The Intimate Lifestyle

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of Dave Weale. His biological dad left when he was a child, and his step-father was his dad. Dave, a men's coach in Vancouver, talks about how he met his biological father. He also shares how his relationship with his step-father has improved over the years.    If you'd like to reach out to Dave, you can find him on Facebook, and that's where you can find his show about psychedelics!    If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, Sam Gray, who had a distant relationship with his dad, even though his father was home. Counterintuitively, even though he lived with his dad, his relationship was quite distant.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the story of a man, Max Dabrowski, who constantly had conflicts and arguments with his "old school" father. And now, they're.....well...listen in and find out.   If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

In this series of interviews, I talk to men who have healed their, previously horrible, relationship to their father.   Children who grow up without fathers tend to have more mental health issues, more rates of suicide, more issues in school (higher drop out rates), and a whole slew of other issues.   It's undebatable the importance of our fathers. Unfortunately, many men have either grown up with an abusive or absent father. Naturally, this creates distance between them and their dad, along with resentment, distrust, anger and sadness.   I wanted to speak with men who had gone through their pain, and healed their relationships with their fathers.    This episode shares the stories of men who grew up with varying relationships with their fathers, the emotional turmoil they struggled with, and how they reached a healthier relationship them. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This episode is all about the King, Warrior, Magician, Lover archetypes. Every man has a King in him. And a Warrior, and a Magician and a Lover. If one of these "energies" is being neglected, it will sabotage your life, perhaps through procrastination on work projects. Or avoidance of hard conversations or a lot of relationship breakups.  When you understand which of your archetypes is being neglected, you can bring yourself back to balance and into your natural power. If you enjoy deep psychological work, Jungian psychology, and getting into what makes each of us tick as men, then this is up your alley.  If you'd like Jeevan to run a constellation for you and your friends or men's group, then you can reach him here: Instagram.com/11hanuman11. To book in with him, you can go here. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Do you ever really like someone, and then get all nervous and weird? Do you ever feel like you lose your sense of self when trying to date? Here's a skill that I've learned to help build a genuine connection with someone, without having to suppress any feelings of nervousness. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Many people put on a mask when they make a new friend, or start dating someone. They assume that wearing a mask is the same as being private. But that's not true. You can still be you, but not disclose information about your thoughts or your feelings. If you wear a mask, you're attempting to lie to the other person, trying to control their perception of you by telling them you're something other than who you are.  Wearing a mask will always result in feeling unfulfilled. Even if you get what you want, you'll never feel truly seen or truly loved. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This was a juicy episode with Gillian Pothier. Gillian is a depth psychologist with advanced immersion in Jungian and Archetypal psychology. Gillian specializes in the masculine/feminine relationship and how, in order to maintain deep passion in a relationship, there needs to be hierarchy. For instance, that hierarchy states that the man (the masculine) leads, and the woman (the feminine) submits. At first glance, this seems archaic in thinking but, when you listen to Gillian, she speaks not of subservient, disempowered women. Rather, she speaks of honour, and how women can honour men (the masculine) and vice versa. But, in order for us to do so, we need to accept our energetic differences. That means that one person, energetically, is going to be the leader (the masculine), and the other the follower (the feminine. Typically the woman). It's in our differences as men and women that we can compliment one another. If we're the same, there's nothing to compliment. But, when we give up some of our power to the other person, that can be triggering, because it's vulnerable. But it's that vulnerability that brings us closer together.  This episode won't suit everyone. If you like what Gillian speaks of, you can find her here and here. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

First and foremost, as a disclaimer, if you're looking for emotional healing, go to a trained therapist and/or counsellor.  Coaches can help moving forward in life, but a coach can't replace therapists/counsellors. the best combination is to work with a coach and a therapist in tandem. If you can't afford either, then this episode will give you a start in your emotional healing journey. I've had a lot of people ask "How can I get rid of negative emotions?" There are many ways one go about doing this on their own. This episode is a start to that answer. If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

A crude example, with a tinge of anger, but a necessary lesson for those people sitting on the fence about going to therapy/counselling/coaching.  If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

This is a personal, and rather emotional story. I don't often share this much, so this is quite a vulnerable episode for me. But, considering how powerful my most recent experience on psilocybin mushrooms (magic mushrooms) was, I wanted to share. (this was an "Ego Death" not an actual death...but it felt like it.) It was by far, the most challenging spiritual journey I've endured, and also the most rewarding. I came face to face with my own mortality.  I don't know if this is going to be supportive. I don't know if this is going to be helpful. I did, however, simply want to share this experience because of it's profundity in my life.  If you haven't already, remember to subscribe to this show, and leave a rating and a review. And if you feel compelled to reach out to me as a result of this episode, you can reach me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com or you can go to my website here.

Randy Tymkin started the company Manhood Canada with one idea in mind: Creating prosthetic foreskins to help men reclaim their penis and pleasure. There's an interesting and funny story about his mother in law in here too..... If you're interested in some one on one coaching support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any hormone test kit. 

Andrew Mioch started the company Sexual Quantum Leap in 2018 to help men become the best lover a woman has had inside and outside the bedroom. Andrew has studied for over 9 years tantra, BDSM, sensual massage, anything and everything personal growth and spirituality and has been running the most exclusive sex party in Melbourne. His resume speaks for itself and he shares some amazing truth bombs in this show.  If you're interested in some one on one support with me, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

How do you become a man? How do you know you're a man? In many cultures, a right of passage is designed to rip a boy from his mother. It then teaches him pain and struggle, because life is fucking hard and dangerous. Provided he makes it through the pain and the struggle, he is then initiated into manhood. Jeddy Azuma is dedicated to helping men go through their rights of passage into manhood. Our lives, as men, are lacking in the guidance our ancestors had.  This is a truly fantastic conversation, with an amazing man. You can find out more about Jeddy and his initiations here. If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

I'm not the biggest fan of spoken word poetry. But my friend, Deus Fortier, just blew me away with this piece on sex and passion and our relationship to sexuality.  After he shares his piece, we get into an informal and personal conversation about our sexual experiences, and personal and spiritual growth.  If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

