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Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for two years, and I'm 25 years old. My husband is 26, and he pursued me heavily until I let him take me out. We had a great first date and he told me that he loved me. I fell for him really quick and we got married in no time. He lived out in the suburbs and I had an apartment downtown. So he stayed with me mostly before we got married. Right before the wedding, I moved in with him, and I met three other married couples in his neighborhood. They were all professional men, and they loved to golf, mainly because it was a status thing for them. And I asked my fiancee at the time why he never mentioned these friends. And he said they're his neighborhood friends. And he didn't really hang out with them because he was single. I got upset and asked him if he was rushing into marriage to fit in. He said, absolutely not, and I did not nag him about it. Fast forward to present day and we've been married for two years. My husband thinks it's okay to hang out with his neighborhood friends every Friday and Saturday night. It's fine if they're in the backyard or in one of their man caves, but they like to go to the city to hang out. I'm the only wife in the group that has a problem with it. One of the wives told me that as soon as I start getting tired of my husband, I will look forward to him hanging out at night. My husband said that I'm making us look bad as a unit because I'm always calling around complaining about him being out. I don't like that they let their husbands do whatever they want to do, and I hope it doesn't rub off on my husband.... Listen for more plus Shirley and Uncle Steve's response!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley,I've been in a relationship with a man for two years and he treats me like a side chick. I can spend the night at his house, but I can't leave anything at his house. Meanwhile, he has toiletries at my house, and each has left his Steelers blanket folded up neatly on my couch and asked me not to move it. On Sunday, his mom and dad called and said they were stopping by because they were in the area. He said I should go before they got there. I get that it wouldn't be good to meet them for the first time like that, but he couldn't have because he could have been nicer about it or he could have said I could meet them another time..... Listen for Shirley and Steve's response!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Strawberry Letter for Monday, April 7th, 2025: My Husband And His Pretty Best Friend. "Dear Steve & Shirley, I've known my husband since I was in high school and we have been in an on and off relationship for 31 years. Years ago, my husband made bad choices and he was sentenced to eight years in prison for selling marijuana. I stood by him the entire time he was incarcerated because I knew he was my soulmate. When he got out of prison, he kept his promise to be with me forever and we have been married for five years. He has a good job, even though he's an ex -con and he bought us a new house and he takes care of our finances. My only problem is that he works from home and has a lot of free time during the day. Since he likes to hang out with his friends while I'm at work, there is one friend in particular that I have a huge problem with. We have both known her since high school, since we were in high school, but they became closer friends over the years…" Listen for the rest of the story and to hear Steve & Shirley’s responses!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I met my boyfriend at the car dealership. I was there for an oil change and he greeted me. There was a long wait time so during that time I enjoyed talking to the man... Listen for the rest of the letter and Steve and Shirley's response!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 52 year old married woman and my husband is 56. We've been married for 15 years and he's taken me through a lot of ups and downs.... Listen for the rest of the letter plus Steve and Shirley's response!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Did He Call Me the Wrong Name? Dear Steve and Shirley, my partner and I have been off and on for a few years and he's a great man, but he LOVES women he's trying to be monogamous according to our therapist, I'm 51 and I have never heard such a thing as needing therapy to be faithful... Listen in to hear the rest of the letter plus Shirley and Steve Harvey's response!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I was messing with my homegirl for years and finally her husband caught us naked from the waist down in the coat closet. He came home early and we got busted hiding in the closet. So here we are a year later and her divorce is final and my long term girlfriend dumped me. My homegirl thinks that since I was messing with her while she was married, that it's fate and we are meant to be together. No we're not and I told her that, but she has trouble understanding me. We've been cool since high school, but it's never been more than sex. Back when I was married, I did not mess around with her. I honestly don't know why I went back to her...................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty one year old single black man and about two months ago I was not ready to settle down yet, so I was mingling and dating. After countless failures with meeting women, I finally came across a much older woman who was on the same page that I was on. She only wanted sex and that's it. She invited me to her house one evening, and from the moment I got there, it started getting heated. We were kissing and grinding on her sofa, and as it was about to go down, she left me on the sofa and went upstairs to her room, and she told me to give her ten minutes. So I undressed and went upstairs, and it was pitch black. She told me where to go, and I followed her voice into a room where all I heard was jingling keys and metal clinging, and something that sounded like a towel was hitting a mattress.................................