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In this episode, Natalie interviews guest Anne Blythe, a leader in the Betrayal Trauma Recovery community. Together, they discuss the profound impact of sharing survivor stories, how lived experience can be just as valuable as formal expertise, and the damaging effects of sexual coercion in abusive relationships. Anne also sheds light on critical issues like manipulation, trauma, and reclaiming safety.Some Key Takeaways: Sexual Coercion and Abuse: Anne emphasizes how sexual coercion is often a hidden form of abuse within relationships. Many women face manipulation and pressure regarding sexual behaviors, which is often downplayed or ignored by their abusers, adding layers of trauma.Removing Shame from the Healing Process: Survivors often feel isolated or ashamed of their experiences, but through sharing their stories and seeking help, they can shed this burden.Prioritizing Safety Over Confrontation: Directly confronting an abuser often leads to further manipulation. Instead, focusing on safety and gathering support is a crucial first step in the healing process.Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Listen to Anne's podcast, Betrayal Trauma Recovery, on your favorite podcast listening app. Read Anne's book, Trauma Mama Husband Drama.Check out Anne's Meditation, Living Free, and Message workshops.Connect with Anne on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok. If you've found porn on your husband's phone, you can get a simple PDF HERE about what to do next.Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote another book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.My newest book, All the Scary Little Gods, is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming. Flying Free is my online membership program designed for Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we want to equip and support you through this program.Flying Higher is my online membership program for divorced Christian women. Come rebuild your life after divorce with women just like you. Anne is the Producer & Host of The BTR.ORG podcast and the author of Trauma Mama Husband Drama. She's also the creator of: The BTR.ORG Meditation, Living Free, and Message Workshops. After years of attempting to stop her husband's pornography use and “anger issues,” she turned her attention to establishing emotional and psychological safety for herself and her three children. As she learns in real-time, Anne shares her journey to help women safely and effectively separate themselves from their husbands' (or exes') emotional & psychological abuse and sexual coercion in order to establish peace in their homes. You can sign up to get group sessions with the coaches at BTR.ORG HERE.

In this insightful episode of The Traumedy Show, Rachel and Megan welcome Anne Blythe, the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast and founder of BTR.org. Anne shares her powerful journey from recognizing abuse in her marriage to becoming a beacon of hope and support for women worldwide who have experienced similar traumas. In this candid conversation, Anne delves into her story of confronting emotional, psychological and physical abuse, the challenges of identifying and escaping a narcissistic relationship and the importance of finding a supportive community. She also offers invaluable advice on navigating life post-divorce and the significance of reclaiming your own narrative and dreams. Discover the intricacies of betrayal trauma, the impact of psychological manipulation, effective strategies for ensuring safety and emotional well-being, and so much more. Whether you're seeking validation, guidance or a sense of solidarity, this episode provides a wealth of wisdom and encouragement.

This episode is Part 3 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop Series. Part 1: Brand New Meditations for Victims of Betrayal & AbusePart 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR Meditations (this episode)Part 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you, like many victims of betrayal and abuse, are desperate for stillness and peace, there is a new resource available to you. Lily, a member of the BTR.ORG community, found peace in the tumult of trauma by utilizing the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Chaos on the Outside, Peace on the Inside "With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible." Lily, Member of the BTR.ORG Community We understand how exhausting it is to face the trauma of betrayal and abuse. You deserve peace - and some victims find it in the stillness of trauma-informed meditation. Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.ORG, developed The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop to offer you peace and healing regardless of what your circumstances may be. BTR.ORG Is Here For You Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today - and experience the peace and calm that you have always deserved. Full Transcript: Anne (00:01):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. Last week I interviewed Pat about her experience with the meditations that I've written. This week, I'm interviewing another member of our community, I'm gonna call her Lily. So she enrolled in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop and then she enrolled in The Meditation Workshop and she's gonna share her experience. Talk to me about how you felt progressively as you did the meditation the first time, the second time, the third time. Do you think that it benefited you to do the same meditation three times? "I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside" Lily (02:03):Yes. I do believe it was beneficial to do it more than once. When I was listening to it, I was also going through a rough week in my divorce process. I found it very grounding to review and do the visualization and then actually to have the same visualization. So while I was going through all the turmoil on the outside, in my circumstances, the meditation and the visualization and the process being the same actually provided some grounding for me to be able to kind of stay steady through it. With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible. "I was surprised at just how grounded I felt" I was surprised at just how grounded I felt when I came into this process. And I didn't know that I could get away because my situation is difficult. My husband, he, he went after my son when I got away. He's very destructive. This meditation, it helped me go, okay, no, I deserve this. I can do this, I can get through this. Anne (03:05):It helps you feel more calm? Lily (03:08):Yeah. 'cause my son has an anxiety disorder at this point, and so he feeds off of my anxiety. So what happened was when I was able to be calmer, I felt more grounded. He's less anxious. So that was really helpful. "I'm able to be far more present and more attentive" Anne (03:22):Did you find that after the meditations you were acting any different or thinking any different in ways that were like new to you that you didn't have to work to do or think about doing? That just came naturally? Lily (03:35):Yes, I'm able to be far more present and more attentive to my son and stay in the moment. After the meditation, my thoughts were a lot calmer. The rumination was much less. And as I did the meditation more than once, the ruminating got less and less. So it was a cumulative benefit of repeating the meditation. Using The Meditation Workbook Anne (04:01):A lot of women when they know there's a workbook, it's like, what? That's not meditation.

