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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."I remember coming across this quote at Burning Man years ago. It's from writer and essayist Anais Nin. It struck me then, and it reverberates for me still.This photo was taken that year. That sky is particularly specific to that time of evening, as the heat of the day dissolves into gorgeous blue & purple hues.I remember my friends and I were stopped at an art piece, after gallivanting around the playa on our bikes, weaving in and out of the dust and denizens of Black Rock City.That year was the Temple of Transition, and it was a threshold that changed everything.It was then I learned of the role of grief and the necessity to come together in tending the endings that make us human. It was then I recognized my marriage was over, even though it was another year before we parted ways.Recently I had the impulse to look up the words from Anais Nin, and discovered the rest of the quote:"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. Living never wore one out so much as the effort not to live. Life is truly known only to those who suffer, lose, endure adversity and stumble from defeat to defeat. Perfection is static, and I am in full progress."I love that. That a live worth living is not one of striving for success, but a willingness to fail again and again. This is how one comes to know life. To blossom is a risk. To expose your vulnerability, your authenticity and your creativity is to expose yourself rejection. To dare to become. Somewhere in there, your soul comes alive. This is the spirit of my upcoming Awakening the Wild Erotic, an ritual immersion for men release dysfunctional patterns around “eros,” the primal force of life, and step into a new phase of aliveness. This will our 5th time running the event, and men have found the container incredibly valuable. Upcoming AWE Dates: April 4-6, 2025 Vancouver Island has a few spots left. (Last chance to apply now!) We are also bringing AWE to the Montreal area July 18-20, 2025. Get the full details and apply here.Podcast RoundupOver the last few months I've been featured in a number of great podcasts. I figured I'd round them up as a digest and share below. The Authentic Man - Mythopoetic Masculinity and Navigating Conflict in RelationshipI really enjoyed this conversation with David Chambers, where we cover a number of topics, including: Domination vs. Partnership Culture, Reconditioning for Connection, Support systems for couples, Regenerating Culture, The Power of Deep Partnership, Understanding and Dealing with Jealousy, How to deal with conflict in a relationshipEvolving Man - Iron John And The Foundations Of Mythopoetic MasculinityA solid conversation with my longtime friend Ben Goresky. In this episode, I share my journey into the mythopoetic men's movement, which explores masculinity through myth, initiation, and men's groups. I open up about how the death of my grandfather led me to this work and helped me understand the challenges of modern manhood, especially in a culture that lacks clear rites of passage. We discuss the archetypes of the Hero and the King, dive into the themes of Iron John, and explore the importance of men's circles for personal growth and emotional support. We also reflect on the rediscovery of lost initiation practices, reconnecting with passion, and embracing The Deep Masculine to navigate life's stages and challenges.The Smiling Human - Myth as Medicine: Addressing the Crisis of MeaningIn this conversation, Oak Mountain and I discuss the themes of mythopoiesis, masculinity, and the cultural narratives that shape our understanding of identity. We cover the importance of myth in making sense of the human experience, the evolution of masculinity through different cultural eras, and the current crisis of meaning faced by many men today. RiverFlow - Weaving Love, Eros & Men's WorkIn this episode, Harry Friedman and I explore into rich territory. We explore the metaphor of polyamory as a wetland and “relational exclusivity” as a river, to understand different approaches to love and relationships. We dive into the traditional views of elder mentors around marriage and matrimony, contrasting those with the ideas of free love and open relating, particularly those espoused in the Tamera research project. We also discuss how romantic relationships can serve as vehicles for healing, while community plays a crucial role in the broader process of personal and collective healing.Tripping with Nick SunFinally, you're invited to check out this episode with Nick Sun', whose podcast “seeks to explore the fundamental question: How do we live as human beings during these crazy times without losing our freaking minds?”Thanks for reading. P.S. My Deep Masculine 3 month program is also live. There are pathways for both men & women. Get the full details here. Get full access to The Mythic Masculine at themythicmasculine.substack.com/subscribe
