The BTR.ORG Podcast - Betrayal Trauma Recovery

Are you experiencing narcissistic abuse? It can be hard to spot. These 5 signs will help you know if you're a victim of narcissistic abuse.

Emotional & Psychological abuse victims "mimic" codependent traits: this is why you're not codependent. Read on to learn more.

Have you wondered, "how do I know if my husband is abusive" See if you relate to Coach Jo's story.

"My husband lied to me," she repeated. If you've just discovered your husband lied to you for years, here's what you need to know.

If your husband has betrayed you, you're not alone. Many women courageously share their stories. If you feel isolated, you might find solace in this woman's experience.

Coach Sharon is on the podcast discussing spiritual abuse. This subtle yet destructive behavior undermines a victim's faith, self-worth, and autonomy, leading to long-term psychological and emotional distress.

Can complementarian ideas conceal emotional abuse? Join Anne and J.R. as they discuss her journey of overcoming her husband's infidelity, emotional, and spiritual abuse.

Sarah kept asking herself, "Is my husband holding me back?? Sarah shares how she overcame obstacles to reach her goals.

Fairy tales are often confining women with double standards. Join Anne and Jane Gillmore as they discuss how fairy tales often vilify women's anger, undermine their pursuit of financial independence, and set unrealistic expectations.

Jane Gilmore explores misogyny and harmful messages in classic fairy tales that brainwash us into not recognizing abuse.

When you're ready to leave (or considering leaving) your emotionally abusive husband. You need support and practical advice. Karen DeArmond Gardner is back on the podcast.

If you don't want a divorce, but you're seeking solutions due to your husband's emotional and psychological abuse, here are some ideas to consider.

Find the stages of deliverance from abuse. Anne tells how she discovered how to be delivered and gain freedom from abuse.

Forgiveness is a polarizing topic for victims of intimate betrayal. But can it provide relief & healing? Dr. Debi Silber is on the podcast.

Healing from betrayal trauma is absolutely possible. Dr. Debi Silber discusses the five steps to healing and more on this episode.

Recovering from your husband's emotional abuse is a journey. There are strategies to speed healing. Here are 3 things to consider.

You can teach children healthy sexuality. Here are some quality resources to help make sure your kids are empowered to make healthy choices about sex when the time is right.

The Sex Talk can be a good experience for both parents and children. Dina Alexander shares tips, myths, and how-to's.

When fantasizing is about control, it will be harmful to any relationship. Discover the effects of your husband's sexual fantasies and why they're hurting you.

A victims shares how she grappled with religious traditions, logistics, to determine if she wanted to divorce her abusive husband, and if so how?

J.R. spent nearly a decade believing that she was the problem in the marriage. Learning about emotional abuse helped her establish safety boundaries.

Remembering Coach Katherine We loved Katherine so much. Katherine was kind and fierce at the same time. All she wanted was to help deliver women from suffering and harm. She will be greatly missed. We LOVE you Katherine!

Are you ready to help stop human trafficking? Melea Stephens from NCOSE shares how you can participate in advocacy without having to leave home.

If you're wondering how to set boundaries in an emotionally abusive relationship, you are NOT alone. Elizabeth continues her story.

What if you could spot a hidden emotional abuse right away? Elizabeth courageously shares her story to help you identify the cycle of abuse.

Excitement, fear, frustration, self-loathing - Vicki shares the torrent of emotions she's experienced in the aftermath of her abusive marriage.

Vicki shares her courageous journey leaving an abusive marriage, including the challenges, interventions, and empowering choices that led her to safety.

Vicki shares the heartbreaking reality of what 30 years with a covert abuser is like for a family - a nightmare of manipulation, control, and silent suffering.

