In this podcast we talk about overcoming inner obstacles to endure this life well. The host is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints with a history of trauma and pain. She uses her own life experience, spiritual gifts and life coaching tools to teach and inspire.
In this last episode of the Regulated & Restored Podcast I talk about alignment: some signs you are in alignment, some starting practices, and some possible signs of being out of alignment. I tell you how I knew it was time to start a new podcast and what alignment feels like to me. I hope you'll join me over on the If I'm so Blessed Why Can't I Feel Good Podcast, and I've included the 5 min pilot episode here for you, so you can get a taste of it. If you'd like to join the Podcast Launch Team (I hope you will!) click here. You can find If I'm So Blessed, Why Can't I Feel Good on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/if-im-so-blessed-why-cant-i-feel-good/id1733936159 and on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/19RxSLNODHBL6LrZ4uzgwe
I recently realized how much I was telling myself I didn't have enough energy, so I dug into that. This episode is what I learned-- a totally different way of looking at this statement and what it means. Phases of trauma response come into play. If you are looking for more energy, this episode is for you! Plus, I give a pretty big announcment at the end of the episode, both as an example of energy and as an announcement for you, the listener. Full Show Notes
I had an experience recently through some inner child work, in which I learned that none of this matters and you can do whatever you want. There is no final grade for being a good mom or coach or wife, or whatever it is you do. You can relax because nobody has power over you (except you). Listen in as I describe my experience and the steps for you to start doing your own inner child work on your own. Show Notes
Do you know what your most important problem is, or why you aren't working on it? In this episode, I walk you through a short exercise to gain some wisdom and clarity around your most important problem. I talk about my experience answering these questions, and tell you why you want to know the answers to these two very powerful questions. Links for things mentioned in the episode: Re:Thinking episode with Adam Grant and James Clear Atomic Habits Maslow's hierarchy of needs Presence Firm up your Fundamentals (free learning and coaching)
Have you ever wondered why some people learn self-help methods and it "works" for them, and others it doesn't? I was in the boat of "this isn't working" and I think I figured out why it wasn't working for me. You might be in the same boat, and if so, this episode is for you. Knowing why could help you on your journey to being your favorite self. Want to join me to Firm up your Fundamentals? In 2024 I am focusing on 8 fundamental habits to help myself feel better consistently and I'm inviting you to join me. I'll send emails with teaching and tips and then roughly every 3 weeks we will meet together for a coaching call, and it's all FREE. Join here: https://denitabremer.myflodesk.com/fundamentals
I've been pondering how my identity or self-concepts are influencing following through on this book project I have. I thought I would share some of my insights as I've considered the power of identity. I talk about have conflicting identities, when letting go of identities threatens the ego and feels terrible, and how identity plays into the pride cycle from the scriptures. Enjoy! I would love it if you left a review or shared this episode with a friend, thanks! denitabremer.com
denitabremerIn this episode I talk about the difference between resistance that comes from inside of you and resistance that is outside of you. When you are doing a good work in the world, there will always be resistance. Often times the resistance shows you your path. But differentiating when to follow or allow the resistance and when to ignore or manage the resistance is helpful. Wanna connect? I welcome questions, introductions, and conversations. Email me: hello@denitabremer.com Because I am not active on social media, I would greatly appreciate your rating, review, or shares! Thank you so much! If you're interested in coaching with me, please visit denitabremer.com for the latest offerings and prices. I am not a doctor or psychologist and any advice mentioned in this episode should not be a substitute for medical or mental health care.
