Podcasts about family of origin

Pastor Jim explores 1 Kings 15, focusing on King Asa. He highlights the importance of dethroning and resisting idols inherited from our families of origin and remaining devoted to God, even when it's hard. Pastor Jim encourages listeners to examine family patterns, and to seek guidance from the Holy Spirit through Gospel community, Scripture, and prayer. A life fully aligned with Jesus not only brings personal transformation but also empowers mission and impact in the world.

Just over a year ago, my father died. I was 53. Thousands of people testified to his positive impact in their lives. Me included. And…the event helped me reveal some patterns I'd repeated, that were not constructive for my life. One of the stories I share in my book, What Drives You, is that of Lori Harder. Lori was raised in a very strict, religious family. She cites they were very sedentary and most of their family time out of church, existed on the couch watching TV and eating junk food. There were all very overweight and it led to her being significantly bullied in school. But then a visit to a friend's home opened her eyes to a different world. One of an active and healthy lifestyle with very different engagements to the world. She ultimately became a fitness model and today leads a large organization leading people to pursue their more evolved self. So I'm bringing back our conversation from years ago, before I put her in my book, to hear her story. And how it led her to focus on our “tribes.” My focus is on the power of who we surround ourselves with. Are they influences that are helping us evolve, or devolve? And in today's culture, we've also got to watch out for isolation where we don't really have a tribe any longer. You can find Lori Harder…anywhere. Just type it in as it sounds, L O R I. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial. Use my promo code WHATDRIVESYOU for 10% off on any CleanMyMac's subscription plans Join millions of Americans reaching their financial goals—starting at just $3/month! Get $25 towards your first stock purchase at get.stash.com/DRIVE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, we dive into the power of reckoning with our personal stories - the formative experiences and wounds from our past that shape who we are today, often in ways we don't fully understand. My guest, Adam Young, has spent years helping people make sense of their stories, to find freedom and wholeness. As Adam shares, the truth is, our past isn't just the past - it's deeply woven into our present. The feelings, fears, and patterns we carry from childhood can profoundly impact our relationships, our mental health, even our sense of calling. But the good news is, our brains have an incredible capacity for change and integration. Through curiosity, kindness, and the support of others, we can begin to uncover the hidden narratives that have been subtly steering the course of our lives. And in doing so, we open the door to a deeper, truer version of ourselves - one that can finally step into the unique purpose we were made for. This is a conversation about the transformative power of reckoning with our stories, no matter how messy or painful they may be. It's about finding the courage to face our past, so we can step more fully into our future. So join us as we make sense of our stories. Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. Adam is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Master degree in Social Work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University). Adam is the author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Story with Kindness Changes Everything. He currently serves as a Fellow and Instructor at The Allender Center. Adam lives in Fort Collins, CO, with his wife and two children.Adam's Book:Make Sense of Your StoryAdam's Recommendations:The Prophetic ImaginationGenesis: InterpretationSubscribe to Our Substack: Shifting CultureConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, Bluesky or Email jjohnson@allnations.us, so we can get your creative project off the ground! Email jjohnson@allnations.us, so we can get your creative project off the ground! Faith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify Faith That Challenges. Conversations that Matter. Laughs included. Subscribe Now!Breaking down faith, culture & big questions - a mix of humor with real spiritual growth. Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the show

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We're exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below, along with the FREE Family of Origin Roles workbook, Reclaiming You.We're taking a look at “The Rebel” role in today's episode. Some family systems are well-equipped to handle disagreement, debate, and resistance. But when a family is under pressure in any way, a child who questions or challenges the system is going to be seen as a threat. While the Rebel may cling to their strong opinions and double down on their critical stance, feelings of fear, isolation, and anxiety may occur and continue into adulthood, especially around conformity and authority. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Rebel can break free from old stories that their only path to safety was to push back and choose the path of opposition. Relevant links:Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming YouReimagining Love episode: “People-Pleasing vs. Brutal Honesty: When & How to Share Feedback with Your Partner”Reimagining Love episode: “When Having ‘No Filter' Hurts a Relationship”Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizDr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). We're exploring how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! All previous role-specific episodes are also linked below.We're taking a look at “The Parentified Child” role in today's episode. The child cast into this role likely heard that they were “so mature,” “wise beyond their years,” or were praised for their comforting presence when they were growing up. The problem? Kids shouldn't have to provide emotional support to the adults in their family. Unfortunately for the Parentified Child, this felt like the surest route to safety and love, perhaps due to a chaotic environment, overwhelmed parents, or conflict in the family system. As an adult, the Parentified Child carries with them a certain set of beliefs and tendencies that they picked up as a kid in this role. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Parentified Child can free themselves from always taking on others' needs and create more egalitarian relationships that feel safe and nourishing.Relevant links:Reimagining Love episode with Dr. Hillary McBride: Getting Present: Tuning Into Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBrideReimagining Love series: “I Love My Partner, But Their Family is Toxic”: Part 1, Part 2Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls' Childhood (Rebecca Epstein, Jamilia J. Blake, Thalia González, from the Center on Poverty and Inequality, Georgetown Law)Past episodes of the Family of Origin Roles Series: Introductory Episode, The Perfect One (From Performance to Presence), The Easy One (From Accommodation to Authenticity), The Struggling One (From Scapegoat to Self-Advocate), The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist)Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizDr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Join us in this enlightening episode as we delve into the profound impact that our family of origin has on our mental and emotional development. Drawing connections between childhood experiences and adult behaviors, we explore the notion of neuroplasticity and how our early years can shape us in unexpected ways. From the concept of attachment theory to understanding family systems through the lens of Erickson's Eight Stages of Development, we reflect on how familiar patterns can influence our relationships and self-perception. Whether you're seeking to understand family dynamics or looking for ways to heal and grow beyond your upbringing, this episode offers insights and hope for navigating your personal development journey. For more information about Rebecca, this podcast, and her upcoming book, go to jesusandyourmentalhealth.com

