All That And Mo

Sometimes, I stand at the intersection of history and personal narrative, feeling the weight of our collective past as it whispers to the present. In this episode, we're diving into the heart of post-war Austria, exploring the silent stories and untold legacies left in the wake of the nation's history with Nazism.As my partner is elsewhere, I stay behind in Vienna, balancing my roles as a partner, protector, and an individual wrestling with societal biases. This isn't just any episode; it's a revelation of the dichotomy between public confession and private sorrow, highlighted by our approaching tenth anniversary together.In This Episode:The silent narratives of Austria's past and its relationship with Nazism.An open conversation about the subtle racism and microaggressions experienced outside the familiarity of Vienna.The delicate ethics of master-slave relationships, advocating for emotional health within these complex dynamics.Reflections on coping with social anxiety and finding strength in community havens like The Crucible.So, make yourself comfortable; this episode is a journey. Whether you're working through your own struggles or seeking a moment of connection, we're in this together. Let's dive in.* * * * *

Producer's Note: Mo is off in parts unknown while I tend to her podcast houseplants. She'll be back soon, but until then, here's a great episode from just over a year ago!The title says it all. Saddle up, students, we're going to answer some questions from someone who's been interested in peeking into the world of BDSM. This is a good jumping off point if you're interested in seeing what it's about.Complete with optional reading:BDSM ChecklistDifferent LovingThe Ultimate Guide to Kink*** Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello new peeps that heard Part 1 of our conversation on Dixie's podcast!

When the two of us get together, you know it's about to get rowdy. Today I welcome one of my favorite people in the whole multiverse, the Prime Minister of Storytelling (I coined that), The Empress of Tea, the one and only, Dixie De La Tour. As you'll see in this episode, she is quite the storyteller. In fact, that's her whole life—you can check out her work (and podcast) at bawdystorytelling.com.On this episode, though, we talk about the wonderful, crazy world of Craigslist Casual Encounters (RIP). You'll hear about Dave the Ass Eater, 9/11, the Phive Page Phallus Portfolio, the "doctor bag", why Casual Encounters was good for women, the time I used a guy's card to extend my stay at a hotel (alone)....suffice it to say, this is a hell of an episode.  Links and Resources: kinkdoula.comPatreonMore from Dixie De La Tour  Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

Ever been in a room where it feels like everyone's judging you, even when you're just being yourself? In this episode, I open up about the emotional turbulence that hit me after attending a leather contest over Labor Day weekend. While I've worn many titles—from Miss San Francisco Leather to International Miss Leather—I've always strived to remain authentic. But what happens when our authenticity is met with superficiality? Dive in as I, along with my Spouse Meister, navigate the stormy seas of a community we once called home. In This Episode: My emotional unease after a month-long hiatus and the backstory behind it.The glitz and glam of leather contests and the weight of the titles.My Spouse Meister's inspiration to dive into the Master Slave contest.Unpacking a past feud with Taino and how it cast a shadow over the recent event.Reliving past grievances: the unpaid airfare and a social media debacle.Navigating negative energies and feeling like outsiders in a community we love.The significance of "dressage" and why a genuine Master-Slave relationship goes beyond mere display.Reflecting on self-worth, authenticity, and the lessons from my leather mom, Vi.A rejuvenating retreat in upstate New York with Barbara Carellas.A shoutout to the Carter Johnson leather library and the need to document our histories.  Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

**Oh, before you dive into this treasure trove of wisdom and whimsy, I must warn you about a little hiccup in the audio quality. Yep, our tech gremlins were out to play!

In this episode, we travel through personal reflections, pop culture delights, and the hard truths of controversy. Ever felt heartbroken over a cartoon or a song? Ever stood at the crossroads of your personal experiences and a high-profile celebrity scandal? Grab your favorite comfort item and join me as we explore it all together.I share with you the exhaustion and privilege of travel, my teaching experiences in Vienna, decisions in the kink community, and how the essence of home resides in relationships. We'll also delve into relationship appreciation, our love for "Steven Universe," and a very personal take on the current Lizzo controversy. Wrapping up with hope for Lizzo, the joy of creation, and a love-filled message of self-care and connection, complete with hydration reminders and emotive love sent your way.