Here's a personal story into how I've broken unhealthy patterns in the past. I also talk about why it's so f*cking hard to put an end to patterns and decisions we know aren't good for us.  If you want to put an end to decisions and behaviours you know aren't serving you, then this podcast may give you a little insight into how to break the pattern.  If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

A relationship won't work if both people are completely equal. One person needs to take the lead. In a heteronormative relationship (in which this podcast is based), that is going to be the man.  Many people may get triggered by this, but there's a difference between leadership, and dominating the other person.  Here's an explanation into the necessity of leadership of one person in a relationship, and how to do it right.  If you're interested in some one on one support, go here, and let's set up a discovery call and have a conversation.  This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” This man shares his experience and enjoyment of masturbating with fellow men, and sending dick pics to each other.  Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” This man was molested by a woman when he was younger. And that bled into struggling with premature ejaculation that took him years to get control over.   Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Ever struggled with erectile dysfunction with a woman you're incredibly attracted to? This man has, and he shares his story with us today.    Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” My guest today is speaking about his experience going to an escort.  Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest is talking about his experience with a woman. Everything was going fine until 6 months after they dated she said "What you did was akin to rape." This was a challenging conversation to navigate.   Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest is talking about his experience with shame around being bisexual.   Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest who's self-described as a very masculine man, shares his sexual secret. His secret is that he likes to get pegged. Getting pegged is when your girlfriend puts on a strap-on dildo, and f***ks you anally.  Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to subscribe and leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest shares his big turn on....being fisted. Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest, who's gay, shares his experience with being a bottom during sex (ie taking vs giving). And he shares some of the shame associated with it. Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest shares his experience with premature ejaculation and how he lost his virginity. Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

“Something I don't want you to know about me is _________.” Today, my guest shares an embarrassing and somewhat traumatizing experience with his mother. Everyone has a sexual secret. Maybe it's a fantasy, or an experience they've had or want to have. And often, these sexual secrets are a huge source of shame. How do you heal sexual shame? The first step is speaking it out loud.  So, I created a series of interviews with men who are sharing their sexual secrets. By speaking these secrets out loud, the men benefit from: Increased sexual confidence Having a huge weight lifted off of them Emotional freedom Not feeling stuck in a lie If you would like to come on the show to start your process of feeling more confident and getting this off your chest, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Remember to leave a rating and review!  Enjoy the show. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

The Secret Sexual Share is a series of episodes where men share their sexual secrets to remove guilt and shame and begin/continue their growth in sexual confidence. Today is where I share a fantasy of mine that I held a lot of shame around, and explain what this series is all about in more detail. This show is sponsored by Let's Get Checked. Want to get your Testosterone checked? Or an STI check? Go to https://trylgc.com/intimate and use the Coupon Code HeathyYou2020 for 20% off any test kit. 

If you've been following The Intimate Lifestyle, you'd know that I've been MIA on the podcast scene for a bit as I decided to focus on other aspects of the brand. However, this episode is just too good to pass up on, and so here I am talking about passion, sex and wellness with Susan Bratton. Susan Bratton is at the forefront of a movement in sex and relationships. Alongside her husband, she is the CEO and co-founder of Personal Life Media. Through this initiative she has produced numerous online courses and publications including the Amazon best-seller Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials For Connected Sex. An expert in this arena, she's helped millions of people ignite and rekindle the passion in their sex lives and relationships. It's something different having a woman's point of view talking about penile health. The topics Susan and I covered run the gamut, from thrusting techniques, freezies, how heart disease starts in the penis, and the life changing magic of lickin' and dickin'. Other points we've chatted about are: An anecdote about a guy who kicked Susan out of the bedroom, Facebook stalking and getting the last laugh (05:12) Being an intercourse-orgasm late bloomer and the process towards mind-blowing sex and orgasms. (07:34) Thrusting techniques that create better, longer, and more intense stimulation for women. (13:29) Shrinking penises and loosening vaginas, other sexual health issues, and methods of sexual restoration. (20:08) Penis pumps, my experience using one, and what penis pumping should feel like. (25:31) The shame surrounding penis size and determining the need for penis enlargement. (32:08) How non-ejaculatory orgasms and multi-orgasmic states can result to a bigger penis, the concepts of edging and riding the wave, and improving sexual stamina and orgasms through breathing. (35:10) Tips and tricks to maintain prostate health. (45:54) How our lifestyle choices negatively impact hormone levels, libido, and whole well-being. (57:01) This was a refreshing episode, and I gotta admit, I think I missed sharing experiences and absorbing wisdom through these conversations. Susan and I really just scratched the surface but if you want to learn more about Susan and her life's work, visit BetterLover.com or keep updated through Instagram @susanbratton. She's also provided useful resources for anyone who wants to improve their relationships, sex, and lives through Personal Life Media. Sexual Vitality Summit Get Hard Instantly on Command eBook Penis Pumping Guide Tuning Fork Technique Thanks for spending your time with me on the Intimate Lifestyle Podcast. Browse through past podcast episodes and articles if you want more sex-positive, relationship-enriching and life-changing content. For feedback, questions, or suggestions on who might be good guests and/or resources, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. If you're struggling with your sex life, intimacy, relationships, or your life in general, I currently have openings for new clients and I'm also running my 3-month Noble Lover Program. Feel free to reach out and connect for more immersive learning and guidance.