Twelve Step programs have helped millions of people recover from addictions over the past 85+ years. In this episode we talk about why they work, the myths and the criticisms, and we make an attempt at a balanced look at the pros and cons of these programs. This is a solo episode with Ben Goresky - an addiction recovery coach with 15 years of personal experience in Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. After embedding himself in these programs and studying them in depth, Ben stepped away from the programs to focus on other healing modalities. He shares a viewpoint of the program that is rare: the inside view, and the outsider view. Topics discussed in this episode: Who can benefit from Twelve Step programs: Discover if you're an ideal candidate. Exploring the variety of 12 step programs for different addictions. Navigating triggers, pitfalls, and negative experiences within these programs. The role of spirituality and the use of "big G" God language in the steps. Debunking the religious overtones: Are Twelve Step programs religious or spiritual? Addressing powerlessness and disempowering language in the steps. Understanding the reality of addiction: Loss of control and continued substance use despite consequences. The empowering use of the Disease Concept in addiction recovery. Overcoming tribalism and cult-like tendencies within 12 step communities. Unraveling the connection between underlying trauma and addiction. The dynamics of sponsorship: Challenges and strategies for making it work for you. Embracing empowering terminology and breaking free from the label of "addict." Examining the frequency of the term "addiction" and its implications. Reframing the saying "Once an Addict, Always an Addict." Foundational steps 1-3 - Breaking through denial, accepting the problem, and choosing a guiding wisdom. House cleaning steps (4-9): Embracing radical ownership and personal growth. Maintenance steps (10-12): Mastering growth and evolution on a daily basis. Harnessing the power of service work for successful sobriety and recovery. Identifying the two crucial factors that make Twelve Step programs effective. Tips for optimizing your Twelve Step experience and finding resonant meetings and like-minded individuals. Links for this episode: The Freedom From Addiction men's recovery circle Podcast - High Functioning Addiction - with Alex Olshonsky Podcast - Everything you need to know about addiction - with Chris Bevaqua See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Ben Goresky is the definition of an evolving man. By age 13 he had been expelled from school, abusing drugs and alcohol and living in several group homes. By 15, he was admitted to rehab against his will.What came after is truly miraculous...(listen to find out)Now Ben hosts The Evolving Man Podcast, leads mens groups all over the world and has his own beautiful family.Ben says, "My relationship with my wife is the vehicle that can most directly connect me to the divine, even as my ego wants me to stay safe and isolated. We practice going deeper every day, and use our life together as the catalyst for spiritual growth."Today we discuss:Ben's tumultuous childhood How triggers reflect your traumaWhat is balanced masculinityHow can men step up in the relationship spaceso much more!CONNECT WITH BEN: Website / Coaching / IGOUR LINKS + DISCOUNTSMushyLove Latte (discount: MEDICIN)Immune Intel AHCC (discount: MEDICIN)Our favorite Reishi KING CoffeeOrganifi (20% discount: MIMIFIT)Kion (discount: MEDICIN)Wild Pastures Regenerative MeatsSee all our favorite products on The Medicin CabinetCONNECT WITH USOur websiteMimi's IG // Chase's IG // The Medicin IGSound from Zapsplat.com
Ben Goresky is a men's coach, an addiction counsellor, and the host of The Evolving Man Podcast. With a focus on men's work, conscious relationships, and addiction recovery, Ben wants to wake people up to their potential for healing and transformation. Ben is co-director of The Arka Brotherhood, a men's community focussed on conscious growth and evolution. He also teaches conscious relationship work with his wife Sheleana Aiyana in their course ‘Creating Conscious Love'.Ben joins Amrit on the show to debunk common misconceptions of what men's work entails and how its modern day iterations has evolved. He unpacks the masculine archetypes, how and why to embrace the feminine as a man and the key resistances in doing this inner work.TUNE IN01:59 - How Ben's childhood & addiction during teen years led him to The Evolving Man10:15 - Pinpointing the exact moment Ben was called to greater levels of service13:46 - Is being of service essential to find meaning and fulfilment in life?23:18 - If the male archetype = freedom, how can men find freedom while living as a 'servant' in service?32:50 - How to embrace the feminine as a man36:10 - Why connect to the feminine as a man?38:03 - Key resistances for men going into the inner feminine & their drivers44:39 - Are there resistances for men stepping into greater levels of their masculine?51:54 - How to become a healthy, male leader when mentors are few & inaccessible?LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCASTSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2HJCflVnHRDmvNtI8r2a65?si=692723d115ce4ef2/Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/inspired-evolution/id1272090974/CONNECT WITH BEN GORESKYWebsite: https://www.evolvingman.