narcissism #empathy #learning #learn #youtube #trending #trend #boundaries #acoa #acon #bowenfamilysystems #bowentherapy #trauma #narcissisticfamilies #wise #superpower #superpowers #relationship #relationships #views #familyoforigin #inside #abuse #abusiverelationships #abusiverelationship #familyissues #wise #wiser #narcissistic #narcisismo #narcisista #famous #blowthisup #youtuber #viral #viralvideo #convert #selfhelpvideos #selfhelp #innerchild #reparenting #selfdifferentiation #keys #jerrywise #podcast #spotifypodcasts --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    "Resists the Forces to Fit in with the Group" 6 of 7

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2020 12:50


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy mature inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: "Resists the forces to fit in with the group ethos when it contradicts their values" Number 6 of the 7 part series Our aim is to resist group think, group feel, the family superself, the workplace superself, and following the herd. Stating I-positions without reactivity, with calmness, and focusing on Self when dealing with others and the group ethos (values, morals, opinions). Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which we disagree with others. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up". He explains each one. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and life and relationship coach. He and his team work with individuals, couples, and families and businesses to become strong self-differentiating people and leaders. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's YouTube Channel, Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work. "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others." 5/7 and 7/7

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2020 10:36


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others." Number 5 of 7 part series Jerry Wise Life and Relationship Coach explains what it means to be rescued by others and taking over for others. Using Bowen Family Systems Theory he describes the sharing of Self with others. Giving and taking of self is common in dysfunctional relationships. He explains how we can identify and avoid this so we can be self-differentiated. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up". He explains each one. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's YouTube Channel, Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/ Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work. "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset" 4 of 7

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2020 12:01


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset" Number 4 of the 7 Part Series Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which others are upset or are upset with us. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up". He explains each one. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    "Improves themselves without blaming others" - No. 3 / 7

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2020 12:38


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships. Blaming keeps the focus on others and will keep us stuck. Jerry offers helps to resist SELF-blame and OTHER-blame. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up. He explains each one. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort No. 2/7

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2020 18:28


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up. He explains each one. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Getting Feelings in Line with Our Values No. 1 of 7

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 1, 2020 15:45


    -What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult? Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home. KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values. Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up. He explains each one. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Over-seriousness Kills Self Differentiation

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2020 26:56


    Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion. To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness. When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter. The world will thank us for this. (The exception when there is a grief or loss or tragedy), most things people get over-serious about are over nothing or small things. For more help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com or 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    The Problem is Not the Problem

    Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2020 14:25


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is an international relationship coach and self-differentiation specialist and teaches family systems approach to healing and recovery. In this video Jerry presents a family systems perspective of relationship problems. Problems are symptoms of deeper problems. Often we use the same thinking that got us into the problem. Jerry Wise offers the viewer a way to think 'outside the box' and zoom out to see the deeper sources of our problems. Listen to his podcasts on Spotify, Itunes, and all the major streaming apps. Sign up for his May 30, 2020 workshop on his website. You can contact or work with Jerry Wise by reaching him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com or 1-317-919-6264 (USA) or jerrywise5@gmail.com Jerry Wise has clients all over the world, if you are looking for a new kind of help contact him. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    The Power of Intentional Disappointment and Staying-Self Differentiated

    Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2020 18:46


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Letting Everybody Around You Grow Up

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2020 24:18


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a self expert for 40 years.  He offers 12 steps to allowing other people to grow up.  Over-functioning is a serious problem along with Codependency resulting in supporting the immaturity of others.  Jerry Wise stresses the importance of allowing others to grow up we have to get out of their way.  This builds self-differentiation as well as maturely placing the responsibility on others to grow themselves up.  To work with Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, Self Expert contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 (US) | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Surviving Your Family's Emotional Cancer--Enmeshment

    Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2020 23:24


    Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach - In dysfunctional families ENMESHMENT or over-closeness is a overabundance of a good thing.  Just like cancer it is an overgrowth of togetherness and closeness.  This enmeshment process is very damaging, emotionally disabling, painful, and pervasive in the lives of those who suffer in enmeshed families.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC explains the problems faced by those who are still enmeshed in their family-of-origin and uses his 39+ years of experience to show them the way out and the way to maturity and freedom.  For professional help in office or through Skype or Facetime contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    True Feelings vs Systems Feelings

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2020 31:30


    Watch this video and you will understand the emotional system and it works in a much better way! Systems feelings control so many people's lives. These are not the true us or the true state of our feelings. True feelings are pushed out or overwhelmed by these "systems feelings" which arise from our past and our current functioning in relationships. Jerry Wise is a 40 year veteran of helping people to quiet and resolve these systems feelings. As a self-differentiation/family systems expert he coaches people to discover their true selves. Contact Jerry Wise at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Declaring Self: A Key to Self Differentiation