DR. MOSHE DANIEL BLOCK, ND, VDP, HMC, VNMI, is a highly accomplished naturopathic doctor, author, and pioneer in mind-body healing. Dr. Moshe's innovative Vis Dialogue approach has evolved over his 25 years in practice, achieving transformative outcomes for thousands of patients. He began training practitioners in this technique in 2012, creating a full certification program for Holistic Counseling (VDP) to extend his approach to more healthcare providers. Having personally overcome myasthenia gravis, a rare autoimmune disorder, using naturopathic principles, Dr. Moshe offers one-on-one healing programs aimed at helping patients navigate chronic illnesses and personal suffering by finding the "Kingdom in You" His work continues to make an impact in the fields of naturopathic and holistic medicine, offering a unique blend of traditional and modern healing philosophies.   He received his Naturopathic Doctor (ND) degree from the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine in 2000 and later completed the Homeopathic Master Clinician (HMC) course under the tutelage of Louis Klein in 2003. He became a Vitalist of the Naturopathic Medicine Institute (VNMI) in 2018.   As an advocate for a philosophical approach to healing, Dr. Moshe authored "The Revolution of Naturopathic Medicine: Remaining True to Our Philosophy" in 2004, exploring the foundations of naturopathic practice. He later published "Holistic Counseling – Introducing the Vis Dialogue" in 2016, which introduces his unique method, the Vis Dialogue, a holistic counseling technique uniting mind-body medicine and psychology. He also published the book titled “The Letting Go of Free Will”  in 2004, it is about the healing ancient belief systems inherited through Torah.   www.dr-moshe.com www.holistic-counseling.ca BOOK: Holistic Counseling on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Holistic-Counseling-Introducing-Breakthrough-Psychology/dp/1785352091  

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it!We're taking a look at “The Peacemaker” role in today's episode. All families have conflict, and it's common for one child in the family to play a referee or mediator role, either through intervention or more subtler peacemaking strategies, such as comic relief. As adults, Peacemakers likely find themselves between friends and family members when there are tensions and may struggle to extract themselves from these dynamics. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Peacemaker can embark on their healing journey.Relevant links:Reimagining Love: Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning DynamicTake the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it!We're taking a look at “The Struggling One” role in today's episode. In some families, there is an individual who needs more care and attention than others. There are a number of reasons why this might be the case, including a difference in ability, a behavioral challenge, or a mental health condition. In any case, the “struggling one” is the recipient of a lot of the family system's energy, and this dynamic may lead to certain challenges and strengths for that person in adulthood. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Struggling One can embark on their healing journey.Relevant links:Minorities Less Likely to Be Identified for Special Education, Study Finds (EducationWeek)‘Boys are disappearing' from mental health care as signs of depression go undetected (NBC News)Girls With Social and/or Attention Deficit Re-Examined in Young Adulthood: Prospective Study of Diagnostic Stability, Daily Life Functioning and Social Situation (National Library of Medicine)The "Spoon Theory" (Christine Miserandino, www.butyoudontlooksick.com)Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question

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Today's episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!We're taking a look at “The Easy One” role in today's episode. If you were the kid who could always “go with the flow” in your family, this might be you. As a child, you didn't express a lot of needs (even though you had them, as we all do!), and that may have been a relief to the Big People in your system, because their attention was needed elsewhere. As an adult, you may identify as a people-pleaser, always attuning yourself to the people around you, wondering how you can make them comfortable or happy. You may believe you're only worthy to the degree that you're accommodating others. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Easy One can embark on their healing journey.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleResources about power exchange / kink:From Michelle Herzog's Center for Modern Relationships: Article Part I, Article Part II Pleasure Mechanics: CoursesPleasure Mechanics: Podcast episodeDipsea: “How to explore light bondage play with your trusted partner” by Toni Sicola (2021)Pillow Talk Podcast (Vanessa + Xander Marin): How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For BeginnersTIME Article: “Why I Kept My Kinks a Secret” by R.O. Kwon (2024)British GQ: “A dominatrix gives a beginners guide to kink” by Daisy Schofield (2024)Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Give the gift of Relational Self-Awareness! All of Dr. Alexandra's online offerings are 20% off until December 20th, 2024! They include the hallmark course "Intimate Relationships 101" and the Reimagining Love Workbook as a beautiful companion to this podcast. Visit https://dralexandrasolomon.com/giftguide2024/ to explore Relational Self-Awareness as you and your loved ones move into the new year.Build essential relationship skills with MasterClass. Dr. Alexandra, Ryan Holiday, and other experts share how you can improve communication, resilience, and relationships with the class “Using Ancient Wisdom to Solve Modern Problems”. Learn more at http://www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon

