Not Your Girlfriend's Podcast

B+L end Season 4 by discussing their respective moves to the UK. They go through what they'll be doing there, why, and where exactly they'll be moving to. L discuses her feelings as a New Yorker leaving New York for the first time, as well as leaving behind the corporate world. B+L chat through the relationship convos of exclusive convo and boyfriend/girlfriend convo (and how they are two different things, ie Love Island Rules) and the Disposable Dating culture as of recent. They both give final updates on The Lawyer and The Italian before closing this amazing season. B+L will be back for Season 5 of Not Your Girlfriend's Podcast sooner than you think. Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in New York in August 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

This week is all about L's latest beau- The Italian. She discusses their first several dates, what went right and what went not so right. Throughout the episode we chat through a multiple of issues in early dating: communication in making plans ahead of time, Hot Guy sex privilege, room temperature comprise when staying over and how to tell someone their sex game needs improvement. B's still dating The Lawyer and chats through her summer plans with him and future plans on how things will be once she moves to the UK at the end of the summer. B+L discuss if you should cancel plans with a coworker in lieu of a date and discuss The Lawyer's past casual dating. Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in New York in July 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

It's our first episode of the Summer and New York is open and back in business. L chats through her dry spell and how the dating scene differs down in Florida. B is off to a little too much of a hot start to hot girl summer by contradicting chlamydia. B gives an dating update on the Lawyer and L discusses an pending first date with the Italian.Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in New York in June 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

On this week's episode B is out West and interviews her two friends from Uni about their recent marriage and move from the UK to US. Anonymous American ‘A' and British ‘J' chat to B about how they met, deciding when to move in together, how they made decision to move to the States and what lies for them in the future. Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in CA in May 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

On this week’s episode we dive straight into L’s review of suburban dating and the three types of dudes found there, B defines what makes a ‘Unicorn’ in suburban dating so you can also be on the lookout. They countdown months til Europe, discuss the multiple Breakup Waves of Covid, also predicting another wave might be hitting soon with vaccinations on the rise. B+L chat about how to ‘Subtly Shoot Your Shot’ with someone in a relationship online. They also discuss how to have the ‘we’re no longer exclusive convo’ and General Red Flag Behavior we most definitely don’t condone, but you know if you're in a pinch we won’t tell if you don’t. Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in May 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

B+L are back with promises of Hot Girl Summer around the corner, they decide to clean their dating slates (ish). They share some big and exciting news about their lives coming this Fall 2021, B gives us an interesting update on ‘The Lawyer’, L moves to the burbs and discuses her last date in BK with a semi-familiar ‘Bed-Stuy’ guy. They both discuss their Exes R and H, and the remnants of both relationships finally coming to a close.Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in late March 2021, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up-to-date news regarding your State or Country.

B+L Wrap up a terrible year with an amazing episode. Great for OG listeners and brand spanking new listeners alike, we take a retrospective look at our dating lives over the last year and quantify them into numbers with little to no meaning. 0:59 Number of Guys Fucked4:13 Number of Guys Ghosted5:55 Number of Break-Ups9:22 Number of Second Dates16:48 Number of Throwback Hits49:33 On Repeat: Guy Most Talked to this Year51:01 Number of Hinge Matches 52:00 Number of Thirst Traps Posted on Instagram52:30 Best Lay of 202054:35 Worst Date of 2020Slide-In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTikTok: @notyourgirlfriendspodTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.comThis episode was recorded in early December, any COVID-related talks are reflective of the time of that recording. Please check https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html for the most up to date news regarding your State or Country.

Bar so Fine is all about the ‘Fine’ guys B+L have been dating lately. While nothing is seemingly wrong with them, they’re just meh, eh, bleh. Join us as we discuss if it’s us, them, our age, our growth or this bloody pandemic that’s making everything ‘fine’.

B+L celebrates 50 episodes with this two-hour special (the only way they know how-to drink an entire bottle of whiskey and record a podcast episode). Join us as we devolve into L’s recent Synthetic Relationship with Bed-Stuy Boy (00:04:00), what happens when the person you’re seeing is upset to see your last S/O on your instagram (00:13:00), normalize sharing honest feelings when you’re back on the dating scene fresh from a break-up (00:43:20), what is the appropriate timeframe to cancel a date the day of (00:49:57), a drunk debate on the ethics of going on a date and deciding you want to be friends (01:33:45), and finally, we answer a user instagram question on what is the best drink to order on a first date (01:45:25). If you can’t believe it took hours to cover only these topics, well you haven’t drank the amount of whiskey we did.Slide In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

