Four Grown-Ass Women of the Apocalypse

In this episode we talk about the ways we practice self-care and get a little bit sidetracked when we talk about getting lost in the parking lot every damn time we go to the store or the airport.

In this episode we talk about surrender and how sometimes inaction is action.

In this episode we talk about how we manage the backlash that sometimes comes with setting boundaries. We also talk about Sereta's Boob Chaps design. Now you HAVE to listen.

We're back for Season 3! We're here catching up with everything that's been going on since our last episode and we're glad to be back!

In this episode we talk about abuse in the Olympics, abuse of public figures, the public response to that abuse and how sometimes abuse happens publicly and we don't recognize it.

In this episode we talk about junking. As children we were ashamed of it but as adults we love it! We also talk about money, our experiences growing up in poverty, and society's attitude towards people who seem to have money and people who don't.

In this episode we talk about different types of grief; the grief of the loss of a loved one, but also an opportunity you desperately wanted but lost or never got, or grieving the relationship with a parent you wished for, and how we can grieve something but still be able to be relieved it's over. Luke: A Mary Oliver Poem: https://maryoliverpoetry.tumblr.com/post/74173019359/luke

In part two of Episode 16, we talk about our growth goals for 2022 including financial goals, business goals and personal goals. EO 360 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eo-360-a-podcast-by-the-entrepreneurs-organization/id1086467228 The Secure Relationship Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/?hl=en Start Ugly by Chris Krimitsos: https://www.amazon.com/Start-Ugly-Timeless-Innovation-Change/dp/1734016108

Traveling, downsizing, pruning, podcasting… these are a few of our favorite things. In part 1 of this two-part episode, we talk about our favorite things that happened in 2021.

‘Tis the season for getting together with family who sometimes see us and treat us as the people we were when we were growing up instead of the grown-ass women we are. In his episode we talk about our issues with navigating those relationships during the holidays.

In this off the cuff episode we talk about social expectations of gender and behavior. We get a little off track, but we like it when we do that. We hope you do too.

TW // SEXUAL ASSAULT In this episode, we welcome Norman dentist Dr. Gabriel Bird to the show. He tells us how he was prompted to educate himself on trauma informed dentistry and how he approaches easing anxiety in patients who are victims of sexual assault or other trauma. Show notes: Resurrection After Rape by Matt Atkinson: https://amzn.to/3FA7vGh The Body Keeps Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.: https://amzn.to/3DILYdC

In this episode, we discuss protecting your own mental health by staying out of social media debates that aren't productive. We talk about our shortcomings in this area, and the best way to handle those situations. SHOW NOTES: LOA TODAY (Law of Attraction Podcast): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/loa-today-living-our-abundance-with-the-law-of-attraction/id1169278378 Stay Above the Fray by Isaac Morehouse: https://isaacmorehouse.com/2019/07/14/stay-above-the-fray/

TW // sexual assault. In this episode, we welcome Anissa Scott who shares her story of fighting back against sexual assault, physically, legally, and psychologically. The Women's Resource Center: https://wrcnormanok.org YWCA: https://www.ywcaokc.org Palomar: https://palomarokc.org

In this episode, we talk about ADHD and how it affects each of us individually. We share some resources and we have some lightbulb moments. SHOW NOTES: What the HDHD on Twitter: https://twitter.com/WhatTheADHD Faster than Normal Podcast: https://www.fasterthannormal.com

We talk about the new Texas abortion law that includes an incentive for individuals to enforce the law with a $10,000 (or more) ‘bounty' to anyone who successfully sues someone providing or assisting a woman seeking an abortion after six weeks of pregnancy. We also discuss the near-total abortion ban that will go into effect in Oklahoma on November 1st and the organizations that are fighting these violations of the rights of people with uteruses. Organizations fighting for reproductive rights in Oklahoma: Planned Parenthood: www.plannedparenthood.org Center for Reproductive Rights: www.reproductiverights.org Planned Parenthood Federation of America: www.ippf.org Oklahoma Call for Reproductive Justice: www.ocrj.org

Back from a break, we talk about advocating for your own physical and emotional space and not apologizing for things we shouldn't apologize for. Topics include Britney Spears, Simone Biles, bedtime routines, zombie bees, animal rescue, scary pond animals, man chicken, and Emily's weight loss journey.

