Telling On Ourselves

REUNITED and it feels so good.  We are back after a summer break and there's LOTS to catch up on!  Appropriately the definition of reunion is:  act or process of being brought together again as a unified whole.  We are feeling whole again.  Enjoy this episode where we discuss everything from clarity of decisions to not having to earn a voice (we already have one).  

This week we talk about how when you give it benefits all!    

This week our topic is spirituality and how we have cultivated it in our lives.    

This weeks episode is all about the joys of getting and giving unsolicited advice.  Why and how it's not usually the best idea.  We share about all the ways we avoid doing it and why it's just not cool!  We love your comments, topic ideas and learning about what keeps you coming back!  Email us at tellingonourselves3@gmail.com!  Love you and thanks for listening!!!   

This week we dig into the work of Brene Brown and Wholehearted Living.   How do we in sobriety become and live our authentic life in this wild and wonderful adventure? 

This weeks episode we dive into what puts us in the drift and how it is we can get out of it.  Thank you for listening! Follow us on the socials @tellingonourselves  

This week we talk about Balance and living this beautiful life in recovery!   @tellingonourselves on all the socials  

Wow, today's episode is number 120!  What an incredible and exciting ride it's been.   First Thought Wrong - Vikki doesn't love cleaning or cooking very much We break down the many ways we cannot control much of anything.   And we get to choose every day!  Thanks to recovery and the serenity prayer we are reminded of often!  @tellingourselves  Share your topic ideas, and your stories, and let us know how we are doing.  tellingonourselves3@gmail.com

Active Listening Episode   We delve into the topic of active listening.  How and why it matters, and btw YOU MATTER, a structured way to participate in active listening.     Definition: the imparting or exchanging information by speaking, writing, or using some other medium.     Active listening requires that you offer undivided attention and respond verbally and nonverbally in a way that conveys entire interest and respect,” says Dr. Kushnick. “It requires the listener to access a level of self-awareness that precludes all forms of bias, prejudice, and pre-assumption from interfering with an intention to hear the entirety of the message and reflect that the speaker's message was received as it was communicated.”   Topic ideas, do you have a question for us??? We love email tellingonourselves3@gmail.com!  Follow, like and share that really helps us spread the message to anyone that may benefit today!!! XO - Mark, Lynn & Vikki 

This week this trio discusses healing from trauma and supporting others in your life!  First Thought Wrong was a triple opportunity wrong thinking!    

This week two women and one man talk about how our assets and deficits impact our journey of recovery!  We talk about the Rumi-ness of being honest with yourself and others!  Like- follow-and share it shows us you care!!

Episode 116 Mark, Lynn and Vikki delve into the journey and the stops that create the  Algorithm of Recovery Definition:  Repetition and suggested outcomes solving a problem by finding the most common divisor in a finite number of stops that frequently involves repetition of an operation Character = Destiny The three of us share about how our algorithm can evolve.  Repetitive action = weirdos living in recovery.   When we take action based on awareness to create a new habit life is cool.    Like follow and share with someone that would benefit from our podcast!  Email us tellingonourselves3@gmail.com  

Episode 115 Who says recovery isn't fun   What isn't fun in recovery Mark Lynn and Vikki share how being sober has created belly laughs, being in the moment, and authentic fun in our lives.    Definition:  enjoyment, amusement, or lighthearted pleasure.

Episode 114 Surprise! We are so excited to announce Mark M is officially a part of the TOO Crew!   In today's episode, we discuss broadening the term recovery.  Definition Corner:  Recovery:  Being in the process of overcoming a disorder or shortcoming. Broadening:  A meaning or term to make someone understand more and know more about different subjects or ideas Find us, Like us, Follow us, just don't stalk us at @tellingonourselves IG & Facebook. TikTok coming soon.  Email topic ideas, questions etc tellingonourselves3@gmail.com    

In this week's episode, Lynn and Vikki discuss healing through self-love.   When we choose to treat ourselves with the same love and compassion we give to others it benefits our lives and our recovery.     Share your episode ideas, questions, and celebrations email us at tellingonourselves3@gmail.com.  Like, follow, and share this episode with anyone on your heart!! 