Authenticity and honesty are concepts that have been iterated time and again in the show and from the guests as one of the key components of successful relationships and meaningful life.   This time around, we have the main proponent of radical honesty to speak about what he's been advocating and teaching for the last 25 years.   Brad Blanton is a psychotherapist, author, workshop leader, speaker, and the founder of Radical Honesty Enterprises. His team conducts more than a hundred workshops per year, plus coachings and meetup groups to share with the world how radical honesty can positively impact lives.   Brad joins me as this episode's guest as we talk about his bestselling book Radical Honesty -- a book that changed my life immensely. Some might think that radical honesty can result in judging and hurting people, but what Brad offers is a genuine and honest expression that allows you to transform your life and your relationships.   Brad unpacks the objectives as well as consequences of practicing radical honesty in the various aspects of our lives.  We also touched on a bit of politics too.   Some of the areas we covered in this episode include:   An overview of his work and business that grew into what it is today, and why he attributes the recent boost of his book sales to Donald Trump. (04:07) What radical honesty means, how it goes against society's conventions, and why ‘the fake it ‘til you make it' attitude of pretending and lying can be detrimental to our lives. (06:04) How to engage with people and live life practicing more honesty. (12:46) Radical honesty when it comes to job interviews and recruitment. (18:50) Why Brad recommends being honest at the risk of offending and hurting people, and the value of forgiveness. (23:59) Understanding our assumptions and perceptions of the world, the difference between the two concepts, and the conflicts that arise from these. (29:11) The importance of sticking around after you've been honest with someone. (32:50) The information that Brad suggests to disclose if someone cheats in a relationship and why the need for these details? (34:28) The faulty values of righteousness and moralism. (37:36) A proof of how radical honesty works even in the political arena. (43:42) Radical honesty in pick-up arts and dating. (45:40) The difference between brutal and genuine honesty, and tapping vulnerability and relationship intimacy. (53:09) The consequences of practicing radical honesty which can lead to better family or relationship dynamics. (59:27) Dealing with the phases of anger, how it leads to forgiveness, and the process of forgiveness. (1:03:04) A new workshop his team is working on that merges personal growth with politics. (1:09:29) Living life authentically is something that I promote so I want more people to learn about it.  If you want to discover more about Radical Honesty and how it can improve your life, get a free copy of Intro to Radical Honesty. If you're interested in their workshops and other services, you may reach Brad and his team at www.radicalhonesty.com, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Brad's books are all available on Amazon, including Radical Honesty and Practicing Radical Honesty. As for me, I'm still a bit on the fence when it comes to approaching women with radical honesty. I guess I'm going to have to see if it will be effective for me. Maybe I'll give you an update how it goes. One place where you can practice radical honesty though is by reaching out to me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com for your feedback, suggestions, and questions. I'd love to hear your honest thoughts. Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.

Decoding other people's intentions isn't always the easiest task. Plus, there always seems to be a disconnect when it comes to men and women understanding each other's needs. The disconnect becomes apparent when individuals are in a relationship and their deficiencies in providing what the other needs become the root of disagreements.   The Intimate Lifestyle invited this week's guest, John Wineland, to shed some light on this matter. John is an LA-based men's group facilitator, author, speaker and teacher who guides men, women, couples, and groups in the field of spiritual intimacy and yogic sexuality so they may deepen their relationships and connections.   I watched one talk John gave about what men crave and I was immediately hooked to the message he's sending out to the world. This conversation was mind-blowing for me and I'm excited to share it with you. I must warn you though, expect a lot of realizations and incredible insights that might possibly change your life and how you show up to the world from this episode.   John and I zeroed in on what men crave and how men can lead, but there are various topics that we've touched on including: How yogic sexuality enables people to experience sex in a deeper level with a physical, emotional, and energetic component. (03:50) What are men and women's different relationship needs and motivation, and how each can help and support the other accomplish these. (06:46) Understanding freedom and how it is related to commitment and relationships. (11:11) How men crave feminine energy and the qualities men find valuable in women. (16:48) Men's realization of their craving for the deepest experience of the feminine heart. (22:57) The three levels of masculinity that manifest in the real world and how masculinity can free women. (28:36) The concept of leadership, surrender, trust, and the whole power dynamics in relationships. (37:55) Masculine qualities that women yearn for but men haven't learned and aren't necessarily trained to be. (47:01) How men can assume leadership without stripping women of power and control, what good masculine leadership looks like, and what individuals value in the present time. (50:00)   Now that was a really thought-provoking discussion, wasn't it? What he teaches should be made available as part of basic life skills and learnings if you ask me. And I definitely urge you to share this episode far and wide so men and women all over the world get to understand each other and themselves a little better.   John and I are merely scratching the surface and if you want more of this, get in touch with John through his website. You can also read his contributions for mindbodygreen, and watch his talks and other videos on YouTube. Also, catch the original talk that I listened to on What Men Crave.   Thoughts, suggestions, inquiries? Email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. Your feedback is highly appreciated!   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.    

Now, when I first saw a podcast interview that today's guest had been a part of entitled ‘Fucking a Man's Heart Open', I automatically wondered what it meant.   We have EJ Love, the Love Priestess on today's show to share her knowledge as a love, relationship, and sex coach. She helps her clients figure out their relationships and lives by focusing on self-love, communication, soul connection, and spiritual rituals.   Before we go directly to this insightful episode, here's an exclusive offer for The Intimate Lifestyle followers. If you go to adamandeve.com, there is a discount code that you can use to avail of 50% DISCOUNT on any one item, plus FREE SHIPPING. Input the discount code SEXTALKS upon checkout to redeem this deal.   EJ and I had a very interesting discussion where we tackled the female orgasm, fucking a man's heart open and ghosting, just to name a few. Specifics that we chatted about include: How working as an escort steered her into this path and how tantric massage became a catalyst towards positive change. (09:10) Who is ultimately responsible for women's orgasm. (15:41) Fucking a man's heart open through a woman's vulnerability, and how this realization happened to EJ. (18:48) Making it possible to fuck a man's heart open. (27:06) Bridging the disconnect between men and women's communication. (35:18) Acknowledging men's efforts to make women happy and how we tend to self-sabotage. (42:15) The purpose of the process of living and an experiment in practicing radical honesty. (46:25) EJ's perception of how we unconsciously encourage people into ghosting us. (51:56) This is such an enlightening conversation. So many realizations about communication, sex, relationships, and life. I highly suggest that you share this episode with your circle. Everyone can learn a thing or two from this. If you can't get enough of this, you can reach EJ through her Website. You can also stay updated with her on Facebook and Instagram. Check out two resources we've mentioned on this episode: Unfuck Yourself and Radical Honesty. If you would like to recommend any guests, or if you have questions or feedback, you can email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