This episode is Part 1 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop series.Part 1: Brand New Meditations For Victims of Abuse & Betrayal (this episode)Part 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR MeditationsPart 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you've experienced abuse and betrayal, you know chaos and despair. You also know deep yearning for peace and healing - and that's why Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG created The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Pat, a member of the BTR.ORG community, shares her insights after taking this workshop - tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Empowerment. Release. Safety. Pat uses powerful words to describe her experiences with The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. She was able to process her own trauma in new ways - while also developing a determination to teach her children how to identify and establish safety for themselves. BTR.ORG Is Here For You As you work toward safety and healing, know that we are here for you. Navigating betrayal trauma and emotional abuse is extremely difficult - even more so without a supportive community. BTR.ORG exists to support you on your healing journey. Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today and begin to feel the peace and empowerment that you deserve. Full Transcript: Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. So over the years, I found that for me, meditation was the most healing activity that I could do. I found meditations on YouTube and other places, and I would meditate. In my head, I'd always have to change it up a little bit for my own specific situation because they've been so healing to me. I decided to write meditations for you, for us women in our situation. (01:58):So the meditations that I wrote and recorded and edited, they are for women who are currently experiencing or who have experienced emotional or psychological abuse. Whether you're married or divorced or separated, they're for you and I'm so excited to get these into your hands so that you can start using them to heal. If the meditations sound like something that you want to try for your healing, enroll in The Meditation Workshop. I've invited a member of our community, I'm going to call her Pat, and she has been through the meditations and she's going to share her experience. So Pat, what was your favorite thing about the meditations? Processing Safety Through Meditations Pat (02:44):I love the focus on safety, and I don't think quite honestly, we talk about safety enough in our culture with women. Also, I appreciated the process of walking the idea of safety in all aspects of my life and then having the opportunity to release it. I found myself during the time that I was listening to the meditations contemplating safety in my life. It really opened the door for me to process. I realized that I have not felt safe in my environment ever. especially with my ex-husband. but I see how it was a really slippery slope with being numb to safety in my immediate environment during my marriage because in my culture, safety wasn't the norm. It was very helpful. "I am feeling more empowered to help [my daughters] process safety in their own lives." Pat, Member of the BTR.ORG Community I have four daughters, three adult daughters, and I still have one minor at home. Because I didn't feel safe in my marriage, I protected them subconsciously from my ex-husband, and now I know why. Now I feel more empowered to really help them process safety in their own lives because they've been conditioned as well in the environment that they grew up in to not really process their safety. I noticed that they also are numb to experiences that risk their safety because they don't process it. Anne (04:38):So the meditation helped you be aware of how you weren't safe? Pat (04:43):Absolutely. Anne (04:45):The interesting thing about the meditation is it is not very specific. It's kind of general because we wanted women to...

Carla and Sherry first start the show talking about their preference for sweet vs. sour candies, and then they take a Love Fix question from a listener who feels like they are walking on eggshells around their partner. They are seeking advice on how to move on from past arguments and make some real progress, but aren't even sure if their partner is open to it. They then welcome Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.org and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. BTR.org offers daily group sessions from women, victims of emotional and psychological abuse and sexual coercion with multiple sessions a day in every time zone. Anne is also the author of the educational picture book, Trauma Mama Husband Drama and a frequently requested speaker at events such as the National Center on Sexual Exploitation Global Summit.    We are offering complimentary break free from toxic and codependent relationship strategy calls that are exclusively our listeners. Head to thelovefix.com/contact to sign up.   Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast The Love Fix Relationship Quiz Join our Get Healthy Relationships and Dating Group Coaching Programs   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Sherry Website | IG Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love   Anne: BTR | Podcast | Books    Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts "I love Sherry and Carla and The Love Fix!”- If that sounds like you, please consider the rating and review our show! Scroll down to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast.   What You'll Hear In This Episode: The importance of creating relationship check-ins.  What is BTR.org, and what are the services they offer?  What is sexual coercion?  There are subtle types of threats in marriage that are often overlooked.  What if a partner is using pornography against the other partner's wishes?  How does codependency relate to victims of betrayal, trauma and abuse?  Sexual coercion marriage is actually very common. How can we create healthy conversation about our sexual needs in relationships?  The importance of addressing the abuse first.  Why Does He Do That and The Verbally Abuse Relationship are two books that Anne recommends for more knowledge, along with BTR's Living Free Workshop.    Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.  

Anne Blythe, host and creator of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast joins the podcast to discuss sexual coercion and how it shows up in marriage. Anne discusses her experience with sexual coercion, common misperceptions about sex in the marriage, and red flags one should be on the lookout for when sex is used as a means to control your partner. Contact Anne Blythe: www.btr.org For more resources on sexual coercion visit: www.rainn.org *Please note: Information provided on this episode are general suggestions and is not applicable to every situation or person. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. Some of the information discussed on the podcast can be sensitive in nature, therefore listener discretion is advised. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.  Watch the video podcast on Youtube: A Date With Darkness Email questions or comments to Dr. Jones admin@drnataliejones.com Sign up for the free ebook on Red  Flags in Your Relationships and the free weekly newsletter for tips about narcissistic abuse at www.drnataliejones.com Individual and group membership coaching sessions opening soon. Get on the mailing list to be the first to know here. Visit the website for more information: https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Let's keep the conversation going via social media: Instagram: A Date With Darkness Twitter: @Adatewdarkness Facebook: A Date With Darkness To connect with others who are seeking support from hurtful and abusive relationships please join the Facebook group: A Date With Darkness group