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am twenty eight years old and my boyfriend is twenty seven. He was an old flame that I had in school, and I decided to rekindle things with him. He pursued me, and I finally gave in. I realized he was the missing piece in my life and he told me the same thing. He moved in with me the second week of our relationship, and we were learning to love each other again. All was well until he took me to his family reunion. His ex-girlfriend was there and he knew she would be there. He has a daughter with her, so she came with his daughter......................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for twenty four years and married for fifteen years. We dated and broke up a lot in the past because he's a cheater. He had sex with six women that I know of, and I'm sure there are plenty that I don't know about in the past fifteen years. He said he's been faithful and he stopped all of the messing around a year before we got married. My husband has embarrassed me to no end, and my family still has a problem with accepting him. I thought things were going good and I kind of let my guard down, but my family was right and I never should have married him. I could be wrong, but all the evidence points to him cheating again........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to a big baby that acts like he can't do anything without me. I even went on his last job interview and sat in the lobby for moral support. I never liked a whimpy man, and he hasn't always been like this. He lost his confidence when he started having problems with the erectile dysfunction. It took away his swagger and ruined our sex life. I adjusted and never blamed him or made jokes about it. He used to drink a lot, and that's why he couldn't have sex with me. Over time, it became the norm. So now that we're not having sex, I tend to treat him like he's just a roommate.......................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been messing around with the guy that I worked with. He said he saw something special in me, so he got me transferred to his team. I looked up to his man because of his work ethic and how he commanded the room at our meetings. He is a straight nerd, but there's something about him. It's probably all of the big words he uses, but OMG, he is stuck in the late nineties with his hair, his suits, and even the way he talks. Thank goodness, he's not that way in the bedroom. He's large and in charge there............................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married and I think we have a rodent problem in our house because of my husband's friend. Let me be clear. We don't have a filthy house, and we don't eat anywhere but in our kitchen and occasionally in our living room. My husband got out of the military a few years ago and we chose to settle down in a metropolitan area. When our friends come to town, they always want to stay with us. So when my husband's friend got out of the military, he has to stay with us for a while while he looked for a house in our area. Since he's been in our home, there have been certain smells that I have never experienced before...............................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a thirty three year old married woman and my husband is thirty six. We met on a blind date that was set up by one of our mutual friends. This friend of ours recently got married and we weren't invited because I don't get along with his new wife. I'm a ride or die type of friend, so I warned our friend about this woman before he married her. She had cheated on her first husband and she used to mess with my brother. She works at night, but she is not always at work. She usually takes a two hour lung break and she goes to hang out at a restaurant next to her job...........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old man and I just started a job teaching adults that are getting a GED. I'm loving it so far, but I need advice on how to handle a very aggressive female student in her early 60s. At the end of one of my lectures, she approached me and asked what gym I go to because I have a very nice body. I blushed and didn't know what to say! She winked at me and left.................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I got a call that my husband was sleep in his car behind the bar that he goes to on Friday nights after work. I pulled up on him there and he was asleep in the back seat with the windows cracked. His pants were unbuttoned and his shoes were off. I tapped on the window and he did not budge, so I hit the button to unlock the car. Then he jumped up and screamed. I told him to get out of the car, but he refused to. He said that he did not know how he got there. I should lead because it was not safe for me to be there. I told him I wasn't going anywhere until he got out of the car...........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been with my boyfriend for seven going on eight years, off and on. He's broken up with me three times because he says I'm not domestic enough, or I say the wrong things when he asked me to do things. Then he'll call so we can get back together. Just recently, I moved back in with him and he got upset that men were speaking to me at a motorcycle event when he left me alone for hours at a time. Mind you, these men were not hitting on me at all, and he knew one of the guys and a guy told him we were all just hanging around and talking, but the whole time he was over with a group of women showing off his bike..................