Women complain that it's always the creeps and arrogant jerks who approach them. Good men, on the other hand, complain that women always choose these jerks over them. There's an apparent disconnect in this equation that needs to be addressed, and today's podcast guest might be the key to bridge that gap.   Diana Mandell is a psychotherapist, working as a relationship coach for the last 6 years. She helps men, women, and couples find and maintain healthy and sustainable relationships. Diana and her work have been featured in various international publications including Martha Stuart Weddings, New York Post, and Forbes.   But before we go to the meat of the conversation, I would like to remind you of this amazing deal from adamandeve.com where listeners of the Intimate Lifestyle get 50% OFF on any one item and FREE SHIPPING. Just use the promo code SEXTALKS when you checkout.   Today, Diana and I discussed the state of human social interactions, why women are attracted to jerks and helping shy guys to build confidence to talk with women. Some of the specific topics we chatted about include:   Diana's background and her current work as a relationship coach. (03:58) The paradoxical social interaction dilemma people are having these days, an idea on how to improve communication, and ways technology can sometimes sabotage it. (04:40) How her past experience in dating and relationships as a 'shit magnet' motivated her to help shy guys in dating and relationships. (09:59) Doing roleplays and her level of involvement when working with her clients. (16:51) Treading the line between being confident enough to approach women and being misconstrued as creepy or cocky. (22:03) Why guys think that being a jerk can win the girl, why girls sometimes choose jerks and ways for shy guys to find a girl. (30:14) The looks-personality dynamics, attraction, the friendzone, and Tinder. (35:46) Crossing the friendzone, expressing interest, and taking control of a situation or interaction. (45:11) The mindset shift Diana guides her clients through and what happens during and is included in her coaching. (57:16) Diana's concept of the numbers game by dating smarter. (1:03:03) I hope this episode was able to provide insights and practical tips for shy men to get the confidence boost that they want and need, men in general on how to better interact with women, and for women to play a more active role in dating. If you want to reach Diana and learn more about the services she offers as a coach, visit her website at dianamandell.com. Do you have suggestions or questions for the show? I want to hear your thoughts and ideas. Give me a shout out at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

This week's guest is an expert that we've previously had in the show. His name – Phil Mistlberger. Phil is a transpersonal therapist for more than 30 years. His workshops on personal growth, shadow work, and depth psychology were a treasure trove of knowledge for me. I want to share the lessons I've acquired through his guidance to the Intimate Lifestyle listeners and so I've brought him back to the show.   Phil joins us to share his insights and expertise on a subject that people usually sweep under the rug. More recently though, people have been expressing this emotion so openly for everyone to see via social media. I'm talking about Anger.   Phil talks about how this seemingly primal reaction can serve as your gateway into understanding complex human behavior and emotions.  Some specifics that Phil and I touched on in this truly informative episode are: Why I am scared of talking to Phil about anger, what's the deal with fearing anger. (03:55) What's a green knight, who's the green knight in our lives, and what's their role? (07:27) The importance of our attitude, introspection, mindfulness, and boundaries on our reaction and response to external stimuli. (09:47) A mountain retreat and an ill-tempered dog that made Phil realize his own faults and how shifts in consciousness can create changes in his reality. (19:21) Holding anger for too long, the reason for seeking vengeance, and the reason for forgiveness. (23:19) The three ways to deal with anger, the value in understanding it, and what happens when we refuse to take responsibility for our actions and emotions. (32:20) Tibetan Buddhist teachings on transforming anger towards clarity, and preventing the vengeance game. (41:36) Repressed anger and idle minds manifesting as depression or anxiety, and methods to break out of these through creative outlets or honest communication. (44:31) I tell Phil that I forgot to hit record, tell him about my fear of his anger (due to previous work over the years with him), and his response. I kept this in because, although vulnerable for me, it's a great example of this topic (56:46) How anger and our perception of other people's anger prevent us from communicating authentically. (57:31) This episode is a goldmine of information when it comes to managing our anger and how it affects our day-to-day. It is something that almost everyone can use in their lives and pick up important points from. Connect with Phil or learn more about his services by checking out his website PTMistleberger.Com, CRTrainings.Com or by joining the SamuraiBrotherhood.Com. If you want to hear our previous conversation, click here. I also highly recommend that you check out the books that Phil wrote. They are all available on Amazon. Rude Awakening The Dangerous Magi The Inner Light Chime in the conversation by emailing me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com for your feedback, questions or suggestions. I want to hear your thoughts.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.

Before we go straight to this week's episode, I urge you to work on your Intimate Lifestyle by going to adamandeve.com. The Intimate Lifestyle listeners get an exclusive 50% DISCOUNT on any one item and FREE SHIPPING by using promo code SEXTALKS upon checkout.   Now, on to our guest. Stef Sifandos is a relational alchemist, international speaker, and author. Stef is also a co-founder of a startup that offers content related to personal growth. Now, if the concept of relational alchemy threw you off somewhat, don't you worry as this is exactly what we have decided to unpack on this episode for the listeners.   Stef and I enjoyed this conversation as we chatted about belief systems, the power of language, handling pain and creating positivity out of it. Some of the specific areas we talked about are: Bali and the startup that he's been involved in. (02:24) The services he offers via StefSifandos.com providing people a space to gain clarity, transform their lives and improve their relationships. (09:08) What alchemy and relationship alchemy means. (11:36) The importance of being in a relationship and/or with a partner that allows us to be of service to something greater than ourselves. (21:41) Ways that ignorance can be healthy, the role of language in our perception of the world, and the various factors that influence our lives. (29:55) Two ways to grow and learn effectively through our own and others' experiences. (42:55) Understanding the nine areas of life for better personal growth. (46:16) The importance of gaining clarity of our purpose in to attract the relationship we desire and a life of happiness, wellness, and compassion. (51:08) A 6-step cycle to deal with pain sustainably by practicing gratitude, introspection, self-love, and healing towards transformation. (57:30) I hope you found the episode insightful -- maybe learn a thing or two from the multitude of concepts Stef and I discussed today. If you want to connect with Stef, you can reach him via Instagram, Facebook, or through his website. Thoughts, suggestions, inquiries? Email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. Your feedback is always welcome and highly appreciated to improve the show.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