Brenda J and Karen W interview Anne Blythe, Director and Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. She is the BTR Podcast Host and Producer. They cover the topic of learning to trust again and letting your walls down. They also talk about post betrayal trauma and boundaries. Anne's first hand experience and insight are invaluable to abuse victims and it shows on this podcast. https://www.btr.org https://hangingontohope.org

Has your relationship with God been questioned, or told you just need to pray more, read the bible more, submit, forgive, stop holding on to bitterness, when you attempt to confront or question your spouse or pastor? Have biblical verses been used against you to gain what they want from you? Do you feel confused, disheartened, trapped? Is it possible that you are being abused spiritually? Anne Blythe is the Founder and CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, an online community for victims of betrayal and she is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. Her newest book, "Trauma Mama Husband Drama," can be purchased here.If you would like further help healing from spiritual abuse and/or betrayal trauma you can go to www.btr.org or www.lizayoungcounseling.com . 

Brenda J and Karen W interview Anne Blythe, Director and Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. She is the BTR Podcast Host and Producer. They cover the topic of learning to trust again and letting your walls down. They also talk about post betrayal trauma and boundaries. Anne's first hand experience and insight are invaluable to abuse victims and it shows on this podcast. https://www.btr.org https://hangingontohope.org

Sneak peek into episodes 56 and 57 Learning To Trust Again, Letting Your Walls Down with Anne Blythe of Betrayal Trauma Recovery.

Misogyny harms everyone: men, women, and children. Valerie Hudson and Anne Blythe take a deep dive into misogyny in faith communities.

A deep dive into the truth about why sexual betrayal is an domestic abuse with Dr. Omar MInwall and Anne Blythe on the BTR podcast.

Jana sits down with Anne Blythe, director of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery support group. Anne shares her personal experience surviving abuse and opens up about how women can find peace and healing in their relationships.  This conversation leads to some difficult memories for Jana and she opens up in a way we haven't seen before. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

How can someone begin to recover from the devastating moment when they learn about a partner's porn use or sexual infidelity? To share more we invited Anne Blythe, Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery - which seeks to validate a woman's experience of betrayal trauma by re-framing it with words to accurately describe their experience, as well as the necessary support to move through it, from those who have also walked the journey. She breaks down some indicators that a spouse may be truly interested in recovery, versus manipulative efforts to continue their addiction and psychological abuse of their partner. If you'd like to receive support or learn more about BTR visit their website for more resources like their printable 9 Steps to Heal from Betrayal Trauma, their list of recommended books, or check out their free educational podcast.

Pornography usage has devastating effects on the entire family, and sadly many women aren't able to receive the support they need when they discover a partner's porn abuse. Anne Blythe from Betrayal Trauma recovery describes why it's important to categorize porn use as abuse in the recovery process, whether or not you're still in the relationships. She shares reasons why a partner's recovery may not stick, and how to know whether or not someone is truly changing. She also discusses the benefits of anger in the recovery process, and how a parent's pornography usage can affect their kids. Visit BTR.org Check out Center for Peace Recovery Program for Men Check out our Sponsor Faithful Counseling 10% off first month offer Listen to this episode's Guided Scripture Meditation Devotional on YouTube, "Grieving Betrayal" Follow Agape Moms on Facebook or Instagram and join the Beloved Collective private Facebook group Download our Free "Podcast Pages" Journal Page

Domestic abuse is traumatic for anyone, especially when the person is unaware that they were being abused. Many people often use the violation of physical safety as the primary measure of domestic abuse. However, Anne Blythe believes that the violation of emotional safety is the most important measure. And being able to identify emotional and psychological abuse is the first step towards healing. About Guest/Topic Anne Blythe is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery—a daily online support group for women who are the victims of emotional abuse. She sheds light on topics such as gaslighting and other forms of emotional and psychological abuse. Anne’s goal is to help women identify the emotional and psychological abuse situations before a physical event happens. Her organization helps women who are victims of male perpetrators and give them immediate safety. In this episode, Anne Blythe debunks three myths about domestic abuse and shares ways to immediately recover from such trauma. In This Episode Discover why emotional safety should be used to gauge domestic abuse Understand the healing process to recover from emotional and physical abuse Learn how to talk to abuse victims in the right approach Identify when gaslighting occurs Learn how to deal with domestic abuse Debunk 3 domestic abuse myths Quotes “I don’t believe a physical violent episode can just take place in a vacuum unless it’s someone that you don’t know that’s just like randomly in the street. But if it’s someone that you have a relationship with, there have been elements of emotional and psychological abuse that precede that physical event.”  [02:25] “Betrayal can happen on both sides in men and women.” [06:08] “(Gaslighting is) when someone is trying to hide something, decides to alter your reality so that you live in an alternate reality with them and because you’re living in this alternate reality with them, you can’t see the signs of what’s really happening.” [09:57] “(Abuse is) never a communication issue. I have met some of the most amazing women who communicate so well and they’re not able to communicate their way out of abuse.” [17:24] “Why don’t women get out of abusive relationships? I think the number one answer is they don’t know that they’re in one.” [20:37] “You’re not going to be ever emotionally safe with someone who’s lying to you, with someone who’s willing to manipulate you, with someone who is more concerned with their secret behaviors than they are about your feelings. You’re never going to be safe with someone who is willing to violate your sacred trust of things you genuinely care about.” [26:17] “Abuse is something that is bigger than any of us. It is a societal problem, and in many cases, it’s a misogynistic problem. It’s a problem perpetuated by rape culture, pornography, and all types of different societal scripting and religious scripting.”  [30:35]   Resources Mentioned Anne Blythe’s website Anne Blythe’s books Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute PBT Institute Membership Community