Ever wondered how the worlds of spirituality, sexuality, and the corporate landscape might intertwine? Join us as we journey into the "Summer of Love" season!In this invigorating episode, we delve into the profound, exploring Rebecca's transformative experiences intertwining spirituality and sexuality. As for me, I dive into the heartwarming tale of how I came to be known as the "Kink Doula", offering healing and sensation rediscovery, after an epiphany during an Urban Tantra event in London.From drawing wisdom from kink and sexuality to pondering the impact of our love languages—both in personal relationships and the corporate world—our dialogue is both enlightening and relatable. Rebecca poses the soul-searching question, "Who are you being?", urging us to contemplate the essence of our beings beyond mere professions.As we introspect on our professional journeys and personal growth, we cannot help but delve deep into the importance of genuine relationships and self-awareness.Curious to learn more? You can connect with the insightful Rebecca via her websites rebeccalowrie.com and sexualalchemy.com or on social media as @rebeccalowrie.  Links and Resources: Rebecca Lowrie's website: Sexual AlchemyBook Mention: "Body Mind" by Ken DychwaldKink Doula Consultation********   Massive thanks to my loyal Patrons who make these heart-to-heart talks possible!

I'm here at the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar in yet another lecture—this time about taboo play. What does "taboo" even mean? How can we discover our limits—and those of our partners? How can exploring what scares or unsettles us help us learn about ourselves? Listen to this episode for all this and more.   Massive thanks to my Patrons for making this show possible!

In today's episode, we're embarking on part 2 of my third lecture in my riveting lecture series, "Shy Freaks: BDSM for the Introvert." So, buckle up as we continue our deep dive into the intimate world of introverts in BDSM. Make sure to listen to part 1!Join me in redefining the narrative around our social anxieties, shifting from fear to self-awareness, and celebrating the beauty of our authentic selves in the journey of love and acceptance. ********************* Massive thanks to my Patrons for making this show possible!

In today's episode, we're embarking on part 1 of my third lecture in my riveting lecture series, "Shy Freaks: BDSM for the Introvert." So, buckle up as we continue our deep dive into the intimate world of introverts in BDSM.Join me in redefining the narrative around our social anxieties, shifting from fear to self-awareness, and celebrating the beauty of our authentic selves in the journey of love and acceptance. *************** Massive thanks to my Patrons for making this show possible!

Welcome back!In today's episode, we're embarking on part two of the riveting lecture series, "Shy Freaks: BDSM for the Introvert." So, buckle up as we continue our deep dive into the intimate world of introverts in BDSM. Make sure to listen to part 1!Join me in redefining the narrative around our social anxieties, shifting from fear to self-awareness, and celebrating the beauty of our authentic selves in the journey of love and acceptance.  Massive thanks to my Patrons for making this show possible!

In today's episode, we're diving into the first part of one such lecture, called "Shy Freaks: BDSM for the Introvert." Ready to join the ride with me? Let's get started!Join me in redefining the narrative around our social anxieties, shifting from fear to self-awareness, and celebrating the beauty of our authentic selves in the journey of love and acceptance.  Massive thanks to my Patrons for making this show possible!

On today's episode, join me, Mollena Lee Williams-Haas, and my friend Rebecca Lowrie, a “sexual alchemist” helping successful, spiritually curious men to explore and embrace their full, true selves through conscious sexuality.We begin by discussing how our perception of time changes as we age, leading to a conversation about personal growth and the importance of stability during periods of significant change. I share my journey towards starting my own consulting business and my new venture, Kink Doula, a service that provides coaching, mentoring, and more to those exploring their desires and relationships.We delve into the world of kink and BDSM, discussing the importance of self-negotiation and psychological intimacy. We also explore the concept of "contra sexuality," which involves safely exploring darker, non-normative sexual fantasies. We also touch on the potential benefits of exploring darker fantasies—and how doing that could potentially lead to some harm reduction.And just saying, if someone wants to bank roll our cult, you know where to find me.

Have you ever wondered what happens when cultural differences, sexual liberation, and a daring sense of adventure collide? In this second part of this double-header episode, I take you on a journey through my explorations in the diverse world of BDSM. From the bustling streets of New York to the serene settings of Vienna, I've come across compelling stories that underscore the necessity of diversity and inclusivity within our spaces.Our conversation today delves into a class I taught on edge play, risky scenes, and race play, and how these elements intertwine in fascinating and challenging ways. There's also a chat on weaponizing privilege for good, the concept of the "Observer Effect," and the remarkable impact of advocating for disability access within our communities. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ A heartfelt thank you to my wonderful Patrons who make this show possible!

Ever wondered what it's like to teach sexuality classes in Vienna, or to embrace your authentic sexual self amidst societal judgments? Recorded while touring Europe with my Spousemeister Georg Friedrich Haas, I share my recent lecture at the Vienna Art Institute, where I was invited to share on topics around sex, alternative sexuality, race, and gender issues. We'll dive into my upbringing, my first exposure to alternative sexuality, and the crucial role consent has played in my relationships.Additionally, I touch on my experiences as a black woman in the BDSM community, discussing racial misunderstandings and misconceptions. We'll tackle topics such as consent, the importance of language, and the self-care benefits of BDSM lifestyle.So, whether you're a kink veteran or just curious about what it all means, join me in this episode for an exploration of sexual freedom, acceptance, and the art of living authentically. ~~~~~~~~~~   Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

How do we maintain resilience and stay upright when life's a whirlwind, and we're Daffy Duck with his little legs twirling around? Well, I'm not entirely sure, but I'm in it with you, and today we'll commiserate together.This past fortnight has been a whirlwind, and honestly, I'm barely hanging in there. I don't have the energy to pull together a typical deep-dive discussion, so I've asked my amazing producer, Cody, to dig into our vaults and air a past episode.See you soon ~

Ever wondered what it's like traveling the world as an artistic couple? The adventure, the hiccups, and the hilarity of it all?In this episode, I, and my beloved Spousemeister, delve into our recent travel experiences. From the bustle of Budapest and Vienna, dealing with unexpected dilemmas, to losing some of our belongings – the journey has been full of surprises.We explore the cultural and historical tapestry of Prague, share our experiences of being a dynamic couple in the arts scene, and our journey to a place of mutual understanding and respect as collaborators. ******  Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

Can you imagine holding onto a pebble of pain, rubbing it smooth over years, like a worry stone? In today's episode, we dive deep into the uncharted territory of emotional pain—how we deal with it, why we hold onto it, and how we might begin to let it go.I share some personal experiences around this topic, from the lingering pain of unresolved family issues to my spouse's past, and how it all intersects with my own hypervigilance and perpetual anxiety. I reflect on the value of having friends who are older and how observing their handling of life's ups and downs informs my perspective.There's an exploration of the irony of seeking physical pain in kink while shying away from emotional pain, and a deep dive into the theme of self-sabotage—our baffling tendency to undermine our own success.In a world that often discourages expressing negative emotions, learning to listen to our pain can be a radical act of self-love and healing. So join me as we journey into the heart of pain, and, perhaps, come out stronger on the other side.  Links and Resources: Work with me at KinkDoula.comUpcoming events   Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