This episode is Part 3 of the series on the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop.Part 1: Brand New Meditations for Victims of Betrayal & AbusePart 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR.ORG MeditationsPart 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? (this episode) BTR.ORG Meditations: A Healing Modality for All Sammy, like many members of the BTR.ORG community, is a woman of faith. She shares: "I have typically shied away from meditation because I'm coming from a Christian base and I was afraid of new age-type meditations that I had only briefly heard about. So I kept scripture reading, prayer, and just my own meditation in communing with God, so to speak." Sammy, Member of the BTR.ORG Community All Belief Paradigms Are Welcome & Respected at BTR.ORG Sammy decided to try The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop despite her reservations - and found immense healing and peace. Regardless of your ideology, please know that BTR.ORG resources, included the new Meditation Workshop, are designed with all belief paradigms in mind. BTR.ORG Is Here For You Listen to Sammy's experiences with the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop for more, and consider enrolling today. Full Transcript: Anne (00:01):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. The last two episodes have been members of our community who are sharing their experience with The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop.I wrote, recorded, and edited it specifically for women in this situation. It includes 13 meditations and they are all really amazing. They cover different topics, even though the beginning of all of the meditations is similar, it uses different words and has a different topic, and then it has a topic specific visualization about halfway through, and women are finding it to be really, really helpful. So I've invited Sammy, another member of our community to share her experience with the meditations today. Before you even listened to it one time, what were your expectations before and then the first time you listened to it, what was your experience? Being open to new healing modalities Sammy (02:21):My experience with meditation, I have typically shied away from it because I'm coming from a Christian base and I was afraid of, I don't know, new age for lack of a better definition type meditations that I had only briefly heard about, so I kept scripture reading, prayer, and just my own meditation in communing with God, so to speak. But I thought, well, no, I'm really open to this. I'll see what I think. Anne (02:52):Just out of curiosity, what made you open to it in the first place? Just that you trusted BTR or - Sammy (02:58):Oh, yes, yes. It was going to be safe and fine, and I always know that, say I started it and it was too triggering, for lack of a better word for me, I can just stop it, knowing that it was coming from a safe source. Using the Workbook with the Meditations Anne (03:14):Before you tried it, did you print out the workbook? Sammy (03:17):Yes, the whole deal. Anne (03:19):How did you feel about like, wait, this is a meditation. I didn't know it was a workbook. Or did it just seem like normal to you? Sammy (03:26):A little of both. I hadn't imagined meditations where you would stop and kind of journal at the same time. I thought I'm going to go with what they say to do and see where it leads. Anne (03:37):So you were just like, I'm all in. I'm just going to go for it. Alright, so this is an experiment for you. Talk about that first time you went through it. What did you think? "I wanted to get started right away." Sammy (03:46):It was in the middle of a day, which is unlike me. I normally would save this for either first thing in the morning or in a little less likely, but evening or bedtime. But I wanted to get started right away and I knew I had a limited amount of time, so I think it the BTR Group Sessions. It's been a lifesaver, and I went into a room where I kind of have a home alta...

This episode is Part 3 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop Series. Part 1: Brand New Meditations for Victims of Betrayal & AbusePart 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR Meditations (this episode)Part 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you, like many victims of betrayal and abuse, are desperate for stillness and peace, there is a new resource available to you. Lily, a member of the BTR.ORG community, found peace in the tumult of trauma by utilizing the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Chaos on the Outside, Peace on the Inside "With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible." Lily, Member of the BTR.ORG Community We understand how exhausting it is to face the trauma of betrayal and abuse. You deserve peace - and some victims find it in the stillness of trauma-informed meditation. Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.ORG, developed The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop to offer you peace and healing regardless of what your circumstances may be. BTR.ORG Is Here For You Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today - and experience the peace and calm that you have always deserved. Full Transcript: Anne (00:01):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. Last week I interviewed Pat about her experience with the meditations that I've written. This week, I'm interviewing another member of our community, I'm gonna call her Lily. So she enrolled in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop and then she enrolled in The Meditation Workshop and she's gonna share her experience. Talk to me about how you felt progressively as you did the meditation the first time, the second time, the third time. Do you think that it benefited you to do the same meditation three times? "I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside" Lily (02:03):Yes. I do believe it was beneficial to do it more than once. When I was listening to it, I was also going through a rough week in my divorce process. I found it very grounding to review and do the visualization and then actually to have the same visualization. So while I was going through all the turmoil on the outside, in my circumstances, the meditation and the visualization and the process being the same actually provided some grounding for me to be able to kind of stay steady through it. With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible. "I was surprised at just how grounded I felt" I was surprised at just how grounded I felt when I came into this process. And I didn't know that I could get away because my situation is difficult. My husband, he, he went after my son when I got away. He's very destructive. This meditation, it helped me go, okay, no, I deserve this. I can do this, I can get through this. Anne (03:05):It helps you feel more calm? Lily (03:08):Yeah. 'cause my son has an anxiety disorder at this point, and so he feeds off of my anxiety. So what happened was when I was able to be calmer, I felt more grounded. He's less anxious. So that was really helpful. "I'm able to be far more present and more attentive" Anne (03:22):Did you find that after the meditations you were acting any different or thinking any different in ways that were like new to you that you didn't have to work to do or think about doing? That just came naturally? Lily (03:35):Yes, I'm able to be far more present and more attentive to my son and stay in the moment. After the meditation, my thoughts were a lot calmer. The rumination was much less. And as I did the meditation more than once, the ruminating got less and less. So it was a cumulative benefit of repeating the meditation. Using The Meditation Workbook Anne (04:01):A lot of women when they know there's a workbook, it's like, what? That's not meditation.