Do you suspect that your partner is using porn? Have you discovered pornographic material on his phone or computer? These 4 tell-tale behaviors of pornography users will validate you and help you understand how his behavior is harming you. Tiffany Barnes join Anne Blythe on the free BTR podcast to share her insights and experience regarding the ways pornography users abuse women. Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast for more. Pornography Users Gaslight Victims Gaslighting is a universal tool of abusers. By distorting the victim's reality, porn users can avoid accountability and shift blame onto the victim. Gaslighting is also known as crazy-making. When Tiffany would confront her abusive ex-partner about his pornography use, she was gaslit: He just tried to make me feel like I was being crazy, and I did. I questioned it a few times; am Icrazy? Is this just me being ultra-paranoid or something? Pornography Users Attempt To Normalize Their Porn Use Often, pornography users employ tactics to make their sexually depraved behaviors appear normal to avoid accountability and make the victim feel "prude", boring, or immature. Some of the ways that pornography users attempt to normalize porn are: "Hiding" pornographic material in plain sightCalling pornographic material "art"Saying things like, "Everyone does this"; "I'm a guy, that's what guys do"; or "No other woman would have issues about my porn use."Saying that they use pornography to help the marriage/relationship become strongerBlaming the victim by saying things like, "If you would have sex with me more, I wouldn't do this." Pornography is NOT a healthy and natural piece of human sexuality: it is abuse and exploitation. When victims can ground themselves in this truth, their partner's manipulation won't work any more. Pornography Users Dehumanize Their Partners Many women report being photographed, videotaped, or even live-streamed by their abusive partners. Women are sexually coerced, degraded, and physically harmed when phonography users demand sexual contact. Pornography itself is objectification: selling women's bodies for money. When men choose to view pornographic material, they are by default objectifying other human beings. This rarely stays compartmentalized. Pornography users dehumanize their partners by:Fantasizing about themAsking them to perform sexual acts that the victims are not comfortable withAsking victims to view pornography with themDemanding or guilting partners into having sexual contactFilming, photographing, or otherwise sharing sexual photos of victims, with or without consent Pornography Users Sexually Coerce Partners Any time a man has sexual contact with his partner without fully disclosing his sexual history, including pornography use, he is guilty of sexual coercion. Healthy sex is consensual. Women cannot give informed consent when men withhold key information about their own sexual behaviors. This is sexual coercion, a serious form of sexual abuse. If you think you are being sexually coerced by your partner, ask yourself: Have we ever had sexual contact when he had used phonography but hadn't told me? If the answer is yes, then you are a victim of sexual abuse. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkPH4zkxJYw Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Pornography Users At BTR, we understand the confusion, fear, and devastation that women experience when their partner is using porn. That is why we created the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group: so that women can have access to multiple, live sessions every day. The BTRG gives women the opportunity to process trauma, ask questions, and share difficult feelings in a safe place. Join today. Full Transcript: Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne. I have some amazing news! We just surpassed 1 million downloads to the podcast, which I never everimagined would happen,

If consistent emotional abuse, manipulation and gaslighting are components of your relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for. Anne Blythe, producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, helps us begin the journey to unpack what is really going on, and face the lies, porn use, infidelity, sexual coercion and emotional abuse with confidence.

In this week's episode of Utah Weekly Forum, FM100.3 Host Rebecca Cressman is joined by Anne Blythe, the CEO and Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. BTR is a daily support group for women that provides multiple sessions a day led by trained therapists to help women recover from the pain caused by a spouses's lying, gas-lighting, infidelity, narcissitic traits, or other harmful actions. BTR also provides a free educational podcast called Betrayal Trauma Recovery led by Anne Blythe. 

When a woman finds out that she’s been betrayed, she’ll often get online and start searching. Sometimes, she’s not sure what she’s even searching for. Eventually, she may find it but, often, she may be searching for a long time. Many women are searching for answers. They’re searching for the answers to a lot of questions. “How did this happen?” “Why didn’t I see it coming?” “Could I have changed anything?” “Can I change HIM?” “What’s wrong with me? I feel crazy.” Some women, like you, find Betrayal Trauma Recovery and many of them have joined Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group. If you’ve been hesitant to join, or have come up with every excuse in the book, we give you The Top 5 Reasons You Should Join Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Today. Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, asked one of the wonderful BTR coaches if any of the women in her support group would be willing to share their thoughts on how Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group has helped them. The Top 5 Reasons You Should Join Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Today When Anne started Betrayal Trauma Recovery, she wanted somewhere women could go to find all the education they would need to heal from betrayal trauma. That dream has grown to include providing a safe place for women to share their own experiences to help them heal from the emotional and psychological abuse they’ve experienced in their relationships. Many women have found that joining a support group has helped them heal faster than they might have without it. There are many other benefits to joining any support group, but these are the Top 5 Reasons to Join Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group. The Top 5 Reasons You Should Join Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Today Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is SafeBetrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is ValidatingBetrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is HealingBetrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Professionally FacilitatedBetrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Affordable And Convenient Reason #1- Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Safe The very first recommendation on the BTR Checklist is to “Open Up to a Safe Person.” Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is a safe place. “One of the things that’s important is having safe people and if you have people around you that don’t necessarily understand your experience you don’t always feel safe. BTR creates that safe environment. The women in these groups are safe. You never have to feel judged.” -BTR Group member One of the most important rules for joining a session is to make sure you are in a place where you can be alone and won’t be interrupted. There are several reasons for this. One is that many of the things talked about are very personal. Another reason is that members of the group are more likely to share if they know that what they share is confidential. “BTR Group has been a lifesaver for me on many occasions. It’s a safe place where I can cry and let it out and share my fears no matter how silly they may seem to others. The coaches and other women in the group understand and get it. It’s a judgment-free zone where I can be me and fully accepted for who I am, for all my faults, failures, and my accomplishments.” -BTR Group member When a support group proves to be safe, it leads to Reason #2. Reason #2- Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Validating Once someone feels safe in a support group, they are more likely to open up and share. When people start sharing in a group, others are able to hear their experiences. Often, a woman may show up to group feeling like she’s crazy, usually because her abuser has told her so. Another woman will share an experience and, suddenly, the first woman doesn’t feel so crazy anymore. “I’m not alone! It’s happened to someone else too!” Validation. She isn’t crazy. She’s being emotionally and psychologically abused. Many women find that just hearing what others have to say and having others tell her she’s not...