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@evolvingman/The Conscious Relationship Council: https://www.evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/JOIN THE INSPIRED EVOLUTION COMMUNITYWebsite: https://www.inspiredevolution/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inspired_evolution/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inspiredevolution/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/com/inspiredevolution/Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/inspiredevolution. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ben Goresky is a men's coach, an addiction counsellor, and the host of The Evolving Man Podcast. With a focus on men's work, conscious relationships, and addiction recovery, Ben wants to wake people up to their potential for healing and transformation. Ben is co-director of The Arka Brotherhood, a men's community focussed on conscious growth and evolution. He also teaches conscious relationship work with his wife Sheleana Aiyana in their course "Creating Conscious Love".Ben is also one of my oldest friends and the guy who actually got me into men's work originally about 7 years ago, so it was such a treat to get to sit down with him and dig in! We talked about men's work (of course) and also fatherhood, and quite a bit on addictions as that's one of his specialties. Lots of gold in here, I'm sure you'll enjoy!We have our last Brotherhood and Breathwork event coming up on Dec 15th! If you want to experience men's work and breathwork with Dave and learn strategies for being a better version of yourself, come and join us! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/brotherhood-and-breathwork-series-tickets-468816622137For those of you interested in being part of our 6 month Better Men group program starting in January, here's the link for the application:https://forms.gle/t9t2Vviek3zGA5Pa6 You can find links to all of our free downloadable workbooks and resources here:https://linktr.ee/alpharisingIf you're enjoying this conversation and want to see more regular content on these topics check out our instagram page:www.instagram.com/alpharising.menswork
In this episode I talk with host of the podcast “Evolving Man” Ben Goresky. Ben is an addictions counselor, coach and an explorer of consciousness. Ben shares stories of his childhood and dealing with bullying and later addiction through high school. He tells us about going through rehab at 15. He tells about later in life finding a men's group that pushed him to start his own men's group that now has over 50 circles of men. Ben tells us the difference between masculine and feminine energy and the beauty and power in both. He shares how a men group opened and ignited certain masculine energies in him. He tells us about an acronym of masculinity one of his teachers taught him called PCP which stands for Presence, Claim and Penetration. He explains this and how you used this to ignite his masculine energies which allowed him to find his true calling. Ben helps people with relationships. Ben tells us how we are all enacting unconscious patterns in relationships and we have to recognize these patterns before we can change them. Ben talks about how he was constantly avoidant the further he got in a relationship and how tons of men run this exact pattern these days. Ben tells us about the work he did to acknowledge and deal with the fear that is at the root of that to allow more intimate relationships.https://evolvingman.com/ Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.
Honored as always to speak with an old friend of mine, Ben Goresky. As a fellow coach of men, we wanted to take an episode to give each other some thoughts on what we're seeing out there in the world of men's work: how do we better ourselves in the current global situation? How do we find personal fulfillment? We also dig into relationships and discuss different ways to engage in challenging conversations with a partner. Ben's got great great insight, so listen in! Ben Goresky is a counselor, coach, and podcaster. He coaches men in the areas of addiction, recovery, and relationships. He is a trained addictions counselor with a Health Sciences degree. Ben runs a men's group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancé Sheleana Aiyana. He focuses on shadow work, men's work, transpersonal psychology, and conscious relationship work to drive success in his clients. Connect with Ben -Website: https://evolvingman.com/ -The Samurai Brotherhood: https://samuraibrotherhood.com/ -Course: The Integrated Man: https://evolvingman.com/the-integrated-man/ -The Conscious Relationship Council: https://evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council/ -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman/ -Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the self-leadership they're looking for. Are you looking to find purpose, navigate transition, or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Ben Goresky is a counsellor, coach, and podcaster. He is a trained addictions counsellor with a Health Sciences degree. Ben runs a men's group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that helps men rediscover their masculinity and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs workshops for couples with his wife Sheleana Aiyana. Connect with Ben: evolvingman.com www.instagram.com/evolvingman linktr.ee/evolvingman