In this Gift of Presence series I am interviewing a few of my clients about their experiences inside my group coaching program, Presence. In this episode, I interview Celia Corson. Celia grew up on and inherited a ranch. She has been doing the deep work of healing with coaching. Celia shares many reasons why she loves Presence. You can connect with Celia on her blog bluebellsinblizzrds.com or email her at bluebellsinblizzards@gmail.com. You can also ask about trophy elk hunting! Presence is my one year small group somatic based coaching membership. If you join Presence before January 6, 2024 you will receive a bonus of 6 private coaching sessions. The price to Presence goes up on Feb 1, 2024, so now is the best time to join! Register to attend a Presence Demo on January 4, 2024 so you can experience Presence before you commit. https://denitabremer.myflodesk.com/enzhzrjqrl Full Show Notes
I've been interviewing my clients about my group program, Presence, but today I have a private client, Corrie Woods. Corrie and I have been coaching together for four years, so she has witnessed my evolution as a coach. She talks about why she continues to coach with me, and some of her favorite things about coaching with me. Her words give you a deeper peek into what coaching with me is like. I hope you enjoy. You can connect with Corrie on Facebook at Corrie Woods Coaching. She is currently helping women heal from and through divorce. Presence is my one year small group somatic based coaching membership. If you join Presence before January 6, 2024 you will receive a bonus of 6 private coaching sessions. The price to Presence goes up on Feb 1, 2024, so now is the best time to join! Register to attend a Presence Demo on January 4, 2024 so you can experience Presence before you commit. Full Show Notes
In this Gift of Presence series I am interviewing a few of my clients about their experiences inside my group coaching program, Presence. In this episode, I interview Rebecca Kent. She is also a certified coach. Rebecca talks about why she joined Presence and how it has changed her life— and her coaching. You can connect with Rebecca on Instagram at @leadingwithlovecoachingllc Presence is my one year small group somatic based coaching membership. If you join Presence before January 6, 2024 you will receive a bonus of 6 private coaching sessions. The price to Presence goes up on Feb 1, 2024, so now is the best time to join! Register to attend a Presence Demo on January 4, 2024 so you can experience Presence before you commit. Full Show Notes
My entire journey with Presence started with a simple one sentence from a book: “It is not what we say, but the very fact of our presence that has the healing effect.” (The Map of Consciousness Explained by Dr. David R Hawkins.) I believe that my presence can have a healing effect on the world. Because of this belief I want to improve my presence, and embody love. I believe you can do the same. Give yourself the gift of Presence. If this is something that calls you, consider joining my one year, somatic based small group coaching program. The cost is $222/mo or $2222 a year until January 31, 2024. Then the price goes up. As a bonus for joining me before January 10th, you'll receive 6 private sessions with me. Because Presence is really hard to describe, I'm holding a free demo so you can experience it before you commit. January 4, 2024 at 11 am MST. Register here for Zoom information.
In this Gift of Presence series I am interviewing a few of my clients about their experiences inside my group coaching program, Presence. In this episode, I interview Jacqlin Guernsey. She is a certified coach, but has changed focus to writing and has one published book with another on the way. She coached with me 1:1 for over a year before joining my group. In this episode we talk a lot about creating safety and the importance of that in a healing journey. She also says something that brings me to a full circle moment. Listen in to find out what it is. You can find Jacqlin on Instagram at @authorjacqlinguernsey or find her book, A Song of Thieves on Amazon. Presence is my one year small group somatic based coaching membership. If you join Presence before January 6, 2024 you will receive a bonus of 6 private coaching sessions. The price to Presence goes up on Feb 1, 2024, so now is the best time to join! Register to attend a Presence Demo on January 4, 2024 so you can experience Presence before you commit. Full Show Notes
When you live in the present, you live in God's timezone. And this place feels abundant and expansive. Ideas, promptings and intuition become clear. In my group program, Presence, we build the skill of living in God's timezone. Come join me for a Presence demo on January 4th, 2024 at 11 am Mountain Standard Time. Register here for zoom information.
Meditation has been the single biggest tool in my presence practice. I know you might think you can't meditate, but have you tried all the kinds of meditation? Have you tried guided meditations? Have you tried mindfulness meditations? Meditation doesn't have to be sitting in silence. It is supposed to be a bit difficult because we are humans with busy brains. If you want to be more present a strongly encourage you to create a meditation practice. If you need help with that, it's part of what we do in Presence. Come to a Presence Demo on 1/4/24 and I will lead the group through a tension release meditation. Register here.