Today's episode is part of a new solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (aka FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result. Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it last month!Up first in Dr. Alexandra's exploration of family roles is “The Perfect One.”  If you were the superstar kid in your family, known for bringing home good grades and accolades, this might be you. As an adult, perhaps you seek validation and affirmation of your worthiness through tangible accomplishments. You may believe you're only as good and worthy of love as your job title, latest career win, parenting flex, or fitness milestone. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Perfect One can embark on their healing journey.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I co-taught with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You' & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Build essential relationship skills with MasterClass. Dr. Alexandra, Ryan Holiday, and other experts share how you can improve communication, resilience, and relationships with the class “Using Ancient Wisdom to Solve Modern Problems”. Learn more at http://www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomonHey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Today, on Karl and Crew, we kicked off a new theme, "Untangled," and we dove into Hebrews 12:1-2. How can we "throw off" the tangles that come from our families of origin? Karl took us to Alaska for a fishing story, and he revealed his own parents' untangling from their families of origin. He also answered some listener questions in our "Ask Pastor Karl" segment. Finally, we talked with Betsy Wright, the senior director of Prison Fellowship's Angel Tree Every Day. This ministry promotes year-round engagement and support for Angel Tree families by offering ideas, resources, and encouragement to local churches. Check out the highlights of today's program on the Karl and Crew Podcast. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 by Dr. Brad Reedy

Today's episode is the first of a new solo episode series on Reimagining Love about Family-of-Origin Roles. Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messaging about love, connection, and worthiness as a result.To start off this series, we're revisiting this in-depth solo episode, in which Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we might have played in our original family systems. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool. In December, we'll begin releasing role-specific episodes for each of the six roles, starting with “The Perfect One,” so be sure to catch that conversation next month.Visit www.masterclass.com/alexandrasolomon to check out the class I contributed to with Ryan Holiday and other experts about the wisdom of ancient philosophy and how it can help us improve communication, resilience, and relationships.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: “Tending to “Little You” & Exploring Your Family of Origin”Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Hey Reimagining Love Listeners! Quick note here that we're publishing new episodes on an every other week schedule with occasional bonus episodes sprinkled throughout, at least until the end of the year. If you're craving more content in the meantime, you can always search the back catalog and/or find juicy blog posts and other resources at http://dralexandrasolomon.com/

Any close relationship can bring us pain or grief when those we love make choices that are opposite of what we desired. This is especially true for parents with adult children. Thankfully, we can learn to trust our Perfect Father to teach us how to transition into a new season of parenthood.Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi create a safe space to explore the relational dynamics with your adult children. You'll be encouraged to trust Jesus to surround your kids with wounded healers, pray for relational restoration, and practice patience as part of your own apprenticeship to Jesus. Resources for this Episode:Meet with a Soul Shepherding Spiritual DirectorHealthy Feelings, Thriving Faith: Growing Emotionally and Spiritually Through the EnneagramDonate to Support Soul Shepherding and Soul Talks

In this episode, I share a deeply personal conversation with Sallie Mosely about how our family of origin impacts our relationships and decisions. Sallie, a spiritual life coach, author, and musician who was in a long-term neurodiverse marriage shares her unique insights. We explore the role of unhealthy patterns and behaviors, delve into codependency, and discuss the liberating act of letting go of people who no longer serve us. We also examine the reasons why we chose our neurodiverse partners, and the journey towards conflict resolution, dispelling the lies we tell ourselves, and replacement role models. We unravel the unconscious hold of destructive cycles and how to begin to feel worthy and loved.More information on Sallie Mosely: https://sparrowsongstudios.com/about-2/Love Is A Choice: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Choice-Definitive-Unhealthy-Relationships/dp/0785263756Join our community of thriving Cassandra women.https://healingcassandracommunity.com

Send us a textEstranging from your family of origin can leave a profound “hole in the soul” where hope, longing, and fantasy often emerge. Grief, loss, and even PTSD can become lingering ghosts, haunting the loss of those original connections. In this episode, we explore the complexities of family estrangement and the potential for re-establishing new relationships—this time, free from past expectations. Tune in for insights on navigating the journey from loss to healing, and learn how to create healthier, more authentic connections.Support the showWe're eager to hear from you! Feel free to share your thoughts through our anonymous form or simply write to info@freshouttaplans.com with your topic requests or any burning questions you'd like us to explore on the podcast. https://linktr.ee/freshouttaplans