Today's guest is Ben Goresky.We go deep talking about:Addiction…what it means, what it is, and why it happens,The role of trauma and pain in the creation and continuation of addiction,Using introspection to identify behaviours that are negatively affecting your life,Ben's story through addiction, rehab, and recovery,Shame and how to connect positively with your kids, Ben's unconventional approach to talking to our kids about drugs,Building trusting relationships with our kids so they listen when we speak into their lives,Ben's experience as a father and the emotional journey he undertook in an imperfect situation.Ben is a coach, a counsellor, and has been working with men for 15 years. He is the founder of Evolving Man, focussing on men's work and addiction recovery. Through The Evolving Man Podcast, Ben hosts guests to talk about relationships, consciousness, men's work, and plant medicine work. Ben is a leader and director of The Samurai Brotherhood, a society of conscious men who are doing their work to evolve. He also teaches (and practices) conscious relationship work Sheleana in their course Creating Conscious Love. For more about Ben's story, click here.Find Ben online at:Podcast: Evolving Man PodcastWeb: EvolvingMan.ComInstagram: @evolvingmanSamurai Brotherhood: Samurai Brotherhood---Welcome to the Dad.Work Podcast!It's my goal every episode to help dads suffer less, love more, and parent confidently.We'll be diving into mindfulness practices, healing trauma, conscious parenting, natural living, compassionate communication, the spiritual aspect of fatherhood, and more.There are a lot of amazing teachers and guides who help men become more aware and conscious, but there's not a lot of resources for men who are both fathers and interested in a mindful exploration of consciousness and improvement.This podcast aims to help bridge that gap.Resources, Links, Show Notes:https://dad.work/pod/Join our Free Private FB Community for Conscious Fathers:https://dad.work/fb/Take The Course to Become A Conscious Father and Suffer Less, Love More, and Parent Confidently:https://dad.work/cf/
It's no secret that masculinity gets a lot of criticism in our culture. So, this week we are getting into it and discussing one of our favorite things - men! In today's episode, we invite coach, counselor, and founder of Evolving Man, Ben Goresky, to share his wisdom on masculinity, vulnerability, and his mission in the world. We dive deep into what it really means to look inward for answers, finding your mission and not getting distracted from it (like his mission to make men's work as common as yoga!), and the powerful change that men's work can bring to relationships and the world. We dive into: Why we are seeing such a hunger for men's work right now The impact of men's work on Ben's life and relationships Why Ben ignored the disconnection between his head, heart & genitals - and what came from it Finding a healthy relationship to anger (and how this relates to boundaries) How dominant and submissive energies play out in Ben's relationship with his partner The policing of social media - and how it has affected his online presence Some insight if you wish your man would get involved in self-development work And more! Connect with Ben: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman/ Website: https://evolvingman.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/evolvingman Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie
Ben Goresky spent his early adult life as an addictions counsellor, & holds a bachelor's degree in Addictions Counselling. He coachs men in 1st and 2nd stage recovery using a holistic approach to accelerate their healing and achieve a full recovery from addiction. As a leader in The Samurai Brotherhood, a community for conscious men, he draws on his experience in the realms of addiction, & transpersonal therapy to support men in improving their relationships, and their success in the world. His dream is to live in a world where everybody knows their value, feels loved, and is in touch with their purpose. & the work he does truly is helping that dream come true. What we discuss in this episode: -part of what brought him to this work was that “he had met his match & knew that if he didn't level up that he would probably sabotage the relationship” -It's not your job to tell your partner when they're projecting -“your dream partner will become your nightmare, and we need to learn to resolve the nightmare without forcing the other person to change…” -why men have such a hard time taking suggestions from women. Is it a mother wound or is it our culture? - “If you think you're enlightened, spend a week with your family” do we ever stop getting triggered? -How we can truly set aside our ego so that we can hold space for our partner -Learning to hold and love our partners inner child -the US vs THEM sickness that many of us have -The best distraction your mind can create to prevent you from looking inward is to have someone else to blame -How he asks his men's group, “I think I'm better than other people because___” & what happens in the group when this is answered honestly -Why we are all so selfish but refuse to acknowledge it -intellectualism as a common cover-up for fear of direct experiences (intellectual bypassing) -letting yourself be imperfect -BEING alone with our thoughts Books mentioned: king warrior magician lover AFFILIATES: Pleasure Wands & Yoni eggs: https://waands.com/?ref=MvvfOgLGokjDQQ CODE “JADE” for a discount Royal Codes Goddess Wear: Royal Codes | Goddess Wear CODE “JADE” for a discount CBD DirectHemp.com - A Better Way to CBD CODE “JADE” for a discount HigherDOSE Infrared products: CODE “JADE75” for $75 off Intro music: Milckmusic.com @milckmusic on TikTok, ig, fb, Twitter Somebodysbeloved.com Production: Reel In Motion https://instagram.com/untamedandunashamedpodcast?utm_medium=copy_link See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Ben Goresky is a counsellor, coach, and a podcaster. He coaches men in the areas of addiction, recovery, and relationships. He is a trained addictions counsellor with a Health Sciences degree. Ben runs a men's group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his wife Sheleana Aiyana. He focuses on shadow work, men's work, transpersonal psychology, and conscious relationship work to drive success in his clients. He runs his coaching practice for EvolvingMan.ca out of Vancouver, BC, Canada. Connect with Ben: Website - https://www.evolvingman.ca Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman Resources: Ben's Men's Group - The Samurai Brotherhood - https://samuraibrotherhood.com Tip of Compassion - Movie - https://vimeo.com/ondemand/tripofcompassion Dosed - Movie Trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9-k8OcHNVY Rising Woman Website - https://risingwoman.com
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On episode 54 I connected with Ben Goresky. I met Ben through the Samurai Brotherhood, a men's work organized launched in Vancouver by P.T. Mistlberger years ago, Ben is among the new wave of leaders that are bringing this work to a new generation of men, including myself. Ben shares his story of growing up with some serious issues in what might seem like a perfect family from the outside, and how this lead him to rehab as a teenager, and how this changed the trajectory of his path. In recent years Ben has dove deep into plant medicines, mens coaching and group work, co-created a couples course with his wife Sheleana and just recently launched one of the few online mens work programs, The Integrated Man. I really enjoyed the conversation with Ben, he has a ton of energy and is bringing an amazing light to the world with a lot of takeaways and actionable pieces from his courses, podcast and the Samurai Brotherhood. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/into-the-well/support
Ben Goresky is a counsellor, coach and explorer of consciousness. He is involved in addiction recovery and working with men as part of the Samurai Brotherhood, a community I am also involved in. He hosts the Evolving Man podcast. As both recovered addicts we talk deeply about abuse, drug addiction and recovery. Then we delve into spiritual practices that have helped Ben on his journey before getting into the spiritual power of men's work.Find out more about Ben's coaching and online trainings here: https://evolvingman.com/
Ben Goresky (@evolvingman) is a men's coach who focuses on conscious relationship and addiction. He serves as a leader at the Samurai Brotherhood mens group, and he is the host of the Evolving Man Podcast.
We are born male, but a proper role model does wonder for us to fully become men. In today's episode, we will talk about masculinity, what it means, how it develops, maturity in masculinity and why the highest percentage of mass shootings in the United States are caused mainly by men. We will listen to the story of improvement and transformation of today's guest, Ben Goresky, a man who at the age of 15 went to rehab because of drug addiction, and now 15 years later, stays clean and is dedicated to helping men through a brotherhood. Rehab was a before and after in Ben's life, as today's episode can be for you. Get to know, connect and reconcile with your masculinity! ABOUT BEN GORESKY Ben Goresky is a mens' work leader, a coach, and an addiction counsellor. He hosts the Evolving Man Podcast where he covers topics like masculinity, relationships, addiction recovery, and all forms of healing including psychedelics and plant medicines. Ben runs a mens' work community called The Samurai Brotherhood made up of almost 500 men who meet weekly in “squads”. Ben is passionate about health, depth, authenticity, and living with heart. CONNECT WITH BEN Instagram: @evolvingman Facebook: www.facebook.com/evolvingmancoaching Website: evolvingman.com WHAT YOU WILL HEAR [1:38] Meet Ben Goresky. [3:24] From getting help to helping others: The moment when Ben becomes a counselor. 6:26 Creating a structured life: Ben's first months in rehab. [9:47] Ben's life after rehab. [12:18] How Ben's rehabilitation affected his relationship with his siblings. [14:22] The last words of Ben's grandfather that changed everything. [21:29] The major challenge for men since Covid. [24:44]Traver's new book. [25:32] Mature masculinity meaning. [33:38] How male energy affects our masculinity. [44:41] Why is the highest percentage of shootings in the United States caused by men? If you look at the civilized world and think, “no thank you,” then you should subscribe to our podcast so you don't miss a single episode! Also, join the uncivilized community, and connect with me on my website, Facebook, or Instagram so you can join in on our live recordings, ask questions to guests, and more.