Have you ever caught yourself in a spiral of self-criticism and negativity? That's where I found myself in this episode, battling with the guilt of missed work commitments and the exhaustion in the aftermath of COVID-19.In this deeply personal reflection, I talk about my struggle with high expectations for myself, my battle with emotional perfectionism since childhood, and how I've grappled with the fear of disappointing others. It's been a tough journey, but I've had some pretty amazing people by my side, and I want to take a moment to appreciate them and the accomplishments I've made along the way.I also share the challenges of healthcare, the absurdity of American healthcare costs, and some frustrating experiences trying to get medication for a three-week trip to Europe. Plus, I dive into my new consulting venture, Kink Doula, and the scheduling issues that have come up.But it's not all hardship and struggle. There are moments of self-love and acceptance, of recognizing the beauty in our imperfections and the miracles of our lives. Join me as I take a moment to step back, breathe, and appreciate the miracle of being alive.Links and Resources:My new consulting venture 'Kink Doula'*****Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

Can pain actually bring relief? Join me as we delve into the world of kink, self-discovery, and the surprising ways our physical and mental well-being can intersect.In this episode, I share my experience attending an opera adaptation of Octavia Butler's "Parable of the Sower," my journey with COVID-19, and how it unexpectedly impacted my anxiety. We'll also explore my personal adventures in the realms of kink and BDSM, and discuss how our preferences can change over time.Links and Resources:Kink Doula websiteSign up for my mailing list and get a free class!Upcoming eventsQuestions or Topic Suggestions?Email me at allthatandmo@gmail.com  Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!

Mo is sick! She has been stricken with the dreaded COVID—and she has asked me, her very intelligent producer, to air and old episode, so here's one of my favorites. Send her your best wishes and hopefully she's feeling better very soon!

Have you ever felt the need for guidance and support while exploring the world of kink?

In today's episode, the second of our series, I share my keynote speech from a recent leather conference. I discuss the evolving inclusivity and diversity within the leather community and my personal journey as a woman of color.Join me as we dive into the heart of the leather event, exploring the progress made and the importance of representation.****SUPERSTAR MOFOS:Liz ScottTerri LahmonJ StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I'm sharing my experience attending a leather conference, The Southplains Leatherfest. I was honored with being a featured guest for the Q&A session. During my time at the conference, I was reminded of how much the community has changed since I last attended, and I was pleasantly surprised by the progress that had been made in terms of inclusivity and diversity.In the next couple of episodes, I'll be sharing recordings from the conference, including the Q&A session where I was interviewed by the event organizer, and we had a lot of fun. So, stay tuned as I take you on a journey into the heart of the leather community.****SUPERSTAR MOFOS:Liz ScottTerri LahmonJ StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So, just like any grown-ass adult who struggles with insomnia, I turn to medical marijuana to knock me out. And boy, do those little gummies do the trick! I usually pop them an hour before bed and chill until they kick in.But one day, I made the mistake of recording an episode after taking the gummies, but before they hit me like a ton of bricks. Bad move, folks. Because when they finally did kick in, it was like a psychedelic tsunami had hit my brain. I was too high to talk, let alone put together a coherent podcast episode.I thought about scrapping the whole thing, but then I had an idea. Why not give my patrons a little taste of the madness? So, if you want to hear what it sounds like when a podcast host loses all ability to communicate, become a patron and check it out for yourself (but here's a taste for all of you)And who knows? If people dig it, maybe I'll make a whole series of episodes where I let the gummies take over. Think of it as a wild ride with your favorite stoner podcaster. You never know what you're gonna get, but hey, that's half the fun, right? Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is part two of a two part conversation! Part 2 went live a week ago for my lovely Patrons, for their support!***SUPERSTAR MOFOS:Liz ScottTerri LahmonJ StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this two part story, my friend Jack, filmmaker and college film professor, shares his experience of being unexpectedly asked to direct the live broadcast of an event featuring the Dalai Lama, with a twist—the event is put on by the infamous NXIVM cult (yes, THAT one). On top of that, Jack finds himself in a trailer filled with millions of dollars' worth of equipment and no technical director. Undeterred, he teaches himself how to operate the equipment and directs the broadcast anyway—all the while NXIVM is lurking in the distance.This is part 1 of a two part conversation! Part 2 is already live for my Patrons—so if you can't wait for next week, head on over to my Patreon and hear it today! (The rest of y'all will have to wait.