This episode begins with a discussion about how being low maintenance can have a negative effect on relationships, but quickly spirals into such topics as The Murder of Kitty Genovese and The Bystander Effect, the rise of niche sports, endorsement deals for influencers, free products from Amazon sellers in exchange for reviews, and unboxing videos. We also include many unintentional product endorsements. SHOW NOTES: Psychology Today: Are You Too Low Maintenance? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-the-generations/202101/are-you-too-low-maintenance The Witness: The Murder of Kitty Genovese: https://www.amazon.com/Witness-William-Genovese/dp/B01LG6HERI

In episode 6 of season 2, we share how each of us views "Fake It Till You Make It" and whether "Faking It Till You Make It" is helpful or harmful. SHOW NOTES: Why "Fake It Till You Make It Is Bad Advice," at Bluering Design: https://www.blueringdesignllc.com/post/why-fake-it-till-you-make-it-is-bad-advice

In this episode, we talk about burning bridges in personal relationships and business, when it's necessary and when it's not a good idea.

In this episode, we talk about what our red flags and green flags are in relationships and we share some stories about intuition. SHOW NOTES: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker:: https://www.amazon.com/Gift-Fear-Survival-Signals-Violence/dp/0316235024

In this episode, we discuss our experiences as women business owners, why we have chosen this path, and how we handle conflict. SHOW NOTES; The Roar and Peace Project Episode 6: The One Where We're Not So Catty: https://soundcloud.com/user-387464025/episode-6-not-so-catty

In this episode, we talk about toxic relationships among women and how we are healing as we come out of the pandemic. SHOW NOTES: Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons. Order here: https://www.nappyrootsbooks.com/order-books Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com.

In the first episode of Season 2, we introduce a new fourth Grown-Ass Woman and we talk about "Bitches Have Boundaries" and how setting healthy boundaries is sometimes hard for others to deal with. Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com.

In episode 34, we discuss the most recent Norman City Council election results. In the Podluck: How to best serve people who are unhoused, the probability that aliens have visited Earth, mental illness as a disability and the Attention Economy. SHOW NOTES: Intentional Homeless Community in Berkeley - Street Spirit (thestreetspirit.org): https://thestreetspirit.org/2016/03/09/intentional-homeless-community-in-berkeley/ Have we already been visited by Aliens? https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2021/01/25/have-we-already-been-visited-by-aliens Chariots of the Gods: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RWPNK4N/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0 Mental illness as a disability: https://twitter.com/Breezy_So415/status/1357819728325181443?s=20 https://georgetownvoice.com/2021/01/21/how-i-came-to-identify-as-disabled-after-a-decade-with-mental-illness/ https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/10/style/invisible-disabilities.html?searchResultPosition=2 The Attention Economy: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/04/opinion/michael-goldhaber-internet.html ****** Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

On today's episode, we discuss foreign policy in the Biden Administration. In the Podluck: Empowerment and uplifting others, deplatforming, sexism in the brewing industry and white liberalism. SHOW NOTES: Carl Sagan: The Pale Blue Dot: https://www.loc.gov/item/cosmos000110/ Deplatforming: https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/deplatforming-extremists-effective-or-dangerous-experts-weigh-n1254516 https://www.motherjones.com/media/2021/01/trump-twitter-ban-misinformation-impact-zignal-labs-report/ The Boulevard Brewing Company scandal: https://vinepair.com/articles/boulevard-brewing-company-controversy/ https://www.reddit.com/r/TheBrewery/comments/l3h005/boulevard_brewing_co_and_women/ White Liberalism: http://bostonreview.net/race/melissa-phruksachart-literature-white-liberalism International relations in the Biden Administration January 24, 2021 | Fareed Zakaria On GPS: https://www.cnn.com/audio/podcasts/fareed-zakaria-gps?episodeguid=1e192114-fedc-4379-a6a0-acba0112fb22 https://joebiden.com/americanleadership/ https://www.foreignaffairs.com/articles/united-states/2020-01-23/why-america-must-lead-again https://www.cfr.org/in-brief/bidens-first-foreign-policy-move-reentering-international-agreements https://foreignpolicy.com/2021/01/19/biden-first-100-days-foreign-policy-china-russia-europe-trump-climate-change/ https://www.brookings.edu/blog/order-from-chaos/2020/11/23/the-fraught-politics-facing-bidens-foreign-policy/ https://www.newyorker.com/news/our-columnists/the-seven-pillars-of-bidens-foreign-policy https://ecfr.eu/publication/the-crisis-of-american-power-how-europeans-see-bidens-america/ ------------ Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In Episode 32 we discuss how we can heal as a country through truth and reconciliation. In the Podluck: The concept of Hygge, which is defined as a quality of coziness and comfortable conviviality that engenders a feeling of contentment or well-being, Cleta Mitchell's shift from radical progressive Oklahoman to fringe right-wing conservative, The Joint Chief's statement and accountability, and Dream Hoarders, how America's top 20 percent perpetuate inequality. SHOW NOTES: Hygge: https://www.self.com/story/practicing-hygge-danish-lifestyle Cleta Mitchell: From Radical Progressive Oklahoman to Fringe Right-Wing Conservative. Why shifts in values happen - natural progression, shocks to one's worldview, or something else? https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2013/04/meet-cleta-mitchell-the-conservative-movements-anti-gay-eminence-grise/274629/ https://www.facebook.com/cal.hobson.9/posts/3398365013607805 The Joint Chief's Statement: https://www.defense.gov/Explore/News/Article/Article/2470780/joint-chiefs-stress-service-members-commitment-to-constitution/ Dream Hoarders: http://bostonreview.net/class-inequality-education-opportunity/richard-v-reeves-dream-hoarders-how-americas-top-20-percent ------------ Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In Episode 31 we discuss the violent insurrection that took place at the United States Capitol on January 6, 2021. ------------ Production Music courtesy of incompetech. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