We are so delighted to have Mark M back. He is discussing peer counseling and how important it is in supporting recovery. We have included links to the agencies he talks about.  Please remember YOU are not alone.  There's people and places out there ready to help.  XOXO    https://www.dhs.state.il.us/page.aspx?item=46520 https://www.samhsa.gov/brss-tacs/recovery-support-tools/peers Ryan Marzano Student Success Specialist - CRSS Program Elgin Community College: 1700 Spartan Drive Tel: (847)214-7455 Email: rmarzano@elgin.edu Office - B276

Lynn and Vikki share about their antics and discuss some juicy topics pulled out of the amazing Brene Brown's book Atlas of the Heart!   The sound starts out weird in this episode, but levels out!   Follow up on our Instagram @tellingonourselves Email comments, and topic ideas, or if you would like to get some resources we are here for yall!  tellingonourselves3@gmail.com  

Hey ya'll happy 2023!   We are back this week with a very special guest Ken D! The discussion is an important and fun one about how we stay grounded in the new life that recovery has brought to us!   Interested in the epic Jamacia retreat hosted by Vikki click here to connect and learn more!  

Lynn & Vikki share their experience strength and hope about their experience carrying the message! No FTW!  Definition Carry the Message:  A Bearer of News! Please follow us on Instagram @Tellingonourselves and like, share, and subscribe!   We are grateful to you!!!

Telling on Ourselves is a podcast about how 2 women stay sober through the ups and downs of this messy, magical life!   This week Vikki has First Thought Wrong and shares how to get past feelings that make us feel wrong!   The 1st episode in a series of 3 about Step 12.  We discuss the Spiritual Awakening that occurs when you genuinely work these 12 steps.  DEFINITION: The process of becoming able to do, feel and believe that which could not have been done before.  We find ourselves in possession of a level of honesty, tolerance, unselfishness, peace of mind, and love that we had thought impossible.  - paraphrased from the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Lynn & Vikki would love to hear what your thoughts, topic ideas, and favorite shows to watch are!  Please like, share, follow and subscribe here, on IG @tellingonourselves Email us anytime tellingonourselves3@gmail.com!  

FTW Vikki's in her head.  We get into the journey to Acceptance and what that actually takes!  Please share, like, and follow!  We welcome feedback, topic ideas and any dad jokes email us at tellingonourselves3@gmail.com Gratefully,  Lynn & Vikki

Lynn and Vikki discuss the topics of letting go of how we think life is supposed to be.   Lynn shares her First Thought Wrong about Bananas! HALT, control, fear, letting go!   What are you watching these days? Thank you for listening!!!  

Many of us in addiction also suffer from other mental health issues and sometimes the support seems elusive!  Our guest and one of our original fans Mark M shares his experience, strength, and hope as well as a passion of his that is sharing with us all!   For more information on the 988 hotline click this link https://988lifeline.org/media-resources/ Mark lets us in on the how, and why of it and what he has learned along the way!   

All or Nothing!  We talk about acceptance and faith when working our recovery program.  Lynn has First Thought Wrong this week.  She talks about how trauma response can still guide her reactions in stressful situations.  We use the steps to break down the situation and accept our responsibility.  Vikki talks about her ideas of Sacred Soul Contracts and so much more.

Episode 102 - Habits to change?   A Habit is a routine of behavior that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously.  Brush your teeth with the opposite hand…it helps with creativity flow and habits!   Getting healthy and changing habits to create more wellness and isn't easy or fun.  Sometimes we don't want to know, but it starts a new way of being.  Our beds are only for sex and sleep….ouch   Lynn comes prepared to share how to change habits that stick!   It's a lot of great strategies that we all need, but especially when you are making changes in our lives!! Please do us a favor and share this with your peeps!  We love you and thank you bunches for listening!