Susette Magana continues our series One Another talking about Where Relationship's Start.   We see our current relationships through the lens of our Family Of Origin.     —— If you want to support what God is doing through Cityline, click here: https://citylineonline.churchcenter.com/giving   Want to learn more about Cityline and how to get involved? Click here: https://citylineonline.org   Are you in need of prayer or someone to talk with? Click here: https://citylineonline.org/prayer   —— Follow us on socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citylineonline/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/citylineonline/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCumM40GFhmHumITXmh8MV0g Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cityline-church/id1308579363?mt=2 Spotify Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0pHyJ5pxtry1tIMlD9ZBPd?si=e01fc4636d5543e1    

Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman is here today to talk about a crucial topic for many of us: navigating family-of-origin relationships as an adult with ADHD. We dive deep into the challenges and complexities neurodivergent individuals face within their families, especially during significant life transitions.Whitney and I discussed how poor communication skills can create friction within families, especially when parents are skeptical about ADHD diagnoses. We emphasized the importance of supportive parental responses and self-awareness for strengthening family bonds. Generational differences in emotional health awareness were another focal point, with older generations often suppressing feelings while younger ones advocate for open expression.The message is hopeful: personal growth can be a pathway to healing relationships.Whitney Goodman - Calling Home Watch this episode on YouTube Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram

ABOUT TALKBACKSOur Talkbacks are great opportunities to see how our faith engages with the world around us. This summer, we're excited to have four evenings that discuss how the gospel changes how we think about race, politics, the world, and our stories.Each Talkback, we get a chance to hear from a speaker for about 45 minutes before spending about 45 minutes in a Q&A. We encourage you to come with questions! SUMMER 2024 LINEUPMay 29 - Jeffrey Heine, “A Theology of Disappointment”June 26 - Heather Parker, “Why Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Life”July 17 - Matt Francisco, “The Endless Anxiety of Discovering Who We Are”July 31 - Joshua Chatraw, “Telling a Better Story”MORE INFOFor more info, visit rccbirmingham.com/talkbacks

Every story is an arousal story, because arousal is the soul's ultimate energy: we long for connection and become panicked at the possibility of disconnection. Arousal, in this sense, is far greater than sexual arousal—it is the energy animating all things. In this episode, we explore the idea of resolved arousal and unresolved arousal, with plenty of story examples and illustrations. Ultimately, we invite you to name how you experienced fulfillment or frustration in your, and the beliefs which became operative in you because of it. In this naming, there is a world of agency, action, and potential freedom. 

Our families of origin are where we get our psychological, relational and values presets and defaults. How can we best look at and understand those pieces that make up who we are? How important to our spiritual journey is our work on our family of origin? Whew! What a journey!!

Send us a Text Message.Our family of origin can be a cause of stress in recovery.  That's the case for me.  I've had to deal with an unexpected situation around my family of origin this week and I needed my higher power to help me through it.  I shared this stress in a way I hope helps you.  In this episode, we get vulnerable and discuss how the past can show up in the present and how to deal with it.  Steve helps me out in not developing new resentments and how to manage stressful situations with the family.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the Show.

In this episode Jussi Light LMFT and Bryson Greaves Ph.d return to discuss How Family of Origin Dynamics can Translate into High Conflict Relationship Later in Life. This episode is a in-depth discussion the talks about how early beliefs can distort present time experiences that can lead to being reactive and taking things personally as well as creating the transference or projection of those early experiences on to the other co-parent. Often these behaviors are talked about in the context of Personality Disorders like Narcissism or Borderline and in less intrusive labels like Attachment Styles, but in this episode Jussi and Bryson lean away from those tables to speak more directly to some of the behaviors that can lead to high conflict. Enjoy !!! Jussi and Bryson can be contacted through their website at https://www.newgrowthcounseling.com Please download or free booklet "When Co-Parenting Doesn't Work" @ https://www.highconflict.net/booklet  and join our mailing list  @ https://www.highconflict.net/emails For classes or one on one consults with Brook please visit our https://www.highconflict.net to register

[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.Relevant links:Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabThe Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover TawwabListen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear ThisConnect with Nedra online and on InstagramOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question  Try First Round's on Me premium with code 'DOCTOR'Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

My guest today is Sharon Lee Williams…one of the new hosts on the I HAVE TODAY TV NETWORK! From a baby until she aged out in her late teens, Sharon Lee grew up in foster care. Her upcoming book OutRaised (finding my voice beyond foster care) describes her journey of transformation and how she found her voice as a sought after session singer and performer, a vocal coach and performance coach. She created her own agency for singers and a recording studio. She co-produced, wrote and directed Hot Wax, a musical tribute to the Girl Groups in the Motown era. Sharon Lee bought her first home at thirty-one as a single woman, which helped her to create financial independence. After fifty years as an artist, she switched gears and became a certified Transformational Leader and coach, which led her to become the host of her own TV show called OutRaised Voices. A show that aims to shed light on the lives and challenges faced by those who have grown up in care. From personal stories to expert insights, "OutRaised Voices" delves into how unhealed scars from childhood can develop into unhealed wounds in adulthood, affecting relationships, goals, and self-worth. Today, on the show, SharonLee shares why her mission to help young women aging out and have aged out of foster care is to help these young women find their own voices, be empowered and to live the life of their dreams! Connect with Sharon Lee: www.sharonleewilliams.ca ************************************************************************************