On our 30th episode we tell you what we're reading, what we're watching and how we approach self-care. In the Podluck: the Fuck word, the lumpenproletariat theory, normalizing talk about death, and toxic individualism in rural America. We're nothing if not diverse in our topics. SHOW NOTES: A Brief History of the Fuck Word: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/a-fcking-short-history-of_b_3352948 The Lumpenproletariat: an explanation of why the most oppressed Americans are often the most disengaged and susceptible to authoritarian persuasion: https://talkingpointsmemo.com/cafe/lumpenproletariat-long-discarded-economic-theory-helps-explain-divided-america?fbclid=IwAR18Hrkh-EWEjlSnfVuP4jVvJ-82yFxD8xHLVz5Xg8A37t7xhtJ6RRx0Cuw The Dangerous Class: The Concept of the Lumpenproletariat: https://www.amazon.com/Dangerous-Class-Concept-Lumpenproletariat/dp/0472132245 Time of Death on Showtime: https://www.sho.com/time-of-death/season/1 Cake: https://www.joincake.com Pandemic politics, the problem of "toxic individualism" and the collapse of rural America: https://www.npr.org/2020/12/28/950861977/toxic-individualism-pandemic-politics-driving-health-care-workers-from-small-tow https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/12/14/opinion/rural-america-trump-decline.html Reading, Watching and Self-Care Bridgerton: https://www.netflix.com/title/80232398 Dog Songs by Mary Oliver: https://www.amazon.com/Dog-Songs-Poems-Mary-Oliver/dp/0143125834 The Answer: https://www.amazon.com/Answer-Business-Achieve-Financial-Extraordinary/dp/1416562001 Light For The World To See: https://www.amazon.com/Light-World-See-Thousand-Words/dp/0358539412 Felon: https://www.amazon.com/Felon-Poems-Reginald-Dwayne-Betts/dp/0393652149 The Wire: https://www.hbo.com/the-wire Treme: https://www.hbo.com/treme My Octopus Teacher: https://www.netflix.com/title/81045007 How to be an Anti-Racist: https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-be-anti-racist-how-to-change-yourself-and-a-racist-society/9798669932770 Thick: https://bookshop.org/books/thick-and-other-essays-9781620975879/9781620975879 Hunger: https://bookshop.org/books/hunger-a-memoir-of-my-body/9780062420718 Bad Feminist: https://bookshop.org/books/bad-feminist-9780062282712/9780062282712 Indigenous Reading List: https://www.instagram.com/p/CI9V-NGBnzZ/ ------------ Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In Episode 29 we each talk about the events that made the greatest impact this year and we share our predictions for 2021. It's a love-fest, ya'll.