"Ben Goresky is an entrepreneur, men’s work facilitator and mentor. As a leader in The Samurai Brotherhood, a community for conscious men, he draws on his experience in the realms of addiction, transpersonal therapy and his bachelor’s degree in counseling to support men in improving their relationships, and their success in the world. Ben offers an integrated masculine approach to 1-1 mentorship, and is also trained to facilitate various types of transformational breath work. Ben hosts The Evolving Man Podcast on iTunes and evolvingman.ca" "...it cracks my heart open and I cry with gratitude and I feel how empty I would feel without the feminine. And how empty I would feel without my partner or my mother and where I would be without it... And what rises out of that is this strength 'Oh my god, I am here to serve this energy. I am here to serve the feminine.'" Join us for a discussion about why men are waking up and doing the inner work, healthy masculine leadership and polarity dynamics in relationships. Here is are the details of our conversation: What Ben finds attractive in a woman? Ben's definition of a powerful woman Feminine/masculine polarity dynamics & expressions Ben's definitions of success & purpose Why men are waking up to do their inner work Ben's transformative experience that has shaped him as a man Why being in service to the feminine is what makes a man what he is The lost rituals of initiation into manhood Masculine vulnerability and how it manifests How does healthy masculine leadership look like? And much more... P.S. Sign up for the free, exclusive training from me on “The Lie of Female Success: How to Get Unstuck, Release Pressure & Stop Trying to Do It All” to find out: How to overcome the "Superwoman Syndrome" so you can start living in freedom, with ease, and owning your truth True feminine power and what you can do right now to begin feeling supported, stop pushing & controlling your life and men How to rediscover, embrace and cultivate feminine flow and become embodied so you can stop overthinking and start making decisions from the heart The essence of masculine/feminine polarity and how to attract and magnify the relationship you want And much more… Sign up at girlskill.com/webinar
Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor who helps men understand and recover from addictions of all kinds. Ben is also a men's work leader in The Samurai Brotherhood, a rapidly growing community in Western Canada. You can find him online at his website here and follow him on Instagram here. You can also find his men's community at the Samurai Brotherhood here and on Instagram here. If you want more of his vocal insights, Ben has a podcast called the Evolving Man Podcast and you can listen to it here. The books Ben suggested are Iron John, No More Mr Nice Guy, and The Way of the Conscious Warrior: A Handbook For 21st Century Men (click each title to learn more). __________________________________________________ Follow me on Instagram @LongDistanceLoveBombs: https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs Sign up for my weekly newsletter! Each week, I share a personal story as well as my favorite books, tunes, articles, and ideas. Click here: http://eepurl.com/T0l91. It's easy and takes five seconds. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/longdistancelovebombs/message
Addiction, suicide, and loneliness run rampant in our society. Whether you are currently living in serious pain and suffering, or want to help those in need, this episode is for you. Ben Goresky is an expert in both addiction and men's work, making this episode invaluable for finding practical solutions to these massive problems. Listen in, as this one covers a lot of ground, including why having a village is vital, how you can always be of service, and what cutting edge addiction research is telling us. Show Notes: Why the world lacks mature responsible men Leaders eat last - respect the whole tribe's contributions It's hard to step into service for your community when you are focused on survival The truth behind the homeless epidemic Addiction is a symptom of disconnection, not a personality flaw The double standard that society treats mental health vs. physical issues We underestimate the power of the programming from our childhood years. Suicide - the thoughts arise when someone is trapped in their pain and doesn't know how else to get out Addiction experts: Gabor Mate and Johann Hari We can still be a service, despite what difficulties we may be going thru. The difference between the village and family Staying the same and comfortable is easy. Doing the work is hard, but worth it. “The Boy Crisis” by Warren Farrell and John Gray - book about what is happening with our young men in this day and age. Connect with Ben: Evolving Man Podcast - anywhere you can find podcasts Evolving Man.ca - articles, coaching sessions, and access the podcast. His work has two main directions - Men's Work and Addiction SamuraiBrotherhood.com - Community for conscious men Instagram: Evolving Man @evolvingman Samurai Brotherhood @samuraibrotherhood His Wife @risingwoman Rising Man Links: IGNITE your raw masculine power as we learn the HAKA, a ceremonial Maori war dance. Be one of the 100 men to perform the dance on Saturday September 7th in Venice Beach, LA. Click here for more info! Join the RMP Fire Circle, complete with monthly calls and a private community for those ready to dive deep. All newcomers are welcome to their first call free of charge! Instagram @therisingmanpodcast Instagram @jeddyazuma Facebook @JeddyAzuma