Explaining the effects of emotional and psychological abuse to someone else is nearly impossible, especially when you're still trying to figure it out yourself! Anne Blythe presents Trauma Mama Husband Drama! Anne and Virginia talk about the process of writing the book and how it can help women get the help they need and heal.

Combined with beautiful illustrations by Cristalwolf Lobazul, Anne Blythe uses simple words and pictures to help explain the emotional and psychological abuse women experience as a result of their husband's pornography use.

Feeling safe isn't just being free from physical harm, so what is it? Once you understand safety, you can set boundaries. What are boundaries? Anne Blythe introduces a simple, yet effective, way to think about boundaries that will leave you feeling like you can set boundaries so you can feel safe.

Boundaries. Everyone has them, they just don’t realize it. Some boundaries are healthy. Some aren’t. Some boundaries keep us safe. Some don’t. Some are easier to set and hold. Some are more difficult. When an emotional abuse victim first learns about boundaries, she may have a difficult time setting and holding them. She may feel like she’s punishing her abuser, but she desperately wants to feel safe. At first, she doesn’t understand that healthy boundaries can protect her from the emotional and psychological abuse she’s been experiencing. If she’s a Christian, she gradually finds the strength to set and hold boundaries, even the hardest ones. She begins to realize that she’s worthy of boundaries and God wants her to have them so she can be safe. The more she learns about boundaries, the more she sees them as she studies her scriptures. Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, shares more of her insightful discoveries from studying the New Testament in 2019. Previously, she shared how the scriptures have given her hope even in the darkest times. Healthy Boundaries Can Help You Identify The Emotional Abuse For most women, admitting that they’re in an abusive relationship is the last thing they want to do. They believe that if they don’t call it abuse, it isn’t really there. But, as Anne says, the abuse is happening and seeing it can actually help women get safe. “A lot of women are worried about [identifying the abuse], because they think, ‘If I start focusing on it or I start to define the abuse then it will exist,’ but it exists anyways. The abuse is there whether you recognize it or not. Identifying it won’t make it worse, it will enable you to get to safety, which is awesome.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery As women begin to recognize the abuse they are experiencing, Anne recommends learning about abuse, as God advises in Luke 10:3, we’re “lambs among wolves.” “Be on your guard. You need to be prepared. You need to be educated about this. He doesn’t want us to stick our heads in the sand.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Learning about abuse, verbal, emotional and psychological, can help victims learn how boundaries can protect them. The Bible Teaches That Healthy Boundaries Are Christlike As Anne studied her New Testament last year, she made many amazing discoveries about boundaries in the Bible. She found multiple examples of Jesus Christ setting and holding boundaries, supporting others in holding their boundaries and sharing parables where boundaries were set and held. For example, in the Parable of the Ten Virgins in Matthew 25:9, the wise virgins tell the foolish virgins, “…go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for yourselves,” instead of giving them some of their own oil. In verse 10, the bridegroom shuts the door on the foolish virgins, supporting the boundary set by the wise virgins. In Matthew 25:30, the Parable of the Unprofitable Servant, Christ says, “And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.” Anne compares abusers to the unprofitable servant, since abusers are takers, not givers. “You don’t have the power, obviously, to throw somebody into outer darkness, but you do have the power to create boundaries that will work for you. I want to give you that hope.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Throughout the scriptures, Christ set boundaries. In one verse, He says, “Neither do I tell you by what authority I do these things.” (Mark 11:33) In another, He says, “If I tell you, ye will not believe…” (Luke 22:67) And in another, He says, “Jesus hid himself, and went out of the temple, going through the midst of them, and so passed by.” (John 8:59) In each of these instances, Christ recognized that the people weren’t exhibiting healthy behaviors,