When you think of sex parties, you might picture one of those rowdy college parties with overflowing alcohol and drugs. Where people are having intoxicated sex and wakes up the next day without any memory of what happened last night.   Today's guest hosts sex parties. The parties that Kim/Cleopatra calls 'play parties' is the complete opposite of the party that was described earlier though. It is so classy, it starts with conversations over wine and cheese, posh accents are optional. I recently became a part of one of her invite-only sex party, and if there's one word to describe it, it was amazing. Or maybe epic.   I invited her to the podcast so we can talk about everything that happens in her sex parties, how she organizes them, the interaction between the participants, and how to get invited. Some of the things discussed in our conversation are:   A little backstory on our lives that led us to Vancouver and the path we chose. (04:06) People's reactions, and double-standards, when she talks about her play party experience. (10:46) How she got into the world of play parties. (15:21) The empowering and gratifying experience of play parties relating to consent. (20:41) What led her to start coordinating and hosting her own play parties. (27:11) My experience with the available matches in sex clubs and our basis for attraction. (32:30) Networking, the platforms used, and the selection process for Kim's play parties. (40:28; 47:00) The play party experience and how sensory overload impacts sexual performance. (41:21) The rules of Kim's play parties, cleaning your junk rituals, and the significance of the olfactory sense in sex. (54:35; 1:06:19) The experience of joining her play party and the general attitude of the people in the party. (1:08:25) Why she recommends sex parties instead of joining a couple for a threesome. (1:12:40) Why it's ok to see women coming even if the men are not. (1:24:14) Ensuring sexual health, preventing sexually transmitted infections and/or diseases, and even limiting transmission of hepatitis C. (1:31:13) Dealing with drama and disagreements. (1:39:15) Setting an awesome atmosphere and setting boundaries through communication. (1:46:35) The endorphin-boosting ambiance of the party. (1:54:28) What single guys must do to be able to get invited to Kim's play parties. (1:59:34) This conversation can certainly get you curious and reel you in into the lifestyle, doesn't it?  Think you have what it takes to be a part of this one of a kind sexual experience? Email orgynizer@gmail.com for details.   And if you want to up your intimacy game but not decided on joining a sex party yet... Check out adamandeve.com for sex toys, lubes, props, and so much more. Listeners of the Intimate Lifestyle get an exclusive 50% DISCOUNT + FREE SHIPPING just by inputting discount code SEXTALKS upon checkout.   Lastly, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com if you have feedback or inquiries -- your thoughts are highly appreciated. We read them so we can improve the show and make it an even better experience for you.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

Before we go straight to our conversation, I would like to remind everyone that Adam and Eve are offering FREE SHIPPING plus 50% OFF to the Intimate Lifestyle listeners. Use the exclusive coupon code SEXTALKS at checkout when you shop at adamandeve.com!   Now, get ready because this episode is about to get heavy. This conversation is so mind-blowing that I found myself at a loss for words at some points. A treasure trove of information and insights on the human psychology and sexuality awaits you as we have no less than Farzana Jaffer Jeraj to scratch the surface of this iceberg.   Farzana Jaffer Jeraj is a motivational speaker, coach, hypnosis trainer and best-selling author, among the many other hats she put on. Her career spans more than 20 years with a mission to help people realize their potential and achieve their goals.   Today, we talk about subconscious sexual communication, and if the term alone discombobulates you, Farzana aims to shed light on the subject. We delved into the link of our upbringing, how our parental figures communicated, and how these impact our communication styles when it comes to relationships and sex in adulthood.   Farzana aims to explain this complex subject in layman's term for more people to understand. Some of the topics that Farzana touched into and explained are:   What a coach was called before it was called a coach and which big-name provided her first training. (06:06) How cognitive neuroscience work to understand how thoughts, emotions, and behaviour, among others, are formed. (08:54) The link between hypnosis, emotional responses, communication styles, and our parental figures. (17:33) Children's hypnosis-ready state and how one's upbringing determines communication styles in their adult life. (22:02) The difference between extroverted and introverted communicators and how to identify them. (28:33) How the communication styles of the parents (or the lack of communication) affect their children's future sexual expression. (37:54; 47:43) Introversion and extroversion as it manifests in relationships and sex. (46:15) What is involved in Farzana's hypnotherapy programs and sessions. (50:37) People's various love languages and different expectations from relationships and sex. (57:51) How one's sexual expression isn't based on their gender but their upbringing. (1:03:10)   If you want to know more about Farzana and the services that she offers, connect with her through her website. Check out her  Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter as well for updates.   Also, if you want to get more in-depth information on the books Farzana and I have been discussing on this episode, they are available online. The books are The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin and Professional Hypnotism Manual by John Kappas.    Lastly, chime in the conversation - I want to hear your thoughts! Email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. Until next time!   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

  Herpes is a condition transmitted via skin-to-skin contact. It affects mucosal surfaces like the mouth and around the genitals, and skin in other parts of the body. For most people, however, it is viewed as nothing but a sexually transmitted infection brought about by unprotected sex and promiscuity – and this got to change.   To help us veer away from this stigma and understand the condition more, I invited Laureen Herve Dupenher to the podcast. Laureen has herpes and she unpacks the truth about the condition, living with it, and all its details through her YouTube Channel Laureen HD.     She joins the podcast to provide an overview of the basics and some hot topics. So, listen up to this episode and learn about: Her YouTube channel and the types of content she produces. (02:29) The basics of herpes transmission and susceptibility. (04:12) The best type of protection against herpes. (09:36) Discerning between actual symptoms and the paranoia of the symptoms and transmission. (12:49) Being diagnosed with herpes and her journey with the condition. (16:46) Managing expectations and practicing transparency with partners. (22:36) Healing physically and psychologically from the trauma of contracting herpes. (31:27) Moving towards acceptance, regaining self-confidence, and shared responsibility between partners. (39:21) The statistics surrounding herpes. (47:23) People's responses and reactions upon disclosing that she has herpes. (50:45)   If you want to know more about Laureen and her experience, subscribe to her YouTube channel, Laureen HD. You can also stay updated with her via Instagram, and Facebook.   I'm hoping that this has been insightful for you as it has been for me. Coming from the previous episode that delved into testicular cancer and this one about herpes, I'm looking forward to the Intimate Lifestyle educating more people about the realities of sex-related health conditions. I urge you to share this episode with your network so more people get informed.   Thoughts, suggestions, or inquiries? Email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. I make sure to read those – and respond if needed.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.  