This week Not Your Girlfriend’s Podcast:00:02:00 Phase 4 COVID-19 Dating in NYC 00:25:32 Find Yourself a Palette Cleaner Sex Partner!00:30:00 How to Get a Guy to Leave Your Apartment!00:31:55 Repeat Offense (AKA Guys You Fuck More Than Once!)00:32:01 Dumb Bitch Moments (Plenty!!!!!) 00:52:50 Creative Men vs No One! 00:40:46 How-To Correctly Ghost (No Breadcrumbing!) 00:42:00 The Respectable Side-Bitch Slot!And more!Slide In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

With a 7 MONTH BREAK between Season 3 and Season 4, B+L make a comeback with some big news: they’re both single. L’s discusses how and when things went wrong when she moved in with R, while B talks about ending her long-distance relationship with H. We talk all things COVID-19, Phase 2 opening up in New York City, #BLM Movement and what makes a Simp.Slide In the DMs (Instagram): @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

WARNING: This episode contains explicit language, binge drinking, and illegal drugs depending on your state laws. This episode was made for the fans. B+L close out Season 3 by having a long whiskey filled chat with each other. Topics include: NYC apartments and roommates of the past, B+L life updates (including L moving in with her long-term bae and B’s update on her long-distance bae), special guest this week is B’s new roommate P who weighs in on the dating scene in DC and how it compares to NYC and much more. Reminisce with us, drink with us (take drugs with us). Cheers to three wonderful seasons.

On this week’s episode, B is flying solo and interviewing special guest Sarah Merrill (@sarahamerrill_) from the Big Kid Problems Podcast. They talk about Sarah’s brand spanking new fiancé (00:04:48), moving to New York at 18 (00:14:20), #LAproblems (00:17:42), the evolution of popular meme page on Instagram Big Kid Problems (00:22:20) and what the hell are all these destination weddings and why we’re both having one (00:27:25). A chat of make-ups and break-ups and everything in between.

An array of topics are covered this week when B+L are joined with special guest Blaise-B’s former neighbor in London (yes British accent included). They discuss what you learn from your first serious relationship (00:03:22), Wetherspoons date etiquette (00:17:48), internal payments systems when you’re in a Long Term Relationship (00:22:00), dating as someone whose mixed race, fetishization, the most recent season Love Island’s having the first person of color to win (and all the other racial issues with that show) (00:26:57), someone who went on three holidays with their boyfriend, what Blaise has learnt about traveling with a bae (00:39:24) and navigating your mental health issues in a relationship (00:42:53)

Welcome to B+L’s Short Course Seminar on Boyfriend Training! They start off the episode with some life updates then dive into what they think is “Boyfriend Material” (00:11:16) the class broken down into four periods:Period 1: (00:23:10) Communication- breaking down different arguing styles in a fightPeriod 2: (00:42:41) Domestic/Living Situation- expectations in a relationship when it comes to cooking, cleaning, and paying for groceriesPeriod 3: (00:54:35) Social Interactions- how your bf interacts with your friends and family, being present with the other person when you’re in a sticky social situationPeriod 4: Sex Ed (00:01:02) B+L’s best of advice on learning how to navigate a new person’s body, when and where to bring our your kinks and how to be woke and clear about your sexual needs. Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

We start out this episode with B’s Life Update (00:03:00) continued from Summer Fling Episode (Episode 39: Seasonally Cancel Your Bae-The Summer Fling). Long distance in a relationship (00:16:00), the vital importance of Factime Sex and Sexting (00:23:30) in a Long Distance relationship, A BDSM Quiz you should definitely take (https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode) and a funny sex story when you try to switch roles in the bedroom (00:30:55) and recon research for ladies to do in order to give a guy pointers when he goes down on you (00:43:00).Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Host of the millennial dating podcast We Met At Acme, Lindsey Metselaar joins B+L to talk about how to navigate wedding season, including when to give a plus one, going to wedding as a plus one with your SO, and what happens when your boyfriend doesn’t want to come as your plus one. We also dive into if it’s ever okay for your boyfriend to follow instagram models, how many is too many, and if there is a situation where you should really bring it up.Lindsey Metselaar Instagram: @lindzmetzWe Met at Acme Instagram: @wemetatacmeInstagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

We’re in peak summer time which means lots of opportunity to take a trip with your bae. This week we break down L’s recent trip with R to Italy and answer questions like when’s the best time to take your first Baecation, trial’ing a big trip with a weekender before, and what to do when you get annoyed with your bae. We also answer a listener a email about what to do when you’ve been dating someone for a few years in your twenties but start to lose interest.Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/notyourgirlfriendspodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