During this crisis, it’s important to remember that one out of three women are in an abusive relationship or has experienced abuse in her lifetime. For women in emotionally or psychologically abusive relationships who aren’t aware of their situation, a time like this is particularly dangerous. The abuser may lie, gaslight, manipulate, or play mind games with his victim, as a way to entertain himself or to feel some semblance of power in a world that is increasingly out of his control. For example, in Utah, the current global crisis was compounded by a 5.7 magnitude earthquake and several large aftershocks. The damage, caused by the earthquake, to historical buildings in Salt Lake City and surrounding areas, has disrupted many lives. Even though businesses are closing or reducing their hours or modes of service, abusers don’t stop. -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma REcovery The number one reason emotionally and psychologically abused women don’t get out of their relationships is because they don’t know they’re in one. They also don’t recognize that they’re victims of sexual coercion. More isolated from friends and family than usual but in close proximity to their abuser for weeks, or even months, many victims may begin to see the truth of their situation. Even without a global crisis, once a woman does finally realize that she’s a victim of emotional and psychological abuse, setting boundaries for her safety is difficult. It may seem impossible to keep herself safe when her government has imposed a quarantine. Abuse Does Not Stop In A Crisis During this pandemic, people may blame the emotional and psychological abuse on stress, worry or fear. They may say, “This couple has had marriage problems for a while now. Now that they’re in close quarters, of course, their marriage problems are escalating.” This is approach is unsafe for victims of emotional and psychological abuse. This type of abuse is not related to stress or marital issues. It isn’t a communication issue.-Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Telling a victim that the abusive behaviors she’s experiencing are just because “he’s stressed” or “has cabin fever” only puts her in more danger. In most cases of emotional and psychological abuse, calling the police is useless because there hasn’t been any physical violence. Often, victims don’t get appropriate help when they reach out to therapists, clergy, family members or friends because they aren’t educated about emotional and psychological abuse. Those who are uneducated about abuse usually want to “help them communicate,” or find out what “his underlying issues are,” whatever they may be. They’re simply trying to stop what they believe is the worst-case scenario: Divorce. What they don’t realize is that she’s already in the worst-case scenario: An abusive situation.Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Similar to the initial claims that if we all stay calm, the coronavirus would just go away, a victim can’t calm her way out of an abusive situation. During the lockdown, victims of emotional and psychological abuse may need to quarantine themselves within their quarantine. They may need to go to different parts of the house, practice gray rock or other methods of emotional detachment. If at all possible, they may need to find friends or family members to stay with for the duration of the lockdown.   Whether you’ve had to quarantine yourself during your quarantine or have been able to make it to a safe place, Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group can help women who are victims of emotional and psychological abuse get live, ethical, online support during times of crisis, such as this. Each BTR Group session is led by a certified betrayal trauma coach. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast is a free way for victims to get educated and feel supported by women who understand their situation.

Cancelled flights. Falling stock prices. Closing schools. Quarantine. On the verge of a global crisis, many people are demonstrating their ability to handle emergency situations. In some cases, stores are being emptied of basic necessities, like toilet paper. In others, people are calling for a closure of schools and other public gatherings. Betrayal Trauma Recovery will leave the handling of the national emergency to the authorities and focus on helping women everywhere learn what abusive behaviors they should watch for in this time of crisis.   Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, warns that in times of crises abusers may escalate and their victims should watch for an increase of abusive behaviors. “A lot of women have trouble, and abusive episodes happen, when they’re on vacation or on the weekend or other times they’re with the abuser full time. He doesn’t have an outlet to act out or get out of family duties. Generally speaking, abusers will do anything they can to get out of doing anything or a situation they feel uncomfortable with.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Oftentimes, they’ll use work as an excuse and when their victim “complains” about how much time they’re spending on work, the abuse will come back with remarks such as, “You don’t respect my work,” “You don’t respect me,” or “My job is important.” Unfortunately, during this time, as major events are being cancelled, schools are closing down and people are being asked to work virtually, a woman may find herself feeling stuck with her abuser and see more abusive behaviors come out. Some men will be good and reliable in a crisis and others will become more abusive. This comes from their loss of power and control. Anne explains this phenomenon. “Abusers get their power from ‘power over,’ while healthy people get their power from a sense of mutuality. Like ‘We’re on a team, working together. We have mutual respect for each other.’” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery In other words, a healthy person gets their power from both partners working for the relationship. An abuser, on the other hand, gets his power from having control over his partner. An abuser gets his power from having power over someone. In a crisis, an abuser may feel a lack of control. When this happens, he may try to start a fight with his victim over things that seem pointless, like cereal. Anne explains. “This may be because they’re flailing in their sense of self, because they have no personal power, unless they feel like they can control someone else. They are not in control of themselves.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery During this time of crisis, Betrayal Trauma Recovery wants you to continue to stay safe and hold your boundaries. If you are noticing an increase in abusive behaviors in your husband or just beginning to see the abusive behaviors or just need a safe place to talk about your experiences with abuse and betrayal, Betrayal Trauma Recovery is here for you. Whether you join from your closet, your car, or your bedroom, Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is that safe place. With more than 15 sessions a week, it’s easier than ever to find a BTR Group session that fits your schedule without having to leave your home. Each session is led by a Certified Betrayal Trauma Specialist. Full Transcript: Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne. It’s early in the morning today. Everyone is concerned, for good reason, about the coronavirus outbreak, and all the flights that are cancelled and the stock market and people being quarantined and employers telling people to work from home, etc. I wanted to talk about how men who exhibit abusive behaviors, tend to escalate during a crisis—although they may put on the opposite, they may be really, really good during a crisis. It could be any of those things.