In this episode, A.J. Swoboda returns to Shifting Culture to discuss his latest book The Gift of Thorns. We talk desires and longings. Our desires are good – we see desire in Adam even before the fall. But sometimes we have desires of the flesh, but even those desires point to an ultimate longing that we have that can be ordered towards God. This is a great conversation, but we lost a bit of it because of technical issues. So you are going to miss a bit of it in the middle, but you probably won't even notice that something is missing. So, my suggestion – get A.J.'s book. It's really fantastic and you won't regret it. I want to have a small group go through it together. I think it's so helpful. But before you do all that, join us in this conversation as we figure out how to order our desires, find healing, and forgiveness. A.J. Swoboda (Ph.D., Birmingham) is an associate professor of Bible and Theology at Bushnell University and lead mentor for the Doctor of Ministry Program on Spiritual Formation and Soul Care at Friends University. He is the author of many books, including The Gift of Thorns (Zondervan), After Doubt (Brazos), and the award-winning Subversive Sabbath (Brazos). He hosts the Slow Theology podcast with Dr. Nijay Gupta. A.J. lives and works on an urban farm with his wife and son in Eugene, Oregon. A.J.'s Book:The Gift of ThornsConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@allnations.usGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Threads at www.facebook.com/shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/shiftingculturepodcast/https://twitter.com/shiftingcultur2https://www.threads.net/@shiftingculturepodcasthttps://www.youtube.com/@shiftingculturepodcastConsider Giving to the podcast and to the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below.Support the show

In part two of the live coaching episode with Presli, Heather Creekmore and client, Presli, delve into the concept of righteousness and adoption in the context of body image and family upbringing. Presli bravely opens up about her family's view of fitness and body size, revealing the deep-seated impact it had on her perception of herself. They discuss the idea of being seen for who you truly are, beyond physical appearances, and how authenticity and integrity play a crucial role in finding freedom from body image struggles. In this vulnerable and insightful conversation, Heather guides Presli through a journey of self-discovery and reflection, prompting her to explore the concept of adoption in the Bible and how it relates to her own life. The session touches on the power of authenticity, breaking down the myth of a "perfect" external appearance, and finding true value and acceptance. If you're looking for real, relatable discussions on body image and faith, this episode is a must-listen. It's a powerful reminder that we are all seen, known, and loved beyond our physical attributes. Ready for body image coaching? Join the April/May mini-session and have direct access to Heather through April and May to get your questions answered. Plus, get 4 sessions with an encouraging group of Christian women. See what's included in the April/May group coaching mini-session here https://www.improvebodyimage.com/offers/XorzcqNz/checkout Or, find out more about Heather's coaching options here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com/christian-body-image-course-coaching Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

This week on AwakenYou in Your Marriage, I embark on a profound journey into the depths of our familial past to uncover the hidden influences shaping our relationships today. Join me as we explore "The Ties that Bind: Exploring Family of Origin Conflict Styles in Your Marriage" in Episode 162.Families are the crucibles where our earliest notions of love, conflict, and communication are forged. But how often do we pause to reflect on the patterns we inherited and how they manifest in our marriages? In this episode, I invite you to dive deep into your past and discover how your family's conflict styles are echoing in your relationship dynamics.This week's highlights:1.  Understanding Your Family of Origin Conflict Styles: Take a reflective journey back to your childhood and unravel the threads of your family's approach to conflict. Were they proponents of open dialogue or did they navigate through silence? Discovering these patterns can illuminate the roots of your own behaviors and reactions.2. Recognizing Your Spouse's Family of Origin Conflict Styles: Whether alone or together, delve into your partner's upbringing and gain insights into their communication style. By understanding where they're coming from, you can foster empathy and deepen your connection.3. Implementing Effective Communication Strategies: Armed with newfound awareness, learn how to navigate disagreements with grace and understanding. Discover how to transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and connection.By revisiting our family histories through a fresh lens, we can forge a path towards deeper understanding and intimacy in our marriages. Join me on this transformative journey and let's pave the way for a love that knows no bounds.Remember, your feedback is invaluable to me. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast to guide others on their journey towards relational fulfillment.If you're seeking additional support on your quest for a more resilient and joy-filled marriage, dive into my Love List Method—a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. Reach out to me on Instagram or via email, and I'll send it your way.Thank you for being part of the AwakenYou community. Together, let's keep our hearts open, our spirits resilient, and our love boundless.CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving RelationshipDownload my Love List Method, a free resource designed to reignite your love and revolutionize your marriage. More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.InstagramFacebook

Emotional Neglect and Family of Origin --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/recoveringmyinnerchild/support