Bryan Stacy is back on the show. For those who did not catch my first interview with him, it is available here.  In that episode, we talked about Biem, an app Bryan co-founded with the goal of better sexual health, safer sex, and sex-positivity.   This time around, Bryan and I will talk about his testicle – yes, singular. You see, he had testicular cancer and had one of his testicles removed – which is why we're using the singular form of the noun. Bryan will recount the events leading to his testicular cancer diagnoses, what happened during his bout with the affliction, getting over this seemingly traumatic phase, and lessons learned.   It was an awesome and informative conversation that we shared where we covered topics such as:   The efficiency and redundancy of our bodily organs and functions. (02:12) Why he waited three months before going to the doctor despite symptoms. (03:18) Chlamydia, treating it, and its complications. (04:38) Self-diagnosing and the texture of a cancer-inflicted testicle. (07:40) The real reason why he finally got checked and how long must you actually wait before getting checked. (11:04) How testicular cancer spreads, the stages, the extent of damage in each stage, and the age group in most danger of testicular cancer. (13:18) The rapid-succession emotional rollercoaster and questions he had upon learning about testicular cancer. (15:20; 18:15) What orchiectomy is, how it is done, and opting out of the prosthetic testicle. (16:16; 18:27) Women's reactions to his lone nut and how it affects sexual performance. (20:37; 26:42) The type of testicular cancer he had and the options given to him to prevent relapse. (28:41) Why he thinks he manifested testicular cancer on himself. (41:46) Fears people experience related to reproductive and sexual health. (43:47) How Brian sees that the ordeal positively affected him by just talking and connecting with people. (34:22; 48:54; 51:49) How he thinks his testicular cancer affects his testosterone levels. (1:02:45) Bryan's advice to people and how the app, Biem, is trying to fill the void by providing a safe space and credible resource about sexual health. (58:06; 1:06:31)   I did say on the Biem episode that Bryan's testicular cancer story is worthy of one full episode, and here it is – I hope you enjoyed it. There's so much to know, learn, realize… from Bryan's insights, his experience and the mindset he took on the obstacle he went through.   Connect with Bryan on Instagram. To know more about Biem, visit their website BiemTeam.com. The app is available on both Android and iOS devices.   Share this episode to raise awareness about testicular cancer and inspire others with Bryan's journey. For questions and feedback, email me at ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com – I'd love to hear from you.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.

Technology has enabled us all to make leaps and bounds in different facets of our lives. From the most extraordinary feats to the seemingly mundane ways that it is making things easier on our day-to-day. From engineering, transportation, government intelligence, forensic sciences, to medicine, health, dating, and even sex.   Bryan Stacy is one of the pioneers who decided to use technology to spark a change in how we see sexual health and how it impacts our relationhsips. He battled and overcame testicular cancer a few years ago. It is this experience that motivated his passion to raise awareness on sexual health. He co-founded Biem – an app that empowers people to take control of their sexual health and use this information to aid their dating game.   Some of the topics we've explored in our discussion are:   How discovering that he has testicular cancer and chlamydia changed the trajectory of his career (03:00). Coping with testicular cancer by blogging about the ailment's emotional toll (06:48). The early beginnings of Biem, its goals, and crazy ideas they had to achieve their goal (09:05). What is smart sex, and an overview of what the app does and provides (12:43). How the app makes it easier for people to have the conversation about sexual health (18:13). The design of the phone application that secures user data privacy (20:11). Getting information into the app, improving app features and content, and simplifying the information for its users (26:38). How the LGBTQ community are trailblazers in when it comes to sexual health transparency (29:46). Integrating Biem with dating apps, and a few dating apps that we recommend (31:56). Moving away from society's stigma about being tested positive for certain STD/STIs (42:37). The level of people's sexual health awareness based on demographic segments (49:54). The various health complications resulting from STD/STIs and vaccines available for specific STD/STIs (53:17). Opening up the sexual health conversation between parents and their children (1:02:19).   This is an immensely educational episode – and Bryan's story on his bout with testicular cancer and chlamydia… that can be another episode! Stories of people's experiences and struggles driving them to make innovations and be the change the world needs are always inspirational. And in this case, it is even practical.   To know more about Biem, visit their website BiemTeam.com or reach out to Bryan via Twitter. Biem, the app, is available for both Android and iOS.   Getting people to talk more about sexual health is imperative. Contribute to getting that conversation started by sharing this episode with as many people you know! I am always grateful for the time you take to tune in to the show. Slowly we can raise awareness on the myriad of issues and topics surrounding sex, relationships and dating. (Add something about the hiatus here?)   I would love to hear your thoughts as well. Chime into the conversation by emailing me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. Share your thoughts, inquiries, and suggestions – I make sure to read all of those.   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.

When you hear the word sex worker, usually the first thing that comes to mind are prostitutes, and most of the time, they're women.   Modern SexTalks has significantly covered the topic of healing sex work with a variety of guests – most of them, however, are female. This time around, we're looking at sacred sex service from a man's point of view – and we have James Randall Smith as our guest resource.   James is the founder of Sky Dancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts. He is a sex worker-slash-healer, working with both men and women – aged 18 to 88. As a sexual healer, his aim is to have people awaken their potential for bliss through sacred sex.   Today we discuss his backstory, shifting careers, the concept of sacred sex and understanding life doing sex work. We also just downright bro'd out. Extra, extra! For our male listeners, tune in if you are interested in a secret to prolonging sexual stamina.   Areas we covered in our discussion include:   Transitioning from a career in the music industry towards the spiritual path of sexual healing (06:26). The early beginnings of his sexual awareness and exploration (09:06). An interesting first date that became the gateway to finally transitioning into the spiritual path of sexual healing (12:49). What is MDMA therapy and how it impacts cognitive, emotional and sexual perspectives (14:20). How things started lining up for during his career shift, and how things went in the first few years of it (18:13). Where he places himself in the gender-sexual spectrum (19:53). Engaging sexually with someone you are not necessarily attracted or attached to (23:07). The unfolding of James' sacred calling of providing spiritual sexual pleasure (32:24). Personal challenges in a career that involves physical contact (35:58). What it means to awaken people to bliss, and the different ways to tap into this (38:10). The various methods and techniques James keeps in his toolbox as a sex worker (43:51). What scared sex is and its difference to the regular, typical sex that majority of society is accustomed to (44:32). What clients want and expect in James' sacred sex sessions and what actually happens in them (51:08). Special elixirs he uses to keep things in tip-top shape (58:32). What he wants his clients to have as a key takeaway from sessions with him (1:02:39). His advice to people who might be considering a similar path to take (1:05:03). The profile of his female clients and what they're looking for (1:08:07). Getting the buy-in of someone who might not necessarily be into spirituality (1:11:14). How can women distinguish and find safe and legit sex service providers (1:12:24).   To get in touch with James, or check out his services, you may reach him through the following links: SkyDancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts james@skydancer.ca James Randall Smith | Facebook   Having been surrounded by divine feminine energy a lot with my roster of female guests, it is refreshing to hear a man's point of view from time to time. This a whole new perspective to sex work, and I indeed enjoy talking to James about it. So much that I forgot to ask him some questions. Good thing he was nice enough to allow me to ask him a few more even after we "finished" the initial conversation.   I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you think other people – specifically other men – can benefit from this episode share it with them. If you know other individuals living an off the beaten path who can be a guest… email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com with your suggestions!   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.  