B+L welcome Dylan Palladino from We Are All Psychos Podcast on this week’s episode. They discuss dating a sweet spot ‘6’ on the hot scale (00:15:22), they explain why women say ‘Let’s just be friends!’ after they decide they don’t want to fuck you, Dylan weighs in on L’s ‘friend’ (00:22:00) and how and when to be stay friends with someone you used to hookup with, Dylan and B give each other feedback on their dating profiles (00:34:00), What guys mean when they want to have anal with you (00:53:45) and much much more.Dylan Palladino Instagram: @dylanjpalladinoDylan Palladino Twitter: @dylanjpalladinoWe're All Psychos PodcastInstagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comSubmissions: notyourgirlfriendspodcast@gmail.com

B+L Break down the pros/cons of having a Summer Fling, give New York City Summer date ideas, discuss their Summer Flings of the past, and give advice on getting a Summer Fling (and more importantly how to get rid of them when Winter comes).Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.com

In this week’s episode B+L are joined by fellow dating podcasters Tom and Tucker of the Undesirables Podcast. They break down their favorite dating apps (and Tom and Tucker’s trying out a recent fetish app), how women are feeling about receiving oral on a hookup, how NO MAN have ever said no to a blow job, how to approach someone IRL that you find cute (with TWO subway not-so-love-stories told) and much more.Undesirables Website: https://redcircle.com/shows/a30fc1de-1252-4d15-87c2-de61762c6985Undesirables Instagram: @undesirablespodUndesirables Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/60Dbpp1VufnzbLnoRynLqqUndesirables Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-undesirables/id1347751705Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.com

On this week’s episode B+L sit down to dive deeper as L hits the six month dating stage with her current boyfriend R. They discuss weeknight sleepover issues when morning schedules don’t perfectly align (00:4:00) how different love languages affect a new relationship (00:15:50), thoughts on moving in together when the leases are coming up (00:22:55), transiting from being your normal selfish single self to being back in a relationship (00:41:20).Instagram: @notyourgirlfriendspodcastTwitter: @NotUrGFPodcastWebsite: https://www.notyourgirlfriendspodcast.comT-Shirts: https://www.bonfire.com/nygf-tee/

On this week’s episode B+L sit down with anonymous M who comes on the podcast to share her experiences in dating and asking men the hard questions, bringing up topics such as if and when they want kids, accepting rejection IRL at a bar, and dating different diversities while being a minority.B+L also answer a email write in question about confidence in the bedroom on air and give their top tips.Topic Time Stamps:4:00 Online Matching With a Guy11:30 How To Talk About What You’re Looking For24:20 Email Write In: Bedroom Confidence35:00 Diversity Dating

B+L are well rested and back for a FRESH Season 3 Premiere-this episode doesn't disappoint. B shares why fucking a 29 year-old isn’t a guarantee at good sex. B is moving to Brooklyn and ending her time as a commuter dater her and L discuss the broader community of commuter daters and if it’s technically lying if you post your city work neighborhood on the apps (00:32:00), L moves forward in her new relationship with R and discuss their recent exchange of ‘I Love You’s (00:46:00).

B+L are back together to wrap up the season. We talk L’s next relationships stage and give an update. B is fresh off the boat from her Europe trips gives us the rundown on what happened (and who happened). The episode is filled with dicks that are too big, hot internet date hookups and European flings of the past.

As part of our travel series, this week B sits down with special British guest ‘Lily’ who recently moved her life up and moved to Copenhagen. We discuss what it’s like when you go on holiday and meet someone you really like who lives in a different country and city and what happens when that distance is taken away. We talk Fuck Boy warning signs, when to know your self-worth, and what happens when you run into said Fuck Boy again.

Our first recurring guest, Anonymous S from Episode 7: So You Think Your Junk Is Brilliant is back to give us a life update. We last left her in a steady long term relationship until recently when her long term partner ended things. We talk about how to process a breakup when you don’t get closure, entering the dating world at 27, and building trust with a next person you date.

B+L are separated by an ocean but that doesn’t stop them from breaking down Valentine’s Day do and don’ts for those in a serious relationship to those in maybe want to get more serious. They also answer two listener questions and give some sage advice on dating older and what happens when you have emotional compatibility without sexual compatibility.

B+L sit down with co-founders of new dating app in NYC called Bounce. They talk worse dates, rate B’s Bounce profile , and going on date with someone who doesn’t drink. We find out if all guys are really lying about their height, are selfies fair game for your profile and how important someone’s voice plays into their attractiveness.

Are you recently seeing someone and found yourself going on less first dates and more second, third and fourth dates? In this episode L discusses her latest bae and her and B give some advice on when to have the exclusive conversation, when to have the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation and why a lot of online dating romances end after the third/fourth date mark. We discuss a recent reddit thread on the subject and discuss what made our last online dating romances end and of course how to explore new bedroom stuff when you start sleeping exclusively with one person.