Back in the 90s, I didn't understand the hype around Pokemon. I just never got into it for whatever reason. But in 2016, while I was traveling in Europe, I saw clusters of people on their phones, all playing Pokemon GO. I was curious, so I downloaded the game and asked some friendly kids to show me how to play. From then I was hooked, going as far as hiking in the woods at night to catch rare Pokemon.

Today I'm sharing my personal reflections on my recent one-woman show, Hyena, and my journey towards self-love and acceptance. It's been almost a decade since I first started performing this piece, and I'm excited to share with you the amazing experience I had performing at the Institute of Contemporary Art in Boston and the diverse audience that attended. I'll also be discussing my struggles with self-worth and how performing this show has helped me in my journey towards acceptance of myself.During the episode, I'll be sharing some personal stories and reflections that may make you cringe or feel uncomfortable. But trust me, I see you out there. I know the feeling of loneliness even when surrounded by people, and the struggle to feel worthy of love and acceptance. I've had to confront these feelings head-on, and I'm excited to share with you how performing has helped me on this journey. So, join me for this heartfelt and honest conversation about self-love, acceptance, and the power of storytelling.***Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!SUPERSTAR MOFO:Liz ScottTerri LahmonJ StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, I sat down with my beloved Spousemeister Georg Friedrich Haas to have a candid conversation about what it means to live an authentic life and find happiness in the process. We dove deep into how societal messaging can shape our sense of self-worth and the importance of recognizing the privileges we carry in life (sound complex? It is.And of course, I couldn't resist mentioning my one-woman show, Hyena. I'm beyond thrilled to see so many people from all different parts of my life come out to support me, and it's humbling to realize just how many people have played a part in my journey to this point.The show itself touches on some pretty heavy themes - trauma, healing, resilience—we talk about those things, and why it's so nerve-racking to have that all on display.***Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!SUPERSTAR MOFO:Liz ScottPATRONS:J StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When I first got involved in the kink, leather, and BDSM scene, I thought it was going to be a non-stop sex party. But I quickly realized that it was not entirely true—and that it might just not be for me. As an actress and performer since childhood, I found it challenging to separate an audience from people watching me from a performative mindset. This made me realize that sex parties were not my kink.Join me as I debunk the myth of sex parties in the kink and BDSM scene, what the public scene is designed for and my usual smattering of stories.***Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible!SUPERSTAR MOFO:Liz ScottPATRONS:J StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Stage fright is one thing. Performing someone else's art is one thing. But what about performing something so personal, so raw, that someone watching is looking into your very soul?That's what I experience when I perform my solo show "Hyena". On today's episode, I talk about what it's like, about being an alcoholic in recovery (and an alcoholic of color at that), the story of when my beloved Spousemeister first heard my story, and other tales. ***Thank you so much to my loyal Patrons who make this show possible! SUPERSTAR MOFO:Liz ScottPATRONS:J StarrAnna T BiddleChristopher BrownAmy WillaertJames R PotyrajMarshall FlaxHaddayr Copley-WoodsScott JMarty WilderMeg BacaJP Robichaudaeric meredith-goujonKillerB1973Sara LeisteEstherThe Adipositivity ProjectKathleen MelchAndreaDK Green (aka DK Leather)Stephanie ShernicoffWELCOME N00b: Joanna Spencer! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I decided to answer three of the questions and explains what it takes to make her feel safe in my relationship. I also share a hilarious fuck up as a submissive when I was new to the BDSM scene, and dive into how I managed (in the past) polyamorous relationships. Plus, I talks about the tasks I had to do as a submissive, and how she learned to appreciate them. Tune in to hear all the details of my journey as a submissive—and how I learned to be respected!Shout out to my current Patrons—you are making this shit happen! Click here if you'd like to join the crew. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been a long-time listener to this podcast, you'll know about my solo show, Hyena, but for the uninitiated—Hyena is a combination of spoken word and music about alcoholism and recovery. Specifically, MY alcholism and recovery.On today's episode, I'll be discussing the various performances of the show (including the film version and how it has won awards from various film festivals). I'll also dive into how my involvement in the kink, leather and BDSM has helped me in my recovery. I'll be exploring how the support from my community after I announced my sobriety was a miracle for me and gave me a sense of homecoming. We'll also be discussing the importance of talking to someone who understands the experience of addiction and how difficult it can be to understand how bad off one is while in the midst of addiction. Sign up for the highest-tier level of my Patreon and (as mentioned in the episode) get an exclusive look at the film version of Hyena! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's super important to discuss kink and BDSM in the context of events, safety, and boundaries. Are you interested in exploring this exciting world, but don't know where to start?On today's episode, we're going to be talking about red flags in the context of kink and BDSM. My list?