Abuse is more complex than just physical violence or verbal assault. When we are connected to a partner, a deep and strong tie becomes embedded inside that leaves us vulnerable and open to trauma in many forms (not just infidelity).  For many women, it’s become so chronic in their relationship that they don’t realize how it’s impacting their quality of life and health. After years of attempting to stop her husband’s pornography use and “anger issues”, Anne Blythe's husband was arrested for domestic violence in 2015. Anne educates women about how to safely and effectively navigate their husband’s (or ex’s) abuse and establish peace in their homes and families. Anne was APSATS trained and is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast. She has been a key presenter at numerous conferences.  In this episode: What is GASLIGHTING? What are the ONLY 2 ways to heal from manipulation and abuse? Repentance and reconciliation are good, but…It is completely unethical for therapists and clergy leaders to ask a women to be “patient” with her perpetrator.  Find out why. How is betrayal trauma different – and oftentimes more emotionally intense and complex - than other types of PTSD? Link to this episode is in the comments below!  (SUBSCRIBE to Women Seeking Wholeness on iTunes, Spotify and all other podcast platforms) Find Anne: www.btr.org If you haven’t checked out my (Cherie’s) free healing mini-kit, go here: www.cherieburton.com/healingkit   ABOUT: Cherie Burton is a mom of 6, author, international speaker, emotional healing expert, business owner and feminine leadership trainer. She specializes in the science and spirituality of emotions and sensory integration; a "whole soul" approach.  Cherie has degrees in psychology and sociology and has worked as a counselor in the fields of mental health and addiction.  She is a former Mrs. Utah and coaches females of all ages in private mentoring programs, retreats and online courses.  Cherie travels internationally, empowering audiences with knowledge and tools to heal their emotions, find their callings, and receive wholeness. CHECK OUT HER WEBSITE: www.cherieburton.com Cherie has recently launched two online courses: The Emotional Wholeness Master Class and The 22 Day Depression Cleanse which can be found HERE.   She is the author of two e-books, “Where Depression Ends and You Begin: 4 Passages to  Discovery”; and “True and Lasting Change--4 Ways to Break Through Fear.”  Her Stand Speak Shine programs provide women with retreats and mentoring programs to empower them to heal, express and create.  www.standspeakshine.com Her book, If She Could Speak, will be released in 2021. Meet her at www.cherieburton.com

Parenting is hard enough … but add a spouse who’s actively using pornography, and you have an additional batch of stress that can often feel unbearable. So how do you do it? How do you balance both at the same time?  We talk about hard stuff on our show, but this topic feels even more tricky than usual. This show might not apply to your situation. But more than likely, it will apply to at least one woman you know—whether you are aware of it or not. Family dynamics are complicated enough. Marriage, kids, work, parenting. But what about when your spouse is addicted to pornography? That’s a whole different ball of wax. According to our guest today, Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, most women—even those doing recovery work alongside their husbands—are not getting the help they need. IMPORTANT: We understand that husbands are not always the ones who become addicted to pornography. We recognize that women are also susceptible to porn addiction. That is a topic for another time. However, Betrayal Trauma Recovery works specifically with wives of addicts. For complete podcast notes, visit ParentsAware.info.

Register for the Liberating Saints Virtual Summit Here This is a clip from the upcoming Liberating Saints Virtual Summit which begins on September 10, 2019. In this clip, you will hear Anne Blythe who is the director of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, which is an organization that helps women overcome the trauma they experience in abusive relationships. To hear the full interview register for the Liberating Saints Virtual Summit

Today Carol interviews Anne who is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast. She spent years of attempting to help her husband recover from his sexual addiction, yet problems worsened and he was arrested for domestic violence. Anne has made it her mission to help other partners keep themselves safe and she would like to share her journey with us!

Today I am joined by a fellow betrayal expert and podcast host, Anne Blythe, as we reframe betrayal as abuse and explore the often unacknowledged pain that women can be in for years. The founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, Anne is passionate about providing education and support to women who have experienced an abusive betrayal and are seeking healing. After realizing that she was in an abusive relationship herself, Anne founded Betrayal Trauma Recovery as a means to help women gain the words and acceptance necessary to explain and define an abusive betrayal experience in order to move on and make forward progress. Today she dives in deep as we explore themes of our oversexualized society and its harmful impact on women, the importance of collective grief and support, and why we need to become better educated on what abuse looks and sounds like. Anne and I are here to make sure that you know that you are not crazy, and you are not alone. Listen in as Anne explains some common forms of abuse found in betrayal situations, ways to identify your abuse and set boundaries, and the importance of believing victims and trusting women. When you are able to educate yourself about abusive betrayal and find a support system of women who have been through it, you can walk through the fog and come out on the other side more aware and present than ever before. By supporting all women, not just victims, to achieve a happier, healthier and more peaceful life, we can reduce the abuse cycle and resolve our issues at the core. Anne is here to help you circumvent the confusion period after an abusive betrayal and get on the path to feeling safe again. Are some of the signs and feelings associated with an abusive betrayal sounding familiar to you? Share your thoughts and concerns with us in the comments on the episode page!   In This Episode Ways to figure out if you may be being abused or betrayed without your knowledge Using demonstrations like the Me Too Movement to learn to trust and believe women Reasons why pornography use can be seen as an abusive tool of deception The importance of teaching your children consent and setting personal boundaries How to get the specific kind of support that you need after an abusive betrayal   Quotes “That type of behavior, where you are purposefully manipulating someone to control the narrative of how they perceive you is abuse.” (3:33) “As I have taken the time to heal, and as I have seen women come to our community and heal, my life has become immeasurably better. I have felt peace and I have moved forward with my life.” (10:54) “Our community is an amazing place where women can feel validated, and where they can hear their experience through someone else's words sometimes.” (12:08) “The misogyny that is rampant right now and the Me Too Movement really shows that people don't understand the way that objectifying women harms them.” (20:47) “I have a Masters degree, I am not stupid, and I didn't know I was being abused. And so many women are in that situation.” (23:44) “It takes a while to get out of the fog, but I think the important thing is to start walking on that path, and you will be lead to the places and the people that you need to find.” (29:09)   Links FREE Gift: 9 Steps To Heal From Betrayal Trauma Checklist Betrayal Trauma Recovery Website Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast Join A Betrayal Trauma Support Group Here   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/55 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Anne Blythe, Founder and CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery which helps women dealing with the abusive nature of their relationship with ography users. Anne explains that coming to grips with the fact that you're in an abusive relationship is a process, and Betrayal Trauma Recovery aims to help women through the process and get to safety - hopefully with their relationship in tact because BTR believes people can change. To ensure your emotional, physical, and sexual safety through the process, there is a specific, proven path, set out by the APSATS multi-dimensional partner trauma model that is followed exclusively at BTR because all BTR coaches are APSATS certified and work together as a team to support clients through the process. BTR has daily online support groups and individual sessions for clients. Listen as Carol shares these important services for you!