Dive into the depths of your past and discover the keys to unlocking your present as we explore the powerful concepts of "family of origin" and “origin wounds.” From the tender moments to the subtle missteps, our early family dynamics shape the very core of who we are. It's not just about trauma or neglect; even the most loving caregivers leave imprints that ripple through our lives. Join us as New York Times bestselling author Vienna Pharaon guides us through the intricate web of relationships, self-worth, and worldview that we inherit from our upbringing. Together, we'll uncover the patterns that stealthily influence our present, and learn how confronting our origin wounds can lead to profound mental health and personal growth. Don't miss this eye-opening journey into the heart of your past, where understanding paves the way to healing and self-discovery. “I'll hear people kind of with the narrative of, well, they did the best that they could, or they were so much better than their parents were to them. Right? There's many reasons why looking back at our family of origins can feel overwhelming and complicated. Sometimes we feel guilty. Sometimes we feel ungrateful. We're not on a hunt to find something. Right? It's not about trying to throw our parents or the adults under the bus. We're not trying to hate anybody. We're here. We're looking to acknowledge how we experienced those years and how we've internalized those things.” ~Vienna Pharaon, Author of “The Origins of You” To learn more -- or read the transcript -- visit the official episode page. Our guest, Vienna Pharaon, is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist and one of New York City's most sought-after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for more than fifteen years and is the founder of the group practice Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy.  She received her master of science in marriage and family therapy from Northwestern University and trained extensively at The Family Institute, Bette D. Harris Family & Child Clinic. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, among others. Vienna is the author of national bestseller The Origins of You, and the creator of @mindfulMFT on Instagram where she's helping over 600K people around the world heal their wounds. About "This Keeps Happening" Every week, I speak with anonymous strangers about the challenges they're facing in their lives and relationships. Listen as real people unpack emotional wounds with me. Together, we'll attempt to break unhealthy patterns and find clarity and a way forward. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this compelling episode, we delve into the complexities of family dynamics and the impact they have on our lives. Join us as we explore a therapy session where breakthroughs were made, revealing the deep-seated struggles of growing up in challenging environments. From feeling alone amidst a bustling family to coping mechanisms like alcohol, our guest shares candidly about their journey. Through poignant anecdotes and reflections, we uncover the profound effects of familial relationships and the quest for understanding and healing. Tune in as we navigate the emotional terrain of family of origin and discover the resilience found in facing our past.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.Support the show

In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.Relevant links:Take the Family of Origin Roles QuizReimagining Love: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker ArticleOrder Dr. Alexandra's new book, Love Every DaySubscribe to Dr. Alexandra's NewsletterSubmit a Listener Question Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SONIA JHAS is the South Asian award-winning mindset expert, TEDx speaker, certified personal trainer, nutritionist, and author of I'll Start Again Tomorrow: And Other Lies I've Told Myself [Page Two; February 28, 2023], Sonia knows what it means to put off for tomorrow what you could be achieving today. Now she's helping people achieve their goals without burning out or stretching themselves too thin. Sonia gave up her skyrocketing corporate career and began searching for a new path that resonated with her core. Eventually, she transformed her life through deep analysis, education, determination, and willpower. Through her journey, Sonia uncovered a deep passion for wellness, as well as a driving desire to help others bolster their self-confidence and become the boss of their own life.  We discuss: How to Fight Those On-Again, Off-Again Behaviors and Mindset, and Keep from Living in a Rut Fending Off Feelings of Low Self-Worth, Poor Self-Esteem, and Negative Self-Talk What People Who are Susceptible to Trends Can Do to Live More in Alignment with Themselves Paralyzed By Fear? What to Do to Release Those Feelings and Move Forward from Them Drop the Excuses! Five Ways to Motivate Yourself to Get In, and Stay, In Shape Feeling House-Bound? Six Ways to Make Sure You're Moving Your Body Tune into Your Personal Values and Stay True to Yourself Are You a People-Pleaser? How to Turn this Around and Find a Happy Balance How to Practice Happiness and Keep It with You Every Day The “Mind-Work” and “Body-Work” that Goes Hand-in-Hand with True Health Releasing Legacy Values, Limiting Beliefs, and Perfectionist Tendencies in Order to Truly Transform Yourself How to Step Back from the “Am I Skinny Yet?” Narrative,   

Our families of origin (our parents and siblings) are understood to lay the foundation for our cognitive, affective, and emotional development. Families are the very first group to which we belong, they are where we learn how to relate (or not relate) to other people, where we learn to manage conflict, and where we develop patterns of behavior. Of course there are other factors that influence our development, but there is no impact quite like our family leaves. Think about it.... our families began long before we are born and will continue long after we leave this earth. Families at their best have the potential to bring us great joy in our lives but families at their worst can also bring pain unlike any other. Family of origin exploration which refers to examining our relationships with our family members, can provide incredibly useful insight into family patterns and processes. All families have developed and passed down unhelpful patterns. The work lies in learning how to recognize certain processes that might need some adjusting in order to build stronger and closer relationships with our loved ones. Relationships that are built on authenticity and a good balance of togetherness and individuality. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/william657/message

Dr. Solomon is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.Order Dr. Solomon's new book, Love Every Day:https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:https://bookshop.org/p/books/every-family-has-a-story-how-we-inherit-love-and-loss-julia-samuel/18378436?ean=9780385684392Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

All of us are impacted by our upbringing and families of origin. We may leave the nest, but we take a lot with us. Listen as Nancy Wilson, LPCS, and Leo Schuster discuss recognizing the brokenness in our family systems, including questions like: Why are friendships hard for me? Why do my spouse and I have the same fight over and over again?To visit with Nancy further, visit wilsoncounseling.org. City Church is also able to provide additional resources.