An essential element to my coaching is helping my clients create a felt sense of support in their bodies. So many of us learn to be self-sufficient as a way to survive. Asking for support, and feeling into it, is one of the first steps to healing. Come experience what I mean by this felt sense of support by attending my Presence Demo on 1/4/24 at 11 am MST. Register for information and Zoom link here.
I know a lot of people are gonna disagree with me when I say there are no problems in the present, but listen in as I make a case for it in this episode. Register here for the information and Zoom link to the Presence demo to be held on January 4, 2024 at 11 am MST. Come experience the work we do in Presence. Questions? Dm me on IG and ask away!
Presence is feeling. Presence is embodiment. In this episode I attempt to explain what I mean and why it's important. I want more presence for you. I believe when we do the work to be more present, the world changes for the better. Come join me TODAY for a free Presence demo. We meet at 12 pm MST for an hour over Zoom. If you can't make it this time, we are meeting again on Jan 4th at 11 am MST. Register HERE for the Zoom info.
One of my favorite things about practicing presence is that it helps me invite in other types of knowing than just logical knowing. There are so many good and amazing things that happen when we do this! Listen in to hear a few of them. I invite you to a free Presence demo tomorrow December 20th at 12 pm MST. Register here to get zoom info. If you can't make that one, I'll send a replay, but you can catch a second Presence demo on Thursday, January 4th at 11 am MST. Feel free to dm any questions over on Instagram.
My friend and client is on the podcast today to tell you about her experience in Presence, my group coaching program. I hope you'll take a listen, even if you know you don't want to join the program. There are lots of good nuggest in this one. Right now when you join Presence, my intimate year long membership, you will receive 6 bonus private calls . And on 2/1/24 the price to Presence goes up along with the features offered. Now is the best time to join! Click here to sign up for a PRESENCE DEMO on either 12/20/23 at 12 pm MST or 1/4/24 at 11 am MST, or dm me on IG to see if Presence is right for you.
Presence. Mindfulness. Meditation. Usually we associate these things with stillness. But I don't think presence always means stillness. Listen in to see what I mean. Right now when you join Presence, my intimate year long membership, you will receive 6 bonus private calls . And on 2/1/24 the price to Presence goes up along with the features offered. Now is the best time to join! Click here to sign up for a PRESENCE DEMO on either 12/20/23 at 12 pm MST or 1/4/24 at 11 am MST, or dm me on IG to see if Presence is right for you.
There will be times when we can't or don't want to be present, and that's ok too. This was a revolutionary idea for me when I learned it; be only as present as you have capacity to be. The point is to always be present, but to be aware when you are aren't and come back if you want. Right now when you join Presence, you will receive 6 bonus private calls . And on 2/1/24 the price to Presence goes up along with the features offered. Now is the best time to join! Click here to sign up for a PRESENCE DEMO on either 12/20/23 at 12 pm MST or 1/4/24 at 11 am MST, or dm me on IG to see if Presence is right for you.
I often find myself amazed at how things I think should come naturally actually take a lot of work and practice. Presence is one of those things. I personally find freedom in the idea that Presence takes practice. It relieves me of the pressure to do it right. Listen in to this episode to find out how the practice of Presence is a virtuous cycle. Right now when you join Presence, you will receive 6 bonus private calls . And on 2/1/24 the price to Presence goes up along with the features offered. Now is the best time to join! Click here to sign up for a PRESENCE DEMO on either 12/20/23 at 12 pm MST or 1/4/24 at 11 am MST, or dm me on IG to see if Presence is right for you.
On the 2nd day of Christmas my true love sent to me... an episode on how understanding the nervous system helps with being present. It's a huge part of how I coach the members inside Presence, my small group membership. Right now when you join Presence, you get 6 bonus private sessions with me! Bonuses all around!! Join me on a Presence Demo to see if Presence is a fit for you right now. I'm holidng 2 sessions before this bonus goes away. Get more information here. Merry Christmas!