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am dating a man that has a lot of female friends. I don't like it, but they seem harmless, so I've learned to go with the flow. He is on a bowling team with two of his closest friends from his childhood. They're girly girls, and it bothers me because I don't do all of the weed, makeup, lashes and stilettos like them. I feel self-conscious around them. To be totally honest, he assured me that he isn't into all of that either, and he loves how I dress and how I carry myself. He told my stepdad that he wants to marry me. So I have been on pins and needles, thinking he's going to pop the question at any minute. He booked a weekend trip to the nearby beach, and he said he just wanted to get away.................................................. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Dear Steve and Shirley, for the past 23 years, I've been married to the nicest guy in the world and I have always tried to be the perfect wife and mother. In the beginning of our marriage, our sex life was perfect, but over the past 7 years, things have drastically changed. In 2018, we had sex maybe 8 times in the whole year. I counted them. I don't think he is cheating, because all he does is go to work and come home. If he goes out, we go out as a family. I just don't think that he is interested in sex at all. He is completely complacent and I've stopped initiating sex because I get tired of him telling me to “move” all of the time...................................... See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for three years and my husband had two sons when we got married. I'm cordial with the mom of his nine year old son. It's the mother of the two year old that I don't vibe with. Here's why my husband and I split up a month before our planned wedding date because we were arguing over wedding plans and money. He started sleeping on the couch and we ignored each other for weeks, so we postponed the wedding and he moved in with his cousin. During that time, he met a girl and was having sex with her without protection..........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old mother with 3 children. My children's father and I have been together over 10 years so let me say this before you bash me… he has asked to marry me him several times and I respectfully declined because we need to go to therapy before we get married. Here's why… My confidence is at an all-time low because my children's father has cheated many times...............See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 35 year old man with 2 kids and a stepdaughter by my wife. I love my family, but I have come to a breaking point with my wife. For the second time in 4 years she has left the home and cut off all contact with me and the kids. The first time she left, she ran off with a man that she met online. She bought a bus ticket and rode out west and didn't contact us for a month. Eventually, the guy dumped her and she reached out to me............. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I love my wife very much and she is the mother of my children, but I have another woman. My wife is very beautiful and smart, but she doesn't submit to me like my mistress does. My wife wants me to be the man of the house all of the time and when I ask her for help on certain things, she huffs and puffs. I just want a partnership with her and raise our children together..................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband of 22 years has made a lot of changes in the last 6 months. He's been in the military since I met him and he retired last year, but he still hangs around with his co-workers. He has always cursed like a sailor because he was a sailor when he was younger. When we had our first child, I asked him to watch what he said around our daughter and he slacked up with using profanity.....................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to my high school sweetheart but we have only been married for 4 years. After high school, we went our separate ways and he was married for 20 years and had 3 kids with his wife. I was married for 13 years and I got a divorce and was raising my 2 children alone, when I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We blended our families and picked right back up where we left off in high school....................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a very beautiful woman that is hood and bougie. She's a bad dresser and she has a bad figure. She's got a bad ride and she's got a mean walk. I mean bad as in good, Steve, real good. We met at a lounge and she stood out from her group of girlfriends. She was poised and graceful and I watched her sip wine while her friends were all loudly chanting and taking shots.....................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your advice on an issue with my husband. We've been married almost 2 years and we are parents of a 7 month old baby girl. I'm a nurse and I work nights, 7pm till 3am. My husband is an optometrist and he had a licensing exam in Maine last month so he had to be gone for 5 days. I suggested that my best friend's sister babysit while I was at work. She's 25 now and I've known her since she was in 3rd grade.................. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am engaged to a man that I work with. We both teach elementary school and when he transferred to my school, it was love at first site for me. At the time, I had only been divorced a few months and my ex-husband was still pursuing me and trying to work things out. He cheated on me more than a few times when we were married, so I divorced him................................... See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I started messing with the man that lives next to me. He was in a long distance relationship, so we started messing around out of boredom. I'm separated from my husband, so it was helping me out, and it was convenient. His girlfriend has moved to town and she's always at his house, so we can't spend as much time together as we used to. I went out and I met a man at karaoke night and he came back to my place. One thing led to another and we had sex, and I mean it was good too. I must have been too loud because I heard banging on the wall..................