On this episode of the Real Rebel Podcast Band of Rebels edition, we're doing things a bit differently. For the span of the next 6 weeks, I’ll be asking 18 Rebels the same question. “What advice would you give your 20-year-old-self?” The panel of Real Rebels for this episode are Jaclyn Shaw from Girl Tribe, Ben Goresky from Evolving Man, and my Mom Lisa B.Each of their answers was taken from the end of their previous episodes when I ask them this question in the rapid-fire segment. The Band of Rebels series was designed to act as a platform for the voices of the RRP Community. So often we listen to a podcast and don't ever connect with fellow listeners. We also live in a world where we're judged by the number of followers we have. Often times we only end up hearing the wisdom and voices of those who have large social followings. This isn't to say those humans are lovely humans, I just feel it's important to branch out. Just because someone has 10 followers doesn't mean they don't know some good sh*t worth sharing. I firmly believe that we all have a deep inner-wisdom, regardless of the number of followers we have to our name. The Band of Rebels series puts the mic in the hands of people you might not otherwise hear from while simultaneously connects you lovely listeners with other listeners whose wisdom might just be the remedy you needed. Lots of love! Your Host - Katie B
On this episode of the Real Rebel Podcast Band of Rebels edition, we're featuring RRP Crew members Stefanos Sifandos, Ben Goresky, and Connor Beaton. The question we are posing today is "What does it mean to you to "be a man?" How do you think that definition has changed in the last few years?"The Band of Rebels series was designed to act as a platform for the voices of the RRP Community. So often we listen to a podcast and don't ever connect with fellow listeners. We also live in a world where we're judged by the number of followers we have. Often times we only end up hearing the wisdom and voices of those who have large social followings. This isn't to say those humans are lovely humans, I just feel it's important to branch out. Just because someone has 10 followers doesn't mean they don't know some good sh*t worth sharing. I firmly believe that we all have a deep inner-wisdom, regardless of the number of followers we have to our name. The Band of Rebels series puts the mic in the hands of people you might not otherwise hear from while simultaneously connects you lovely listeners with other listeners whose wisdom might just be the remedy you needed. Lots of love! Your Host - Katie B
Ben Goresky is a counsellor, coach, and a podcaster. He coaches men in the areas of addiction, recovery, and relationships. He is a trained addictions counsellor with a Health Sciences degree. Ben runs a men’s group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancé Sheleana Aiyana. He focuses on shadow work, men's work, transpersonal psychology, and conscious relationship work to drive success in his clients. He runs his coaching practice for EvolvingMan.ca out of Vancouver, BC, Canada. Connect with Ben: Website - https://www.evolvingman.ca Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolvingman Resources: Ben's Men's Group - The Samurai Brotherhood - https://samuraibrotherhood.com Tip of Compassion - Movie - https://vimeo.com/ondemand/tripofcompassion Dosed - Movie Trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9-k8OcHNVY Rising Woman Website - https://risingwoman.com Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today. Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech
On this episode, I talk with Ben Goresky from Evolving Man and we dive really deep. Not only do we talk about his experience with drug addiction and going through rehab, but also get into the experiences and challenges of the 21st century man. On top of that, we talk about shadow work, the masculine and feminine, relationships, and why brotherhood is so important. Ben also drops a TON of resources which I have linked to in the show notes for you to reference.This is a very rich and insightful episode and one that I personally will be going back to in the future. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
What if you learned that everything you’ve been taught about what it means to be a man, was wrong? Tune into my recent conversation with addictions counselor and men’s coach Ben Goresky and learn how to reconnect to your masculinity and your partner with a new sense of compassion and curiosity. In this episode we talk about how to call ourselves and others on the bullshit stories that hold us back, the social norms that perpetuate addiction, why who you spend time with matters, and how you can get back in alignment with who you really are. In this episode you’ll learn about: Addiction myths (15:30) Men and addictions: (34:20) The connection solution for men and women (48:40) The antidote to defensiveness (53:10) The cycle of codependency (1:00:00) You can find Ben through his group for The Samurai Brotherhood, an organization that connects men to their masculine core and leads the way for the evolution of conscious men. Ben also hosts The Evolving Man podcast and runs relationship workshops for couples with his fiancee Sheleana Aiyana. He specializes in transpersonal psychology, shadow work, men’s work, and conscious relationship work. He lives a happy, healthy life in Vancouver, Canada. Episode Resources: Freedom From Addiction Program Gabor Mate Russel Brand Podcast Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - Anne Katherine
Ben Goresky is a counsellor, a coach, and explorer of consciousness. He is the founder of Evolving Man, a site dedicated to creating inspiring content for men who want to expand consciousness and evolve in relationships, masculinity, and health. Ben joins us to share his intimate personal journey of healing using the sacred plant medicine Ayahuasca. Check out Ben's page and support him if you're called to his work. https://www.evolvingman.ca
Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode. Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP182: Are You Addicted to Escaping Your Relationships? with Ben Goresky. Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor, helping other men through Evolving Man, where he provides resources on relationships, masculinity, and health. What's interesting with Ben was he suffered from addiction and was sent to rehab when he was just 15 years old. It is this personal experience that allowed him to coach and provide counsel to other addicts effectively and with credibility. And it's with this experience as an addictions counsellor that he's able to now coach men with compassion, and without judgement, through the many challenges they've been faced with that hold them back in love and life. Like us on Facebook and Instagram! And help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes.