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP192: An Ex-Dominatrix Shares Her experiences of various Kinks with Red Robin. This week's guest is Robin Beatch, aka Red Robin, and she identifies as a genderfluid, polyamorous switch. She was previously a stripper, professional dominatrix, and a nurse. All these past experiences integrated into her present profession. She currently teaches alternative sexuality. She supports and educates different communities through body acceptance, experimenting with sexuality, among others. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.  

The Intimate Lifestyle yearns to help everyone in finding their ideal relationships, fixing existing ones, and simply understanding one's self better. We've provided in the past few episodes the best resources to aid with dating, matchmaking, and even breakups. This time, we have a key resource joining the show to dig a little deeper into our belief systems. I'm honoured to have Julie Turner – life coach, matchmaker, and hypnotherapist – on this episode. We will talk about our motivations in life and the unseen things which causes the challenges we encounter. Somewhere along the mix we also professed our love for Ford and discussed our musical abilities (mostly her abilities and my lack thereof). Listen until the very end as I share a secret to getting girls (not my secret though, some other guy's). Topics that sprung up on this longer than usual conversation include: How our ego is a protective mechanism that keeps us safe but could also result in our fears and anxieties (02:44). Kids' process of understanding and its relationship to Neuro-Linguistic Programming for adults (08:06). How Julie got interested in hypnotherapy and integrating with her existing coaching career (11:54). What hypnosis really is and what it does to our consciousness (14:01). Resisting hypnosis and the best candidates for hypnosis (19:58). Why I prefer using the term unconscious when referring to the subconscious (21:22). The beginnings of a belief system, how it can sabotage your relationships, and listening to your authentic self (25:16). The process of developing your life's metanarrative and the fallacy of generalization (28:08). Overcoming being victimized by our belief systems and how the universe conspires so we see things clearer (31:17). A story that illustrates how the ego "protects" an individual based on one's learned behavior (34:21). Distinguishing ego from intuition, and the perils of labeling everything (39:16). Blurring relationship labels and how the concept of forever can be ruining human relationships (43:58). Applying hypnotherapy to help people to get the relationships they truly want or fix current ones (49:56). The importance of ruffling some feathers and challenging the status quo (59:14). How unhappiness is brought about by assumptions and expectations (1:02:20). What Julie sees as the general difference between men and women's approach to relationships (1:06:09). I enjoyed talking to Julie so much! It is kind of uncanny how much of our thoughts and beliefs matched. I like her so much I unleashed my creepy virginal teenage boy persona on her… I might have a crush on her (or is she the female version of me?). As an advocate of self-love and personal growth, I am fully endorsing Julie's services. If you feel like you need her in your life, visit JulieTurnerMatchmaker.com. There you can find the full menu of the coaching, matchmaking and workshop services she is offering. If you want to keep updated on upcoming events where Julie is featured or she is hosting, follow her Facebook page. I would appreciate it if you can share this episode with your network, if they need help sorting their inner stuff out – or if they just need a good laugh. For feedback, suggestions, and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I'd love to hear from you.   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.      

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP190: Is Your Relationship to Conflict Ruining Your Relationships? with Vienna Pharaon. Our guest for this episode is Vienna Pharaon, and conflict is one of her specialties. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is behind New York Couples Counseling where she helps individuals, couples and families traverse different issues. People are afraid to face conflict and avoid it as much as possible, yet it is inevitable. Vienna, however, welcomes conflict and sees it as a gateway to deeper connections and better relationships. This is what we deep-dived into in our conversation. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Ever heard of sex magick? It doesn't involve cutting up body parts and making it whole again, disappearing sex partners after being bondaged, or sex toys being pulled out of a hat. It's a lot more meaningful than that. I've invited someone who can educate us better about what sex magick is all about. I personally am very interested in sex magick for some time now and I'm stoked to have someone to geek out with. Laurie Handlers is a sex and happiness coach, radio host, movie producer, actor, and the best-selling author of the book Sex and Happiness. She joins us to provide an introduction to sex magick - with more than 2 decades worth of experience in this field and I think she's one of the best source out there. Laurie and I talked about everything from her workshops, personal beliefs, a phenomenon called the little death, immortality, to George W. Bush. There's a lot that we deep-dived into including: The one thing that the Bush administration did right and how it impacted her life (03:43). What sex magic is, and how it can help you manifest your intentions one orgasm at a time (06:52). The reason why sexual energy is so powerful (10:19). How Laurie fuses atheism, immortalism, sex magick, and science to create the life she wants (14:01; 19:23) Our theory on the concept of deity as religions' attempt to control people and mankind's refusal to take responsibility for their lives (15:47) Dissecting our personal beliefs and how a Simon and Garfunkel song describes the human journey (25:11). What solo sex magick is and how to do it (31:17). Insights on partner sex magick practice, energetic orgasms and ejaculating (36:16). How to use bodily fluids as elixirs and objects of manifestation (40:41). The types of success people were able to attract and manifest through her sex magick workshops (42:46) Practicing sex magick and how it impacts our lives (46:02). There's so much more to uncover, and really, we were just edging on our conversation. Unfortunately, time is limited but we'll try to connect again to get down and dirty on even more sex magick. If you want more information about sex magick, reach out to Laurie via her website, Butterfly Workshops. You can also follow her on YouTube and Facebook for resources and updates. Related Links WebTalkRadio | Sex and Happiness Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill | Goodreads Sex and Happiness by Laurie Handlers Sounds of Silence by Disturbed | YouTube   Thanks for dropping by and listening. If you have comments, questions or suggestions, shoot me an email at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. I'd also appreciate it if you can share this episode to your social networks. Catch you all next time. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Remember to check out our Resource Page!