All of us are impacted by our upbringing and families of origin. We may leave the nest, but we take a lot with us. Listen as Nancy Wilson, LPCS, and Leo Schuster discuss recognizing the brokenness in our family systems, including questions like: Why are friendships hard for me? Why do my spouse and I have the same fight over and over again?To visit with Nancy further, visit wilsoncounseling.org. City Church is also able to provide additional resources.

Listen, I know its been a minute but this episode was TOO good to leave in my drafts from a few months ago. Have you wanted to know the secrets of mindblowing anal sex, surrender and what it means to call in more connectedness during penetration? Tune into this 15 min riff on everything NOT practical you need to know to create the most delicious anal sex of your life.  

Many of us experienced neglect and abuse from our family of origin–the people, whether parents, grandparents, or other caregivers, that raised us. Some of us might suspect that things happened to us but aren't really sure, and some are very aware of the abuse and neglect brought on by our parents or even that we were over-parented or too sheltered. How do we move toward forgiveness when it comes to the pain that was brought on by the people who are supposed to love and protect us the most? Our guest, Adam Young, a licensed trauma therapist and host of the podcast The Place We Find Ourselves, joins us to discuss this critical topic. For all the detailed show notes, tips and links visit soloparent.org/show-notes-blog —> ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Go to SoloParent.org/TalkToUs and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we cover on the podcast, something you are facing or just something you are curious about. We want you to be part of our podcast! Receive a free SPS Welcome Toolkit with links to groups, info and a free book. Join our FREE daily meditational devotional - pod.link/1517894054 Download our free app - APPLE | ANDROID

Have you ever witnessed a child who is 'inundated', feels overwhelmed, and doesn't know how to respond to a situation?Wherever we may find ourselves within the family system – as a child, parent, grandparent, or partner – feeling dysregulated or ‘triggered' by our loved ones can cause us to say and do things we may later regret. Dr. Mandy Cisler is an expert on mind/body integration: a somatic approach that provides us with the tools we need to calm down and think before we speak. She has pioneered the ‘Healing Framework' as a somatic therapist, and this is Part Two of her heartfelt conversation with Lawrence Joss.Be sure to listen to Part One if you have not already done so. Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. In This Episode:Giving children the tools to regulate themselves emotionally. What good modeling looks like to a child.Dr. Mandy's free training on nervous system regulation.What does inundation mean? Understanding inundation anxiety in a child.What does splitting mean?Understanding The ‘Healing Framework'.Checking in with yourself.And more…Resources:Free Nervous System Regulation Training - https://www.drmandycisler.com/freetraining1Connect with Dr. Mandy Cisler:Website Instagram: @thehealingframeworkKaren and Nick Woodall -https://www.karenwoodall.com/Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. FUNDRAISINGPlease donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSPLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaireResourcesFree training sign-up: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/drmandyfreetrainingG.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Glaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerAnna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/ActivistGeorgette Coppersmith - Editor/Contributor/ActivistKriztle Mesa - Social Media ManagerGen Rodelas-Kajabi ExpertKim Fernandez - Outreach CoordinatorConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

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For some of us, deciding when to address unresolved issues with our family of origin can be confusing. Many people choose not to directly address issues so as to not stir the pot. Other people go as far as doing family therapy as adults with their aging parents and other family members. For us, we find it helpful to get clear about the purpose or what we want to accomplish with our family members to help us decide which topics to address and which to leave as water under the bridge, so to speak.When navigating the relational terrain with family of origin members, there's often many more complex layers to consider than other types of relationships. In this episode, we explore differences in generations when it comes to interpersonal skills, family cultures, even what we are “up to” in our relationships in general. We share how we navigate challenging conversations with our own families. We also provide tips for finding success in these types of conversations — including awareness of contrasting versions of reality, impact versus intent, and getting clear about a desired outcome for the relationship, prior to initiating the conversation. “We can do more than I can” is also an invitation to connect with our families — in support of the relationships we are committed to both learn and heal from. If you come to any new insights about your family's culture, we'd love to hear from you. Share them with us at kristavanderveer.com. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:Acknowledging differences between generations Appreciating the impact of our family cultureWill's story about working through past moments of tension with his dadThe importance of getting clear about why you want to have a conversationThe effect cultural norms have on the way we navigate negative impact with family An invitation to observe familial culture, ask questions, and notice what can shift Resources Mentioned:The Art of We episode #40Get in Touch: The Art Of We WebsiteThe Art of We Instagram Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Integrative Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy TrainingRate, Review & Follow on Apple Podcasts: If you want to show your support for this show, please consider rating and reviewing The Art of We on Apple Podcasts. To do that, open the Apple Podcasts app and search for The Art of We. Scroll to the bottom of the package and rate with 5 stars....