In Episode 28, we focus on disappointments on the local, state and national level. In the Podluck: Why white women voted for Trump, Joseph Epstein's op-ed in the Wall Street Journal claiming that Dr. Jill Biden's title is “fraudulent” because she's not a medical doctor, to Santa or not to Santa, and the Covid pardon. Note: If you are listening with children, not only will they hear the fuck word, they will also hear Santa spoilers. SHOW NOTES: White women and Trump: https://tinyurl.com/y6vxeynd https://www.thecut.com/2020/11/many-white-women-still-voted-for-trump-in-2020.html https://ncadv.org/statistics Dr. Jill Biden: https://tinyurl.com/ycjplgn4 To Santa or not to Santa: https://tinyurl.com/hdk26tg https://www.philosophytalk.org/blog/against-santa https://familyinequality.wordpress.com/2014/12/22/santa-magic/ The Covid Pardon: https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2020/12/trump-medical-pardon-rudy-giuliani-covid.html https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-020-03370-6 ------------ Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In episode 27, we discuss the importance of local government, why you should pay attention and how you can get involved. In the Podluck: The Supreme Court lawsuit from Texas, prisoners receiving priority access to COVID-19 vaccines, ghosts, and The Queen's Gambit. Note: This episode contains spoilers for The Queen's Gambit. SHOW NOTES: Explaining the Supreme Court lawsuit from Texas: https://tinyurl.com/y5yxk2ee Should prisoners receive priority access to COVID-19 vaccines? https://nyti.ms/36D5oms Do you believe in ghosts? https://tinyurl.com/wbbfqtq I want to live in the world portrayed in the Queen's Gambit: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/02/magazine/queens-gambit-netflix.html ACTION ITEMS https://www.ok.gov/elections/index.html https://www.ok.gov/elections/documents/CEB_Physical%20Addresses_10142020.pdf https://www.ok.gov/elections/docs/vris/Municipal%20Election%20Kit.pdf https://ballotpedia.org/Oklahoma https://www.betterknowaballot.com ------------ Production Music courtesy of www.epidemicsound.com. Funkorama by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3788-funkorama License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this episode we talk about our businesses, how they began, where they are going, and a new venture for us as a team. SHOW NOTES: Annie's Ruff House: http://anniesruffhouse.com Yellow Dog Coffee Company: https://www.yellowdogcoffeecompany.com Cool Beans Coffee: https://www.coolbeansnorman.com Equity Brewing Company: https://www.equitybrewingco.com

In this episode we talk about the conclusion of the 2020 election.

In this episode we talk about the 2020 election, including polling and psychology and how healthcare and the pandemic will affect the election. And Sereta has some mimosas. This episode was recorded via Google Hangouts due to the ice storm power outage at The Third Space.

In this episode of Four Grown-Ass Women of the Apocalypse, we talk about Norman City Council's vote against accepting a grant that would provide riot gear to the Norman Police Department and our thoughts on Vice Presidential Debate.

This episode of Four Grown-Ass Women was recorded shortly after that presidential debate and we discuss the shit show the ensued.

In this episode we discuss the podcast "It Could Happen Here," about the next American civil war.

Hint: It's not looking good for Unite Norman.

In this episode, we talk about how local government could have responded better to COVID-19 had the president not kept the truth from the American public, how local government is held to a different standard, the first OU game day and we introduce a new hacking term.

In this episode we talk about the events in Kenosha, Wisconsin and the role social media plays in bringing white people into the fight for racial justice.

On this episode we talk about cognitive dissonance and making America "great" again.

In this episode we talk about Sereta's resignation from city council, the constraints the United States government has placed on state and local governments to respond to crisis and the importance of shopping local and how corporate welfare has made it difficult and expensive to support local businesses as much as we would like to.

In this episode we talk about Oklahoma governor Kevin Stitt's non-response to the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic and what is really behind the Norman mayor and city council recall effort.

In this episode we welcome Oklahoma City Council person Nikki Nice to talk about the challenges of serving on City Council and what the public can do to support City council members during these turbulent times.

In this episode we talk about the ongoing COVD-19 pandemic and mask ordinances and how this affects our personal liberty and freedoms.

In this episode, we talk about the Norman City Council meeting that concluded with the council decreasing the increase to the police budget in Norman. We also get a mini lesson on the Hegelian dialectic and the Overton Window.

On this episode we talk about problems with police culture, defunding police departments, what that means and what it might look like. And we try with all our might to end with joy.

In this episode we talk about the difference in the police presence at the recent Oklahoma City and Norman protests and the constitutional sheriff movement, what it really means and why it's dangerous.

Episode 9 was recorded shortly after the video of George Floyd's murder was released. Much has happened since then, but we are publishing this outdated discussion because we have to continue to speak out against the systemic racism that plagues the institution of American policing and our country as a whole.

In this episode we welcome a male voice to the cackling lesbo hen coop to get a man's perspective on Episodes 5 and 7 and we discuss some issues he had with our delivery and the use of identity politics.