On this week’s episode B+L go full Harry Potter with Mike Schubert (@Schubes17) from the Potterless Podcast, where Mike as a 20-something millennial reads Harry Potter for the first time. We discuss our favorite Harry Potter pairings (and least favorite), wizard condoms, the ethics of love potions, and if Snape or Lupin was more of a hipster. Potterless Podcast is available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, follow Mike’s journey on Potterless on Twitter (@PotterlessPod) and Instagram (PotterlessPodcast).

This week B+L are joined by John, 29 and Mike, 28 from Collected Layer Podcast (@jckfoundation). In addition to finding the last two good single guys in New York, they break down how and when you should bring up therapy/mental illness in dating, meeting people in real life tips, and the guys share their most interesting dating stories and preferences for the modern 20-something New York male.

B shares her first date of 2019 experience where a guy walks out mid-date, and L weighs in on what could have been avoided to make sure our listeners dates don’t end the same way. L shares her current positive dating experience. Oh, and there’s a car sex story.

This week we break down the fuck boy-are they born or created? How to spot if the guy you’re dating is a fuck boy (or if you yourself have fuck boy tendencies), and how to treat a fuck boy if you find one in your life. B+L talk about posting on reddit, Big Mouth, and why and how people find themselves in relationships in this Christmas Special!

On this week’s episode B+L are joined by a very special guest-sex educator and journalist, Gigi Engle (@gigiengle on Twitter and Instagram). B+L talk sex education, female pleasure, toys, current sex trends (butt play!?), porn, and their mutual love of European men. B+L also answer a listener question and weigh in on how they should move forward.

This week B + L cover various topics including why they’re forgoing cuffing season, a fun micro-penis story, and talk their thoughts on The Swiped Documentary, about online dating in the modern world.

This week B+L host two new guests (and current listeners!) on the podcast. New York based R— 24 and single— and J— 25 and in a committed relationship— come on to the pod and answer all of our burning questions about what the hell is going on in the straight male mind. We chat about cheating, what it means to sleep with someone on a first date, splitting the bill and following ex’s on social media… with arguably too much laughter in between.

On this episode B+L go through the ghosts of their past, inspired by Ariana’s new song ‘Thank U Next’. They also revisit cuffing season and give a update on their progress (or lack there of)

Madison and Julianna fellow podcasters of the dating podcast Falling in Luck visit B+L and they discuss their current dating issues with each other, New York happy hours, and some cuffing season (horror) updates

Prompted by a recent ‘Dear Abby’ write-in on whether an Indian couple should give their child an American name, B+L discuss their own ethnicity and their experiences while dating as minorities. They share some cringe-y dating stories and pro-tips to keep mind while dating someone who is a minority.

B+L kick off Season Two and take on cuffing season head-on. They break down what is cuffing season, the best way to find yourself a bae that will stick around in these cold winter months, and offer up some first date advice during these trying times.

B+L wrap up the Season One, sharing their favorite episodes from the season and how their 6 month podcast journey has them -realizing stuff- and ponder what’s in store for their dating lives to come.

B+L Breakdown when to follow someone what social media, weighing pros/cons, when social media is TMI, and most importantly-when to request that insta-follow.

This week B+L share their unfiltered dating stories of the last week, which include dating an ex-Mormon, dating a younger man and the fiscal responsibilities that come with dating in 2018.

B’s younger brother N joins her on this special episode where they talk about some surprising facts about college dating, virginity, and frat parties and share some personal stories along the way.

We've all been there, and no matter if you've been rejected to your face or via snapchat. In this week's episode B+L enter a lively discourse about soft rejection vs hard rejection, share their best of the worse rejection stories, and when you get rejected next (because it's going to happen) how to get the fuck over in as minimal time as possible so you're rearing and ready for your next heartbreak.

In this week's episode B interviews anonymous guest E where they talk about Toxic relationships, warning signs if your bae is a little cray, and the healing process if you find yourself recently out of toxic relationship.

In this week's episode L interviews anonymous guests T and K who give us the dish on gay dating scene. They break down their coming out stories, favorite dating apps, how to approach the first date, all things grindr.

B+L are reunited and back in New York and attempt to tie up loose ends. Talking about the current dating issues after you've passed the initial first date or two such as, Instagram: to follow or not follow? They break down the seriousness of a DM, the instagram algorithm (there's a rhyme and reason to your top viewers), and when to throw the grenade on dating a guy who may not be that into you.

In this week’s episode B is in London interviewing two special guests A+E on all things love and marriage. A+E talk about getting married in your 20s, dealing with other people hitting on your married bae, and advice for those young couples equally in love.

Reunited after solo travel B+L catch up on their dating scene while abroad. What apps they used, how they met guys, and how best laid plans sometimes don’t end in getting laid (sometimes).