On the first day of Presence, my true love sent to me... a podcast about the fundamentals that make it easier to be present. Food, water, breath, movement, joy, gratitude, presence. When you have the fundamentals in place, being physically and spiritually present is much easier. And that's what we all want, right? Right now when you join Presence, my intimate year long membership, you will receive 6 bonus private calls . This bonus along with the price going up on February 1, 2024 makes this the best time to join! Presence is for Latter-day Saint women who want to feel better. Schedule a free session or reach out in dms on Instagram to see if Presence is right for you.
We are all human and we all say and do things we later regret. I notice this the most with my mom clients who wish they could go back and change something. Well, now you can. Based in an understanding of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, I believe we can effect change in ourselves and in whatever ripple effect our actions back then took. I explain how in this episode. Full show notes Schedule a free session! Join Presence!
If you feel anger about a situation or a relationship, there might be some self-forgiveness needed. In this episode, I step you through a process to forgive yourself and let go of anger. Schedule a free session! Full show notes
I want to break down in really simple terms what each nervous system state needs or wants. This will help you be able to identify what state you're in and what to do about it. Sign up for my group coaching program, Presence before January 6, 2024 and receive a bonus 6 private sessions with me. That's a smokin' deal! Get the process started here. Full show notes
If you try to get better at feeling your feelings, you might notice resistance coming up. In this episode I talk about two primary ways to respond to resistance that will help you. When you sign up for Presence between now and January 6, 2024, you receive a bonus of 6 private sessions with me. Sign up for a free session to explore this option. Full show notes
When I meet with clients for the first time, I explain to them how being willing to feeling their feelings can make a big difference in their lives, but I always get the same question: How do I feel my feelings? So I thought I would demonstrate what I mean. Listen in as I process the feeling of tired in this episode. From now until January 6th, when you sign up for Presence, you get 6 bonus private sessions. Sign up for a free session to explore this option. Full show notes
Do you wonder if you have trauma, but “nothing really bad happened?” If so, this episode is for you. We discuss the difference between abuse and neglect and how it might be showing up in your life. It might be trauma if...PDF Full Show Notes Schedule a free session
Some recent personal revelation has lead me to today's episode. I have to talk more about Jesus from here on out, and this episode explains why. Spoiler: it's because He is the true source of all healing. denitabremer.com/the-solution Schedule a Free Session
Feeling is a skill. It doesn't come easily to all of us, especially if trauma is part of the picture. But why would we want to develop it? In this episode I give you about a bajillion reasons why you might want to (I didn't count them, so don't quote me on that number!) develop this essential skill that you might not even know you are lacking. Full Show Notes Schedule a Free Session!
A lot of people I know struggle with allowing conflict because they are so afraid of contention. It causes them to not show up as their true self, which can lead to trauma and just cause a lot of other secondary effects in their lives. On this episode, we talk about the difference between conflict and contention, why it's helpful to understand it, and how to stay in healthy conflict. You're gonna wanna listen to this one! Links Parenting with Presence workshop registration Free session LDS Living article 7 ways to resolve conflict article All in Podcast Ways to work with me Slingshot
We are finishing up the Self-love series with an episode about concrete tools to use in your practice of self love. At the end of this episode is a meditation to support you in your journey.