Carol the Coach will be interviewing Anne Blythe, Founder and CEO of Betrayal Trauma Recovery which helps women dealing with the abusive nature of their relationship with ography users. Anne explains that coming to grips with the fact that you’re in an abusive relationship is a process, and Betrayal Trauma Recovery aims to help women through the process and get to safety - hopefully with their relationship in tact because BTR believes people can change. To ensure your emotional, physical, and sexual safety through the process, there is a specific, proven path, set out by the APSATS multi-dimensional partner trauma model that is followed exclusively at BTR because all BTR coaches are APSATS certified and work together as a team to support clients through the process. BTR has daily online support groups and individual sessions for clients. Listen as Carol shares these important services for you!  

Interview Transcript Available Below In this episode we interview Dr. Jill Manning, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and Anne Blythe, Director of Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Jill Manning is a PhD level marriage and family councilor and has been practicing for 17 years. She is on two national boards, Enough is Enough and App Status.  She lives in Colorado. Anne Blythe spent seven years trying to save her marriage as her husband battled a pornography addiction. She currently coaches women online who are going through a similar situation. She has a website and hosts a podcast, Betrayal Trauma Recovery. Her website and podcast are dedicated to helping support women through this trauma.   Episode Highlights 2:26 Betrayal trauma is when someone who loves you violates your trust in a critical way. This betrayal can happen to these victims multiple times. 9:36 Anne struggled to put the pieces together in the midst of her trauma and recognize this was in an abusive relationship. 11:13 Sometimes Bishops can have a hard time helping couples through these pornography addictions as two different perspectives are shared, ”he said, she said”   12:11 For Anne going to church during this time was extremely difficult. She kept going because she knew it was right. 13:51 As a Mormon culture we are a trusting people. That can make it hard dealing with addicts who are not always honest due to shame and minimizing the situation. They can also gas light the situation and manipulate reality. 14:36 When helping in the “he said, she said” situations step back and evaluate who is motivated by what. 15:41 It can take women some time to realize they are in an abusive relationship 18:50 It can take months or years to get the full story from the addict. Help teach them that it is ok and normal to spotlight the situation. 21:52 The addict is not mentally capable of divulging everything at once. 22:13 The spouse can be the barometer for what is really happening. 24:21 Secondary Trauma is trauma that comes from asking for help and feeling dismissed. 26:19 For the victims it can help to see action being taken and the addict held accountable. 30:44  Consuming pornography is unrighteous dominion. 31:29  Emotional, spiritual, and financial, abuse is real and often linked to pornography addiction. 34:11  Studies have shown that 2/3 of people struggling with pornography addiction have been found to have a mood disorder. Those studies also show that 44 percent have a personality disorder and narcissistic traits. 34:14 Three studies have shown that 71 percent of women meet the criteria for PTSD as victims of their spouses pornography addiction. 35:29  Zoom into helping the victims with safety first. That includes being physically and spiritual safe. 37:35 Lean on Heavenly Father to help you through this and always establish emotional safety.  Resources and Links: Enough is Enough Betrayal Trauma Recovery  Steve and Kayla's Story of Sexual Addiction and Recovery Jill Manning's Website Interview Transcript: Kurt Francom: Today we are welcoming into the podcast Jill Manning and Anne Blythe. Dr Jill Manning: Doing well. Anne Blythe: Great. Kurt Francom: Jill, maybe let's start with you. Tell us about your background. What does the Leading Saints world need to know [00:05:00] about you and what you offer to this discussion? Dr Jill Manning: Sure. I'm a PhD level marriage and family therapist. I've been practicing for approximately 17 years now. I'm from Canada originally, but based in Colorado. I sit on two national boards, Enough is Enough, which focuses on internet safety, and also APSATS, which focuses on certifying and training those that are specializing in partners of sex addiction work, and I'm a clinician in private practice. Kurt Francom: Awesome. I love to have a good, solid [00:05:30] expert to throw questions at, for sure. Anne,

Listen as Carol the Coach interviews Anne Blythe who is the producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, a nonprofit, online coaching practice for women. All of the coaches at Betrayal Trauma Recovery are trained by The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS for short). After years of attempting to help her husband recover from his ography addiction and "anger issues", he was arrested for domestic violence in 2015. Anne shares her recovery adventure in real time on The Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast, as she and the APSATS coaches seek to educate women about how to safely and effectively navigate their husband’s sex addiction and related behaviors. The Betrayal Trauma Recovery professionals share their tips, skills and techniques to empower women on their betrayal trauma healing journey.