Episode 101 -  Shine your light!  This week FTW is all about the JOY of parenting a teenager!   Definition Corner:   Light:  1. the natural agent that stimulates sight and makes things visible.  2.  an expression in someone's eyes indicating a particular emotion or mood.  3.  provide with light or lighting; illuminate. 4.  make (something) start burning; ignite. The ladies discuss how they have dimmed their light and how they continue to shift.  When you shine your light you give permission for others to do the same!   If you have topic ideas or comments on the show! If you are struggling or simply wonder if you have a problem with alcohol reach out to the girls at tellingonourselves3@gmail.com!  Vikki is offering a 100th episode coaching discount of one free week of coaching.  Click here for the link to sign up for your first session with Vikki!  USE TOO2 for your code!

On this 100th episode, Lynn and Vikki go back to basics and discuss the things that help them have long-term sobriety and live joyful lives.  Though not perfect, as you can tell from 1st Thought Wrong.  Lynn shares how she wanted to do something that could have spiraled into a slippery slope and what she did instead!!!  Definition Corner:  Stressing simplicity and adhering to fundamental principles.  It's about community, showing up, and being honest, open and willing! If you are struggling or simply wonder if you have a problem with alcohol reach out to the girls at tellingonourselves3@gmail.com!  Vikki is offering a 100th episode coaching discount of one free week of coaching.  Click here for the link to sign up for your first session with Vikki!      

This week Lynn has a doozy for the  FTW (First Thought Wrong) and a whole bunch of gratitude!  We share about getting aligned so that we are leading from our hearts rather than only in our heads.   Email topic ideas, questions, or any comments to tellingonourselves3@gmail.com! Please follow us on Instagram @tellingonourselves and FB!   Connect with Vikki Rood Coaching coach@vikkirood.com!

Today's episode is about our fears and how they can zoom us right out of our authenticity, & joy.  We discuss how our fear "stories" can block us from being the version of ourselves that we think we are showing up as.  The insidious nature of how our self-centered fears kept us out there in our addiction and how being honest keeps a life of sobriety top priority!!

In the first episode back from our pause in recordings, Telling On Ourselves has some new fresh & fly life in recovery to share!  Lynn & Vikki are back and here to share what life is like when we slow it down from the CRAZY BUSY!  How do we have a big, full life, and how do we stay sober with grace and self-love! 

"In life, things are neither Good or Bad necessarily--all of it is valuable guidance" - John Felitto Today we talk with John Felitto--creator of the 90-Day game and Life Coach. John shares how we can play our way into real and lasting change in our lives. Learn more about the 90-Day Game! https://www.90daygame.com/ Phone Number:  845-201-8496 Email: Team@90DayGame.com  

We are honored to have Claudia Velandia as a guest this week.  She shares her spiritual journey and the tools she uses to get through change in her life and become her best self.  One of those tools is the PAUSE!   Claudia Velandia is the author of the bestselling book, Wake Up! How to Get Out of Your Mind, Stop Living on Autopilot and Start Choosing Your Best Life. Claudia holds an MBA, MA, BEng, and she is a certified professional coach. Through her teachings, mentoring and coaching, she has helped many people to live their best life, empowering them to discover their highest potential and harness the power of conscious thinking, self-awareness, and self-knowledge. She is the founder of Quantum Thinking. We are thrilled to have Claudia and learn how she practices and teaches self-acceptance!  

Today we have a special guest--Jim Dalbec, who facilitates a "Science of Wellbeing" course at a senior center. So what makes someone more wired to be happy and can we rewire our brains to be happier? If you've listened to some of our other podcasts, you won't be surprised to know that the way we rewire our brains goes back to things we talk about all the time: mindfulness and gratitude! Join us today for a deep dive into The Science of Wellbeing!  