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP184: An Ex-Stripper Reveals Her Life with "Maria". Strippers are often perceived in society as promiscuous and sex thirsty women willing to get paid to show off their bodies, or even more…  Maria – not her real name, is a friend and is/was a stripper for 6 years. She joins me as today's guest as she shares her insights about stripping as a career, and to prove that some (if not most) strippers are actually happy individuals who are not broken and lonely. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP182: Are You Addicted to Escaping Your Relationships? with Ben Goresky. Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor, helping other men through Evolving Man, where he provides resources on relationships, masculinity, and health. What's interesting with Ben was he suffered from addiction and was sent to rehab when he was just 15 years old. It is this personal experience that allowed him to coach and provide counsel to other addicts effectively and with credibility. And it's with this experience as an addictions counsellor that he's able to now coach men with compassion, and without judgement, through the many challenges they've been faced with that hold them back in love and life. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.      

Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP180: The Blessing of Death with Stephen Garrett. There are few things that are certain in life – and death is one of those.  Death has always been seen as the conclusion of life. But for Stephen Garrett, he sees new beginnings and opportunities in death to cultivate positivity and powerful change. Stephen is a death coach, but it hasn't always been the case. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.      

Traditional society created a concept of specific roles for what is deemed masculine and feminine. From actions, emotions, and even occupations. Fortunately, today's world already moved up from such framework. Somehow, the idea that an individual can have both masculine and feminine traits is getting some traction. Also known as the polarity principle, this episode delves into the feminine and masculine dynamics, and how this plays out in relationships.  Joining the show to discuss the polarity principle is Sister Moutique. Sister has spent the last twenty-ish years as a spirituality teacher through retreats, immersions, and coaching. She is also the author of the book The Gift of Expectation. Sister delivers miracles by helping individuals and couples in their journey towards personal transformation. Part of the shape-shifting exercise she oversees for her clients includes a deeper understanding of the divine feminine and masculine and how it affects ourselves.   Some of the other points we discuss on this episode include:   Her background and experience as a spirituality teacher (03:44). An introduction to the concept of the divine feminine and divine masculine (08:32). How understanding masculinity and femininity as energetic presence can explain how some individuals do not resonate with the sex they're assigned at birth (10:21). How an awareness of the masculine and feminine energy manifests in decision-making, actions, and even posture (12:27). The concept of vulnerable masculinity and the importance of trust in allowing one's self to embrace vulnerability (18:22). The consequence of two individuals with the same energy in a relationship (21:29). The difference in experience between her two marriages based on the energy of her partners (23:57). How the polarity principle works in same-sex relationships and identifying which energy is more predominant in an individual (32:54). The qualities we should be looking for in partners and how it aligns with the quality of life we want (44:53). How equality works by offering each of the energies' expertise into the relationship (49:17). Harnessing and balancing the divine energies towards limitless possibilities (56:07). How the polarity principle is demonstrated in the bedroom (58:02). The idea of the blissful state as both the natural human state and divine state. (1:09:40) Sister's advice on the importance of exploring who you truly are in a relationship (1:14:16)   Despite my prior knowledge of the divine feminine and divine masculine concepts, I was still able to learn new things from Sister's point of view and experience.   To connect with Sister Moutique, check out her website and her book, The Gift of Expectation.   Understanding the polarity principle is one of those things that could enlighten those who are experiencing confusion with their sexual preferences, and even their emotions and behavior.   I would appreciate it if you can share this episode to your network so we can raise awareness and inform others too. For feedback, suggestions, and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I'd love to hear from you.   Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.

This week's episode is a continuation of the previous one. But this time around, his partner – Ally, is joining the two of us. If you weren't able to catch the previous episode yet, I suggest you give it a listen. This way, you get some context on their relationship, and what we're gonna be talking about. You can listen to it here. Now, we skipped the formalities of introduction as I typically do on the show as we just continued where we left off from our conversation last week. Our conversation revolved around their relationship, it's progression and dynamics. We also touched on society's perception of relationships.  Subjects that the three of us discussed include: How polyamory can aid the common monogamy-infidelity issue (02:59). The concept of monogamy and Ally's past relationships as a serial monogamist (04:24). The general misconception that polyamory is avoidance of commitment (07:30). Handling arguments in a polyamorous relationship vis-à-vis a traditional one (09:27). Weddings, marriages, and the commitment that they share in their relationship (11:54). The concept of tribal intimacy, and the dynamics and perks of their relationship compared to traditional ones (15:25). Processing jealousy and how sexual encounters with other lovers make them feel (22:02). How their other lovers respond to their relationship set-up (32:44). ‘Working a schedule' with their multiple lovers (33:47; 37:55). The reluctant yet organic development of their relationship, and how they see it evolving further in the future (36:07; 41:48). Meeting and inviting new people into their ‘tribe', and the foundation and depth of their relationships (38:11; 47:50). The importance of transparency to manage people's expectations about their lifestyle (44:49). How polyamory lets individuals have a better awareness of the possibility of an end to a relationship (51:46). The pressure that monogamy places on individuals (56:20). How society views the traditional concept of marriage (1:01:40). The importance of establishing a relationship with yourself (1:04:50). That was a really fun chat! Did you enjoy as much as I did? Hearing Ally's take on their relationship only strengthened the position established in the previous episode. The insights the two of them shared can really get one to reflect and challenge what we know about commitment, relationships, and even marriage. If you think someone will benefit from listening from this episode, I urge you to share this with them. This allows the show to reach more people, create awareness, and educate them too. For feedback and inquiries, or if there's anyone you'd like to suggest as a guest… give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. I'd love to hear from you. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.   Check out our Resource Page.