Part of a new limited series, this episode is about my mother of origin, Helen June. With help from cousin Sean McCarthy & nephew Drew Tandal, we dive into the emotions surrounding our journey of finding family of origin as well as how they see Helen in me.

How do you define the Family of Origin and how does this concept affect our behavior as an adult? What are the 5 key characteristics of nurturing which every child needs, but none had it delivered perfectly by our parents? Michael welcomes back Dr. Jake Porter to explore these incredibly important issues we all need to learn about as well as provides some next steps on what to do about it (visit DaringVentures.com/FreedomtoMoveForward for information about the intensive offered by Daring Ventures). You can also find Dr. Porter's full webinar on Family of Origin Issues by visiting https://go.daringventuresathome.com/familyoforigin. The Living Truth Podcast contains conversations that shed light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal this causes. 

How do you define the Family of Origin and how does this concept affect our behavior as an adult? What are the 5 key characteristics of nurturing which every child needs, but none had it delivered perfectly by our parents? Michael welcomes back Dr. Jake Porter to explore these incredibly important issues we all need to learn about as well as provides some next steps on what to do about it (visit DaringVentures.com/FreedomtoMoveForward for information about the intensive offered by Daring Ventures). You can also find Dr. Porter's full webinar on Family of Origin Issues by visiting https://go.daringventuresathome.com/familyoforigin. The Living Truth Podcast contains conversations that shed light on the deeper issues beneath porn addiction, sex addiction, & help for those enduring the devastation of sexual betrayal this causes. 

Figuring out how to parent a teen or young adult experimenting with substances is hard enough on its own.  But if you're like me, there's an additional layer of confusion about how this all happened:  Didn't we provide a stable home life for our kids?  Didn't they have access to everything they needed?  What did I miss to prevent this?My guest today is Dr. Crystal Collier, an award-winning therapist working with adolescents and adults suffering from mental illness, behavioral problems, and substance use disorders.  But her experience is not entirely academic.  What made her so interested in recovery was her own misuse of alcohol beginning at age 12, and the difficult times that followed.After finding recovery at a young age, Crystal had the same question about herself that Hopestream Community parents often have about their own children:  How did an otherwise smart kid with a great family end up making terrible decisions about substance use?That question led to a 30-year journey of study and service, and I'm happy to share some of Crystal's insights with you in this episode, including:How our own childhood experiences created “Family Of Origin (FOO) buttons,” and how they connect to present-day responses to our kidsThe FOO buttons we are programming into our own kids, and why they could lead to escapism, drug use, and antisocial behaviorThe pervasive myth that when parents allow drinking at home, it prevents excess “forbidden fruit” binging later onHow helicopter parenting destroys a sense of self-efficacy in young peopleResources:https://drcrystalcollier.com/https://drcrystalcollier.com/the-books/The podcast is now part of a nonprofit called Hopestream Community: www.hopestreamcommunity.orgLearn about The Stream, our private online community for moms, at www.thestreamcommunity.comWe now have a new community for dads parenting a child who struggles with substance use and mental health; The Woods: members.thewoodscommunity.orgFind us on Instagram: @hopestreamcommunityDownload my free e-book, HINDSIGHT: Three Things I Wish I Knew When My Son Was Misusing Drugs: www.brendazane.com/hindsightJoin my email list: www.brendazane.com/email

This episode is a joint release of The Allender Center podcast and The Place We Find Ourselves. We have all experienced hurt, abandonment, or disappointment at the hands of our parents or caretakers, whether it was intentional or not. So much of our beauty and brokenness — so much of what makes us human — is tied to our family of origin. In today's episode, Dan Allender and I discuss what it means to begin engaging the harm that we endured during our growing up years. Are we dishonoring our father and mother if we name the hurt we experienced growing up? Should we just “let it go?” If you want to learn more about how to engage your story in your family of origin, please join Dan and I for a 2 hour webinar on February 23, 2023. You can register here.

So much of our beauty and brokenness — so much of what makes us who we are today — is tied to our family of origin.  The ways in which we act, react, and interact with others are directly tied to our childhood origin stories and the hurt that we all inevitably experienced – no matter how perfect (or imperfect) our families were. Why should we spend time going back to name the hurt we experienced growing up? Is it worth it to stir up those memories, talk about painful experiences, and potentially upset our loved ones?  Dr. Dan Allender and Adam Young, LCSW, MDiv, candidly share their own personal experiences of courageously engaging their parents in conversations and, over time, discovering more grace, understanding, and freedom in the process. We hope this conversation sparks courage within you to engage some of the difficult truths of the past in order to discover a new hope for your life right now.  If you'd like to hear more, we invite you to join Dan and Adam on February 23 for “Family of Origin,” a new online seminar from the Allender Center. Registration is now open at theallendercenter.org/events