Who's been on clubhouse?  Well, our guest today was found there.  Vikki and Maureen geeked out on how the recovery program helped them become successful at work and in life!   Maureen Ross Gemme is an incredible woman and has been in recovery for a few (thirtysomething years) 24 hours. Her work allows her to fulfill her mission of working with women in recovery to discover how to apply the life they lead in their program and bring it to work.   This episode is so much fun and check out Maureen at her website below!   Maureen Ross Gemme, Author at Emerge Leadership Academy https://emergeleadershipacademy.com › author › info    

Special Guest this week! Listen in to find out who it is!  A common expression we hear in recovery is "Easy Does It!" But what does it really mean, why do we say it, and how can we apply it to everyday life whether you're in recovery or not? Dive in with us! We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

Lynn & Vikki talked to Whitney Rose this week!  She shares her journey with us and her road to freedom with anxitey!  

We're back this week with a great topic--EASY DOES IT! With a special guest (it's a secret)! It's natural for a lot of people, us included, to be like a bull in china shop sometimes! Going through life full throttle--every interaction intense, impatiently rushing ahead, charged by emotion. When we remember to relax and take it easy, a lot of things become clear and we avoid creating unnecessary stress in our lives.    We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

We are so excited to follow last weeks episode about dating with this weeks episode where we interview love and relationship expert, Katie Hendricks Ph.D., BC-DMT. Katie and her husband, Gay, founded and operate the Hendrick's Institute--an International Learning Center that teaches core skills for conscious living and conscious loving. This insightful, soulful interview is one you will NOT want to miss! The Hendricks Institute: https://hendricks.com/ https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice https://twitter.com/hearts_harmony YouTube We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

This week we discuss dating in recovery.  Our ups and downs on this roller coaster ride! Please subscribe, rate & review it helps us very much!!  

This week we have special guests Cindy and Judy from Sunlight Spirit Retreats! Judy and Cindy share how their sobriety journey lead to a spiritual journey and a calling to help others connect spiritually. Sunlight of the Spirit Retreats provides simple spiritual tools you can use everyday to enhance your spirituality and emotional well-being, and enrich your life.  Judy and Cindy have been hosting in person retreats, virtual events and classes, workshops and speakers. For more information on Sunlight Spirit Retreats you can visit their website or Facebook page.We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here 

This week, we are honored to have our sister in sobriety and one our our spiritual mentors, Dar, joining us! All three of us met Dar at different points in our life--at divinely inspired times. Her diligent work in her own life and on her own sobriety has created a "Ripple Effect" that has positively impacted many lives and helped us personally along our journeys. So today, we go DEEP, discussing "The Ripple Effect"--how our actions matter, and can touch the lives of others in ways we can't even imagine!We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate HereMy Indigo Heart Jewelry Facebook Page  

!!AWESOME GUEST ALERT!! You don't want to miss this week's episode! This week, we have the honor of sitting with author and therapist Phyllis Ginsberg to dive into how our brains as humans, and addicts, work! She is an expert in Positive Psychology, Brain Research and EFT Tapping. Where do our engrained habits come from? Can we really change? HOW? Phyllis shares with us the power of "congruency" in our thoughts, feelings and actions that lead to powerful and lasting transformation in our lives. She shares decades of experience on overcoming "wagon wheel ruts" or programmed thinking so that we can live happier, healthier lives! Phyllis is the author of two books, "Brain Makeover" and "Tired and Hungry No More". PhyllisGinsberg.comConnect on InstagramConnect on Facebook 

So you might have heard of the "Dry January" movement that has been catching on these past few years. Basically, Dry January is a commitment to giving up alcohol for the month of January following the holidays. Today, we explore the topic of Dry January and how it's a great way to examine your relationship with alcohol! Not everyone who drinks a lot is an alcoholic, but if you've been feeling like you're spending way more time with the bottle than you'd like, then this could be a great way to pause and look at why. We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

Equanimity - ??? It was such a new concept for us (especially Bre) and this episode we mull over what it is and how to attain it! So if you're not sure what equanimity is, or if you already know what it is but want a deep dive, listen to this week's episode!We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