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, you are not going to believe this. I am 30 years old and my longtime girlfriend has an identical twin sister. I can barely tell them apart sometimes. They both have short curly afros, they both have dimples in both cheeks and their bodies are the same. My girlfriend and her twin love to prank me and confuse me since they look so much alike. Their little pranking went too far and now I want in on the fun.......................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been dating a guy for close to three years and I need some advice on a major issue I'm having with him. I love this man and he is a great guy. He loves me, too, and we have been talking about marriage. But here's my issue… I can not stand going to his house because it is always a mess. When we spend quality time together, we're always at my house and I have to encourage him to pick up after himself and not eat all over my house. He and his teenage son live like slobs and I have told him that I don't feel comfortable at his house............................ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for four years and I just had my first child at age forty. My husband has two children from a previous marriage. When I came home with the baby, he had his two children at my house and it was a mess. His son is fourteen and his daughter is eleven. My husband said they're not used to cleaning up, so he would get to it. His entitled children have a housekeeper at their main home with their mom so they don't have to lift a finger. I didn't speak to him for days because the house was filthy, and he shouldn't have me and our newborn daughter come home to filth. I told his ex wife that she should start now. It's not too late to give the kids basic chores around the home........................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 57 years old and have been married to an intelligent, extremely good looking 60 year old man for ten years. We're admired by friends and family because we seem to have the perfect marriage. At home and in public, we act like two teenagers in love. We send each other silly texts all day and we play all kind of silly games at home.............. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in need of advice. I am a 36 year old divorced man and I'm engaged to be married. I'm a middle school teacher and I have 2 children by my first marriage. My first wife is also a teacher at the same school and we divorced after I caught her cheating on me in her car with the track coach at our school. After the scandal, he transferred to a high school and my ex-wife married him. It was hell to have to work with her after she moved on with the guy that she cheated on me with..................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I have some news to share with you and I need your input. I am a 33 year old woman and I have a female friend that everyone thinks is just a friend, but secretly, she's my girlfriend. Girlfriend, as in lover. It all started about four years ago when we both were having issues in our love life and we started venting, crying and holding each other. One thing lead to another and it was on! I totally loved the experience and wish I could be with her more, but we live in different cities................ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 28 years old and single and I've had the worst dating history of all of my friends. I was recently dating a guy that told me he had a stalker and we had to lay low for a while until she left him alone. I understood why he might have a stalker because he is fine and sexy with a bald head and full beard. He's 36 years old so I was intrigued by dating an older man for the first time........................ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm married to a man that calls himself a preacher without a church. I call him a motivational manipulator. He goes on Facebook and says he's a prophet, and he sees stuff differently than anyone else. He said he can sense when our dog has indigestion. Everyone in our house can sense it too, because we can smell it, but we humor my husband. He tries to spook our kids into not doing things that he doesn't agree with. My daughter wants to be a Majorrette at her school, and my husband made up a statistic about girls not getting accepted into good schools if they had been shaking their booties in high school...................................... See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty nine and divorced. My male cousin is thirty, and he's been staying with me for the past month. I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm usually with my man, so that means my cousin has my house to himself a lot. I trust him, and I don't mind if he has company. But I was shocked to come home early and hear him and his female companion having sex. I heard him as soon as I walked through the door, and his screams made me think he was being attacked, so I was scared to walk back to his bedroom.......................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I was dating Mr. Right for almost one year and we got a condo together and looked at rings together. He is a physician and his practice is about an hour from where our condo is. We dated publicly and I met all his friends and his sister. He never gave me any reason to suspect that he was married. He is an avid golfer in his spare time and he usually stays at the resort where he golfs on the weekend.................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 57 year old single woman but I am dealing with a man that is slightly older than me. He's a nice man and he just lost his wife so he's trying to settle down with me. We have great chemistry in the bedroom and that is what's the most important to me. He matches my freakiness and has taken it to a whole new level but after five months of dating, he said he wants to only do certain things for special occasions................