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2020 25:00


    So you think you are ready to stand up for yourself. This video helps you prepare for those self defining events with your family of origin, spouses and friends by Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach. Being assertive and standing up for yourself is a science. Jerry Wise explains the dynamics of the family systems concept of "declaring self" which is self assertiveness from a systems perspective. For more help contact Jerry T. Wise, MA, MS, CLC at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    The Basics of Self-Differentiation

    Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2020 13:36


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life and relationship coach. He as been helping people for 40+ years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, business leaders, and therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    5 Stages of ACOA Recovery From Acceptance to Self Differentiation

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 27:06


    Jerry Wise has been an expert in helping ACOA/ACA's for 40 years. Learn the 5 stages of recovery for ACOA's in this video. For more personal help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients all over the world. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Secrets to Loving and ACOA

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 10:34


    Loving an ACoA can be a challenge. Relationships can be a real adventure. This videos offers help, support and insight to those who are in a relationship with an ACA. Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise uses his 40+ years of experience working with ACOA's to help couples and families achieve a greater sense of happiness and health in their lives. Contact me at Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com For in office or Skype and Facetime help online. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    ACOA's Struggle for Intimacy

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 10:35


    Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise helps ACA's deal with the struggle for intimacy. Jerry has been helping people for 40 years with ACOA, Codependency, and adult children of narcissists issues. ACOA's ask many questions about achieving intimacy and healthy relationships. This videos will help ACOA's and spouses of those who love them. Contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com or 317-919-6264 to work with Jerry Wise. jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    ACOA's and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 21:41


    Growing up in an alcoholic (or narcissistic) home or drug addicted home created traumas for the child growing up in this addicted home resulting in post traumatic disorder symptoms. This chronic recurring trauma experienced as a child is carried into adulthood and into our relationships. Healing and recovery is essential for the ACOA. Jerry Wise, MA, MS has been working with ACOA's for 37 years. Often ACA's minimize the impact of the alcoholic caregiver or, parent on them as adults, but the symptoms and brokenness remains. Contact Jerry Wise for Skype and face time sessions anywhere in the world. Contact: jerrywise5@gmail.com or 317-919-6264 (USA). Thanks for watching. Jerry Wise is also available for individualized intensive sessions and can travel to you. jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    5 Secrets to a Great ACOA Recovery

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 19:23


    What does ACOA/ACA recovery entail? Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise shares his 39+ years of experience working with ACOA individuals and couples. His 5th key is often the most overlooked and the one least engaged in. You can set up an appointment with Jerry Wise at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com He works with his clients via Skype, Facetime, Google Hangouts. Check out exclusive content on his Facebook page at Jerry Wise Relationship Systems and Twitter @JerryWiseRS --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    ACOA Self Care-Slowing Down the Process

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 19:59


    Jerry Wise has been a relationship expert for 40 years. He is an expert in his work with Adult Children of Alcoholics. He defines health for ACOA's as working and achieving self differentiation. To work with Jerry contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 (USA) / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com If your life doesn't work and you are an adult child of alcoholics or other dysfunctions get help now for a happier life. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Alcoholics Get Ahead of Themselves

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 12:15


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Alcoholics Marriages Surviving and Thriving

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 24:55


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for over 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at jerrywise5@gmail.com / 317-919-6264 / www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    ACOA Family Rules: Don't Talk, Don't Think, Don't Feel

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 9:36


    Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach is an expert in addictions, codependency, pastoral counseling, and marital and family therapy he explains family life growing up in an alcoholic home and how it affects our adult life. ACOA's learn three rules growing up Don't Talk, Don't Think, Don't Feel. Jerry Wise shares how these rules cause problems for ACOA's and how they can recover from these toxic rules. For more help contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 / jerrywise5@gmail.com / jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com He provides Skype/Facetime counseling --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    The ACOA Wound--the Empty Hole

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 15:46


    As an ACOA have you ever felt a hole inside your stomach or inside your heart. This hole creates emptiness and pain for those who grew up in alcoholic/addicted families. Jerry Wise, MA, MS explains this "hole" and offers hope and recovery for those who suffer with it. Thanks for listening. Contact Jerry Wise for professional help at 317-919-6264 jwlearning@hotmail.com He offers in-office and online help for those who desire an expert in ACA issues and recovery. by Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC 317-919-6264 / jerrywise@gmail.com / jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    ACOA: Why Do I Keep Living the Past Over and Over?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 17:02