Why do you even want to love yourself? How does it help with anything, or is it just a woo-woo concept? There is a continuum of self-love and there's one specific place I recommend starting on the continuum. Listen in to find out more. Links Schedule a Free Session
If you don't know how to love yourself, this first episode in a mini-series is one you will want to tune into. In this episode I talk about how loving yourself can be complicated and why. links Schedule a Free Session
Does thinking about trauma make you feel like something is wrong with you? That is probably because the medical industry and/or our culture pathologizes trauma. But trauma is actually a very normal, common, and healthy response to life's difficulties. Links Schedule a Free Session Denita on Voxer Dr. Bessel van der Kolk The Body Keeps the Score
Are you overwhelmed? I used to answer that question as a no, but then I learned what overwhelm actually was. In this episode you'll hear the definition of overwhelm from a trauma perspective, different types of overwhelm, and 5 tips to manage your overwhelm. I gave this presentation a few weeks ago, so if you'd like the slideshow that goes with it, download it here Links Schedule a Free Session
What are boundaries and what do they have to do with trauma? Listen in to this episode as Denita discusses this topic with Boundaries Coach, Mary Brown. Links Mary's Website Mary's Instagram Schedule a Free Session
People often tell me, “I should figure out my trauma, someday.” So in this episode I'm identifying 5 obstacles to doing so and my recommendations for each one. Spoiler alert: you don't have to figure out your trauma if you don't want to. Included in this episode is an exercise to help you with managing priorities.
Are you struggling with trauma and finding it hard to ask for help? In this episode we discuss why asking for support is actually a sign of strength. You are not alone in your struggles, and healing is always possible. Tune in to this empowering episode to learn more. Links Schedule a free session Perfectly Hidden Depression by Margaret Robinson Rutherford, PhD. Find me on Voxer
You build self-trust by consistently and reliably meeting your own needs. You figure out what your needs are by dropping into your body, feeling what is there, following urges, and staying connected (or on your own side) the whole time.
If you've ever found yourself trying to plan for an action or a feeling and just couldn't decide, you may have been trying to control and uncontrollable. I believe the answer to this is the trust yourself instead. Listen in as I explain why. Links Small group membership Schedule a Free Session
The #1 thing my clients want is connection. So they seek out self-help tools. But what happens when the self-help tools lead to disconnection instead of connection? In this episode, I discuss 5 ways this happens and 3 things to do about it. Membership: https://denitabremer.com/presence Full Show Notes: https://denitabremer.com/?p=6805 Free Session: https://denitabremer.com/scheduling-free-session/
The skill of presence has been the number one thing that has helped me heal from my trauma and emotional wounds. In this episode I give 5 reasons why you should practice presence and several more about why we don't make time for it. I hope you will see the value in practicing presence after listening to this episode. Links Podcast episode on the Latter-day Life Coaches Podcast https://denitabremer.com/presence Full Show Notes
Do you always feel like you are in a hurry or can't stop and rest? You may be stuck in an active response, which is trauma. Think about how you can shirk this feeling of constant urgency and feel more rested and healed. Links Schedule a Free Session The Doors to Presence... A group somatic experience!
If you've ever felt like there is something wrong with you, or as if you can't figure out how to be happy and healthy, perhaps it isn't you but the culture you live in? In this episode, I talk about how American (and other western) culture is very toxic and leading to more and more illness, especially anxiety and depression. Full Show Notes Free Session
When I am looking for a coach, I want to know their story and how they came to their work. It's more about WHO the practitioner is, not what I will get from the work. I realized I haven't told the full story of how I came to this somatic, trauma work yet. This episode is the backstory to why I am a somatic trauma coach. I hope you enjoy. Full Show Notes Schedule a free session! Change Your Questions, Change Your Life by Wendy Watson Nelson Jody Moore's podcast Better Than Happy (I no longer recommend them, but I do recommend https://thecoachfirm.com) Bev Aron's Advanced Deep Dive Certification Danielle Cohen Shyla Cash & Embodied Healing Systems
If you are a believer in the Law of Manifestation, you may have wondered if feeling your negative emotions causes you to manifest what you don't want. Listen in as I give you my take on that question and discuss the merits of feeling your feelings, and where that fits into the work I do around trauma. Full Show Notes Schedule a free session!
How do you know the difference between a nervous system state and an emotion like fear? In this episode we discuss the difference between fear and a nervous system state. You'll learn how to think of fear in a healthy way, and what to do when you are feeling fear in the moment. And we answer the unspoken question behind this question. Full Show Notes with Transcript Schedule a free Session