Wow! We survived 2020! We could’ve only done it with each other and the support of our sober networks. This week we talk about 2020 — the things we learned and how we stayed sober. Then we look forward to the new year—what is our intention for this year? We each picked 1 word that would sum up our intention for this year. Listen in to hear what we all picked. Then, pick your own word and share it with us!We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

This week we have an inspiring special guest and author--Peggi Cooney! Peggi is the creator of the Facebook group "This Side of Alcohol" which is named after her soon-to-be released book! Its a fantastic, very positive community of sober individuals that come from various modalities and disciplines of sobriety and come together to live a life that's alcohol free and more joyful. They focus on living in the joys of life instead of getting sucked down by what can bury us. Peggi shares her story of rock bottom and what her recovery journey has been like, including all the tools she uses to stay sober. There are so many parallels between her recovery journey and ours! To learn more about Peggi, her book, and her sober journey join her FB group This Side of Alcohol  and follow her on Instagram @PeggiCooneyWe so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate Here

This week Lynn has First Thought Wrong about some "kids" stealing her serenity. Then we discuss how planning the action, and letting go of results, can help us in life and recovery. Focusing solely on the results can create fear, which holds us back from taking any action at all--impeding us from experiencing the creativity and joy in the journey. Focusing only on the results is a defense mechanism we use to stay in control of a situation. However, this causes us to have expectations--and we know what that means...RESENTMENTS! This week we challenge you to take action, regardless of your feelings. Let go of the results, and see what beauty unfolds!We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link:  Donate HereIf you'd like to check out Vikki's Etsy shop, click here! Vikki's Book Link:  https://mailchi.mp/6404da55ebfe/womeninsales  

Watch out! Look behind you! It's coming for you !Complacency - "Feeling of contentment often combined with a lack of awareness of IMPENDING TROUBLE!" Don't be clueless, this disease can and will kill you! This week we talk about the dangers of complacency. How do we spot it? How can we stay out of it? How do we get out of it if we're already there? It's hard but we have to break up with the excuses that keep us in our complacency and be honest with ourselves! Vikki's Book Link:  https://mailchi.mp/6404da55ebfe/womeninsalesPatreon Link:  Donate Here

When we think of patience we usually think of being patient with other people. This week we explore not only patience and tolerance with others, but with OURSELVES (novel thought)! What does impatience and intolerance tell us about where we're at right now and how do we gain more? What is the "cure" for impatience/intolerance? We didn't get sober to be irritable and discontent all the time, that's for sure!In our alcoholism and addiction, we were anything but patient. We wanted that next drink yesterday! We want instant gratification! Vikki's Book Link:  https://mailchi.mp/6404da55ebfe/womeninsalesPatreon Link:  Donate Here

Our friend and OG of Telling on Ourselves Keri joins this week for First Thought Wrong!  She has some great insights on setting boundaries for holidays due to social distancing and the pandemic.   Some suggestions include redefining our family holidays and thinking outside the box with family traditions.  Struggling during the holidays can be an issue at the best of times, we provide some ideas for not only getting through but finding joy as well.Melissa U:  https://whole30.com/Vikki's Book Link:  https://mailchi.mp/6404da55ebfe/womeninsalesPatreon Link:  Donate Here  

This week we're lucky to have one of our biggest fans, Dawn O., as our guest! Dawn offers us her First Thought Wrong this week which, hilariously, is about Vikki's FTW last week! Which aso leads us into our topic....EGO! It's all about me! Man, it's impressive what our egos will tell us--they will twist information, bring out our insecurities, and get us to react on our emotions. One of the greatest gifts of recovery is not just a reprieve from our drinking, but a reprieve from our EGO! With the steps, we can heal our ego so that it's not so loud and obtrusive. We can silence our egos and achieve real perspective and peace!Looking to grow and expand?Four Agreements Workshop Series with Vikki:  https://mailchi.mp/8dad0e990801/fall4agreementsBecome a PatronDonate HERE