I'm Ben Goresky. I'm the host of the Evolving Man Podcast, broadcasting from Vancouver, Canada. We're discussing how to grow and be more effective and powerful in the world. Check out my website:https://www.evolvingman.ca/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
When we say addiction, we automatically think drugs. But addiction can be about almost anything – sex addiction, porn, food, literally anything. Whatever form of addiction one may have, there is one common thing that gets messed up, and that is our relationships. This is what Ben and I wanted to unpack in our conversation. Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor, helping other men through Evolving Man, where he provides resources on relationships, masculinity, and health. What's interesting with Ben was he suffered from addiction and was sent to rehab when he was just 15 years old. It is this personal experience that allowed him to coach and provide counsel to other addicts effectively and with credibility. And it's with this experience as an addictions counsellor that he's able to now coach men with compassion, and without judgement, through the many challenges they've been faced with that hold them back in love and life. In this episode, we discussed: A brief background of his life, relationship, and his current projects, initiatives, and involvements (2:17). His addiction to escape, the substances he's used and getting acquainted with other addicts in rehab (6:20). What he experienced and saw inside rehab, and the mentality that made him think that he should be deeper into drugs (7:53). How an addict's mind works, and what he sees as the foundation of addiction in one's consciousness (11:04; 18:40). The addict's grand narrative before discovering drugs, while doing drugs, and the vicious cycle involved in it (12:45). Personal experiences, feelings, and actions under the influence of drugs as a teenager (16:50). The uniqueness of each addiction and the intensity of the experiences people get out of it (20:40). How Ben got clean through his father's persistence, rehabilitation, counseling, by ‘hitting bottom', and a realization of what's actually happening (25:55). The importance of fostering relationships and building credibility as a coach when helping others overcome addiction (36:50). The first phase of the 12 steps to recovery and how it gets the addict to face the pain (39:55). How addiction would've changed the trajectory of his life and relationships, and the personal growth and self-help activities he continuously took to improve his current life and relationships (44:24). What shadow work is, how it affects people's behaviors and relationships, and how it manifests in different people (47:13). How the changes he's gone through and lessons learned allowed him to be grateful for the life and relationships he has right now (51:03). This was a thoughtful conversation that laid out the origins of addiction and understanding early recovery. If you or someone you know would benefit from having a coaching session with Ben, you can reach him through his website Evolving Man, his Facebook page Evolving Man Coaching, or email him at ben@evolvingman.ca. Appreciate the time you took to listen to the show, if you have feedback, questions or suggestion about this episode or for the show, email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I'd love to hear them! Help us out by leaving a rating and a review in iTunes. Like us on Facebook! Check out our Resource Page.
So grateful to have gotten to sit down with Ben Goresky and Sheleana Aiyana at their beautiful home in Vancouver, BC. Ben and Sheleana are a powerful couple that are doing amazing work in the personal development / transpersonal therapy world and work a lot with divine masculine and feminine. We dig into a lot of awesome conversation around beliefs, how business and spirituality tie together, and what it’s been like to enter into a relationship together with the commitment of using it as a way to help each other grow spiritually. “Entering into a romantic relationship with the primary purpose being spiritual growth has been a huge game changer for me. Making this relationship not about what I can get from the other person or what we can get from each other, but moreso how we can use the relationship to transcend our own egos, stories and patterns, and get closer to our source. That’s been a game changer for sure. We use each other to expose our own minds.” Ben on the how his current relationship with Sheleana has been the most transformative experience of his life. Conversation notes 5:30 ~ What do you believe? 12:00 ~ How spirituality and business tie together for them. 26:00 ~ Exploring spiritual development through their relationship. 34:00 ~ Their explorations with CBD 40:00 ~ Wrap up and rapid fire Q’s References: Truth and Love: www.facebook.com/loveandtruthtv/ More info on floating which is mentioned near the end of the episode. http://www.floathouse.ca/introduction-to-floating/ Connect with Ben: https://www.facebook.com/ben.goresky?fref=ts www.evolvingman.ca Connect with Sheleana: http://risingwoman.com/ https://www.facebook.com/sheleanab?fref=ts Their teacher P. T Mistlberger: http://www.ptmistlberger.com/ Brought to you by the Grind Bar! The world's first performance nutrition bar infused with CBD! Check out www.thegrindbar.com to learn more!