This episode is Part 1 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop series.Part 1: Brand New Meditations For Victims of Abuse & Betrayal (this episode)Part 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR MeditationsPart 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you've experienced abuse and betrayal, you know chaos and despair. You also know deep yearning for peace and healing - and that's why Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG created The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Pat, a member of the BTR.ORG community, shares her insights after taking this workshop - tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Empowerment. Release. Safety. Pat uses powerful words to describe her experiences with The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. She was able to process her own trauma in new ways - while also developing a determination to teach her children how to identify and establish safety for themselves. BTR.ORG Is Here For You As you work toward safety and healing, know that we are here for you. Navigating betrayal trauma and emotional abuse is extremely difficult - even more so without a supportive community. BTR.ORG exists to support you on your healing journey. Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today and begin to feel the peace and empowerment that you deserve. Full Transcript: Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. So over the years, I found that for me, meditation was the most healing activity that I could do. I found meditations on YouTube and other places, and I would meditate. In my head, I'd always have to change it up a little bit for my own specific situation because they've been so healing to me. I decided to write meditations for you, for us women in our situation. (01:58):So the meditations that I wrote and recorded and edited, they are for women who are currently experiencing or who have experienced emotional or psychological abuse. Whether you're married or divorced or separated, they're for you and I'm so excited to get these into your hands so that you can start using them to heal. If the meditations sound like something that you want to try for your healing, enroll in The Meditation Workshop. I've invited a member of our community, I'm going to call her Pat, and she has been through the meditations and she's going to share her experience. So Pat, what was your favorite thing about the meditations? Processing Safety Through Meditations Pat (02:44):I love the focus on safety, and I don't think quite honestly, we talk about safety enough in our culture with women. Also, I appreciated the process of walking the idea of safety in all aspects of my life and then having the opportunity to release it. I found myself during the time that I was listening to the meditations contemplating safety in my life. It really opened the door for me to process. I realized that I have not felt safe in my environment ever. especially with my ex-husband. but I see how it was a really slippery slope with being numb to safety in my immediate environment during my marriage because in my culture, safety wasn't the norm. It was very helpful. "I am feeling more empowered to help [my daughters] process safety in their own lives." Pat, Member of the BTR.ORG Community I have four daughters, three adult daughters, and I still have one minor at home. Because I didn't feel safe in my marriage, I protected them subconsciously from my ex-husband, and now I know why. Now I feel more empowered to really help them process safety in their own lives because they've been conditioned as well in the environment that they grew up in to not really process their safety. I noticed that they also are numb to experiences that risk their safety because they don't process it. Anne (04:38):So the meditation helped you be aware of how you weren't safe? Pat (04:43):Absolutely. Anne (04:45):The interesting thing about the meditation is it is not very specific. It's kind of general because we wanted women to...

Rachel Moran is back taking a deep dive into male entitlement to women's bodies - and its severe ramifications, including homicide.

The term consent is dangerous. Rachel, founder of Space International, shares her expertise and offers hope in correct language that protects sexual autonomy.

Uncover the intricacies of gaslighting as Dr. Robin Stern and Anne explore emotional abuse, exposing manipulation tactics and offering insights for victims.

Gaslighting expert, Dr. Robin Stern, shares her expertise on the podcast - including detailing the three types of gaslighters.

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Enmeshment is a concept that can be difficult to understand, especially in the context of betrayal trauma and abuse. Paige is discussing enmeshment.

What is "Armchair Pathology" and how is it harming betrayal trauma victims? Paige is on The BTR.ORG Podcast. Tune in to find out.

Simona studied post-traumatic growth in victims of betrayal trauma - her findings may surprise and inspire you on your journey to healing.

Does your husband lie about small things? That behavior can be a HUGE red flag. Virginia is on the podcast with Anne, diving into psychological abuse.

Is your marriage just hard, as marriage can sometimes be? Or are you experiencing emotional abuse? Virginia is on the podcast with Anne.

Anne's daughter Penny is on the podcast, sharing her philosophy on how to say no and when to say yes.

Creating peace in an abusive dynamic is often tasked to victims. Anne talks about strategies women can use in the short-term to experience respite from chaos.

BTR is pro-safety - and sometimes that means divorce. And abusers? They hate that. Anne is going over some negative reviews from abusive men. Tune in.

Angela Craig and Tausha Haight were victims of abusive husbands. Anne sheds light on psychological and emotional abuse.

Anne uses the Bible to share her feelings regarding how people in positions of authority should help ease the suffering victims of betrayal and abuse.

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Ready to practice radical self-compassion? Dr. Stephanie Powell is back on the podcast sharing professional experience and empowering sentiments.

Are you a victim of sex trafficking? Dr. Stephanie Powell from NCOSE is on the BTR.ORG Podcast defining sex trafficking - listen now.

Misogyny thrives in societies where it's allowed to be hidden and covert. And we all know that misogyny fuels abuse. Dr. Jessica Taylor is back on the podcast.