This is part 2 of my two-part review of the last couple of years—where I've been, what I've been doing, and what I've learned.In this episode, I discuss my experience of rehearsing for an opera, and my move to Bern, Switzerland. I share about how working with the director, Julia, and how I focused on character development, backstory and relationships. I also talk about the emotional process of decluttering her home before the move, new adventures in Switzerland, and our older-than-expected apartment.Join us and get to know more about me and my journey of self-care, exploration, and adaptation over the past two years. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this first part of two episodes, we're doing a year in review with my beloved Spouse Meister. I'm diving into my calendar to recall events and experiences such as RV trips in California, a trip to Vienna for an opera production, trying to get a certification in narrative therapy, and a sex party that didn't go as planned. We discuss how the past year has been a learning experience for me and how I have adapted my life because of it. We'll also hear about Urban Tantra, a trip to Europe, a trip to Slovenia, and more. Join us and get to know more about me and my journey of self-care, exploration, and adaptation over the past two years. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's been weeks since I wrote that post about my mother not coming to see the opera my son-in-law wrote for me in Europe. I had offered to buy her a business class ticket with anti-anxiety medication, but never got a response. Reflecting on this made me think about other issues with my family. In our family, it's become expected that I don't share my feelings with others. I'm still angry and sad about it, but I'm now choosing to let go of those feelings and find peace. I've come to realize that family is not just about who birthed who, it's about who celebrates who. I encourage you to find your people who will see and celebrate you for who you are. I'm sending you love and wishing that you will be seen and cherished for who you are. Happy New Year. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm a night person. I love the peace and quiet of the late hours. During the winter months and my anniversary, it often ends up as a time of contemplation and introspection – which can be a challenge. On today's episode, I talk about how I had to overcome fear to be fully themselves and how I met my beloved spousemeister nine years ago. I also talk about my budding business, teaching people to be free to be themselves, and how I just want to share my light and hope with others. You'll also hear about their fear of success and the beauty and power of darkness. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you're a regular listener, you know that I've been absent for quite a while—with good reason! Today's episode gives you a sneak peek in where I've been, I discuss "The Woman King", and much, much more.Not set photos, but a trailer for Sycorax: https://youtu.be/dmOZqCGq1wMAnd a link with photos AND a bunch more information: https://buehnenbern.ch/spielplan/programm/sycorax/***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Something I haven't talked about before on this podcast is how I've got quite a long-term, on again/off again relationship with phones. Some people would certainly disagree with this, but I actually really enjoyed my time in phone-centered jobs. I've worked everywhere from a sex line (with a deskmate getting busy under her desk) to working at a bank and experiencing blatant racism. Join me on this one-sided party line and hear about my history on the ol' chat box.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Mollena and opera aren't exactly BFFs—we're more like casual acquaintences at this point. But when you get an opportunity to actually take part in an opera, you don't exactly say no!Join me in a conversation with my lovely spouse and owner about art (and the fear of putting something out there), theater vs. opera, and perfect pitch (and why I don't really understand it). ***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When one comes up in an alternative community, you find out quickly that there are people you look up to and people that you hope to never ever run across in your experience.In the kink and leather communities, here were plenty of people who were heroish and had ulterior motives that maybe were not pure. However, if you've heard me talk about kink at all, you've probably heard me talk about Vi Johnson.Vi was the the first African American person who identified as a consensual slave, who I ever heard the name of and also was privileged to meet. Her partner, Jill Carter is equally amazing, which is why it's my privilege to bring you the second part in a two-part conversation starring both of these incredible women.We sit down to discuss what the scene used to be like—the improvements, and how things have changed. You won't want to miss this one! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When one comes up in an alternative community, you find out quickly that there are people you look up to and people that you hope to never ever run across in your experience. In the kink and leather communities, here were plenty of people who were heroish and had ulterior motives that maybe were not pure. However, if you've heard me talk about kink at all, you've probably heard me talk about Vi Johnson. Vi was the the first African American person who identified as a consensual slave, who I ever heard the name of and also was privileged to meet. Her partner, Jill Carter is equally amazing, which is why it's my privilege to bring you a two-part conversation starring both of these incredible women. We sit down to discuss what the scene used to be like—the improvements, and how things have changed. You won't want to miss this one! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Whoops. Here I am. ***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Very little gets under my skin like someone assuming they know everything about you—even though they are, in fact, not YOU. How some people think they can get in your head and tell you "no no, your feelings are wrong" will never fail to amaze me. Today I'm going to talk about social anxiety. Specifically, MY social anxiety, which may not look like the social anxiety you expect to see, but I can assure you it's real. I'll get into how I cope, why I think it's important to talk about, and why I don't my social anxiety doesn't look like a shy person in a corner.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How long should you be in control of your art? Should you have "final cut" on each performance, or is the performance itself a separate piece of art?Today, I discuss that and more with my lovely Spousemeister, Georg Friedrich Haas, composer extraordinaire. This came up as we were swept off to Germany—a trip which was not an instant "yes" from my dear husband (which we will get into).***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In a quick mini-sode (a concept I lovingly ripped off from a YouTuber I watch) I discuss some tumultuous times my husband and I are enduring together, the impact of neurodivergence on a relationship, and how they might actually be your superpower.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible.***If you've always wanted to start a podcast and haven't quite gotten yourself to do it yet (and you need some help), I've got you covered. Sign up for podcast production services through my excellent, handsome, intelligent producer (who wrote this sentence) and I'll cover the costs for one of your first three episodes!Contact him by clicking here: http://calendly.com/codycrabb. Or visit his website: codycrabb.com. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week has felt particularly dark for some of us. How can it not? But through that, I want to give you a reminder that you (yes. YOU.) reading this? You are important. Not just important, you are significant. I really, truly mean that—and I hope if you don't believe that, you will someday.Also, find out about my strange week, which includes a lost passport, as well a previous story about a stranger who had seen my TikToks.***A special, direct thank you to Amy W, Victoria B, Susanna E G, James R P, Kathleen A, Marshall F, Elizabeth S, Jackie B, Haddayr C-W, Scott J K, Abigail P, Marty W, Meg B, JP R, aeric meredith-goujon, Sinclair Sexsmith, KillerB1973, Sara L E, The Adipositivity Project, Kathleen M, Andrea, DK Leather, Stephanie S, Michelle D, and Michael O'B.You are helping make this show possible.***If you've always wanted to start a podcast and haven't quite gotten yourself to do it yet (and you need some help), I've got you covered. Sign up for podcast production services through my excellent, handsome, intelligent producer (who wrote this sentence) and I'll cover the costs for one of your first three episodes!Contact him by clicking here: http://calendly.com/codycrabb. Or visit his website: codycrabb.com. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The title says it all. Saddle up, students, we're going to answer some questions from someone who's been interested in peeking into the world of BDSM. This is a good jumping off point if you're interested in seeing what it's about. Complete with optional reading:BDSM ChecklistDifferent LovingThe Ultimate Guide to Kink Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/all-that-and-mo. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.