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been married for eleven years and we have our separate spaces in the house. This has helped us cope with the day to day stress of being married. I have a group of friends that I play cards with once a month, but I prefer to be at home, watching movies and reading. My husband is nothing like me. He's very outgoing and he loves to be outside, as he calls it. His need to be outside has caused a lot of problems, and it's the reason he's in trouble. He told me a string of bad lies and I called him out because he thinks I'm stupid. It was almost 2am when my husband came home Sunday morning............................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have an auto detailing shop, but we make the most money with our mobile detailing truck. My husband has been running the mobile detailing business all by himself because he said he can't find anyone that's as good as he is. Most of his mobile customers are single females that don't like going to a car wash. I go by the shop daily to pick up the cash so I can deposit it. I was there the other day and I overheard a female telling my detail shop manager that she had to stop getting mobile detailing because the owner was flirting with her and her husband didn't like it since she was talking about my husband........................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 51 year old married woman and I've been with my husband for 7 years. We met at a rap concert while picking up our daughters who were both 16 at the time. He and I started talking about how we shouldn't have let our daughters go unchaperoned. My daughter and her friends came out first and he got my number before I walked away. We instantly clicked and he proposed after a year of dating..................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband is driving me batty with his occasional drinking and mood swings that come with it. He has embarrassed me for the last time, and I hate that he can never remember what he did or said when he was drunk. On the flip side, he's the sweetest man in the world when he doesn't drink. Saturday, we had an engagement party to go to and my husband started drinking around noon. I could tell that he was going to be a problem because he made a few rude comments about my outfit........................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for three years and married almost one year. When I met him, he was just getting a divorce and he was struggling with being alone. He said he was still really cool with his ex-wife, even after she cheated on him. They have a four year old daughter, so he has no choice but to talk to her to co-parent with her. He's thirty five and his ex-wife is twenty eight. He explained to me that he started dating her when she was twenty two, and when they moved in together, he had to teach her the basics like money management and how to take care of their household. I couldn't imagine how much he had to prepare her to be a mother. He made it sound like she had no home training................................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm thirty nine years old, and I'm sad to say that I've been a side chick for most of my adult life. I got used to men saying they were in a terrible marriage or they weren't married at all. So I started calling wives and girlfriends of the men that I was sleeping with. Earlier this year, I started going to church regularly, and I was celibate for three months. Then I met a really great guy named Jarvis. Jarvis is my preacher's nephew, so I figured he's a stand up guy. He said he was attracted to me because I'm always smelling good. He said he loves my love handles and the dimples in my butt. He asked me to be his girlfriend, and I got butterflies. I had to investigate him first though. I found him on Facebook and I saw pictures of his skinny girlfriend all over his page..............................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a man, we clicked. He showed me his representative for the first few months. Now I see some things that make me wonder if I want to continue our relationship. These are things that I think he can control, but he didn't act like this in the beginning of our relationship. He has no filter in anything he says or does, and his delivery is always so shocking. I took him to meet my mom and he unleashed the madness as soon as we got in her driveway......................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for five years and I had a baby in December, so I'm eager to get these few extra pounds off. Pilates has always been my thing, but my pilates instructor moved to another city. My husband loves his class at the gym, so I asked if it's worth me giving it a try. He said, his class is full and there's a waiting list because his instructor is the best. I'm a member at his gym too, so I went by one day and enrolled in any class I could take. I ended up in a pilates class with a nice older lady. But after one session, I realized I'm too advanced for her class, and she agreed. She suggested I sign up for the other pilates class, so I did. It was just my luck that there was not a waiting list like my husband said there was................................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm twenty eight years old and dating a man that is five years older than I am. We've been together for eight months and he's someone I can see myself settling down with. He doesn't have any children, so that's a plus for me. The only issue we have is that he has sex with other ladies. He told me that even though he has sex with other women, I'm the only one he spends his time and money. He said, he doesn't want to cheat on me, so he's just getting some things out of the way before he settles down. We talk about marriage and having children together, and he wants to be married before he's forty..........................................................See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.