    Do you find yourself re-living your life problems over and over again? Self Differentiation Expert Jerry Wise has been a relationship and family expert for 40 years he works with ACOA's and adult children of dysfunctional families and Adult Children of Narcissist Parents. Jerry Wise offers the reasons why ACA's ACOA's find themselves stuck and reliving their past over and over. He also offers the way out and how to get unstuck and move on in your recovery. Please share with your social media. Thanks by Jerry T. Wise, MA, MS Contact Jerry Wise to set up an appointment with him via Skype or Facetime. jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Alcoholics Learning to Stay With Themselves

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2020 14:29


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for over 40 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at: jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/ Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 25:16


    For adult children of narcissistic parents, life can present many difficulties and challenges as a result of narcissistic abuse. Do you feel you can never measure up in your marriage, job, or other facets of your life? Do you struggle with fear, shame, guilt and other emotions that have you feeling hopelessly stuck? Jerry Wise is a relationship systems expert, and has helped people all over the world heal the wounds of growing up under the cloud of narcissism in their parents. In this video, Jerry explains the signs of having grown up in this environment, and the steps to take for healing and freedom. For help or to schedule a personal session with Jerry contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: A Controlled Separation

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 12:03


    In this podcast, Jerry explains the benefits of a controlled separation from narcissistic parents or family members for the adult child. See how you can remain emotionally connected without having the fog of your current relationship getting in the way. And if you'd like more information or to contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC for an appointment, you can call him at (317)919-6264 , or email him at JerryWise5@gmail.com. jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com NOTE: THE ADVICE IN THIS PODCAST WOULD NOT BE HELPFUL FOR THOSE WHO EXPERIENCE TRAUMATIZING NARCISSISTIC PARENTS OR MALIGNANT NARCISSISTIC PARENTS. Also this is a podcast I am talking about parents in which we can use self-differentiation and maintain the relationship. So all of us have to choose is this a self-differentiation-needed relationship or a no-contact-needed relationship. Please share on your social media. Thanks --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Dysfunctional Families 'Eat Their Own'

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 15:20


    Are you being cannibalized by your family of origin? If so, how can you heal and develop a more mature and healthy way of interacting with your family members? It is possible, and in this video, Jerry explains how. If you would like more information, or to schedule an appointment with Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, you can contact him at (317) 919-6264 JerryWise5@gmail.com jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children Surviving a Toxic Family of Origin

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 14:42


    Did you come from a toxic family of origin? Was narcissism, alcoholism, physical or emotional abuse, or other forms of dysfunction ever-present in your home? You have survived that, and in this video, Jerry discusses how you can heal without becoming disconnected from loved ones. If you'd like more information, or to schedule a session with Jerry, you can reach him at (317) 919-6264 JerryWise5@gmail.com. jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Please also follow him on Twitter at @JerryWiseRS. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: Taking Back Your Power

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 15:10


    Adult children of narcissistic parents can be emotionally enmeshed with the narcissist in their life, to the point that they feel they have no power to break free and become self-differentiated. In this video, Jerry explains how ACON's can take back their power and achieve freedom from their narcissistic family member. If you would like more information, or to make an appointment with Jerry, you can reach him at (317) 919-6264 JerryWise5@gmail.com jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissists: Stop the Emotional Self-Harm

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 15:55


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Narcissism: Stop the Flying Monkeys

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 16:42


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Twitter at @JerryWiseRS. Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissists: The Pain of Growing Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 24:23


    Jerry Wise is a self-expert and marriage and family expert. This video is a powerful experience of one of his clients growing up. She grew up with an abusive narcissistic mother and ineffective father. She was traumatized, dehumanized, objectified, and shamed. This was the set up for her adulthood problems. She is now in recovery and doing well overcoming the abuse and finding her true Self. Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC believes healing is possible for those who suffered so traumatically growing up. ACON's are survivors. Contact Jerry Wise at jerrywise5@gmail.com, www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 (US). He has clients all over the world and uses Skype, Facetime, Google Hangouts, or IMO to connect with clients. If there is no Self-Expert/Coach in your area contact Jerry Wise. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    How to Lose a Narcissist in 10 Days

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 19:59


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 or at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Six Painful Core Issues for Adult Children of Narcissists

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 20:53


    Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is a relationship expert and works with clients all over the world to find an authentic self in spite of past abuse, trauma, and dysfunctional or toxic families. This video explains six important issues for ACON's to address, resolve and recover from. Contact Jerry Wise for one-on-one help at jerrywise5@gmail.com 317-919-6264 (USA) jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

    Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents: Taking Back Your Power

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2020 15:10


    Adult children of narcissistic parents can be emotionally enmeshed with the narcissist in their life, to the point that they feel they have no power to break free and become self-differentiated. In this video, Jerry explains how ACON's can take back their power and achieve freedom from their narcissistic family member. If you would like more information, or to make an appointment with Jerry, you can reach him at (317) 919-6264 jwlearning@hotmail.com / jerrywise5@gmail.com jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerry-wise/support

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